JustPearlyThings - October 30, 2023


Pearl Thinks The Daily Wire Is Delusional


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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

160.34451

Word count

1,719

Sentence count

132

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

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Hate speech

5

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I woke up this week and chose violence. That's not a coincidence. I went from watching The Daily Wire all the time in high school to now arguing with them on social media about why men don't want to get married and the risks associated with it.

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00:00:00.080 that I woke up this week and chose violence.
00:00:04.080 Now, really, I think that violence chose me.
00:00:07.920 Okay, I think, you know, and based on the way you guys talk,
00:00:12.240 emotional abuse chose me.
00:00:14.300 Because according to conservative Twitter,
00:00:18.280 yelling is emotional abuse, and everybody on Twitter yells at me.
00:00:22.020 So I am in an unsafe work environment.
00:00:25.440 I am just, oh, oh, my emotional abuse every day I get on Twitter and I just cry.
00:00:31.180 I cry every night because of, you know, all my insecurities and just crying.
00:00:39.820 Now, so this week, I didn't even think this would happen.
00:00:44.480 I was like, this is amazing.
00:00:45.680 I went from watching The Daily Wire in high school.
00:00:48.840 I used to watch them all the time, okay, to now arguing with them on Twitter.
00:00:54.860 I don't even want to say arguing, debating.
00:00:58.040 This is amazing.
00:00:59.160 So I got responses from Jeremy Boeing, Ben Shapiro, Matt Walsh was the big one,
00:01:06.280 and Jordan Peterson.
00:01:08.780 Now, guys, I'd like to say I am attacking ideas, not people.
00:01:12.980 So I am a fan of The Daily Wire.
00:01:15.380 I think they're awesome.
00:01:16.800 But I do think they're very wrong and naive when it comes to marriage.
00:01:20.760 I actually felt like The Daily Wire lied to me in a way as like a consistent viewer for 10 years.
00:01:28.980 You know, they would really preach marriage and family as the solution.
00:01:33.240 But they never talked about why men don't want to get married and the risks associated with it.
00:01:39.160 And it's kind of like a weird, you know, trajectory when you realize that we're in a post-marriage society.
00:01:47.100 And I don't say this because I'm happy about it.
00:01:49.760 This happened before I was even born.
00:01:52.480 But you start to realize that these guys aren't telling you the whole picture.
00:01:57.160 And it's like, honestly, as a viewer, I was disappointed when I figured this stuff out.
00:02:04.520 So, and this got me thinking, why are they so gung-ho about marriage?
00:02:10.860 They have to know what divorce court is like. 1.00
00:02:15.060 There's no way they don't know.
00:02:16.340 And what I realized is that I started Googling the ages of the men that I thought the most about that push marriage and family.
00:02:28.100 So, this was Matt Walsh, Ben Shapiro.
00:02:32.080 I think I had, there's one or two others that I had in there.
00:02:37.180 We're going to pull up the tweets in a second.
00:02:38.940 But, and I noticed they're all under the age of 45.
00:02:42.720 And then I Googled the average age of first divorce.
00:02:46.860 Which, and I've seen some, some people are saying it's younger, whatever.
00:02:51.940 But the average age of first divorce that I found was 44 for women and 46 for men.
00:02:59.060 But, you know, if we follow the trajectory of the average woman gets married at about 30 nowadays, maybe it's late 30s.
00:03:05.580 Okay.
00:03:05.760 And usually the man's a couple years older, so early 40s.
00:03:09.380 And my point about this actually was that, oh, I get it.
00:03:14.980 But, they don't know.
00:03:18.280 They have not, them and their friends, they're too young to have gone through the ringer of divorce court to know what they're pushing men to sign up for.
00:03:27.340 Now, I'd like to say I do think marriage is a beautiful thing.
00:03:30.920 I think marriage is amazing.
00:03:32.140 But, I see no indication that marriage is a good deal for men in 2023.
00:03:39.460 Let, let me, like, let, let's just, like, let's do a thought exercise.
00:03:42.960 Okay.
00:03:43.180 The 60 to 80-year-olds of today got fucked in divorce court.
00:03:49.740 It wasn't uncommon.
00:03:51.620 The 40 to 60-year-olds of today also got fucked. 0.64
00:03:55.320 I'm sorry, guys.
00:03:56.080 I'm a swearer.
00:03:56.760 I don't know what to tell you.
00:03:57.980 The 40 to 60-year-olds of today also got screwed in divorce court.
00:04:02.260 So, now, I see them all reacting to these people on whatever, all these women on the streets.
00:04:08.040 They know that the quality of women is worse than ever before. 1.00
00:04:11.620 And yet, they push them into, and yet, they push men into a feminist system that really is a death sentence to men. 1.00
00:04:21.340 And, you know, you know, and they don't know.
00:04:25.440 They're not on the other side of this.
00:04:27.080 But, you know, I do interview after interview of men.
00:04:31.080 There is something about a guy that doesn't have access to his children and wants nothing more to be in his kid's life.
00:04:37.640 This isn't uncommon.
00:04:39.300 This isn't a fringe case.
00:04:41.120 This happens to men all over America every single day.
00:04:44.860 To the point that I started asking my Uber drivers why they ended up doing Uber.
00:04:53.440 And I found Uber driver after Uber driver after Uber driver who did not have access to his children.
00:05:02.020 This is common.
00:05:03.460 But it is much more common and devastating to the average man.
00:05:09.080 Rich men live in a different reality.
00:05:11.360 Rich men typically can recover after a divorce.
00:05:15.460 It's devastating.
00:05:16.800 Their wife takes a bunch of their shit. 1.00
00:05:18.940 But rich men got rich for a reason.
00:05:21.100 And a lot of the times, they can figure it out.
00:05:24.180 But the men that I find that commit suicide the most are average men that worked the same job for 20 years.
00:05:32.780 Maybe a factory worker.
00:05:34.820 Maybe a plumber.
00:05:35.780 Maybe an average man who spent 20 years making the right decision or 10 years, whatever it was, accumulating wealth just for their wife to take their pension.
00:05:50.140 And what happens is the wife spreads lies of them being an abuser. 1.00
00:05:54.420 Now, I'm going to give you guys an example.
00:05:56.200 I covered the Steven Crowder case.
00:05:58.000 The Daily Wire, Candace Owens, covered that case and pushed an edited clip that insinuated that Crowder was an abuser. 0.59
00:06:08.980 You know, and that was a private clip from his home.
00:06:12.720 Now, the reason I'm pointing this out isn't to shit on Candace, is not to hate on the Daily Wire, but to point out that this happens to men all over America.
00:06:20.980 This is not uncommon.
00:06:22.720 And while you saw in the Crowder divorce that a clip was pulled and, you know, everybody said he was an abuser, even though there was no court case, there was no criminal court case that definitively said he was an abuser, we saw trial by association.
00:06:39.180 We're now seeing it with the Russell Brand case.
00:06:41.000 And what I realized is there's no way for men to interact with women without there being a consequence. 1.00
00:06:48.100 And I still have yet to see any retractions from them.
00:06:51.140 I'm waiting because, I mean, wrong is wrong.
00:06:55.500 What will happen to these guys is a lot of times they're kicked out of their own home with one phone call.
00:07:00.000 So you can do one call, get you kicked out of your own home.
00:07:02.620 He's then thrown with an abuser rape charge.
00:07:06.660 She disparages his name all over town.
00:07:09.400 I've even talked to men that the woman convinced his family that he was a rapist.
00:07:15.840 Zero evidence, zero proof she did not go to criminal court.
00:07:19.620 And in family court, it's based on a balance of probability.
00:07:22.720 So that means she has to cry to one judge.
00:07:25.580 And one judge gets to determine if it was more likely that he did it than didn't do it.
00:07:30.900 And it is not based off of evidence.
00:07:32.960 I have seen cases where a woman tried to get a man to abuse her so she could take it to court. 0.99
00:07:40.960 And there was text evidence of her texting her friend, attempting to get this guy to abuse her so she could take his money and the kids.
00:07:52.940 And do you know who got primary custody?
00:07:56.000 The woman.
00:07:56.900 Because what will happen is they'll say it's for the best interest of the child.
00:08:00.780 The woman has spent the most time with the kid in the last year. 1.00
00:08:03.620 But why is that?
00:08:06.480 Usually because in the divorce process, or it could just be child support and alimony, or child custody case.
00:08:14.440 The woman will not let the father see the child. 1.00
00:08:19.180 So we're actually in a country where men do not have access to their own children.
00:08:24.480 A man cannot have a child in America and it be his. 1.00
00:08:29.060 Because he will always be at the mercy of the mother or pray to God that he gets a judge that sees his side.
00:08:35.720 That's the reality we're living in.
00:08:37.760 And when you push young men that have no idea that this system is so unfair into marriage,
00:08:43.880 I think it's really irresponsible.
00:08:46.320 Because they have no idea what they're up against.
00:08:49.060 None.
00:08:50.680 And this isn't an attack on marriage.
00:08:53.460 And this is not me saying that men should never get married.
00:08:56.180 But what I am saying is that you should approach marriage with extreme caution.
00:09:02.760 And regardless of what I say, this is what men are doing.
00:09:07.180 60% of men aren't looking for marriage or relationships.
00:09:11.760 I didn't tell them to do that.
00:09:15.760 On top of that, it takes on average a man to date a woman three years in order to get a ring.
00:09:22.320 Men are trying to mitigate the risk and they want marriage and family.
00:09:27.400 But until the divorce laws are changed, I see very little indication that there will ever come back.
00:09:34.540 So virtue signaling and saying, wow, marriage and family is the answer,
00:09:39.380 without changing the divorce laws, is just sending another round of men to get abused 0.99
00:09:45.160 and oftentimes commit suicide due to a system that discriminates against them.
00:09:52.160 Men only get primary custody of their kids 10% of the time.
00:09:56.400 Men are the majority of child support and alimony payments.
00:10:00.540 Men are tired of paying for women to abuse them in court. 0.62
00:10:06.020 And the truth of the matter is, a man actually would be better off a happy single bachelor in his 50s
00:10:14.920 rather than some of the outcomes that I have seen in this divorce documentary.
00:10:19.200 Now, this isn't me saying that a man can never have a happy outcome.
00:10:24.360 This is not me saying that there are no ways to mitigate risk.
00:10:27.920 But this is me actually pleading to the Daily Wire and conservatives
00:10:32.020 that we need to change these systems if you ever want to see families come back.
00:10:37.700 And until you start lowering the risk, you will not see marriage and family continue.