JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


Promiscuous Woman SNITCHES On Herself


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8 minutes

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197.9964

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1,759

Sentence count

163

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Misogyny

19

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Hate speech

10

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In this episode, we talk about cheating in relationships and how cheating affects a relationship and the impact it can have on a relationship. We also talk about how cheating is different for men and women and the consequences of cheating.

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00:00:00.000 Do you think cheating is different for men and for women?
00:00:02.400 Yeah, it is.
00:00:03.200 And I saw it as a child, like my father was traveling a lot because of work and this and that.
00:00:08.000 And he even got child spread around.
00:00:11.440 And he was coming back home as like nothing happened or anything like this.
00:00:15.200 And somehow I understand him, you know, not say that that was right, you know,
00:00:20.240 but I think it works differently.
00:00:21.760 He could go back home and he was with another one and another one.
00:00:25.360 And it was working for him.
00:00:26.400 I think men can manage and get some detachment from that and be something like just physical
00:00:32.000 and things like this.
00:00:32.800 Whereas for women, I think we get more attached, like things like this.
00:00:36.880 So I think it works different.
00:00:38.240 Did your mom know about it?
00:00:39.840 She found out.
00:00:40.960 Yes, she found out.
00:00:42.000 And she still worked on the relationship for a very, very long time
00:00:45.760 because of the kids and also like values and things like this.
00:00:48.800 So she stayed.
00:00:49.680 Yeah.
00:00:50.320 And are you grateful she did?
00:00:51.760 I think it was worth it because, but it got to a point that my father had other things
00:01:00.640 like domestic violence and things like this.
00:01:02.640 And actually she broke up because one day she was taking me to school
00:01:06.560 and there was a lot of domestic violence.
00:01:08.560 Right.
00:01:08.880 So it was a mix of things.
00:01:10.240 And I told her, like I was six years old to say, like, why don't you, you know,
00:01:13.840 because it was the point that was very like, yeah, it was putting her life in danger, basically.
00:01:19.360 Uh, but I'm very proud.
00:01:21.520 And through that, she made me like a lot of examples.
00:01:24.400 And I know the consequences as well when cheating and things like this.
00:01:27.600 That's why, like, I don't cheat because I still have these memories and I know how,
00:01:31.360 especially like in a marriage or things that it's how it affects women and the kids, you know, 0.99
00:01:37.120 and also my father nowadays, he regrets because he's alone.
00:01:40.480 Yeah.
00:01:40.880 And he regrets what, what he did.
00:01:42.720 So I think in marriage and things like this, it's more sensitive, like it's more delicate,
00:01:49.040 the situation, of course.
00:01:51.360 What about you is cheating?
00:01:56.320 Everyone is waiting for this answer.
00:01:59.680 This is funny.
00:02:00.480 I was cheating different for men and for women.
00:02:03.600 I don't really understand how you mean this, but what I understand is it's different.
00:02:08.480 If, if a man can do it to a woman, then woman can do it to men. 1.00
00:02:13.280 If you don't, if you don't, if you don't like, um, someone to do something to you, don't do it.
00:02:19.360 I feel, I feel it's the same feeling.
00:02:21.120 And, and me personally, I'm just going to show you how it feels.
00:02:25.600 And if you like it, my question is, do men and women get equally emotionally attached during sex?
00:02:32.400 I don't know because I'm not every woman.
00:02:34.320 I just talk about myself and I feel it's not.
00:02:36.960 Just in your experience, is it equal or is it not equal?
00:02:40.160 It's equal.
00:02:40.800 Okay.
00:02:41.200 You, you think the same feeling.
00:02:42.800 Okay.
00:02:43.120 So you can just have sex with a guy and feel nothing.
00:02:45.280 Yeah.
00:02:46.800 Just, just to show you how it feels.
00:02:48.560 Would you, have you always been like that where you could just have sex with no feelings?
00:02:53.040 Or did that come over time?
00:02:55.040 Okay.
00:02:55.440 Basically, I truly believe that when it, when it comes for you to cheat, you just need to go.
00:03:01.920 But I've been in a situation when I told the guy I did it and they don't want to leave.
00:03:07.280 They say, okay, cool.
00:03:08.880 I did it as well.
00:03:09.600 So we're good now.
00:03:14.160 Okay.
00:03:14.800 It's insane what I'm hearing from you, seriously.
00:03:18.720 No, I really don't understand.
00:03:20.080 First of all, I don't understand how you can say like,
00:03:23.440 I want you, no, I don't understand.
00:03:24.720 I want you to explain me how for a man and a woman is the same.
00:03:27.520 It's the same.
00:03:28.800 Like the, the same feeling.
00:03:30.160 I don't know.
00:03:30.640 I don't know about other women. 1.00
00:03:31.840 I'm saying about me.
00:03:33.120 I'm saying about me.
00:03:34.400 If, if my partner can go and do it, I'm just going to close my eyes and go and do it.
00:03:39.120 You just need to feel the same feeling.
00:03:40.720 I'm not just going to accept you.
00:03:42.320 Okay, cool.
00:03:42.880 You're a man.
00:03:43.440 You did it.
00:03:43.920 And I'm going to be, okay, fine.
00:03:45.360 But what do you, what do you get out of that?
00:03:47.600 You just finish it off.
00:03:49.520 Yeah, but I'm saying like, what?
00:03:50.400 You just finish it off equally.
00:03:52.640 It's a bit immature.
00:03:54.160 I know, I know.
00:03:55.040 That's why I don't have no relationship.
00:03:56.880 I don't believe in relationship right now.
00:03:59.200 I don't believe none of that stuff.
00:04:00.960 Do you know that woman, that's a study I've read. 1.00
00:04:03.680 I don't know if it's true or not.
00:04:04.800 Do you know that woman who goes with many men,
00:04:07.120 it's very difficult for them to find stability after
00:04:09.600 because they keep comparing with other men from the past?
00:04:13.360 Did I say I went with too many men?
00:04:16.240 This is what I said.
00:04:17.520 I said, if I'm cheated, I'm going to cheat.
00:04:19.920 I think he's asking because you said
00:04:23.600 that you can have sex without emotions.
00:04:26.640 I think every woman can. 0.64
00:04:28.720 I think anybody can have sex without emotion.
00:04:30.640 And it's happened to anybody in any situation.
00:04:33.040 Drugs, sober, I'm sorry.
00:04:34.400 And mostly girls, when they drink, we know what happens. 1.00
00:04:40.560 You just want that thing.
00:04:43.200 So that's without emotions.
00:04:45.120 You're drunk.
00:04:45.760 You just want to have like...
00:04:46.960 Animal instinct.
00:04:47.760 You want to get the urge out and then you realize,
00:04:49.760 oh shit, I came, but now I came to my senses.
00:04:53.280 You get it?
00:04:54.160 And I don't even believe like women cheat because emotionally, 0.99
00:04:58.800 all of that stuff.
00:04:59.520 Women cheat because they're upset. 1.00
00:05:01.280 Women cheat because they didn't get enough attention. 1.00
00:05:04.400 Women just kind of cheat. 1.00
00:05:06.960 You don't need to get connected with someone.
00:05:09.520 You don't need to, you're just going to be upset.
00:05:11.840 You're going to go, you're going to feel like.
00:05:14.000 It's the moment.
00:05:15.120 Do you like when you do it?
00:05:16.880 Do what?
00:05:17.440 If you, if you cheat on the guy who cheated on you,
00:05:19.600 do you like the outcome?
00:05:20.960 Do you get something out of it?
00:05:22.240 Like you feel like revenge.
00:05:23.280 You're not really, but you just feel, okay,
00:05:25.280 I'm not that hurt no more because I did it too.
00:05:27.440 And you move on.
00:05:28.160 I don't believe you should go back.
00:05:30.000 I don't believe.
00:05:31.040 My question is more,
00:05:33.840 were you always like this where you could have sex without emotions?
00:05:37.200 Or did that come over time?
00:05:40.560 Like, like the first time you had sex,
00:05:42.240 do you think you could have sex without emotions?
00:05:44.160 Or did that come later?
00:05:47.200 I think it just, it just builds with,
00:05:50.240 with time, with time.
00:05:51.760 And like, you expecting this is not this.
00:05:55.280 Then you just get quotes.
00:05:56.800 Yeah.
00:05:57.280 Yeah.
00:05:57.600 No, that's, that's, that's, yeah.
00:05:59.520 Yeah.
00:05:59.760 Okay.
00:06:01.440 Cheating different for men and for women.
00:06:03.200 I think so.
00:06:04.320 I mean, I do agree.
00:06:05.280 I do think girls can have sex and just be like, 1.00
00:06:08.320 don't have any emotions.
00:06:09.200 Just be like, I just want to have sex.
00:06:10.800 Yeah.
00:06:11.200 And like, I got what I want.
00:06:13.120 Bye.
00:06:14.080 Don't see you again.
00:06:15.360 But I think if it comes to like proper cheating,
00:06:17.760 I think indeed, like, I think what was said before,
00:06:22.160 there's a buildup for girls. 1.00
00:06:23.760 Like there's a buildup of that talking and like, you know,
00:06:27.120 at least I can speak for myself and I know some others.
00:06:30.000 But for guys.
00:06:30.560 There's exceptions.
00:06:31.200 We're talking about the rules.
00:06:32.080 Yeah.
00:06:32.480 Yeah.
00:06:32.640 I think, I think for guys, I think age ever guys,
00:06:34.720 I think quite often it could be like, yeah, just sex.
00:06:39.280 I also think for guys, quite often it can be insecurity.
00:06:41.600 I think a lot of guys cheat because of insecurity.
00:06:43.520 They need constant, that constant intention.
00:06:45.680 Women as well. 0.96
00:06:46.160 From other women. 0.99
00:06:47.040 And I think it also, I think it also could have to do with the fact.
00:06:49.360 No, I think women cheat out of insecurity. 1.00
00:06:51.600 I mean, yeah, also.
00:06:52.880 I think guys just like to fuck. 0.58
00:06:54.720 Yeah.
00:06:54.960 But I think, I think, I think,
00:06:57.040 I think when like a lot of guys,
00:06:58.080 at least what I've also heard from like friends and others,
00:07:00.320 like where guys, they feel insecure, especially for example,
00:07:04.000 if they're in a relationship with a pretty strong woman,
00:07:06.480 a woman who like, she got her shit together. 0.89
00:07:08.880 She got a job.
00:07:09.520 She got like, she's successful.
00:07:10.880 She doesn't need him.
00:07:12.240 The fact when guys, I think when guys sometimes,
00:07:14.080 I think it's usually those women just degrade their, 1.00
00:07:17.360 the guy they're with.
00:07:19.040 Why would you think that?
00:07:20.240 Because in my experience,
00:07:21.360 the women that say those things typically degrade the guy they're with 1.00
00:07:24.800 because they feel like they're better than him.
00:07:26.640 That's just a trend.
00:07:27.600 They'll downsize him.
00:07:29.280 Yeah.
00:07:29.680 I wanna, can I ask a question?
00:07:31.920 You agreed that men who are insecure would cheat.
00:07:35.200 Can I ask why?
00:07:36.000 Because I'm unfamiliar with this concept in my mind.
00:07:39.600 Not from my personal experience,
00:07:41.280 because I've never felt in any way insecure,
00:07:44.240 not because my size, my shape, my color, my form,
00:07:46.640 what language I speak.
00:07:47.600 I've never felt insecure.
00:07:48.960 So it never let me to cheat.
00:07:50.240 If I decided to cheat is because
00:07:53.200 it was once upon a time,
00:07:54.720 and I had no understanding of what was concept of emotion,
00:07:58.400 feeling or even relationship.
00:08:00.800 So based on what like you agree on this statement,
00:08:03.840 because I'm trying to understand now.
00:08:05.360 Yeah.
00:08:05.840 I agree from what I've heard people's experiences,
00:08:09.760 but then again, not everyone has the same experience.
00:08:12.560 Not everyone has the same upbringing,
00:08:14.720 the same
00:08:17.360 situation.
00:08:18.240 Because in my understanding,
00:08:20.160 a man who has like,
00:08:21.520 lack of confidence,
00:08:22.720 or he's insecure,
00:08:24.160 he's most likely to suffer with this same woman,
00:08:27.760 and she will cheat on him. 1.00
00:08:29.120 Internal.
00:08:30.320 He will suffer, he will suffer internally,
00:08:32.480 and he will keep taking abuse,
00:08:34.320 but he'll bite his tongue,
00:08:36.080 and he'll be like, you know what?
00:08:37.360 I'm going to try my best.
00:08:38.400 I'm going to do everything possible.
00:08:40.160 And then unfortunately, in some situations,
00:08:42.960 either it doesn't work out,
00:08:44.320 and she leaves,
00:08:45.120 or it seems like it's working out,
00:08:47.440 but in reality,
00:08:48.880 the foundation is deteriorating,
00:08:50.560 and it's just a matter of time
00:08:51.600 before the building collapse.