JustPearlyThings - Post Wall Gets In Her Feelings And Starts Coping

00:00:00.000 or don't or don't get married um um i i was just waiting patiently because obviously i'm listening

00:00:07.320 to the guys behind me there's a lot of things i think you can see from my face that are actually

00:00:11.200 winding me up and i thought am i going to take a break here or just be polite and sit quietly

00:00:15.560 because you talked about uh women i think the word used was combat combative combative yeah 0.99

00:00:23.460 they were yeah that was i was sitting here and that was what winding me up constantly the way that

00:00:29.860 you and others were talking about older women or you know could be vice versa and older men

00:00:36.000 and i was just getting more and more angry and i thought well just sit quietly and see what you've

00:00:40.280 all got to say and we all have personal opinions but it doesn't mean that just because you're with

00:00:46.020 an older woman that um they are taking advantage of you and you're just having fun how about 0.99

00:00:53.220 consider that somebody a little bit older than you might actually be interested in you it's not

00:00:59.120 always for fun i mean you can ask that to me personally if i'm in getting involved with

00:01:03.820 someone i'm not interested in fun you know i've got personal views self-respect i don't need to

00:01:10.960 go around dropping my pants like all these other girls i don't need to do all that so it doesn't 0.94

00:01:16.780 matter who i date i'm interested in something proper i think the word is proper something proper

00:01:25.460 and not to play around so obviously i'm not going to date you so sorry yeah i just i think that's

00:01:31.140 just how guys view it like yeah and i don't mean any offense personally i just think when guys

00:01:35.740 typically if they date girls that are significantly older than them like long-term guys look at family

00:01:40.860 and they prefer to have kids of their own and i just think over a certain age you're kind of out

00:01:45.660 of the equation no no i totally understand that and um you also have to take into account that a lot

00:01:51.880 of a lot of men and women already have children when you meet them and if you have a good heart and

00:01:59.800 you're a good person um you will actually embrace that and i will be really open about that and i will

00:02:05.220 say that to anyone i meet if i meet a man now i don't care how old you are you know you could be

00:02:10.180 a single dad whether you're 25 45 and bringing these kids up on your own i'm going to embrace that

00:02:17.780 uh if i got a touch on that like yeah like that's i i think it's very like correct me if i think it's

00:02:25.280 very easy for like a woman to say that but i just feel like me i i'm losing a lot if i'm dating an

00:02:34.000 older woman who already has kids like that's baggage i do not want to carry it's not baggage 1.00

00:02:39.260 that's the word that i didn't like you using it's it's not baggage you're using really i don't know

00:02:45.780 let me tell you why that's that's how men view it and it's not it's not fun it's not nice but it's

00:02:50.320 just true that's how men men men men men could have baggage too i would i would not call anything

00:02:56.440 you have baggage so i'm talking to the guys behind me so say um you're 20 say if right now

00:03:04.000 as a 20 year old you'd already got two or three kids it's just how it is i would not even though

00:03:10.820 you're young and you've had kids at an early age i would not call that baggage why would you call

00:03:15.260 kids and life experiences baggage let me tell you what that's it's wrong it's wrong that's a woman's 1.00

00:03:20.820 point of view yeah typically because wait wait wait wait wait wait more typically because because

00:03:26.800 it fulfills our mating strategy because in history like if a guy could impregnate multiple people it showed

00:03:32.040 he could take care of them where men wanted to ensure paternity and pass on resources to the kids 0.54

00:03:36.480 that are there so like i'm not saying every single person and every single guy but it's just how in

00:03:41.440 general they view it yeah i think oh i was just gonna say i think we're throwing around the word

00:03:46.860 baggage too loosely like yeah well how how is like somebody's past experiences and their children

00:03:51.380 that they've like had from those past experiences how is that baggage like because now i have to carry

00:03:55.480 if you're dating older women you there's the probability that they have a past marriage and they have

00:03:59.780 part of children so if you don't want to deal with that baggage then don't date them

00:04:03.320 and you know what but he's saying he doesn't because that's baggage to him and i think he should

00:04:08.300 be like allowed to say that yeah yeah he can say that and remember men have baggage too let me tell

00:04:13.900 you the baggage that men carry you always like it's true always you always do this whenever we say 0.99

00:04:18.480 something about women we always have to say something about men we do because we have to be fair

00:04:22.360 why we have to be fair because the man they're older they get there's two things that happen we

00:04:26.620 talk about we talk about men's baggage all the time which baggage is it that men have then

00:04:31.080 i would that we talk about because i don't really hear them what are you talking about in the

00:04:35.960 media all the time why is men are trash why is that a common no that's not baggage that's that's

00:04:40.340 a judgment the baggage that men carry if they're older they get as well means they either 0.99

00:04:44.320 been incels for longer or they've fucked around for longer so those two bring two problems either 0.95

00:04:49.880 you're going to be insecure and think that you cannot trust any woman because you've been with 0.90

00:04:53.100 too many three or fours or you're going to be very insecure in yourself and in your manlyhood

00:04:57.520 because you've not had enough experience some men have the insecurities and they have their baggage

00:05:01.240 that's why you'd rather be with somebody that's somewhat on your level because it's easier for

00:05:05.300 both of you to carry the same i agree with you like what yeah some men have baggage some women

00:05:16.040 have baggage but i'm saying men and women like like men and women don't look at children the

00:05:20.500 same and you can't change reality it just is what it is yeah like like um i've heard guys say they

00:05:25.820 get more girls after they have kids i've never heard a single mother say her her dating options 1.00

00:05:30.500 got better after a child i've never heard that like i heard i've heard guys say they brought their

00:05:35.420 kid to the park because they know the girls would like you know oh typically speaking men don't want

00:05:40.980 to have to spread their resources to kids that are not and it's also like they have a lot of risk

00:05:46.080 that comes with that like they have to invest in a kid that's not theirs and i don't know if you

00:05:50.520 have kids and i don't know you know how old the kids are but especially if they're young they could

00:05:54.120 raise a kid for 10 years and have no legal rights to that child at the end of it they've got options

00:05:59.140 if they want to be involved in the child's life obviously it's a man's choice if they want to be

00:06:04.220 that involved and have rights they they can legally adopt and give their name to that child

00:06:09.280 or they are just the woman's partner who has kids in their life right and they can and i think i think

00:06:16.220 if more women would do that that would help but but i don't think that's typical with a lot of single 1.00

00:06:22.040 mothers that's not that's not what i've gathered because because you ask them like can can the dad

00:06:26.780 discipline the kid as as his own so if you disagree with like he spanks your kid you disagree with it

00:06:31.920 would you let him do it and a lot of single mothers say no to that question but there are a lot more

00:06:36.220 single mothers and single dads so um right because the court system doesn't allow a lot of men to see 1.00

00:06:41.840 their children i mean women win custody 90 of the time and um there's a lot of guys that get screwed

00:06:47.980 in court and don't get access to their children leave kids a lot more i think can i just interject on

00:06:53.820 that one um obviously there's statistics on that but there's also there's a big community of men that

00:07:02.300 don't have access to their children and they're not being recognized right and there's a thing where

00:07:07.100 you hear this a lot you hear this a lot but it's like there are there are stories of children that

00:07:12.000 were led to believe by their mothers that their father left them and they're somehow at the blue i

00:07:17.280 have a personal friend of mine for example who was able to regain contact with his father after like

00:07:23.980 25 years or something or 10 or 15 years sorry minus his his childhood via my linkedin and then

00:07:30.420 found out that it was actually his mother that pushed him away but he was indoctrinated with the

00:07:36.220 belief that he was abandoned by his father so it's just like whenever i heard these these kind of

00:07:40.260 things i'm not necessarily saying that not not all men are amazing fathers and stuff but there's a lot

00:07:44.860 of men out here that don't have a voice and all the focus is on the women's side of things

00:07:49.940 particular things particularly single fathers because i have personal experience of co-parenting

00:07:55.600 right and i'm not not not i try not to like make too much of a comparison between men and women

00:08:03.460 but from personal experience women have many advantages that single fathers would dream of having

00:08:11.260 something as basic as picking up your child from nursery and having to be interrogated because you're

00:08:16.940 seen as a threat because you're around little children every single day for the next 15 13

00:08:22.400 years all these kind of things all add up so i'm just saying that there's there's more to it than

00:08:25.200 that than just like yeah and i agree with you to an extent because um incarceration like mass

00:08:30.580 incarceration in america is mainly men so a lot more women are forced to be single mothers

00:08:35.100 yeah so i agree with you i'm just saying from society most men in the room right yeah when you go

00:08:41.940 into a place that has lots of little children what do you do like what's your first response

00:08:46.280 i'm distancing myself as much as possible yeah do you know what i'm saying yeah and then can you

00:08:49.100 imagine being that child that man with a child it's like it's a it's a really really challenging

00:08:54.740 dynamic because men are portrayed as like predators way more often that it would be kind of scary

00:08:59.400 because you don't want to be seen like that like you like you want to be like loving but you also

00:09:03.840 feel restricted by how society views you no yeah and and i'd like to say too in the u in the u.s

00:09:09.860 the women are incentivized to take away the kids from the dad because they're paid more um if the 1.00

00:09:16.560 if the dad doesn't see the kids they're given more money from child support so they're literally paid

00:09:21.280 to take away the kids from the dad um well i agree with that i just have to say ladies if you're doing

00:09:29.260 that that's terrible because having a man that is willing to be in your child's life is a blessing

00:09:33.800 if he's willing to do the right work if you're if you're sleeping you're sleeping and that's your fault

00:09:38.380 as much as i champion my sisters and i always want to protect women i do know that when it comes

00:09:43.940 to the relationship between parent and child that's something that you really shouldn't play

00:09:48.960 with and you shouldn't use that to your advantage or to for power or for financial gain for whatever

00:09:53.340 it is you're going to hell for that because it's your child that's going to yeah and taking off that 0.88

00:09:57.380 point that's why i wouldn't date a really older guy because if he had kids or if i wanted to have

00:10:02.920 kids when i was like when i was my age they wouldn't be there for me they couldn't be a father

00:10:07.060 figure because they would die a lot earlier than i would and then i would be left with the

00:10:11.540 responsibilities that's actually what my dad says with dating older guys he says my dad says you

00:10:17.520 should date someone younger as a girl which is like the opposite of red pill because he says women

00:10:21.900 live longer yeah my dad's like a logical guy he just lives

JustPearlyThings - June 03, 2023

Post Wall Gets In Her Feelings And Starts Coping

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