JustPearlyThings - May 07, 2023


Post Wall Journalist Gets Schooled On Femininity

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Hooters Ayanla
Men On The Panel Schooled This Emotional Simp 46 Year Old Bimbo Got DESTROYED With Statistics

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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

184.68

Word count

1,700

Sentence count

161

Harmful content

Misogyny

10

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Toxicity

6

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Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and entrepreneur, Ayanla Johnson, to discuss how women need to position ourselves in our divinity so that we can have our crowns right, when some of us, quite frankly, feel that the men that are available to us across the color spectrum, across the age spectrum, are not positioned to protect nor provide.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Oh, is the video ready?
00:00:01.640 Yeah.
00:00:01.860 Okay, so have you guys seen this video?
00:00:04.520 I have.
00:00:05.060 I've seen it.
00:00:05.680 No, I actually have.
00:00:06.300 I've seen it.
00:00:07.460 Found it really funny.
00:00:09.160 Okay, don't, you know, but I'm going to interview, but you about it last, but everyone else.
00:00:13.640 Okay, go ahead.
00:00:18.460 PhDs, MD, PhDs.
00:00:20.800 We also are the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs, along with Latina women in America.
00:00:26.440 Pew Research said that women are now out earning men.
00:00:30.000 Out earning men in 22 of the largest cities in America, including where I live, New York,
00:00:35.580 D.C., L.A., you name it.
00:00:37.880 When we talk, and I know that you've said that you cannot teach a man or tell a man how to
00:00:42.340 be a man, so I will not ask you to indict men in this question, but I do want you to speak,
00:00:47.720 Ayanla, to how women need to, I don't know, position ourselves so that we can be in our 0.99
00:00:58.060 divinity so we can have our crowns right, how we can create and not build, when some
00:01:03.720 of us, quite frankly, feel that the men that are available to us, and I'm talking about
00:01:08.480 across the color spectrum, across the age spectrum, trust me, I've done them all, they are not
00:01:14.040 positioned to protect nor provide because of some of the statistics we just talked about.
00:01:18.520 They're not earning the incomes.
00:01:20.280 They're not having the resources, and some of them are not even showing up in the leadership.
00:01:25.560 Would you date a bus driver?
00:01:29.700 You.
00:01:30.520 Would you date a bus driver?
00:01:30.940 If he owns the bus.
00:01:32.420 If he owns it.
00:01:33.500 If he owns the bus.
00:01:34.340 That's a problem.
00:01:35.300 That's a problem.
00:01:36.820 That's a problem.
00:01:37.600 Because the standards and requisites, and I'm not talking about him laying on his sofa playing
00:01:43.180 video games all day, I'm not talking about that, but the standards and the criteria that
00:01:49.620 we use to measure men is off for who we are as women and who they are in this society.
00:01:57.100 I would date a bus driver if he loved driving the bus, if he was a man of integrity, if he
00:02:04.240 was good to his mama, if he treated me well, I would date a bus driver. 1.00
00:02:09.800 But we think that it's another human being's responsibility to give us what we need instead
00:02:16.660 of us building together.
00:02:18.220 I can build with a bus driver.
00:02:20.100 I'd have my little stash over on the side and my prenup, but I could build with a bus driver.
00:02:26.160 So I think some of the criteria that we look for in the reality of today keeps us unhappy
00:02:34.080 keeps us angry, keeps us in balance.
00:02:37.860 And then when the men show up, we want to beat them up because they're not living up to our
00:02:42.600 standards and criteria.
00:02:44.440 And it's not working, beloved.
00:02:46.860 It's just not working.
00:02:48.700 So it's not that it's bad or wrong.
00:02:51.500 It's obsolete.
00:02:52.980 It's obsolete.
00:02:54.240 We have to come up with a new way of being.
00:02:56.500 I don't believe in carrying a man. 0.97
00:02:58.240 A man has to do for himself. 0.99
00:03:00.080 My son got his first job when he was nine.
00:03:04.000 Nine.
00:03:04.880 Okay. 0.99
00:03:05.400 Because you're a black man. 0.97
00:03:06.740 You will know how to take care of yourself. 0.94
00:03:08.800 But I think the way we measure it, it's just obsolete.
00:03:15.300 I think that's a factual analysis.
00:03:18.080 Whatever we want, expect.
00:03:20.440 Okay.
00:03:20.940 So my first question, would you date a bus driver?
00:03:26.900 No.
00:03:27.380 If you're on the bus.
00:03:30.920 What she said.
00:03:31.720 No, I'm joking.
00:03:37.180 It's just so surface level to ask that though, isn't it?
00:03:40.340 No, there's bus drivers that are trying to take women on, like you guys, on dates. 0.98
00:03:45.160 And they want to know if you would, you know, you would date them.
00:03:47.460 How much do bus drivers earn? 0.87
00:03:54.660 There's probably like levels though, isn't there?
00:03:57.060 I mean, I'm just going to look it up.
00:03:58.160 Bus driver's salary, London.
00:04:02.040 15 pounds an hour.
00:04:04.120 So like, I mean, that's like 18 US dollars, 15 pounds an hour.
00:04:10.980 So yes, no.
00:04:12.200 I'm going to say no now, but come back to me.
00:04:17.500 Okay.
00:04:17.960 So no, no.
00:04:19.320 I think I very much agree with what she said.
00:04:22.800 Like, if you're passionate in what you do, a lot of people earn way less than 15 pounds
00:04:27.480 an hour.
00:04:29.340 You're grafting.
00:04:30.300 And at the end of the day, you might be able to change that later on down the line.
00:04:34.540 So yeah, if I get along with you well, you're presenting yourself well, you're treating me
00:04:37.980 well, 100%.
00:04:38.900 Yeah.
00:04:40.000 Yeah, no, I would.
00:04:41.000 I used to, before I went out with my now partner, who's a man, I went out with two females. 1.00
00:04:47.040 And if I said that, obviously when I was with a woman, obviously, you know, like we was
00:04:54.440 50-50 in and things like that.
00:04:55.820 So if I would do that with a woman, then kind of, sort of, not, I'm saying like I don't 1.00
00:05:00.040 like being treated by a man, but for me personally, as someone who's been out with both females
00:05:04.200 and males, how can I hold a man to a higher standard of having to look after me when my
00:05:09.680 previous partner, who was a female, didn't have to earn as much? 0.98
00:05:12.920 It would be, for me personally, stupid to say, well, yeah, my man's got to earn X amount 0.96
00:05:18.000 because I never asked that of my female partner. 0.89
00:05:20.100 So what?
00:05:20.760 I'd have to ask that of my male partner.
00:05:22.460 Are your standards exactly the same when you look at men and women?
00:05:25.320 Yeah, I think so.
00:05:26.420 I think so.
00:05:27.100 I think so.
00:05:27.660 I never saw myself with a man, so I think it took me by surprise.
00:05:32.360 So I think it's not.
00:05:34.260 You never, so you were always like a lesbian before? 1.00
00:05:37.300 And then you found this guy and he was an exception?
00:05:39.240 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:39.840 I don't think it was an exception because now I, like, obviously, apart from, I'm so
00:05:43.540 sorry, babe, you are the only man I find attractive.
00:05:45.880 But like, obviously, I'm like, it's, I wouldn't rule out, like, just be, like, he's the only
00:05:51.740 man ever.
00:05:52.360 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:52.940 If that makes sense.
00:05:55.360 But, yeah, but I can't hold one in a certain respect without holding the other in the same
00:06:00.120 respect.
00:06:00.340 So if I said to my female partner, like, you know, yeah, it's fine for you to earn the
00:06:05.160 same as me and put 50-50 in, then how can I not be like that with my man?
00:06:09.020 But that's just, I think, a personal thing of going through that experience.
00:06:12.460 You know, it's interesting because I've had other girls that were bi on the show and 0.96
00:06:16.100 they actually said they had, like, higher standards for the guys than they do for the women.
00:06:19.780 I just, I'm just realistic, like, I'm just logical.
00:06:22.160 Like, I think it's just logic that, you know, if you're going to go out with both, then you
00:06:26.020 can't have different standards, can you?
00:06:27.620 Because at the end of the day, you're asking for the same thing, which is love in the same
00:06:31.360 capacity that I would ask love from a woman is the same capacity that I would ask love from
00:06:35.820 a man.
00:06:36.120 And so how can I ask for different materialistic things if what I'm asking for is the same?
00:06:41.920 Is the relationship dynamic the same when you go for men and women?
00:06:46.900 For me personally, like, the females I went out with were kind of tomboyish. 1.00
00:06:51.140 So, I'd say that the dynamics were more similar than I expected.
00:06:56.860 Okay.
00:06:58.000 I've always just been attracted to kind of, like, the leader of the group, whoever that
00:07:02.220 is, whatever, colour, ethnicity, religion, sex, do you know what I mean?
00:07:07.420 I've always just been attracted to someone.
00:07:09.460 But not a leader as in makes the most money, more as in character, you know, the kind of
00:07:13.660 brightest, the brightest star in the room, the brightest character.
00:07:16.860 So, for me, that's the most important thing rather than job.
00:07:21.160 Okay.
00:07:21.760 Would you date a bus driver?
00:07:23.220 Yeah, I'd date a bus driver.
00:07:26.640 Is there any profession you wouldn't date?
00:07:30.320 Like, adult stuff, you know, like, OF stuff.
00:07:33.860 Oh, OF, no.
00:07:35.040 No, or any of that type of stuff and anything that's, like, when they have to dress promiscuously
00:07:40.260 or anything like this.
00:07:41.380 Okay.
00:07:41.760 So, no, like, do you guys have Hooters here?
00:07:45.740 No.
00:07:46.100 No, okay.
00:07:47.160 Hooters is, like, a booty shorts chain in the U.S., where it's, like, it's, like, a
00:07:51.220 wait, like, they're waitresses, but they dress. 0.94
00:07:53.500 They wear, like, the orange stuff.
00:07:54.760 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:07:55.440 Yeah, yeah, that's Hooters.
00:07:56.840 Bring it to the U.K. 0.85
00:07:59.560 Not a degeneracy.
00:08:00.820 Haram.
00:08:03.800 Okay.
00:08:05.200 So, outside of just, like, promiscuous, is there any other industry you wouldn't date?
00:08:12.400 Do you know what?
00:08:13.140 Like, you know if someone, like, worked in a zoo as well?
00:08:15.260 Because I don't like the thought of, like,
00:08:16.780 some animals in captivity against their will and stuff.
00:08:19.040 I think that's a bit mad.
00:08:19.980 Okay.
00:08:20.200 And if they were, like, pro that, I'll be, like, morally, it might say a bit bad.
00:08:23.900 Wow.
00:08:24.020 That's, like, a very random idea.
00:08:25.360 I don't know.
00:08:25.740 I just, I just, I didn't really think about answering the question.
00:08:28.140 Yeah.
00:08:28.680 Okay.
00:08:29.240 What about you?
00:08:29.980 Would you date a bus driver?
00:08:30.960 I would.
00:08:31.360 As she said, if he's passionate and he's a family man and he respects his mom, absolutely.
00:08:35.740 I, it's fine.
00:08:36.980 Because I think the goal is to find a respectful man that can treat you well, other than a job.
00:08:42.900 We can fix that later on.
00:08:44.020 It's fine.
00:08:44.700 If you haven't.
00:08:45.120 No, no, no, no, no, no fixing it.
00:08:46.820 It's like he's a bus driver the rest of his life.
00:08:48.900 That's fine.
00:08:49.720 That's fine.
00:08:50.320 Are you, does that switch your answer?
00:08:52.480 Bus driver the rest of his life?
00:08:53.820 No, it doesn't.
00:08:54.420 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
00:09:02.660 this platform.
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