Pearl’s Gets Interviewed By Woman On The Panel
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about birth control and why it s a good or bad thing. Do you think birth control makes you sluttier? Is it better or worse than birth control? We talk about the pros and cons of birth control.
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Anyone here think birth control makes you sluttier?
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What was your contraception, by the way, that you took for six months?
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I started, like, dating a guy, and then it was just, like, how do I put it?
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I just felt like it was going to be bad in the long term.
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Like, I just felt like at some point it would make me...
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In the six months that you took it, you didn't feel any.
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So I was just nervous I couldn't have a lot of kids.
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So I just felt like doctors that are selling this stuff have an incentive to lie to you.
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I do think birth control makes you sluttier overall.
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Did you feel sluttier when you were on it then?
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I think you're more likely to make crazy decisions when you're on birth control.
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Did you make any crazy decisions on birth control?
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Because I wasn't on it for a long period of time.
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It's long enough to see if you have any side effects.
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But like, what about it makes you think that it makes women sluttier?
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I just think when you have a bailout of a bad decision, you're more likely to make it.
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So I think if you have a fail-safe for making a bad decision, you're more likely to make it.
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And I think I avoided a lot of bad decisions because I wasn't on birth control most of my life.
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So you felt like making slutty decisions but haven't because you're like, I'm not on birth control.
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Like being at a party and you're like, oh, I can see this guy.
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It was just like, I don't know, maybe someone I was dating, like I'd just have to like think
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You think you might do it sooner than you'd want to?
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But if there's like a small window for you to get pregnant, then effectively birth control
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doesn't really have much say in terms of you sleeping around really and truly because if
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you can, you know, there's all these apps that you can have a look at.
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Like I just always like never wanted to be pregnant, like outside of marriage.
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Because I mean, women go on birth control for different reasons.
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But in terms of some people go on it because they don't want to be pregnant or have that
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But there's like other reasons why they decide to go on birth control, whether it's, I don't
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Well, I mean, I mean, just like what else is it for?
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You mentioned earlier acne and things like that.
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I know people that take it to regulate their cycles.
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You're talking about exceptions and not the rule.
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I think most girls take birth control to not get pregnant.
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I mean, if we can, if we have every conversation, we have to bring up the exception.
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I feel like personally for me, I feel like I was on contraception because with my boyfriend,
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I don't want to feel like I've got to be precautious in terms of having a baby because
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like you said, Pearl, I don't want to have a child with someone that I'm not going to spend
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So I was always paranoid about having a baby by accident.
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I mean, it's less likely for me to not be pregnant than pregnant.
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So for me, it's a situation where that's why I was on contraception because I didn't want
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But I also feel like, I think, because I grew up in the Caribbean, right?
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And I feel like here there's this sort of thing where the doctors are quick to recommend
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But like here, like I've got friends who were on it from like 16 and I'm like, that's a crazy
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age because I think it was to kind of help them with cramps.
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But I'm like, cramps is like something you have like probably five days out of the month.
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So why is it so much of a thing of an agenda where the doctors are quick to recommend it
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rather than it be your choice when you feel like, okay, this is, you know, I'm getting
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This is my decision rather than it being recommended.
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So that's why I think a lot more people are on it because from a young age, it's just like,
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it's the agenda of the doctor to be like, hey, go on this.
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Like my mom would have never dreamt of like telling me at a young age to like go on birth
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I just, I just felt like long-term, like there would be some side effect from basically tricking
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your body into thinking you're pregnant every month for years.
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That was, did you know that if you look at the divorce rate and the rate of women on birth
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Is there like a correlation or it just happens to be the same?
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As if like married women are often on birth control?
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Do you mean like women on birth control are getting more divorces?
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Because if you look at it from a history perspective, the Divorce Reform Act came in 1969, which
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is when you could basically get a divorce for no reason and birth control became freely
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So those two things would obviously correlate, but that doesn't mean that there's a correlation.
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It just means that those things happen at the same time.
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I think that, you know, I asked my grandma, my grandma is very sick.
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She like, so I've been asking her like life questions lately.
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And I asked her cause she was, you know, around in the seventies when, you know, people started
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And I asked her like why she thought that women, like why, why the divorce, like what
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Now, again, it might, it might not be related, but look at this chart.
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She's, she's like, um, like, yeah, she's, she's, um, she's been sick for a while.
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So it's kind of like, um, is that age on the left?
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I think the correlation between that could be back to when they say that when a woman sleeps
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with more than five people, their divorce rate tends to cheat.
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Cause she's, she's, she's in a habit of just moving on when it gets tough or moving on
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So the correlation would be that she's making more choices to sleep with men because she
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doesn't have to make, she's got that bailout that you're saying, her body count then goes
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up, which means she's less likely to stick around in a situation that she's not used to
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The point I was making though, is that like divorce rates and birth control would obviously
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go up at the same time because birth control was made freely available at the NHS in the
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seventies and divorce without any reason was basically introduced in the late sixties.
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Is it just the same numbers or is it the women?
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It's the, um, it should be the, like the first one on the left that's on the screen.
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Is, is that to match your point of women being more promiscuous?
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You're, you've recently divorced and you want to live your best life.
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If you got seatbelts on, you're probably driving more.
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But were these women on birth control before they got divorced or after they got divorced?
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I think probably also like going on birth control because they've had their kids and now they
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can't deal with their husband because they've had his kids.
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Um, I've interviewed, I've interviewed a divorce attorney and that's what they say.
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They said they'll get the two kids and then stop sleeping with the husband and then divorce
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Cause if he's not pulling his weight and they're doing all the work with the kids, they
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I sense like a little bit of an anger towards men from you.
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It doesn't sound like it based on how you're talking.
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Cause you're like, he's not pulling his weight.
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Like you, you always kind of automatically take the woman's side.
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I would argue that right now that that's just the room I'm in that I feel the need to,
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And like the men I know in the circles I'm in are.
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Um, well, when I get married, that would be like, I want to get married and then I want to
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have my babies and you know, that's what's the, like, what's the point of marriage?
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Uh, for me, it would just be making us one unit.
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And we are now financially connected with everything connected.
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We're going to have each other's children and we're going to spend our lives together.
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