JustPearlyThings - May 07, 2023


Pearl Slapped Her With A Dose Of Reality


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

237.35818

Word Count

1,876

Sentence Count

167

Misogynist Sentences

26

Hate Speech Sentences

20


Summary

In this episode, we are joined by a very special guest who is a very good friend of mine, we talk about the importance of a good work ethic and how important it is to take care of your family. We also talk about money and how to deal with it in a relationship.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Because mothers put their child before themselves.
00:00:03.180 When they have children.
00:00:04.340 When they don't have children, obviously, they put themselves first.
00:00:05.520 But you should be thinking about that ahead of time.
00:00:07.420 But I am doing by creating a career for myself to provide for the family that I would want to be here.
00:00:11.960 So you mentioned you want to be a mother.
00:00:13.640 Like, what are you doing to prepare to be a mother?
00:00:16.420 I eat healthy most of the time.
00:00:20.520 That was a really good question, actually.
00:00:21.720 That's put me on the spot.
00:00:22.820 Well, my...
00:00:23.720 Like, what are you doing?
00:00:24.520 So if a guy said, okay, you can work for three years.
00:00:27.480 He meets you today.
00:00:28.260 And he says, okay, that's fine.
00:00:29.480 You're working.
00:00:29.960 You can work for three years.
00:00:30.740 And then we're going to have children.
00:00:32.120 What skills do you bring to the table?
00:00:33.860 What would you say?
00:00:35.000 I'm a very fair and understanding person.
00:00:37.760 I'm able to...
00:00:40.380 Oh, gosh, that's a really hard question.
00:00:41.620 She's got the most biggest heart.
00:00:42.980 Oh, thank you.
00:00:44.580 Like I said, I'm a really caring person.
00:00:48.140 I know what my parents did that I would want to do different.
00:00:53.220 And, yeah, that's such a hard question.
00:00:54.980 It put me on the spot.
00:00:55.700 There's a lot of things, but I just can't really think of them.
00:00:57.340 You're very ambitious as well, Ashton.
00:01:01.000 Right, right.
00:01:01.420 But that doesn't matter to a guy that's ambitious.
00:01:03.760 And, you know, I'm ambitious, but men don't give a shit.
00:01:07.360 They literally don't care.
00:01:08.800 If I cared and I loved you, I would do anything for you.
00:01:12.120 Like I would be your support, your everything.
00:01:15.200 Right, but what?
00:01:16.300 Because, you know, it's like if you're applying to a job,
00:01:17.860 you say I can do this, this, this, and this.
00:01:20.120 So I understand what, like when you guys were saying earlier,
00:01:24.560 what you, because it's all about status for a man and their woman.
00:01:27.680 Like, for example, if there was a group of guys
00:01:29.860 and all their girlfriends were going out on a night out
00:01:32.160 and one of the guys turned around and said,
00:01:34.360 well, my woman's staying at home.
00:01:36.060 In his head, that's a status thing.
00:01:37.400 That is, yeah.
00:01:37.960 For example, if your man was to bring his friends around
00:01:41.880 and you were to offer, oh, what would you guys like to eat?
00:01:44.940 Again, that's a status thing
00:01:46.220 because your woman is taking care of you and your friends.
00:01:48.620 So I want to provide, which is where the money comes from,
00:01:51.920 because I also think guys deserve to be treated like a king.
00:01:55.540 It's not just the girls should be wined and dined all the time.
00:01:58.180 So that's why I want to make money,
00:01:59.460 not just to be able to take my husband out using his credit card.
00:02:02.660 I want to use mine.
00:02:03.620 So your money is his money in the relationship?
00:02:05.940 Yeah.
00:02:06.380 Okay.
00:02:06.860 Yeah, 100%.
00:02:07.600 Do you guys care about a girl's money?
00:02:11.140 I wouldn't care, but if she had money,
00:02:12.860 then it's all mine.
00:02:14.420 And my money's mine.
00:02:15.660 Easy as.
00:02:17.060 Do you understand?
00:02:17.980 Yeah.
00:02:18.620 So if she needed something and she has my kids,
00:02:21.340 do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:21.900 Then I would obviously offer it to her.
00:02:24.120 But my money's my money.
00:02:25.760 I'll obviously give it to you if you need it.
00:02:27.120 And your money's my money.
00:02:28.340 Easy as.
00:02:29.500 That's how it works.
00:02:30.520 Do you understand?
00:02:31.060 Yeah, in a marriage, yeah,
00:02:32.080 because you come together, don't you?
00:02:33.200 Because the girl's money's my money
00:02:34.760 and my money's my money.
00:02:36.500 Do you understand?
00:02:36.940 Do you understand?
00:02:37.400 But when she needs something,
00:02:38.340 I'll obviously provide it for her.
00:02:39.360 Do you understand?
00:02:39.920 Yeah.
00:02:40.620 Yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying.
00:02:42.000 I would still see it as my money,
00:02:44.420 but I'm not going to not allow you to have it
00:02:46.700 because we're married.
00:02:47.540 We're a partnership.
00:02:48.560 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:49.140 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:49.160 Exactly.
00:02:49.560 Let's say you're a guy and your man needs it.
00:02:51.860 That money takes it from you.
00:02:52.720 It's not even a question you could have it today.
00:02:54.000 That's good, Ashton.
00:02:54.800 That's very good.
00:02:55.400 Thank you.
00:02:55.740 I respect that about you.
00:02:56.200 Thank you very much.
00:02:57.800 Thanks.
00:02:58.740 Do you care?
00:02:59.680 No, I don't care at all.
00:03:01.000 And any woman that's ever done anything with me,
00:03:03.640 I pay for everything.
00:03:04.780 Five-star hotels, restaurants.
00:03:06.200 I'm flying to Poland tomorrow.
00:03:09.200 Her and her friend are supposed to meet up with me.
00:03:10.660 She said, we're not rich like that.
00:03:13.060 I said, when have I ever had you pay for anything?
00:03:15.740 I find it offensive when a girl offers to pay.
00:03:18.220 Yeah, money doesn't matter.
00:03:18.800 I find it offensive when a girl offers to pay.
00:03:19.880 You find it offensive?
00:03:21.000 Yeah, I find it offensive, bro.
00:03:22.680 But isn't it rude if they don't, though?
00:03:24.920 Would you not be rude?
00:03:25.560 No, it's not.
00:03:26.000 Because you know who splits the bill?
00:03:26.900 Why do you think it's offensive?
00:03:27.940 You know who splits the bill?
00:03:29.500 Friends split the bill.
00:03:30.940 They're like, oh, my friend.
00:03:32.080 Let me split the bill with you.
00:03:32.780 But the offer, though.
00:03:33.720 Would you rather a girl offer than not?
00:03:35.200 That's offensive.
00:03:35.980 That's offensive, end of.
00:03:37.320 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:37.680 So then she could be used when I offer back in.
00:03:39.680 Girls need to get used to the fact that
00:03:41.680 the cash is on me,
00:03:43.820 tap it and love, go.
00:03:45.780 It's not a way to go.
00:03:46.840 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:47.500 Oh, can I split this with you?
00:03:49.740 That's embarrassing for the man.
00:03:50.740 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:51.560 The man knows he has to pay.
00:03:53.080 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:53.520 And the girl should know to stand back,
00:03:55.340 let him handle the finances.
00:03:56.880 Easy as.
00:03:57.760 You can't just say to your own man,
00:03:59.560 oh, can I split the bill with you?
00:04:01.240 That's offensive.
00:04:02.460 That's the thing I'm saying,
00:04:03.220 I'm friends with you,
00:04:04.440 so I'll offer to split the bill.
00:04:05.860 If you know he was truly a man,
00:04:07.640 you would just leave it to him.
00:04:08.900 Go pay it, this and that.
00:04:10.260 You don't think about it.
00:04:11.020 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:11.380 Do you think if a guy accepts splitting the bill,
00:04:13.420 he doesn't like her that much?
00:04:14.740 Then he's a bitch bro,
00:04:15.600 easy as end of.
00:04:17.060 Okay.
00:04:17.880 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:18.760 Yeah.
00:04:19.120 Because he'll be like,
00:04:19.820 oh, yeah, let me split the bill.
00:04:21.140 Do you think women that are not traditional
00:04:23.920 deserve traditional treatment?
00:04:25.940 No.
00:04:27.200 Because most,
00:04:27.980 I don't think traditional women exist in 2023.
00:04:31.040 I don't think.
00:04:31.520 I think some do.
00:04:31.980 I think some do.
00:04:32.480 I know a few virgins, to be fair.
00:04:34.420 I don't think,
00:04:35.320 I think even a traditional woman
00:04:36.760 can't be traditional
00:04:37.680 because she's still too influenced by the culture.
00:04:39.880 She doesn't live in a rat sack
00:04:41.640 in the middle of nowhere.
00:04:42.260 You know what it is?
00:04:43.100 It's TikTok, Instagram.
00:04:44.580 Right.
00:04:44.900 Because girls follow trends, right?
00:04:45.940 It changes everyone.
00:04:46.780 Girls follow trends.
00:04:47.880 Like what percent of girls
00:04:48.940 have their own cookbook of recipes
00:04:51.020 from scratch?
00:04:52.440 What percent of girls,
00:04:53.520 like what percent of girls,
00:04:54.460 like genuinely,
00:04:55.100 the skills that our grandmothers had,
00:04:56.960 like that they could,
00:04:57.920 you know,
00:04:58.360 my grandma had nine kids
00:05:00.480 and she managed the household
00:05:01.940 of nine kids.
00:05:02.620 She could sew,
00:05:03.340 she could cook,
00:05:04.120 she could clean.
00:05:04.980 And I'll just say,
00:05:05.620 I can't do half of that.
00:05:06.880 I can't sew.
00:05:07.940 It is amazing.
00:05:08.860 Who here knows how to sew?
00:05:09.980 I do, but not very well.
00:05:10.880 I do.
00:05:12.500 I sew my clothes back together
00:05:13.940 when they have a hole in it.
00:05:18.760 Okay, right.
00:05:19.940 But,
00:05:20.280 but you see what I'm saying?
00:05:21.600 Like what percent of girls
00:05:22.320 really have those skills?
00:05:23.820 So like one argument
00:05:24.720 I've heard from guys
00:05:25.720 is like why would I treat her
00:05:26.880 like a traditional woman
00:05:28.080 when like they're not?
00:05:29.180 The thing is you have to
00:05:33.020 train your girl.
00:05:33.720 Like I'm not even being rude.
00:05:35.580 I'm not trying to say
00:05:36.140 like she's something bad,
00:05:37.600 but training a girl,
00:05:38.680 like even if you don't
00:05:39.500 like the way she is,
00:05:40.260 you can train her,
00:05:40.860 you can mold her.
00:05:41.880 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:42.680 Mold her.
00:05:43.580 Not mold,
00:05:44.180 but like train her.
00:05:45.120 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:45.440 Right.
00:05:45.760 No,
00:05:46.080 I,
00:05:46.360 I agree with you.
00:05:47.420 Like I don't disagree.
00:05:48.200 I've just heard,
00:05:48.900 I heard them,
00:05:49.580 I think Brian talk about it
00:05:50.980 on whatever.
00:05:51.440 And he's like,
00:05:51.960 why would I split the bill
00:05:53.480 when half the time
00:05:54.320 I meet these girls
00:05:55.140 and they're going to sleep
00:05:56.060 with another dude
00:05:56.980 after the date?
00:05:58.120 So,
00:05:58.480 and so he's saying
00:05:59.740 like why would I do that
00:06:01.340 and she has to prove to me
00:06:02.560 that she's not like that
00:06:03.660 before I'm really going
00:06:04.420 to treat her.
00:06:04.840 Even if she does sleep
00:06:05.960 with guys,
00:06:06.480 let's say you're out of her,
00:06:07.260 yeah?
00:06:07.360 Yeah.
00:06:07.960 Cool,
00:06:08.200 you don't know
00:06:08.780 that she's scared yet.
00:06:09.440 You still pay the bill.
00:06:10.300 That's your instinct as a man.
00:06:11.720 Even if she's slept
00:06:12.540 with a hundred guys,
00:06:13.300 you still pay the bill.
00:06:14.480 Don't look at like,
00:06:14.840 oh,
00:06:15.060 split the bill,
00:06:15.580 you can have the bill.
00:06:16.500 Shut up.
00:06:17.320 Just pay the bill,
00:06:18.020 get on with it,
00:06:18.520 no matter what.
00:06:19.480 Then don't speak to her
00:06:20.240 afterwards.
00:06:20.660 Easy as.
00:06:21.660 You know what I'm saying?
00:06:22.400 I agree with him
00:06:23.100 because I think
00:06:28.480 that are meaningful
00:06:29.000 and purposeful
00:06:29.780 and beneficial
00:06:30.460 to your long-term commitment.
00:06:32.320 Right?
00:06:32.480 So if you realize
00:06:33.200 that that girl's not
00:06:33.840 a modern mentality woman,
00:06:36.460 you said as a man,
00:06:38.540 pay the bill,
00:06:39.640 you enjoy your night,
00:06:40.700 I'm out.
00:06:41.860 Why am I going to
00:06:42.320 waste my time with a girl
00:06:43.220 that I know is not
00:06:43.860 going to give me
00:06:44.340 what I need?
00:06:44.840 Unless you want to
00:06:45.380 have fun with her
00:06:46.080 for like one,
00:06:46.680 two times,
00:06:47.160 three times.
00:06:48.160 That's what you want to do.
00:06:50.520 You go to the club,
00:06:51.540 pay the club bill,
00:06:52.720 go to the house
00:06:53.540 and then pay the drinks
00:06:55.020 and then have sex with her
00:06:56.440 and then send her home,
00:06:57.620 have sex with her again.
00:06:58.860 If that's the lane
00:06:59.360 you want to take.
00:07:00.280 But I mean,
00:07:00.800 if you're looking
00:07:01.740 for more than just fun,
00:07:03.020 you meet a girl,
00:07:03.820 you realize she's not
00:07:04.680 really that modern mentality.
00:07:06.760 She's a modern mentality woman.
00:07:08.000 She's not like
00:07:08.440 more traditional values
00:07:09.520 and morals.
00:07:10.480 Why am I going
00:07:10.940 to waste my time?
00:07:12.060 I don't got no issue with you.
00:07:13.000 I'm just going to
00:07:13.340 pay the bill,
00:07:13.880 you have a drink,
00:07:14.760 a meal.
00:07:15.020 I think his thing
00:07:16.140 is that he just doesn't
00:07:16.980 want to waste his money
00:07:18.120 on someone that is modern
00:07:19.840 or like a modern mentality
00:07:21.320 because he's like,
00:07:22.260 I mean,
00:07:22.480 that's my mistake.
00:07:23.140 Right, right,
00:07:23.420 because she's most likely
00:07:24.520 talking to like 10 dudes,
00:07:25.940 sleeping with another dude.
00:07:26.880 You know,
00:07:27.440 I'm not saying you do
00:07:28.440 or you don't.
00:07:28.900 I was just curious
00:07:29.460 what you think of that.
00:07:30.240 It's just the cost
00:07:31.120 of taking risk, right?
00:07:32.640 Yeah.
00:07:32.820 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:33.240 Because you don't really know
00:07:34.080 until you meet the person.
00:07:34.900 So if I invited her out,
00:07:36.740 I mean,
00:07:37.100 I got to take that out, right?
00:07:38.260 You know,
00:07:38.500 I was just banned on TikTok
00:07:41.140 and we are demonetized
00:07:42.840 on a daily basis
00:07:44.080 on this platform.
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