Pearl SHUTS DOWN This Fallacy
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with a good friend of mine to talk about why women should be allowed to choose their own husbands and why they should not have to choose a husband. We talk about how women have been left to their own devices in the past and how that has led to some of the worst marriages in history.
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That's why people make poor decisions when they are in love.
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And it's a hormonal chemical reaction that makes you crazy.
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It's not like they are rational in their thought when they're like, oh, yeah, I definitely want to have a kid with this absolute psycho, regardless of gender.
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But, I mean, this is why historically the family would help pick out the husband.
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There's a reason, like, they kept women away from, like, the dad would say, like, threatened to shoot them, basically.
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You've heard that, right, that phrase, you know, shotgun, grab shotgun wet.
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Like, there's a reason we had phrases like that.
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Because women, it just seems like when we're left to our own devices.
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Like, the last hundred years, we started moving out of the apartment around 1920.
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Before that, women lived with their families and then got married.
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And it just seems like the more reproductive choice we have, the worse choices that we make.
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So, it doesn't seem like we do a very good job, which is why it's important to have men that care about you helping you.
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I don't necessarily think that people made better decisions in the past.
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They just weren't able to leave those decisions, regardless, because they just had no choice.
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No, what evidence do you have that they were just miserable?
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I'm not going to pull random statistics out of my ass.
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Because if you think 10% were miserable, that's very different than 80%.
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So, what I would say is it would fill the gap between the marriage gap that there is now that is in decline.
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So, there was always going to be more marriages in a point of time where you didn't have other choices, right?
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So, I'm not saying that all of those marriages in the past were unhappy, because I'm sure, like my grandparents and my great-grandparents were together for the whole of their lives.
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You're making marriage about happiness, and it's not about happiness.
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I want an intact family, duty, and now I want to be happy on top of it.
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I cannot stand when women will blame men for them not being happy.
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You cannot blame other people for your own emotions.
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Anyone that's trying to be happy for the whole of their lives is a moron, because that's
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You have parts of happiness, but there's a difference between someone that can't make
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you happy all the time, which I agree is impossible, between that and someone who actively makes
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you miserable and quite sad and depressed or anxious or a variety of other things.
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So, if they're doing a lot of horrible things, it will affect you.
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One, one, if he's doing a bunch of horrible things, you probably didn't have your father
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But number two, I think it's putting a lot of responsibility on the men for trying to
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But you just said about the father vetting him, so that's putting a responsibility on
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a man of some sort to say for your father to vet the man.
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I think we would have better outcomes if more men.
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But some people don't have their fathers around.
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Because women leave the majority of the time, 70 to 80% of the time.
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I promise you, yeah, Pearl, and I don't know the statistics, so don't ask me.
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But I promise you, yeah, women will not leave a man that is treating them well.
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Sexing them good, loving them good, listening to them, providing for them.
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Anyway, we have been talking this whole show about how women reproduce with these bad men.
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If we're reproducing with the bad men, that means we're picking them.
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I mean, there's a reason we have phrases, nice guys finish last.
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I'm not saying it's all women, but it's a significant portion enough that we have a phrase that everybody knows.
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Besides, the reason why we're having a lot of problems with marriage today is because it's the same reason we're having a lot of problems in other areas of society.
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We try to change the meaning of what things stand for.
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Marriage was never about love, happiness, or all of that crap.
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Marriage was about bringing together two families, bringing together resources to ensure the survival of your offsprings.
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So, at the bedrock of marriage should lie duty and responsibility, not love and happiness.
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But we have more than enough people on the earth for us not to choose love.
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No, but the issue is right now we have a below replacement rate.
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Even if you have 100 million people, if you're not replacing the people that are dying as quickly as you should, then eventually that civilization is going to crash.
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This is not something that we're predicting to happen that we don't know.
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Do you think it would be a massive problem if there wasn't that many human beings on the planet?
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Because, in my opinion, I don't think we're more important than the planet.
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I think the planet is more important than us as a species.
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God, if it would make houses cheaper, that would be great.
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The thing is, if there weren't enough human beings on earth, human beings would make repopulating the earth more of a priority than love.
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The reason why the birthright is falling is because we are all comfortable now.
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We don't have to worry the way our ancestors had to worry.
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Would it be a bad thing if there was less human beings on the planet?
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Because we said there's 8.4 billion people right now.
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Like, I just don't think as humans we have the right to play God.
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So you have the right to decide when life begins.
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You have the right whether the child lives or dies.
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Like, I just think we get into all these policies where you're literally playing God.
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Yeah, because I suppose, you know, if a man or woman create a life,
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if that's, is that playing God in your eyes then?
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Well, there's a huge thing about population control right now.
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Like, it's just, that's, like, really trying to control all of us.
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And so that's why they're pushing for things that will cause a massive drop in the population.
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The government will step in at some point and there will be incentives for people to have kids.
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Well, I find that encouragement is usually more successful for not having a dystopian country than, you know,
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Because it makes people feel oppressed and then they don't tend to feel very happy.
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And right now, the outcome is that we're giving women the ability
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to feel free, have an abortion, and they're doing it.
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Generally, humans respond better to positive reinforcement than negative.
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Wait, wait, so you would agree then that child support should be banned
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because we don't want to give people positive reinforcement for breaking the family?
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Well, it's the women that are having the kids, so no.
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They're the ones, well, that is an incentive for them.
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If you take that away, they would be even less inclined.
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I think when you pay women to leave, they will leave.
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Well, we're just talking about more children at the moment,
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No, I was talking about families the whole time.
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So the thing with change is now we are a part of a society that has changed.
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Otherwise, you end up in a sort of authoritarian state, right?
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Yeah, if they want to feel like it's in North Korea.
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I think it was the 90s, so that's like, what, 30 years ago?
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What would happen is we would eventually kill ourselves off.
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So you can't force us to go back to the way things were.
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What will happen is naturally we will take ourselves back to the bottom and reset.
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I think the problem is when you look at the policies, whether they're like negative policies
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or positive incentives, none of them have worked.
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Like when you look at all of East Asia, all of Eastern Europe, now Western Europe, not
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a single country has managed to get back to replacement level population fertility.
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Every single country in Europe is not having enough babies to sustain the population.