JustPearlyThings - June 11, 2023


Post Wall Feminist Gets Called Out On Her BS


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

190.7

Word count

1,650

Sentence count

171

Harmful content

Misogyny

16

sentences flagged

Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about how important it is to change your mindset and how you need to be the change that people will believe in order to change their perception of you. We also talk about the importance of having a healthy mindset.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I get the process and I get how, and it's different for different people.
00:00:04.740 It's upbringing and how we've also been taught how to deal with certain situations in life.
00:00:10.660 If we're not taught initially just by not sorting out certain situations, we go back.
00:00:15.160 So that's where people get some advantage, some where people get disadvantage.
00:00:20.040 And it is what it is. Journeys are journeys. Simple as.
00:00:23.100 Imagine you changing your mentality and you're going back to your friends that you used to speak to in 16, 18, 20.
00:00:31.120 And you're telling them the journey who don't even understand it.
00:00:34.260 And you think to yourself, you know what? I need new friends. I need...
00:00:38.340 I ain't gonna lie to her. You know how...
00:00:41.160 So I can speak to them and they understand.
00:00:44.600 Just being plus size, right? I'm not even gonna lie.
00:00:47.020 In different weight changes, I was being treated differently.
00:00:49.720 So that just goes to show, like when I...
00:00:53.780 So pre-pandemic, I became 28 stones. I got ill, so I was 28 stones.
00:00:58.460 And I'm not gonna lie, people were really being mean to me.
00:01:02.420 And I'm a person who I'm quite a happy, cheering person.
00:01:05.220 I love speaking to elderly people on the tube and just talking to people and making conversation.
00:01:09.660 But when I lost that weight, I'm telling you, after pandemic, I lost eight stones.
00:01:14.920 And people treated me differently.
00:01:16.740 And I'm never gonna lie, even business way, a lot of people come up to me and be like,
00:01:20.240 Oh my God, you've got something and we'd like to work with you.
00:01:23.040 So it just goes to show how sometimes by looks and how you are, people also...
00:01:28.340 You have to be the change that people will believe.
00:01:32.340 Yeah, honestly.
00:01:33.380 What do you mean be the change?
00:01:34.720 You gotta be the change.
00:01:36.240 See, I just sometimes you guys are saying things and I feel like they mean nothing.
00:01:39.740 That's because if you feel the hardship and if you've been through the hardship and you've gone through the cycle of actually, okay, getting out from this hardship, then you'd understand the feeling.
00:01:53.300 If you don't understand the feeling and if you haven't gone through the process, it's really hard to understand.
00:01:57.840 But I'm not saying it's not about the feeling.
00:01:59.080 Like if we're talking about success, right, if we're talking about business success, it's what are you doing?
00:02:04.600 So I'll give you an example.
00:02:05.740 When I first started this, all right, it was just me.
00:02:08.200 I was in a living room in a small apartment in East London.
00:02:11.580 And I was running to the gym, trying to get people to get the gym to come on my podcast.
00:02:16.560 And then I could say, this is what I'm doing.
00:02:18.340 But it's like when we talk about, oh, this feeling revolving mentally, it's like, it's like, what is this?
00:02:23.900 But you have come, that's what I'm saying.
00:02:26.180 You've come from a privileged place where your mindset has been amazing for you.
00:02:30.860 I had to change my mindset, babe.
00:02:32.980 I had to change it.
00:02:33.740 You're 39.
00:02:34.480 This is like a conversation with a 16-year-old.
00:02:36.180 And I started changing my mindset, say, about 27, 28 when I realized that I had to deprogram.
00:02:42.020 Your new mindset as a teenager.
00:02:43.640 So, but what are the results?
00:02:49.000 Like, that's my thing.
00:02:49.740 The results is you still can't have a conversation without getting defensive.
00:02:55.020 No, because when you're being attacked from people that don't know your life story or know your current, you're taking it.
00:03:02.820 Oh, I'm not attacking you.
00:03:05.180 We were talking about being successful in business.
00:03:06.560 Give me the right word then.
00:03:08.220 Give me the right word.
00:03:09.260 You're coming across a little bit defensive.
00:03:10.900 Defensive.
00:03:11.400 And the topic was, yeah, the subject was about profession, like in business, being successful in business.
00:03:18.560 Who wants to be?
00:03:19.160 Yeah.
00:03:19.520 So, but what you, but the conversation has gone into like a spiritual journey.
00:03:24.220 It has to be.
00:03:25.560 But that's not business.
00:03:27.020 That's totally separate.
00:03:27.940 Logic and emotion are two completely different things.
00:03:30.040 I feel like, I'm not going to need to change.
00:03:32.080 Okay, wait.
00:03:32.480 I can see, basically, I get what you're saying.
00:03:37.100 Everything's about feelings, emotions, but that's not what business is about.
00:03:40.060 But sometimes people actually don't know business and they need to learn their lessons and then they get business and then they flourish.
00:03:47.780 And I think that's where she's coming from.
00:03:50.740 And I get your point as well, because I get it when you say, but you're talking about feelings and things, but feelings get involved when you learn a lesson.
00:03:58.500 And then you need to try again, get back up, fail, try again.
00:04:02.960 So, is that what happened to you?
00:04:05.260 I don't know.
00:04:05.900 You don't need to answer.
00:04:06.600 Actually, don't answer.
00:04:07.180 I had to reprogram.
00:04:08.600 So, probably.
00:04:09.380 Okay, I'm going to read Super Chats really quick.
00:04:13.080 Okay, guys, thank you for the Super Chats.
00:04:15.620 Blessing, what are we saving for right now?
00:04:17.380 We're doing a third studio.
00:04:18.680 What do you want in it?
00:04:19.760 What's your dream wish list?
00:04:21.800 Yeah, we need more cameras.
00:04:23.600 Blessing, I've given you so many cameras.
00:04:26.520 How many more do you want?
00:04:28.340 More.
00:04:28.920 Oh, my gosh.
00:04:30.760 Hi, could you pass it?
00:04:33.280 Fine, guys, we're going to get Blessing in another camera.
00:04:35.640 Do you guys see how many cameras we have?
00:04:37.560 There are so many.
00:04:38.420 He's a camera.
00:04:40.240 That's what I said.
00:04:40.980 He's a camera addict.
00:04:43.700 He's lucky he's talented.
00:04:45.660 Okay, Chris, Abby prioritizes winning an argument over learning from others. 1.00
00:04:50.500 Stand your ground and be wrong.
00:04:51.700 You are being heard, but you are still broke and alone.
00:04:54.300 Amelia, have her back in a year to see if she made it. 1.00
00:04:56.480 Zoroslaus, notice how masculine.
00:04:58.900 Men in suits and feminine women left to the couch listens to understand, but masculine 0.63
00:05:03.560 women and feminine men listen to respond with emotion.
00:05:07.300 Zoroslaus, thank you.
00:05:09.560 39 years old, you're a prime example that I've made a great decision to invest in nimble,
00:05:15.180 food, wine, and IVF.
00:05:16.780 Fellas, let's make our monies. 1.00
00:05:18.840 Johnny, Dimitri is king.
00:05:20.360 I need to afford a maid. 1.00
00:05:23.340 You're something.
00:05:24.800 Some women only believe in spousal abuse statistics. 0.99
00:05:27.680 Matt Butcher, ladies, if you're in a good man's shoes, men lose half their shit in kids. 1.00
00:05:32.480 Women very, very rarely go through that. 1.00
00:05:34.220 I've seen men go through that repeatedly.
00:05:36.340 Men get effed. 0.52
00:05:37.000 It's extremely disappointing.
00:05:38.860 90 frito pie.
00:05:40.500 Women cannot be honest because they always have someone in mind. 1.00
00:05:43.680 They don't want to hurt.
00:05:45.280 You can't be honest about relationships until you've realized the truth about your own parents.
00:05:49.420 Have you done that?
00:05:50.220 Fast, Clara.
00:05:52.080 Women don't like numbers, and they don't paint a pretty picture for them. 1.00
00:05:55.780 Say this.
00:05:56.300 Women are beautiful. 1.00
00:05:57.580 You know what you're worth.
00:06:01.380 Not really.
00:06:02.400 Reality is harsh.
00:06:03.780 Only women and children are allowed to live in delusion. 1.00
00:06:06.460 90 frito pie.
00:06:07.620 Pearl.
00:06:09.960 Scream for peace.
00:06:10.940 Successful wives of wealthy men are like good dance partners and know how to lead and when 1.00
00:06:17.360 to back lead interracial relationships.
00:06:20.540 Coming from a sex-positive lifestyle, trauma, a life-changing experience, when changes your
00:06:26.780 entire core belief and or personality.
00:06:28.840 Do women understand the importance of sex men require for commitment?
00:06:34.000 Matt Butcher.
00:06:34.740 Can you wife a 304? 0.99
00:06:36.200 Unstable people seek out enablers to validate their behavior, thus a downward spiral.
00:06:40.520 Identify it.
00:06:41.420 Don't get sucked into it.
00:06:42.500 Great job reading Super Chats today, Pearl.
00:06:46.240 Dion.
00:06:46.780 Dimitri is the godfather of this show.
00:06:48.600 The others need to pay attention to him and listen to him.
00:06:50.620 He knows his stuff.
00:06:51.720 Doug MPA.
00:06:52.640 The panel doesn't deserve to share the room with Dimitri.
00:06:56.120 He has so much knowledge, and you are squashing this opportunity.
00:06:59.120 Listen and learn.
00:07:00.940 YT Silk is a woman who overlooks red flags. 1.00
00:07:05.160 Trustworthy.
00:07:06.000 Matt Butcher.
00:07:07.680 50s to 60s ladies. 0.68
00:07:09.180 I want someone to grow old with equals I want someone to fund my retirement.
00:07:13.360 Okay.
00:07:13.800 So back to the wife of health. 0.99
00:07:16.180 Yeah, me too.
00:07:17.080 Can someone please fund my retirement as well?
00:07:21.020 Yeah.
00:07:21.900 Me too.
00:07:22.420 Nothing, by the way, gives me more pleasure than to provide for my wife.
00:07:25.620 That, like, it's so fun because, man, I went to the airport this morning, and I'm stupid.
00:07:31.720 I forgot my passport.
00:07:33.040 I called my wife.
00:07:34.400 She's like, did you forget passport?
00:07:35.460 I'm like, yes, I did.
00:07:36.460 She's like, I'll be right there.
00:07:37.700 She literally dropped everything, like, got whichever kid was at home in the car and drove 1.00
00:07:43.400 straight to the airport.
00:07:45.040 And I, as I said, it's her 10-year wedding anniversary.
00:07:47.840 And I said, I'm so glad, you know, if I wasn't married to you for these last 10 years, I would
00:07:51.800 be missing a flight right now.
00:07:52.860 But, you know, but there are so many, there's so many little things that she'll do to, like,
00:07:58.020 actually make my life easier because she's, because she's actually figured.
00:08:01.640 That's beautiful.
00:08:02.160 But it wasn't, but it wasn't because, like, it's just, she figured out that, like.
00:08:05.080 It's because she loves you as well.
00:08:06.580 Well, well, of course, I hope.
00:08:08.280 I mean, I would, I would hope.
00:08:09.500 She loves you and she knows that you love her.
00:08:12.300 But, but, you know, it's like, I'd love to find somebody to fund my retirement.
00:08:15.060 Well, actually, let's just say that's true.
00:08:16.500 Of course you would.
00:08:17.400 Of course you would.
00:08:18.000 Who wouldn't want that, right?
00:08:18.880 But it's like, are you the person, like, are you a person that guy picks?
00:08:21.760 And that's, that's a question.
00:08:23.420 And we talk about this in business.
00:08:24.700 It's like, you see a prospect and he doesn't buy.
00:08:26.860 It's like, are, like, that prospect is going to buy that product somewhere at some point.
00:08:30.580 But are you, are you being the person that that prospect wants to buy from?
00:08:35.000 You know, like, and so it shifts the responsibility on me to better my.