Psychologist UNCOVERS Why Billionaires Don't Get Divorced
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about why women stay married longer than men and why men get divorced. We also talk about the difference between a single parent and a single child household and the benefits of having multiple households.
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I think they do, but lifestyle doesn't mean have to be doing up holidays.
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It can be, I just want to be married with kids and I just want to stay home
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and I don't want to be working all the time or I want to get pregnant.
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They want to change whatever life they're living.
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Her ability to see the potential in a man will determine what kind of lifestyle you have.
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What percent of American football players get divorced, do you think?
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I was watching a program on the NFL lot and a lot of them have homegrown women,
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But they also got like injuries and stuff like that.
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So it's, it's, um, yeah, and they're really volatile and yeah, and maybe, yeah, that's techie.
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You know, billionaires have the lowest rates of divorce and highest rates of marriages.
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Maybe because they have the most to lose, but it's like billionaires just don't get divorced.
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They're like 87 percent of billionaires are married and they've got the lowest rate of divorce.
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Well, I think it's because, um, they stay married for legacy.
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Especially where, where, um, people that like get money quick often lose it quick.
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And so they grew up in poor parents, like that kind of lifestyle.
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Whereas people who get rich through sports and music, they don't usually come from stable homes always.
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Well, I just think of like the Gates, like Bill Gates, Hillary, or, um, Hillary, sorry, not the Gates, sorry.
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The Gates got divorced, um, the Clintons, how they stayed married even through everything.
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But I don't, I don't even think they like each other.
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Legacy, respect and everything, you know, reputation, all of these factors.
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What do you, what do you guys think about like, um, Nick Cannon?
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Because you can't invest in each child equally when they're from sporadic homes.
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You can look at them financially, but you can't emotionally be available.
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But even if you had one household with, um, 12 kids, yeah.
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If you, if you divided the kids up amongst different households, yeah, they will get more
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You're kind of, that's actually a good point when you think about it.
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Whereas with, when you're sporadic, it's like, dad might not come home.
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But you might say, listen, every Sunday we're going to round everybody up and we're going
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Yeah, because in all of history, it's been multiple women.
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It's like 8,000 years ago, 17 men reproduced for every one man.
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It's not like the men were, like the kids were fine.
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And when you have separate homes, you also open up the doors for other men entering the
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home with your children and child abuse increases.
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Because like in the old days, like men had to go off for months at a time.
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He'd have to provide for one home, one household.
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It wouldn't be 10 different women in 10 different villages.
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Listen, that one just doesn't benefit the women.
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That, you know, Nick Cannon's ideology just doesn't really benefit.
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It doesn't benefit the children because you're opening them up to step-parents.
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Me, if I woke up one day and I realized that I got a brother I didn't know about and I
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got this whole big family and I thought I was the only child.
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Or if your mum had entered a step-father who was abusive to you throughout your life.
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When you have lots of, like, 10 different baby mums, you're opening the door up for
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Step-parenting is linked to more child abuse and home neglect, even if not abuse, neglect.
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Because they start a new family and the child always feels like an outside looking in.
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If anything, I think that shows that women would rather share a successful guy than keep
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a guy that they actually would be faithful to them.
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I think guys are going to start doing that when they reach a certain plateau of success.
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They said that Tate has, like, I just saw something online, like, he has, like, 10 kids.
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He says, I wouldn't come on here and say I had kids, but he doesn't actually say he doesn't
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He's smart man is probably keeping him out of the light, you know?
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Would you want lots of different mothers for your children?
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I would like, you know, if I wanted a big family, then I wouldn't be against it.
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I don't necessarily want a huge, huge family because I've got a lot of brothers and sisters
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You can't have seven kids to one woman, though?
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Would you ideally like one baby mother or several?
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One mother of a child, like you and your children.
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Would you like them to come from one woman or several?
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As I said, like, for three, yeah, I think three is manageable in one home.
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So three in one home and then like two in another?
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I would speak to them and be open and say, all right, cool, let's give you a rest.
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Yeah, I know, but I wouldn't, like, I, well, like, I, like, my, my grandfather, he has loads of kids, like 15 kids and stuff.
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So, um, I've, me personally, part of the reason I got married, I didn't really want to do all of that.
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I didn't want all this, just, like, kids everywhere or whatever.
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Um, I just think negative, because ultimately, like, when the fathers were moved, there's these problems.
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So I've always wanted to, to be married and have kids within marriage and it's just better for the kids in general.
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It's, it's interesting because I see both sides because, like, on one hand, that was so common in all of history.
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You know, it's interesting that men can't marry multiple, like, I don't know, here, can they legally marry more than one person?
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But it's interesting because they could still be baby mamas.
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So it's like, they might as well get the legal benefits.
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I don't really, like, I wouldn't go that route, so it doesn't affect me.
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But it's just interesting how one is paid, one is paid and one can't.
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If you've got loads of kids, loads of different families, it's a certain amount split up between the families.
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I just know in the UK, you get a certain, you get, I don't know if they still do it, but at one point you got free housing if you had a kid.
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And you're incentivized, like, if there's, you get more either money from the government or child support if you have multiple dads who are actually incentivized.
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Yeah, they actually, like, pay you to have multiple baby fathers.
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But she even said that, like, people would want to move out of their parents' house so they would have a kid back in her day.
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And they'd give them a flat and stuff if they got pregnant.
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I mean, you've got to do, like, about a couple weeks at the YMCA, but after that, smooth sailing.
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Do you know, like, how the laws disadvantage men when it comes to marriage?
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If you were a man, would you get married today?
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With religion, I always say I would need to because it wouldn't be a marriage if it wasn't ordained by God.
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I still don't understand why people who aren't religious get married.
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I don't understand why non-religious people get married.
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I don't understand it at all, where you don't believe in God and you don't think it needs to be anything spiritual, but you're then getting married in a church.
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What makes marriage useful to a non-religious person?
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I've been brought up religious, but I'm not actively religious.
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To be honest, it didn't really have a lot to do with religion, but I think it's more to do with traditions rather than religion.
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So she isn't religious, but her family is Muslim.
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So just having babies for bands isn't really a thing.
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So if you are going to, you know, commit to someone, you should commit to them properly.
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You know, it might not work and all the rest of it and divorce and all these other things.
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I think that I can't just, I personally just wouldn't feel comfortable having just kids with loads of different women.
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And I think that negatively affects the kids a lot.