JustPearlyThings - Pearl’s Gets Interviewed By Woman On The Panel

00:00:00.000 Anyone here think birth control makes you sluttier?

00:00:02.880 Anyone?

00:00:04.200 No one?

00:00:04.580 I do.

00:00:05.520 I do.

00:00:06.260 Do you take it?

00:00:07.540 No, I don't take it.

00:00:08.500 Have you ever taken it?

00:00:11.380 Not really, no.

00:00:12.640 Oh, that's a yes.

00:00:13.500 That's not really.

00:00:14.140 Very short, like six months.

00:00:16.080 Why did you stop?

00:00:18.060 I stopped because I just...

00:00:22.800 What was your contraception, by the way, that you took for six months?

00:00:25.540 It was an IUD.

00:00:27.160 Oh, okay.

00:00:28.000 Yeah, but I don't know.

00:00:28.920 I started, like, dating a guy, and then it was just, like, how do I put it?

00:00:34.160 I just felt like...

00:00:35.280 I felt like turning off your...

00:00:36.940 I just felt like it was going to be bad in the long term.

00:00:41.000 You know what I mean?

00:00:41.540 Like, I just felt like at some point it would make me...

00:00:46.160 Like, something would happen.

00:00:47.180 Like, I felt like there would be side effects.

00:00:48.820 I didn't feel any side effects.

00:00:49.840 But you didn't...

00:00:50.340 In the six months that you took it, you didn't feel any.

00:00:52.360 What side effects were you worried about?

00:00:53.720 Sorry, I'm, like, interviewing you now.

00:00:55.960 I just...

00:00:56.800 I was just nervous.

00:00:57.920 I wanted a lot of kids.

00:00:58.860 I want a lot of kids.

00:00:59.860 So I was just nervous I couldn't have a lot of kids.

00:01:02.360 It doesn't affect your fertility, though.

00:01:04.340 That's not what I...

00:01:05.400 Actually, I don't know about an IUD.

00:01:06.780 I don't know much about...

00:01:07.460 I have to be honest.

00:01:08.040 I don't know much about IUDs themselves.

00:01:09.840 I know they're very painful to put in.

00:01:11.780 I just felt like...

00:01:13.680 You just never know with that type of stuff.

00:01:16.220 So I just felt like doctors that are selling this stuff have an incentive to lie to you.

00:01:22.760 And I just...

00:01:23.760 I didn't...

00:01:24.620 I'm not a science person.

00:01:25.800 I'm not going to pretend like I understood it.

00:01:27.460 I just was like, I don't know.

00:01:30.200 But I still stand on...

00:01:32.260 I do think birth control makes you sluttier overall.

00:01:35.000 Yeah.

00:01:35.220 Did you feel sluttier when you were on it then?

00:01:37.500 No, actually, no.

00:01:38.760 But I think by and large...

00:01:40.120 I think by and large it does.

00:01:41.300 I think you're more likely to make crazy decisions when you're on birth control.

00:01:45.440 Did you make any crazy decisions on birth control?

00:01:47.900 No.

00:01:49.060 Then why do you think that?

00:01:50.520 Because I wasn't on it for a long period of time.

00:01:53.800 So I think six months is a long time.

00:01:55.120 It's long enough to see if you have any side effects.

00:01:56.600 Yeah, but I was with the same guy.

00:01:58.520 So it was like...

00:01:59.760 But like, what about it makes you think that it makes women sluttier?

00:02:04.940 I just think when you have a bailout of a bad decision, you're more likely to make it.

00:02:09.160 That is true.

00:02:09.600 So I think if you have a fail-safe for making a bad decision, you're more likely to make it.

00:02:13.920 And I think I avoided a lot of bad decisions because I wasn't on birth control most of my life.

00:02:18.520 Okay.

00:02:21.440 So you felt like making slutty decisions but haven't because you're like, I'm not on birth control.

00:02:26.640 Ever?

00:02:27.120 Yeah, sure.

00:02:28.540 Interesting.

00:02:29.180 Like what?

00:02:29.700 Like being at a party and you're like, oh, I can see this guy.

00:02:31.520 Oh, I'm not on birth control so I won't.

00:02:32.780 Like that kind of thing?

00:02:35.440 I mean, I don't really want to get like...

00:02:38.460 No, I'm trying to get...

00:02:39.240 It wasn't like a party or anything.

00:02:41.480 It was just like, I don't know, maybe someone I was dating, like I'd just have to like think

00:02:45.020 about more what the consequence would be.

00:02:47.360 You think you might do it sooner than you'd want to?

00:02:49.560 Yeah, yeah.

00:02:49.660 Okay.

00:02:49.980 I understand.

00:02:50.340 But if there's like a small window for you to get pregnant, then effectively birth control 0.79

00:02:57.300 doesn't really have much say in terms of you sleeping around really and truly because if

00:03:02.620 you can, you know, there's all these apps that you can have a look at.

00:03:06.440 I was just always nervous.

00:03:07.900 Like I just always like never wanted to be pregnant, like outside of marriage.

00:03:11.980 So I was just always scared, to be honest.

00:03:15.840 Because I mean, women go on birth control for different reasons. 1.00

00:03:19.020 Of course, we have like for acne.

00:03:20.840 But in terms of some people go on it because they don't want to be pregnant or have that 0.75

00:03:25.760 kind of unexpected pregnancy.

00:03:27.880 But there's like other reasons why they decide to go on birth control, whether it's, I don't

00:03:36.060 think it's because they want to sleep around.

00:03:37.700 Well, I mean, I mean, just like what else is it for?

00:03:40.520 You mentioned earlier acne and things like that.

00:03:42.700 Yeah.

00:03:43.340 But I'm asking around the room.

00:03:44.960 No one's on it for acne.

00:03:46.880 Some people take it.

00:03:47.720 I know people that take it to regulate their cycles.

00:03:49.560 You're talking about exceptions and not the rule.

00:03:52.020 I'm talking about the rule.

00:03:53.000 I think most girls take birth control to not get pregnant. 1.00

00:03:55.920 Yeah.

00:03:56.080 That's what it's for.

00:03:56.820 Yeah.

00:03:56.920 Yeah.

00:03:57.400 And so I'm talking about the rule.

00:03:59.060 I mean, if we can, if we have every conversation, we have to bring up the exception.

00:04:02.280 Like we're going to be talking all day.

00:04:03.640 I'm talking about the rule.

00:04:05.860 I think, I don't know.

00:04:06.820 I feel like personally for me, I feel like I was on contraception because with my boyfriend,

00:04:11.380 I don't want to feel like I've got to be precautious in terms of having a baby because

00:04:16.920 like you said, Pearl, I don't want to have a child with someone that I'm not going to spend

00:04:22.080 the rest of my life with.

00:04:22.940 So I was always paranoid about having a baby by accident.

00:04:26.480 And obviously I'm still very young.

00:04:28.040 So I'm ovulating.

00:04:30.460 It's less likely for me to not be pregnant.

00:04:33.400 I mean, it's less likely for me to not be pregnant than pregnant.

00:04:36.900 So for me, it's a situation where that's why I was on contraception because I didn't want 0.92

00:04:40.500 any form of like, oopsies.

00:04:43.600 Nah, nah.

00:04:44.220 Didn't want that.

00:04:45.000 But I also feel like, I think, because I grew up in the Caribbean, right?

00:04:49.260 And I feel like here there's this sort of thing where the doctors are quick to recommend

00:04:55.800 birth control.

00:04:56.640 Whereas I asked for it.

00:04:59.240 But like here, like I've got friends who were on it from like 16 and I'm like, that's a crazy

00:05:05.480 age because I think it was to kind of help them with cramps.

00:05:10.420 But I'm like, cramps is like something you have like probably five days out of the month.

00:05:15.440 So why is it so much of a thing of an agenda where the doctors are quick to recommend it

00:05:20.640 rather than it be your choice when you feel like, okay, this is, you know, I'm getting

00:05:25.180 into adulthood.

00:05:26.560 This is my decision rather than it being recommended.

00:05:29.500 So that's why I think a lot more people are on it because from a young age, it's just like,

00:05:33.900 it's the agenda of the doctor to be like, hey, go on this.

00:05:38.040 Like my mom would have never dreamt of like telling me at a young age to like go on birth

00:05:43.480 control.

00:05:43.920 It's just, I've always told me not to.

00:05:46.460 Yeah.

00:05:46.920 I just, I just felt like long-term, like there would be some side effect from basically tricking

00:05:51.520 your body into thinking you're pregnant every month for years.

00:05:53.960 I don't know what it is.

00:05:55.020 I'm not a science person.

00:05:56.020 I don't know.

00:05:56.700 Yeah.

00:05:57.160 That was, did you know that if you look at the divorce rate and the rate of women on birth

00:06:02.480 control, they're like the same?

00:06:04.980 What do you mean?

00:06:06.700 Let me, let me find it.

00:06:08.240 I'm going to send it to King.

00:06:10.940 Divorce rate.

00:06:11.780 Is there like a correlation or it just happens to be the same?

00:06:16.720 As if like married women are often on birth control? 1.00

00:06:20.660 No, is it divorced women? 1.00

00:06:22.420 Yeah.

00:06:22.760 So I'm going to send this to King.

00:06:25.200 Do you mean like women on birth control are getting more divorces? 1.00

00:06:36.580 Mm-hmm.

00:06:36.960 Because if you look at it from a history perspective, the Divorce Reform Act came in 1969, which

00:06:44.540 is when you could basically get a divorce for no reason and birth control became freely

00:06:48.380 available in 1974.

00:06:50.040 I'm going to show you.

00:06:50.640 Hold on.

00:06:51.100 So those two things would obviously correlate, but that doesn't mean that there's a correlation.

00:06:55.800 It just means that those things happen at the same time.

00:06:58.400 You could argue that.

00:06:59.460 I think that, you know, I asked my grandma, my grandma is very sick.

00:07:05.080 She like, so I've been asking her like life questions lately.

00:07:08.980 And I asked her cause she was, you know, around in the seventies when, you know, people started

00:07:13.600 getting divorced a lot.

00:07:14.680 Like you're right.

00:07:15.240 No fault.

00:07:15.640 Divorce was implemented.

00:07:16.580 And I asked her like why she thought that women, like why, why the divorce, like what 0.99

00:07:23.920 changed in relationships?

00:07:26.240 My grandma said birth control. 0.85

00:07:28.240 Now, again, it might, it might not be related, but look at this chart.

00:07:32.520 It's actually kind of crazy.

00:07:34.800 Sorry to hear that, by the way.

00:07:36.340 Yeah.

00:07:36.680 Same as what I do.

00:07:37.560 Oh, she, yeah, no, it's okay. 0.58

00:07:38.600 She's, she's like, um, like, yeah, she's, she's, um, she's been sick for a while.

00:07:45.940 So it's kind of like, um, is that age on the left?

00:07:53.060 No.

00:07:54.700 King, did you get it?

00:07:55.700 I sent it to you on Insta.

00:07:57.900 Okay.

00:07:59.220 I think the correlation between that could be back to when they say that when a woman sleeps

00:08:04.120 with more than five people, their divorce rate tends to cheat.

00:08:08.600 Cause she's, she's, she's in a habit of just moving on when it gets tough or moving on 0.86

00:08:13.160 at that point.

00:08:13.840 So the correlation would be that she's making more choices to sleep with men because she 1.00

00:08:18.240 doesn't have to make, she's got that bailout that you're saying, her body count then goes 0.99

00:08:22.240 up, which means she's less likely to stick around in a situation that she's not used to

00:08:26.700 dealing with.

00:08:27.520 The point I was making though, is that like divorce rates and birth control would obviously

00:08:33.840 go up at the same time because birth control was made freely available at the NHS in the

00:08:37.880 seventies and divorce without any reason was basically introduced in the late sixties.

00:08:43.520 So they would happen at the same time.

00:08:45.380 Is it just the same numbers or is it the women? 1.00

00:08:47.980 I'm going to show you the chart.

00:08:49.160 It's the, um, it should be the, like the first one on the left that's on the screen.

00:08:54.700 Do you see it on the left?

00:08:56.900 Yeah.

00:08:57.280 On the left top corner. 0.70

00:08:59.340 Is, is that to match your point of women being more promiscuous? 1.00

00:09:05.320 That's what I think.

00:09:06.540 That's what I think.

00:09:07.340 I mean, okay.

00:09:08.020 For, I can understand it in that point.

00:09:10.200 Okay.

00:09:10.380 You're, you've recently divorced and you want to live your best life.

00:09:14.340 If you got seatbelts on, you're probably driving more.

00:09:16.620 You know what I mean?

00:09:17.180 But were these women on birth control before they got divorced or after they got divorced? 1.00

00:09:20.860 I think probably also like going on birth control because they've had their kids and now they

00:09:26.220 can't deal with their husband because they've had his kids. 0.98

00:09:28.080 I don't know.

00:09:29.000 That is, that is common.

00:09:30.240 Women do divorce men. 1.00

00:09:32.380 Um, I've interviewed, I've interviewed a divorce attorney and that's what they say.

00:09:36.640 They said they'll get the two kids and then stop sleeping with the husband and then divorce 1.00

00:09:39.740 him.

00:09:40.340 Yeah.

00:09:40.640 Cause if he's not pulling his weight and they're doing all the work with the kids, they

00:09:42.980 wouldn't be attracted to him.

00:09:43.900 I sense like a little bit of an anger towards men from you.

00:09:47.100 Do you think?

00:09:47.800 A little bit.

00:09:48.500 No, I love men.

00:09:49.720 It doesn't sound like it based on how you're talking.

00:09:53.400 No, I think.

00:09:54.120 Cause you're like, he's not pulling his weight.

00:09:55.580 Why doesn't he just fight for his kids?

00:09:57.040 Like you, you always kind of automatically take the woman's side. 0.99

00:09:59.700 I think that that's just the.

00:10:00.860 You can, you can take down that chart.

00:10:02.240 They, they see it.

00:10:03.040 I would argue that right now that that's just the room I'm in that I feel the need to,

00:10:06.980 to pull that.

00:10:08.120 But in general, like, no, I love men.

00:10:09.780 And like the men I know in the circles I'm in are.

00:10:12.100 What is, what is marriage to you?

00:10:14.880 Um, well, when I get married, that would be like, I want to get married and then I want to

00:10:18.260 have my babies and you know, that's what's the, like, what's the point of marriage?

00:10:22.880 Uh, for me, it would just be making us one unit.

00:10:25.880 And that to me is like my forever.

00:10:28.280 And we are now financially connected with everything connected.

00:10:31.220 We're going to have each other's children and we're going to spend our lives together.

00:10:33.540 So many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on

00:10:39.560 this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - April 16, 2023

Pearl’s Gets Interviewed By Woman On The Panel

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