JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023


Racist Girl Accuses Morrocoan Men Of This


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13 minutes

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2,855

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1

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15

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In this episode, we discuss cheating, shy guys, and how to deal with a toxic ex. We also discuss why women are attracted to toxic exes and why they tend to stay loyal to them even if they have been cheated on.

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00:00:00.000 truly believe now i've changed my mind yeah yeah most women today want to be cheated on i'm running 1.00
00:00:06.240 with that i'm running with that i'm running with that because because what literally sitting here
00:00:10.800 and listening to what women say now about it would you accept a guy that wouldn't cheat on you but 0.98
00:00:15.440 we'll think about materialistic things etc there is pure men that would know that make money bearing
00:00:22.240 in mind there's tech nerds like these guys got money yeah but they might not have the alpha and
00:00:26.160 yeah stuff like that but you wouldn't these guys don't even register on your rictus girl you don't
00:00:30.560 you can't even see them but then you want to go for the guy who you know is going to have bad
00:00:34.800 girl on him who you know is going to cheat on you but for some reason you're the special one that's
00:00:38.800 going to stay loyal to you that is just pure delusion you want to be cheated on and then when
00:00:43.440 it gets to you then they want the geek yeah then they want the geek afterwards you should expect
00:00:48.640 that's what i'm saying like like we can't say we don't like it if we we pick these guys because
00:00:54.400 there's guys that won't do it but we don't pick them and and i say this because i've talked to
00:00:58.800 probably what hundreds of women at this point and the amount that have a toxic ex it's it's like 1.00
00:01:04.400 all of them everyone's got one and it's like we have to yeah that's what they say i think the
00:01:11.200 i think the balance comes into play with the tech and the nerds or whatever they don't even have
00:01:16.240 the confidence to talk to women and they're not in the fall but is that because we've made them feel
00:01:20.240 like that i was just gonna say i was just gonna say in this society we we reward bad behavior
00:01:27.360 think about it yeah look at look at i'll give a prime example example jeremy meeks criminal oh
00:01:32.880 his mug shot came out do you remember this this guy's mug shot came out all of a sudden all these
00:01:36.800 girls like oh he's so hot this guy this guy came out of prison and became a model and now he's like
00:01:43.360 felons have 30 more children than non-felons so when girls say they like nice guys they don't 1.00
00:01:47.840 i think we've made nice guys to feel like they they don't have the confidence to come up and talk
00:01:55.680 to us because we've made them feel like that because we're constantly choosing the bad guys
00:01:59.520 some of the nice guys don't even want the modern women they just they just had enough of them 1.00
00:02:07.680 men gone their own way oh yeah big towel that's it and they just go because they've had enough i think
00:02:12.640 i think some nice guys know that some women can be absolutely but wait quickly you said you said 0.62
00:02:17.440 the onus isn't on it's not i don't think the onus of um guys who don't have confidence with women's on
00:02:22.800 women that is your personality trait that's got nothing to do with me you don't think i think it 1.00
00:02:28.160 can be because i think this comes sorry i think this conversation is that we tend to generalize
00:02:33.040 a lot yeah and i get i get it because i guess that's what is in your in your view so it's easy to
00:02:37.600 generalize but i think there are nice guys who because really it's not like this it's a lot of
00:02:43.120 nice guys that are single yeah they're getting girls yeah and some of them are very committed
00:02:47.280 in relationships yeah i mean so i think it's just i think it's easy for us to obviously say that you
00:02:51.360 know we can talk about certain type of girls and blah blah because that's really what's in our view
00:02:55.520 but i don't believe if i meet a guy who's shy and whatever i don't believe that women have women of
00:03:00.800 i think his his um personality anyway he's an introvert or he's shy anyway and maybe that is
00:03:07.520 heightened when he meets other women and he can't doesn't have the confidence but i don't think that
00:03:11.040 onus is on women making him shy i don't know it's not it's not it's not it's not the onus is on women
00:03:17.680 it's like we're responsible for the men that we pick yeah yeah i agree with that part but she was
00:03:22.720 saying how um she thinks that guys are like the shy guys they don't have the commonest approach
00:03:27.760 but it's partially but it's partially our fault because feminism had this whole me too movement 1.00
00:03:33.920 yeah yeah and so and so like we're complaining like they're shy because they don't know if they're
00:03:39.680 going to be me too if they approach the wrong girl no no seriously there is there is there is
00:03:44.880 there is guys guys there is there is a youtuber that just came out where he he approached a girl in
00:03:49.760 public and she literally called the the park police on him and this was in 2022 yeah but there was guys
00:03:56.880 they were shy before the meeting even started so what's the excuse that's why i say it wait how
00:04:02.880 old are you i'm 27 like so me too was what five seven years ago yeah how long were you really in
00:04:09.200 the dating game yeah but that's the thing because i've got a lot of life experiences okay actually i'm
00:04:13.920 gonna ask auntie do you feel like men approach women more or less now i think they approach women
00:04:20.000 less now because women look more fierce they wear more war paint and because the men are scared 0.98
00:04:28.000 because nowadays it takes a couple of rare things to happen for all men to be labeled so now you don't
00:04:35.120 ever know whether to approach a woman or not because you don't know whether she's gonna say that you're
00:04:39.040 harassing her leave her alone and sometimes you might even just want a woman might just a man 1.00
00:04:44.640 might just want to say excuse me love do you know the time no another time check your watch
00:04:50.000 a girl dropped something and i've gone to give it back and she and she gave me some dirty look i was 1.00
00:04:53.920 like so i took it i snapped it it was an oyster card i snapped and went and went my way yeah okay and
00:04:58.720 that's that's why a lot of men just don't approach women i do believe like your personality trait you can
00:05:05.120 be quite shy and an introvert me personally i'm very very shy but when you are in a situation
00:05:12.080 where you feel comfortable you can come out of your shell and with some guys you know with some
00:05:16.400 girls they can come out their shell whereas other women have made them feel no you stay shy because 1.00
00:05:24.400 i don't think that i think guys will approach you if they feel good about themselves so if they feel
00:05:28.400 like they're you know pushing gym or whatever that to build their own self-confidence i i know guys that
00:05:34.720 feel good about themselves like they're like yeah i'm good looking i go to the gym you know i'm a
00:05:38.960 nice person and he won't approach a girl but he'll look at a girl and be like no i won't approach her
00:05:43.120 because we we like all that girl looks so good and no this is this is this is this is the death of
00:05:51.200 femininity i think a lot more women are masculine because back in the day women would signal and even 1.00
00:05:56.000 when we had kit on the other day he he educates women yeah he educates women how to signal to allow a
00:06:02.560 man to to feel comfortable enough to get um to approach again maybe the problem is men aren't
00:06:10.080 actually looking for women's signal before they're approaching so when a girl is now calling park 0.79
00:06:14.080 patrol is because she's not signaled to you she's not showed you she's any interested you don't know
00:06:18.320 what her relationship status is and maybe wait for the queues for a woman 1.00
00:06:21.520 i don't know if anyone else uses tfl regularly maybe i'm poor but you know go on the tube you see
00:06:40.320 the advert uh i um staring harassment yeah so it it puts men on edge yeah report there's a phone
00:06:48.000 number to call he stares at you too long yeah no guy's gonna want to approach a girl she's gonna be
00:06:53.280 like no but if we flip it to like countries where there isn't that a lot of men take advantage so 0.99
00:06:58.240 it's not it these aren't put in there for women do the majority of men are the majority of men the
00:07:03.040 men you're describing sorry are the majority of men the men you're describing so the men you're saying
00:07:07.360 that take advantage in a country like where this isn't the social norms where you have to ask is
00:07:11.600 that the majority of men sorry is that do you think the majority of yeah go on do you think the
00:07:17.600 majority of men are doing that in those countries in those countries what going up to women unsolicited 0.92
00:07:22.800 yeah 100 and they're grabbing girls and they're you know majority the majority of men in those
00:07:28.320 countries are grabbing girls 100 the majority of men in those countries are committing assault
00:07:33.120 yes i've been to countries that's your view on men no no that's not my view on men that's cultural
00:07:37.920 differences in my country even where women's rights are not like what i'm not i'm not here saying
00:07:43.040 women are equal to men i'm saying but if a woman doesn't want to be touched don't touch her that's 1.00
00:07:47.520 even a religious side if you don't touch her i i'm with you yeah so in them countries where
00:07:52.560 what countries like even parts of asia africa where can you can you name them the countries that i've
00:07:58.160 traveled to egypt morocco just say morocco i've had men approach me millions and i've said no no no
00:08:09.280 approach you but no no no no you said you said wait wait you said you said grabbed they will they
00:08:14.720 will grab you they will grab you even in dubai they grabbed one of my friends and i've been to dubai
00:08:19.280 i was fine i had no issues yeah exactly what i'm saying again and i went with my family family sorry
00:08:28.160 but also and again maybe this is where the cultural differences are when it comes to even
00:08:33.120 like me traveling as an asian woman they don't see me as my british passport they see me as an asian
00:08:37.920 woman if i go to dubai they see me as a bangladeshi woman and they will take advantage of that thinking
00:08:43.120 i'm a bangladeshi woman it's just interesting um because i know a couple people from those countries
00:08:47.760 and they don't actually have the same views as you that grew up in the like like um you said well i
00:08:54.080 think you said morocco can i just say yeah yeah as a moroccan myself majority as a moroccan i'll say
00:09:01.360 this the context on in which this happened you were on holiday right and you're saying that people
00:09:08.160 grabbed you what was the context of that no i'm not saying that they're constantly grabbing this
00:09:12.640 approach constantly trying to talk yeah but are you but can i say as a moroccan were you a tourist
00:09:18.160 were you in a tourist area were you in the medina were they approaching you to sell you things what
00:09:24.080 no i was just walking the beach i was walking the beach even if it's a touristy area what i'm saying
00:09:28.000 is some countries like even just say when i go bangladesh and i'm not a tourist yeah and i'm in my
00:09:32.560 own country clothes everything guys will still feel like they can they have a right to come and speak to
00:09:38.560 you okay okay yeah yeah i'm not saying that it's wrong i'm saying again look at social cues if like
00:09:45.360 you said the guys teaching girls what signaling is if she's not making eye contact if she's not
00:09:49.600 don't maybe don't approach her especially and that's how we make guys feel no no no no
00:09:57.120 but do you see how this is kind of like the situation that i was describing because you're
00:10:01.920 kind of like me tooing these guys because they approach okay can i just say as a victim who has
00:10:07.680 been sexually abused as a child it's yeah it is deep it is deep and i don't want if i don't want you
00:10:13.600 accessing my personal space don't do it it's not just me to talk to you no i talk to everyone i'm
00:10:19.920 a very social being eddie knows i'm very social you trying to cross that line no like if i've not
00:10:26.240 necessarily the guy's fault because if he i personally myself i've been through the same thing
00:10:31.120 but i would never be able to look at a guy and say you know it's your fault if i'm getting mad that
00:10:36.480 you're coming up and to talk to me i'm not saying i get mad he doesn't he doesn't know what's happened
00:10:40.960 to you so he shouldn't be able to feel like too shy to still come try to talk to you i will never
00:10:47.120 call a man or call police on a man trying to say hello to me at the park i will smile and i'll go
00:10:51.840 on my way if he is now following me and trying to take advantage of that situation yes i will panic
00:10:57.600 and that's again yeah my traumas i'll panic if he understands oh she doesn't want to say hello and
00:11:02.000 he minds his business there's no problem i think that's what that's what it is but you said the majority
00:11:06.800 of men are grabbing girls in country it's not the majority and that's and that's where like i have
00:11:13.120 an issue with that because i don't think you're correct i know people from those countries and
00:11:17.200 they would not say the same thing so it it's interesting to me that's your view because to
00:11:22.160 me that's like that's like your view on men but i'm not saying that it doesn't happen okay saying it
00:11:30.240 doesn't happen we're saying it's not the majority okay it happens it happens the time i go out and it
00:11:36.720 might be my figure it might be my and that's why again i don't like to when i go especially abroad
00:11:41.840 i don't wear clothes that will extenuate my figure as much or my skin because i like to protect myself
00:11:47.760 yeah it might be that they find me attractive and they want to maybe every girl doesn't experience
00:11:51.600 that but every time i go out i do get approached or i do get spoken to and i have to now i smile it's
00:11:56.800 not like i'm calling police but i'll be like no sorry i'm not interested or okay yeah no you know
00:12:01.680 i'm not single and i get i guess every girl says that to guys i'm not single then they'll be like
00:12:06.640 oh what so yeah you can't have a side boyfriend it's just the approach i don't but i don't think
00:12:13.840 like if a guy's persistent like i'm not i don't think that's that bad like who cares no one's saying
00:12:18.320 it's bad it's like i don't i don't think he should grab you i think that's like okay don't don't but
00:12:23.280 like you're telling me you you went to this country and every single guy you saw or like
00:12:27.840 let's say so the majority so let's say six out of ten guys you saw grabbed you no not grab they
00:12:33.040 will approach me okay but approaching is an assault no it's not that it's an assault but it could lead
00:12:37.600 to that hold up if i keep smiling and entertaining it and not saying putting my boundary up he might
00:12:43.200 think oh she's interested and it's very hard for when times i feel like we say yes just because it's
00:12:47.360 easier like i take guys number just because that's that's not their fault like to me like if a guy
00:12:52.320 approaches me again again like it's annoying but who cares like i i've been in like i've i went to
00:12:59.440 martinique i don't know if you've heard of me yeah it's nice it's nice and like guys there they're like
00:13:04.720 at this beach would like come up to me and i'm like who cares i'd be like go away okay but maybe you know
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