JustPearlyThings - May 22, 2023


Pearl SHUTSDOWN Horoscope Girl


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Length

8 minutes

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205.95221

Word count

1,850

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss how past relationships shape future relationships and how to deal with the baggage that comes with them. We also discuss the importance of boundaries and how important it is to learn to set boundaries in a healthy relationship.

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00:00:00.000 you guys think past relationships shape future relationships you know the difference between
00:00:06.400 lust and love oh my goodness you know the difference i feel like if you're able to reflect
00:00:12.880 if you're able to reflect and not carry on the patterns that you had in your past relationship
00:00:18.080 100 you need to be self-aware in that aspect yeah 100 like erica badu said yes in that song bag lady
00:00:23.840 she's like pack light because if you bring all your emotional baggage into your future relationships
00:00:29.280 they're never going to work no one wants to deal with your baggage is she married now or no erica 0.96
00:00:47.120 i love her she's she's sick do you guys think that the best predictor of uh future relationships is
00:00:52.640 past relationships yeah yeah yeah i don't think so because i feel like in life like if you go into
00:00:59.200 a relationship and you learn the lesson that it's taught you after you've broken up
00:01:04.800 then no but if you don't learn the lesson then the universe is just going to keep sending you the
00:01:09.920 same person in a different body and you're going to have to keep re-learning why do we say the universe
00:01:14.960 is going to you pick them no no no no because because hold on hold on i'm adding that to my
00:01:21.440 lesson wait wait wait wait i'm adding that to my list of things like i want girls to stop saying the 1.00
00:01:27.040 universe but you know what some people really genuinely believe that no the universe does
00:01:31.840 because if not if not why is it that the same person with the same character traits with the
00:01:37.360 same habits with the same comes to you again again i got you i can i can break it down for you
00:01:46.720 choices yeah that's your preference no i'm saying like you either like toxic you probably like toxic
00:01:52.240 people and you're probably toxic but at the same time a lot of the time because you're the common
00:01:56.000 denominator actually i understand that wait wait so girls will take accountability off of them and 1.00
00:02:02.400 say it's the it's and i'm not trying to pick on you but it's like they'll say the universe and then
00:02:06.640 it's like it might not be the universe it's probably you but at the same time though a lot of toxic
00:02:11.120 relationships don't start off toxic they start off like normal relationships and then they change
00:02:16.800 after the honeymoon phase that's true what i would say is yeah poor choices but it's because you haven't
00:02:20.800 learned your lesson the first time yeah and there's only so many relationships you're going to go
00:02:24.160 through before you need to look inwards and be like okay maybe i'm the problem yeah and i but
00:02:27.840 self-reflection is hard you know yeah it might not start toxic but then you probably do something
00:02:35.920 that's toxic every relationship yeah no one's perfect so actually relating to what you said
00:02:41.760 it makes sense because when you said environment and um how it relates i feel like it makes sense
00:02:48.000 and when you said it's you environment and you so it all depends on where you come from your
00:02:52.800 upbringing upbringing and what makes you who you are so i feel like when you're in relation a past
00:02:57.600 relationship can make your future relationship better but how that makes it better is by you knowing
00:03:02.240 yourself uh-huh you have to do self-reflection you said self-reflection if you don't reflect
00:03:07.120 to yourself or if you don't know yourself or if you don't do better if you couldn't do the same
00:03:11.920 thing it's like wherever you see and whether you like what you do that is what you're gonna attract
00:03:16.400 do any of you guys go to the gym and you guys go yeah i guess sometimes so if you if you're practicing
00:03:22.560 squats you get better at squatting right so wouldn't you say the only way to get better at being in
00:03:27.280 a healthy relationship is to be in a healthy relationship how would you know i would think so but also i think to
00:03:32.000 be in a healthy relationship you need to know what your boundaries are and you need to like
00:03:35.840 respect them like going back to boundaries again like if you have set boundaries and you respect
00:03:39.520 your own boundaries and you have a level of self-respect for yourself then it sets the tone
00:03:44.160 for other people to come into your life and respect those boundaries what kind of boundaries are helpful
00:03:48.640 in a relationship i think a level of trust being able to give people space if they need it okay trust
00:03:55.520 you know not being like controlling or anything not being controlling okay yeah i mean everyone's
00:04:01.120 boundaries are kind of different it kind of depends on the person and i think it also depends on that
00:04:05.840 you gotta be independent as a woman and be okay with being on your own like you need to learn to 0.94
00:04:10.000 love yourself if he leaves it's like okay it's cool he can leave you know i mean i thought a lot
00:04:16.960 of girls rely a lot of guys a little girls depend that's when you know anyone that's been married for 1.00
00:04:21.760 30 plus years yeah 20 plus years not 20 20 20 plus years do you feel like that's the woman's mentality is 1.00
00:04:29.040 i need a lot of boundaries and i need to not need him i don't think it's about not needing the
00:04:34.480 person but i think there's a fine line between like having your own life and then like codependency
00:04:41.360 like some some like girls they make their relationship their whole life and then they
00:04:46.160 break up with their partner and they're lost they don't have no friends anymore because they drop out
00:04:49.600 all their friends like they they don't know themselves they lose their whole personality because
00:04:54.000 they've made their whole life their relationship and you need to remember to have a lot of
00:04:59.440 i'm a couple years older than you and usually those girls actually end up getting into a relationship 1.00
00:05:04.560 and starting a family young so it's just like instead of like you guys might have different
00:05:09.200 skills like you're good at singing you're good at that those girls just have relationship skills 1.00
00:05:13.280 so they just usually they just usually get into another relationship i mean they're heartbroken for a
00:05:18.080 bit but then they they find another guy because she proved she could be a good girlfriend to that 1.00
00:05:22.160 one so that she goes into another yeah some people are just relationship people i think
00:05:26.160 they're just made to like be in a relationship some people have the goals of like oh they're just
00:05:31.040 naive in this day they just get taken advantage off yeah there's a very very fine line between that i
00:05:39.120 think because yeah there's a lot of just make a man their whole life because it gives them validation
00:05:44.800 because they don't love themselves yeah and when you don't love yourself like i know it's cliche but
00:05:49.520 like how can you expect someone to love you properly if you don't love and respect
00:05:52.000 yourself how would you expect them to love you yeah you need to set the tone for them you know if you
00:05:57.520 show them that you don't respect yourself and you don't love yourself then how are they gonna do
00:06:01.920 how are they gonna love you and respect you so how do you show them that i just i always hear these
00:06:06.880 terms with girls and i just it's always so broad don't give them too many chances i think you know i
00:06:11.360 mean you know like if someone yeah don't give them too many chances okay do you think the 30 year
00:06:17.200 marriage 20 year marriage the the longest marriage you know do you think the woman's mentality was 1.00
00:06:23.040 don't give him too many chances no no i'm just i'm talking about successful outcomes so if we look at
00:06:29.120 people with with good outcomes because we'd all agree long marriage is better than no breaking up right
00:06:35.360 yeah okay but i'm talking i'm talking about like the dating like when you're dating before you get
00:06:40.000 to it because like i said i haven't actually been in a proper relationship so i can only go off experience from
00:06:44.400 dating jumping and say i know these girls think some of you have been in relationships or no no 1.00
00:06:49.360 but like i i haven't so yeah but i feel like you have to make sure what was the question again
00:06:55.200 do you think that do you think that the mentality of cut a guy off quick it was good for a long-term
00:07:01.600 relationship don't give him too many no if he's cheating then yeah you've got it because he will
00:07:06.560 most likely do it again why do we why do we always go to like the worst case scenario i think i think um
00:07:12.800 because of females in the beginning i think if someone like if you express that you don't like
00:07:18.000 how someone's treating you and then they continue to treat you like that and then you still take them
00:07:22.720 back that's unhealthy that's not you not respecting your boundaries because you don't like the way
00:07:26.800 you're being treated but you're going to stay there because you like him or you think that he likes you
00:07:31.360 because he does nasty things to you and then he might buy some flowers afterwards and be like oh i'm so
00:07:35.680 sorry but then he does it again like that's unhealthy do you know what i mean like space of experience
00:07:42.240 that's not good but like if you're in a long-term marriage or you're in a relationship and you have
00:07:46.720 a few issues that you don't you don't like agree on certain things those things can easily be resolved
00:07:51.120 with good communication yeah i mean i agree with you that you should cut people off that aren't married
00:07:57.680 if you if you want to be married that aren't marriage minded and quick but i think sometimes like
00:08:02.560 as women we always jump to like the worst case scenario it's either cheating i only know this 0.66
00:08:06.880 i've done this show so many times we have fantasies it's always cheating i'm starting to get better
00:08:13.120 before i used to always think of the worst case scenario but now i'm like i'm calming down a little
00:08:18.080 bit didn't you just say cheating no but no i'm taking notes as an example as an example i think sometimes
00:08:23.840 you just gotta go with the flow like yeah literally you do you can't think too much into it obviously if
00:08:28.960 you're not being treated right then obviously he's gotta go yeah 100 it's a simple as many of you
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