JustPearlyThings - May 22, 2023


Pearl SHUTSDOWN Horoscope Girl


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

205.95221

Word Count

1,850

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

11

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 you guys think past relationships shape future relationships you know the difference between
00:00:06.400 lust and love oh my goodness you know the difference i feel like if you're able to reflect
00:00:12.880 if you're able to reflect and not carry on the patterns that you had in your past relationship
00:00:18.080 100 you need to be self-aware in that aspect yeah 100 like erica badu said yes in that song bag lady
00:00:23.840 she's like pack light because if you bring all your emotional baggage into your future relationships
00:00:29.280 they're never going to work no one wants to deal with your baggage is she married now or no erica
00:00:47.120 i love her she's she's sick do you guys think that the best predictor of uh future relationships is
00:00:52.640 past relationships yeah yeah yeah i don't think so because i feel like in life like if you go into
00:00:59.200 a relationship and you learn the lesson that it's taught you after you've broken up
00:01:04.800 then no but if you don't learn the lesson then the universe is just going to keep sending you the
00:01:09.920 same person in a different body and you're going to have to keep re-learning why do we say the universe
00:01:14.960 is going to you pick them no no no no because because hold on hold on i'm adding that to my
00:01:21.440 lesson wait wait wait wait i'm adding that to my list of things like i want girls to stop saying the
00:01:27.040 universe but you know what some people really genuinely believe that no the universe does
00:01:31.840 because if not if not why is it that the same person with the same character traits with the
00:01:37.360 same habits with the same comes to you again again i got you i can i can break it down for you
00:01:46.720 choices yeah that's your preference no i'm saying like you either like toxic you probably like toxic
00:01:52.240 people and you're probably toxic but at the same time a lot of the time because you're the common
00:01:56.000 denominator actually i understand that wait wait so girls will take accountability off of them and
00:02:02.400 say it's the it's and i'm not trying to pick on you but it's like they'll say the universe and then
00:02:06.640 it's like it might not be the universe it's probably you but at the same time though a lot of toxic
00:02:11.120 relationships don't start off toxic they start off like normal relationships and then they change
00:02:16.800 after the honeymoon phase that's true what i would say is yeah poor choices but it's because you haven't
00:02:20.800 learned your lesson the first time yeah and there's only so many relationships you're going to go
00:02:24.160 through before you need to look inwards and be like okay maybe i'm the problem yeah and i but
00:02:27.840 self-reflection is hard you know yeah it might not start toxic but then you probably do something
00:02:35.920 that's toxic every relationship yeah no one's perfect so actually relating to what you said
00:02:41.760 it makes sense because when you said environment and um how it relates i feel like it makes sense
00:02:48.000 and when you said it's you environment and you so it all depends on where you come from your
00:02:52.800 upbringing upbringing and what makes you who you are so i feel like when you're in relation a past
00:02:57.600 relationship can make your future relationship better but how that makes it better is by you knowing
00:03:02.240 yourself uh-huh you have to do self-reflection you said self-reflection if you don't reflect
00:03:07.120 to yourself or if you don't know yourself or if you don't do better if you couldn't do the same
00:03:11.920 thing it's like wherever you see and whether you like what you do that is what you're gonna attract
00:03:16.400 do any of you guys go to the gym and you guys go yeah i guess sometimes so if you if you're practicing
00:03:22.560 squats you get better at squatting right so wouldn't you say the only way to get better at being in
00:03:27.280 a healthy relationship is to be in a healthy relationship how would you know i would think so but also i think to
00:03:32.000 be in a healthy relationship you need to know what your boundaries are and you need to like
00:03:35.840 respect them like going back to boundaries again like if you have set boundaries and you respect
00:03:39.520 your own boundaries and you have a level of self-respect for yourself then it sets the tone
00:03:44.160 for other people to come into your life and respect those boundaries what kind of boundaries are helpful
00:03:48.640 in a relationship i think a level of trust being able to give people space if they need it okay trust
00:03:55.520 you know not being like controlling or anything not being controlling okay yeah i mean everyone's
00:04:01.120 boundaries are kind of different it kind of depends on the person and i think it also depends on that
00:04:05.840 you gotta be independent as a woman and be okay with being on your own like you need to learn to
00:04:10.000 love yourself if he leaves it's like okay it's cool he can leave you know i mean i thought a lot
00:04:16.960 of girls rely a lot of guys a little girls depend that's when you know anyone that's been married for
00:04:21.760 30 plus years yeah 20 plus years not 20 20 20 plus years do you feel like that's the woman's mentality is
00:04:29.040 i need a lot of boundaries and i need to not need him i don't think it's about not needing the
00:04:34.480 person but i think there's a fine line between like having your own life and then like codependency
00:04:41.360 like some some like girls they make their relationship their whole life and then they
00:04:46.160 break up with their partner and they're lost they don't have no friends anymore because they drop out
00:04:49.600 all their friends like they they don't know themselves they lose their whole personality because
00:04:54.000 they've made their whole life their relationship and you need to remember to have a lot of
00:04:59.440 i'm a couple years older than you and usually those girls actually end up getting into a relationship
00:05:04.560 and starting a family young so it's just like instead of like you guys might have different
00:05:09.200 skills like you're good at singing you're good at that those girls just have relationship skills
00:05:13.280 so they just usually they just usually get into another relationship i mean they're heartbroken for a
00:05:18.080 bit but then they they find another guy because she proved she could be a good girlfriend to that
00:05:22.160 one so that she goes into another yeah some people are just relationship people i think
00:05:26.160 they're just made to like be in a relationship some people have the goals of like oh they're just
00:05:31.040 naive in this day they just get taken advantage off yeah there's a very very fine line between that i
00:05:39.120 think because yeah there's a lot of just make a man their whole life because it gives them validation
00:05:44.800 because they don't love themselves yeah and when you don't love yourself like i know it's cliche but
00:05:49.520 like how can you expect someone to love you properly if you don't love and respect
00:05:52.000 yourself how would you expect them to love you yeah you need to set the tone for them you know if you
00:05:57.520 show them that you don't respect yourself and you don't love yourself then how are they gonna do
00:06:01.920 how are they gonna love you and respect you so how do you show them that i just i always hear these
00:06:06.880 terms with girls and i just it's always so broad don't give them too many chances i think you know i
00:06:11.360 mean you know like if someone yeah don't give them too many chances okay do you think the 30 year
00:06:17.200 marriage 20 year marriage the the longest marriage you know do you think the woman's mentality was
00:06:23.040 don't give him too many chances no no i'm just i'm talking about successful outcomes so if we look at
00:06:29.120 people with with good outcomes because we'd all agree long marriage is better than no breaking up right
00:06:35.360 yeah okay but i'm talking i'm talking about like the dating like when you're dating before you get
00:06:40.000 to it because like i said i haven't actually been in a proper relationship so i can only go off experience from
00:06:44.400 dating jumping and say i know these girls think some of you have been in relationships or no no
00:06:49.360 but like i i haven't so yeah but i feel like you have to make sure what was the question again
00:06:55.200 do you think that do you think that the mentality of cut a guy off quick it was good for a long-term
00:07:01.600 relationship don't give him too many no if he's cheating then yeah you've got it because he will
00:07:06.560 most likely do it again why do we why do we always go to like the worst case scenario i think i think um
00:07:12.800 because of females in the beginning i think if someone like if you express that you don't like
00:07:18.000 how someone's treating you and then they continue to treat you like that and then you still take them
00:07:22.720 back that's unhealthy that's not you not respecting your boundaries because you don't like the way
00:07:26.800 you're being treated but you're going to stay there because you like him or you think that he likes you
00:07:31.360 because he does nasty things to you and then he might buy some flowers afterwards and be like oh i'm so
00:07:35.680 sorry but then he does it again like that's unhealthy do you know what i mean like space of experience
00:07:42.240 that's not good but like if you're in a long-term marriage or you're in a relationship and you have
00:07:46.720 a few issues that you don't you don't like agree on certain things those things can easily be resolved
00:07:51.120 with good communication yeah i mean i agree with you that you should cut people off that aren't married
00:07:57.680 if you if you want to be married that aren't marriage minded and quick but i think sometimes like
00:08:02.560 as women we always jump to like the worst case scenario it's either cheating i only know this
00:08:06.880 i've done this show so many times we have fantasies it's always cheating i'm starting to get better
00:08:13.120 before i used to always think of the worst case scenario but now i'm like i'm calming down a little
00:08:18.080 bit didn't you just say cheating no but no i'm taking notes as an example as an example i think sometimes
00:08:23.840 you just gotta go with the flow like yeah literally you do you can't think too much into it obviously if
00:08:28.960 you're not being treated right then obviously he's gotta go yeah 100 it's a simple as many of you
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