Pearl’s Life Before The Red Pill
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Summary
In this episode of the podcast, I speak to Tik TokTok Creator and YouTuber about his life growing up in the suburbs of Chicago. We talk about how he grew up in a family of 9 siblings and how he dealt with the lack of a strong family unit growing up.
Transcript
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That's where I seen your clips and then I tried to find you on TikTok and it was banned
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and then I tried to go into another one, it was banned, but I eventually got you on Instagram.
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Before we get into all the madness, it's just to find out a bit of understanding about yourself,
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Yeah, so I'm from Chicago originally, the suburbs.
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I have nine siblings and I started TikTok two years ago, maybe YouTube a year ago.
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Yeah, well, your YouTube will plug straight away 400,000, near enough 400,000 subscribers.
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But that's some amount of subscribers just for a year.
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Yeah, I mean, maybe a year and a half now, maybe a year and a half now.
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I think I have like 4,000 videos on my channel.
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So it was a lot of repetition where I would just like do the same thing over and over
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I just feel like naturally I'm someone that's not overly like talented at things.
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And in my life, like I've always had to do things a million times to like get it.
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And I've just found if I do things like 100, I can just outwork people usually.
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And that's pretty much all that mattered to me until I was like 21, 22.
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And the, what kind of got me into like the, the red pill stuff was just seeing how a lot
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of people didn't have that like strong family unit.
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And, um, I don't know, growing up, it was like good for me.
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Did you ever feel left out or was it so close that it felt loved?
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I mean, cause my dad was, is like very, is very successful.
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So he was gone a lot growing up, but everyone in my family is very like achievement oriented.
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And so it was always like, even though we were from like a successful family, it was
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always known like you were going to work, you're going to work hard.
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And, um, yeah, you have to do good in sports or school or whatever it is you're passionate
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And my parents were really big on like following your passion too.
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How do you think it affects you with the dad not being there?
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Cause a lot of the girls like, cause you've clearly got your head screwed on, but a lot
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of girls with the daddy issues, dad not being there, turn to drugs, turn to strippers,
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porn, like every porn star I've interviewed, every escort I've interviewed.
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I've struggled at home with family members being broken up, but the job, do you think
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Um, I mean, I think there's a difference between like a dad, not being there because he's like
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Like my whole life, my dad, he told me his only goal was to pay for all of his kids college.
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I always knew like that he was, um, he was going to be there for the big stuff, but you
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know, he had to build a business with like, I think he ended up employing like 300 people.
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And you're seeing that at an early age that he was taking time away from his family to
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He had, uh, he built, half of his business was in India.
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It's, I grew up, I grew up with six and I was the second to six.
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Um, my mom actually got pregnant when she was 17 and, um, from my dad and they gave that
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kid up for adoption because they were so young and they like had only known each other a couple
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Um, they ended up getting married like five years later, but, um, he grew up and then I
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And then we like reunited with him and now like he comes to family stuff and whatever.
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So they adopted my second cousin, no, two of my second cousins, um, when they were like
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16 and then, then there was a kid on my brother's football team that was homeless.
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And so they had, it was kind of like the blind side.
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If you've seen that, except there was no NFL ending, but, um, yeah, Chaz, they adopted him.
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Where does that come from that they wanted to help others?
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Um, I actually, I asked my dad this when he was on my show this summer, um, with my
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mom and like some of my other relatives or siblings.
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They just said it was kind of like, they just, they needed somewhere to go.
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And my parents were the only ones that could do it.
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But that's kind of how they always were growing up.
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Like we always had like cousins living with us or like aunts, uncles, like I can't even
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count how many people would stay with us for a summer or like the winter or a couple months,
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So I did volleyball, basketball, I ran track, and that was pretty much what I was obsessed
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So, um, yeah, I studied, I studied economics and business administration.
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Um, and then I got my master's or my market research certification too, and then my master's
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in psych, I'm very educated, but I only really got this educated cause I wanted to play sports.
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So why does the psychology stuff come in to play with sports?
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Oh, um, I picked it cause I thought it'd be easy.
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So much fucking interest in the brain and psychology.
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I just, and I actually did that when I came here was they're recruiting me to play.
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And in order to come to the UK, like I had to get a master's degree.
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And so I just was like, what do I think would be easy?
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So that's when you started your YouTube and stuff.
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Before I started with reaction videos and then I started with the show in February.
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Stuff like Jordan Peterson has, I've seen a few of your reaction videos of, but very interesting
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topics like relationships, like why you, why you like go down that route and be so focused
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on like relationships, women, men, but why was that the one that stood out to you the most?
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Um, that was Kevin Samuel's like talking point.
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And he would list like the attributes of a high value man or whatever it was.
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And minus the LinkedIn visibility level, like my dad fit that description.
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And I was just like, this is what you guys think like, like this is like, um, and then
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I kind of like dove more into the red pill space.
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Like I wanted to know what the boys were talking about.
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Cause it started with like pickup and, um, I don't know, like dating women.
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So it was really interesting to like, see it from like the men's point of view.
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For anybody that doesn't know the red pill, what is the red pill to you?
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Um, you talking the matrix here, blue pill, red pill kind of.
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I've heard this term, but like I basically, it means like men are told one thing about women
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and like how to be, so they're like, be nice to her, treat her like a queen.
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Like we don't really like guys that put us on pedestals.
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Um, I think sometimes we think we do, but we don't.
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Um, and so it's like men basically seeing the world for what it really is.
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I don't think there's such thing as a perfect relationship, but I, I really liked seeing my
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parents growing up, um, they, yeah, I don't know.
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My dad was just like, my mom always like followed my dad and I thought that was good.
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And I always thought that I just think like relationships are hard work.
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And so I think the best relationships are when you have two people that like
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Love's a powerful thing is to love that person.
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We'll get into statistics and facts and with relationship breakups and percentages and all
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But it doesn't matter how successful you are, what you are in life, like sitting here doing
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a podcast or at college doing volleyball, that we're always searching for something.
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And for me personally, we're always searching for that other half.
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No, I just think life's about choices and trade-offs and all like, I think it's kind
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of a lie that society tells us that there's like an other half or you have a person.
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I think you just pick and life's about choices and trade-offs and no one's perfect.
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And you kind of work with what you have and you try to find people with similar values to
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There was an episode and it was a relationships people used to meet, but they had like a little
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clock, both used to press and it to tell them how long they would spend with each other.
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And it was, they kept going through that, even though they knew some relationships were
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wrong until they eventually met their soulmate.
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And it was interesting because we kind of do this here, meet people, whether it's one date,
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10 dates, a hundred dates, that we consistently keep meeting people.
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Everybody would, even men, some men want to be successful so they can get the good looking girls.
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Not every man though, but everybody defines success differently.
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Everybody defines how much money is enough for everybody.
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We see the world differently, but as many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we
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are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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