JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


Promiscuous Woman SNITCHES On Herself


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

197.9964

Word Count

1,759

Sentence Count

163

Misogynist Sentences

19

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary

In this episode, we talk about cheating in relationships and how cheating affects a relationship and the impact it can have on a relationship. We also talk about how cheating is different for men and women and the consequences of cheating.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Do you think cheating is different for men and for women?
00:00:02.400 Yeah, it is.
00:00:03.200 And I saw it as a child, like my father was traveling a lot because of work and this and that.
00:00:08.000 And he even got child spread around.
00:00:11.440 And he was coming back home as like nothing happened or anything like this.
00:00:15.200 And somehow I understand him, you know, not say that that was right, you know,
00:00:20.240 but I think it works differently.
00:00:21.760 He could go back home and he was with another one and another one.
00:00:25.360 And it was working for him.
00:00:26.400 I think men can manage and get some detachment from that and be something like just physical
00:00:32.000 and things like this.
00:00:32.800 Whereas for women, I think we get more attached, like things like this.
00:00:36.880 So I think it works different.
00:00:38.240 Did your mom know about it?
00:00:39.840 She found out.
00:00:40.960 Yes, she found out.
00:00:42.000 And she still worked on the relationship for a very, very long time
00:00:45.760 because of the kids and also like values and things like this.
00:00:48.800 So she stayed.
00:00:49.680 Yeah.
00:00:50.320 And are you grateful she did?
00:00:51.760 I think it was worth it because, but it got to a point that my father had other things
00:01:00.640 like domestic violence and things like this.
00:01:02.640 And actually she broke up because one day she was taking me to school
00:01:06.560 and there was a lot of domestic violence.
00:01:08.560 Right.
00:01:08.880 So it was a mix of things.
00:01:10.240 And I told her, like I was six years old to say, like, why don't you, you know,
00:01:13.840 because it was the point that was very like, yeah, it was putting her life in danger, basically.
00:01:19.360 Uh, but I'm very proud.
00:01:21.520 And through that, she made me like a lot of examples.
00:01:24.400 And I know the consequences as well when cheating and things like this.
00:01:27.600 That's why, like, I don't cheat because I still have these memories and I know how,
00:01:31.360 especially like in a marriage or things that it's how it affects women and the kids, you know,
00:01:37.120 and also my father nowadays, he regrets because he's alone.
00:01:40.480 Yeah.
00:01:40.880 And he regrets what, what he did.
00:01:42.720 So I think in marriage and things like this, it's more sensitive, like it's more delicate,
00:01:49.040 the situation, of course.
00:01:51.360 What about you is cheating?
00:01:56.320 Everyone is waiting for this answer.
00:01:59.680 This is funny.
00:02:00.480 I was cheating different for men and for women.
00:02:03.600 I don't really understand how you mean this, but what I understand is it's different.
00:02:08.480 If, if a man can do it to a woman, then woman can do it to men.
00:02:13.280 If you don't, if you don't, if you don't like, um, someone to do something to you, don't do it.
00:02:19.360 I feel, I feel it's the same feeling.
00:02:21.120 And, and me personally, I'm just going to show you how it feels.
00:02:25.600 And if you like it, my question is, do men and women get equally emotionally attached during sex?
00:02:32.400 I don't know because I'm not every woman.
00:02:34.320 I just talk about myself and I feel it's not.
00:02:36.960 Just in your experience, is it equal or is it not equal?
00:02:40.160 It's equal.
00:02:40.800 Okay.
00:02:41.200 You, you think the same feeling.
00:02:42.800 Okay.
00:02:43.120 So you can just have sex with a guy and feel nothing.
00:02:45.280 Yeah.
00:02:46.800 Just, just to show you how it feels.
00:02:48.560 Would you, have you always been like that where you could just have sex with no feelings?
00:02:53.040 Or did that come over time?
00:02:55.040 Okay.
00:02:55.440 Basically, I truly believe that when it, when it comes for you to cheat, you just need to go.
00:03:01.920 But I've been in a situation when I told the guy I did it and they don't want to leave.
00:03:07.280 They say, okay, cool.
00:03:08.880 I did it as well.
00:03:09.600 So we're good now.
00:03:14.160 Okay.
00:03:14.800 It's insane what I'm hearing from you, seriously.
00:03:18.720 No, I really don't understand.
00:03:20.080 First of all, I don't understand how you can say like,
00:03:23.440 I want you, no, I don't understand.
00:03:24.720 I want you to explain me how for a man and a woman is the same.
00:03:27.520 It's the same.
00:03:28.800 Like the, the same feeling.
00:03:30.160 I don't know.
00:03:30.640 I don't know about other women.
00:03:31.840 I'm saying about me.
00:03:33.120 I'm saying about me.
00:03:34.400 If, if my partner can go and do it, I'm just going to close my eyes and go and do it.
00:03:39.120 You just need to feel the same feeling.
00:03:40.720 I'm not just going to accept you.
00:03:42.320 Okay, cool.
00:03:42.880 You're a man.
00:03:43.440 You did it.
00:03:43.920 And I'm going to be, okay, fine.
00:03:45.360 But what do you, what do you get out of that?
00:03:47.600 You just finish it off.
00:03:49.520 Yeah, but I'm saying like, what?
00:03:50.400 You just finish it off equally.
00:03:52.640 It's a bit immature.
00:03:54.160 I know, I know.
00:03:55.040 That's why I don't have no relationship.
00:03:56.880 I don't believe in relationship right now.
00:03:59.200 I don't believe none of that stuff.
00:04:00.960 Do you know that woman, that's a study I've read.
00:04:03.680 I don't know if it's true or not.
00:04:04.800 Do you know that woman who goes with many men,
00:04:07.120 it's very difficult for them to find stability after
00:04:09.600 because they keep comparing with other men from the past?
00:04:13.360 Did I say I went with too many men?
00:04:16.240 This is what I said.
00:04:17.520 I said, if I'm cheated, I'm going to cheat.
00:04:19.920 I think he's asking because you said
00:04:23.600 that you can have sex without emotions.
00:04:26.640 I think every woman can.
00:04:28.720 I think anybody can have sex without emotion.
00:04:30.640 And it's happened to anybody in any situation.
00:04:33.040 Drugs, sober, I'm sorry.
00:04:34.400 And mostly girls, when they drink, we know what happens.
00:04:40.560 You just want that thing.
00:04:43.200 So that's without emotions.
00:04:45.120 You're drunk.
00:04:45.760 You just want to have like...
00:04:46.960 Animal instinct.
00:04:47.760 You want to get the urge out and then you realize,
00:04:49.760 oh shit, I came, but now I came to my senses.
00:04:53.280 You get it?
00:04:54.160 And I don't even believe like women cheat because emotionally,
00:04:58.800 all of that stuff.
00:04:59.520 Women cheat because they're upset.
00:05:01.280 Women cheat because they didn't get enough attention.
00:05:04.400 Women just kind of cheat.
00:05:06.960 You don't need to get connected with someone.
00:05:09.520 You don't need to, you're just going to be upset.
00:05:11.840 You're going to go, you're going to feel like.
00:05:14.000 It's the moment.
00:05:15.120 Do you like when you do it?
00:05:16.880 Do what?
00:05:17.440 If you, if you cheat on the guy who cheated on you,
00:05:19.600 do you like the outcome?
00:05:20.960 Do you get something out of it?
00:05:22.240 Like you feel like revenge.
00:05:23.280 You're not really, but you just feel, okay,
00:05:25.280 I'm not that hurt no more because I did it too.
00:05:27.440 And you move on.
00:05:28.160 I don't believe you should go back.
00:05:30.000 I don't believe.
00:05:31.040 My question is more,
00:05:33.840 were you always like this where you could have sex without emotions?
00:05:37.200 Or did that come over time?
00:05:40.560 Like, like the first time you had sex,
00:05:42.240 do you think you could have sex without emotions?
00:05:44.160 Or did that come later?
00:05:47.200 I think it just, it just builds with,
00:05:50.240 with time, with time.
00:05:51.760 And like, you expecting this is not this.
00:05:55.280 Then you just get quotes.
00:05:56.800 Yeah.
00:05:57.280 Yeah.
00:05:57.600 No, that's, that's, that's, yeah.
00:05:59.520 Yeah.
00:05:59.760 Okay.
00:06:01.440 Cheating different for men and for women.
00:06:03.200 I think so.
00:06:04.320 I mean, I do agree.
00:06:05.280 I do think girls can have sex and just be like,
00:06:08.320 don't have any emotions.
00:06:09.200 Just be like, I just want to have sex.
00:06:10.800 Yeah.
00:06:11.200 And like, I got what I want.
00:06:13.120 Bye.
00:06:14.080 Don't see you again.
00:06:15.360 But I think if it comes to like proper cheating,
00:06:17.760 I think indeed, like, I think what was said before,
00:06:22.160 there's a buildup for girls.
00:06:23.760 Like there's a buildup of that talking and like, you know,
00:06:27.120 at least I can speak for myself and I know some others.
00:06:30.000 But for guys.
00:06:30.560 There's exceptions.
00:06:31.200 We're talking about the rules.
00:06:32.080 Yeah.
00:06:32.480 Yeah.
00:06:32.640 I think, I think for guys, I think age ever guys,
00:06:34.720 I think quite often it could be like, yeah, just sex.
00:06:39.280 I also think for guys, quite often it can be insecurity.
00:06:41.600 I think a lot of guys cheat because of insecurity.
00:06:43.520 They need constant, that constant intention.
00:06:45.680 Women as well.
00:06:46.160 From other women.
00:06:47.040 And I think it also, I think it also could have to do with the fact.
00:06:49.360 No, I think women cheat out of insecurity.
00:06:51.600 I mean, yeah, also.
00:06:52.880 I think guys just like to fuck.
00:06:54.720 Yeah.
00:06:54.960 But I think, I think, I think,
00:06:57.040 I think when like a lot of guys,
00:06:58.080 at least what I've also heard from like friends and others,
00:07:00.320 like where guys, they feel insecure, especially for example,
00:07:04.000 if they're in a relationship with a pretty strong woman,
00:07:06.480 a woman who like, she got her shit together.
00:07:08.880 She got a job.
00:07:09.520 She got like, she's successful.
00:07:10.880 She doesn't need him.
00:07:12.240 The fact when guys, I think when guys sometimes,
00:07:14.080 I think it's usually those women just degrade their,
00:07:17.360 the guy they're with.
00:07:19.040 Why would you think that?
00:07:20.240 Because in my experience,
00:07:21.360 the women that say those things typically degrade the guy they're with
00:07:24.800 because they feel like they're better than him.
00:07:26.640 That's just a trend.
00:07:27.600 They'll downsize him.
00:07:29.280 Yeah.
00:07:29.680 I wanna, can I ask a question?
00:07:31.920 You agreed that men who are insecure would cheat.
00:07:35.200 Can I ask why?
00:07:36.000 Because I'm unfamiliar with this concept in my mind.
00:07:39.600 Not from my personal experience,
00:07:41.280 because I've never felt in any way insecure,
00:07:44.240 not because my size, my shape, my color, my form,
00:07:46.640 what language I speak.
00:07:47.600 I've never felt insecure.
00:07:48.960 So it never let me to cheat.
00:07:50.240 If I decided to cheat is because
00:07:53.200 it was once upon a time,
00:07:54.720 and I had no understanding of what was concept of emotion,
00:07:58.400 feeling or even relationship.
00:08:00.800 So based on what like you agree on this statement,
00:08:03.840 because I'm trying to understand now.
00:08:05.360 Yeah.
00:08:05.840 I agree from what I've heard people's experiences,
00:08:09.760 but then again, not everyone has the same experience.
00:08:12.560 Not everyone has the same upbringing,
00:08:14.720 the same
00:08:17.360 situation.
00:08:18.240 Because in my understanding,
00:08:20.160 a man who has like,
00:08:21.520 lack of confidence,
00:08:22.720 or he's insecure,
00:08:24.160 he's most likely to suffer with this same woman,
00:08:27.760 and she will cheat on him.
00:08:29.120 Internal.
00:08:30.320 He will suffer, he will suffer internally,
00:08:32.480 and he will keep taking abuse,
00:08:34.320 but he'll bite his tongue,
00:08:36.080 and he'll be like, you know what?
00:08:37.360 I'm going to try my best.
00:08:38.400 I'm going to do everything possible.
00:08:40.160 And then unfortunately, in some situations,
00:08:42.960 either it doesn't work out,
00:08:44.320 and she leaves,
00:08:45.120 or it seems like it's working out,
00:08:47.440 but in reality,
00:08:48.880 the foundation is deteriorating,
00:08:50.560 and it's just a matter of time
00:08:51.600 before the building collapse.