Post Wall Feminist Gets Called Out On Her BS
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about how important it is to change your mindset and how you need to be the change that people will believe in order to change their perception of you. We also talk about the importance of having a healthy mindset.
Transcript
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I get the process and I get how, and it's different for different people.
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It's upbringing and how we've also been taught how to deal with certain situations in life.
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If we're not taught initially just by not sorting out certain situations, we go back.
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So that's where people get some advantage, some where people get disadvantage.
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And it is what it is. Journeys are journeys. Simple as.
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Imagine you changing your mentality and you're going back to your friends that you used to speak to in 16, 18, 20.
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And you're telling them the journey who don't even understand it.
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And you think to yourself, you know what? I need new friends. I need...
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Just being plus size, right? I'm not even gonna lie.
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In different weight changes, I was being treated differently.
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So pre-pandemic, I became 28 stones. I got ill, so I was 28 stones.
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And I'm not gonna lie, people were really being mean to me.
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And I'm a person who I'm quite a happy, cheering person.
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I love speaking to elderly people on the tube and just talking to people and making conversation.
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But when I lost that weight, I'm telling you, after pandemic, I lost eight stones.
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And I'm never gonna lie, even business way, a lot of people come up to me and be like,
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Oh my God, you've got something and we'd like to work with you.
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So it just goes to show how sometimes by looks and how you are, people also...
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You have to be the change that people will believe.
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See, I just sometimes you guys are saying things and I feel like they mean nothing.
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That's because if you feel the hardship and if you've been through the hardship and you've gone through the cycle of actually, okay, getting out from this hardship, then you'd understand the feeling.
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If you don't understand the feeling and if you haven't gone through the process, it's really hard to understand.
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Like if we're talking about success, right, if we're talking about business success, it's what are you doing?
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When I first started this, all right, it was just me.
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I was in a living room in a small apartment in East London.
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And I was running to the gym, trying to get people to get the gym to come on my podcast.
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But it's like when we talk about, oh, this feeling revolving mentally, it's like, it's like, what is this?
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You've come from a privileged place where your mindset has been amazing for you.
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This is like a conversation with a 16-year-old.
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And I started changing my mindset, say, about 27, 28 when I realized that I had to deprogram.
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The results is you still can't have a conversation without getting defensive.
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No, because when you're being attacked from people that don't know your life story or know your current, you're taking it.
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We were talking about being successful in business.
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And the topic was, yeah, the subject was about profession, like in business, being successful in business.
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So, but what you, but the conversation has gone into like a spiritual journey.
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Logic and emotion are two completely different things.
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I can see, basically, I get what you're saying.
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Everything's about feelings, emotions, but that's not what business is about.
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But sometimes people actually don't know business and they need to learn their lessons and then they get business and then they flourish.
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And I get your point as well, because I get it when you say, but you're talking about feelings and things, but feelings get involved when you learn a lesson.
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And then you need to try again, get back up, fail, try again.
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Okay, I'm going to read Super Chats really quick.
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Fine, guys, we're going to get Blessing in another camera.
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Okay, Chris, Abby prioritizes winning an argument over learning from others.
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You are being heard, but you are still broke and alone.
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Amelia, have her back in a year to see if she made it.
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Men in suits and feminine women left to the couch listens to understand, but masculine
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women and feminine men listen to respond with emotion.
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39 years old, you're a prime example that I've made a great decision to invest in nimble,
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Some women only believe in spousal abuse statistics.
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Matt Butcher, ladies, if you're in a good man's shoes, men lose half their shit in kids.
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Women cannot be honest because they always have someone in mind.
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You can't be honest about relationships until you've realized the truth about your own parents.
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Women don't like numbers, and they don't paint a pretty picture for them.
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Only women and children are allowed to live in delusion.
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Successful wives of wealthy men are like good dance partners and know how to lead and when
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Coming from a sex-positive lifestyle, trauma, a life-changing experience, when changes your
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Do women understand the importance of sex men require for commitment?
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Unstable people seek out enablers to validate their behavior, thus a downward spiral.
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The others need to pay attention to him and listen to him.
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The panel doesn't deserve to share the room with Dimitri.
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He has so much knowledge, and you are squashing this opportunity.
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I want someone to grow old with equals I want someone to fund my retirement.
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Nothing, by the way, gives me more pleasure than to provide for my wife.
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That, like, it's so fun because, man, I went to the airport this morning, and I'm stupid.
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She literally dropped everything, like, got whichever kid was at home in the car and drove
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And I, as I said, it's her 10-year wedding anniversary.
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And I said, I'm so glad, you know, if I wasn't married to you for these last 10 years, I would
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But, you know, but there are so many, there's so many little things that she'll do to, like,
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actually make my life easier because she's, because she's actually figured.
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But it wasn't, but it wasn't because, like, it's just, she figured out that, like.
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But, but, you know, it's like, I'd love to find somebody to fund my retirement.
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But it's like, are you the person, like, are you a person that guy picks?
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It's like, you see a prospect and he doesn't buy.
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It's like, are, like, that prospect is going to buy that product somewhere at some point.
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But are you, are you being the person that that prospect wants to buy from?
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You know, like, and so it shifts the responsibility on me to better my.