JustPearlyThings - July 11, 2023


Pearl Tries To Drill This Fact Into Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

232.62677

Word Count

2,023

Sentence Count

245

Hate Speech Sentences

12


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 in that way, yeah, yeah.
00:00:01.320 Life isn't fair, like women,
00:00:02.760 we get privileged all the time,
00:00:03.880 even just getting on the show, right?
00:00:06.740 The women just, you guys just have to be pretty.
00:00:09.720 And yeah, where the men, where it's funny,
00:00:12.100 where the men have to have a following
00:00:14.100 or they have to have like done something, typically.
00:00:15.940 Yeah, I agree, but that's not like,
00:00:18.660 the topic we're talking about, we're talking about like.
00:00:21.120 No, no, but it's the same, but guys,
00:00:23.440 it's the same dynamic, that's what I'm pointing out.
00:00:26.080 Because even, like this podcast,
00:00:27.380 it's the same thing with dating.
00:00:28.620 Like, men have to have a certain amount of requirement.
00:00:31.680 Women only swipe right on dating apps 5% of the time.
00:00:35.160 Men swipe right 50.
00:00:37.240 So 50% of women are getting in the door,
00:00:39.300 where only five, maybe 15% of men are getting in the door.
00:00:42.140 But majority of the swipes is them wanting a fuck.
00:00:46.700 She's basically saying, ask women.
00:00:47.800 But the point is, what does relationships start with?
00:00:51.480 Sex.
00:00:52.920 Nowadays.
00:00:53.420 Not necessarily.
00:00:54.260 Not always, but nowadays.
00:00:55.260 But generally.
00:00:56.100 I personally wouldn't, like I have.
00:00:58.620 But, not now.
00:00:59.620 But then you go to the same problem as earlier,
00:01:03.000 where the guy that you actually, that you want to be with,
00:01:06.580 now you're making him wait, where the last whatever many,
00:01:09.240 got to hit it for free.
00:01:10.240 Yeah.
00:01:11.240 It's like offensive to guys.
00:01:12.460 It's the same thing with dates, right?
00:01:14.680 Yeah.
00:01:15.180 Like when I gave you guys the date example,
00:01:16.820 where maybe he took you to Taco Bell,
00:01:18.580 and he took her on this five-star restaurant.
00:01:20.160 That's offensive, right?
00:01:21.160 Yeah.
00:01:21.400 That's how guys see it.
00:01:22.280 It's just a mad world that we live in now, I think.
00:01:26.620 And there's just so much like pressure.
00:01:28.120 Women generally don't think about the men.
00:01:30.500 That's the point here.
00:01:31.780 You guys think about yourselves.
00:01:32.780 I just think we're all in the same thing.
00:01:33.780 But I also think I'm mad.
00:01:34.780 I don't think about a woman.
00:01:35.780 I do.
00:01:36.780 Yeah, but that's part of my preference.
00:01:37.780 My girl thinks about me, she cares about me.
00:01:38.780 I think about my woman's perspective.
00:01:39.780 She loves me, I love her, do you understand?
00:01:40.780 But that's probably a reflect of how you treat her though.
00:01:42.780 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:43.780 If you treated her like shit, she wouldn't do that.
00:01:44.780 She wouldn't do that.
00:01:45.780 Let's say I was a broke boy, weasel, peasant, yeah?
00:01:48.780 I wouldn't have this kind of love that I have now, do you understand?
00:01:50.780 I've done stuff in order to put myself up there.
00:01:53.780 Yeah.
00:01:54.780 Cash-wise, respect-wise.
00:01:55.780 Right.
00:01:56.780 Charisma-wise, everything-wise, yeah?
00:01:57.780 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:58.780 That reflects on her love towards me, do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:00.780 It has a part to play in it, it's not everything.
00:02:02.780 I think it's a lot of the reason that the love's so strong, do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:07.780 Not because you have money.
00:02:08.780 Let's say I worked in...
00:02:09.780 No, it's not that.
00:02:10.780 It's not that.
00:02:11.780 I thought that's what you said.
00:02:12.780 There's always someone better.
00:02:13.780 It's not that I have money.
00:02:14.780 It's because I'm respected.
00:02:15.780 It's what money brings, you understand?
00:02:17.780 The freedom.
00:02:18.780 It brings respect, freedom, spontaneity.
00:02:20.780 It brings like, you can go here at this time, at 3pm, let's go to the park, let's go by the lake.
00:02:26.780 You know what I'm saying?
00:02:27.780 And every guy can't do that.
00:02:28.780 Or it's a specific time, like 9 to 5.
00:02:32.780 See me after 5, baby, as always.
00:02:34.780 Can't do anything special.
00:02:35.780 Can't go on holiday.
00:02:36.780 I take my girl on holidays.
00:02:38.780 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:39.780 It's spontaneity.
00:02:40.780 And every guy can't do that.
00:02:41.780 They work.
00:02:42.780 9 to 5, wake up, go home, wake up, go home.
00:02:45.780 But then an average woman would be able to come on holiday with you if she had a 9 to 5.
00:02:48.780 She wouldn't have a 9 to 5 because I'll take care of her.
00:02:50.780 But what if she wanted to have a 9 to 5?
00:02:52.780 Why would she want to have a 9 to 5?
00:02:53.780 Because some people want to be able to provide for themselves.
00:02:55.780 Not everybody.
00:02:56.780 Why is that?
00:02:57.780 I wouldn't want a man to spend all of a man's money.
00:02:59.780 The thing is, I completely understand that.
00:03:01.780 99% of women talk like that.
00:03:03.780 But I personally think it's the guy's job to teach her other words.
00:03:08.780 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:09.780 Yeah, but you can be taught.
00:03:10.780 But it doesn't mean that you're actually going to like, do you know what I mean?
00:03:13.780 Okay, but baby, listen.
00:03:14.780 Listen.
00:03:15.780 I'll take care of you.
00:03:16.780 This and that.
00:03:17.780 We'll get married.
00:03:18.780 I'm going to take care of you.
00:03:19.780 It sounds fantastic.
00:03:20.780 It sounds fantastic.
00:03:21.780 But that wouldn't make me happy.
00:03:22.780 I understand.
00:03:23.780 I understand.
00:03:24.780 That wouldn't make me happy.
00:03:25.780 You want your own money.
00:03:26.780 You don't want to ask your man.
00:03:27.780 You don't want to be dependent on him.
00:03:28.780 Of course not.
00:03:29.780 But the happiest relationships end up being where the woman is dependent on her man.
00:03:33.780 Do you understand?
00:03:34.780 And that's when they're the happiest.
00:03:35.780 Not when a girl's in another job working under some next guy telling her what to do.
00:03:40.780 That's not the way to go.
00:03:41.780 Because I can't personally have my girl listening to all this for my next fucking man.
00:03:46.780 What if she had her own business though?
00:03:48.780 What if she was a business woman?
00:03:49.780 Yeah.
00:03:50.780 And was the CEO of her own company.
00:03:51.780 Why would she need that?
00:03:52.780 Would that be a problem?
00:03:53.780 Okay, whatever.
00:03:54.780 It's my business now.
00:03:55.780 Yeah, but she wants to do it.
00:03:56.780 How is that your business?
00:03:57.780 Because that's my business.
00:03:58.780 Because she's worked hard towards that.
00:03:59.780 If she's my girl, give it to me then if she's worked hard towards it.
00:04:00.780 You have to look after the kids.
00:04:02.780 That's my business now.
00:04:03.780 Yeah, honestly.
00:04:04.780 I'm just telling you.
00:04:06.780 For a 26 year old, I've built this whole thing myself.
00:04:10.780 Congratulations, by the way.
00:04:11.780 Thank you.
00:04:12.780 Which is amazing.
00:04:13.780 Thank you.
00:04:14.780 But the thing is men don't care.
00:04:15.780 They don't care.
00:04:16.780 And if anything, for successful guys, it's harder.
00:04:20.780 Because I don't have as much free time as the next girl.
00:04:23.780 Yeah.
00:04:24.780 And what he's talking about, you know how much stress comes with a business?
00:04:27.780 That sounds so nice.
00:04:29.780 To have a guy take it.
00:04:30.780 You'd have to really trust him.
00:04:31.780 Yeah, of course.
00:04:32.780 That sounds so nice to have a guy take it over.
00:04:34.780 Because it's like having a business does not make you a better partner at all.
00:04:38.780 No.
00:04:39.780 Like if anything, it makes you worse.
00:04:41.780 Because you're stressed out.
00:04:42.780 Of course.
00:04:43.780 Who wants a lazy girl?
00:04:44.780 Of course.
00:04:45.780 I mean.
00:04:46.780 You know?
00:04:47.780 But men just don't care as much about that.
00:04:49.780 Like they don't want a girl that sits around.
00:04:51.780 But that's not like a...
00:04:52.780 Why don't you transfer that productivity to being like a housewife or a mother or a wife?
00:04:57.780 Who's more happy?
00:04:58.780 Who's happy?
00:04:59.780 Who's happy?
00:05:00.780 You can do that for a business.
00:05:01.780 You can do that for your family and your man.
00:05:02.780 But if you're running a business, you're doing it for yourself.
00:05:03.780 Because then the business gets the best of you.
00:05:05.780 But what if that's what you want?
00:05:06.780 That's selfish.
00:05:07.780 Because your family should get the best of you.
00:05:10.780 Yeah.
00:05:11.780 So now your business gets all your creativity.
00:05:14.780 Your business...
00:05:15.780 Or the business that you work...
00:05:17.780 Let's be honest.
00:05:18.780 Most women don't have...
00:05:20.780 Right.
00:05:21.780 But the goal is to be with a guy that makes more than you.
00:05:24.780 Right?
00:05:25.780 It's not my goal, to be honest.
00:05:26.780 I mean, let's just...
00:05:27.780 Okay.
00:05:28.780 If you had got...
00:05:29.780 Let's just call a spade a spade.
00:05:30.780 A guy B.
00:05:31.780 One guy makes 100K.
00:05:32.780 One guy makes 30K.
00:05:33.780 They're the same guy.
00:05:34.780 You're going to pick the 100K.
00:05:36.780 Yeah.
00:05:37.780 Everyone would.
00:05:38.780 I'm not shaming you for that.
00:05:39.780 If it was right now, then I probably wouldn't.
00:05:41.780 Because I would rather build with someone than have someone who's got it all.
00:05:44.780 Right.
00:05:45.780 But the expectation is that he gets to a point that he can pay for it.
00:05:48.780 Oh, of course.
00:05:49.780 Of course.
00:05:50.780 Right.
00:05:51.780 Because you want to have kids.
00:05:52.780 Right?
00:05:53.780 Yeah.
00:05:54.780 Yeah.
00:05:55.780 Five kids, what is that going to cost?
00:05:56.780 Oh, thousands.
00:05:57.780 Right.
00:05:58.780 So he's got to make a good amount of money.
00:05:59.780 Yeah, of course.
00:06:00.780 And the point is, no matter how good your business is, when you have kids, you have to put
00:06:02.780 it aside.
00:06:03.780 Or your kids are going to be influenced by someone else.
00:06:06.780 Well, that's, you know, when I said earlier, how about, I think, if you want to be a business
00:06:10.780 woman and you want to be a mother, you'd have to establish that business before you had
00:06:14.780 kids.
00:06:15.780 Because if you was a CEO, you could hand that down to someone else.
00:06:17.780 You could still be a part of the business, but you wouldn't be there full time because
00:06:21.780 your business is established.
00:06:23.780 You can work from home.
00:06:24.780 You can have other people doing things for you.
00:06:26.780 Why do you need it?
00:06:27.780 Why do you need the business?
00:06:28.780 Because that's, because I know that I can offer that.
00:06:32.780 I know that I've had businesses before.
00:06:34.780 What should a girl's dream be?
00:06:35.780 Let's be honest.
00:06:36.780 Yeah.
00:06:37.780 From a childhood.
00:06:38.780 What did you dream of having?
00:06:39.780 I dreamed of being on the West End.
00:06:40.780 Having a nice house.
00:06:41.780 Having a nice house.
00:06:42.780 Having kids.
00:06:43.780 Having a nice husband.
00:06:44.780 Yeah.
00:06:45.780 It wasn't for me.
00:06:46.780 It wasn't for me.
00:06:47.780 So what was your dream?
00:06:48.780 To have a business?
00:06:49.780 My dream was to be, to follow my grandparents' footsteps and be on the West End.
00:06:52.780 I never, ever once thought, oh, husband, husband, husband.
00:06:55.780 So your dream was just to be on the West End?
00:06:56.780 Yeah.
00:06:57.780 That was your dream?
00:06:58.780 That was my dream.
00:06:59.780 Are you on the West End?
00:07:00.780 No, my dream's changed now.
00:07:01.780 What is the West End?
00:07:02.780 Broadway.
00:07:03.780 Broadway.
00:07:04.780 Oh, I see.
00:07:05.780 Yeah.
00:07:06.780 Yeah, I grew up on a gym before that.
00:07:07.780 Cool.
00:07:08.780 So who do you think is up here?
00:07:09.780 A girl that is stressing about a business, running it, employees, this and that.
00:07:12.780 Yeah, but she might not be stressing about it though.
00:07:14.780 No, I'm just gonna, you can't, there's no way you're making money and you are not stressed
00:07:21.780 about it.
00:07:22.780 I promise to God, any girl that says otherwise is capping.
00:07:26.780 And the thing is, our hormones are different.
00:07:28.780 So we don't deal with stress the same way that men deal with stress.
00:07:31.780 And that's like, especially since I've gotten into management.
00:07:34.780 I understand why women are bad at it to be, women are horrible at management.
00:07:38.780 No, because seriously, like we are not meant to, like I talked to a doctor, I interviewed
00:07:43.780 him like, I don't know, a week or two ago.
00:07:45.780 And he was telling me like, we do not process stress the same way that men do.
00:07:49.780 Like we're not built for it.
00:07:50.780 Yeah.
00:07:51.780 And we're more agreeable.
00:07:52.780 So you have to go against how, like, because when you're managing someone, you have to
00:07:55.780 be on them to make sure they're doing their job.
00:07:57.780 And that causes us stress because women are more agreeable than men.
00:08:01.780 Yeah.
00:08:02.780 So a lot of times they sell you this.
00:08:03.780 Oh, like you can just run a business and not be stressed.
00:08:06.780 There's no way.
00:08:07.780 I think if it's successful, unless you're, unless it's unsuccessful, if you're not making
00:08:12.780 money, you very well, you, you, you might not be stressed, but sorry, go ahead.
00:08:16.780 I was just saying, I think when you have a business and you're stressed, it's not a
00:08:22.780 bad stress because you know that you're going to get.
00:08:24.780 Yes, it is.
00:08:25.780 You got kids to look after.
00:08:26.780 Yes, it is.
00:08:27.780 Yes, it is.
00:08:28.780 You got a family to provide for.
00:08:29.780 You got them to look after a business and stress over that.
00:08:31.780 Look after employees.
00:08:32.780 You have kids.
00:08:33.780 You have a husband.
00:08:34.780 You have a household to look after.
00:08:35.780 Fuck a business.
00:08:36.780 Fuck a business.
00:08:37.780 Fuck a business.
00:08:38.780 Fuck work.
00:08:39.780 Fuck this.
00:08:40.780 Fuck that.