JustPearlyThings - May 20, 2023


Pearl SPILLS Shocking Fact about Modern Women


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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

202.05324

Word count

1,627

Sentence count

139

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

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Hate speech

11

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In this episode, we talk about who is the boss in the household and why it s so important for women to be able to have a say in the decisions that are made in a household. We also talk about the difference between women and men when it comes to being the head of the household.

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00:00:00.000 Would you tell me, please, who is the boss of your house?
00:00:04.600 I'm the boss.
00:00:05.380 What do you think? You're his wife, are you?
00:00:08.040 What did you say?
00:00:09.020 I said, who is the boss?
00:00:10.040 My husband.
00:00:11.000 What is your nationality?
00:00:12.280 Greek.
00:00:12.680 I'm Greek.
00:00:13.400 Is it always that way in Greek households, the husband is the boss? 1.00
00:00:15.820 Yes.
00:00:16.320 Don't the women, the wives, have anything to say about it? 1.00
00:00:18.920 No.
00:00:21.920 So this is an older video.
00:00:24.680 How do you think social media has changed that dynamic?
00:00:30.000 Podcasts.
00:00:35.360 If you ask a girl and a guy the same question that they asked there,
00:00:42.240 the answer will be 100% different.
00:00:44.820 Because if you ask, who is the leave of the household?
00:00:46.800 The amount of times you were here,
00:00:48.580 either the woman say me or say he thinks he is,
00:00:53.460 but it's not actually.
00:00:54.920 Oh, right.
00:00:56.760 Or something along those lines.
00:00:58.680 You know what I'm saying?
00:00:59.300 Guys will get on TV and be like, oh, happy wife, happy life.
00:01:02.680 That's the one.
00:01:03.440 That's what they say.
00:01:04.200 That's the one.
00:01:05.520 Anything along those lines.
00:01:07.660 And it's like, but like, you should have some sort of leader.
00:01:11.880 Back then, that's how it was.
00:01:13.500 That's how it was, man.
00:01:14.820 The man just...
00:01:15.700 A simpler time.
00:01:16.620 You say it was easier.
00:01:17.400 You say back then.
00:01:18.520 No, no, no.
00:01:19.120 This way that we're living now is the new norm for like the entirety of mankind.
00:01:25.180 You understand that, right?
00:01:26.320 It's not back then.
00:01:27.320 It was for the entirety of man's existence up until about 30 years ago.
00:01:32.780 Guys, this is how we were living.
00:01:34.340 But I don't think there's like, you know, let's say for instance, there's a decision to make
00:01:38.300 in the household.
00:01:39.840 You know, you've got the final say as the man.
00:01:41.900 Are you...
00:01:43.140 I think the lines get crossed in terms of like having any kind of conversation with the pros
00:01:48.920 and cons of a situation with your woman.
00:01:50.520 I don't feel like women just get like your opinion and your mindset and everything you 1.00
00:01:54.720 bring to it.
00:01:55.280 It should just be wiped out.
00:01:56.300 I think a conversation can happen.
00:01:58.460 Yeah.
00:01:58.920 I do believe that, you know, you've got to trust someone to lead.
00:02:02.080 You know what I mean?
00:02:02.640 If he needs a...
00:02:03.660 If he's going to ask a question or run something, you know, yeah, and you're going back and forth,
00:02:07.480 then cool.
00:02:08.140 But, you know, I think sometimes women will hear this, men need to lead and just think,
00:02:12.280 okay, all my education is out of the window.
00:02:15.000 And they put so much into their education that they can't even fathom the thought of,
00:02:18.640 right, this isn't even valuable in this relationship.
00:02:21.480 Yeah.
00:02:22.000 Marriages would last longer back then. 0.62
00:02:24.120 Like my grandparents, my grandma had no say.
00:02:28.180 Less options, though.
00:02:28.820 You know what I mean?
00:02:29.580 Less options.
00:02:30.780 Maybe that's...
00:02:31.240 No, but I mean marriages last longer, so it worked. 1.00
00:02:33.340 It worked in their time.
00:02:34.500 Maybe that's what it is, though, what you said about education.
00:02:37.320 You said...
00:02:38.460 You've said it before about women who have been to university and more likely to leave.
00:02:43.140 More likely.
00:02:43.500 Maybe it's not...
00:02:44.400 You're 90% likely to leave in a divorce.
00:02:47.160 Maybe it's not a direct correlation between education, but rather something to do with like pride.
00:02:52.280 Because if you've done that education, that's a commitment and a sacrifice to do something for yourself.
00:02:58.120 And then when you get into a relationship, maybe it's like, oh, you don't want to let the man be the leader
00:03:03.840 because you feel like you've done something, worked hard at something.
00:03:08.640 I don't think it's to do with the fact that you've got an education...
00:03:11.080 Because I've been to uni and stuff like that, and I don't feel...
00:03:14.180 I haven't got pride because of that.
00:03:15.600 I think it's more to do with if you've got knowledge and wisdom to talk about, then you should be able to talk about it.
00:03:22.120 But he would know that, surely.
00:03:23.360 And he would...
00:03:23.760 So, like, for example, I have a law degree.
00:03:25.160 So if my partner ever had any kind of legal question, he was dealing with something with his insurance,
00:03:30.080 like, he will ask me questions.
00:03:32.000 So I feel like it's more of a case where if they need you, they will ask.
00:03:35.820 But what I'm saying is I feel like a lot of women perhaps want to know more
00:03:40.320 because they have this knowledge, wisdom, whatever.
00:03:43.160 So they want to be able to exercise that.
00:03:46.420 And what I'm saying is I don't really think that's necessary.
00:03:48.660 And perhaps going to uni and getting it...
00:03:52.660 I mean, I hate to say it, but it is a fact that marriages lasted longer when women weren't doing that. 1.00
00:03:59.260 So I'm just questioning why that is, because it is factual that...
00:04:02.420 I hear it.
00:04:02.900 It's actually inverse, like, college and kids.
00:04:05.880 So it's like the more education a woman has, the less kids she has. 1.00
00:04:09.640 Yeah, so, like, what is that?
00:04:11.600 No, because it seems like when women get money, they don't want men. 1.00
00:04:15.380 Like, they don't want a man unless it's, like, the man she wants.
00:04:18.560 Yeah.
00:04:19.480 The thing about it, when guys become millionaires, they go for most, if not any girl. 0.88
00:04:23.920 When a girl becomes a millionaire, she's looking for someone who's making more millions than she is. 1.00
00:04:29.260 Right, or if she's smart in a certain aspect, then she's looking for someone who is better than her in whatever aspect it is.
00:04:36.160 That's true.
00:04:36.900 Eve, Eve, Eve done the same thing.
00:04:39.120 She went with a billionaire.
00:04:40.380 J-Lo, I think, done the same thing.
00:04:42.160 Before, went with a billionaire.
00:04:43.580 They lot are millionaires.
00:04:45.160 But Ja Rule's with his...
00:04:46.460 Was it, is it Ja Rule?
00:04:47.660 Or one of them is with the same girlfriend that they were with before?
00:04:50.320 Was it T.I.?
00:04:51.300 T.I., Snoop Dogg.
00:04:53.340 They're all with the same original girl.
00:04:54.960 They're with the same original girl.
00:04:56.360 But all these other millionaires with the women got the money and upgraded, quote-unquote, because you can't settle, quote-unquote, because settling has to do with your bank accounts and not your mental aspects nowadays.
00:05:08.360 Whereas to men, like, something, I feel like, something like your education, if you continue, you know, it doesn't matter. 0.93
00:05:15.240 Doesn't matter.
00:05:15.560 Do I get along with you?
00:05:16.360 In the same way as your salary doesn't really matter either.
00:05:18.460 Do you know what's mad important and valuable that I kind of look in relationships to help out?
00:05:24.140 You know, if you've been with a woman who's, like, a nurse, nutritionist, like, you know, that kind of nurture stuff that guys do not put any energy into whatsoever, right? 0.95
00:05:35.760 Those kind of things are really a way where guys will want to lean on their girl and be in those circumstances, you know what I mean?
00:05:43.020 When the car breaks down, other than, with someone, oh, no, I was watching something else where someone said they could fix BMWs.
00:05:50.240 I think that was another problem.
00:05:51.800 But, like, other than that, it was like, you know, there's certain things that the guy might not necessarily need your input at that time.
00:05:58.800 And you might have so much to give him.
00:06:00.460 And you might be thinking, rah, why don't you value my opinion?
00:06:03.040 Or why would you go on a podcast and act like you don't care about my opinion?
00:06:06.740 But, you know, you need to kind of focus on things that are going to get you what you want.
00:06:10.720 And I think sometimes our parents push realities onto us.
00:06:14.040 But maybe just leave that at work.
00:06:15.600 You've got to learn when you come home, put on a different hat.
00:06:18.820 Unwind, yeah.
00:06:19.480 You know what I mean?
00:06:21.160 I think we're going to close out the show, guys.
00:06:24.220 Cool.
00:06:25.080 So we're going to do final thoughts.
00:06:26.660 So any, like, final thoughts, Instagram you want to shout out, you can do that now.
00:06:31.060 Starting here and then go around.
00:06:32.900 Hello, it's Ashton again.
00:06:34.660 So the Instagram is it's AshtonMaria.
00:06:38.200 And just final thoughts.
00:06:39.340 You know how you were talking about guys and the car breaking down and a woman really wouldn't know what to do? 0.98
00:06:45.920 I was in a situation quite recently where there was, my friend was driving us and there was three, four, yeah, four of us in the car, girls.
00:06:53.040 And it was the girls that sorted the car situation because my friend was like, oh, you need to jumpstart the car. 1.00
00:06:58.420 My other friend was like, oh, let me call like the AA or just an insurance company.
00:07:02.300 Whereas he was very calm, handled the situation fine.
00:07:06.160 But it wasn't him who got the final output.
00:07:09.600 Okay.
00:07:10.020 If that makes sense.
00:07:10.760 Did he, did he, did the girls know what to do?
00:07:13.300 Yeah, more than him.
00:07:14.520 Interesting.
00:07:15.060 Okay, cool.
00:07:15.720 That's, yeah.
00:07:16.540 What's your, like, what's your take on that?
00:07:18.780 I just think girls can do anything really, to be honest. 1.00
00:07:21.860 I'm all about girl power. 0.71
00:07:22.820 Women are super, women are super powers. 1.00
00:07:25.120 Like, you lot are achieving, you lot.
00:07:27.000 To me, a woman can achieve, not to put men down, but like a woman, to me, I don't think
00:07:33.260 a woman needs a man. 1.00
00:07:34.560 To me, I think a woman is so empowering and can do anything they put their mind to and 0.99
00:07:38.360 they can work six days a week, seven days a week, raise a family, run a mortgage, like
00:07:44.660 they can be everything.
00:07:46.320 And I think.
00:07:46.960 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:07:53.040 on this platform.
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