JustPearlyThings - June 12, 2023


Psychologist UNCOVERS Why Billionaires Don't Get Divorced


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In this episode, we talk about why women stay married longer than men and why men get divorced. We also talk about the difference between a single parent and a single child household and the benefits of having multiple households.

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00:00:00.000 Do you think women marry a lifestyle? 1.00
00:00:02.560 Yes.
00:00:03.280 What do you guys think?
00:00:06.160 Yes.
00:00:06.720 I think smart women do. 1.00
00:00:09.480 I think they do, but lifestyle doesn't mean have to be doing up holidays.
00:00:13.020 It can be, I just want to be married with kids and I just want to stay home
00:00:16.520 and I don't want to be working all the time or I want to get pregnant.
00:00:19.460 That's also lifestyle.
00:00:20.620 So, yeah, they definitely marry for a change.
00:00:22.520 They want to change whatever life they're living.
00:00:24.400 I think potential plays a huge part in it.
00:00:26.040 Her ability to see the potential in a man will determine what kind of lifestyle you have.
00:00:33.480 What percent of American football players get divorced, do you think?
00:00:38.300 That's high as well.
00:00:39.440 Slightly.
00:00:40.000 I feel like maybe their women stay. 1.00
00:00:41.780 I was watching a program on the NFL lot and a lot of them have homegrown women, 1.00
00:00:46.900 like homegrown women. 1.00
00:00:48.120 Oh, yeah, like childhood sweetheart type.
00:00:50.700 Yeah.
00:00:51.180 So maybe a lesser percent.
00:00:52.400 Maybe I'm like 70.
00:00:53.340 But they also got like injuries and stuff like that.
00:00:58.340 So it's, it's, um, yeah, and they're really volatile and yeah, and maybe, yeah, that's techie.
00:01:03.260 Oh, I'll give it a 70.
00:01:04.580 Yeah, same.
00:01:05.280 I'd say about 75, 80.
00:01:06.880 You guys are good.
00:01:07.680 60 to 80 percent is what they argue.
00:01:10.680 You know, billionaires have the lowest rates of divorce and highest rates of marriages.
00:01:15.420 Maybe because they have the most to lose, but it's like billionaires just don't get divorced.
00:01:19.020 Why is she leaving?
00:01:21.240 Yeah.
00:01:21.400 Leave, take off.
00:01:22.520 He makes another 100 billion later on.
00:01:24.920 And they've got the highest rate of marriage.
00:01:26.680 They're like 87 percent of billionaires are married and they've got the lowest rate of divorce.
00:01:31.080 Well, I think it's because, um, they stay married for legacy.
00:01:36.020 Especially where, where, um, people that like get money quick often lose it quick.
00:01:41.660 And they usually also come from rich families.
00:01:43.640 And so they grew up in poor parents, like that kind of lifestyle.
00:01:46.420 Whereas people who get rich through sports and music, they don't usually come from stable homes always.
00:01:51.060 Well, I just think of like the Gates, like Bill Gates, Hillary, or, um, Hillary, sorry, not the Gates, sorry.
00:01:58.120 The Clintons.
00:01:58.620 The Gates got divorced, um, the Clintons, how they stayed married even through everything.
00:02:02.840 But I don't, I don't even think they like each other.
00:02:05.120 Exactly.
00:02:05.940 At some point.
00:02:06.620 I just think it's like a legacy thing.
00:02:08.480 Yeah.
00:02:09.220 What do you think about?
00:02:10.540 Legacy, respect and everything, you know, reputation, all of these factors.
00:02:13.960 Legacy.
00:02:14.600 What do you, what do you guys think about like, um, Nick Cannon?
00:02:18.100 Oh.
00:02:18.760 That's good.
00:02:19.400 It is embarrassing.
00:02:20.200 Foucault.
00:02:20.940 Why?
00:02:21.480 Why is it embarrassing?
00:02:22.720 Because you can't invest in each child equally when they're from sporadic homes.
00:02:27.440 Well, let's look at it like this.
00:02:28.280 Let's look at it like this.
00:02:29.940 You can look at them financially, but you can't emotionally be available.
00:02:32.940 Yeah.
00:02:33.100 But even if you had one household with, um, 12 kids, yeah.
00:02:36.640 Have you seen Cheaper by the Dozen?
00:02:37.680 No, but it sounds like.
00:02:38.460 That's a bad movie.
00:02:39.160 And there's kids going missing.
00:02:41.660 You know what I mean?
00:02:42.240 At least, I would say this, right?
00:02:44.640 If you, if you divided the kids up amongst different households, yeah, they will get more
00:02:49.000 attention from their mother.
00:02:50.060 Yeah.
00:02:50.200 At least.
00:02:50.660 You're kind of, that's actually a good point when you think about it.
00:02:53.460 Because I was one of 10.
00:02:54.100 We didn't see my dad at 10.
00:02:55.140 He was gone a lot.
00:02:56.100 I know.
00:02:56.400 Yeah, but you know, it's a knowledge of that.
00:02:58.180 He's going to come home.
00:02:59.600 Whereas with, when you're sporadic, it's like, dad might not come home.
00:03:02.740 Yeah.
00:03:02.900 Yeah.
00:03:03.000 But you might say, listen, every Sunday we're going to round everybody up and we're going
00:03:07.080 to, you know.
00:03:07.440 Yeah, because in all of history, it's been multiple women. 1.00
00:03:12.860 It's like 8,000 years ago, 17 men reproduced for every one man. 0.85
00:03:16.280 It's not like the men were, like the kids were fine.
00:03:18.860 But they would all be in one home.
00:03:20.180 And when you have separate homes, you also open up the doors for other men entering the 1.00
00:03:23.760 home with your children and child abuse increases.
00:03:25.420 Are you sure?
00:03:25.920 Yeah, 100%.
00:03:26.940 Child abuse is highest in a single.
00:03:28.600 100%.
00:03:29.220 No, no, no.
00:03:30.380 I wasn't talking about that part.
00:03:35.260 I was talking about that they were there.
00:03:36.640 Because like in the old days, like men had to go off for months at a time.
00:03:39.760 As in they would all be in one home.
00:03:41.360 He'd have to provide for one home, one household.
00:03:44.280 It wouldn't be 10 different women in 10 different villages. 1.00
00:03:46.860 Listen, that one just doesn't benefit the women. 1.00
00:03:52.040 That, you know, Nick Cannon's ideology just doesn't really benefit.
00:03:54.720 It doesn't benefit the children because you're opening them up to step-parents.
00:03:57.920 And step-parents increases the light of abuse.
00:03:59.280 I can't lie to you.
00:04:00.160 Me, if I woke up one day and I realized that I got a brother I didn't know about and I
00:04:05.460 got this whole big family and I thought I was the only child.
00:04:07.440 I'm not going to be upset.
00:04:08.420 I'm not going to lie.
00:04:09.320 Or if your mum had entered a step-father who was abusive to you throughout your life.
00:04:13.380 Why does it have to go there?
00:04:14.420 Because it's more likely statistically.
00:04:16.280 That's why.
00:04:16.560 I don't know, I think.
00:04:17.460 Wait, what are you talking about?
00:04:19.560 When you have lots of, like, 10 different baby mums, you're opening the door up for 1.00
00:04:23.960 step-parenting.
00:04:24.880 Step-parenting is linked to more child abuse and home neglect, even if not abuse, neglect.
00:04:29.120 Because they start a new family and the child always feels like an outside looking in.
00:04:32.900 Yeah, that's on the women, though. 1.00
00:04:34.360 I don't even think that's on the men.
00:04:35.640 That's 17 irresponsible women. 1.00
00:04:38.400 That's one irresponsible man.
00:04:40.420 If anything, I think that shows that women would rather share a successful guy than keep 1.00
00:04:45.980 a guy that they actually would be faithful to them.
00:04:48.360 I think guys are going to start doing that when they reach a certain plateau of success.
00:04:52.720 They said that Tate has, like, I just saw something online, like, he has, like, 10 kids.
00:04:58.240 Do you believe that?
00:04:59.560 I'm not surprised.
00:05:00.820 He hasn't denied kids.
00:05:02.020 He says, I wouldn't come on here and say I had kids, but he doesn't actually say he doesn't
00:05:05.860 have kids, so maybe.
00:05:06.600 He's smart man is probably keeping him out of the light, you know?
00:05:09.940 Yeah, yeah.
00:05:11.300 Yeah.
00:05:12.300 Would you want lots of different mothers for your children? 1.00
00:05:16.820 Bloodseed.
00:05:17.300 Boy, boy, boy, boy.
00:05:19.160 I would like, you know, if I wanted a big family, then I wouldn't be against it.
00:05:22.540 I don't necessarily want a huge, huge family because I've got a lot of brothers and sisters
00:05:25.700 anyway.
00:05:26.220 You can't have seven kids to one woman, though? 0.95
00:05:29.520 That's a lot, man.
00:05:30.660 Am I even going to want that pom-pom after?
00:05:32.160 I don't even know.
00:05:34.180 I'm joking, I'm joking.
00:05:34.920 I'm not joking, but yes.
00:05:37.200 Would you ideally like one baby mother or several?
00:05:40.100 Ideally.
00:05:41.940 One wife or baby mother?
00:05:43.680 One mother of a child, like you and your children. 0.59
00:05:45.940 Would you like them to come from one woman or several?
00:05:48.100 As I said, like, for three, yeah, I think three is manageable in one home.
00:05:52.460 Oh, you don't have an headache, innit?
00:05:53.880 Three is manageable in one home.
00:05:54.820 You don't have an headache.
00:05:55.720 So three in one home and then like two in another?
00:05:57.740 If I wanted ten, then I'd split them.
00:05:59.960 I would speak to them and be open and say, all right, cool, let's give you a rest.
00:06:04.920 Yeah, fair enough.
00:06:06.700 But yeah.
00:06:07.500 Message rotation.
00:06:10.280 What would you guys do?
00:06:12.820 Oh, you're married, you can't.
00:06:13.600 Yeah, I know, but I wouldn't, like, I, well, like, I, like, my, my grandfather, he has loads of kids, like 15 kids and stuff.
00:06:22.300 So, um, I've, me personally, part of the reason I got married, I didn't really want to do all of that.
00:06:27.380 I wanted to have kids when I was married.
00:06:29.020 I didn't want all this, just, like, kids everywhere or whatever.
00:06:32.520 Um, I just think negative, because ultimately, like, when the fathers were moved, there's these problems.
00:06:37.700 So I've always wanted to, to be married and have kids within marriage and it's just better for the kids in general.
00:06:43.900 So that's my priority.
00:06:45.520 I agree with that too.
00:06:47.460 It's, it's interesting because I see both sides because, like, on one hand, that was so common in all of history.
00:06:52.860 You know, it's interesting that men can't marry multiple, like, I don't know, here, can they legally marry more than one person?
00:07:01.060 No, it's a Christian country.
00:07:02.540 But it's interesting because they could still be baby mamas. 0.56
00:07:05.700 So it's like, they might as well get the legal benefits.
00:07:08.080 Yeah, it's crazy.
00:07:08.680 I don't really, like, I wouldn't go that route, so it doesn't affect me.
00:07:11.580 But it's just interesting how one is paid, one is paid and one can't.
00:07:16.500 I mean, they get paid, you know, CSA.
00:07:18.840 How does that work?
00:07:19.560 If you've got loads of kids, loads of different families, it's a certain amount split up between the families.
00:07:24.200 I just know in the UK, you get a certain, you get, I don't know if they still do it, but at one point you got free housing if you had a kid.
00:07:31.620 And you're incentivized, like, if there's, you get more either money from the government or child support if you have multiple dads who are actually incentivized.
00:07:39.540 Yeah, they actually, like, pay you to have multiple baby fathers.
00:07:43.120 That's crazy.
00:07:44.120 That's crazy.
00:07:45.380 That's a full-time job.
00:07:47.160 We have Auntie Jenny.
00:07:48.940 She comes on the show.
00:07:49.920 I don't know if you guys have seen her.
00:07:50.960 But she even said that, like, people would want to move out of their parents' house so they would have a kid back in her day.
00:07:55.940 Yeah.
00:07:56.340 And they'd give them a flat and stuff if they got pregnant. 1.00
00:07:58.680 That's right.
00:07:58.960 No way.
00:08:00.900 I mean, you've got to do, like, about a couple weeks at the YMCA, but after that, smooth sailing.
00:08:04.980 Wow.
00:08:05.380 I'm curious.
00:08:05.860 So you know a decent amount.
00:08:07.260 Do you know, like, how the laws disadvantage men when it comes to marriage?
00:08:11.120 You seem to be familiar.
00:08:12.700 Yeah.
00:08:12.780 If you were a man, would you get married today?
00:08:15.760 If I wasn't religious?
00:08:17.340 Like, if I had no religion?
00:08:18.260 Yeah, yeah.
00:08:18.360 No, no.
00:08:18.860 I would never get married.
00:08:19.440 I wouldn't get married at all.
00:08:21.140 With religion, I always say I would need to because it wouldn't be a marriage if it wasn't ordained by God.
00:08:26.160 But if I didn't have any religious...
00:08:27.800 I still don't understand why people who aren't religious get married. 0.82
00:08:30.380 Men or women.
00:08:31.060 I don't understand why non-religious people get married. 1.00
00:08:33.400 I don't understand it at all, where you don't believe in God and you don't think it needs to be anything spiritual, but you're then getting married in a church.
00:08:41.620 It really confuses me.
00:08:42.920 What makes marriage useful to a non-religious person? 0.99
00:08:46.500 I'm actually curious.
00:08:47.700 What is it?
00:08:48.200 It's the social status, I think.
00:08:50.100 Yeah?
00:08:50.720 I don't agree with that.
00:08:52.300 I don't agree with the social status at all.
00:08:54.380 Are you religious?
00:08:55.880 I've been brought up religious, but I'm not actively religious.
00:08:58.460 What made you want to get married?
00:09:01.780 To be honest, it didn't really have a lot to do with religion, but I think it's more to do with traditions rather than religion.
00:09:09.240 So she isn't religious, but her family is Muslim.
00:09:12.400 So just having babies for bands isn't really a thing.
00:09:16.740 And it's the same in my family.
00:09:18.020 We just don't have babies for jokes.
00:09:19.780 So if you are going to, you know, commit to someone, you should commit to them properly.
00:09:26.440 You know, it might not work and all the rest of it and divorce and all these other things.
00:09:30.200 But the intention is that.
00:09:31.280 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:09:32.040 I think that I can't just, I personally just wouldn't feel comfortable having just kids with loads of different women. 1.00
00:09:38.260 And I think that negatively affects the kids a lot.