Pearl vs Onlyfanz ｜ WHY DO WOMEN LOVE BEING HOES？ ｜ THE PREGAME SHOW EP151
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2 hours and 42 minutes
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196.68965
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Summary
In this episode of The Pregame, we have our first guest on the show, Talisha Matherin! Talisha is a criminal defense attorney who represents some of the most famous London rappers. We talk about how she got her start in the business, how she became a lawyer, and what it's like being on the panel.
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What up, guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel, and welcome to the pregame!
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So, a couple announcements before we start the show.
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The first, guys, is that we have two Clips channels, Just Pearly Clips and Pearl Daily.
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Oh, we just launched the new Clips channel, right?
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Also, guys, make sure you subscribe to Christine's channel.
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We're going to be launching new talents with the network,
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so if you want to see some of your favorite panel guests and show regulars,
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The first tier lets you be a part of the chat tonight.
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And over, how many likes to open up the chat, King?
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Okay, 1,500 likes, and we will open up the chat to everybody.
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And, King, how many dollars over Super Chats are we reading?
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Okay, so if you guys have a question or a comment for the panel,
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I will read them, but it's very awkward for me if you say mean things, all right?
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Make sure you subscribe and follow my Instagram, JustPearlyThings1.
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Okay, guys, to start, we are going to do name, age, relationship, status,
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My name's Rukshana, I'm 29, and a fun fact is...
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I think I've just put on the spot, I don't know.
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I'm 26, I'm single, and a fun fact about me is that I'm a stripper turned cornstar.
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Like, space gamer nerd, that's about it, really.
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Hi, I'm Sakena, I'm 28, and I'm in a relationship, and I don't really know what a fun fact is about me.
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I'm 27, single, and I'm a musician, so I'm a singer-songwriter.
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And I got a brand new song called Big Brown Eyes, so if you want to listen to that, it's on Spotify.
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Hi, I am a prolific official, singer-songwriter, also businesswoman.
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Prolific official, singer-songwriter, businesswoman, and I am single, and I'm 42.
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I'm a legal consultant, so I specialize in criminal defense.
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I'm up against serious crimes, such as murder, manslaughter, et cetera, and I am also single.
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Have you ever defended someone that you know is guilty?
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I mean, I never know that they're guilty, so I take their instructions as it comes, and I represent them.
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Isn't there some law where you can be honest with your lawyer, and they can't tell anyone?
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They're honest with me, and they give me their instructions, and I would follow them and carry them out.
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I had a cousin who is a defense lawyer, and he said he preferred clients that were guilty.
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Yeah, because he said if he lost, he's like, well, they were guilty anyway, and if he won, I'm like, if he won, he's like, well, I did my job.
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I mean, no, I like a challenge, and I like to argue for what's right, so I especially stick up for, you know, people that are arrested and accused of things that they haven't done.
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I mean, I've got to say I'm a little taken aback by this podcast because I wasn't given the name or the topic in advance.
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I was told it was something completely different.
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So do you, like, reject people that you know are guilty?
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Or, like, once you find out if you know that they're guilty, do you kind of, like, reject them?
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I would advise them as the best possible way to take their case forward.
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Just because somebody is guilty does not mean that they should face a significant sentence.
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We would have to look at mitigation and reasons behind it, and that's the sort of things that the media doesn't cover.
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So I cover a lot of cases that you see in the media today, and then, like I say, a lot of the known rappers, but you only see what the media produces, whereas I go behind, get the detail, get the mitigation, get the instructions, and we deal with it from there.
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What's the biggest mistake that people make when it comes to, like, if they commit or if they're, like, accused of something, is it, like, talking too soon?
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So I would go to the police station and be there to take instructions, and I would advise, based on that, they would have to wait.
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I would advise to see what the evidence says before they disclose too much.
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Fun fact about me, I'm actually a YouTuber here at the Audacity Network, so I work here with Pearl and all the guys.
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And fun fact about me, council culture, co-host, best council culture podcast in Birmingham going right now.
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Is Birmingham, I just found out today, someone told me Birmingham is like the Vegas of the UK.
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I didn't say it was like, well, why are you laughing?
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I wouldn't say it's anywhere near Vegas, but it has its high and low.
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It doesn't take you 20 years to get around five minutes of road.
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Yeah, and you guys did some street interviews today for the network.
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So, guys, make sure you subscribe to the Audacity Network to see their street interviews.
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Yeah, I'm the other half of the cancel culture podcast, Lee, 30 years old and single.
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Fun fact, we've done some content today for Pearl, so check that out, subscribe, and do
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Okay, so today's topic is why do women love being whores?
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And this is just something I've noticed after a year of doing shows, okay?
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I wanted it to be a whiteboard, but we didn't have as much space today.
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All right, so I made a PowerPoint called What Men Want.
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And to me, I didn't really think this was super complicated.
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Like, you can do preview, like, play the slideshow.
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But I've had so much pushback when I say men don't like fat chicks.
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Everybody's like, ah, Pearl, you're such a mean person and so evil.
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And I thought to myself, I mean, I thought this was basic.
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I think a lot of OnlyFans girls thrive off being BBW.
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Do you think, do you think, do you think, by and large,
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the richest, most successful men with the most options in choice tend to pick?
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Skinnier girls do more, like, do well, but I would say.
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I think there's a difference between, like, porn OnlyFans and, like,
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So I don't think it's, like, a fair comparison.
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In general, they're like, I don't want a fat chick.
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I know some guys, yeah, that only go for curvy, bigger women.
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Like, I know, especially one guy I know, all of his actors have all been, like, size 20 or over.
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Well, no, I think, okay, I'll give you an example.
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I think we can see what men truly want when we look at the men with the most choice.
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So if an ugly chick, right, and we can do this with women, too.
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If we look at the women with the most choice, the most beautiful women, they tend to pick rich, tall, successful, handsome men, right?
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So I think when we look at men and we look at the men with the most choice, we can say, what do those guys tend to pick?
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You know, and I would argue the women that look more like supermodels than Lizzo.
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Wait, I want to, we'll get to slide two, but I want to have this conversation first, King.
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It depends, because culturally, different cultures.
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I would say, I think this is a very, like, diverse studio here.
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Like, we have people from, that were born in the Middle East, to Africa, to England, to Eastern Europe, all in the studio.
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And I'd say if I pulled them and where they're from, typically they like not fat.
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Now, some guys might like skinny with a butt, but we have the small weight.
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Because, I mean, the other day I was watching a documentary, and there's a village.
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I can't remember where it is, but literally, the bigger they are, the bigger these women are, they're seen as the most beautiful.
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So, we can all think of an exception of a really hot chick that married or dated a fat, broke loser.
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We can all think of an exception, but that doesn't make the rule.
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So, why, as women, are we always bringing up this, I've heard this, he put his hand on his head,
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because I've heard so much about this tribe that I want to, oh, every time I have this topic, it's like the tribe.
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That I want, I'm determined I'm going to go to this tribe.
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I'm like, I'm starting, I'm like, what the hell?
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So, but I would say in general, no, no, men don't want fat chicks.
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Do you think it's, like, genetics, like, people just, like, people that are fit and attractive and can, you know?
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Yes, I think people tend to like healthy, yeah, healthy people.
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We like, yeah, exactly, they like skinny women.
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I mean, women have more fertility issues the fatter they are.
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I mean, these opinions that you have on men like fatter women and stuff, I mean, I'm indifferent.
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I mean, I'm indifferent, so I'm all for if you want to be big boned or if you want to be slim, whatever is best for you.
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You know, I don't judge anybody by what they are or how they are.
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Because I think in this modern day and age, a lot of women are curvy.
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And when you actually have a look at statistics and you have a look at what the UK say is actually obese, it's like a 10 to 12.
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I mean, in America as well, there are a lot of bigger women.
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And I've seen a lot of, you know, married, bigger women, you know, doing music and stuff.
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And it's like, it's the norm to be bigger there.
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So, so I'll tell you, I would say my number one source is real life.
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When I say to any, any room, I say men, men in this room right here, raise your hand if you would prefer a fat chick.
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Um, I would say when you have an unhealthy BMI, I would say that's the baseline as a BMI.
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I was going to say, there's a difference between what's being, there's a difference between being fat and being curvy though.
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No, no, no, but I feel like you're seeing it in a, like, how you're explaining it is if like you are fat.
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Like, obviously there's women who are slim, big bounded, I would call that curvy, you know what I mean?
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I think that maybe back in the day, there were, you know, men preferred slimmer women.
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But I also think that some of it was because maybe they would be embarrassed to say, you know, who they really like and sort of thing.
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But I think today, I see a lot of men saying that they prefer, you know, they like their preferences.
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I feel like it's just the fact that men just ain't as honest with women no more because women sometimes can't take that honestly.
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But when you see in the comments and they're discussing, you know, what they like, there's just as much men that say they like bigger women than as there are that say that they like smaller women.
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Most of them don't, most of them don't have a choice though.
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I mean, I don't know because I don't know, I don't know all of these men.
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I'm just saying that, you know, unless I've gone out into the world and interviewed them.
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But this is why, this is why, this is why I go back, this is why I go back to, what are the men with the most choice pick?
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But that's such a small percentage of men compared to the general.
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Do you guys think that men tend to like fat women?
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There is a section of them that prefer bigger, but I'd say the most, if you're going to say percentage, majority prefer smaller.
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I don't know, because I don't interact with that many men to be able to give a good enough point of view.
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I see the girls that do the most successful on Instagram that have the most followers are normally like really, really slim girls.
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They're way slimmer than me, like really skinny.
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And actually, actually, girls with bigger bums as well.
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Like you're talking about, you know, a bit bigger.
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They like women, you know, like not stick thing.
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The information, I guess, if you ask someone with a lot of choice.
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But it doesn't necessarily mean that they're ugly.
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Actually, actually, everyone on the soul, everyone in here has not said fat.
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No, no, I just, I like to, I just, here's my problem.
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So, I feel like whenever women don't like words, they, like, change them.
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So, instead of fat, we say plus size, bigger, chubby.
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I don't think it's just expecting people's feelings.
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But if I need to be honest with my fellow man, I'm going to tell him he's fat.
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Like you said it, I believe all women, you know, in bottom and I believe everyone should
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But your solicitor, your job is to be honest with people?
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I mean, the thing that I do is that I don't judge or sit here and have the right to say
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Does a doctor, can a doctor tell a patient that they're fat?
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A doctor will say that statistically they'll say that this class is obese.
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OK, so if a doctor has a right to tell the patient that, isn't it kind to help your friends
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If your friend is happy, can I just say something?
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If your friend is happy, the shape and the way they are, and that may be your fat, but
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But if your friend is happy in the way and the shape they are, then who are you to go
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If I'm being a real friend, I'm supposed to be a friend.
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But if she's happy in her own skin, who are you?
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But what if it's something different other than weight?
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You can describe something in many different words.
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But if your friend's taking drugs, say your friend is taking crack and they're happy doing
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crack, are you going to let them continue to take crack because they're happy doing it?
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I think everyone's got a different opinion on what that is.
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But we're talking about things that are unhealthy for you.
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Okay, so what you're saying is, okay, please, friend, don't take the crack.
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There are ways to describe it, you know, to soften the blow.
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You know, yeah, just because how you describe it, it's just not, it doesn't.
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Look, I think regardless of us all sitting here saying you're fat, you're not.
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I mean, that's obviously, 21 stone, is that fat?
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It's probably, okay, that's probably, I mean, I think that's like maybe three of you.
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I think you're going from fat to obese to sort of bedridden.
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I'm asking you because I just think you're trying to argue here.
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Okay, well, is it a fact that 21 stones is fat?
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But you just made the judgment that they're probably fat.
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I would not be judgmental enough to go and tell them, you are fat, you need to do this.
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But you're sitting here saying fat women do this.
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But why can't we verbalize things that are true?
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Isn't it helpful to women to know what men want?
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So if I had someone in front of me, if I had someone who's fat, right?
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And I could just make that decision and say, okay, I'm not going to approach her.
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Because I understand that, for example, by your words, that I don't want someone who's fat.
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I don't have to walk up to her and say, listen, I don't want to approach you because you're fat.
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All I said, all I said, I said, I had one statement.
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So say there's this girl, the one that you're not going to approach her.
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And there's a lot of other people not approaching her.
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Wouldn't it be easy if someone actually said to her and didn't beat around the bush?
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We had a nice young lady that came on her show.
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But it might crush someone's spirit to complete.
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It's like you're driving them like to a corner.
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And you're saying, listen, I told you the truth.
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So now you can either change or you can just stay the same.
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Which is, you know, I mean, and that's like why.
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I think especially like we need people to be honest.
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Like the thing is, I come from like a history of like my family has diabetes.
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So I kind of like try to be careful with my weight.
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So these are things that I constantly and actively like think about in terms of like that.
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But I feel like we were talking about the extreme.
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But nice people are not just going to walk over to a random person.
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I didn't even, I didn't call anyone in here fat.
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I actually get called fat all the time on TikTok.
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And I get called it on my comments on TikTok a lot.
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And I do think that's where the word fat almost becomes like.
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People don't want to say it because they know it gets thrown around in ways that it shouldn't be thrown around almost.
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Not even just to people that you'd say have an unhealthy BMI.
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But I think that's where it comes from, where people don't like to use that word.
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I think I just, I don't even, I'm not even a big.
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I really just think we should be able to say that men like not fat women.
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I mean, I feel like if we just said men like healthy women, we would have just moved on.
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And then we, and then that's when we start defining it.
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I don't think it's about how much money he's got.
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Because I've been with someone before that, you know, they might not necessarily be in
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They're exactly the same personality, everything.
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One makes 100K at a bank and one works at Tesco.
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Then if they're exactly the same, then I am going to go for the one that I'm
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that I can build with more and that is more ambitious.
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But that's not, you know, in life you're never going to meet two people exactly the same.
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No, my point is, my point is, it's like, I don't know why we just can't be honest.
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But you're saying, you're sitting there and you're saying, why can't people be honest?
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But you're arguing with me about the question and I'm not saying it's only money.
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No, you know, you know, you know, what's actually realistic, the fact that whenever we say something
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about a general thing, like we say generally, the first thing you ladies do is bring it
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No, but the reality is, you can only go by your own experience.
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The reality is, as adults, we can look at the world around us and make inferences.
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So, whenever we make a general statement, we're not saying this is the way it is for
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It is just, if you look out there, what do you see normally?
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Even in your entertainment industry, what do you see women select for?
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Who do they usually look for to make the connection?
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If you want to hear what I've got to say, then let me know.
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And women are starting to not, the more they are, basically, what am I trying to say?
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No, basically, women are starting to look for no connection, basically.
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I've connected with broke people and non-broke people.
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And I find people, I've been in love with a broke person before.
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I've been in love with someone that's not broke before, to be completely honest.
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And that was a complete turnoff and something I don't want to deal with.
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So, like, being broke is no ambition, and that's not attractive.
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And it depends on the woman which one she values.
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But to act like it's no factor, you're not going to be...
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You're not going to be, you're not going to be, you're not going to be...
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To be broke, you're not, to be broke, you're not ambitious.
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Ambition is a characteristic that equates to money.
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It's a characteristic that, if followed through, is likely going to make you rich.
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It depends on where that person is in their life.
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If they're ambitious, they're going to, as a result, create wealth.
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You might meet someone, for example, yeah, that person might have gone through, I don't
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know, maybe a loss, yeah, and they had everything, and then they've gone through this really bad
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time, and they're not focusing, they're not concentrating, and they're, you know, they're
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But then, you know, they've come out the other side, and they're back on their game.
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But the point is, you're not going to be with a broke guy forever.
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Okay, I want to do a PowerPoint with what women want, and I'll see if the men argue.
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This is a man that has researched the history of sex and produced multiple books on the topics,
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And it's roughly about only 15-ish percent of single moms will ever get a guy to remarry them.
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No, the grass is not greener on the other side most of the time, except for 15% of women.
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If you're Sierra, you might be turned out okay, but probably not.
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Now, 22% of single mothers will get a man to live with them again.
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Yes, so you might get a guy to live with you, but most single moms know there is no happy ending,
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Have you ever been to, like, a council of things?
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I have heard guys say, oh, she's got a baby, I don't want to.
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So, men in general don't want to raise other men's kids.
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But I have a friend who's going through something like that, so...
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And it complicated his relationships that came...
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Typically, if a man has children, it signals to women that other women have selected him.
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So, historically, the concubines weren't really too concerned with the king's wife.
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We can acknowledge the fact that human beings, we are animals, and we have progressed in such a way
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that we can observe general patterns about our species, and this is a general pattern.
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Generally, men, male animals, don't want to have a woman that's got other children.
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And it's the same way that men generally don't want a woman who's more promiscuous,
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because you can't guarantee whose child it is when it comes out.
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For example, they say white males with blue eyes tend to go for other females with blue eyes
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I feel like white males do always go for, like, girls who look similar to them.
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I think in general, people might do that anyway.
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So there's, like, a whole study about people, like, their eye colour and how that affects
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Some couples look like brother and sister, I won't lie.
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Like, sometimes I meet couples and I'm like, you look related.
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I prefer men with no kids, too, because I'm jealous.
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But I'm saying it's not the same across the board.
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It usually doesn't hinder a man's dating prospects like it does a woman.
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There are some women that will disqualify men for it, but I would argue not the same.
00:34:51.280
I think when she was saying that men generally don't want women with kids, you said it was
00:34:59.280
You see, we're in 2023, so a lot of things have developed.
00:35:01.820
I think it's very rare nowadays for you to find anybody over 20, whether male or female,
00:35:16.160
This one, this one again was from the evolution of sex, Dr. David Baker.
00:35:20.260
And I'm pretty sure the Office of National Statistics were the one that have just predicted that
00:35:24.640
by 2030, 50.1% of women in England won't have kids.
00:35:33.400
So that means more women won't have kids than do have kids.
00:35:40.000
I think it's more than ever that young people don't want kids.
00:35:43.180
I have so many friends that don't want kids now.
00:35:46.180
It's a lot, but I'm just still confused by why it's shallow that they wouldn't want that.
00:35:52.660
I mean, like I say, in the job that I do, I'm quite indifferent.
00:35:55.200
So I would never favour one and not favour the other.
00:35:57.540
But what I will say is that I have two children of my own and that I am a successful businesswoman
00:36:03.580
who is not looking for a man, but rather focusing and building my own thing.
00:36:08.680
And I think this conversation is about a man, what a man wants, whether a man wants your...
00:36:12.180
I mean, I think for me, and I think a lot of women out there, it's pretty irrelevant.
00:36:17.460
Well, if you don't care what men want, then why do you keep arguing with it?
00:36:23.640
I think a lot of things that what I'll say is...
00:36:25.420
What I don't like is when somebody's got tunnel vision.
00:36:28.120
And when you've got your opinion and you focus on that, but when you're neglecting to notice
00:36:32.880
It's not, but I think we need to talk about general truths in the world, right?
00:36:39.840
I do think that you're talking about a specific age group as well.
00:36:45.740
I'm talking about men of all ages, there's patterns and trends, and men don't tend to
00:36:51.600
Now, some single mothers are hard enough to get away with it.
00:36:56.580
I think men with kids though, men with kids would never say no.
00:37:00.280
Well, I actually know, like I have friends and stuff, that they would say that they want
00:37:05.320
to date, they'd rather date a woman that has had children.
00:37:09.500
So that they can understand, you know, whether they've got kids.
00:37:16.860
If they've got kids, if a guy's got kids, I think they're happier to get a woman that's
00:37:21.340
But if a guy's not had kids, I think they get scared of it, and then that's when they don't.
00:37:25.700
No, I would say even men with kids, if they can.
00:37:29.580
I would say the preference, I think the preference for men is always no kids, with rare exceptions.
00:37:37.600
It must be hard enough raising your own kids without raising other people's kids.
00:37:42.880
I don't know, I don't have kids, this is probably nothing to do with me, but that's what I guess.
00:37:47.540
It's because the guy can't raise the kid really how he wants to raise the child.
00:37:52.820
Because obviously, people that have children, you're not going to let him discipline your child.
00:37:57.960
So obviously, to a man, it's a problem, because you can't discipline him how he wants to discipline
00:38:02.360
Even if we look at the science of it, it's always going to be difficult to raise a child
00:38:06.680
I mean, I'm adopted, and I know a fair amount about adoption statistics, and adopted kids
00:38:11.540
are the hardest kids to raise because of that dynamic.
00:38:13.660
Because even when you're adopted very young, I mean, I was adopted at nine months old,
00:38:18.300
even babies younger than me, taken from birth, the biology isn't there.
00:38:21.900
It's the same reason if you have a surrogate mother, that baby has only known the woman
00:38:27.440
Even though biologically, it's the same as the other mother, it's only been inside this
00:38:32.080
So then when you change that up, it does change the dynamic, and it makes it difficult.
00:38:35.960
So I think, you know, we can sit here all day and argue about whether it's right, whether
00:38:41.380
it's shallow or not, but there is a biological fact that raising a child that isn't biologically
00:38:45.820
similar to you is going to be more difficult than raising one that is.
00:38:54.340
So the next one, the next one, now let's see, I want to see how far we can take this.
00:38:59.820
So the next thing that men want, or you hear me out, no abortions.
00:39:03.540
If men can pick between a woman, if men can pick, if men can pick between a woman that
00:39:10.520
has killed her child and not killed her child, you know what, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
00:39:17.220
wait, I'll give you, wait, let me, let me finish.
00:39:21.080
They may not find out, but if they do find out, they would prefer no abortions to having
00:39:31.080
And I want to clarify, remember, as I said earlier, this is for a wife and a mother,
00:39:42.100
Wait, does that matter to you if you were going to marry her?
00:39:47.540
Would that matter to you if you were going to marry her and she had an abortion?
00:39:54.420
I think the question is if you had a choice between a woman who has and a woman that hasn't.
00:40:06.680
But if you know, it does change your perspective.
00:40:09.460
Anything you know, if I don't know, you've slept with 10 people, but then I find out you've
00:40:15.300
So you're talking about if she'd slept with a lot of people and accidentally got pregnant,
00:40:21.520
you would prefer a woman that slept with no people and didn't get pregnant?
00:40:28.480
So you would prefer that a woman slept with nobody and never got pregnant or someone that
00:40:40.800
She's saying a virgin or she's saying got pregnant.
00:40:44.420
Because that would have to be your choice because girls get accidentally pregnant all
00:40:57.820
You can be on contraception and accidentally get pregnant, of course.
00:41:00.580
Yeah, but I mean, that's not like all the time.
00:41:02.860
But you need to be specific in accident because there's a difference between missing the pill one
00:41:10.760
So there's a big difference between actual accident and the one.
00:41:17.060
I think it depends on how many abortions it has.
00:41:31.680
There is some poor woman that accidentally got pregnant.
00:41:38.620
I think it really depends on how many abortions they've had and what was the reasoning behind
00:41:45.280
Because I'm not going to lie, if I was a male and I know some females that, you know, like
00:41:52.680
And they're like, oh, I don't want to be with this woman because she's got kids or she's
00:41:58.120
got kids for how many people or whatever it is.
00:42:00.520
And then they might go for a female that maybe has one child or has no children.
00:42:11.420
So that woman goes home with somebody every weekend when she goes out.
00:42:15.700
She's probably had flipping 10 abortions as she's come out of Mary Stokes or whatever.
00:42:20.380
Her brethren's driving her down the road and she's hollering at man out the window as she's
00:42:29.960
So it really depends on what you're talking about.
00:42:31.640
But we're talking about preference, like if we know, if we know, if we had a choice.
00:42:35.300
I would ask you, if I had to talk to my brothers and I said, Adam, Austin, they're really great
00:42:52.540
They're really, I would argue, husband material for most women, right?
00:42:59.940
And they're very smart and helpful, kind, everything really, I would argue, most women
00:43:09.580
I would say, if you ever hear a woman's head in abortion, you've got to leave her ass.
00:43:17.920
Because if she's going to kill her kid, what's she going to do to you?
00:43:25.240
Your kid is like you're supposed to love it more than anything.
00:43:41.080
Have you seen an abortion take place at six weeks?
00:44:02.200
Can we get up a picture of a six-week-old fetus?
00:44:12.160
I don't think you really associate yourself or attach yourself with babies.
00:44:18.880
If a woman wants an abortion and she's not ready to have a child, I think she should have a
00:44:33.160
A scientific fact is that they have a heartbeat.
00:44:34.640
I don't give a shit about the scientific facts.
00:44:37.000
If a woman wants an abortion, they should have a fucking abortion.
00:44:41.460
However, you can't call somebody crazy for stating a fact.
00:44:51.580
And also, I'd argue that a majority of abortions are not from conception failing.
00:44:56.900
I would say it's from, like, mistakes in general.
00:44:58.940
And also, there's, like, 40% of women who have abortions have had more than one.
00:45:03.160
Yeah, I would say most of the time, it's, you know, sloppiness or accident.
00:45:13.020
Also, if we're going to talk about, like, the efficacy of contraception, I think someone
00:45:23.240
It's the one that generally everyone tends to be on.
00:45:25.580
The most effective form of contraception is the implant, which is about 99% effective.
00:45:31.020
But actually, natural contraception, if used correctly, is also 99% effective.
00:45:36.480
There's always a percentage that you could get pregnant.
00:45:38.560
Of course, but if you don't want to get pregnant, then you don't have sex.
00:45:54.480
I would say to my brothers, hey, guys, stay away from those chicks.
00:46:01.180
I believe as a mother and a wife, you're supposed to be selfless, right?
00:46:08.040
And you're supposed to love your kids more than anything in the world.
00:46:11.200
And so, you know, my mother actually had an accidental pregnancy when she was quite young.
00:46:29.520
And it's because my parents are very selfless people.
00:46:34.360
And I think when you choose a wife and a mother, the most important trait is that she's kind and selfless.
00:46:40.140
And I think when you're making decisions that are selfish, I don't think it's the best wives and mothers.
00:46:47.460
You don't think that there's always a certain percentage of, like, bias when it comes to, for example, like...
00:46:52.620
I hope I'm not being insensitive by saying this.
00:46:54.520
But, like, since you have, for example, parents that want to have children but then still choose to adopt,
00:47:03.540
It was these kids were in, like, bad situations.
00:47:06.220
And they basically saved a lot of their, like, lives, if I'm being honest,
00:47:17.200
So, I mean, I just don't think, like, wife and mother aborts kids.
00:47:23.680
Can I ask you what your opinion is on females that have gone through a traumatic experience?
00:47:28.960
I can't remember what you told me to say, but I can't say a word.
00:47:30.960
So, what do you think about women that have had that experience and then they've fallen pregnant?
00:47:43.320
So, I think it's kind of used as, like, a gotcha.
00:47:49.760
So, in that situation, I think it's best to either keep the kid or give it up for adoption.
00:47:54.920
I don't ever think it's right to end a human life.
00:47:58.860
And so, what about if that child, so, and I understand what you're saying about being selfless and bringing a child into the world regardless.
00:48:09.220
But what about then if that child has trauma because they can't get over the fact that, you know, why their mother gave them up for adoption?
00:48:21.860
But, you know, I'm still her child sort of thing.
00:48:25.260
Do you think it's okay to then adopt a child and they're searching and they're seeking for their biological parents?
00:48:32.720
Can I speak on this as someone who has that specific trauma?
00:48:36.800
So, that is, it's a wound that never goes away.
00:48:39.160
No matter how old you are, growing up, you're always going to think, well, why wasn't I wanted?
00:48:47.680
But even still, I'm like, but why wasn't I wanted?
00:48:52.440
However, it's a wound I have, alive and living.
00:49:02.640
And there are kids I know who, people who have been in the care system their whole life, they were never found.
00:49:11.820
I'm very lucky because I'm part of the statistic that gets picked.
00:49:15.160
You know, I'm a white female who was born, who was adopted before the age of one.
00:49:20.500
But I'm aware there's a huge group of people that don't have that.
00:49:22.940
However, we have to acknowledge every single one of us in this room and every human being on the planet has some kind of trauma or some kind of wound in their life.
00:49:34.520
Because we're all going to have one wound or one trauma one way or the other.
00:49:39.320
We are here, but, you know, for some people it's a challenge to be here living with their trauma.
00:49:43.660
It is a challenge, but isn't it a leap of faith to state and to believe that it's better to be here than it's not to be?
00:49:56.540
I know people that have taken their lives because of that.
00:50:00.720
I would much rather that they were here, but we're talking about how that person feels and how...
00:50:08.440
It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
00:50:13.780
In the real world, things can be extremely extreme.
00:50:18.380
Well, even to address that point, even if we want to speak about people that have trauma, people that take their lives, it still comes down to the same principle.
00:50:28.280
If we even want to go religious about it, this life doesn't belong to us.
00:50:32.220
So, even people that take their lives shouldn't be taking their lives because it doesn't belong to them.
00:50:43.200
But the fact of life is that suicide, as bad as it might be, is not the right choice, right?
00:50:50.040
So, if we know that that's true, that people shouldn't be taking their lives, so why should we even support other people deciding to take their life for someone else?
00:51:01.260
I personally have the same view, but not everyone thinks like that.
00:51:04.260
And all I was saying is about, you know, people living with trauma and not to everybody.
00:51:13.040
And that's why people, you know, do take their lives, unfortunately.
00:51:16.720
And that's down to destiny because at the end of the day, if someone decides, okay, I have all this trauma and I can't live anymore and I want to take my own life, that is that person's destiny.
00:51:28.780
It's not up to us to now say, well, it would have been better if they were not born.
00:51:33.660
Also, can we go back to the general point of it?
00:51:39.860
But Bonnie mentioned something that I thought was really important.
00:51:43.400
You said like, you know, everyone just wants to have sex.
00:51:55.320
However, so you can have sex, right, of course.
00:51:58.960
Like, I'm not going to sit here and tell you what you can or can't do.
00:52:01.320
But if you, let's say, I don't know your personal opinion, but let's say, like, you really don't like the idea of having abortion.
00:52:07.200
You said yourself, if you was that 1% that was taking contraception religiously, you never missed a pill, you did everything right and you got pregnant, you said you'd be fuming.
00:52:14.920
Does that not indicate to you that you're having sex with people that you probably wouldn't want to have children with?
00:52:20.060
So, therefore, shouldn't you be only having sex with people that you would see yourself having a child with?
00:52:24.080
Otherwise, you're being negligent to that life that would then be here.
00:52:26.980
Okay, so I'd say 90% of my partners, I would say, if I would have, in the past, been a young girl, especially when I was, like, 18.
00:52:36.900
Back then, I was probably with guys I shouldn't have been with.
00:52:44.040
So isn't that a societal problem that we have, that we're teaching young girls that's okay?
00:52:47.620
Yeah, but, like, if I was on the pill back then, if I would have got pregnant with them kind of guys, yes, I would have been fuming.
00:52:53.740
Because back then, as a naive child, as a teenager, I would have been so annoyed.
00:53:00.140
But, like, as I'm 28, if I got pregnant now, whether it was a one-night stand or a partner, if I got pregnant now, I would keep it because I'm old enough and I know that is my...
00:53:13.640
What would you say now to 18-year-old girls who are perhaps naive students?
00:53:20.000
But you even said yourself there's a 1% chance, even if you do it correctly, you still might.
00:53:23.660
So isn't it better to tell them only have sex with people that you're willing to have a child with?
00:53:27.300
No, of course not, because you have to experiment to live, like, I feel like if you're going to say to people only have sex with people...
00:53:38.240
No, but I feel like a part of growing up is experimenting with different things.
00:53:43.100
Like, some girls experiment with girls, some girls experiment with guys.
00:53:48.520
So you're saying sexual experience is all the late in pregnancy?
00:53:49.960
What, you just have one partner that you want to have a kid with and get married to and that's it?
00:53:55.460
Have you only had sex with one person that you want to marry?
00:54:04.140
You should only have sex with someone you're willing to have a child with.
00:54:08.000
What's the problem with having that kind of mentality?
00:54:11.600
But the way you hear you're coming at her, like, oh my God, so have you been like that?
00:54:16.840
You should tell to 18-year-old girls that you should have one partner.
00:54:19.940
I said you should have sex with someone you're willing to have a child with.
00:54:26.240
Do you think it's better to have sex with men that you don't want children with?
00:54:31.340
No, I'm not saying that, but it's not fucking possible.
00:54:40.440
I'm saying people don't fucking live like that.
00:54:43.120
Like, out of the most of the girls I speak to, my body count is very low.
00:54:50.240
I know, but like, what I'm going to say to you, what I'm going to say to you is they're
00:54:54.400
not all people I've been like, right, you could, I could be with you for 80 years.
00:54:59.000
But you do think when you're 18, yes, you're hot and I'll easily lose my virginity.
00:55:07.080
I think that what she's saying is, I don't know, obviously you've got your journey.
00:55:11.920
I think generally, generally, you meet someone and you get to know that person and then you
00:55:20.620
decide to take that step because you can see a long term, or you think at the time, you
00:55:25.480
know, you're going to have a long term relationship with that person.
00:55:28.000
Are we all acting like one night stands aren't a thing?
00:55:31.400
Are we all acting like one night stands are a fucking thing?
00:55:46.340
And I don't want to share my energy with someone.
00:55:48.420
Number one, I don't know where you've been, where you've come from.
00:55:52.560
So you can't make one mistake in your whole life?
00:55:56.400
I'm just saying my preference is to not have one night stand.
00:55:59.380
You must have done things like this in your past, though.
00:56:02.980
Why are you using one night stands as a justification for giving the right information?
00:56:05.760
Because we're talking about marrying people that you have sex with.
00:56:08.360
Because you're saying you shouldn't have sex with anyone that you don't want to fucking marry.
00:56:10.760
The question was, at 18, if you was 18, giving an 18-year-old advice now, would you tell them that you shouldn't have sex with anyone but the person that you feel like?
00:56:21.900
The way you're saying it is like, okay, but the fact is, you know, I can't justify that because, you know, they're going to go out and have one night stands.
00:56:29.060
You've been talking to me when I was 18, so I don't have sex with one night stands.
00:56:31.920
Okay, I want to use a different, I'm going to use a different example.
00:56:36.300
If I say to an 18-year-old, I say, hey, do not get blackout drunk.
00:56:42.100
It could put yourself in a situation you don't want to be in.
00:56:47.040
Like, if I list all the reasons, do not get blackout drunk.
00:56:53.380
Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:56:58.140
I actually know many people that have never lived that lifestyle.
00:57:04.340
I know women that were virgins on their wedding days.
00:57:19.200
And so does it, that 18-year-old might, that 18-year-old might go on to become an alcoholic.
00:57:26.760
But at least I'm giving her the correct information.
00:57:31.660
And the issue we have is we've had, we've had, wait, wait, we've had not one, not two,
00:57:36.540
but I would argue three generations of women that have given the women today bad information
00:57:43.380
because we can't say water is wet, the sky is blue.
00:57:46.680
Don't get blackout drunks and have one night stands.
00:57:52.040
I just feel like we need to stop basically glorifying this like wild face because not
00:57:59.680
everyone needs to have a wild face in their life.
00:58:11.300
If a guy deals drugs when he goes to jail when he's younger, okay, when he talks to the younger
00:58:18.300
You literally can see like interviews in prison of men talking about this.
00:58:22.380
They'll say, hey, young guys do not go down that path.
00:58:26.700
But older women will justify doing it for younger women.
00:58:34.880
They won't justify and say, no, you have to sell drugs.
00:58:38.860
No, they'll give the men the right information.
00:58:41.340
Now, some men will take that advice and some won't.
00:58:46.340
But at least they have the correct information.
00:58:50.660
Older women will tell younger women not to go out and be whores.
00:58:56.080
If you've got any moral compass and respect and dignity, then you will tell a young woman.
00:59:15.460
There's nothing that has been said in this room today that we're hearing for the first time.
00:59:20.320
When women speak, they always think that they are the first person to come up with this thing that they are saying.
00:59:24.340
We hear this every single week, week in, week out.
00:59:36.480
You lot don't realize that you all say the same exact thing.
00:59:54.080
My point is, my point is, what they are saying is actually a very good reflection of what society is today.
01:00:01.680
No, but you don't see it because probably you're in a different circle.
01:00:07.040
I'll tell you why it's a very, this is actually a good representation.
01:00:10.660
The reality is, in the Western world, what we have now is families, loads of generations have been raised with our fathers.
01:00:17.340
And even the women that were raised with fathers still didn't have fathers because their fathers had no backbone and couldn't say anything in the house.
01:00:27.840
I was actually raised by my father and he taught me.
01:00:32.700
But the point I'm trying to make is that because I've had tons of women sit on this couch and say that when they went to their parents to tell them that they're going to do OnlyFans, their parents supported them.
01:01:03.440
And the thing is, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
01:01:11.820
And the point, the point I'm making is I just went to an event, like literally like an hour and a half before this.
01:01:17.300
It was like, I would argue women over the age of 35 to 45, 50, trying to figure out how to get younger women to have more abortions.
01:01:29.480
They said they said in a PowerPoint that their goal was to make that.
01:01:32.980
I asked this question and then they didn't like me too much when I started asking questions.
01:01:37.560
But I raised my hand and I'm like, let me get this straight.
01:01:40.720
You want to make it like these abortion pills like Advil?
01:01:44.180
And they said, yeah, they said over the counter.
01:01:46.800
Well, they want to, they want to, well, and they want to go to countries.
01:01:53.920
They want to go to countries whose cultures don't like that and send these abortion pills.
01:01:59.460
These are the older women that we have teaching us.
01:02:02.820
And even the women that maybe told women not to sleep around, oftentimes they'll say to never rely on a man and always have a backup plan.
01:02:13.920
When they say have a backup plan, what do they mean?
01:02:15.940
They always want women to have a backup plan in case the marriage doesn't work.
01:02:24.080
But if you can trust a man to have kids with, you should be able to trust him with money.
01:02:29.700
Why do we have, why do we, why do we have a society where we said, I can trust you to be the father of my child, but I can't trust you with money.
01:02:37.300
That innately says that money is more important than family.
01:02:43.480
If you're talking about going into a relationship as a whole, someone you're going to have sex with, have children with, and be serious with.
01:02:50.120
And then, of course, I think that finances should be shared.
01:02:52.540
I mean, but I don't see, is anyone disputing that?
01:02:54.540
I'm saying that is a common thing that older women say to younger women.
01:03:04.400
I'm not saying it's every older women, but I'm saying older women.
01:03:13.500
Lesson, lesson, lesson, lesson, lesson, lesson, lesson.
01:03:17.700
The idea was it was, wait, wait, stop getting offended.
01:03:24.000
Wait, wait, wait, let me get, okay, wait, Jesus Christ.
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You are going to know way more at 28 than you did at 18.
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That is, that is enough of an age gap to give advice and wisdom, right?
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I'm saying, I, I, I, because there's a difference between a 28 year old and a 50 year old.
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The 28 year old telling me what to do, you know.
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Older is older than the person you're giving advice to.
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And so my point is, she was just arguing that they can't not have a one night stand.
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Older women, oftentimes, I'm not saying there's not exceptions.
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This is why a lot of times when we, we do have older women on the show and they give go advice,
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My cousin, a very attractive young lady, very pretty, very gorgeous.
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She's 19, messaged me the other day and said, I want to start an OnlyFans.
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It destroys your life when you start it and you get over it.
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I'm like, if I started that when I was her age, I don't know if I would survive.
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I'm mature enough to tell the men to shut the hell up and ignore it.
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But you see, but this is the point of, this is the point of the fact that older,
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So my point is, you said to her, oh, don't do it because this and that.
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And then your response was, yeah, but I have thicker skin now.
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I guess what you're saying is you're not treating it by example.
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If you give me a second and listen, you will hear why.
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If a man is giving advice to a young person and he's saying this is bad,
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it's simple and you'll give him the reasons why it's bad.
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There is not going to be any caveat for why it could have been good
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But what you're doing is you're saying it's bad.
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But there are certain circumstances under which it could work.
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I didn't want to be alive when I first started it.
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So I've not said this on the podcast, but I'll say it now.
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I'm saying it because it's a trend I've seen with women,
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Like for instance, a woman will ask a question like,
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And then she'll say, well, for me, I don't think it's a good thing.
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If something is your principle, you need to stand by it.
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In her defense, she didn't actually say that it was okay to do.
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Basically, if she'd known then what she knows now,
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She's basically saying something that a lot of women are saying.
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because she's given the age of, you've said an 18-year-old,
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Like, if she put the caveat, I wouldn't at that age.
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So, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, I'm going to let you go.
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Okay, so if he says, I'm going to drug deal, I wouldn't do it at that age.
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That is a completely different message than I wouldn't do it.
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That is a completely, you can mean one thing, but like, it's not what you are saying.
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When you communicate it like that, it gives a completely different implication.
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If I said, oh, I wouldn't drug deal, it can work in some situations.
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If you maybe are good at avoiding cops or are very slick, that is justifying it.
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But if you say no, do not do it, do not do it, do not do it, that is clearly being against it.
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The other one is excusing it in some way, even if you do not mean to.
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Therefore, one advice is better than the other.
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Because we're talking about abortion, we're talking about another life.
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So, it is your responsibility if you're not trying to have a baby,
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but you're going to have a baby with someone that you don't want to have a baby with,
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outside of marriage, let's say, because that person is not secure in your life.
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Like, I'm not saying your choices are wrong, I'm just saying that when it comes to abortion,
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you need to think of not just yourself, you have to think of the child and also...
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I think every woman should be able to advise, you know, I think what you say is right,
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I think you're going to want to advise every young girl, you know, not to sleep around, etc.
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And I think in terms of abortion, I think it's such a sensitive topic.
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I think each has their own and there are reasons and there are backgrounds that we don't know about today
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and I think that it will be very difficult for any of us to sit here and be like,
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ah, it's just a fetus, ah, it's just a baby, let's just...
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I think, you know, I don't think that any of us have the right to comment on abortion
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and whether or not it's right because of the circumstances.
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I agree, though, that you definitely shouldn't.
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Everyone should advise a woman to do better and not to be.
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And it proves at the start of the show when we were talking about the fact that we don't tend to be forward.
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Well, that's different because this is talking about the influence on younger children growing up
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And I don't like this idea that we can police what people can and can't talk about.
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That's the whole point of podcasting is to have an opinion on everything.
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Yeah, and so I think when it comes to abortion, you certainly can't.
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I think it's always wrong, no matter your situation.
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I mean, you have a unique DNA code that's separate from the mothers and fathers.
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It's completely different from the mom and the dads.
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I mean, you know, some people, I'm just saying,
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I know you're going to say that it's, like, very, very rare.
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But I'm just saying there are sometimes cases where, you know,
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It's either you have to take the child's life or the mother's life.
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From what I've read on that, that's very, very rare.
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That's just my, that's my, like, I just think as a mother,
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And we have a generation of mothers that are selfish.
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It's me, me, me, me first, my career first, my feelings first,
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I would, look, I just genuinely think when you have a kid,
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Well, isn't that the ultimate act of love, though?
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Do you not think it would be a really sad life without a mother?
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I believe that the child's life's more important than my own.
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That's what I would do if I was in that situation.
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I think we should just have baselines on things as well.
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Like, can't we just have a baseline of, look, that's bad,
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and then maybe we can listen to if it's grape or whatever.
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But the whole point is like women can't say that things are bad.
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even older women don't give good information to younger women
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that we can't even say killing your kid is bad.
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And it's funny that a lot of women don't even realize this.
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Research does nothing towards the real thing though.
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Skena TV Tiktok Skena Louisa and yeah just catch me on another podcast
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yeah what was I supposed to say oh we do fun any final thoughts you have on the show anything anything you want to say and then socials if you have them yeah I mean it's it's just like I said it's like we talked a lot about I feel like the realities that exist within the western world and then obviously we don't want to go back and forth and saying there's exceptions
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there's social there's certain like social slash cultural structures that provide a much more guidance for men and women because I'm a Muslim as well so like depending on like how the families get involved etc like guiding them for example it's not that the women don't date they do but it's very controlled it's supervised there's a proper manner of how things get done because I got three sisters as well so for example I look out for my sisters too and I make sure that everything is kind of like you know you know I
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like I'm involved within their lives so I feel like I'm involved within their lives so I feel like yeah so it's just a matter of like understanding that the parents as well need to be very involved within their children's lives and kind of like supervise and manage that you know help them sorry manage that and then if there's one last thing that I'd like to say because I feel like people back home would just be angry at me if I didn't which is like you know if um it's kind of like this thing happened in Darna where like the Daniel storm hit and if anybody wants to support you know Libya in any way
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there's uh multiple organizations in the UK there's like the Islamic relief and that's probably one of the most trusted ones you can donate there if you want to support people in North Africa and Libya that were like affected by the storm
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Prolific official thank you for having me I've really enjoyed my time and it's been interesting listening to everybody's opinions I've actually learned a lot today
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it was great it was great and it was nice to listen to the younger generations as well do you know what I mean
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um but ultimately I would say that as much as we can go by statistics so on and so forth
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like this gentleman said you know there's a lot to life and everything isn't black and white it depends
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on you know your cultural background it depends on you know what part of the world that you come from
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everyone's got different experiences do you know what I mean life is definitely not black and white
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um yeah so I'm prolific official p-r-o-l-i-f-i-c official on all social platforms
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hi um so I'm just going to say that out of all the conversations I probably agreed with everything
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I mean look I mean it was nice to be on the show so thanks for inviting me um I've never done anything
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like this before um I'm quite passionate female but I'm also passionate about um what goes on the
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streets outside and you guys will know about the knife crime and a little um 16 15 year old girl and
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the 16 year old boy followed by the 22 year old you know what's happening with that um and there is
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so much more to me other than debates but about you know knife crime on the streets but also about
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representing those that are arrested when they're actually innocent for things so you know I am here
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um I work for SVS listeners I've got a shout out to my colleagues otherwise they won't forgive me
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so that's Junaid Khan and James so we sort of win cases together um but yeah no it's nice to be on the show
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yeah well thanks for letting me hop on again uh I always like coming on because it's I believe
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you can't learn about the world unless you you speak to people when you speak to people you disagree
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with it's only through disagreements that we can broaden our knowledge of the space that we live
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in and and strive for better um you know a couple of things look perspectives matter of course and
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it's important that we acknowledge exceptions in life however it doesn't matter if Newton said it
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if Einstein said it or if I said it gravity is gravity what goes up must come down and I think
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it's important that in society we can acknowledge broad statements about the world and decide what the
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best way forward is broadly we don't always have to go into the exceptions so if you're interested
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but for hopefully the best so if that sounds like something you'd be into check me out my name is
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can i forget i forgot to mention my um i forgot to mention my instagram by the way it is lawyer dolly
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if anybody wants to follow him took my time there lawyer dolly not very happy about that
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um great being back on the show just.bk socials um part of the council culture team my opinions
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um my thoughts today i mean look we need to stop delusion i think that's it mainly for me
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let's start lying to each other ladies i feel like if you're more honest with your fellow girl
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you will feel a lot more happier i don't know what could be more better like me me me being a girl
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and i am a girl going off on holiday and i feel good and she looks good and we're both looking good
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instead of me just looking good and she looks big and i'm just like no girl you look good no
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no that's not good i feel like more honestly be be straight and that means in anything you know if
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you want a man with money you want a man that's rich you want a man that can look after you be real
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about it don't don't hide about it be straight about it i feel like you're looking at me
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i am i am you've been the most argumentative so i am looking at you but i know you haven't
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said that my job is to argue what's right i'm argumentative but you know a lot of the points
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are really i'm straight down the middle mutual i'm not purposely i'm just saying like in general
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now but in all fairness i've had a great time love love coming on the pod and you know
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love hearing everyone's perspective as an idea make sure you're tuning to council culture
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in and check it out yeah i mean i agree with darn all gentlemen to my left um i think we need to
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stop the delusion life is black and white and um yeah if you're interested in hearing less delusion
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i did there yeah you did do you know we can do so it's the council culture podcast on instagram
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uh it's just the usual a lot of delusion and by the end of the show people kind of come to terms
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and gets a lot easier so yeah and and it's like it's like you guys you're gonna be on
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oh yeah it's like i can't i get these we're gonna be on the audacity network as well we went out today
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um asking people about abortion actually um and yeah it was um we'll see you'll see you'll see
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so guys we're compiling a bunch of footage from um people that have been on the show
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um so it's it's gonna be interesting you'll have you'll see like fan favorites i know
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i know you guys have a love hate relationship with denelva okay i know you do i know you do
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