JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


Pearl’s Life Before The Red Pill


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10 minutes

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2,031

Sentence count

143

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Misogyny

5

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In this episode of the podcast, I speak to Tik TokTok Creator and YouTuber about his life growing up in the suburbs of Chicago. We talk about how he grew up in a family of 9 siblings and how he dealt with the lack of a strong family unit growing up.

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00:00:00.000 That's where I seen your clips and then I tried to find you on TikTok and it was banned
00:00:03.500 and then I tried to go into another one, it was banned, but I eventually got you on Instagram.
00:00:09.160 Before we get into all the madness, it's just to find out a bit of understanding about yourself,
00:00:13.180 where you grew up and how it all began.
00:00:15.620 Yeah, so I'm from Chicago originally, the suburbs.
00:00:19.700 I have nine siblings and I started TikTok two years ago, maybe YouTube a year ago.
00:00:27.700 And yeah, it's going well so far.
00:00:30.320 Yeah, well, your YouTube will plug straight away 400,000, near enough 400,000 subscribers.
00:00:34.760 Is that my pearly things?
00:00:37.000 Just pearly things.
00:00:37.840 Just pearly things.
00:00:38.700 Yeah.
00:00:39.080 Close.
00:00:39.900 But that's some amount of subscribers just for a year.
00:00:43.440 Yeah, I mean, maybe a year and a half now, maybe a year and a half now.
00:00:48.020 Yeah.
00:00:49.020 But yeah, no, it's funny.
00:00:53.000 I did a lot of videos.
00:00:54.080 I think I have like 4,000 videos on my channel.
00:00:56.800 So it was a lot of repetition where I would just like do the same thing over and over
00:01:00.780 again.
00:01:02.160 Why was that?
00:01:02.840 To see what works?
00:01:05.460 I just feel like naturally I'm someone that's not overly like talented at things.
00:01:11.480 And in my life, like I've always had to do things a million times to like get it.
00:01:16.360 And I've just found if I do things like 100, I can just outwork people usually.
00:01:21.800 How were you as a kid?
00:01:23.040 What?
00:01:23.380 How were you as a kid, a child?
00:01:25.560 As a kid?
00:01:26.160 Growing up.
00:01:26.420 Yeah.
00:01:26.860 I was, I was really goofy.
00:01:29.940 I was in, I was very much about sports.
00:01:32.680 So I did three different sports.
00:01:34.180 I did volleyball, basketball, and I ran track.
00:01:36.120 And that's pretty much all that mattered to me until I was like 21, 22.
00:01:41.740 And I'm really family oriented.
00:01:43.460 So I have nine siblings.
00:01:45.540 My parents own a software company.
00:01:48.120 And the, what kind of got me into like the, the red pill stuff was just seeing how a lot
00:01:54.660 of people didn't have that like strong family unit.
00:01:57.220 And, um, I don't know, growing up, it was like good for me.
00:02:02.260 I think.
00:02:03.220 How was it in a family so big?
00:02:05.480 Did you ever feel left out or was it so close that it felt loved?
00:02:09.080 Um, I mean, yeah, I mean, sometimes.
00:02:13.920 Yeah.
00:02:14.200 I mean, cause my dad was, is like very, is very successful.
00:02:18.020 Like he does really well.
00:02:19.520 So he was gone a lot growing up, but everyone in my family is very like achievement oriented.
00:02:25.460 And so it was always like, even though we were from like a successful family, it was
00:02:29.840 always known like you were going to work, you're going to work hard.
00:02:32.120 And, um, yeah, you have to do good in sports or school or whatever it is you're passionate
00:02:37.560 about.
00:02:38.280 And my parents were really big on like following your passion too.
00:02:42.020 A lot of support then.
00:02:43.340 Yeah.
00:02:43.880 Yeah, for sure.
00:02:44.560 How do you think it affects you with the dad not being there?
00:02:47.140 Cause a lot of the girls like, cause you've clearly got your head screwed on, but a lot 0.58
00:02:51.800 of girls with the daddy issues, dad not being there, turn to drugs, turn to strippers, 0.98
00:02:57.020 porn, like every porn star I've interviewed, every escort I've interviewed.
00:03:01.200 I've struggled at home with family members being broken up, but the job, do you think
00:03:06.240 that affects you as a kid?
00:03:08.320 No.
00:03:09.060 Um, I mean, I think there's a difference between like a dad, not being there because he's like
00:03:14.320 providing for his family.
00:03:16.320 Like my whole life, my dad, he told me his only goal was to pay for all of his kids college.
00:03:20.700 Cause he was in a lot of debt after college.
00:03:23.200 Um, so I always knew he loved me.
00:03:24.960 I always knew like that he was, um, he was going to be there for the big stuff, but you
00:03:32.580 know, he had to build a business with like, I think he ended up employing like 300 people.
00:03:36.720 So, yeah.
00:03:38.160 And you're seeing that at an early age that he was taking time away from his family to
00:03:42.600 provide for his family.
00:03:44.160 Yeah.
00:03:45.500 Yeah.
00:03:45.900 Yeah.
00:03:46.160 He had, uh, he built, half of his business was in India.
00:03:49.080 So he would go there a lot growing up.
00:03:51.700 I was mad doing nine brothers and sisters.
00:03:54.500 Yeah.
00:03:54.800 Well, it's a funny story.
00:03:56.000 It's, I grew up, I grew up with six and I was the second to six.
00:03:59.400 I was the oldest girl.
00:04:00.200 Um, my mom actually got pregnant when she was 17 and, um, from my dad and they gave that
00:04:08.400 kid up for adoption because they were so young and they like had only known each other a couple
00:04:12.600 months.
00:04:13.360 Um, they ended up getting married like five years later, but, um, he grew up and then I
00:04:18.620 didn't know he existed till I was 22.
00:04:20.860 And then we like reunited with him and now like he comes to family stuff and whatever.
00:04:25.520 And then, um, they adopted three teenagers.
00:04:28.440 So they adopted my second cousin, no, two of my second cousins, um, when they were like
00:04:34.080 16 and then, then there was a kid on my brother's football team that was homeless.
00:04:39.180 And so they had, it was kind of like the blind side.
00:04:41.360 If you've seen that, except there was no NFL ending, but, um, yeah, Chaz, they adopted him.
00:04:48.960 And so then it was 10 total.
00:04:50.320 Where does that come from that they wanted to help others?
00:04:53.480 Um, I actually, I asked my dad this when he was on my show this summer, um, with my
00:04:58.400 mom and like some of my other relatives or siblings.
00:05:02.300 And.
00:05:04.580 They just said it was kind of like, they just, they needed somewhere to go.
00:05:08.480 And my parents were the only ones that could do it.
00:05:10.460 But that's kind of how they always were growing up.
00:05:13.100 Like we always had like cousins living with us or like aunts, uncles, like I can't even
00:05:18.020 count how many people would stay with us for a summer or like the winter or a couple months,
00:05:22.860 whatever it was.
00:05:23.760 How were you at college?
00:05:24.660 Is it college university in America?
00:05:26.160 It's college.
00:05:27.300 Yeah.
00:05:27.700 Um, what did you do there?
00:05:30.340 Um, gosh, I, I played three sports there.
00:05:34.780 So I did volleyball, basketball, I ran track, and that was pretty much what I was obsessed
00:05:38.460 with.
00:05:39.200 So, um, yeah, I studied, I studied economics and business administration.
00:05:44.520 Um, and then I got my master's or my market research certification too, and then my master's
00:05:51.360 in psych, I'm very educated, but I only really got this educated cause I wanted to play sports.
00:05:55.520 So why does the psychology stuff come in to play with sports?
00:06:00.300 Oh, um, I picked it cause I thought it'd be easy.
00:06:04.920 It's difficult.
00:06:05.500 So much fucking interest in the brain and psychology.
00:06:09.020 No, I didn't really care about it.
00:06:10.460 I just, and I actually did that when I came here was they're recruiting me to play.
00:06:16.300 And in order to come to the UK, like I had to get a master's degree.
00:06:20.060 And so I just was like, what do I think would be easy?
00:06:23.020 And so I picked psychology.
00:06:24.540 When did you come to the UK a year ago?
00:06:27.100 So that's when you started your YouTube and stuff.
00:06:30.060 Um, how did you start before you came over?
00:06:31.980 Before I started with reaction videos and then I started with the show in February.
00:06:36.780 Stuff like Jordan Peterson has, I've seen a few of your reaction videos of, but very interesting
00:06:42.540 topics like relationships, like why you, why you like go down that route and be so focused
00:06:48.140 on like relationships, women, men, but why was that the one that stood out to you the most?
00:06:53.900 Um, well, it started with high value men.
00:06:57.180 Um, that was Kevin Samuel's like talking point.
00:06:59.820 And he would list like the attributes of a high value man or whatever it was.
00:07:04.620 And minus the LinkedIn visibility level, like my dad fit that description.
00:07:09.660 And I was just like, this is what you guys think like, like this is like, um, and then
00:07:16.540 I kind of like dove more into the red pill space.
00:07:19.980 So I don't know.
00:07:21.420 I'm just nosy.
00:07:22.220 Like I wanted to know what the boys were talking about.
00:07:24.620 Cause it started with like pickup and, um, I don't know, like dating women.
00:07:29.420 So it was really interesting to like, see it from like the men's point of view.
00:07:33.980 Because every man is different.
00:07:35.420 Every woman is different. 1.00
00:07:36.700 We all see the world differently.
00:07:38.220 Yeah.
00:07:38.780 For anybody that doesn't know the red pill, what is the red pill to you?
00:07:42.780 Um, you talking the matrix here, blue pill, red pill kind of.
00:07:46.460 You know, it's funny.
00:07:47.020 I've never seen that movie.
00:07:50.060 I've heard this term, but like I basically, it means like men are told one thing about women
00:07:55.900 and like how to be, so they're like, be nice to her, treat her like a queen. 0.61
00:07:59.820 And women don't actually want that. 1.00
00:08:01.500 Like we don't really like guys that put us on pedestals.
00:08:04.060 Um, I think sometimes we think we do, but we don't.
00:08:07.340 Um, and so it's like men basically seeing the world for what it really is.
00:08:12.940 What do you think a perfect relationship is?
00:08:16.460 Um, perfect relation.
00:08:19.020 I don't think there's such thing as a perfect relationship, but I, I really liked seeing my
00:08:23.900 parents growing up, um, they, yeah, I don't know.
00:08:28.860 My dad was just like, my mom always like followed my dad and I thought that was good.
00:08:35.580 And I always thought that I just think like relationships are hard work.
00:08:41.180 And so I think the best relationships are when you have two people that like
00:08:44.620 are willing to work hard and make it work.
00:08:47.740 Basically.
00:08:48.380 Yeah.
00:08:48.940 Love's a powerful thing is to love that person.
00:08:51.420 We'll get into statistics and facts and with relationship breakups and percentages and all
00:08:55.900 that in a bit.
00:08:56.380 But love does it exist?
00:08:59.180 It's took me, but we always search for it.
00:09:01.820 But it doesn't matter how successful you are, what you are in life, like sitting here doing
00:09:05.260 a podcast or at college doing volleyball, that we're always searching for something.
00:09:10.060 And for me personally, we're always searching for that other half.
00:09:13.100 Do you think that other half exists? 0.61
00:09:14.540 No.
00:09:15.660 No, why?
00:09:16.940 No, I just think life's about choices and trade-offs and all like, I think it's kind
00:09:21.500 of a lie that society tells us that there's like an other half or you have a person.
00:09:25.740 I think you just pick and life's about choices and trade-offs and no one's perfect.
00:09:30.220 And you kind of work with what you have and you try to find people with similar values to
00:09:34.780 you.
00:09:35.100 And that's all you can really do.
00:09:36.220 I watched a black mirror.
00:09:37.740 There was an episode and it was a relationships people used to meet, but they had like a little
00:09:43.180 clock, both used to press and it to tell them how long they would spend with each other.
00:09:47.180 Oh, I've seen that episode.
00:09:47.740 It was either 24 hours, a year, five years.
00:09:49.980 And it was, they kept going through that, even though they knew some relationships were
00:09:54.060 wrong until they eventually met their soulmate.
00:09:57.260 And it was interesting because we kind of do this here, meet people, whether it's one date,
00:10:01.660 10 dates, a hundred dates, that we consistently keep meeting people.
00:10:05.660 Everybody would, even men, some men want to be successful so they can get the good looking girls.
00:10:10.780 Not every man though, but everybody defines success differently.
00:10:14.620 Everybody defines how much money is enough for everybody.
00:10:18.780 We see the world differently, but as many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we
00:10:23.900 are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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