Pearl Tried Applying Logic On This Blue Pilled Man
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the difference between a woman with and without kids, and a man with a child and a woman without kids. We discuss the pros and cons of each option, and the benefits and disadvantages to each option.
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I would say if my brother has a child and he has the choice to date, not everyone has that choice, but if he has a choice, girl with no kid or girl with a kid, I would say no kid.
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You just said before that you think that a guy with a child and a woman with a child should date each other.
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I think that they should date each other in general.
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I think we both, on both ends, we should strive to date people with not kids.
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However, I do think that if a man can swing a girl with no kids, I would tell him to go pick the girl with no kids.
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Because my dad met my mom with my two brothers, and he already had my sister before.
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It's one of the best relationships I've ever seen.
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But they both had children before they met each other.
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Isn't it sometimes that, you know, in the day and age that we live in, sometimes connection is more important.
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Because to find someone that you actually truly connect with and you have any type of anything with, you've got to take that.
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Regardless of their past, regardless of whatever, you take that opportunity and you go with that.
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I don't think connection overrides what's easier and better for a family.
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Again, I'm not saying you can't date someone with kids.
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Because I'm saying, like, why would you pick someone with a kid when you could pick someone without a kid?
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But at the same time, it depends on the situation.
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Like, for, you know, if you're a, I'm not going to speak for a man, I'm a man.
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So, you know, me as a man that I have kids, you know, I would feel more, not like more comfortable, but if a woman has kids, it will make my life a lot easier knowing that she understands the experience.
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Whereas a woman that hasn't had kids would be like, why do I need to put up with that?
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And a lot of women will show that emotion.
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What if she liked your kids and she was married?
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I'm just saying there's a potential chance that a woman that has no kids would be like, well, you know, I'm not.
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I'm just saying, if you got two girls exactly the same, one with child, one without a child.
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I don't agree to you having your own child, though, as well.
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Like, also, wouldn't you be more empathetic if we're classing it as a mistake?
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I don't really think we should be calling it a mistake, but anyway.
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But if we are, you should be more empathetic towards the other person.
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You shouldn't judge someone else for making the mistake.
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Again, I do judge the women a little more, because again, to make that mistake, they had
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The men didn't have all these choices, and usually the woman leaves.
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So I do judge the women a bit more than the men, because if they both make the first bad
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choice, right, the men doesn't really get a say after that.
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And especially if she leaves, then, like, what is he supposed to do?
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Okay, so say one of your little sisters said, oh, I met a guy, and he's got a kid or two
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What if, you know, he treats her the best, and like, you know, at the end of the day,
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It's like looking at someone's criminal record, or someone's past, or someone's, you know,
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you've got to look at the current position, or how they are, and how they treat that person.
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I really do think you should look at, like, if he had a criminal record, I would also say
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But I do think you should look at his past, too.
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I think that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
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So if you did something for five years, you're probably going to do it in the future.
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But she's going to obviously have to get involved with the children.
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I feel like people, like you said, people change, people grow.
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People reform, people, you know, people change their lives, you know.
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We're not the same people we were last week, yesterday, probably a minute ago.
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So we've got to look forward, what's in the future.
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And I said to my dad, I said, Dad, you know, do people change?
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And my dad looks at me, and he goes, yeah, they do change.
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So whatever trait you see now, just expect it to get worse in 10 years.
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That's not true if you commit a crime when you're a teenager.
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So, you know, we can talk about these exceptions, right?
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You know, but, like, over time, I think people kind of have a core of who they are.
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Are you saying, like, once a cheater, always a cheater kind of thing?
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I think that if you date someone that's cheated in the past, he's more likely to cheat than someone who has not cheated in the past.
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So I do think that, yeah, you should look at people's past.
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But I feel like it doesn't necessarily define somebody 100%, though.
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Because a lot of these traumas, a lot of these situations that people have gone through, they've learned to grow from that to become the people they are today.
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Crime completely depends on your circumstances and your class and what you're born into.
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Like, you could be a good person, but you've been born in disguise.
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I think that people will say, you know, Pearl, you didn't grow up in that situation, so maybe you shouldn't have an opinion.
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But I do have an opinion, so I'm going to say it.
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But I think that, you know, my dad grew up pretty poor and he wouldn't do that because he's not the type of guy.
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I just think you're either that type of person that will do that or you aren't.
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Like, your dad might have had a protective factor.
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I don't know what it might be, but he might have that other people didn't have.
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We've come up with a lot of extreme situations today.
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We've come up with a lot of, like, every extreme we've come up with.
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I mean, it depends on what warp of life, you know, you've been around.
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Trinidad is not the best place when it comes to crime.
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Now, I could have made a choice to be in it or stay out of it.
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And not because I was in it means I was going to become that person.
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So, I just believe that at the end of the day, it all boils down the choice.
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There's also factors like ADHD, which is a risk factor.
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Like, if that means you're more of a risk taker, that means it's hard for you to focus.
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That means it's hard for you to see the future and be disciplined for it.
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When you're on your own divergent, your brain actually works in a different way.
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Everybody in themselves want to be better, right?
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The only reason you're staying in it is because, one, delusional, two, or whatever it is.
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But because you want to be better, now you have that choice.
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That's just, it's up to what you personally want.
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