JustPearlyThings - People Don’t Change as Much as You Think (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 Allah in the thumbnail. It is not my fault that your Christian brothers and sisters keep using 1.00

00:00:09.180 corn stars in church that make great thumbnails. I'm not going to use the old trad women. Do you 1.00

00:00:16.380 know what I mean? Like if there is a hot woman, you guys are going to come at me for using her 1.00

00:00:22.000 in marketing. Are you kidding me? BS. So today we're going to talk about personality traits

00:00:31.360 and if they change over time. Now this show was actually inspired by a tweet that I saw,

00:00:41.440 but if you guys want, you know, you don't have to. We are raising money for a divorce documentary and

00:00:46.960 I'd really like to get the editing started in about a month, a month and a half. So

00:00:53.280 being that there's a GoFundMe link in the description, we're trying to get to $100,000.

00:01:01.480 It'd be cool if you guys could donate. If not, the show is free, so do enjoy. Okay, so this tweet

00:01:07.860 that I saw was from that guy that's trying to live forever. Let me pull it up.

00:01:16.960 Brian Johnson, I think his name is. And Brian Johnson is this guy basically who,

00:01:26.180 he made like a billion dollars on, I think, PayPal or some app. Who cares, right? And then

00:01:33.580 he decided that he was going to, you know what's funny? I watch his show and I always think that

00:01:39.740 this is something autistic that looks like something I would do. The Brian Johnson guy, 0.91

00:01:44.280 if you see his page, this guy, he has this like don't die thing where he's like trying to live

00:01:51.320 forever. And he just autistically like measures every level of health. And I was laughing when I

00:01:59.080 saw it because, you know, I would explain this to normal people, like maybe more well adjusted,

00:02:05.620 less online. And they would say that's a crazy thing to do, but I thought it was kind of cool.

00:02:10.680 Anyways, that's neither here nor there. He had a post about his high school reunion.

00:02:18.180 And he said, I had my 30-year high school reunion last night. These sorts of events had a way of

00:02:24.880 inviting a unique sobriety of observation. First, the vast majority of everyone that had left the

00:02:32.640 Mormon church. This is very surprising given the deeply religious adherence of our small

00:02:37.680 30,000 person town during our childhood. If my class is representative of Mormon membership,

00:02:43.900 generally the religion is evaporating, at least in this geography and demographic. I wonder if that

00:02:50.300 holds true for other religions. So I would agree with this sentiment in general. I would say people

00:02:57.000 are less religious. The religious crowd, if you find, they tend to get studies from like

00:03:02.440 very right-leaning institutions. But generally, if you look at the general trends of church

00:03:09.460 attendance, it's mostly down. Second, everyone was basically the same as when we graduated.

00:03:17.080 After 30 years of life, the similarities of behavior were fun to see. This isn't surprising,

00:03:23.300 as evidence shows the stability of personality excluding substantial life-changing events.

00:03:31.120 Third, given the stability of personality over a lifetime, if you're not happy with your behavioral

00:03:37.240 patterns, best to be sober about the challenges of changing oneself because you will inevitably become

00:03:44.720 your patterns. 30 years is 10,950 days and I left concluding, one needs to live each day as if that

00:03:54.840 day will one day determine where they will be 30 years from now. Fourth, statistically by our 30th

00:04:00.960 reunion, we'd expect to have lost less than 20 of our classmates, but I think we've lost more many

00:04:06.760 to suicide. In the next 10 years of age 50 to 60, it's expected we'll lose 20 more and 40 more from age

00:04:14.340 60 to 70. Only 250 out of the 400 will still be alive when we are 80. Fifth, our childhood experiences

00:04:22.080 deeply affect our life outcomes. Middle school, junior high, and high school can be especially brutal and

00:04:28.420 some people never recover or overcome. This led many to not attend. For those that did, we found a vibe

00:04:35.220 together last night that allowed for some long-needed healing. It's insane how fast life happens. I'm still

00:04:42.160 struggling to comprehend how 30 years has passed and many of my classmates are now grandparents and I'm

00:04:47.280 not too far off either. I loved my childhood. I loved my friends. Of course, I'm exhibiting a bias of

00:04:53.100 favoring the positive. However, in contrast to the world my children grew up in, I'm grateful that we

00:04:58.780 had so much freedom to explore, play, be independent, and not be in prison to our devices. I wonder if

00:05:04.320 social media and device addiction is really the next great plague that we can't or refuse to see.

00:05:10.300 Well, I think we all know that social media is messing up our brains, but you can't really.

00:05:16.060 I mean, I was thinking about this the other day. I think most relationships start either through

00:05:20.060 social media or dating apps. So if you don't do it that way, you're kind of left behind.

00:05:26.180 I mean, you might die alone. Not always, but I'm just, I'm saying that's a huge pond there.

00:05:32.020 If you don't do it that way, you're kind of cooked to some extent.

00:05:38.180 So this show, you know, what I thought was the most interesting about this topic

00:05:42.940 is what he said about personality traits and how people consistently, even if it had been 30 years,

00:05:51.940 had the same core personality traits. And this really got me in like deep thought for like two

00:06:00.580 days. I don't, I don't think that this is what social media is rotting our brain. I don't think

00:06:05.240 it should have had me thinking for two full days, but I thought so much. I just thought I must,

00:06:11.140 I have to do a show on this topic. Now my dad, he's the wisest guy I've ever met in my life. I am so

00:06:20.040 delusional that I literally think my father is smarter than Donald Trump. I do. And my dad,

00:06:27.320 I say this to him sometimes that my dad is just like, what is wrong? You know, but I do. I'm like,

00:06:33.180 I don't think, I'm like, if I wish I could have a camera following my father for a day because that

00:06:43.520 is the most productive, most intelligent and just good natured man I've ever met, really. I mean,

00:06:50.140 it's kind of what made me in a way less religious because my dad, he's not really the most religious

00:06:56.580 guy and he's the most moral person I've ever met in my life. And the religious people I would meet

00:07:04.240 would be batshit crazy. Not all, but just enough, especially the women. If I'm being, if I'm going 1.00

00:07:11.140 to be like for real here, women are the worst marketing for any religion ever, ever. If you 1.00

00:07:18.340 want people to come to your church, there's this idea and maybe the boobs will get the men in for a 1.00

00:07:23.600 little bit. But then once the women crash out, anyways, neither here nor there. So a couple of 1.00

00:07:29.960 years ago, this story doesn't make me look the best, but I'm going to tell it anyway. I was dating

00:07:36.480 this guy. My dad just was not the biggest fan. This was like in my early twenties. And, you know,

00:07:43.660 I was talking to my dad about him and I was like, dad, do people change? You know, like the bright eyed,

00:07:51.200 bushy tailed, young little pearl. Right. And he looks at me and he said, yeah, people do change.

00:07:57.020 They get worse over time. I got to stop banging the desk, don't I? And he said, they get worse over

00:08:04.080 time. So any trait you see now that you don't like, just know it'll be worse in 10 years. It will not

00:08:11.700 get better. And this really had me thinking at the time I did end up breaking up with this,

00:08:19.520 this guy. I did end up dumping him, but it got me thinking, um, about what I'd seen in terms of

00:08:26.560 people's personality traits. But when you're young, you know, I think there's just a level.

00:08:31.020 And this is why men love the young women. We're just so full of hope back then. You know,

00:08:34.980 we're so naive. We're so like bright eyed and bushy tailed. Um, but I personally know what it's

00:08:42.100 like to be bright eyed and bushy tailed and have people, um, and I should say movements take advantage

00:08:48.920 of that in a way, you know, they sell you a future, they sell you hope when really no one can really

00:08:54.100 say for sure what's going to happen. But if we follow where the trends are going, it's all pretty much

00:08:58.840 not great if I'm being honest here. Um, neither here nor there. I gotta, I gotta stop going down

00:09:07.680 this. So anyways, at the time I was in my young twenties and when my dad said this to me, I didn't

00:09:16.160 really have the life experience or the perspective to know if that was true or untrue. But I have to say

00:09:23.280 whenever somebody has done me wrong in life, whenever there's been somebody, and I keep saying

00:09:30.540 this on the show, whenever there's been somebody that has done something negative towards me, I keep

00:09:36.820 saying my enemies, they have a tendency to take themselves out. There was a woman, not even going 1.00

00:09:41.680 to say her name, but she's been crashing out on me for years. And I would say mercilessly has bullied 1.00

00:09:47.120 me. And, uh, you know, I choose to be here. So I I'm not playing victim. I'm not, I'm just saying

00:09:52.980 objectively, I think she made videos pinpointing every little detail of what is wrong with my face.

00:10:01.180 You know, I, I, you know, it's like, I'm just trying to talk and she has a video nitpicking every

00:10:08.360 little part of my face. I'm like, can a bitch exist? You know, that's how women are. And it turns out, 1.00

00:10:17.040 you know, I'm not even going to the rumors about her, but I'll just say they're, they're 10 times

00:10:22.820 worse. And the things I found out about this woman, I'm like, you have to deal with yourself. 0.98

00:10:33.080 I don't even have to get revenge. And I think that's really been true for the most part in life

00:10:39.620 is people that have a super negative trait about them. It tends to not change. And I would say it tends

00:10:45.860 to just get worse over time. Now I do think people have ideological shifts. So I do think I have

00:10:54.040 seen men and women go from conservative to liberal and liberal to conservative, but I do at times not

00:11:00.800 Nala, but I do at times think there's genuine change in those shifts. Um, but you know, for example,

00:11:09.420 I have a close friend who he's a, I love him, but he's a libtard. You know what I mean? He is who he 1.00

00:11:17.300 is. And, um, but he used to be very far right. And I would say the people that tend to go one way and

00:11:25.880 go another, it's more of a personality trait where they're just very open-minded. You know,

00:11:31.320 they're very, and while they might believe one thing or another, maybe they're really naive and

00:11:36.120 they're just the, that kind of person that is a naive person. And that can be easily swayed one

00:11:42.100 way or another where, you know, I've always, um, I've always envied in a way people that could just

00:11:49.900 have an opinion and not have to talk about it or think about and think about every angle for three

00:11:55.440 hours, because I guess I make money doing this now, but in, in an average world, you know, when I was

00:12:01.460 younger, I used to not go out to bars. Like I would be invited to events and I wouldn't go because

00:12:09.260 I wanted to binge YouTube. Like, I think something is off with me. Do you know what I mean? I'm like,

00:12:15.800 that's not normal for a 23 year old woman to do like, I, you know, and I remember my friends,

00:12:22.800 they would, they would ask me to go to stuff and I would just be really bored by the idea of like

00:12:28.000 going to this event where I'm going to do what, I'm a bad dancer. Now I have to get all these

00:12:33.040 calories. I'm going to have to work off later. I should just hang out and do YouTube. I've heard

00:12:37.640 the zoomers are worse than the millennials. I'm almost a zoomer, but not quite. So, but it still 0.98

00:12:44.140 gets me thinking, I think people's core traits are the same, but at times there is a skill deficit.

00:12:51.900 Give you another example. I was never the type to really shake it and move on the dance floor.

00:12:57.180 I never, I was always kind of grossed out, but you know, when I was younger,

00:13:02.280 it was really grinding or nothing. And I'm like, why does it, why do these have to be my choices?

00:13:07.980 It's like grinding or like white people jumping. I'm like, well, these are my choice. So I never 0.96

00:13:14.040 liked dancing. But then I learned the skill of salsa dancing. And I actually thought it was really fun

00:13:22.100 because, you know, it was more of like a framework and I'm kind of athletic. So,

00:13:28.280 um, so I may act different in that environment and in an environment I normally would just be off to

00:13:33.800 myself because I had a new skill. And I think that's true sometimes with men and women where men,

00:13:39.580 I mean, women are kind of scary. And I think men know that from a young age, you know, the woman says 1.00

00:13:43.940 you hit her, even though she hit you five times first in the playground. And now you're,

00:13:48.900 you're grounded, right? So men learn from a young age, it's like women of all this power, 1.00

00:13:53.860 she'll insult you. And then the second you insult her back, your mom's like, what are you doing? 0.95

00:13:58.660 You mean? And you're like, are you kidding me? So I think men kind of start, uh, you know,

00:14:04.740 kind of afraid of women. And there are men that that's kind of something they have to overcome

00:14:09.120 to approach women in public or like say hi to them, whatever. That's a skill. But if you ask any of

00:14:15.960 people that know them, who they are at their core, you know, they're either friendly, the friendly guy

00:14:22.860 in the group, the, you know, there's always the leader in the guy group because men naturally can

00:14:27.960 have a hierarchy. Women's leader in the friend group is usually the bitch where men's leader in 1.00

00:14:33.280 the friend group is usually the most competent one or charismatic, I'd say in general, because men 0.99

00:14:39.740 naturally can organize themselves a little better. Where women, it's like, who can get away with the 1.00

00:14:44.860 worst behavior? We're going to put her on top. Um, but neither here nor there. 1.00

00:14:54.660 I think people's core is pretty much the same from the time that you're a young age.

00:15:01.940 And the amount of time it would take, like, I'll give you, I'll use me as an example because it's

00:15:08.360 just easier. And I'll use someone else in a second. I've always been a friendly, talkative person.

00:15:13.960 I've always, you know, I could always talk someone's ear off. I've always, I've always been

00:15:18.620 the smile. You know, when I was in college, I don't think most people knew I was conservative,

00:15:22.860 but I was always the type, like, I don't think it would surprise people that I'm a YouTuber now.

00:15:28.060 Like I used to rollerblade on campus with my dog and like a tie dye shirt. I'd have cat shirts.

00:15:33.300 So I think people might've thought I was a hippie. Do you know what I mean? Because of the way I,

00:15:38.160 I used to be big into the cat shirts actually. But if you talk to me, my core, you know, was an

00:15:45.960 outgoing person and the amount of time it would take me to be introverted, I'd rather just kill 0.87

00:15:50.700 myself. Like it would just, I like the, the amount that I would have to fight to be something I'm not.

00:15:57.240 And, you know, and I think that's like a lesson you have to go through in life. 0.98

00:16:03.200 If you're a polite person, being a bitch is just not going to come to you. You probably can't do it. 1.00

00:16:09.280 You can learn skills to maybe that people don't take advantage of you as much. 1.00

00:16:14.300 But if you're a bitch, you might as well be a bitch for a good cause. I saw this crazy woman on Twitter 1.00

00:16:19.880 and this was a woman obviously addicted to social media, obviously a trad con ethot. And, um, 0.97

00:16:28.120 to the point where there was the, she put like a selfie next to the parks shooting, right?

00:16:35.180 And that's a disgusting thing to do. I'm a lighthearted person. So I'm saying this probably in the wrong

00:16:40.440 tone, but you know, when she's doing this, I'm thinking this woman's crazy, but this same crazy 1.00

00:16:50.120 woman got like 400 liberals fired. And I'm thinking that's a woman using her crazy for good at least, 1.00

00:16:56.460 but the amount of time it would take her to undo the crazy impossible. I mean, some guy would have

00:17:03.220 to wrestle it out of her. Uh, good luck. Uh, she'll do that to you. To be fair, she will do that to you 0.97

00:17:08.160 when you guys break up, whoever's dating her. So, you know, I'd, I'd, you know, be, I'd be warned,

00:17:13.400 but. And so that's really what I was really thinking of it. I was wondering if you guys had

00:17:21.740 the same experience, if you've seen people change or if they generally say the same, I've seen people

00:17:27.460 maybe have slight ideological changes. Um, I've seen at times maybe certain environments change people,

00:17:35.600 but, and I've heard people say the military changes people. Now, I don't know. I need you

00:17:42.800 guys to call in. I know there's a lot of military people that watch this show. Um, and I cannot,

00:17:48.120 I've never been in the military, so I cannot speak to that. And I know this comparison I'm about to

00:17:54.040 make is a terrible comparison to the military. This is not the same. This is not the same. I'm gonna,

00:18:01.020 but this is the only comparison I have based on what I've seen. Okay. So please don't roast me,

00:18:08.640 but this is, so when I did volleyball, this is not the same, but we did have volleyball. Like we did

00:18:17.640 have very extreme workouts in, in volleyball. Now for women, I will say, but we had like three minute, 0.98

00:18:25.460 I actually picked my school because I've just naturally, I'm a very passionate person and I've

00:18:33.500 realized in life this at times can be my greatest strength and my greatest weakness. Um, but I really

00:18:40.020 wanted a volleyball school that was going to push me. And I actually picked the school I did because

00:18:46.020 they didn't follow NCAA guidelines. I think they got in trouble later, but I wanted to be in the gym more

00:18:52.680 because I was like, this isn't enough. I get like two hours a day. This is bullshit. Women whine. And 1.00

00:18:57.260 then they, we had, they limit your gym time. They say, you can't be in the gym longer. And these coaches,

00:19:02.500 they did not care. They did not. So if you wanted to be anyways. So hang on, it's all right. So

00:19:11.700 we would have like 50 burpees. I think we had to do in like a certain amount of time. I think it was

00:19:18.200 like two minutes or something. You had to do 50 burpees. You had to do the beep test over a certain

00:19:24.820 number. You had to do an 800. And there were women that worked harder than I would say they normally 1.00

00:19:31.820 did. But I would still say, if you looked at the group of women, you could pick out the three women 0.99

00:19:39.300 that usually worked the hardest and the three women that usually like, there is this one girl and I knew 1.00

00:19:44.380 she was going to be a balloon. I knew she was going to be fat because we would have to do these group 1.00

00:19:48.620 workouts. And oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. She would always like, we would have to do, I think it was

00:19:55.600 50 burpees in four minutes. I would have to look at the book. I don't remember, but there was one way

00:20:01.540 you did the burpees where it was like a hundred and it was like a group of six or three or I don't know.

00:20:07.520 But I, all I remember is we kept having to restart this challenge because of this young woman who was 1.00

00:20:13.760 just very lazy. I think that's actually the worst trait you can have in the wife is a lazy woman. 1.00

00:20:19.600 I know hardworking is more of something women select for, but when I look at my brother's 0.93

00:20:24.580 girlfriends, my, I just can't stand lazy like women, to be honest. So they've all done pretty 1.00

00:20:31.720 well with that though. Got girls they've chosen. Anyways. So this girl for a few years, I would say

00:20:40.580 she did complete the workout. She maybe got a little bit better, but after college she blew up 1.00

00:20:46.060 like a balloon. Like it was like, and I knew she would because her personality at its core was lazy. 1.00

00:20:53.300 When someone was screaming at her, maybe she could be a little bit less lazy, but you know, that's just

00:20:58.440 who she was. And I've never seen people's core change over time. Sorry. Not really. And there are

00:21:10.580 some traits that are so apprehensible that I get, you have to work on them, you know, and I would argue

00:21:16.820 lazy is one of them. But what I was thinking about in this in-depth thing is how in general,

00:21:25.640 it's kind of a waste of time to try to be something you're not because in general, you kind of are who

00:21:34.160 you are. And I think from a young age, like my mom told me, she said, when you were four years old,

00:21:40.860 you were singing. So from the time I was four years old, I was always singing a song. I was always

00:21:46.900 taught. And in contrast, one of my other siblings, I'm one of 10. So I think I've had the privilege of

00:21:53.780 seeing how personality traits are very much, I think, genetic, a lot of it. Because I actually

00:22:01.260 have a unique story about this. So when I was younger, I grew up, I was one of six kids. So

00:22:08.340 my original family, I was the second of six, I was the oldest girl, between two boys. So if you guys

00:22:13.240 are wondering why I can think like this, thank my brothers. But we ended up adopting three siblings.

00:22:20.260 So we had three siblings that we like adopted. They were like teenagers. So they weren't like

00:22:27.460 originally in our family. Like one kid was homeless on my brother's football team. Another kid was like,

00:22:33.340 they were just kids in bad situations. My parents weren't like looking to adopt. I mean, we're glad

00:22:37.840 we did. But they were like 15 when we got them. But anyways, when I'm 22, my parents sat us down.

00:22:43.980 And I found out I had a brother that grew up actually with a different family because my parents

00:22:49.180 got pregnant, like pretty young, and they didn't really know if they were going to be together.

00:22:54.080 And so they ended up giving this kid up for adoption. I had a grown brother. And I think I was

00:22:58.480 22 when I found out and he was like 30 something. So he was an adult, right? And we ended up meeting

00:23:05.240 him. And this guy, or my brother, at the time, he was just like a stranger to me, right? I couldn't

00:23:12.300 believe how similar he was to my family. Before that, I thought that it was nurture over nature

00:23:19.960 because I would look at these single mother stats, right? And I would look at them and I would just

00:23:25.520 say, oh my gosh, you know, kids in these environments are cuckoo. But I met my brother

00:23:32.200 and my brother, he walked like my dad. He, you know, he studied economics in school, which is what

00:23:40.980 I studied. He grew up in the middle of nowhere. I don't want to say too many details, but he grew

00:23:45.860 up in the middle of nowhere. His parents had never left his hometown. And he traveled the world on a

00:23:51.920 boat, which is my family. I grew up traveling the world. Like I was sent off to Japan when I was 12 by

00:23:59.120 myself. When I was 10, my mom sent me off to Germany. I met somebody they knew there, but you

00:24:05.160 know, some would look at that as a lot for a 10-year-old, but it wasn't, it's not really a big

00:24:09.740 deal. My family, I don't know, they just, she was like, you want to go to Germany? I'm like, hell yeah,

00:24:15.480 I do. And I'm like 10. And they're like, all right, we'll see ya. And then I saw one of my old nannies at

00:24:20.280 the time. But this got me thinking that really trying to be something you're not is a waste of time.

00:24:28.480 Learning skills is not. Approaching women, that's a skill. I have seen men go from being shyer to like

00:24:36.140 being able to, I would say it's the skill of displaying your personality. Maybe learning

00:24:43.420 social skills because we're all autistic. I mean, let's be honest, if you're under 30,

00:24:48.780 you got some level of not real autism, but like technology-induced autism. And if you're going to

00:24:58.080 pretend you don't have it, I don't need you to gaslight me today. You know, you know, to some extent

00:25:05.740 because to exist, we really have needed technology. I don't know. I always wonder how, if my brain

00:25:13.180 would start changing to understand directions if I didn't have GPS. But my whole life, I mean, what,

00:25:19.300 am I going to learn directions when I could just plug it into my GPS? Why would I do that? It's a waste of

00:25:25.000 time. And this is also matches up with what my dad has said to me. And I'm going to tell you about what

00:25:32.020 I think is my worst traits, one of my worst ones. You know, I've always, I've just never been an

00:25:38.200 organized person. And I think you guys feel it through the camera. I start the show late. I think I've

00:25:44.800 changed the time like three times this year. And I really wish I wasn't like that. And I think,

00:25:52.400 you know, somebody that's really organized, what they tend to do is they tend to judge the disorganized

00:25:59.620 for being how we are. And I think I, you know, I, I just did it in this stream, right? I judge lazy

00:26:05.140 women for being lazy, right? But the thing is, most people probably hate their negative traits more 1.00

00:26:12.880 than you do. Like most, most people know what their negative traits are to some extent, at least by

00:26:19.600 the time they're 30, maybe not young, maybe not young women. Actually, they're pretty delusional, 0.95

00:26:24.260 but no, do you know what? I have a theory on that different show, but if I'm, if I'm hearing from

00:26:33.100 Brian Johnson, this guy is saying at his 30 year reunion, people still have the same personality traits.

00:26:39.440 It seems like a waste of time to some extent. Bad habits, you know, you can work to fix. Oh,

00:26:48.420 but back to what my dad was saying. I'm a woman. It's like, I keep thinking of all this. My dad was

00:26:52.700 telling me, he said, and I remember telling him how frustrated I was. I was like, dad, I am just so

00:26:59.960 disorganized. I hate that I forget things everywhere. I hate that I do. I, I forget things. I, I lose.

00:27:06.660 Do you know how many credit cards I've been through this? And do you know what? The worst

00:27:11.880 part is they don't get stolen. I lose them somewhere in my house and I find them later.

00:27:17.640 I, I'm not saying, look at, I'm not saying that couldn't happen to me that, you know,

00:27:21.380 I don't want to jinx it in case that does, but so far in my life that getting it stolen hasn't

00:27:26.820 been a problem. Me losing it somewhere in my house, that's been a problem. And he just said, look,

00:27:32.160 you got to focus on what you're good at. You're hardworking, you're passionate about things.

00:27:37.640 And he listed, you know, some of my more positive traits. And he said, look, at the amount of time

00:27:42.520 it's going to take you to fix your net, it's going to take you too long. You might as well focus on

00:27:46.340 what you're good at. And I thought about it and I'm like, what if Trump tried to be like a peacemaker?

00:27:52.600 I know, I know people kind of argue that he somewhat is in the position he is, but when you,

00:27:57.100 when you talk to him, I mean, he's loud, he's boisterous, he's this, he's that.

00:28:00.440 Imagine if he tried to be something he wasn't, it would just never work. He would just be a bad

00:28:04.980 version of that. And again, I've learned a lot of lessons from my dad and I think he's right. Like

00:28:13.880 I'm going to say 80% of the time, 80, 85, 90, I'll say 90. But I don't think people change as much as

00:28:25.560 you think. I think at times they learn skills that help them or move, they learn to better hide

00:28:32.760 their negative traits or they move into environments that help them thrive. Like I'll give you an

00:28:38.660 example. Imagine if I tried to be an accountant. Do you know what I mean? That would be terrible for

00:28:44.000 everybody involved. That would be terrible for everybody. I remember when I found this job,

00:28:50.640 I just thought finally I can, I can talk into a microphone. I can talk for two hours straight and

00:28:56.760 people have to listen. They don't have to, you guys opt in. That's why I like this. Cause you,

00:29:01.560 you opt in and, and I always, I just felt like, okay, this was finally an environment. I could be

00:29:07.760 good at something. And, um, I felt the same way in sports when I played volleyball because I felt like,

00:29:15.020 in school, I just couldn't always see the pragmatism and what I was learning. But if some,

00:29:21.820 if they taught me like a blocking technique and I started blocking better, you know, it would just

00:29:28.180 the turnover, like I would, I would understand it better. So anyways, my point is this. I don't think

00:29:36.460 people change as much as you think. I think most people hate their negative personality traits as much

00:29:44.620 as you do. And I think women miss this a lot in marriage and relationships. I think women,

00:29:49.680 we have a tendency to spend a lot of time nagging and, and bitching about a man's negative personality 1.00

00:29:58.980 traits when generally he knows and he doesn't like it just as much as, ah, women are really hateful. 1.00

00:30:04.860 So I don't know that maybe she hates it more, but you get the idea. Um, and women do it to each other 1.00

00:30:10.580 too. Um, I mean, women, I could talk about the relentless, you know, it's like the woman that 1.00

00:30:18.060 made the two hour video and how I could be more attractive. I'm like, don't, I wish I was,

00:30:22.580 do you know what I mean? And I'm not, I'm, you know, I'm not saying I'm ugly either. I'm not trying

00:30:26.760 to, but you guys see what I mean. I'm like, you don't think I, you know, wish that I, you know,

00:30:32.380 that I was like a Megan Fox level. I mean, that would be not, do you know what I mean?

00:30:38.280 Anyways. So, but I think in general, people's core stays the same. They might change environments.

00:30:47.080 They might change ideological positions, but you know, the people that are debating about conservative

00:30:53.140 and liberal, um, they might change teams, but they're the same type of person in the room.

00:31:00.080 They're the type of person to debate. Now I'm trying to think of where else I saw this.

00:31:07.760 Oh, Nala. I will, I will have to add Nala into this monologue. That's why these ex-corn stars are so, 1.00

00:31:15.940 um, dangerous is because they're really predatory and vicious. They've just changed teams. Instead of

00:31:22.120 getting the OF simps, they've moved to the church simps. A lot of you guys step right up. I mean,

00:31:28.820 I get more black-pilled every year. So this is a call-in show. And remember, this is an actual safe

00:31:35.500 space. So this, today, there are different shows where we'll have different ways of doing things.

00:31:42.080 But today, it's really not meant, I'm not going to judge you either way. I just want to see what

00:31:48.120 you've seen. Have you seen people have radical personality changes?

00:31:53.440 At this point in my life, I just don't think I have. Not from the people that really know the

00:32:01.500 person. I will say maybe some life events instill humility in somebody that never had

00:32:07.600 humility. You know, you ever see like a woman after she gets like pumped and dumped or something, 1.00

00:32:13.720 but then she gets more, you know, then she gets more bitchy after because she gets bitter and then it 1.00

00:32:18.840 gets worse. So never mind. Never mind. So we're going to put the link, can you put the link in the

00:32:24.080 chat? Then we'll do the Zoom. Let me, so I'm just curious what you guys have seen in terms of

00:32:40.580 personality traits. Well, I think I emailed it to myself. Yeah, this is from 41 minutes ago

00:33:03.440 because I don't have signal on this computer. All right, we got Doug MPA.

00:33:17.400 Well, welcome. Sorry, I unmuted myself forgetting. Welcome to the show, Doug MPA.

00:33:26.520 Hey, how's it going?

00:33:27.720 So what are your thoughts on the topic? Have you, what do you think? Do you think people change

00:33:36.420 over time or do you think they mostly stay the same? They mostly stay the same. If you guys really

00:33:42.880 think about it, the douchebags that you went to high school with are still douchebags. I knew this kid 0.98

00:33:50.080 one time and he, he was an asshole in high school. And then I was out and about in community college. 1.00

00:33:57.720 And then I saw him and he was in sweatpants and like a sweatshirt and he was walking all funny.

00:34:05.320 And he had like a medical aid with him. We were at the movie. He was at the movie theater because I

00:34:10.180 was about to go see a movie. And I'm like, Hey man, like, are you okay? He's like, yeah, you know,

00:34:14.480 I ended up having cancer. And then I was allergic to some of the cancer treatment. So I had like a minor

00:34:20.780 stroke and I had to learn to walk again. And I almost died. And I'm like, Oh my God. Wow. Like,

00:34:26.700 you know, this must've been a life changing experience. I mean, are you okay? He's like,

00:34:30.520 yeah, I'm okay. Whatever. I was like, all right. So, um, a new retail store opened up in my hometown

00:34:38.480 and I applied there. This is when I was like, uh, in my early twenties, I applied there and I started

00:34:43.480 working there and this kid started working there. So we started working together and he was still

00:34:50.440 the same asshole that he was in high school. And at this place that we worked at, and he went through 0.99

00:34:58.580 like a life changing, he had a stroke, he had to learn how to walk again. He almost died. And it's like,

00:35:03.560 so those stories where someone has a life, um, a life changing experience and change their behavior

00:35:09.600 that doesn't happen guys. No, no way. New. I've never seen that happen where someone goes to do

00:35:15.600 something. Well, I'm asking. So I'm trying to think of if anybody, I mean, I've seen maybe,

00:35:27.980 I think people could change maybe like 10%, 15%, but I did have another story. Um, an undergrad,

00:35:38.540 I worked at a, uh, a home improvement store and this guy, he was retired. He, he was a Vietnam vet.

00:35:46.140 And I used to always be out in the garden. I used to like it out there because people would just leave

00:35:51.980 you alone. And this guy always needed stuff that had to be brought down with a forklift.

00:35:57.320 And so he'd be sitting there. I got to know him because, uh, in the evening time, the garden is

00:36:03.620 the last place anyone wants to be. So he'd always be waiting for someone to come for a forklift. And

00:36:07.440 I kept apologizing like, sir, I'm so sorry you have to wait. So one day he's like, son, why do you

00:36:11.920 always apologize? I have nothing else to do except be out here and wait for my bricks to be brought

00:36:17.120 down. He said, son, when I was young, I was a hothead. I used to get in fights all the time,

00:36:21.340 this, whatever. Then I did two tours in Vietnam and that really chilled me out. He's like, you know,

00:36:29.440 after that, he's like, I haven't thought of a time I haven't got upset because, because I survived two

00:36:34.380 tours in Vietnam. So he, he's one of the few people where he told me his story where he did have a life

00:36:40.180 change. But in general, people don't change. In fact, guys, um, if you, most of the time, if a man

00:36:49.660 leaves a woman, it's because you see where the ship is floating with that woman, you know, where 0.99

00:36:56.220 she's going to end up and you got to jump off the ship before she takes you with her. Like most of

00:37:02.900 the women that, you know, that are going to be baby mamas are going to be baby mamas. Most of the 1.00

00:37:08.420 women that you think are going to be whores are going to be whores. You just have to choose early 1.00

00:37:12.520 on if you want to deal with that or not. What do you think about that? Probably? No, I totally agree

00:37:18.420 with you. I was just thinking back. I cannot think of any, but I'm, I'm only, you know, I'm under 30.

00:37:27.120 I'm going to, I'm going to hold on to that as long as I can every day. Um, but so I don't know,

00:37:37.280 I could change my mind in 10 years as a woman. I do reserve the right to change my mind at any

00:37:43.120 time. So, but I cannot think of anybody that I like went to school with, or I knew from childhood

00:37:53.180 that is that different or had like, like most of the girls I knew that were pretty lazy got fat 1.00

00:38:00.760 and I saw that coming. There are, there are ways to take your negative characteristics

00:38:09.040 and they could turn it into a positive thing. So my sister is everything that we talk about.

00:38:15.320 She's in her late forties, never had a serious relationship. She's never going to, right?

00:38:20.280 So when she, um, but she's one of the most selfish people I've ever met. 1.00

00:38:27.820 And so she'll date these Pookies and Nug Nugs, but you don't ever have to worry about them getting 1.00

00:38:35.160 money or anything out of her because her family can't get anything out of her. No one can get 1.00

00:38:40.280 anything out of her. You have to, you have to pry money from her cold, dead fingers before you get 1.00

00:38:47.400 money from her. Understand what I'm saying? Yeah. So she's, she's actually really good with money 1.00

00:38:53.480 and she has a lot of things. She's one of those women where she spends frivolously, 1.00

00:38:58.020 but she's also like the most selfish person I've met, but it's paid off because she has a lot of

00:39:02.740 stuff, you know, she's, she plans financially well and she keeps all the money to herself.

00:39:07.300 You know, imagine a successful woman. No guys, imagine you're a man who has a mastery and six figures, 0.96

00:39:15.460 but you've never spent money on a woman ever in your life. That's my sister.

00:39:21.700 What are traits that you would say you have not seen change and will not change? So I'm going to,

00:39:29.980 I'm going to start. I have never seen a lazy person. Stop being lazy. I've never seen it.

00:39:37.380 I've never seen an outgoing person or shy person.

00:39:47.840 I've never seen somebody, instead of outgoing, I'll say not talkative because someone can be shy,

00:39:53.700 but still talkative once you get to know them. But I've never seen like a not talkative person,

00:39:59.240 like magically become talkative or outgoing person become shy. Yeah. What are,

00:40:05.660 what are other traits you've seen? So probably selfish. That doesn't change.

00:40:10.120 Selfish. I've never seen a petty person not be petty. You're petty, right?

00:40:16.680 I'm one of those.

00:40:17.560 I live that petty life. Let's go.

00:40:22.980 Hey, um, bitchy. Um, yeah. Yeah. People that complain. Oh, um, 0.99

00:40:30.020 people that are late. Oh yeah. People that are late. They'll never not be late ever.

00:40:36.020 Yeah. Ever. And it's, I think one of the problems of life is people always project how you want

00:40:42.020 someone to be. And I think the happiest people can just accept and adapt. You know what I mean?

00:40:49.040 Like, um, if women are late, then show up to the date 30 minutes late. Cause you're going to go 1.00

00:40:54.720 crazy. You're going to go crazy. Expecting them to be on time. You might as well be late. 0.97

00:40:59.460 Yeah. Yeah. Go ahead.

00:41:01.700 There's some other ones. Oh, um, uh, people that, Oh, Oh, people with integrity.

00:41:08.740 If you don't have integrity by the time you're, you're in your mid twenties, you're just not going

00:41:14.920 to have it, you know, as in like saying what you doing, what you say, having follow through a lot

00:41:23.480 of people, they just won't have it. Oh. And then people, so there's normally two kinds in the

00:41:29.800 corporate world and in public service, there's two kinds of people. There are people whose skills

00:41:35.320 and abilities make them important by their work ethic and their work output. And then there are

00:41:40.440 people who, who try to schmooze and lie and, and, and, uh, latch onto other people's work

00:41:47.380 to become important. So men and women, huh?

00:41:52.220 Yeah, pretty much. So if a person is the type of person that tries to lie, cheat and steal their way

00:42:00.220 to the top, they're never going to change that. They're always going to be trying to find some kind of

00:42:05.140 hustle. They're always going to try to latch onto your dream and, and milk you for money. 0.97

00:42:09.600 They just, you, they start doing that early on and they never stopped doing it.

00:42:17.480 Those are good. Do you have any more? I'm going to milk you. I'm going to milk you for these.

00:42:21.020 Cause these are good.

00:42:21.820 Uh, it's another one. Um, Oh, have you, have you, have you hired people at work?

00:42:29.980 Yeah. I have. Okay. I was like, it sounds, it sounds like you've done hiring. Go ahead.

00:42:33.620 Yeah. And you know, I've, I've managed people too. Um, Oh, um,

00:42:39.860 a codependent people.

00:42:42.640 Okay.

00:42:43.080 Uh, people. So we all have that, those people, they're always in a relationship, like always.

00:42:51.340 Oh, like I know a guy literally, he's been in a relationship with one woman or another

00:42:57.560 or his wife since we were 17 years old.

00:43:02.680 And he's, he's my age and he's married now, but he was never not in a relationship.

00:43:07.760 Must be nice. Um, are there any other ones? Um, Oh, people that can't drive people that drive for

00:43:19.560 shit. I'm a bad driver. That's right. No, you're not. You're actually a really good driver. We 0.99

00:43:26.520 talking about really, you're giving me around. You didn't back into any mailboxes. You, you

00:43:32.480 curbs that we talking about. Okay. I'm not terrible, but here's my problem. I, I can zone

00:43:40.020 out and that's usually when shit hits the fan. Uh, what else? Um, uh, I already said integrity. 0.99

00:43:50.760 I would say people that, um, uh, Oh yeah. Um, so there's this book that I always plug called

00:44:01.640 messy. It's, it's called, uh, it's written by Tim Harper. It's called messy. How to be creative

00:44:09.280 and resilient and a tidy minded world. So guys, okay. You don't want to be a dirty person where

00:44:16.520 your house, it smells really bad, whatever, but they're just messy people. Like I'm one of those

00:44:22.320 there are people where you have clean clothes, but they just never make it on the hanger.

00:44:27.140 I understand what I'm saying. Or, um, you, you, you clean your dishes, but you pull them

00:44:33.540 out of the dishwasher to use them. And if you're not a super clean and tidy person, it's not a bad

00:44:41.840 thing because you, that energy, that super tidy, clean people use for that you use towards other

00:44:49.060 things as in like creative endeavors or, or stuff like that. So don't feel bad. If you're a messy

00:44:55.600 person, you're using that energy for other aspects of your life besides cleanliness.

00:45:01.840 Yeah. And I think that's from a young age. Yeah. I do think part of it's a skill issue. Like, um,

00:45:08.680 because like a lot of people didn't grow up with moms teaching them how to do that stuff. But I,

00:45:14.260 I do think messy and like clean from a young age.

00:45:17.420 Yeah. So I think, um, once again, I think everyone should be, should have cleanliness,

00:45:23.980 but you know, if you have stuff going on, I've worked two jobs most of my life, even

00:45:29.020 when I was in undergrad school and I was pursuing so many things that I just didn't have time to be

00:45:34.480 clean and tidy. And so, yeah, most of the time, if you're a messy person, just, you know, just accept

00:45:41.280 it and try to figure out a way around it. Yeah. Oh, like it's easier to hire a maid than it, 0.99

00:45:46.620 like, or get like a cleaning service, then try to change your whole personality.

00:45:51.380 100%. Yeah. 100%. Oh, uh, what about this? People that read books.

00:45:57.700 Okay. Do you know what? I used to be a person that read like a ton. Like when I was a kid,

00:46:05.020 I was like the top AR person. And do you know what stopped it? You know, when I stopped reading so

00:46:10.420 much, I got a fricking smartphone. And then I could, I could listen to the podcast. I'm like,

00:46:17.800 this is way better. Why did I read ever? I swear. I used to be like the top AR point or whatever in

00:46:26.880 my class. And then, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Although the, the books I do read, I still get physical books

00:46:35.620 because I like the smell of the pages and I, you know, I like holding the book in my hand

00:46:40.000 when I read, I've, I sit in front of a computer all day, you know, working for this channel and

00:46:45.840 working my day job. I don't want to read a book on an iPad too. You know, no way. Someone put in

00:46:51.860 the chat, what do you think about, um, being a morning person or a night owl? Do you think that

00:46:57.600 you can change that? Okay. I have done both. I have. Um, okay. I'll just speak from my experience.

00:47:07.940 I can't, I don't think I've observed enough people. I have always been a night owl, obviously.

00:47:15.480 Um, and I can get to the point where I can get up at like eight o'clock or maybe seven 30. But if I

00:47:23.220 have to get up before that, I can't do it. I did 5.00 AM for like six months and I wanted to die the

00:47:28.800 whole time. I wanted to, it was like, I felt awful. So I don't know. I don't know if I can get to like

00:47:36.960 seven 30 or eight easily, like getting up is that's, that's not a morning person though. Right. That's

00:47:43.060 like normal. Yeah. That's normal. Morning people are those, um, you ever have a job where you have

00:47:50.640 to be there at six and like, Oh hell no. Oh hell no. I'd rather kill myself. No. I remember,

00:47:57.520 you know, I worked at a home improvement store and the old guy, the older guys were like, Oh yeah,

00:48:02.900 it's six o'clock, you know, but by six o'clock half the day is gone already. I'm like, you better

00:48:07.460 get out of my face. No. Okay. I disagree because their day just ends sooner. You still know. Okay.

00:48:15.520 Like, because I did, I used to wake up at 5.00 AM for this like CrossFit class and I was in my,

00:48:22.180 I was in my, I used to do a 5.00 AM CrossFit class when I worked a sales job. So I would go

00:48:28.420 before work and I would think, Oh, well now I have all this. Now I'll have all this time after work,

00:48:34.360 but you start going to events and you're yawning. Do you know what I'm like? Cause if you want to sleep,

00:48:40.860 uh, seven hours, if you get up at five, that means you're in bed by 10. So if you go to an event

00:48:47.720 and that means sleeping by 10. Okay. So that means in bed by like nine or eight 30. So if you go to an

00:48:55.340 event, like, which I would say normal events, volleyball leagues would be like seven to nine.

00:49:00.600 I mean, you're yawning at not, or like even in your twenties, you might go out from like 10,

00:49:05.840 10 PM to like one or two in the morning. I remember, I just, I would try to go be social

00:49:11.940 or go to something and I would just be yawning, you know? And I just, I couldn't. Yeah.

00:49:18.000 I knew a girl and, uh, she, she bought a house that was way too big and she was, um, she had roommates, 1.00

00:49:28.320 but then they all moved out. So she's struggling to make her rent. So she had her day job,

00:49:34.260 but she was able to swing working a retail job. This is during the cough, cough. She's able to

00:49:40.040 swing because she was remote. So she's able to swing working two retail jobs during the time that

00:49:48.820 she was supposed to be working her day job. So she, she would get up at six in the morning

00:49:54.280 and work at an Amazon warehouse from six to 11, and then get what was done. Supposed to be done on

00:50:01.600 her day job from like 11 to three and then go to another repo, another retail place from three to

00:50:06.820 seven to make her bills. Right. So one time her friends were like, Hey girl, you should come out

00:50:13.020 with us. Uh, you haven't been out in a while. It's been a while. She's like, well, I can't cause you

00:50:18.000 know, I have to, I have to work to pay my bills. Come on girl. So they went to this comedy club. 0.95

00:50:23.580 So she left the retail place and went to this comedy club. And then they said, okay, we're going to go

00:50:29.980 somewhere. She had a couple of drinks there and they were going to go to this like bar or whatever

00:50:34.100 afterwards. And she was driving her Jeep and she was waiting in the left turn lane at a red light.

00:50:43.120 And she fell asleep behind the wheel. And so people called the police. Woo. Right. And she was at the

00:50:50.620 comedy club and she had a couple of drinks. So guess what happened? She blew a DUI. Oh no.

00:50:58.740 Yeah. All cause she decided to go out. So she, she got, she got up at five o'clock in the morning

00:51:04.760 to go to the Amazon warehouse at six, work till seven and then tried to go out, ended up getting

00:51:11.120 a DUI cause she fell asleep behind the wheel cause she was up too late.

00:51:17.540 Yeah. Um, as a night owl, I can get up to like, I think 7am. If I can really stay off by phone,

00:51:26.460 I think seven is the earliest I could get to, but five. Oh hell no. I'd rather die.

00:51:32.720 Are you a nap person, Pearlie? Nope. I can't nap. You don't take naps? Nope. Oh man. I got to 1.00

00:51:39.880 have a nap during the day, like 30 to 45 minutes or I get upset. Only if I got drunk the night before

00:51:47.360 then I might, then I might need a nap, but just normally no. Um, all right, let's, let's see what

00:51:52.380 the people think. Um, guys. So what I want you to do is please make sure your YouTube is

00:51:57.960 not playing in the background. Uh, make sure your mic is on. You don't have to be on camera,

00:52:03.940 but it would be nice to see some of your faces. So if you want to be on camera, it's cool.

00:52:09.340 Um, if, if you guys don't, um, get your technology working, I'm going to have to boot you. You just

00:52:16.160 got to figure it out. Um, yeah, go ahead. Just so fast guys, make sure to like the video, subscribe

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00:52:55.120 It's good to see you there too. Go ahead, pearly. Yeah. And guys, by the way, I really love giving

00:52:59.700 people good faith interviews and I can bring on some pretty interesting characters, but I got to get

00:53:05.700 enough people on the website where I'm employed. If I do that, it's something goes south with YouTube.

00:53:11.360 Um, you know, we've talked about having Nick F on and if we get enough people on the website,

00:53:16.200 I might do it. Um, the other thing, what was I going to say? Um, also it helps fund the

00:53:23.840 documentary. So if you want to donate, feel free. Um, okay. So if you come on, we're asking,

00:53:29.260 have you seen people change over time? If so, what traits did you see change? We're going to start

00:53:35.780 with Strat. Strat. How's it going? Um, yeah, I can hear you. So what are your thoughts on the

00:53:45.120 topic? Um, do you think people change? Uh, there's a Tony Robbins quote. It goes, people only change

00:53:52.680 when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change. And, uh, that's what I've

00:53:57.560 noticed. You have to hit rock bottom before you're willing to change. And if someone isn't willing,

00:54:04.180 then you should just let them suffer. Like, it's not my job to fix you. You know, I'm not the keeper

00:54:09.940 of the peace and I'm certainly not going to be captain of USS Sabo. Yeah. So let's go. So are

00:54:16.520 there any instances that you've seen somebody change? Um, if so, what traits changed about them?

00:54:23.460 Uh, myself, I changed, um, two years ago, I was a hermit, terrified of women, never left the house 1.00

00:54:31.660 and I didn't do salsa dancing, but I learned, uh, waltz and swing and stuff. And that really like

00:54:38.020 did the exposure therapy necessary to stop being afraid of girls and, you know, did improv comedy

00:54:43.320 and all that kind of stuff. So. Do you think like people that knew you would say your whole

00:54:48.720 personality changed or you just got, Oh really? Okay. Cause from what I've seen. Nothing like I used

00:54:54.500 to be. Really? Cause when I talked to shy or guys or guys that I think have done that, like similar to

00:55:00.260 you, it's not really usually their person at like their core personality is the same. They just

00:55:05.440 learn the skills to show it, but you would say that's not the case. Like you, like I'm thinking

00:55:11.540 of somebody I knew from high school who was really quiet then, but this guy, when he was with his

00:55:16.340 friends, he was funny. He was, you know, when he was in more of a relaxed environment, but he just

00:55:21.160 didn't know how to showcase that, you know, to women in an appropriate way. Uh, would you say that 0.99

00:55:27.780 was your case or that you really just changed your whole personality? I think there was like

00:55:32.720 elements to that where like, when I was playing video games, maybe world of Warcraft, I would get

00:55:36.840 and be more animated, but I actually did have to learn like social skills. I read what everybody

00:55:43.520 is saying by John Navarro, the FBI dude to learn body language. I read what women want by Tucker 0.99

00:55:49.660 Maxx and all the red pill books. And they like tell you step-by-step autistic style, how to be fun, 0.95

00:55:55.960 how to like, uh, do a personality that women like, you know, be a little James Bond, a little mystery, 1.00

00:56:02.980 a little pirate to get you a little winch going. So you can do things to be fun. And I just didn't

00:56:08.760 know that. I just wasn't aware. And like, no one ever told me, my dad never sat down and told me,

00:56:13.060 Hey, is that you'd be fun. You know, you tell her this, you poke. So it's that amused mastery that

00:56:18.400 like I'm having fun. And this girl, she's just a little girl who cares, whatever. Like I'm here

00:56:21.940 to have fun. And that element was like a cheat code when you start acting like that. And the

00:56:27.560 dancing, of course, you know, that's also one of the biggest cheat codes you can have to become

00:56:32.520 more social wait tables. Yeah. Honestly, because that's what cracked the code for me. My first job

00:56:40.860 waiting tables opened up a whole new world, man. So I was Kevin Samuels. He used to tell the guys

00:56:46.960 that were engineers and stuff like that. Get a part-time job, waiting tables or become a

00:56:52.740 bartender. I think Aaron Clary says do that too. Yep. That's what happened for me. Yep. So you,

00:56:58.920 you went from world of Warcraft to the suave gentleman we see in front of us right now. Good

00:57:04.180 job, man. I was in a musical earlier this year. Thank you very much. So like right after dancing,

00:57:09.220 it was improv, did improv comedy, was in on stage doing improv, then learned to sing,

00:57:13.920 Ben did a musical right after that. What? Okay. So what traits do you think cannot be changed?

00:57:19.960 And what traits do you think can, this could be either observations from yourself or people that

00:57:25.540 you know, uh, narcissist personality disorder. Like if someone's diagnosed mentally ill NPD or

00:57:31.260 borderline, it's no go. I mean, even, even therapist will not take borderline patients. So yeah,

00:57:37.140 if she has like, you can, you can tell there's like tests you can do to see if someone has

00:57:41.800 borderline, if she has borderline guys run, there's no, it's, she's just a huge liability. 1.00

00:57:46.280 Look at Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. You don't want any puck in part of that shit. Like run for the 1.00

00:57:50.680 hills. It's not fixable. You're not, it's not your job to fix anyone. You're not a doctor. Okay.

00:57:55.160 Don't be USS save a hoe. Get out, find a better girl. Don't settle for that. 1.00

00:57:59.900 So if she's mentally ill, that's for any other traits. Like what about, um, outside of mental illness?

00:58:06.560 Um, if she likes you enough and she's not mentally ill, most girls will get on your program, 0.97

00:58:14.020 but you have to be like celebrity larger than lifestyle or, or so, so much what she wants

00:58:20.220 that you're like a celebrity. Don't you? Sorry. Go ahead. That's what I was just saying. Like if,

00:58:24.780 if you're a celebrity like Drake, sure girl will do whatever you want, but sometimes you can be like 0.98

00:58:29.220 a small town hero and still get that celebrity status and she'll adore you. It's just, you gotta be

00:58:34.680 the exact right type that she wants. Don't you think that's just for a time period? Because I

00:58:39.280 guess I come at it from like the female like side. So we'll see like the friend date the guy

00:58:44.440 and you know, her traits may be changed for like a year, but everybody knows that like, 0.95

00:58:51.740 like, come on, at some point she's going to stop the act and be who she is.

00:58:57.120 Yes. If it's, if the man doesn't understand his role, so a good leader will keep her in line

00:59:03.900 such that when her behavior starts acting up, he's like, look, uh, as a policy, I do not tolerate

00:59:08.460 disrespect. And if it's a problem for you, you can, you need to leave. And then a lot of girls 1.00

00:59:12.420 would be like, Ooh, like straighten up, you know, cause they're testing him for his strength. And if

00:59:16.740 he shows strong leadership, then all that shit testing will go away and she'll just fall in line 1.00

00:59:21.400 and be submissive. And that can last a while. The problem is her friends, those goddamn friends, 0.99

00:59:27.380 man. They're always, and when he's bare minimum, he can do better. Meanwhile, she's like a three or a four 1.00

00:59:32.340 and I'm over here doing musicals and I'm not good enough for her. And so a lot of times,

00:59:36.580 even if you do everything right as the guy, her fucking friends will still get in her ear and 1.00

00:59:40.900 ruin it. I can add to that by saying, if you're a seven, um, date a four where, you know, she's a 1.00

00:59:49.920 four because you, you literally treat her like she's disposable. Like, you know, you're, you're above

00:59:57.060 her league. And if you treat her like she's disposable, she'll stay around. 0.99

01:00:02.740 No, I tested this. I tested this. There's a website called photo feeler and you have random

01:00:10.640 people rate you one to 10, right? I came back and ate on a good day. My ex was a four dude, 0.97

01:00:16.660 eight and a four. And she still thought I wasn't good enough for her. I'm just like, I don't know.

01:00:20.700 These women are just delusional and entitled. There's no hope. 1.00

01:00:22.840 Now, were you treating her like a four though? Like you're great, dude. I'm a freaking,

01:00:26.940 see, that's your problem. You got to treat her like a four as in, as in she, she needs to not 1.00

01:00:32.660 know what each day is going to be like. Like you, if she asks you what's on your mind, just say,

01:00:39.440 I got nothing. And if she asked you too many times to tell her to leave, you know what I'm saying?

01:00:44.300 I wasn't being a simp. Okay. I was being a great leader. I was like having fun dates. I wasn't

01:00:48.820 texting her all day, by the way. I was just two to three dates a week, light and fun. Then I don't talk

01:00:52.700 to her and she's wondering all the time. And we're going dancing in the stars and we're on

01:00:57.380 the beach and we're going to arcades. The next four you date, treat her like she's a four,

01:01:01.300 like, like you don't need her around because that whole mystery thing, like what's going to happen

01:01:06.640 each day. Now, the problem is having to, having to keep and maintain that for a long period of time,

01:01:13.020 especially if you're like a empathetic person and like a nice person, you're going to have to act

01:01:18.180 contrary to your nature. So some guys have a natural where they can treat a woman, 0.71

01:01:22.560 you know, like she's disposable all the time. But, you know, if you're actually a good person,

01:01:27.460 whatever that means, you have to learn how to act contrary to your nature, man.

01:01:32.740 I don't know if it's like treating her like a lot of guys get hung up on this point of like,

01:01:36.660 you have to treat her badly. You have to make her insecure. You have to make her think that you're

01:01:41.100 out of her league all the time. So you can still be a great guy and just make it feel like

01:01:46.120 you don't have her on this pedestal. Like you're, you like her and you enjoy spending time with her,

01:01:51.420 but you're kind of like still figuring out if she qualifies for you and you don't have to be an 1.00

01:01:55.500 asshole to do that. And it's a very, it's so hard to be a man. Oh my God. 0.99

01:01:59.620 Yeah. I'm sorry. Go ahead.

01:02:02.880 Yeah. Well, but the, I was just thinking how like Doug, it doesn't, even if you do treat her like that,

01:02:09.100 it's like at some point, you know, women just leave. It's just kind of what we do. 0.99

01:02:13.340 So yeah, I guess I can, I will. That's part of it. If you can't be an asshole, just say nothing.

01:02:23.200 Honestly, because I hate treating people badly. So if I'm with a woman, I just say, if they say, 1.00

01:02:31.540 Oh, what's on your mind? What are you up to? Nothing. I got nothing, nothing, nothing.

01:02:35.600 You always say nothing. Cause I'm not doing this. Instead of treating her like garbage,

01:02:40.820 don't tell her any stories. Just say, I got nothing. 1.00

01:02:45.520 I really like being an amazing boyfriend. And then when she steps out of line, just strongly

01:02:50.100 asserting a boundary, like as a policy, I don't tolerate disrespect, crying, arguing. And if that's

01:02:54.860 a problem for you, you need to leave and not say, no, you don't even ask her, you know, you can leave.

01:03:01.040 No, you need to leave because my peace is more important than you ruining my life. Like you

01:03:06.000 need to leave so I can be alone. Cause I'd rather be alone than you disturbing my peace. And having

01:03:10.120 a strong boundary like that is like, it's almost feminist friendly because you're asserting a 1.00

01:03:14.780 boundary, but you're still being like red pill, strong alpha male. So she still gets the like

01:03:20.240 instinctual desire to fulfill a masculine purpose.

01:03:24.100 So what were you like before you, um, where you said you were just doing world of war craft and

01:03:29.400 you were like quiet.

01:03:30.760 I was a software engineer. Uh, so I, I worked for 10 years, uh, cooking software, retired,

01:03:36.720 bought a home, bought two of my dream cars. And now I just sing and dance all day.

01:03:41.360 Oh, so, so your friend, have you noticed any of your friends? Did they do anything similar or was

01:03:47.120 it just you?

01:03:47.620 No, I tried. They're all simps. All my friends are simps walked on and I'm like, dude, you need to

01:03:54.220 set the boundaries. You can't let her talk to you like that. Thank God. One of my best friends 0.99

01:03:57.720 finally did dump this girl and like a two, she's like obese walking over this guy. He's a great 0.87

01:04:02.480 singer and shape and everything. And he finally, because she like insulted her, his mom, you know,

01:04:07.960 I'm like, brother, you can't let your girlfriend, your ugly girlfriend, that's all your mom. What are 0.97

01:04:11.040 you doing after the respect for yourself? So it's, it's coming around, but yeah, most dudes are just

01:04:15.720 completely blue pill, just simping out. It's a tragedy. What's your age group?

01:04:22.800 How?

01:04:23.500 I'm 35.

01:04:24.440 Oh man. And they haven't learned by now? Uh-oh.

01:04:29.040 One last question. What kind of cars?

01:04:31.820 I have a Honda's 2000.

01:04:33.720 Okay. That's a good one. What about the other one?

01:04:36.100 Uh, I have a Suzuki, Jixxer 600 and a Jaguar.

01:04:40.400 Good man.

01:04:42.100 Yep.

01:04:42.940 A lot of fun.

01:04:43.640 Thanks for calling in. Call in any time, all right?

01:04:46.600 Sure. Thank you.

01:04:47.520 You can put a show panelist on your list of things, you know?

01:04:51.100 Yeah.

01:04:51.860 I know.

01:04:52.180 Great job, man.

01:04:52.700 I don't know if I want that title.

01:04:54.200 I'll see you.

01:04:55.900 I'll see you take care.

01:04:57.640 All right.

01:04:59.180 We're literally on a streak, Pearlie, of good callers. What a good call. Wow.

01:05:04.280 Yeah. All right. Let's see. I think this guy called in yesterday.

01:05:07.200 James, uh, thanks for calling in. So we're asking the question, do people change over

01:05:16.820 time? What has been your experience? This can either be yourself or people that you've

01:05:24.600 observed. Go ahead, James.

01:05:27.140 James is on mute. You have to unmute, buddy.

01:05:30.440 Am I on? Am I good?

01:05:31.620 Now you're good. Now you're good.

01:05:33.520 Can you hear me?

01:05:34.440 I can hear, I can hear you.

01:05:36.800 So, okay. I just wanted to make sure it wasn't playing through the computer twice. Like, you

01:05:41.280 know, running back. Yeah. Um, you know, I, I thought for a long minute on this one, I

01:05:48.680 was like, damn, I know a lot of people that like, just like work and stuff. There's probably 0.51

01:05:53.460 one person and that's it. Probably one person I could think of. And I was in college and

01:05:58.860 I met this kid and this kid would get drunk, like blackout drunk, like all the time, like,

01:06:04.740 like obliterated. Right. And I remember just saying one day, like, dude, you know, if you

01:06:09.500 didn't get drunk, you'd probably actually do something with your life. And like, he continued

01:06:13.680 to get drunk for like a year to two years, but then I know where one day he stops drinking

01:06:19.700 and then I'm like, okay. So like six years go by, you've got like 30, 40 Airbnbs living

01:06:25.680 in Miami dudes rich now. And I'm like, I think he stopped drinking. And he told me he was sober.

01:06:30.940 I contacted him like maybe four months ago. Cause I saw him on Tik TOK. And I was like, he's

01:06:36.380 like, yeah, I stopped drinking like three years ago completely. And I was like, damn, bro. 0.99

01:06:40.740 But that's the only time I've ever seen someone change. Never other than that. I think that's 0.99

01:06:46.660 nice. Do you think that's almost like, um, how do I put it? He probably still has the

01:06:52.240 addictive personality type, but he just stopped like doing something. Would you agree with

01:06:57.900 that? Or do you think he like his personality changed? I think what it is is that, cause I

01:07:03.320 see this a lot with people. Cause it's like, I'll coach some people just on like business and

01:07:07.440 consulting. And some people it's like, you could be addicted to something like me personally. I used

01:07:12.760 to be addicted to working out. Like I had to work out like three, four, five hours a day. Right.

01:07:18.940 But then when it never became a part of me playing like pro hockey anymore, I was like, well, I don't

01:07:24.260 have to do this. So now I smoke like six hours a day instead of going to the gym. So people usually

01:07:29.760 just replace it with something else. If they're addicted to something, I think he just replaced it

01:07:33.820 with making money. Like, and then he was like, ah, I'm just not going to go back to drink it.

01:07:38.340 So I don't think people, especially if they have addictive tendencies, they're going to keep those

01:07:42.860 throughout life. So like, and the thing you said about adaptability earlier, those are the happiest

01:07:47.800 people, but by, by far. Could you tell me more about what you mean by that?

01:07:57.040 Uh, which the adaptability? Yeah. Adaptive. Sorry. I'm trying to remember what I said.

01:08:01.280 I'll talk for an hour and forget what I said. So God. Oh yeah. No, it's not a problem. So my father

01:08:08.860 is very adaptable. Like I see it all the time because he preaches it. Like he owns like three,

01:08:13.980 four businesses. He's had them for 20 years, never had to worry about money or anything,

01:08:18.620 even with his new wife. Right. So he's just always been able to shift and pivot even when things are

01:08:25.700 bad. Like I remember one time he's like, yeah, I lost one of the restaurants, the corporate,

01:08:29.300 they want to take it away. So we're sitting there for like a month figuring this out and he's not

01:08:33.540 freaking out. He's like, Oh, I already got something else figured out. I'm like, what are you going to

01:08:36.540 do? I'm like, he's like, Oh, I'm going to sell two of the cars I have and just be okay with that

01:08:41.400 for the rest of the year. And I was like, all right, we'll come back to him like two months later

01:08:44.820 and they tell him, Oh, we're not going to take the store. And I'm like, and I think it's just the

01:08:49.620 mindset of being always ready for anything. And then just, you know, going with it sometimes.

01:08:55.620 I think that's what is he not gives it people that cheat. Is he not emotional? Cause I see that

01:09:01.740 with my dad where my dad, every time I'm more of an emotional person. So if something's going bad,

01:09:07.700 I get very frustrated. And, um, but my dad, he's very calm. And so whenever, you know, like we almost

01:09:14.880 lost our house at one point, cause he made like a bad real estate investment and through it all,

01:09:19.480 he was very, he was kind of the same thing where we were going to lose like a lot, but he was so

01:09:24.580 calm because he's always, he always would tell me to just focus on the solution. Like you cannot

01:09:29.720 think about the problem. It doesn't get you anywhere. Just think of a solution. Think of a

01:09:33.860 solution. And I'd say he's just a calm, he bounced. Oh, he left. He dropped. I think he dropped,

01:09:41.600 but I was going to ask him. I was going to ask him. I think that's like people that aren't as 0.83

01:09:46.520 emotional. Do better with that. Oh, go ahead, James. Oh no. He's still there now. I see he's

01:09:50.740 back. Oh yeah. I think it cut me out for a minute. My computer like shut down real quick

01:09:55.360 and came back on. Yeah. That's okay. Did you hear what I said or no? Oh yeah. I heard the

01:10:02.040 emotional part versus non-emotional. I agree with that too. Cause I'm, I can be very emotional

01:10:07.000 in things, but I've learned how to like completely channel that at this point. But yeah, he's like

01:10:12.840 not emotional at all. Like it almost creeps me out. Like how non-emotional like, like as a, like

01:10:18.580 I looked at him as a father figure when I was a kid being like, this dude is like not emotional at

01:10:23.500 all. Like it's kind of funny. Right. And I'd be like, it's quite a good thing. Right. But for certain

01:10:30.220 things, it's kind of like, they, they don't have any empathy towards certain things. And then it's

01:10:35.100 like, yo, you see how that adaptability works like that? Because you kind of have to be,

01:10:39.580 you can't be too attached to anything or certain outcome. And I've kind of had to learn that. And

01:10:45.520 I've learned a lot. It helps so much because then you're like, Oh, no matter what happens,

01:10:50.160 you'll be successful at something. Like, I remember I lost my job. I was making really good

01:10:54.360 money like four years ago. I lost it going into COVID and I was freaking out. I was like, Oh my God,

01:11:00.320 I don't, you know, and I had a good amount of money in the bank and I was like, yeah, I was freaking

01:11:05.180 out. Now I don't even have half of that money now. And I'm starting a new business. I don't even have

01:11:09.960 a quarter of that money now. And I'm starting a new business venture and I'm not even worried in

01:11:13.620 the slightest. So I think the adaptability thing, it, it helps, but you lose a lot of like emotional

01:11:20.620 context for things sometimes because you're not paying attention to it. Yeah. Yeah. I agree.

01:11:28.120 Do you have any other thoughts on the topic that you wanted to say before we go to the next caller?

01:11:32.080 Well, um, the first guy was saying something about simps and like, yeah, I see it so much

01:11:39.580 with, with this generation of men. And I think it's because like, they've been force fed these

01:11:44.320 narratives that, you know, the feminist movement has like portrayed onto men over the last, I'd say

01:11:49.880 hardcore last like 10 years. And I think that's the problem because they're like, Oh, you have to be

01:11:54.500 accepting of this. You have to be accepting of that. Well, what if we don't want to be accepting of it

01:11:59.540 because we don't like it because we don't need it in our lives? And I think that's a perspective that

01:12:04.420 people haven't really taken. I'm not saying be militant about it, but I'm saying if you don't like

01:12:08.500 it and you don't accept it, don't put yourself around it. Just like I see some of these guys dating

01:12:13.180 some of these girls now, and they're just problematic. They're so problematic. And I'm like,

01:12:17.920 dude, why are you wasting your time? You can literally be out here at the club with me hitting up

01:12:22.500 eight signs and tens if you wanted, but you're sitting there dealing with your like four of a

01:12:26.960 girlfriend. It's like an ogre that just so she's all day. Like it makes no sense. 1.00

01:12:31.520 I'm going to say this guys are starting to do that, but unlike women, when they make an action, 1.00

01:12:39.140 they don't make a big scene out of it or anything. Guys will just disengage. You're seeing more and

01:12:44.060 more guys disengage. That's why this stupid male loneliness epidemic. When a woman chooses to be 1.00

01:12:51.020 single is celebrated, but a man chooses to be single and he's single and lonely. See men, we

01:12:56.860 vote with our feet and our dollars. So more and more men are just disengaging. You won't even see

01:13:03.220 him do it. You won't even see him do it. All of a sudden, they're just gone.

01:13:09.040 But I think what men need to do is I think they need to lean the opposite direction. Like I lean the 0.54

01:13:15.160 opposite direction. Like, yeah, I understand where a lot of women are sitting nowadays, but I'll say 1.00

01:13:20.800 this. There's a lot of women out there that are good women that are great women that like men aren't 1.00

01:13:26.800 even talking to. Like the spaces that I go into, into public, like I have no trouble talking to these

01:13:32.660 women and connecting with them, finding great women just in the public. I remember I got on the subway

01:13:37.220 in Seattle, which is a very democratic liberal. It's shithole of a town. But I met a writer for 0.97

01:13:45.380 I forgot. I got her business cards back here somewhere, but she's a writer for some big

01:13:49.140 newspaper. And I was talking to her for like the whole train ride. Come find out she's single. 1.00

01:13:53.860 And she's like a really sweet girl. And she came up in a really good family. And we're just talking

01:13:58.160 and she's like, yeah, I just choose not to date. Not because men are she's like, I'm not even focused

01:14:03.060 on my career like that. It's just, I haven't found somebody that really makes me feel the

01:14:07.780 way I should feel. And I can understand that because a lot of men don't know how to make

01:14:11.800 women feel the way they should to open up and be submissive. Because a lot of ideology today is, 1.00

01:14:17.620 you know, be a boss, be closed off. A lot of these women do want to be submissive, even if they do make 1.00

01:14:22.500 more money. A man supposed to make a woman feel a certain way, dude? Are you serious?

01:14:28.620 I'm well, I'm not saying you have to sit there and make her feel a certain way. But I

01:14:32.900 think about it as it's the way you frame yourself in the way you come off the way that I come off.

01:14:37.940 I don't try. Like I could, I can walk in most places and women notice me because of the way I 1.00

01:14:44.280 carry myself. I don't go out of my way to do it. It's just, they see it and they're like, okay,

01:14:49.760 he's interesting. I want to talk to this guy. But I don't position myself to where it's hood rat 1.00

01:14:55.620 girls coming up to me or stupid girls or girls that I don't want attracted to me. It's usually women 1.00

01:15:01.720 like, okay, this woman's intelligent. Like I can tell that she knows how to carry herself.

01:15:06.500 Yeah. Doug, I think it's just the only solution you really have. I mean, it's not that you should

01:15:11.640 have to do it, but like, what do it, it was making women feel a certain way. Like women are only 0.99

01:15:19.080 loyal to our feelings. Women aren't going to have integrity, right? Like that's all you got. 1.00

01:15:27.540 I think what it is now is, is, is because women try to say that men are intimidated by them, right? 1.00

01:15:35.520 Men are not intimidated by anything that can't eat us alive or kick our ass, right? But we are 1.00

01:15:41.580 concerned about the circumstances that come along with the woman. What is she going to bring into your

01:15:47.620 life? What kind of chaos? Because we have this thing where women are like, oh, women give up so 1.00

01:15:52.340 much to be in a relationship. And that's not true. A man has to sacrifice his mating strategy,

01:15:57.340 his time, resources, everything. And a lot of guys, they just don't want to do it. Men used to get

01:16:03.080 something for doing that, but they don't get, all they get now is entitlement, bad attitude,

01:16:09.840 unrealistic expectations. That's what comes along with being, with being with a woman now. 0.98

01:16:15.380 No, no, no, I don't blame guys for, for being single.

01:16:20.180 Yeah. I don't, I, I, I agree. It's just at times, I mean, I mean, you know, there's whole

01:16:26.340 like PUA communities to teaching this stuff, you know, it's cause to some extent it works.

01:16:32.580 Yeah. I'll say it works. It depends what you're learning. If you're learning psychology, like

01:16:40.000 actual human psychology and putting that into practice. Yes, that works. We're learning like

01:16:44.800 pickup lines and bullshit. That's yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, no, it's like, I just, I just meant 1.00

01:16:50.960 there's whole like literature on making women feel a certain way in order to get cooperation.

01:16:55.720 Unfortunately, or in 2025, that's all you got. Have fun with that. Yeah. Yeah. I don't go out

01:17:03.840 of my way. I don't taste them. I just attract who I attract and I don't settle for less. If

01:17:09.580 you, if I see a red flag, if I see one red flag within five seconds of seeing it is gone,

01:17:14.220 it's done up. I'm not even talking. I'm keeping it pushing. Don't get it wrong. Like I'm not

01:17:18.380 out here being game to 80 million chicks. It's like, nah, I've seen the way you move before

01:17:23.700 based on the psychological things I've learned, what I know. So nah, we've been playing. Cool.

01:17:29.500 Good man. So yeah, I'm not going to sit here and preach. All of them need all of me, but

01:17:34.260 the ones that, the ones that are worth your time, they will find you. If you're working

01:17:38.920 hard, isn't it? They will find you. You just, you just got to put yourself in the right environment.

01:17:43.300 That's all I preach. Cool. Cool. Thanks for calling in James. I appreciate it.

01:17:48.340 Yeah. Call in your time, man. Good call. Great caller.

01:17:50.980 We've had such a run. This is a generational run of callers figuring out their zoom and not

01:18:01.160 wasting my time ranting about a random thing. No offense guys. I do love you, but some of you come

01:18:06.380 on here and just say something that we were not talking about. Or at times we've had people say,

01:18:13.240 oh, I love you pro. I'm such a fan. What's the topic? It's like, it just derails the show.

01:18:19.460 So, but this has been great. This has been, this is what we're looking for.

01:18:23.480 Okay. So next we're going to bring on, here's Johnny.

01:18:28.280 And this is what we're looking for. All right. Turn off the zoom.

01:18:33.520 Here's John.

01:18:34.280 Oh, yeah. I mean, shoot. Hold on.

01:18:39.420 This is what we're looking for. Can I turn off?

01:18:41.640 Okay. Okay. Hold on. Hold on.

01:18:43.440 All right. That's all right.

01:18:44.820 All right.

01:18:45.840 Can you hear me?

01:18:46.740 You got to figure out.

01:18:47.280 YouTube's still on, buddy. Got to turn the YouTube off.

01:18:49.720 You're going to get five seconds.

01:18:50.800 I'll turn the YouTube off. Okay. Hold on. Hold on. Okay. I think I turned YouTube off.

01:18:56.960 All right. There you go. All right, Johnny. So the question of the day is, do you think people

01:19:03.940 change over time? Have you observed this in either your life or friends, or do you think

01:19:09.300 people are mostly the same?

01:19:10.660 Absolutely. Women change. They have a similar pattern. A few baby mamas and women, girlfriends, 1.00

01:19:27.340 et cetera. But men, like men will change when they get into a military or religion, but usually

01:19:38.660 men, they don't change as much as women change, I guess, for their feelings. 1.00

01:19:48.480 Okay. So I want to say my interpretation, and then I want to see if this matches with what

01:19:53.600 you've seen. I think that from a young age, women kind of are who we are at like 15, 16-ish 0.98

01:20:01.360 in terms of core personality traits. So I've known women that were really lazy, or maybe they 1.00

01:20:07.900 were really sweet, really easy to get along, whatever it is. But there are times where women 1.00

01:20:14.560 put on a mask for like one, I really think women can hold out for like two years, a few years, 1.00

01:20:21.580 but they will always revert back to who they were when they were younger. Like a lot of women that I 0.81

01:20:28.780 know that did crazy things, like in a divorce or in something, it wouldn't shock me because I knew

01:20:34.720 who she was when she was younger. Sure. So I'm curious, is that what you've seen or have you seen

01:20:41.420 something different when it comes to changing female behavior? Go ahead. No, no, that's correct 1.00

01:20:46.900 also, but also the tier of the man. So I've been able to hold that attention span for like 10 years.

01:20:56.200 Okay. You know, a few times. So, you know, but yeah, and then in between girlfriends here and there, 0.76

01:21:06.560 breaking into your house and getting naked and stuff like that, and just, you know, throwing

01:21:11.600 ourselves into your lives. So. Okay. What traits do you think cannot change when it comes to men and

01:21:20.540 women? Things that you can't change women? I just, I just, there's just that, like say, you know, 1.00

01:21:29.080 a lot of people like to bring history and biology and our past ancestors and stuff. I think naturally,

01:21:35.900 you know, the women or men died early. So they had to find a new mate. So a lot, a lot of it's like

01:21:43.500 cultural, uh, sins, lust, you know, society, you know, we're, we're in a cesspool right now.

01:21:52.600 So. Okay. Yeah. And, and we, and what was the question about men? I just asked what traits do

01:22:00.580 you think cannot change over time or don't generally change? Oh yeah. And for men, uh,

01:22:06.500 yeah, on the men's side, I don't know. I don't, I haven't, I'm many friends lately and I don't show

01:22:15.320 my face yet. Cause that's all right. You don't have to, right on. That's all right. Thanks for

01:22:20.520 calling in. Absolutely. All right. For the question, try and guess how many times a man

01:22:26.840 will change his, um, his sports team and his favorite sport in his life. Try and guess how

01:22:32.860 many times kind of stick to it once. Yeah. I was going to guess none, but cause I think my dad's

01:22:44.260 always at the same sports team. I don't really watch sports. If I had to gun to my head, I think

01:22:50.280 I'd pick the Milwaukee box for my favorite sports team, but I couldn't, I couldn't tell you anything

01:22:56.820 about that team. So obviously it doesn't mean much to me. It's just cause I got to go see the

01:23:03.080 fight. You know, it was funny when I was in Milwaukee. Um, Oh my gosh. I, because it was

01:23:09.400 through like an influencer thing. I got to go to the game seven of the Milwaukee bucks winning the

01:23:15.360 series. And all year, the guys at the work would be talking about sports and I'd be like, this is so

01:23:20.720 boring. Can we talk about something else? Like, obviously, and, or I would just like, I just wouldn't

01:23:26.000 care. And then I was the one that ended up with three tickets to game seven because it was like

01:23:33.980 through a brand or something. And then I literally saw them like win, you know, the whole thing and

01:23:39.720 like you stormed the court and stuff and it was pretty good seats, but Oh, you know what it was?

01:23:44.400 I think I interviewed the president of the Milwaukee box. So, you know, a gun to my head, that's what I

01:23:49.880 picked, but I still know nothing about the team. All right. So Chad, Oh, I think Chad Chaddington. 0.75

01:23:57.440 I think I remember him. He's called him before.

01:24:08.980 Chad, how's it going? Hey, what's up? Can y'all hear me? I can hear you. You're the guy that

01:24:16.640 hold on. There you go. Okay. I muted it. You're good. You're the, you're the guy you had all the,

01:24:25.360 you can't, you came in and gave me your stats one day, didn't you? Yeah. I remember you.

01:24:32.120 Chad's a Chad. Okay. So what are your thoughts on the topic? Do you think people change over time

01:24:38.040 or do they mostly stay the same? I would say on the whole, mostly stay the same. I have actually

01:24:46.900 put together a list for you since I know you want to get to the point and blah, blah, blah,

01:24:50.800 but I got like seven different. I got seven different psychological reasons that people

01:24:58.560 legitimately change in their life. Okay. Uh, and this is from psychology studies. Okay. Uh,

01:25:07.080 so number one, uh, and I actually have a couple with experiences. Um, the number one is a traumatic

01:25:14.060 brain injury. Oh yeah. Okay. And one of my buddies for 23 years now, uh, super partier, lots of drugs,

01:25:25.660 lots of alcohol, real like textbook alcoholic had to drink every day. Um, when he got into the accident,

01:25:34.040 which I was there for, um, 21 days in the hospital in a coma, uh, he had to go through detox while in

01:25:43.800 the coma. Um, and when he came out of it about three to four months later, when he finally started

01:25:53.280 getting back to normal, he's probably about 90% back to, uh, and this is six, seven years ago.

01:26:02.700 So he's about 90 to 90 and not quite 95, 90% back to normal to where he was pre traumatic brain injury,

01:26:10.360 except he has no, like he lightly drinks now. He's not an alcoholic. He doesn't need to drink every day.

01:26:18.720 His temperament totally changed, uh, was a very alpha male fight. Everyone, blah, blah, blah. I had

01:26:25.660 to calm him down from so many fights constantly. Um, very laid back now doesn't even want to step on

01:26:32.640 an ant rather go around an ant pile. But the biggest thing was the drugs. Uh, he, he was probably

01:26:39.740 couple few years away from dying from, you know, not just pot. We're talking like Coke and every once

01:26:45.740 in a while, crack and stuff like that. And 25 years seeing this, I never thought something would

01:26:51.420 change him, but yeah, traumatic brain injury. Number one thing that would actually physically

01:26:56.340 legitimately change someone. Uh, number two, I've studied, uh, over 250 near death experiences.

01:27:06.240 And I will tell you that no one comes back from a near death experience, not changed.

01:27:12.220 Every single person has come back changed from a near death experience that I've, uh, researched.

01:27:20.060 Um, how did they change? Like in what way? Is it life decisions? Is it their, their core? You know,

01:27:27.140 like if I went through a near death experience, would I be quiet? Would I be a quiet person tomorrow?

01:27:32.320 Do you know what I mean? Like in what way do they tend to change?

01:27:34.960 So I'm glad you asked that though. The number one thing I tell people about near death experiences,

01:27:40.720 again, I've read over 250 cases and I've listened to over 500 in the past 20 years. Um, and the

01:27:49.580 remarkable thing about near death experiences is the funniest thing I find about it that I researched

01:27:55.960 is that 90% of atheists that have near death experiences will come back somehow spiritual or

01:28:05.100 religious. Okay. And 90% of super religious people will come back and leave their religion

01:28:15.800 and seek a more spiritual path. Yes. It is great. It is, uh, it is so weird.

01:28:25.880 How many atheist stories I've read that have come back and became spiritual and how many physical

01:28:32.500 nuns, priests, deacons, men and women of church, they actually come back and they're like, man,

01:28:39.880 I was so wrong. Jesus is there, but he doesn't want me to be this devout Bible thumping, get

01:28:46.680 everyone on board, blah, blah, blah. He wants me to live a peaceful life and, and show people

01:28:52.040 that you can live a peaceful life and love everyone and blah, blah, blah, blah, without

01:28:55.640 having to go to church every week without having to do this. It's crazy how, uh, again, I put it as

01:29:03.520 number two, because no one comes back from a near death experience and doesn't have a life altering

01:29:10.240 change. So, okay. Cause what you're saying, I wouldn't say as a personality change, right? Like I don't think I

01:29:17.960 would not be a different person if I just, you know, either one started going to church on Sunday

01:29:24.080 or stop. So I'm just, I'm just wondering, was there anything deeper that you felt like in terms

01:29:29.620 of their like core traits of who they are? Yes. Uh, getting kind of going back to the traumatic brain

01:29:38.640 injury, uh, with my buddy and everything, the majority of people that come back from near death

01:29:45.840 experiences do experience a physical, emotional, mental change in their lives as different people,

01:29:54.220 like literally coming back. If you're, if you're an asshole and you die and you see all this stuff 1.00

01:29:59.580 and you come back, you're a little bit lighter. No one comes back. No one comes back more of an 1.00

01:30:04.900 asshole. It's usually they come back. Oh, I was a, I was a 10 asshole. Now I'm like a two to three. 1.00

01:30:11.820 Okay. Okay. And that's, that's, that's men and women. Oh, that's the funny thing. The last two

01:30:17.820 are, are more men and women directly too. So just letting you know. Okay, cool. What's that? So

01:30:23.800 number three, a horrific death of a loved one. P I've seen several people in my life change from

01:30:35.700 the hard partier, the, or, or not just the hard partier. I've seen the super, uh, work is everything.

01:30:45.800 I work 80 hours a week and that's all I do. I don't care about my family. I provide for them.

01:30:50.620 They're good enough, blah, blah, blah. Well, once a horrific, like, let's say, and I'm, when I say

01:30:56.380 death of a loved one, I'm talking about someone they consider they love the most, a mother, a father,

01:31:01.840 a child, uh, the best friend they've known for 40 years, stuff like that, a real, real close someone

01:31:08.480 they truly love. And then they go through, uh, that horrific death and it kind of wakes them up

01:31:14.680 to change themselves type of thing. Okay. And I've seen several people do that throughout my life.

01:31:23.160 Nothing notable. I can give you like off the top of my head, except, uh, one of my friends back about

01:31:31.820 15 years ago lost their child and they were a, uh, 60 hour a week dad, um, you know, missed a lot of

01:31:42.320 stuff in school for their kids and everything. Well, when they lost their oldest child, all of a sudden

01:31:49.120 now they're super dad, you know, they're, they're like now 40 hours a week or less and everything's

01:31:57.360 about their children. And you can literally physically see the change from a more, a less

01:32:04.080 compassionate person to a more compassionate person. And these are legitimate changes, not just

01:32:09.060 temporary. So. Okay. What's next? These are great. Number four, uh, age.

01:32:19.120 Um, age I've seen from, I mean, I'm 50 years old, so I have, you know, and I've had a lot of older

01:32:28.440 friends. I've lost a lot of people because I've actually had a lot of older friends. My buddy with

01:32:33.020 the traumatic brain experiences is 12 years older than me. I've lost several people in their seventies

01:32:38.500 back 10, 20 years ago. And what I've found is, is that age, if I know someone in their twenties and

01:32:46.160 thirties, they are different people in their fifties and sixties. Now, percentage wise, for me, I've

01:32:56.620 only experienced maybe about 25, a quarter of the people I've known to watch over 30 years change to

01:33:03.120 become better or worse. Unfortunately, I have seen a couple of worse and a couple of the worse have been

01:33:09.260 in my family. They were better people earlier and they just became curmudgeons as they grew older. 0.95

01:33:14.740 But, uh, age would be number four where significant life changing. You can actually physically see.

01:33:21.820 So what, what traits change? Because I have a hard time and maybe I'll change this opinion as I get

01:33:28.020 older, but I just have a hard time believing that people's like core personality traits change.

01:33:34.140 Like if somebody, if there's something significant that sort of makes someone who they are,

01:33:38.840 I haven't really seen much change. Like if someone's bitchy, maybe they're less bitchy,

01:33:43.980 but they're still kind of bitchy. You know what I mean? 1.00

01:33:46.540 You got to observe. Okay. I'm sorry. Go ahead.

01:33:49.280 No, no, no, no, no. I was just curious what traits changed with the people over time.

01:33:54.160 Go ahead.

01:33:55.180 Well, number one, again, I have 20 years, 20 plus years on you.

01:33:59.520 So I have experienced people over a 20 to 30 year period of their life, seeing how they were when

01:34:06.460 they were a little bit younger and then growing up a little bit more. But also what we're talking

01:34:11.340 about is significant change, real change, real trait change in their life. Yeah. We're only talking

01:34:16.960 like maybe, maybe at best 20% of the people I've known. Yeah. Yeah. 20, 20. Yeah. So 80% of the

01:34:25.220 people will be the same person they are from teen, just like you said, from teenager, and this is men

01:34:30.600 and women from teenager till death, till the grave. The ones I'm talking, the seven I'm talking about 0.99

01:34:36.940 right now are the 20%, you know, from the psychological studies I've seen and some personal

01:34:42.620 experiences from these psychological studies. Sure. So when it comes to age, you know, I'm,

01:34:47.540 I'm deferring to you, you know, more than me. So I, I'm just wondering what traits in the people

01:34:53.360 that changed because of age, is it similar to the other ones you've listed?

01:34:59.260 Uh, age usually you, the traits I typically see with the age change over 20 to 30 years with people

01:35:08.760 are they become, except for the majority of them become more legitimately compassionate,

01:35:18.820 understanding, caring, and tolerant. Okay. But they can go the other way too. I've seen the other

01:35:25.460 way where 30 years ago, they were a good person and they've just become a total bitch or an asshole 1.00

01:35:30.500 just because. Okay. Yeah. I mean, it's now the good thing is I've only experienced the, the negative 1.00

01:35:38.040 side, uh, you know, 20% and I experienced the good change in people over 30, 20, 30 years, 80% of the

01:35:47.200 time. So I would say that when most people, the older, most people get typically the change that I

01:35:55.760 would say the most of is becoming tolerant, compassionate, caring a little more than they

01:36:02.920 were in their twenties and thirties type of thing. Cool. What's next? Uh, number five, number five.

01:36:11.900 Now this, this is a personal one to me. Um, number five is exposure to many different cultures.

01:36:21.200 Okay. And what I, what I mean is, is, uh, being, being in central Florida around Disney and universal,

01:36:27.700 you have the world population coming into you. Um, and you want to talk about a melting pot.

01:36:34.660 Central Florida is actually a melting pot and it has been for the past 30 to 40 years because so many

01:36:40.500 people move to that area for the hospitality industry from all over the world. I've met people.

01:36:46.840 I have friends from about, uh, let's say 80% of the countries that are friendly with the United States.

01:36:54.960 I have friends from those countries and I've learned from them directly their cultures from

01:37:01.080 them and not just reading it in a textbook. So I had, whereas most Americans who haven't been exposed

01:37:08.580 to a large cultural diversity, worldwide cultural diversity tend to stay in a very narrow tunnel their

01:37:16.560 entire lives. Whereas someone who has many friends and I know you, you lived abroad, right? You lived in 1.00

01:37:22.780 Britain. Yeah. England. Oh, I got tons of friends from England and, Oh, some of my best friends are

01:37:29.200 from England, uh, and Europe. Uh, but I know people from Africa and Asia and everything. The one thing 0.98

01:37:35.540 about cultural differences is especially for an open-minded person like myself, also a social

01:37:40.460 butterfly. I love you. I'll talk to a rock. If you give me a chance, uh, learning cultures directly

01:37:48.620 from the people from around the world, especially when it negates the negative thoughts you had about

01:37:56.080 different cultures, when growing up in whatever town you grew up in or whatever little town you grew

01:38:02.380 up in and you only knew people from that town or that state, it really does open your eyes to a world.

01:38:08.980 Having those friends tell you legitimate things that they do in their country. You see, Oh my God,

01:38:15.840 this guy's from this country that's supposed to be unfriendly. And he's one of the nicest people you

01:38:20.740 ever want to meet. So it really does open your mind and change you to, in fact, I would say it.

01:38:28.020 I was an open-minded person before I was in central Florida, 30, 35 years ago, but being in central

01:38:34.860 Florida exposed to all those people around Disney universal and the hospitality industry and everyone

01:38:40.340 moving in there and all the friends I've made from around the world, it opened my mind even more,

01:38:46.500 I would say. So that, that was my chain. Number six, personal number six. Okay. Now this one is

01:38:54.320 mostly female, but it does affect many men as well. Number six, your first child,

01:39:02.380 your first child will change you. And especially I've seen this, I've dated too many women. So I've 0.99

01:39:11.240 seen this. I've dated women before their children and I know them to this day. And let me tell you,

01:39:19.000 they are not the same people and they're not pretending that I literally watched them change

01:39:24.560 overnight after they had their first child for the better. And personality traits, mental, emotional,

01:39:32.380 can you give me, can you give me an example of one? Just, just, uh, okay. So, uh, woman I dated

01:39:41.240 actually dated her for three years. She didn't want children. Oh my gosh. She wanted to be with me 1.00

01:39:47.100 because I was sniffed at 30. So there was no chance of a child. And we got together when this is years

01:39:53.180 ago. She was mid twenties. I was upper thirties and, uh, we dated for three years, did not want a child.

01:40:01.000 Love that. I got sniffed, blah, blah, blah. Uh, it was, uh, was a good person, but a habitual liar.

01:40:09.760 Um, didn't have her shit together. Didn't know what she wanted in her life. Uh, typical teenager, 1.00

01:40:16.200 but in a 26, seven year old body. Um, I know her today. I know her and her husband today. They had

01:40:24.100 a child about six or seven years ago. So I guess the child's about six or seven and oh my God, she is

01:40:32.280 a, she is completely a different person or personality. And I've known her long enough and

01:40:39.760 was intimate with her long enough to, to see that these are actual physical, emotional, and mental

01:40:45.880 changes that she did for this child and her, her new husband. She wanted to become this person.

01:40:54.660 I, I seen it before. It was just, she had problems, emotional and mental problems, which most young

01:41:01.300 people do have, especially young women who have father issues. And there's a lot of those out there.

01:41:06.360 Um, but yeah, her, her, her mentality, emotional, uh, emotional, mental state, um, her responsibilities,

01:41:16.320 uh, everything fell in line. She got her shit together. She grew up, she became a really good 0.99

01:41:23.480 mother, good wife, and a better woman. I can't say that she doesn't lie as much, but I can definitely

01:41:31.980 say that, you know, her husband wouldn't put up with that shit. So she probably has realized, 1.00

01:41:38.080 especially after she, we, we, after we broke up, I mean, it pretty much devastated her because

01:41:45.660 we were, we were, we were, we could have been together, but, uh, I knew she needed a child and 0.71

01:41:54.960 that child changed her life. I saw it change her life physically, emotionally, mentally.

01:42:01.280 She is a better person because of it. I'm not saying she's not a little bit like her old ways,

01:42:08.640 but I could definitely see the positive changes in her life.

01:42:11.800 What's number seven?

01:42:13.580 Number seven. Now this one, this one is typically, and this is from reading a lot of psychology books,

01:42:19.920 mostly men fall under this, but I'm not going to negate women from doing it. I'm just saying mostly 0.65

01:42:25.340 men change from sheer willpower alone. That's the last one. Sheer willpower alone. Uh, I've only

01:42:36.160 met maybe one or two people in my life and I don't know them, you know, now, but just, I knew them

01:42:44.340 when I was younger and one guy I could, I could think of, he, he was alcoholic. He lost his wife and

01:42:55.460 kid because of it. He lost his job. He lost everything. And, you know, I, he got into the AA program.

01:43:04.200 He wanted to change his life. He, within five years, he got good, stable work, apartment. He got

01:43:12.420 rights to his kids back. And even though his, his ex-wife and him didn't get back together,

01:43:18.500 the way he changed helped them at least have a good relationship for the co-parenting of their

01:43:25.040 child. And that sheer willpower, no one made him do it. It was just, he decided, no, this is,

01:43:32.820 this is enough. I'm not going to ruin my life anymore. I have a kid. I lost everything because

01:43:36.800 of it. He went to AA by himself. He did all this stuff. I mean, we supported him friend network

01:43:42.840 supported him and everything, but he's one of the ones that sticks out in my mind. And there's very

01:43:48.020 few sheer willpower alone is very few. Normally it's, you have to, to have a real life changing

01:43:55.340 experience, someone to really change their life. It has to be something traumatic in your, in your life.

01:44:01.400 I think one of your callers said it earlier. Um, you just get so tired of the pain and suffering

01:44:08.060 and something just snaps or happens to you. And you're like, no, this is it. I got to change this

01:44:13.480 about myself, but the sheer willpower alone, very few women I've, I've read about doing it. It's

01:44:20.440 mostly men, but again, all this list of real change in real people's lives is only talking about

01:44:27.620 maybe 20%. Unfortunately, 80% will be the same all throughout their life. So yeah. Cool. Well,

01:44:36.100 thanks so much for calling in Chad. That was a great list. Appreciate you. No problem. Great

01:44:41.360 talking to y'all. Y'all have a blessed night, Doug and Pearl. All right. See ya. All right. Uh,

01:44:47.560 we'll do one more color to the marvelous option. Marvelous option. Welcome to the show. Um, so

01:45:02.420 what do you think? Do you think people mostly change or mostly stay the same when it comes

01:45:06.620 to their personality traits? This can either be you or people that you've observed. What

01:45:10.860 do you think? Are you there? Marvelous opinion. Are you there? We can see you. All right. You got,

01:45:24.980 you got five seconds to figure it out. Five. Oh, there. Now I hear you. We can hear you. Now I hear

01:45:30.840 you. Can you hear me? Marvelous opinion. Uh, I'm sorry. I just, uh, I don't have time for this. Okay. I

01:45:42.780 guess Sean. Hey, Sean, Sean. All right. All right. So hear me. I can hear you. All right. Go. Okay. So

01:45:58.460 what do you think? You think people mostly stay the same or do they change over time? Um, from

01:46:06.040 I, I'm making the case that most people's core personality pretty much stays the same, but

01:46:11.680 I'm open to be improving otherwise. So what's your life experience? My life experience is most

01:46:17.980 people stay the same. Um, I can give a story about how I change, but again, that's just personalized

01:46:24.900 than me. So I'll give that afterwards. But most people don't change. They remain the same, same

01:46:30.360 neighborhood, same community, live and breathe, die there. Most Americans don't have a passport. 0.99

01:46:36.020 So they don't even get to explore. Most people just stay where they're from, stay with their family

01:46:41.340 and friends and that's it. I'm still there. Oh yeah. Sorry. I thought, I thought you were going to

01:46:52.560 keep going. You said you had a personal story. So go ahead. I was waiting for you. So yeah,

01:47:01.580 yeah, I'll give you this. I used to be a Democrat fish fried nugget, pro-black pan-Africanist anti-capitalist 0.90

01:47:12.620 humanist individual in many different, I guess you could say walks in my life, many different 0.90

01:47:19.540 chapters, uh, Marine killer, all this stuff. So I would say like over time I've just changed,

01:47:27.160 but I have made an aggressive effort to change if that makes sense constantly. And so I think

01:47:34.480 most people just don't do that. And so just in my own situation, I have changed a lot so much. So

01:47:40.800 my friends and families would be like, you're not the same though. You different man. And when we was

01:47:46.380 kids, you was like X, Y, and Z. Do you think your personality changed or it was just your beliefs?

01:47:52.960 Cause I do want to separate those because like, you know, if I was ever, I had a conservative dad,

01:47:59.720 but if I didn't, I might've been a liberal, but I probably, I've probably been no. Cause my personality

01:48:05.760 type, it actually says I was supposed to be a liberal. Uh, but, but you know, I probably still

01:48:11.600 would have been the one with the side going back and forth with people, you know, in a good faith.

01:48:17.580 Yeah, no, I get it.

01:48:18.640 But like, I would say the personality would have been the same, but it's just, the belief was

01:48:22.920 different. Is it the same for you or would you say your personality?

01:48:26.520 No, my personality has changed because what they were saying, like, basically I had people write

01:48:31.140 buddy statements about me. Like they could see a change for me when I, you know, was a kid until

01:48:36.640 when I joined the military, they're like, Oh, it used to be like this and basically, you

01:48:41.280 know, extrovert. Now I'm more of an introvert. So my personality changed over the years due

01:48:46.520 to my beliefs also. So it was just like a two way street for me, but yes, it's changed

01:48:51.660 for me. But I always say like, mine's is a special case. Cause I actually actively looked

01:48:56.460 to change myself and revamped and evolve myself. So yes, my personality does change.

01:49:02.240 All right, cool. Doug, MPA, you got any questions for him?

01:49:09.520 That's weird. You were from being an extrovert to an introvert. What was the biggest person?

01:49:14.460 What, what, what is it that being a, did you find that being an introvert was more beneficial

01:49:22.680 to the life you wanted to live? Like what made the change from being an extrovert to an introvert?

01:49:26.620 Yeah, that's exactly. You actually just said it in a question, Doug, like it just changed

01:49:32.620 the way people interact. You know, I was an insecure individual, so I was a class clown.

01:49:37.700 So most of it, I was like an eye show speed in a way. And then net, net, when I got older,

01:49:42.300 I got more confident, more competent. And then I just became an introvert just because, you

01:49:47.600 know, when you tend to expose yourself, then you have to expose yourself to people's attitudes

01:49:51.900 and behaviors. And so I'm just became a more calm person, a more stoic person, and then

01:49:57.800 just changed how I did everything. So that was the main reason, but it was kind of in

01:50:01.980 your question when you said it does. Cool. Cool, man. I just saw better benefits. But

01:50:07.320 I would say this, most women don't change. They remain the same. All right. And then the 1.00

01:50:12.520 guy was spitting game earlier. So just stay stoic. And I think most guys, they see it as

01:50:18.320 like their goal is to maintain the girl for the long duration. Even if you're alpha, and

01:50:24.180 you're in charge and you're leading, women are going to sometimes fall out of love with 1.00

01:50:28.040 that. Then they're going to want a guy who's sensitive. You know, they were attracted by

01:50:33.620 you dodging bullets and hopping on helicopters. But then a later point in their life, they're

01:50:38.700 like, I used to like it. But now it's disgusting. It's scary. It's annoying. So people change,

01:50:45.780 especially women, because they just change their love conditions. Don't see it as a loss. 1.00

01:50:51.400 Just see it as our deal no longer works out. I'm sorry you feel that way. But I'm moving

01:50:57.440 on. I wish you the best. That makes sense. Yeah, totally. I appreciate you guys. Thanks,

01:51:05.640 man. I'll be talking to you, my brother. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. It's funny. He seems

01:51:14.540 extroverted to me. Yeah. Yeah. I would have thought so, too. Yeah. That's what I was like.

01:51:20.140 This is a super chat. He's really calm, though, so I'd agree with that. Okay, let me see. Is

01:51:26.840 it on this new set? I'm just apologizing for the technical difficulties. Thanks for the

01:51:35.480 marvelous opportunity or for the opportunity, though. Well, we do this call-in show every

01:51:40.540 night. I mean, you can figure it out tomorrow. It's no big deal. I don't hold it against anybody,

01:51:46.020 but, you know, I just, I don't, you know, I used to wait for you guys, and it would just drive me

01:51:54.180 freaking nuts, and it's for my sanity, really. It's about me, so. I can't, I can't take Doug being

01:52:01.000 like, turn the YouTube off. I'm like, I'm gonna kill myself. I can't do it. Sorry. Or the countdown, 0.99

01:52:06.860 you know, like, we can only do one or two countdowns a show, and then it starts to kill the vibe of the

01:52:11.840 show, so. Yeah, I mean, I'll, I, you got, like, five seconds. Look, I figured out how Zoom work. You

01:52:17.700 guys, you guys gotta do it, too. Respectfully, you know. So, I understand the tech difficulties.

01:52:24.040 You know, we're used to women that won't wait for us. Yeah, I'm glad you are. 0.80

01:52:30.720 Okay, well, I would still say I think most people's core personality traits are pretty much the same.

01:52:37.440 I think that's kind of the consensus with some people saying there are exceptions. I, I don't know.

01:52:43.140 I think most people revert, but I haven't seen it. It doesn't mean that I will, or I won't in the

01:52:50.320 future. Who knows? What are your final thoughts, Doug MPA? Yeah, you know, if someone's a douchebag when

01:52:57.720 they're young, they're gonna be a douchebag later on in life. That's why they glorify in movies when 0.97

01:53:02.480 someone was a bully, but then they go back to the person they bully and apologize, because that's worth

01:53:08.100 writing a book about or making a movie about. It happens so little. You know what I'm saying?

01:53:13.340 Yeah, that's what I was thinking, because I was telling someone about this show topic, and they said,

01:53:18.440 they, they made a reference to, it was either Joker or Batman, and saying how, like, that, like,

01:53:23.840 Joker became the Joker because he kept saying, like, like, ask me about my scars, and then Batman,

01:53:29.040 or maybe it was Spider-Man. I think it was Spider-Man. Yeah, that day. And I'm like, well,

01:53:34.480 the reason there's a movie about it is because it doesn't really happen. It's like the, it's like

01:53:40.220 the mid chick that gets the hot guy and all the women. I, I, today I walked by, there was this giant, 0.98

01:53:46.580 um, event of women, like, watching a movie in the park, and I still couldn't help but think,

01:53:53.840 we're just, like, adult children. You know what I mean? Like, they need to be entertained. Yeah. But,

01:53:58.900 but I was like, what are all these women here for? So I asked the girl, and I'm like, what's the, 0.99

01:54:03.280 what's the title? And, um, and then, so I googled the title of the, the show, and of course,

01:54:10.180 it's like this five with a nine. I'm like, yep, that's the female dream. Yeah. Well, some of the 0.99

01:54:17.420 best advice my father ever gave me was those who don't have to, won't. And a lot of people

01:54:23.140 are put, especially women, are put, are never put in the position where they have to change,

01:54:27.580 so they won't. Exactly. Well, thanks for calling in today, Doug MPA. I appreciate your contributions

01:54:34.960 as always. Cool. Yeah. Thanks for having me as usual. All right. So guys, uh, thanks so much for

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JustPearlyThings - September 18, 2025

People Don’t Change as Much as You Think (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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