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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the issue of who should have custody of the kids in a divorce and why it should be a 50/50 split. Who should have primary custody and who should be the primary caregiver for the kids?
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If you actually, in real life, what is driving them to leave?
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So, you know, I've done a lot of these interviews, because I interview guys that have, like, that are trying to get custody of their kids.
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Women can be very spiteful and use the kids as a pawn to hurt the dad.
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But are men only trying to get the custody so they don't have to pay child support?
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Because a lot of times there's men who fight to try to get custody because they don't want to pay high child support.
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Well, one, I don't think men should pay any child support.
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I would say the kids, and that's why dads should be awarded custody off the bat.
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Because every data statistic will tell you that single father homes fare better than single mother homes.
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Well, yeah, but when parents separate, it is the as close to equal time with both parents that is the, it provides the best outcomes.
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And so that is what you're aiming for, like as close to 50-50 as is humanly possible.
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You say that men are needed to build these homes, build everything, sewage, plumage.
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How are they going to do that if they have custody of the kid?
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Well, I think the person that can afford the kids should have that choice.
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So he can still, like, it's not like I'm saying he should never give the mother access, but I think he should have the primary decision.
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Well, I'd imagine men aren't as spiteful as women.
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They'd be much more willing to let the mother, like, watch the kids.
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The women are the ones that use the kids as a tool.
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But I will still say, if you think about it, men, especially alpha males, are not putting in 40 hours a week.
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Who is going to, if they have custody of the children, who's going to watch the children?
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So there's a man and a woman, and the woman leaves, right?
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I think he should get primary custody and decision-making because she decided to leave, and he earns more, meaning he can afford the kids.
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I'm not saying that he should not let the mother see the kids.
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It's, I think, when he cannot watch the kids, the mother should.
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And if he's working 80 hours a week, she's going to get plenty of time with the kids.
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So if he's working 80 hours a week, she's going to have the kids anyway.
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She's the one who is teaching them their morals, their values, their cooking for them, taking care of them, teaching them everything, loving them, doing all of that.
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If he's not going to be there anyway, then what, like, you're damaging the kids now.
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I mean, honestly, off the bat, I think it should be 50-50 if it's mutual, but I'm saying if the woman chooses to leave.
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What if a woman is abused and she chooses to leave because she's beaten up or she's just mental abuse, various things, various scenarios, can be millions of them.
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What if she chooses to leave because she cannot survive there and she would be dead if she didn't leave?
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It's interesting how we always go to, like, the worst-case scenario.
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And so we would have to have safeguards so that women could escape really unhealthy relationships.
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And so if there was that safeguard, but if, you know, unless you proved that you were abused, you knew that the father was going to get full custody,
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then what would happen is that false allegations would skyrocket.
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I just, you know, I really want to just take the whole child access issue out of the courts.
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You know, you're dealing with families who are struggling to split up amicably and do what's in the best interests of their children by minimizing conflict.
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And the way we respond to it is by throwing it into an adversarial court system.
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Everyone involved needs to get down to the, like, psychiatrist's office.
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Yeah, these kids, they need both their parents, they need all their aunties and uncles, they need their grandparents.
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So you don't think the family court system should exist at all?
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I agree with you on the subject that women play up too much on all these fake allegations of X, Y, Z.
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And I'm not going to mention because I can't remember the keywords.
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I think the people who falsely allege someone of a crime that they have not committed, they should be punished of an equal punishment that would have been in the court.
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But the family court system is definitely needed because let's say you're involved with a man, right?
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And you think he put a condom on and he didn't.
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When you have a family court system to enforce that he at least pays for, helps pay for his child, like women, we already have to take care of.
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You're telling me you didn't notice he didn't have a condom on.
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There are times when you don't notice a man might slip it off.
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But when you're in the moment, who's feeling like this the whole time?
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What's more common, a man pulling off the condom or a woman lying about being on birth control?
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I would definitely say a man pulling off a condom.
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I would, without a, no, a man even putting on a condom doesn't even put it on to begin with.
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You keep talking about like, where's the demographic we're talking about here?
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I'm talking about in general, about somebody who, you know, I travel to where I talk to
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Like, so I've talked to millions of people before.
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And when you actually sit and talk to people and you find out their stories and stuff,
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Well, my question is, why doesn't she require the men she sleeps with wears condoms?
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You can see if they put it, like, this is so stupid.
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No, you can, you can, you can see if a guy puts a condom on, but how many times do you
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turn on Murray and he's taking the condom off and now she's pregnant?
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Who's the daddy or trying to prove that he is the daddy?
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That is interesting though, because what is the response from the public and the audience
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in situations where you get into these kind of real life stories about a man who slipped
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the condom off, like people, that is not socially acceptable and people think that he is awful.
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Whereas there was a clip that went quite viral.
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I think it was on Oprah or something like that.
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And it was, you know, an audience full of women and they're having, like, they're asking
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questions and getting responses from different people.
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And a woman stands up and she says, look, we have some number of kids, two or three kids.
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Should I pretend that I'm taking my birth control, but stop.
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And the entire audience, like all of these women jumped up, hollering, saying like, do
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Do you guys know any woman that has lied that you think lied about being on birth control?
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Okay, well, I was going to ask the women, the women.
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Have you ever been like condom where the guy said he was wearing a condom and then he took
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This is random people that don't know each other, so it seems like one's more common
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No, I thought you talked to people, so now we're doing a random sample size.
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First of all, men don't even try to wear condoms here in the UK.
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I think that women just do that to play victim.
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I'm going to tell you how you're not going to notice, right?
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Let's say a man is hitting it from the front, right?
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And he takes it off because he's about to climax.
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I'm just going to know the feeling like, oh, okay.
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Where does it put me if I lied about not taking birth control?
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I was taking the birth control and I said I'm not.
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I understand that a lot of men don't wear condoms, right?
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But I'm kind of worried if you're saying that there are men that would wear the condom
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and take it off when they are about to ejaculate.
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It sounds like a crazy concept, but it is more common than what you think.
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You need to think about the kind of men that would do that.
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So you would be surprised how many women I have come across that have said this exact
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Like, men, if they're in it and it's feeling good, they will feel it.
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All sleeping with the same, which goes back to my point.