Post Wall FEMINIST Gets a Reality Check
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Summary
In this episode, the ladies talk about what it means to be a woman in the 21st century and why women today are not willing to compromise their dreams to have a family. We also talk about how women today have more children than our grandparents and how this is a reflection of the times we grew up in.
Transcript
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And a lot of girls wasn't raised with their father as well.
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And I just think we live in a very selfish culture where it's me, me, me.
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And like when you're traditional, like you believe in the family before me.
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But like how many women are willing to give up their dreams for a man?
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How many women are really willing to put the family first?
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There's been some things that I've seen on TV and I've just been like,
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man, is this how women are portraying themselves nowadays?
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And I like think like, do y'all wonder why like you're single or you have baby daddies or X, Y, Z?
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It's like, do you ever think about your actions?
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And then something that Pearl just said about women will leave men for their careers
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There was a woman, she was with some, she was with a man that took care of her house,
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paid for everything, and she wanted to become an actor.
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She left, went to, I think it was Atlanta, and she wanted to pursue her dream in acting.
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Got there, didn't do acting, became a stripper, got pregnant.
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And she was like, maybe I should go back to him so he can help me while she's pregnant.
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And I think of like my grandparents' generation where my grandma had 13 kids for my grandpa.
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Like I know guys that want like five, six, like a lot of children,
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and they can't find someone that wants to do that for them.
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Like most women only want one or two kids because they don't like,
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it's like more about them and their lifestyle rather than having as many kids as possible.
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I think if you was, if you're from a time where you're able to live out your role,
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which is like, you know, you stay at home and you have your children,
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I feel like nowadays women are in relationships and they're always looking,
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they're always thinking like, it might not work out.
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I might need a backup plan because men ain't supplying the same security as back in the day
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I mean, security is financial and emotional as well.
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If a woman feels totally secure within her man,
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I believe that that's when she will feel feminine enough to give you loads of kids.
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A woman that feels like she has to go out and do something for herself is because,
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if she's in a relationship, is because she's not being fulfilled properly by her man.
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Because if you're in a traditional relationship,
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the man is the provider and the woman's the homemaker.
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But the problem is women won't go down in lifestyle in order to have a family.
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Because they're normally with self because men are going more selfish.
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So, no, I think women are more, I'll give you an example.
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And I don't, I don't mean to pick on you, but like you, your nails done.
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And I noticed most girls that come on my show have their nails done
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But, and so like, I've asked this question where I say,
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Would you go down to this lifestyle at $40,000, $30,000 a year for a family?
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Like, because a man on one income, you can afford an apartment,
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If you go down by that much money, because children cost money.
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And though that's the realist, that's the reality of it.
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If you can't just sit, sit down and just, you can't just say,
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I'm going to just have five children like that.
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So like my dad, my dad was one of 13 kids and they would do hand-me-downs.
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They just lived poor because it was always about the family first.
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There ain't no women now that want to live, bruh.
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Women now want to live Instagram lifestyle, bruh.
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That's why a lot of them are on Instagram, bro.
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That's why a lot of them are on Instagram taking pictures of the plate of food
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The music video vixen girl to the girl next door.
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So if a guy can't provide X, Y, Z, they're not going for it, bruh.
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Or even like, I think about how my mom, like she got, she got like a top half a percent guy,
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He said, if you want to be with me, like you need to move.
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But like how many women nowadays are willing to quit their job for a man that has no money
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She obviously could see his potential and she allowed him to lead.
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Not, I believe that you should let your man lead, but not make some idiot make lead you
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because he's leading you into nowhere sometimes.
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We keep talking about the women, but with me, I think it goes back onto the men.
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And they've only, they're taking pictures of plates on their own because it's been normalized
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because everybody's hiding and they're not showing PDA.
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I've never gone through that because I've always been in a relationship.
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Do you think you represent like the typical modern woman walking out there?
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Well, if you're saying that they're not decent, I definitely don't represent that.
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Then we should really focus on what the majority is because that's the majority of girls walking around.
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I don't know what you're saying, but some people can say that you attract what you are.
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I believe that social media and the media portrays a certain type.
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I'm in the beauty industry and I don't come across just people in the social media that I see in social media on a day-to-day basis.
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I don't think the majority of the women are just walking around.
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So you don't really know what you're talking about.
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I just disagree with the fact that I just disagree.
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Why is it that 50% of women that hit 30 are single and childless?
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Because if they were, if they were like the women that men wanted.
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Because when we got birth control, that's when you see the divorce rate skyrocket.
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If you pull up a chart of like the divorce rate and the birth control, like the number
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of women on birth control, that's when it skyrocket.
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And you made a point a few minutes ago about how if a woman doesn't feel secure with a
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man, she's going to do X, Y, Z to feel secure or just leave.
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I think there, I think women have shifted to where they are doing stuff on their own,
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So when a man comes in and does that for them, they're like, I don't need you to do that for
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Show me something else that you can do for me to, for me to have you in my life, for me
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And a man's like, well, I'm doing what I am supposed to do, but I'm not able to do it
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And you're not being in your femininity for me to be able to show you that I am doing
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And it's like, how can you have someone do something for you if you're not giving them
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And it's not, it's not comfortable for them to do it.
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I think that a lot of women, I do get where you're coming from.
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But the reason why a lot of women these days, like modern women don't trust men is because
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So if you didn't have a dad initially in the foundation, yeah, and then probably you've
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just seen your mum struggle, get money, do everything by herself, then she's probably
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taught you just, oh, you know what, do it by yourself.
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Yeah, obviously you're never going to trust a man because the first man in your life wasn't
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And I think, but then if you go deeper into that, I think that happens because a lot
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And so like, I don't really want to say, oh, it's all women's fault or it's all men's fault,
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but we have to be realistic in this thing, innit?
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You know, women, women out here are doing more for themselves.
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And that's, that, that boils down to like over consumerism because women spend the most
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So they will go their extra mile to get them things.
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But then when they come across a guy who may be the right guy for them, but may not be
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That's when, oh, I only want to date a guy that's going to take me to Hakkasan and Novikov
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But them kind of guys, bro, they're just going to use you, bro.
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Then the more poor choices you make, the more baggage you get, the more bitter you become.
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And then bruv, like you're done because at some point you probably become a baby mama
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And then the guys that you like, don't want in, don't want nothing, no commitment with
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They just want to use you and the cycle continues.
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And then you bring another generation that does the same thing.
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