JustPearlyThings - May 10, 2023


Post Wall Woman SHARES Her NUMBER 1 Regret


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9 minutes

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2,101

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178

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22

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In this episode, we discuss how old is too old to have sex? How old should a woman be before she has sex? And how old should she be if she s having sex by the age of 35? We also talk about when is high value off the table for a woman and when is sex a waste of time.

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00:00:00.160 Do you know if a guy doesn't get married after the age of 35, he only has a 15% chance of ever getting married?
00:00:05.680 Isn't that crazy?
00:00:07.680 For women, it's like 0%. 1.00
00:00:09.520 Oh, wow.
00:00:10.080 I think, what is it?
00:00:10.960 If a woman doesn't have a child by 35, the chances of her having a child drop to about 0%.
00:00:16.080 Well, if she's single by 30, the chance of her ever having a kid drops below 50%. 0.79
00:00:23.440 So you're like, she's more likely to not have a kid than have one.
00:00:25.880 What does that tell you about sexual market value of a woman? 1.00
00:00:27.680 That's a scary statistic, right?
00:00:29.300 That's a harsh reality for me.
00:00:30.700 I'm getting married.
00:00:31.320 I would like to have kids.
00:00:32.280 My partner would like to have kids, but I am 35 and the chances, and I think that should be taught to girls because at the moment you see a lot of celebrities, they've paid for IVF, they've had their Expos and they're doing it older, but they've got millions of pounds to achieve things that isn't actually easy to achieve in the real world.
00:00:49.740 What do you wish you knew at 25?
00:00:52.180 Not to date anybody for their potential because the chances of them fulfilling that potential are quite slim.
00:00:59.060 that actually a man who is a go-getter, a man that is a hard worker, driven, they already are, and it's not going to come from me pushing them.
00:01:06.800 They already are that person.
00:01:08.760 And then, yeah.
00:01:09.600 Would you say you dated more for like looks in your 20s?
00:01:12.220 Not based on my exes, no, but I do think that that's what you look for, definitely.
00:01:20.160 Um, I think, but I've, I've, I've, sort of, oh sorry, me, this way?
00:01:30.020 Sorry, it's because I'm looking at Pearl, that's why.
00:01:32.600 Um, goodness me.
00:01:36.140 Uh, I've lost where I was again.
00:01:37.680 I asked if you, you dated for looks in your 20s.
00:01:40.160 Yeah, not based on my exes, no, but I do think that, uh, charisma, I'd say, I went for.
00:01:48.180 The funny one, the loud one, the confident one, you know, they weren't always the best looking one, but, but I think that that comes off as like a masculinity, in a way.
00:01:56.900 So I think that's what I was attracted to.
00:01:59.200 Um, and then I'd get in the relationship and realize actually they weren't doing anything else.
00:02:03.220 And I still, you're hooked.
00:02:05.080 They had a lot of, they had a lot of practice to get that funny.
00:02:08.040 They had a lot of free time, you know.
00:02:09.360 Exactly, yeah.
00:02:10.140 Talk to women. 1.00
00:02:11.020 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:12.500 Okay, um, what did you think of the body count?
00:02:14.580 Uh, when does, is high value off the table for a woman? 1.00
00:02:17.620 I think it is, uh, slightly age related as well.
00:02:21.240 Um, I think that if I had a kid or a niece, or I do have a niece, I would say just hold on to your virginity for as long as you can.
00:02:27.840 Um, but I think that early 18, if you start having sex when you're 16, maybe you've slept with one person.
00:02:37.520 And then 20, maybe two, you know.
00:02:39.600 And then if you're 35 and you've had a few relationships, then it'd be a little bit above that.
00:02:43.440 But I think that there's no need to go out.
00:02:47.020 Yeah, I think it matters.
00:02:48.600 What's the, what's the number?
00:02:49.320 Oh, sorry.
00:02:49.880 Yeah, sorry.
00:02:51.500 Uh, so early 20s, I'd say like five.
00:02:57.020 Okay.
00:02:57.300 Um, what age is high value off the table for a woman? 1.00
00:03:01.080 Probably 25.
00:03:02.100 Okay, so, so.
00:03:03.460 So five then.
00:03:04.400 Okay, roughly five.
00:03:05.460 Five, 25.
00:03:08.060 Yeah, I know.
00:03:08.800 You got it.
00:03:09.280 I agree, I agree.
00:03:10.420 What do you think?
00:03:11.380 Yeah, I think five.
00:03:12.160 Five.
00:03:12.540 Yeah, five.
00:03:13.060 After five high values off the table.
00:03:14.560 After five, it's finished.
00:03:15.800 That's a yo, Gus.
00:03:17.640 Sorry.
00:03:18.440 Sorry.
00:03:20.300 I'll say below double digits, to be honest.
00:03:23.140 Below double digits.
00:03:23.580 Yeah, yeah, below double digits.
00:03:24.300 So you're a little, you're kind, you'll give them up to ten.
00:03:26.620 Yeah.
00:03:28.700 That's the most common answer I get.
00:03:30.840 I get like, yeah, ten is, well, I get when I ask how many bodies is too many bodies, it's
00:03:36.360 always prefer five, I'll deal with ten, fifteen maybe if she's hot. 1.00
00:03:41.320 What do you think?
00:03:45.940 Well, it's funny that a lot of people land on five.
00:03:48.600 That's like statistically kind of the average for women in the Western nations. 1.00
00:03:54.160 Like, and so you're kind of going, well, as long as she's kind of average, which is, you know, I think it's a fair standard.
00:03:58.560 Is that average now?
00:03:59.340 That is about the average, yeah, reported.
00:04:01.160 I mean, obviously there's going to be some variances because people lie, whatever, but on the grand scale it's probably not off by more than one.
00:04:07.140 The one I, the one I read was higher than that, it was like eight, I think.
00:04:11.720 That might have been like Sweden or something, like a really like egalitarian sort of open society that could happen.
00:04:16.940 For men, you know, so.
00:04:18.240 Oh, were you doing like world?
00:04:19.840 Yeah.
00:04:20.180 Oh, okay.
00:04:20.540 No, it's like, it's more Western world.
00:04:21.860 It's more like England, America, Canada, you know, like sort of like the G20, whatever you want to call it.
00:04:25.580 So there, there could be, you know, some variance in that, but.
00:04:29.740 That's good though, if the average is fine.
00:04:32.200 It's a, it's such a, it's such an interesting thing.
00:04:34.520 Let me tell you guys this, like, here's the question I would ask, right?
00:04:36.620 And here's like a legitimate statistical question.
00:04:39.520 I'm interested in this, right?
00:04:40.340 Like as a man's income and options go up, options, meaning more women are willing to sleep with him. 0.98
00:04:46.560 Therefore, he gets to choose who he wants to commit to, because that's what a man does at the end of high value.
00:04:50.840 He chooses who he commits to, right?
00:04:52.040 He's the one that controls the commitment.
00:04:53.700 The woman controls the sex, right? 1.00
00:04:55.360 As a man's options go up, does that number change? 0.68
00:05:00.060 An interesting question, right?
00:05:01.120 Because like.
00:05:01.780 What number?
00:05:02.380 Well, the, the, the body count for a girl that's acceptable to him to form a long-term relationship.
00:05:06.200 Like I know a dude, we actually both know a dude with Henry that like is with a chick right now.
00:05:10.840 And like, you can tell she's been with a lot of dudes, but the guy's so inexperienced and naive.
00:05:14.900 He's just happy to have a woman.
00:05:16.600 He's like, yeah, I have a woman.
00:05:17.760 Is he well off?
00:05:18.620 No, no, no, no, no, not at all.
00:05:20.880 But I'm thinking like, but I'm thinking like, if this guy was like, as this guy, right, he's young, but as he rises through life, he's like, you know, it's more money, more money, more, whatever that metric you use for value, whatever, whatever, you know, gains more opportunity, more, more social value.
00:05:34.280 He might look at that chick and be like, you know what?
00:05:37.160 I can do better.
00:05:38.860 You know, it's like the same that your friend is picking up a 300 pound chick. 1.00
00:05:41.720 It's like most of the guys that go for that, by the way, there's actual studies on this as well.
00:05:45.660 Right.
00:05:45.860 And they say that poor men prefer fatter women.
00:05:48.480 And I look at that study ago.
00:05:49.620 It's not that they prefer.
00:05:50.420 It's just who they can get.
00:05:51.340 It's just like the market has a certain equilibrium, right?
00:05:53.380 There's a surplus of that.
00:05:54.500 There's way too many chicks that are oversized and there's way too many lazy, broke ass dudes. 1.00
00:05:58.320 And then the market surplus adjusts itself.
00:06:00.500 They're really a match made in heaven.
00:06:02.620 Heaven is a strong word.
00:06:03.660 Heaven is a strong word.
00:06:06.300 But that's funny because this lady in the green dress here was saying like, yeah, I had some guys living with me that never really thought they were going to marry me.
00:06:11.760 And my first thought was like, I wonder if they're very low ambition men.
00:06:15.260 Oh, I would say so.
00:06:16.400 Yeah, because they're comfortable being in an imperfect situation.
00:06:19.420 What happens is in this young gentleman here in front of me in the matching suit, he was saying earlier, he's like, I want a girl that pushes me and motivates me.
00:06:25.920 And I'm like, no, you don't.
00:06:27.400 If a woman has to motivate you. 1.00
00:06:29.360 No, you don't.
00:06:30.360 If a woman has to motivate you in a relationship, you will both be bitter and resentful. 1.00
00:06:36.200 Encourages.
00:06:36.720 I agree with that.
00:06:37.220 Yeah, I agree with you.
00:06:37.840 Like, my woman is like, hey, do you need to travel on that trip? 1.00
00:06:40.880 Do you do this?
00:06:41.260 I'm like, yeah.
00:06:41.940 Like, you know, like, I told my girlfriend who became my wife, I was like, I'm really, really ambitious.
00:06:46.500 I'm going to be working all the time.
00:06:47.560 You have to deal with that.
00:06:48.620 If you don't, that's okay.
00:06:49.420 But that's going to be me.
00:06:50.720 And so, and I find that her attraction for me stabilizes and even goes up because I am achieving new things all the time.
00:06:57.600 And she won't deny that.
00:06:59.040 I agree with that completely.
00:07:00.000 I work six days, seven days a week, and you have to put up with it.
00:07:03.000 It's just, that's what I do.
00:07:04.200 And I'm not going to stop doing what I'm doing because I'm able to provide what I need to provide.
00:07:08.860 And no matter what arguments happen, you're still happy with what I'm doing.
00:07:12.960 Because it shows that I'm doing what I need to do.
00:07:14.800 I would ask an interesting question.
00:07:16.000 Anybody here grow up with a two-parent household?
00:07:17.600 Like, my parents were together for most of my life.
00:07:19.300 Okay.
00:07:19.400 And I experienced this, right?
00:07:21.080 Like, my mom was constantly frustrated and a little resentful at my dad because he wasn't as ambitious as she was.
00:07:28.220 Has anybody ever experienced that?
00:07:29.200 That's a terrible relationship.
00:07:29.920 I saw that as a kid.
00:07:30.680 That's a terrible, that's a bad relationship to observe.
00:07:33.680 That's a bad relationship.
00:07:34.660 Because what happens, Pearl, you know, that's what happens with the moment a woman out-earns a man. 1.00
00:07:38.080 She leaves.
00:07:38.620 It's done.
00:07:39.620 Done.
00:07:40.340 Yeah.
00:07:40.840 Instantly.
00:07:41.280 So, it's like, you want to really motivate your guy?
00:07:43.120 No, you don't.
00:07:44.040 Support him.
00:07:45.180 No, but that's, yeah.
00:07:47.160 Support.
00:07:48.220 Always be there.
00:07:48.560 It's not, the guy should have his own drive, his own ambition, his own motivation.
00:07:52.060 He should have his own goals.
00:07:53.160 And then the woman's like, yeah, you go. 1.00
00:07:54.960 Yeah.
00:07:55.200 You know?
00:07:55.400 Just as a call.
00:07:56.100 Yeah.
00:07:56.420 Just positivity at home.
00:07:58.340 You know?
00:07:58.760 Not actually, because I made the mistake of thinking that I could motivate people that
00:08:03.540 don't have any motivation, any drive, any goals, and they're happy to earn not very much.
00:08:07.600 That guy won't choose a 300-pound woman with 20 ducks. 1.00
00:08:10.120 Like, he just won't.
00:08:11.260 Period.
00:08:11.780 He just won't.
00:08:12.760 Why would he?
00:08:13.860 Well, I wasn't.
00:08:14.740 I still agree with what you're saying as well.
00:08:16.740 You know what's interesting?
00:08:17.640 It's like, women, we pick non-monogamy in our 20s. 0.93
00:08:20.960 Like, so it's like, interesting, because this is the first time in human history where
00:08:23.540 women have been in control of sex. 1.00
00:08:25.680 Like, historically, you either go with the guy that steals you, you know what I mean?
00:08:28.800 Or you're dead.
00:08:29.980 You can either comply with him or you're dead.
00:08:31.240 So this is the first time in human history we're 100% in control of sex because there's
00:08:35.280 consequences for the men, and we're also 100% in control of who's born.
00:08:38.600 So what happened?
00:08:39.460 You would think, like, when women were in control of sex, that we would pick monogamy, 1.00
00:08:43.480 right?
00:08:43.760 But it's interesting, because women, when we are at our peak, like, we're in our prime, 1.00
00:08:47.240 we pick non-monogamy in our 20s.
00:08:49.240 And typically, like, women pick non-monogamy because we find 80% of men is unattractive, not just
00:08:54.520 okay, not just, nah.
00:08:55.860 We find them as ugly.
00:08:56.860 So because we find 80% of men is unattractive, that means we're sharing 20% of men.
00:09:00.820 And so, yeah, so we're picking.
00:09:02.640 And because in our 20s, like you were saying, like, you can't pick a guy for ambition.
00:09:06.440 Like, maybe it's social status, whatever it is.
00:09:09.420 So basically, women share men in their 20s, and then in their 30s, pick a leftover guy, 0.98
00:09:14.780 typically, that they wouldn't have picked in their 20s.
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