Pearl Shuts Down Delusional Fat Chick
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the difference between men and women when it comes to celebrating things that are considered bad and things that aren't, and how to balance the two. We also discuss what it means to be a woman in today's society and why we should or shouldn't celebrate certain things.
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women um glorify wrongdoings more so than men but i agree to disagree on your word okay okay
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um but you don't see how women glorify wrong during doings when we have a slut walk
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i mean that's one example there's so many other things okay both okay what about the body positive
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walk or the body positive movement and what's that's bad according to whoever is deciding that
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that's your opinion okay that's bad would you would you not agree that being more likely to die
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is bad i well we all have to die for one but i agree that you know making decisions that are
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going to shorten your life could be considered bad if that's what you value everybody has a range of
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things so we shouldn't celebrate it right um i think you should celebrate whatever you want to
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celebrate if you want to celebrate feeling confident in however whatever state you are in today that's
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your business exactly and men would say you shouldn't celebrate whatever you want to
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celebrate there are things that are worth celebrating there are things that should never be celebrated
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that's what most level-headed men would think but most women have this idea of oh egalitarian fairytale
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land where everything can be whatever it wants where if you think something is good then it should be
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good if you think something is bad they should be bad no there are objective truths about life
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that's the fact okay another movement that we celebrate is the trans movement that's 80 percent
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women most women are a part of that and support that and people that do actually i've actually
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interviewed people that do that surgery they're more likely to commit suicide a lot of them have
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really bad complications after and i personally don't think that's something that should be celebrated
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maybe because women are naturally nurturers that we're taking that negative judgmental
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factor out of our maybe because me personally just speaking from my personal life experience i'm not
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i don't i don't care about what you do because the same way you're having an opinion on something that
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i do the fact that i'm overweight the fact that i'm this i'm that maybe you have something that's
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like you said everybody has a flaw something that they're dealing with so who are we to judge and
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decide that just because somebody is accepting that this is what people are going to do with their lives
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anyway and not you know casting another sin of judgment onto them um so i i don't disagree
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everybody's got struggles right everyone's got problems i totally agree but where i disagree is
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i don't agree with celebrating it i don't agree with celebrating i don't wait wait wait i don't agree
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with celebrating the fact that taylor swift has 10 failed relationships i don't think that's something
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we should yay hurrah i don't think we should celebrate you know nikki minaj saying you ho
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you ho you ho i don't i don't think we should celebrate cardi b having a song about wop i don't
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think we should celebrate being overweight because i think those are all negative things so that that's
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where i disagree i don't disagree that everybody's got problems everybody's got struggles nobody's
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perfect obviously everyone in your circle is going to have problems and struggles you know i'm not
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going to not be friends with someone just because they're overweight right um but where i disagree
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is the celebrating that's where i disagree so how do you feel about pub culture because you know
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some people might look at that as alcoholism or like even just drinking culture in general oh i'm not
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a fan people that drink smoke cigarettes i'm not a big i'm not a big drinker i wouldn't celebrate that
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either i guess but when i walked in they told me to get a drink so i'm just like trying to
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understand the balance of like you know it's the men and women thing for me yeah everybody
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has a choice and it's like okay we can sit here and we can pay many women against each other
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i never i never i never i never i never i never i never i never i was gonna say we made
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okay yeah i don't i don't i was like no i don't make anybody
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i'm just saying like if that's the case if we're going to put some type of like
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you're bad because you sat here and you ate xyz and now you're 500 pounds
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it's not an issue of your bad because it's not an issue of you're bad because you drink it's not
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an issue of you're bad because you're overweight you're bad no no no no that's not it it's this
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is bad for you it actually comes from a nice place and you're hearing it as judgment and you're saying
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you know like who are we to judge each other and i get where you're coming from you think that's coming
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from a nice place but the truth is that's not nice at all because if you have someone who is
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self-harming and you give them the razor how are you helping because they want to do it in their
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mind it helps it relieves something it helps me the same with anorexia if someone believes they
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are huge but they are actually seriously seriously anorexic if you reaffirm that broken problem in
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their mind and you go well if you're happy and you give them laxatives or diet pills how are you
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helping them the truth is is that without tolerance we can't discern what's good and bad for society
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and that actually comes from a place of love if we can decide collectively it's not good to be
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overweight so we don't celebrate it it's not good and i agree pop culture it's not good to celebrate
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drugs and alcohol if we can make definitive decisions on what's good and bad it's not about
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your individual spirit being good or bad no no no it's just telling you you're making a decision
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that ultimately in reality isn't going to be good for you and it's like if you go with the whole
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mentality of who are we to judge each other how far does that go because if we don't judge each other
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how do we decide murderers are bad no i agree i agree because you said everyone can can you know
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it's that egalitarian mindset that king was referring to if you're if you're deciding okay
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everyone can can do what they want and you can celebrate what you want to celebrate
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some people are really messed up and some people want to celebrate murderers and and what you think
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we should just let them absolutely not we should collectively decide as a society what is good for
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us and what is bad for us because without that we descend into chaos it's not about you being bad
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it's about you making a choice that's bad for you every nail on the head
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yeah i agree but i also feel like everybody is entitled to especially as far as there is a line
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because we have laws so there is definitely a line that you know has been established and voted and
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agreed upon that this is what everybody has collectively agreed that's wrong if you're not
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hurting somebody if you're drinking if you're smoking if you're vaping if you're overeating you're hurting
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yourself so no but what is it to you to go and project your opinion on someone else in this country
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you're then gonna put your um health issues onto the nhs which is gonna cost in tax and other things
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everyone else has to pay for like everyone has to pay for the air pollution because everybody's
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outside smoking cigarettes and vaping everybody has to pay for it no no a lot of thoughts no not
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no it's not comparable that's not that like okay you think that vaping has the same effect on the
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health care system and our taxes as maybe not but i think that everything you die too young you're
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gonna upset your family and your friends what about that's gonna cause a ripple effect what about like
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yeah what about your kids there's a lot of things involved yeah so i'm not arguing that being
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overweight is somehow like an exception or it's okay i'm not even arguing over the overweight topic
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at all i'm overing over the arguing over the fact that it's not your say or your decision or
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yeah so i'm not saying you're a bad person women are celebrating things that are bad if there's a group
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of people who want to get together and celebrate whatever it is then that's their right but so so what
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what i'm disagreeing with is you said it doesn't affect anyone it does and and that's where i'm
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disagreeing i'm saying it does because when you have health issues everyone around you has to take
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care of you and then the health system has to pay for it so that that's where i'm saying i disagree
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that it doesn't affect anybody and the point of freedom like i also agree with people should be
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allowed to exercise their freedoms to do whatever they want like ultimately if if people are telling
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you don't do this don't do this and you still decide to do it you know i'm not a tyrant i'm not then
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going to absolutely put a gun to your head until you do what i want you to do because it's coming
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from a place of love if you decide not to listen and you kill yourself that is ultimately your fault
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at the end of the day but the point that pearl was making was about celebration and the thing that's
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what i was talking about the thing with body positive body positivity and the trans movement the two
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uh examples that we just gave is that when you celebrate something you are encouraging it so
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without the celebration because it's like people can still do that right trans people can still exist
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people can still be overweight and be positive in themselves but it's the point the point is is
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that it's projected and celebrated upon society and we shouldn't be doing that because it's not good
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for individuals but if individuals decide that they want to do that great i don't think anyone should
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be forced to do anything in life but if you celebrate it you encourage it and what good does that do
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in encouraging people you know we had a woman on the front of sports illustrating magazine he was 300 pounds
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if we all know girls girls we've all heard this narrative for years you know it was in the 90s
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it was girls are seeing women who are too skinny so girls are then starving themselves okay well now
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they're seeing women who are too fat so now they're thinking oh well that's okay and that's celebrated and
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the truth is either way that's not good so i think the point is is that people can do what they want
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but as a society we should not celebrate the things that are bad for humankind that's the point and
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ultimately if you then decide to go against that um you know more power to you but don't go out and
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project it onto the rest of the world because it's not good for people