JustPearlyThings - October 24, 2023


Producer NUKES The Panel With This Truth Bomb


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In this episode, we discuss body positivity and how to deal with your friends who are gaining weight. Should you speak to them about it? Should you tell them that they should lose weight? Should they go to hospital because they are getting sick? Is it a health issue or is it a mental issue?

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00:00:00.000 So what's the reason for you telling them their facts?
00:00:02.080 You want them to improve, right?
00:00:03.920 Let me put more perspective on this.
00:00:05.760 The reality, what I've noticed is
00:00:07.420 women actually secretly hate each other. 1.00
00:00:10.940 Women are not real friends to each other 1.00
00:00:12.380 and that's why they always have to pretend.
00:00:15.380 The reason why I don't have a problem with my bro
00:00:17.260 telling me shit as blunt as possible
00:00:19.440 is because I know he's my bro
00:00:20.960 and I know he has my best interest at heart.
00:00:23.360 So no matter how he says it,
00:00:25.180 I'm not going to take it the wrong way.
00:00:27.200 The reason why you women always take things the wrong way 1.00
00:00:29.260 is because secretly you don't know
00:00:31.240 if that woman is truly your friend.
00:00:33.580 I agree with that.
00:00:34.400 You guys hang out to people that are not real friends.
00:00:37.980 You hate each other secretly.
00:00:39.380 So whenever a woman comes to you and says something, 0.95
00:00:41.440 you take it sideways like,
00:00:42.580 oh, that bitch, why would she even say that to me? 1.00
00:00:45.100 Because you're not real friends.
00:00:47.240 If me and my bro have been through all sorts of shit together,
00:00:50.220 maybe we were on the streets together,
00:00:51.700 we came up together,
00:00:52.880 there's nothing he wants to say to me.
00:00:54.340 There's no how he's going to deliver it
00:00:55.580 that I'm going to take it the wrong way.
00:00:57.060 Unless, of course, we are now at a point
00:00:59.000 where he's done something
00:00:59.800 and I don't consider him my friend anymore.
00:01:02.240 Listen, if I'm getting fat
00:01:03.900 and the man can't tell me I'm getting fat,
00:01:06.400 you know my bedroom, lad?
00:01:07.160 You shouldn't have them around you, yeah.
00:01:08.720 You might not move them mad.
00:01:09.900 If I'm getting fat
00:01:10.760 and my stomach hanging over the belt a little bit,
00:01:13.400 my chin getting a bit doubly,
00:01:15.440 chest getting a bit resty and that,
00:01:17.560 and you don't tell me as the man,
00:01:18.840 and we're going out and we're enjoying ourselves
00:01:20.880 and we're doing the madness
00:01:21.780 and you can see people looking at me weird.
00:01:23.220 You're a bad friend.
00:01:24.900 What are we doing there?
00:01:25.640 I want to hear the other side.
00:01:28.240 You said that you wouldn't say anything.
00:01:30.860 What's your reasons for that?
00:01:34.680 As well, my point of view obviously was different.
00:01:37.760 Like I said,
00:01:38.660 I'm not going to say to a person,
00:01:40.940 you fat. 0.74
00:01:42.440 And yeah.
00:01:43.500 But in the context that you mentioned
00:01:47.200 that Ife is my friend,
00:01:48.980 she was healthy before
00:01:50.760 and now she's gaining weight. 1.00
00:01:53.680 My approach would be obviously to ask
00:01:55.540 if there is anything,
00:01:57.840 if she,
00:01:59.660 what is happening of her gaining weight?
00:02:01.940 Is she feeling comfortable gaining weight?
00:02:03.640 Or is she obviously actually stressed?
00:02:06.580 So for you,
00:02:07.100 is it about the subjective emotion
00:02:08.760 the person's feeling?
00:02:09.800 So if they're gaining weight
00:02:11.260 but they're still happy in their own skin,
00:02:13.260 you're okay with that?
00:02:15.340 As I said,
00:02:16.400 if there is any health issue related to that,
00:02:20.580 I don't think that,
00:02:21.700 because for me,
00:02:22.520 the point where,
00:02:23.500 as well,
00:02:23.780 the whole thing with body positivity for me,
00:02:27.260 I'm not personally too focused on the body.
00:02:29.520 I think it's more about the health.
00:02:31.780 And when I mean health
00:02:32.780 is your mental health
00:02:34.220 and obviously your health himself
00:02:37.920 and your mental health.
00:02:39.760 But doesn't work
00:02:40.520 and not improve the mental health.
00:02:42.040 No way.
00:02:43.600 But forget that.
00:02:45.620 Being overweight
00:02:46.580 brings health problems.
00:02:49.320 So it doesn't matter
00:02:50.140 if the health problems
00:02:50.960 are the reason that the weight is coming.
00:02:52.760 The weight will inevitably
00:02:53.660 bring problems with it.
00:02:55.440 So my question to you is,
00:02:57.380 are you going to tell them?
00:02:58.500 You talked about being as overweight.
00:03:01.880 If you're overweight,
00:03:03.880 it says in the word,
00:03:05.240 overweight.
00:03:06.760 It obviously brings problems
00:03:08.360 of health problems.
00:03:10.040 So are you going to present that to your friend?
00:03:12.060 Even if they say,
00:03:12.940 I'm perfectly happy in my own skin,
00:03:15.600 I feel great.
00:03:17.080 Like I said,
00:03:17.860 whenever there is a health issue involved,
00:03:20.720 I'm going to speak about it,
00:03:22.320 because health is more important than looks.
00:03:25.480 So you wait until they're already dying
00:03:27.480 before you...
00:03:28.520 This is not what I said.
00:03:31.140 One more time again,
00:03:32.600 you're trying to,
00:03:33.560 you know,
00:03:34.440 misunderstand what you want.
00:03:36.200 But this is not what I said.
00:03:37.780 No, I actually purposely made it,
00:03:40.420 exaggerated it,
00:03:41.180 but the point stands.
00:03:42.900 The point is,
00:03:43.860 what you're saying is,
00:03:44.500 you're going to wait until there's a health issue
00:03:46.140 before you bring it up.
00:03:47.400 But the reality is,
00:03:48.560 what you should do as a friend
00:03:49.560 is to bring it up,
00:03:50.300 because the reality is,
00:03:51.020 some people don't even know
00:03:52.240 when something could be going wrong with them.
00:03:55.860 But if you bring it up,
00:03:56.920 then they could look like,
00:03:57.780 okay,
00:03:57.940 maybe I should go to the hospital
00:03:58.920 and actually check myself up.
00:04:00.780 But you wouldn't bring it up
00:04:02.040 until maybe they've probably fainted one day
00:04:05.620 and then they go to the hospital
00:04:06.440 and they get back in.
00:04:06.780 Once again,
00:04:07.400 you are misunderstanding.
00:04:09.200 You are mentioning something.
00:04:10.200 There's nothing that I said
00:04:11.580 that I can relate
00:04:12.440 that I said,
00:04:13.340 unfortunately,
00:04:13.900 because health is not only
00:04:16.580 getting physically,
00:04:18.940 that you're sick
00:04:20.340 is not that you get,
00:04:21.560 how do you say it in English?
00:04:23.440 You don't have to be physically sick
00:04:25.400 to be sick.
00:04:26.000 To show sick.
00:04:26.680 Your mental health
00:04:27.540 can already be deteriorated
00:04:29.020 for you to be sick. 0.91
00:04:30.080 Look,
00:04:30.400 I'm not even trying to be funny.
00:04:31.320 If the person
00:04:32.120 is not happy being fat,
00:04:33.920 I'm not even trying to be funny.
00:04:34.540 And the person
00:04:35.880 is not physically sick.
00:04:37.440 I'm not even trying to be funny,
00:04:38.940 but I just find it funny
00:04:39.780 how you keep saying
00:04:42.160 I am misunderstanding
00:04:43.300 when you're the one
00:04:44.600 that doesn't really
00:04:45.340 understand English.
00:04:46.320 It's just very funny
00:04:47.120 because I understand
00:04:48.840 exactly what you say,
00:04:49.560 but you are the one
00:04:50.500 that keeps misunderstanding
00:04:51.060 what I'm saying.
00:04:51.820 I'm not understanding English
00:04:52.500 and me not maybe
00:04:55.580 putting in a way
00:04:56.920 what I want to say
00:04:58.100 because what I want to say,
00:04:59.340 I know what I want to say
00:05:01.340 and what you are saying
00:05:03.380 is absolutely not what I said.
00:05:04.860 Wasn't the question
00:05:05.440 would you guys dare fat woman? 0.91
00:05:07.320 I will not wait
00:05:08.080 for my friend to be able
00:05:09.320 to be on a way to die
00:05:11.220 before I'm lonely.
00:05:12.160 The question was overweight.
00:05:13.460 Overweight, yes.
00:05:14.720 Would you guys date
00:05:15.380 a woman that's taller 1.00
00:05:16.600 or more overweight?
00:05:18.100 Let's look at both aspects.
00:05:19.800 Okay.
00:05:20.080 Tell me, explain.
00:05:21.040 Overweight, yes.
00:05:22.000 Obese, no.
00:05:23.080 Taller, yes.
00:05:24.340 It really doesn't matter to me.
00:05:25.520 I'm 62, I am,
00:05:26.740 and I'm all right, man.
00:05:27.180 It depends on how
00:05:28.520 overweight she is, isn't it? 1.00
00:05:29.540 Think about other men, though.
00:05:30.600 Let's talk about
00:05:31.060 a general perspective here.
00:05:32.260 If she's a bit
00:05:34.780 on the thick side, then...
00:05:36.620 Little tickers, you get me?
00:05:37.920 Little bounce, you get me?
00:05:39.480 The BMI might say differently,
00:05:41.020 but, you know...
00:05:41.940 But height doesn't put you off.
00:05:43.640 It doesn't put you off,
00:05:44.760 and a bit of weight
00:05:45.620 doesn't put you off.
00:05:46.400 No, no.
00:05:47.260 No, it just depends
00:05:48.040 on how much weight,
00:05:49.080 because...
00:05:49.660 Does it depend on the face
00:05:50.820 as well?
00:05:51.680 She has to be...
00:05:52.320 I'm not going to lie,
00:05:53.060 she has to be pretty. 1.00
00:05:54.080 Okay, so there's standards
00:05:55.240 here now.
00:05:56.360 Because there are
00:05:57.480 some pretty...
00:05:58.460 In fact...
00:05:59.240 You've got to say
00:06:00.600 overweight,
00:06:01.080 and we've got to be
00:06:02.200 politically correct.
00:06:03.260 No, you can say fat.
00:06:04.080 You've got to say...
00:06:04.520 No, we can't.
00:06:05.240 We say it as it is.
00:06:06.080 We can say over...
00:06:06.680 Just say overweight.
00:06:07.660 So there's Chubz chicks 1.00
00:06:08.920 with cute faces?
00:06:09.880 Yeah, there is.
00:06:10.640 There is.
00:06:11.120 There is.
00:06:11.420 Those Chubzies. 1.00
00:06:12.180 Get me.
00:06:12.860 That might be tall as well.
00:06:14.960 They can always go
00:06:15.760 turkey and swear
00:06:16.420 and get a BBO in and swear.
00:06:17.320 Easy things.
00:06:18.080 But let me ask
00:06:18.620 a quick question, yeah?
00:06:19.560 I'll just go gym in it.
00:06:20.720 I genuinely feel like
00:06:23.540 this is a bit of a madness,
00:06:25.700 yeah?
00:06:25.780 Let me ask you a question,
00:06:26.720 yeah?
00:06:27.400 Let's say, for example,
00:06:28.340 you was going out...
00:06:28.880 Can you hear me?
00:06:29.640 Let's say, for example,
00:06:30.240 you was going out
00:06:30.580 with your brethren,
00:06:31.120 yeah?
00:06:31.260 It's your brethren's birthday,
00:06:32.480 yeah?
00:06:33.380 She's bought this one dress
00:06:35.080 that is not befitting
00:06:36.620 of her figure at all,
00:06:37.840 yeah?
00:06:38.660 She's put the dress on.
00:06:39.780 The dress looks mad.
00:06:41.140 But it's her birthday dress.
00:06:42.420 It's her dream dress.
00:06:43.440 She knows what one.
00:06:44.540 Oh, shit.
00:06:45.020 This is how I want to look.
00:06:46.760 She's fitted the hair,
00:06:48.980 but the hair is not hairin.
00:06:51.140 Do you get me?
00:06:51.460 Certain things are lifting.
00:06:52.460 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:06:53.020 Maybe the glue was not
00:06:53.860 too gluey.
00:06:54.560 Do you see what I'm saying?
00:06:55.140 That type of thing in general.
00:06:57.280 It's your brethren's birthday.
00:06:58.800 Would you look at her
00:06:59.780 in that situation
00:07:00.520 and let her go out?
00:07:02.760 Would you at least be honest
00:07:03.700 and be like,
00:07:04.080 yo, babes, look, 0.55
00:07:05.640 you might want to change the dress.
00:07:06.900 I know this is your birthday dress,
00:07:08.280 X, Y, and Z.
00:07:08.720 You might want to change it
00:07:09.580 because it's not flattering
00:07:10.400 or if the wig might be lifting
00:07:12.620 or the hair might be tearing
00:07:14.620 or the extension.
00:07:17.260 All right, don't bait us out.
00:07:19.020 Don't bait us out.
00:07:19.960 I've never said anything about you.
00:07:20.980 I've never said anything about you.
00:07:21.300 I've never said anything about you.
00:07:21.580 I've never said anything about you.
00:07:21.880 I've never said anything about you.
00:07:22.140 Let her answer.
00:07:22.740 Let her answer.
00:07:23.500 Let her answer.
00:07:24.160 I'm giving her as much room as possible.
00:07:25.820 Would you tell her?
00:07:26.920 Flicking my hair is in the shoes.
00:07:28.220 Oh, shit.
00:07:28.800 You need to rephrase again properly
00:07:30.380 what you're trying to say
00:07:31.480 because you have mentioned
00:07:32.380 a lot of things.
00:07:33.020 Aviola, your friend essentially looks awful.
00:07:37.620 She looks terrible.
00:07:39.200 In nicer ways.
00:07:40.200 You can see she doesn't look good, right?
00:07:43.820 But she thinks she does.
00:07:45.720 Are you letting her go out looking like that
00:07:48.620 or are you telling her,
00:07:50.540 love you to pieces,
00:07:52.420 but you look like shit? 0.86
00:07:53.160 Well, if her outfit is looking all over the place 1.00
00:07:58.420 and her wig is lifting
00:07:59.880 and her eyelashes glue, whatever, 0.92
00:08:02.440 obviously I'm going to tell that
00:08:03.600 because this is not how you put on the wig.
00:08:05.660 This is not how you put the eyelashes.
00:08:07.540 But if everything is looking good,
00:08:10.540 but it's just a question of a person
00:08:14.180 not finding it good,
00:08:15.840 I don't know what to say.
00:08:18.040 Fair enough.
00:08:18.900 Fair enough.
00:08:19.340 I don't know if I think that this is truthful
00:08:26.540 based on your other answer.
00:08:28.440 However, you're entitled to your opinion,
00:08:31.120 so we'll leave it at that.
00:08:34.700 So we've established that women lie to each other. 1.00
00:08:37.840 Okay.
00:08:38.800 We won't get into why
00:08:40.940 because that's a whole other long conversation.
00:08:43.220 Do they lie more to women or to men? 0.75
00:08:46.020 I think we just lie in general.
00:08:48.240 I think we have adapted in such a way
00:08:51.780 that we are extremely manipulative
00:08:53.600 and it's a survival tactic.
00:08:56.140 And I think in today's day and age,
00:08:57.960 it's been overinflated to the point
00:09:00.080 where women get away with lying about things 1.00
00:09:02.320 that we don't even need to lie about anymore.
00:09:04.820 So a question I have about female nature 1.00
00:09:07.880 is can women make good decisions? 1.00
00:09:10.960 You can go into so many...
00:09:15.000 Let me give more context.
00:09:15.820 Yeah, a bit more context, please.
00:09:16.780 Let me give more context.
00:09:18.540 Because people...
00:09:19.740 Go into deep.
00:09:20.520 Yeah, of course.
00:09:21.420 We overthink everything.
00:09:22.920 What can I do?
00:09:23.840 I've been designed like this.
00:09:24.900 Can women make good decisions? 1.00
00:09:27.460 Who makes a better decision,
00:09:28.460 a man or a woman?
00:09:29.740 Well, men...
00:09:30.440 Who's better at making decisions?
00:09:31.280 We lead with emotions.
00:09:32.700 Men lead with logic.
00:09:33.880 So you can understand
00:09:34.960 which side's the better.
00:09:36.200 So you're saying...
00:09:38.600 I'm saying logic.
00:09:40.300 You're saying men make better decisions?
00:09:42.760 Yeah.
00:09:43.740 In general, it's men. 0.59
00:09:46.480 I think it really depends,
00:09:47.520 to be honest with you.
00:09:48.160 On?
00:09:49.240 So women haven't been put in certain positions 1.00
00:09:52.300 to be able to have enough data
00:09:54.140 for us to be like,
00:09:54.860 oh, you make considerably better decisions
00:09:57.120 than men or worse.
00:09:58.280 They just haven't been put in those positions before.
00:10:00.120 Why have they not been put in those positions?
00:10:01.760 For a multitude of reasons.
00:10:03.440 Such as?
00:10:03.840 Man them being man them 0.70
00:10:06.120 stay in a woman's place. 1.00
00:10:08.680 Prime example.
00:10:10.180 Hang on a minute.
00:10:11.060 Hang on a minute.
00:10:12.000 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:10:13.840 So you're suggesting that the reason
00:10:15.540 that women aren't in significant positions of power... 1.00
00:10:18.980 I'm not suggesting that at all.
00:10:19.900 So you just said that because of,
00:10:23.140 to quote yourself,
00:10:24.080 I said the reason why both of them are...
00:10:26.580 I don't know which one to say.
00:10:28.220 You said that women don't have enough data available to them. 1.00
00:10:30.380 Careful, bro.
00:10:30.520 There's four girls here, bro. 0.99
00:10:31.520 It's fine.
00:10:32.620 You're thinking yourself, bro.
00:10:33.620 Careful, careful.
00:10:34.880 Don't die.
00:10:35.840 The question I'm trying to ask is,
00:10:37.380 are you...
00:10:38.040 Correct me if I'm wrong,
00:10:39.840 but it sounds like you're kind of going along the lines of patriarchy.
00:10:44.360 Is that what you're saying?
00:10:45.300 No, no.
00:10:45.660 So long story short...