JustPearlyThings - May 20, 2023


Pearl SPILLS Shocking Fact about Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

202.05324

Word Count

1,627

Sentence Count

139

Misogynist Sentences

14

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary

In this episode, we talk about who is the boss in the household and why it s so important for women to be able to have a say in the decisions that are made in a household. We also talk about the difference between women and men when it comes to being the head of the household.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Would you tell me, please, who is the boss of your house?
00:00:04.600 I'm the boss.
00:00:05.380 What do you think? You're his wife, are you?
00:00:08.040 What did you say?
00:00:09.020 I said, who is the boss?
00:00:10.040 My husband.
00:00:11.000 What is your nationality?
00:00:12.280 Greek.
00:00:12.680 I'm Greek.
00:00:13.400 Is it always that way in Greek households, the husband is the boss?
00:00:15.820 Yes.
00:00:16.320 Don't the women, the wives, have anything to say about it?
00:00:18.920 No.
00:00:21.920 So this is an older video.
00:00:24.680 How do you think social media has changed that dynamic?
00:00:30.000 Podcasts.
00:00:35.360 If you ask a girl and a guy the same question that they asked there,
00:00:42.240 the answer will be 100% different.
00:00:44.820 Because if you ask, who is the leave of the household?
00:00:46.800 The amount of times you were here,
00:00:48.580 either the woman say me or say he thinks he is,
00:00:53.460 but it's not actually.
00:00:54.920 Oh, right.
00:00:56.760 Or something along those lines.
00:00:58.680 You know what I'm saying?
00:00:59.300 Guys will get on TV and be like, oh, happy wife, happy life.
00:01:02.680 That's the one.
00:01:03.440 That's what they say.
00:01:04.200 That's the one.
00:01:05.520 Anything along those lines.
00:01:07.660 And it's like, but like, you should have some sort of leader.
00:01:11.880 Back then, that's how it was.
00:01:13.500 That's how it was, man.
00:01:14.820 The man just...
00:01:15.700 A simpler time.
00:01:16.620 You say it was easier.
00:01:17.400 You say back then.
00:01:18.520 No, no, no.
00:01:19.120 This way that we're living now is the new norm for like the entirety of mankind.
00:01:25.180 You understand that, right?
00:01:26.320 It's not back then.
00:01:27.320 It was for the entirety of man's existence up until about 30 years ago.
00:01:32.780 Guys, this is how we were living.
00:01:34.340 But I don't think there's like, you know, let's say for instance, there's a decision to make
00:01:38.300 in the household.
00:01:39.840 You know, you've got the final say as the man.
00:01:41.900 Are you...
00:01:43.140 I think the lines get crossed in terms of like having any kind of conversation with the pros
00:01:48.920 and cons of a situation with your woman.
00:01:50.520 I don't feel like women just get like your opinion and your mindset and everything you
00:01:54.720 bring to it.
00:01:55.280 It should just be wiped out.
00:01:56.300 I think a conversation can happen.
00:01:58.460 Yeah.
00:01:58.920 I do believe that, you know, you've got to trust someone to lead.
00:02:02.080 You know what I mean?
00:02:02.640 If he needs a...
00:02:03.660 If he's going to ask a question or run something, you know, yeah, and you're going back and forth,
00:02:07.480 then cool.
00:02:08.140 But, you know, I think sometimes women will hear this, men need to lead and just think,
00:02:12.280 okay, all my education is out of the window.
00:02:15.000 And they put so much into their education that they can't even fathom the thought of,
00:02:18.640 right, this isn't even valuable in this relationship.
00:02:21.480 Yeah.
00:02:22.000 Marriages would last longer back then.
00:02:24.120 Like my grandparents, my grandma had no say.
00:02:28.180 Less options, though.
00:02:28.820 You know what I mean?
00:02:29.580 Less options.
00:02:30.780 Maybe that's...
00:02:31.240 No, but I mean marriages last longer, so it worked.
00:02:33.340 It worked in their time.
00:02:34.500 Maybe that's what it is, though, what you said about education.
00:02:37.320 You said...
00:02:38.460 You've said it before about women who have been to university and more likely to leave.
00:02:43.140 More likely.
00:02:43.500 Maybe it's not...
00:02:44.400 You're 90% likely to leave in a divorce.
00:02:47.160 Maybe it's not a direct correlation between education, but rather something to do with like pride.
00:02:52.280 Because if you've done that education, that's a commitment and a sacrifice to do something for yourself.
00:02:58.120 And then when you get into a relationship, maybe it's like, oh, you don't want to let the man be the leader
00:03:03.840 because you feel like you've done something, worked hard at something.
00:03:08.640 I don't think it's to do with the fact that you've got an education...
00:03:11.080 Because I've been to uni and stuff like that, and I don't feel...
00:03:14.180 I haven't got pride because of that.
00:03:15.600 I think it's more to do with if you've got knowledge and wisdom to talk about, then you should be able to talk about it.
00:03:22.120 But he would know that, surely.
00:03:23.360 And he would...
00:03:23.760 So, like, for example, I have a law degree.
00:03:25.160 So if my partner ever had any kind of legal question, he was dealing with something with his insurance,
00:03:30.080 like, he will ask me questions.
00:03:32.000 So I feel like it's more of a case where if they need you, they will ask.
00:03:35.820 But what I'm saying is I feel like a lot of women perhaps want to know more
00:03:40.320 because they have this knowledge, wisdom, whatever.
00:03:43.160 So they want to be able to exercise that.
00:03:46.420 And what I'm saying is I don't really think that's necessary.
00:03:48.660 And perhaps going to uni and getting it...
00:03:52.660 I mean, I hate to say it, but it is a fact that marriages lasted longer when women weren't doing that.
00:03:59.260 So I'm just questioning why that is, because it is factual that...
00:04:02.420 I hear it.
00:04:02.900 It's actually inverse, like, college and kids.
00:04:05.880 So it's like the more education a woman has, the less kids she has.
00:04:09.640 Yeah, so, like, what is that?
00:04:11.600 No, because it seems like when women get money, they don't want men.
00:04:15.380 Like, they don't want a man unless it's, like, the man she wants.
00:04:18.560 Yeah.
00:04:19.480 The thing about it, when guys become millionaires, they go for most, if not any girl.
00:04:23.920 When a girl becomes a millionaire, she's looking for someone who's making more millions than she is.
00:04:29.260 Right, or if she's smart in a certain aspect, then she's looking for someone who is better than her in whatever aspect it is.
00:04:36.160 That's true.
00:04:36.900 Eve, Eve, Eve done the same thing.
00:04:39.120 She went with a billionaire.
00:04:40.380 J-Lo, I think, done the same thing.
00:04:42.160 Before, went with a billionaire.
00:04:43.580 They lot are millionaires.
00:04:45.160 But Ja Rule's with his...
00:04:46.460 Was it, is it Ja Rule?
00:04:47.660 Or one of them is with the same girlfriend that they were with before?
00:04:50.320 Was it T.I.?
00:04:51.300 T.I., Snoop Dogg.
00:04:53.340 They're all with the same original girl.
00:04:54.960 They're with the same original girl.
00:04:56.360 But all these other millionaires with the women got the money and upgraded, quote-unquote, because you can't settle, quote-unquote, because settling has to do with your bank accounts and not your mental aspects nowadays.
00:05:08.360 Whereas to men, like, something, I feel like, something like your education, if you continue, you know, it doesn't matter.
00:05:15.240 Doesn't matter.
00:05:15.560 Do I get along with you?
00:05:16.360 In the same way as your salary doesn't really matter either.
00:05:18.460 Do you know what's mad important and valuable that I kind of look in relationships to help out?
00:05:24.140 You know, if you've been with a woman who's, like, a nurse, nutritionist, like, you know, that kind of nurture stuff that guys do not put any energy into whatsoever, right?
00:05:35.760 Those kind of things are really a way where guys will want to lean on their girl and be in those circumstances, you know what I mean?
00:05:43.020 When the car breaks down, other than, with someone, oh, no, I was watching something else where someone said they could fix BMWs.
00:05:50.240 I think that was another problem.
00:05:51.800 But, like, other than that, it was like, you know, there's certain things that the guy might not necessarily need your input at that time.
00:05:58.800 And you might have so much to give him.
00:06:00.460 And you might be thinking, rah, why don't you value my opinion?
00:06:03.040 Or why would you go on a podcast and act like you don't care about my opinion?
00:06:06.740 But, you know, you need to kind of focus on things that are going to get you what you want.
00:06:10.720 And I think sometimes our parents push realities onto us.
00:06:14.040 But maybe just leave that at work.
00:06:15.600 You've got to learn when you come home, put on a different hat.
00:06:18.820 Unwind, yeah.
00:06:19.480 You know what I mean?
00:06:21.160 I think we're going to close out the show, guys.
00:06:24.220 Cool.
00:06:25.080 So we're going to do final thoughts.
00:06:26.660 So any, like, final thoughts, Instagram you want to shout out, you can do that now.
00:06:31.060 Starting here and then go around.
00:06:32.900 Hello, it's Ashton again.
00:06:34.660 So the Instagram is it's AshtonMaria.
00:06:38.200 And just final thoughts.
00:06:39.340 You know how you were talking about guys and the car breaking down and a woman really wouldn't know what to do?
00:06:45.920 I was in a situation quite recently where there was, my friend was driving us and there was three, four, yeah, four of us in the car, girls.
00:06:53.040 And it was the girls that sorted the car situation because my friend was like, oh, you need to jumpstart the car.
00:06:58.420 My other friend was like, oh, let me call like the AA or just an insurance company.
00:07:02.300 Whereas he was very calm, handled the situation fine.
00:07:06.160 But it wasn't him who got the final output.
00:07:09.600 Okay.
00:07:10.020 If that makes sense.
00:07:10.760 Did he, did he, did the girls know what to do?
00:07:13.300 Yeah, more than him.
00:07:14.520 Interesting.
00:07:15.060 Okay, cool.
00:07:15.720 That's, yeah.
00:07:16.540 What's your, like, what's your take on that?
00:07:18.780 I just think girls can do anything really, to be honest.
00:07:21.860 I'm all about girl power.
00:07:22.820 Women are super, women are super powers.
00:07:25.120 Like, you lot are achieving, you lot.
00:07:27.000 To me, a woman can achieve, not to put men down, but like a woman, to me, I don't think
00:07:33.260 a woman needs a man.
00:07:34.560 To me, I think a woman is so empowering and can do anything they put their mind to and
00:07:38.360 they can work six days a week, seven days a week, raise a family, run a mortgage, like
00:07:44.660 they can be everything.
00:07:46.320 And I think.
00:07:46.960 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:07:53.040 on this platform.
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