JustPearlyThings - April 29, 2023


Post Wall FEMINIST Gets a Reality Check


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In this episode, the ladies talk about what it means to be a woman in the 21st century and why women today are not willing to compromise their dreams to have a family. We also talk about how women today have more children than our grandparents and how this is a reflection of the times we grew up in.

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00:00:00.000 And a lot of girls wasn't raised with their father as well.
00:00:02.780 That's another aspect in that as well.
00:00:04.740 And I just think we live in a very selfish culture where it's me, me, me.
00:00:08.220 And like when you're traditional, like you believe in the family before me.
00:00:11.640 But like how many women are willing to give up their dreams for a man? 1.00
00:00:15.160 How many women are really willing to put the family first? 1.00
00:00:19.620 Yeah, I will agree with Pearl.
00:00:22.440 There's been some things that I've seen on TV and I've just been like,
00:00:27.320 man, is this how women are portraying themselves nowadays? 1.00
00:00:31.760 And it's just the same type of woman. 1.00
00:00:34.400 And I like think like, do y'all wonder why like you're single or you have baby daddies or X, Y, Z?
00:00:41.600 It's like, do you ever think about your actions?
00:00:43.600 And then something that Pearl just said about women will leave men for their careers 0.69
00:00:48.640 instead of staying with them.
00:00:50.660 There was this post that I saw.
00:00:52.780 There was a woman, she was with some, she was with a man that took care of her house, 0.84
00:00:59.780 paid for everything, and she wanted to become an actor.
00:01:02.540 She left, went to, I think it was Atlanta, and she wanted to pursue her dream in acting.
00:01:08.300 Got there, didn't do acting, became a stripper, got pregnant. 0.96
00:01:12.960 And she was like, maybe I should go back to him so he can help me while she's pregnant. 0.99
00:01:17.260 It's just like, it just doesn't make sense.
00:01:19.980 And I think of like my grandparents' generation where my grandma had 13 kids for my grandpa.
00:01:26.180 Like I know guys that want like five, six, like a lot of children,
00:01:29.940 and they can't find someone that wants to do that for them.
00:01:33.560 Like most women only want one or two kids because they don't like, 1.00
00:01:37.220 it's like more about them and their lifestyle rather than having as many kids as possible.
00:01:40.840 Like the women back then used to want kids. 1.00
00:01:43.480 They wanted to do it early.
00:01:44.380 They wanted as many as they possibly could.
00:01:46.240 Because there was more security.
00:01:48.240 What do you mean?
00:01:48.940 I think if you was, if you're from a time where you're able to live out your role,
00:01:54.080 which is like, you know, you stay at home and you have your children,
00:01:56.980 you feel secure within that.
00:01:58.940 I feel like nowadays women are in relationships and they're always looking, 1.00
00:02:02.840 they're always thinking like, it might not work out.
00:02:05.580 I might get divorced.
00:02:07.140 I might need a backup plan because men ain't supplying the same security as back in the day
00:02:11.460 because they're not staying in the homes.
00:02:12.960 Do you mean money?
00:02:14.060 I mean, security is financial and emotional as well.
00:02:17.740 If a woman feels totally secure within her man, 0.98
00:02:20.980 I believe that that's when she will feel feminine enough to give you loads of kids. 1.00
00:02:26.520 A woman that feels like she has to go out and do something for herself is because, 0.99
00:02:30.480 if she's in a relationship, is because she's not being fulfilled properly by her man.
00:02:35.960 Simple.
00:02:36.760 Because if you're in a traditional relationship,
00:02:38.920 the man is the provider and the woman's the homemaker. 0.99
00:02:42.320 Do you understand what I mean?
00:02:43.340 But the problem is women won't go down in lifestyle in order to have a family. 1.00
00:02:48.100 So like, if something, something.
00:02:49.220 Because they're normally with self because men are going more selfish.
00:02:51.700 So, no, I think women are more, I'll give you an example. 1.00
00:02:54.380 Okay.
00:02:54.560 And I don't, I don't mean to pick on you, but like you, your nails done.
00:02:57.400 And I noticed most girls that come on my show have their nails done 1.00
00:03:01.100 and they usually have very nice clothes.
00:03:03.440 And it's like, it's like lifestyle.
00:03:08.480 But, and so like, I've asked this question where I say,
00:03:11.660 would you go down in lifestyle?
00:03:13.140 Like you make this much money.
00:03:14.520 Would you go down to this lifestyle at $40,000, $30,000 a year for a family?
00:03:18.860 And they say no.
00:03:20.640 Like, because a man on one income, you can afford an apartment, 0.99
00:03:23.600 but women want a house. 1.00
00:03:25.020 If you go down by that much money, because children cost money.
00:03:29.720 And though that's the realist, that's the reality of it.
00:03:32.240 If you can't just sit, sit down and just, you can't just say,
00:03:35.640 I'm going to just have five children like that.
00:03:38.340 But back then they used to like figure it out.
00:03:41.300 So like my dad, my dad was one of 13 kids and they would do hand-me-downs.
00:03:45.080 Like they lived off of one salary.
00:03:46.760 It was a fireman's salary.
00:03:48.020 It wasn't a ton of money.
00:03:48.900 They just lived poor because it was always about the family first.
00:03:52.580 But like women don't want to do that. 1.00
00:03:54.220 There ain't no women now that want to live, bruh. 1.00
00:03:56.840 Women now want to live Instagram lifestyle, bruh. 1.00
00:04:00.000 That's why a lot of them are on Instagram, bro.
00:04:03.080 That's why a lot of them are on Instagram taking pictures of the plate of food
00:04:06.840 that they're eating, bruh.
00:04:09.140 Come on, bro.
00:04:10.320 Come on.
00:04:10.820 Like from the, what's it?
00:04:13.580 The music video vixen girl to the girl next door.
00:04:16.400 They're all doing the same thing, bruh.
00:04:18.220 It's the same programming.
00:04:19.440 So if a guy can't provide X, Y, Z, they're not going for it, bruh.
00:04:24.600 They're just not, bruh.
00:04:25.900 Like hypergamy is on steroids in this era. 0.65
00:04:29.920 Or even like, I think about how my mom, like she got, she got like a top half a percent guy,
00:04:34.100 right?
00:04:34.480 But she quit her job. 1.00
00:04:36.080 She was a teacher.
00:04:36.740 She quit her job to go work for him. 0.64
00:04:38.620 He said, if you want to be with me, like you need to move.
00:04:41.280 Otherwise, like go find a new boyfriend.
00:04:43.160 She said, okay, I'm going to quit.
00:04:44.140 I'm going to come to you.
00:04:45.000 But like how many women nowadays are willing to quit their job for a man that has no money 1.00
00:04:49.980 because he had no money?
00:04:51.620 She obviously could see his potential and she allowed him to lead. 1.00
00:04:56.240 Not, I believe that you should let your man lead, but not make some idiot make lead you 0.99
00:05:00.640 because he's leading you into nowhere sometimes. 0.98
00:05:03.360 Do you understand what I mean?
00:05:04.720 That's what I feel like.
00:05:06.020 We keep talking about the women, but with me, I think it goes back onto the men.
00:05:10.200 Women adapt. 0.91
00:05:11.520 Do you understand?
00:05:11.980 And they've only, they're taking pictures of plates on their own because it's been normalized
00:05:16.960 because everybody's hiding and they're not showing PDA.
00:05:19.840 So women are now saying, right, that's it. 1.00
00:05:21.460 We're just going to show the plates.
00:05:22.880 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:23.840 I've never gone through that because I've always been in a relationship.
00:05:26.580 My mum's always been in a relationship. 0.99
00:05:27.700 My grandma's always been in a relationship. 1.00
00:05:30.040 Do you think you represent like the typical modern woman walking out there? 0.92
00:05:34.180 Well, if you're saying that they're not decent, I definitely don't represent that.
00:05:37.160 No.
00:05:37.340 Then we should really focus on what the majority is because that's the majority of girls walking around. 1.00
00:05:42.380 I don't know what you're saying, but some people can say that you attract what you are.
00:05:46.060 Do you understand?
00:05:46.680 I believe that social media and the media portrays a certain type.
00:05:52.120 I'm in the beauty industry and I don't come across just people in the social media that I see in social media on a day-to-day basis.
00:05:58.320 That isn't just what is out there.
00:06:00.040 I don't agree with that.
00:06:00.760 There's no absolutes.
00:06:01.860 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:03.280 There's no absolutes.
00:06:04.320 No one said all.
00:06:05.040 I don't think the majority of the women are just walking around. 1.00
00:06:07.880 How many women have you dated?
00:06:10.340 I don't date women. 1.00
00:06:11.260 Exactly.
00:06:11.760 So you don't really know what you're talking about.
00:06:13.200 But I speak to women all the time. 1.00
00:06:13.860 It doesn't matter what you say.
00:06:15.180 It doesn't matter because you don't date them.
00:06:17.140 So you don't know what you're talking about.
00:06:18.780 I do know what I'm talking about.
00:06:20.220 But you haven't done it.
00:06:21.020 I just disagree with the fact that I just disagree.
00:06:23.180 You ain't done it though.
00:06:24.360 So I have a question.
00:06:25.180 You don't know what every woman is though. 1.00
00:06:26.960 That's the same.
00:06:27.600 That's like you saying that every woman.
00:06:28.780 Yeah, but if I'm talking off experience.
00:06:30.940 But you haven't been with every woman.
00:06:32.220 No, but I'm not saying.
00:06:33.000 I never said all and I said that before.
00:06:34.960 I said that before any of that.
00:06:36.620 I think that's very low.
00:06:37.420 That's my guesstimate.
00:06:39.580 So if, okay.
00:06:41.220 Let's, let's.
00:06:42.960 Why, if that's true.
00:06:44.980 Why is it that 50% of women that hit 30 are single and childless? 0.98
00:06:50.240 I'm not sure.
00:06:51.780 I don't know.
00:06:52.560 I can't answer that question.
00:06:54.340 But I just believe that.
00:06:55.340 Because if they were, if they were like the women that men wanted. 0.97
00:06:57.960 They wouldn't be single.
00:07:00.680 Like, I don't, I don't think men have changed.
00:07:02.400 I think women have. 1.00
00:07:03.940 Because when we got birth control, that's when you see the divorce rate skyrocket. 0.86
00:07:07.260 If you pull up a chart of like the divorce rate and the birth control, like the number
00:07:10.660 of women on birth control, that's when it skyrocket. 1.00
00:07:13.100 It's when these hoes came to the streets. 1.00
00:07:17.860 I think both changed.
00:07:19.580 I hear.
00:07:20.240 I hear what you're saying.
00:07:22.200 And you made a point a few minutes ago about how if a woman doesn't feel secure with a
00:07:30.340 man, she's going to do X, Y, Z to feel secure or just leave.
00:07:36.700 I think there, I think women have shifted to where they are doing stuff on their own, 1.00
00:07:43.080 doing stuff that men usually would.
00:07:44.740 So when a man comes in and does that for them, they're like, I don't need you to do that for
00:07:49.160 me.
00:07:49.500 I can do that on my own.
00:07:51.200 Show me something else that you can do for me to, for me to have you in my life, for me
00:07:57.420 to have you in that place.
00:07:58.300 And a man's like, well, I'm doing what I am supposed to do, but I'm not able to do it 1.00
00:08:03.520 because you're doing it as well.
00:08:05.500 And you're not being in your femininity for me to be able to show you that I am doing 0.99
00:08:11.960 the manly thing I need to do.
00:08:13.480 So women are like, oh, he's not this.
00:08:15.680 He's not that because he's not doing it.
00:08:17.940 And it's like, how can you have someone do something for you if you're not giving them
00:08:21.660 room enough to do it, to be them.
00:08:24.800 And it's not, it's not comfortable for them to do it.
00:08:28.440 I think I will say this.
00:08:29.440 I think that a lot of women, I do get where you're coming from. 1.00
00:08:32.000 I think that a lot of women don't trust men. 1.00
00:08:34.800 But the reason why a lot of women these days, like modern women don't trust men is because
00:08:39.120 they didn't have a dad.
00:08:40.700 So if you didn't have a dad initially in the foundation, yeah, and then probably you've
00:08:45.620 just seen your mum struggle, get money, do everything by herself, then she's probably 0.87
00:08:50.180 taught you just, oh, you know what, do it by yourself.
00:08:52.940 Don't ever depend on a man.
00:08:54.540 Yeah, obviously you're never going to trust a man because the first man in your life wasn't
00:08:57.320 there.
00:08:57.960 He failed you.
00:08:59.640 You get what I'm saying?
00:09:00.040 And I think, but then if you go deeper into that, I think that happens because a lot
00:09:05.180 of times women make poor choices in men.
00:09:08.860 And so like, I don't really want to say, oh, it's all women's fault or it's all men's fault,
00:09:13.980 but we have to be realistic in this thing, innit?
00:09:16.700 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:09:17.200 And yeah, I agree with what Jess said.
00:09:19.840 You know, women, women out here are doing more for themselves. 0.98
00:09:23.020 And that's, that, that boils down to like over consumerism because women spend the most 1.00
00:09:27.840 money.
00:09:28.380 They, they, they look in Instagram.
00:09:30.260 Oh, look at that car.
00:09:31.060 Look at them shoes.
00:09:31.640 Look at that bag.
00:09:32.300 I want that.
00:09:33.140 So they will go their extra mile to get them things.
00:09:34.800 But then when they come across a guy who may be the right guy for them, but may not be
00:09:39.060 able to buy all those things.
00:09:41.100 That's when the conflict comes.
00:09:43.180 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:09:43.780 That's when, oh, I only want to date a guy that's going to take me to Hakkasan and Novikov
00:09:47.940 and them kind of things.
00:09:48.740 But them kind of guys, bro, they're just going to use you, bro.
00:09:51.060 So again, that's more poor choices.
00:09:53.220 Then the more poor choices you make, the more baggage you get, the more bitter you become.
00:09:57.120 And then bruv, like you're done because at some point you probably become a baby mama 0.94
00:10:02.180 at some point.
00:10:02.860 And then the guys that you like, don't want in, don't want nothing, no commitment with
00:10:06.580 you.
00:10:06.740 They just want to use you and the cycle continues.
00:10:08.640 And then you bring another generation that does the same thing.
00:10:12.700 Yeah.
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00:10:20.140 this platform.
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