JustPearlyThings - March 29, 2023


Pearl’s Warning To Modern Women


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10 minutes

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2,252

Sentence count

157

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Misogyny

30

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30

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In this episode, we discuss the age old question of what is the best type of guy for a woman in her 20s and 30s? Is it a good or bad type of man? We also talk about the age difference between women and men when it comes to looks and personality.

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00:00:00.000 So you're going for guys that you already know that a lot of women want. 1.00
00:00:03.260 So these are men that are, obviously, they're high value in the sense
00:00:07.660 that a lot of women want them. 1.00
00:00:08.960 Whenever you go for these types of men, you have to understand
00:00:11.000 you can potentially be one of many, and you don't mind being one of many.
00:00:16.700 There's probably some guys across the years that have always probably
00:00:19.080 tried to holler at you, tried to take you out,
00:00:20.820 and you haven't given any time to these guys, these ordinary...
00:00:23.900 No, but it's fine.
00:00:25.440 But what I'm trying to say, all of these guys have watched you
00:00:27.900 deal with all of these guys one by one, one by one,
00:00:30.400 and it never amounts to nothing.
00:00:32.060 At some point, you need to say to yourself,
00:00:33.700 maybe I'm going for the wrong types of guys.
00:00:36.080 Maybe this guy's not right for me.
00:00:37.480 Maybe I need to stop going for what I like,
00:00:39.080 and maybe I need to stop going for what makes sense.
00:00:41.580 But this is the thing with females, I think. 1.00
00:00:43.500 I feel like they don't get to that stage until they're maybe more mature.
00:00:47.380 Like, I feel like...
00:00:48.400 No, they're running out of time.
00:00:51.260 No, you'll never run out of time.
00:00:52.440 And the guys they want don't want them. 0.94
00:00:53.880 That's what happens.
00:00:55.040 When their options start narrowing,
00:00:56.620 and that's when they start being a bit more pragmatic
00:00:58.220 about what guy makes sense.
00:00:59.660 Until then, they don't care.
00:01:00.760 Well, it's like...
00:01:01.480 You have to, what, 35 for geriatric pregnancy?
00:01:04.420 So it's like...
00:01:05.440 And unless you have $20,000 to put down
00:01:07.900 and maybe get a kid out of it, maybe.
00:01:10.760 Like, you got to...
00:01:12.400 At, like, 30, I feel like people start getting desperate.
00:01:15.460 I feel like when females get to the age of 30, 1.00
00:01:17.460 that's when they start looking at the guys around them
00:01:19.360 and they'll be like,
00:01:19.900 you know what?
00:01:20.600 I'm tired of being abused
00:01:22.860 or tired of going through the same old story.
00:01:25.260 So, do you know what?
00:01:25.820 Now, I might go for the good guy
00:01:27.600 that may not have wanted me beforehand.
00:01:29.540 I feel like the modern-day kind of girls 1.00
00:01:31.660 are a bit different, though.
00:01:32.880 It doesn't necessarily mean
00:01:34.180 that they're looking for a child or another husband.
00:01:36.320 Sometimes they're literally trying to get their money,
00:01:38.600 build their next generation for...
00:01:40.120 It doesn't necessarily have to mean
00:01:41.060 a child that comes from them,
00:01:42.420 they could adopt.
00:01:43.200 They can do other options.
00:01:44.420 It's not just...
00:01:45.400 They can, but the least happy demographic of women 1.00
00:01:48.460 is women over the ages of 45 0.99
00:01:50.120 that make between,
00:01:51.060 I think it's, like,
00:01:52.760 between $50,000 to, like, $70,000 per year
00:01:55.960 and are single and childless.
00:01:58.520 Like, life gets pretty...
00:01:59.420 Are they bothered about it, though?
00:02:00.240 What?
00:02:00.580 Are they bothered about being a child?
00:02:01.580 Yeah, they're the least happy demographic.
00:02:03.200 Like, life gets pretty lonely
00:02:04.220 after the age of 45.
00:02:05.740 Like, I don't think as women 1.00
00:02:07.120 we really understand
00:02:08.020 how different the world treats us
00:02:09.440 because we're pretty women. 0.89
00:02:11.320 And because one day
00:02:12.640 your looks are going to be gone.
00:02:13.740 You're going to get no attention from men.
00:02:15.800 Like, 40 to...
00:02:16.800 No men are lining up to date 50-year-olds.
00:02:19.440 It's a good thing
00:02:19.920 I've got personality, then, isn't it?
00:02:21.400 That won't work.
00:02:22.260 That won't work.
00:02:22.700 We don't care about personality.
00:02:23.760 Guys, guys, guys.
00:02:24.440 Do you care about a girl?
00:02:26.080 If a girl doesn't look good, 1.00
00:02:27.360 do you care about a personality?
00:02:28.520 Of course not.
00:02:29.120 Yeah.
00:02:29.760 What are you guys looking...
00:02:30.320 If you're trying to wife someone,
00:02:31.620 why would you not care about their personality?
00:02:32.880 No.
00:02:33.160 No, I said if she... 1.00
00:02:33.960 I'm careful with my words.
00:02:35.560 If she doesn't look good,
00:02:36.860 you have to start with looks.
00:02:38.480 Not necessarily.
00:02:39.520 For women.
00:02:40.220 For women.
00:02:40.780 You're looking at it
00:02:41.360 from a female point of view. 0.91
00:02:42.360 For the men,
00:02:43.200 it starts with looks.
00:02:44.620 It starts with sex. 0.71
00:02:45.400 So, you have to understand something.
00:02:47.100 Before you try to speak,
00:02:48.300 you have to understand
00:02:48.880 and accept what we're saying to you.
00:02:50.240 It starts with looks.
00:02:51.180 It does.
00:02:51.720 It does.
00:02:52.380 It's initial attraction.
00:02:53.480 It does, because
00:02:54.180 before I even come and get your number
00:02:56.780 or even want to speak to you,
00:02:58.000 I've assessed the way you look.
00:02:59.840 So, if I didn't like the way you look,
00:03:01.520 why would I come and speak to you?
00:03:02.760 In order for me to know your personality,
00:03:04.020 that would involve us having to work together
00:03:05.640 or be in a scenario where
00:03:06.780 we can speak enough for me
00:03:08.080 to know your personality.
00:03:09.280 If a guy comes up to you
00:03:10.520 out of the blue
00:03:11.160 and tries to speak to you,
00:03:12.340 are you going to be like,
00:03:12.680 oh my God,
00:03:12.980 he's got such a handsome personality.
00:03:14.740 You don't know his personality.
00:03:15.840 All you know
00:03:16.360 is the guy that's approaching you
00:03:17.680 and whether or not
00:03:18.120 you want to accept his approach or not.
00:03:19.700 Listen to him
00:03:20.240 or just give him air.
00:03:21.760 So, your first attraction
00:03:23.980 is based upon,
00:03:25.100 in that aspect,
00:03:26.300 in a nightclub
00:03:27.000 or outside setting,
00:03:28.120 based upon attraction
00:03:28.940 because you don't know
00:03:29.740 what the personal personality is.
00:03:31.380 And for females,
00:03:32.460 I feel like
00:03:33.020 a guy has to give
00:03:34.280 a certain image
00:03:35.300 before you even take him
00:03:36.580 into consideration.
00:03:39.280 Are you impressed?
00:03:40.580 I'm not impressed.
00:03:41.640 And that's the thing
00:03:42.260 girls always like to say, 1.00
00:03:43.120 are you impressed
00:03:43.540 or has someone hurt you?
00:03:44.660 But no,
00:03:45.500 that's just the reality of it.
00:03:46.980 Like for me,
00:03:47.460 I'm a short guy.
00:03:48.160 I'm five foot four.
00:03:49.120 For me,
00:03:49.480 if I approach a girl 0.99
00:03:50.360 in a club,
00:03:51.380 I'm not likely to get
00:03:52.500 the same reception
00:03:54.180 that my brother would over there
00:03:55.600 because he's taller than me
00:03:56.660 and he's more built.
00:03:58.080 Do you get me?
00:03:58.420 I'm short and I'm small.
00:03:59.540 So it's like,
00:04:00.060 it's going to be harder
00:04:00.900 for a man like me
00:04:01.680 to move to a girl 0.82
00:04:02.820 because she's going to look at me
00:04:03.920 and be like,
00:04:04.360 that's not really my type.
00:04:05.900 She won't even give me
00:04:06.660 the initial,
00:04:08.120 like,
00:04:09.240 I don't know,
00:04:09.760 the initial.
00:04:10.460 But you see my brother,
00:04:11.260 yeah,
00:04:11.380 you see that type of,
00:04:12.380 that blatant,
00:04:13.420 look,
00:04:13.580 you just assessed yourself
00:04:14.420 and you said,
00:04:14.840 right,
00:04:15.000 these are my strengths,
00:04:15.600 this is whatever.
00:04:16.760 Men,
00:04:17.180 we have no problem
00:04:17.780 in doing that.
00:04:18.440 Do you understand?
00:04:19.100 We can look at another guy
00:04:20.060 and say,
00:04:20.440 right,
00:04:20.640 this guy,
00:04:21.560 this is in comparison
00:04:22.980 to me or whatever.
00:04:24.440 His strengths are my weaknesses
00:04:25.700 or my strengths
00:04:26.640 and his weaknesses,
00:04:27.340 right?
00:04:27.760 Women will look at themselves 1.00
00:04:29.120 and they won't do
00:04:30.040 that same assessment
00:04:30.780 and it's that little bit of,
00:04:32.800 you have to have humility
00:04:33.760 and humbleness
00:04:34.520 and you'll get better results
00:04:36.180 but us men,
00:04:36.740 we can do that.
00:04:39.100 I feel like women can too. 1.00
00:04:41.040 Every woman says they're 10. 1.00
00:04:43.020 No.
00:04:43.440 Huh?
00:04:44.620 When you ask a woman 1.00
00:04:45.520 what about them,
00:04:45.940 I'm a 10.
00:04:47.060 Not every woman.
00:04:47.560 I feel like there's a little
00:04:48.360 animosity against women here.
00:04:50.320 Okay,
00:04:50.900 sorry Pearl,
00:04:51.440 can I just say something?
00:04:52.400 Okay,
00:04:52.860 so before,
00:04:53.700 I want to tell you
00:04:54.280 a little bit about me.
00:04:55.380 I have three sisters.
00:04:57.380 They're all married,
00:04:58.180 all with child.
00:04:59.020 My mum and dad are together.
00:05:00.420 They've been together
00:05:00.920 for over 40 years.
00:05:02.400 I come from an African
00:05:03.340 traditional upbringing.
00:05:04.140 My dad is a chief of all chiefs.
00:05:05.500 He was a diplomat,
00:05:06.340 very educated man.
00:05:07.540 I have three nieces
00:05:08.740 that I all directly look after.
00:05:10.980 When it comes to women, 0.61
00:05:11.960 I'm a protector.
00:05:12.880 I'm a lover of my women.
00:05:13.920 So we take it quite insulting
00:05:16.140 when a woman says,
00:05:17.260 oh,
00:05:17.400 we feel as if that you're
00:05:18.340 any type of hate towards women
00:05:19.660 because having a criticism
00:05:21.100 or not,
00:05:22.340 no,
00:05:22.500 but what I'm trying to,
00:05:23.080 any type of animosity
00:05:24.140 or anything,
00:05:24.600 that's not what we're here for.
00:05:25.440 What we're here for
00:05:26.080 is to show how much love
00:05:27.480 we have for women 0.95
00:05:28.020 and actual fact,
00:05:28.780 we need to have these conversations.
00:05:29.900 So I take it quite personally
00:05:30.900 when people try to create that image
00:05:32.560 or perpetuate that image
00:05:33.440 because if you don't know,
00:05:34.880 I'm actually very much
00:05:35.980 supportive of women
00:05:36.520 and we protect our women over here.
00:05:38.260 So I just had to just say that.
00:05:41.080 Did you know that women find 0.62
00:05:42.720 80% of men is unattractive?
00:05:45.740 I didn't know that.
00:05:47.380 So a lot,
00:05:47.940 have you ever heard the girl
00:05:48.960 say like medium ugly?
00:05:50.360 Like,
00:05:50.500 oh,
00:05:50.640 I gave him a chance.
00:05:51.640 He was medium ugly.
00:05:52.240 I say cute ugly. 0.99
00:05:53.600 It's like,
00:05:54.140 it's like,
00:05:54.500 no sis,
00:05:54.880 that was just your level.
00:05:58.820 Because women find 80% 0.99
00:06:00.140 of men is unattractive 0.97
00:06:01.140 and the question is,
00:06:02.240 if you find a guy attractive,
00:06:03.580 he's probably the top 20% of men.
00:06:06.140 Are you top 20% of women? 0.97
00:06:08.500 And that's what we have nowadays
00:06:09.860 and you can get this data
00:06:10.820 from dating apps
00:06:11.540 because women only swipe right 1.00
00:06:12.500 between five
00:06:13.080 and like 20% of the time.
00:06:14.540 And if you ask 100% of women
00:06:16.060 what they want in a man,
00:06:16.920 they list 20% of men.
00:06:18.220 That's where you have eternal
00:06:21.940 like side chicks basically.
00:06:28.080 Okay.
00:06:28.640 So we agree
00:06:29.840 you can't turn a hoe 1.00
00:06:30.860 into a housewife. 0.92
00:06:33.060 When,
00:06:33.640 when does a girl become a hoe? 1.00
00:06:37.480 You're shocked.
00:06:38.140 You want to take that?
00:06:41.120 I think to a certain degree,
00:06:42.360 it's,
00:06:42.940 it depends on who you're asking,
00:06:44.540 right?
00:06:45.260 I'm asking you.
00:06:45.960 You're asking me for me.
00:06:48.220 You can't skate the,
00:06:49.620 you can't skate.
00:06:50.100 No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:06:52.500 Yeah, like I said,
00:06:53.240 a girl that just sleeps around. 1.00
00:06:54.240 She's not interested
00:06:54.920 in making a connection
00:06:55.680 with a guy
00:06:56.200 and she's got the mindset
00:06:57.660 that she can be like men 0.71
00:06:59.200 where she can have sex 1.00
00:07:00.140 without having any kind
00:07:01.160 of emotional attachment
00:07:02.060 to the guy,
00:07:03.480 you know,
00:07:04.180 then,
00:07:04.700 and she's not concerned
00:07:05.660 about racking up guy
00:07:07.220 after guy after guy.
00:07:08.700 And to me,
00:07:09.060 I consider that
00:07:09.680 to be hoeish behavior. 0.97
00:07:10.700 It's not behavior
00:07:11.780 of a woman
00:07:12.540 who's really interested
00:07:13.940 in the long term.
00:07:14.780 She's more interested
00:07:15.480 in the short term.
00:07:16.860 Do you ask girls 1.00
00:07:17.520 what their body count is?
00:07:18.660 No.
00:07:19.400 No?
00:07:19.900 No.
00:07:20.800 Do you?
00:07:21.360 No.
00:07:22.640 I never have.
00:07:23.480 I don't feel like
00:07:24.180 that's a good question
00:07:25.320 to ask
00:07:25.720 because if you do,
00:07:26.520 it's always going to come back
00:07:27.400 with a negative response
00:07:28.500 or a lie.
00:07:30.100 But Pearl, 0.50
00:07:30.440 the reason I don't ask
00:07:31.260 is because we don't have to ask.
00:07:33.080 So there's certain questions
00:07:34.100 you can ask
00:07:34.720 and you know the body count.
00:07:35.860 There's certain reactions
00:07:36.660 that women with high body counts 0.77
00:07:38.740 give off
00:07:39.280 and there's certain energy.
00:07:41.320 So we can just already
00:07:42.280 just,
00:07:42.920 we know.
00:07:43.680 So I want to ask the girls,
00:07:45.920 do you feel like,
00:07:46.960 because as women,
00:07:48.300 I think we know
00:07:48.980 a little bit more
00:07:49.600 behind the scenes
00:07:50.380 than men typically do.
00:07:52.760 Do you think that men
00:07:54.000 can tell a girl's body count 1.00
00:07:55.420 based off of like
00:07:56.860 your friends
00:07:57.440 and your friends' friends?
00:07:59.720 To a certain extent.
00:08:01.420 Yeah?
00:08:01.960 To a certain extent.
00:08:03.140 What extent?
00:08:04.400 In a way where
00:08:05.420 there's a lot of girls 1.00
00:08:07.900 that I knew
00:08:08.520 back in the day
00:08:09.340 that had no intention
00:08:11.140 of sleeping around
00:08:11.980 but maybe they might
00:08:13.580 have been with friends
00:08:14.440 that have possibly
00:08:15.340 done all of that
00:08:16.160 and then it makes it seem
00:08:17.780 as if like
00:08:18.420 you do that shit too. 0.77
00:08:19.960 Sorry, am I allowed to swear?
00:08:20.800 Sorry.
00:08:21.360 You do that stuff too.
00:08:22.780 So it kind of gets
00:08:24.700 looked upon like
00:08:25.480 you're one of them.
00:08:27.520 So no.
00:08:28.780 But like...
00:08:29.180 At the same time,
00:08:29.900 birds of a feather
00:08:30.440 do flock together.
00:08:31.260 They do.
00:08:31.900 But why can't,
00:08:32.600 it doesn't necessarily
00:08:33.480 have to mean that
00:08:34.100 the girl's doing the same thing. 0.99
00:08:34.820 It doesn't necessarily mean it
00:08:35.780 but sometimes you have
00:08:37.120 to carry yourself
00:08:37.740 with the kind of people
00:08:38.500 that you want to be
00:08:40.840 like,
00:08:41.840 I don't know how to say it
00:08:42.740 but...
00:08:43.900 So if you're with the hoes 1.00
00:08:44.780 you're at home.
00:08:45.740 So when you,
00:08:47.140 when the police
00:08:47.600 pulls over your car,
00:08:48.560 if he pulls over your car
00:08:49.400 and three people in the car
00:08:50.460 have known to for drugs
00:08:52.660 you're going to get searched as well.
00:08:54.120 That's because in your car
00:08:54.840 with three people
00:08:55.280 that are known for drugs.
00:08:57.060 You know a lot of times
00:08:58.020 in your area
00:08:58.760 there can be one good boy
00:08:59.920 you know what I mean
00:09:01.000 and he has some friends
00:09:02.380 but just because they're friends
00:09:03.240 you all stay together
00:09:03.940 and your mum might say to you
00:09:05.620 stop hanging around
00:09:06.280 those friends
00:09:06.580 stop hanging around
00:09:07.000 those friends
00:09:07.440 because they're not like you
00:09:09.000 but you hang around
00:09:09.840 because they're your friends
00:09:10.960 whenever you get stopped
00:09:12.400 or whatever happens
00:09:13.180 you're going to be
00:09:14.000 they're going to treat it the same
00:09:16.840 and that's because
00:09:17.420 a lot of the times
00:09:18.220 mud sticks.
00:09:19.720 So if you don't want to be
00:09:20.680 known as a hoe 1.00
00:09:21.600 or you don't want people
00:09:23.940 to treat you like one
00:09:25.220 then if you hang around
00:09:26.320 with girls like a lot of hoes 1.00
00:09:27.240 then it makes it a lot harder
00:09:28.360 for you to be the one
00:09:29.100 that's actually different
00:09:30.220 you know what I'm trying to say to you.
00:09:31.340 So it doesn't mean
00:09:31.980 you're a hoe 1.00
00:09:32.320 if you hang around with hoes 1.00
00:09:33.120 like there can always be
00:09:34.080 one good girl
00:09:34.600 that generally is a good girl
00:09:35.560 but by rule of thumb
00:09:37.280 you might not
00:09:38.040 you might not want
00:09:39.600 to hang around people
00:09:40.260 which don't have
00:09:40.900 the same type of interest
00:09:42.080 or activities
00:09:42.920 as you.
00:09:44.360 That's me personally.
00:09:45.220 As many of you know
00:09:46.000 I was just banned
00:09:47.240 on TikTok
00:09:48.120 and we are demonetized
00:09:49.860 on a daily basis
00:09:51.080 on this platform.
00:09:52.940 If you want to help
00:09:54.240 please consider
00:09:55.120 sending a super thanks
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