JustPearlyThings - Radical Debate on Who a Good Woman Is

00:00:00.080 today um we're gonna talk about where have all the good women gone so one thing i always hear

00:00:06.080 is where have all the good men gone right in society um however i just started looking up

00:00:10.720 some stats okay one in three women have an std one in three women have had an abortion 38 of

00:00:16.080 kids are born into single parent homes the average age of first child is 26 which is before the

00:00:20.640 average age of first marriage which is 30. 45 of marriages end in divorce the average number of

00:00:26.320 partners for a woman is between four and eight and when women get below above five partners their

00:00:31.760 chance of a happy marriage goes from 80 to 20 depends on the study plus or minus 10 percent

00:00:37.520 um and if men get pick the wrong woman they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken 0.99

00:00:43.600 from them and on top of that 70 of women um 60 70 of women are overweight in the u.s 0.93

00:00:51.120 um so um the question is how does a guy identify a good woman and what percent of women do you think

00:00:57.920 are good women really good question how does a guy identify a good woman i think mostly it's looks but 0.86

00:01:04.480 that's not how they do it but i think it's about it's about a vibe actually it's about an energy and

00:01:10.080 it's about respect if a woman you know can really show this man that she respects him okay but in the

00:01:16.880 beginning that's challenging because you know you're on a first date i think the first indication is

00:01:21.120 usually looks what was the second question bro what percent of women do you think are good women 1.00

00:01:25.760 oh in this day and age yes i think women are so confused it's really hard to say i would say

00:01:33.040 good woman what do you mean by that what i mean by that i think a good woman is probably less than 10 0.99

00:01:37.200 percent these days okay i think a good woman is a healed woman so i feel like the reason why there's not 0.56

00:01:44.000 much good women out there is because no one really knows how to heal and recover from their past 1.00

00:01:48.960 relationships and traumas and so they bring those good women not be like broken to begin with yeah 1.00

00:01:54.240 100 yeah yeah yeah and so i feel like they found ways to heal and they've like taken time out to

00:02:00.560 isolate themselves and i feel like maybe then they will be able to move forward and find the right

00:02:05.280 partner for the right reasons and i feel like um why the percentage may be so low is because no one's

00:02:11.680 really willing to do the hard dark shadow work what do you mean shadow because whenever i hear

00:02:17.200 like this stuff no offense like the shadow work the healing i always hear like nothing yeah like never

00:02:23.440 like real concrete steps of like so if you're a woman you're trying to improve what do you what do you do 1.00

00:02:28.240 so you're trying to like your ego you know the dark side of you decide that you don't show anyone but

00:02:34.160 it can come out so you are trying to like kind of tame that and work on your insecurities and all the

00:02:39.360 things that you don't want people to see okay and so you can how do you how do you work on them so i

00:02:44.480 mean for me personally i write down i journal stuff so i write things down my fears or things i don't

00:02:50.720 like about myself or that i want to change or that i feel i'm i'm um expression maybe in the wrong way

00:02:56.560 and so i try and like find ways to fix that and just you know work so how are you like held you know

00:03:01.760 like if i want to lose weight you go to a personal trainer and they say like good bad like how do you

00:03:06.000 hold yourself accountable oh doing doing research finding a routine making sure that you're

00:03:11.280 consistently keeping up with things and maintaining that process yeah this just kind of sounds like

00:03:17.760 nothing to me yeah okay i'm just i'm sorry it's real no no no but like when i whenever i hear girls

00:03:24.400 like talk about this it just sounds like okay i write in my journal um i and i google things online

00:03:32.640 and i try to be better but there's no like accountability like anyone keeping you in check

00:03:36.720 to like show that you are getting better i think most people um don't have anyone to keep them in

00:03:42.080 check when there's a will there's a way if you really want to change then you will make sure that

00:03:46.000 you get that done like so so so if you're talking to a guy and he says like okay you you said i was

00:03:52.240 broken before i'm healed now like what steps would you show him that i am now healed um you're able to

00:03:57.360 be more compassionate and less judgmental and more open and vulnerable okay so how could you prove that

00:04:03.520 you are just by being just by being that i mean i feel like time will tell okay you know okay because

00:04:11.120 like i was just thinking like if you want to concrete steps it's like married mentors uh maybe a male 0.96

00:04:16.400 therapist like that sort of thing i just never hear whenever i hear women's self-improvement it's always 0.85

00:04:21.280 like be more confident write in a journal and google things no fact like respectfully so i just i just don't

00:04:26.560 understand but you know what's crazy i've tried personally i've tried therapy and i and the first

00:04:31.040 time i tried it i walked out in an anger and rage that i was like human and the second time i told

00:04:36.320 her look it's not gonna work i don't think you can fix my problems you know i agree with you i've been 0.63

00:04:40.640 to therapists before and i just thought therapy was like stupid for the most part and now i'm in 0.98

00:04:44.640 school for psychology and i see the women that are therapists and they're nuts i would not go to 1.00

00:04:48.960 therapy yeah i feel like they don't care they're just getting paid to do what they need to do they 0.98

00:04:52.880 don't give a fuck so yeah yeah but but i do think there are some male therapists that are helpful 1.00

00:04:58.800 like male um what do you think about that um i've never had a male therapist and i wouldn't go to 0.99

00:05:04.560 a male therapist because i need to i need to connect with a woman that's like do you know i mean like

00:05:08.640 women no that's broken like me not necessarily but i feel like women connect easier no i think i think

00:05:14.960 women look to comfort and then look to solve problems and that's why i don't think therapy works 1.00

00:05:18.800 when they're women most of the time there's exceptions because like men like women are just going to 1.00

00:05:22.720 comfort you they're going to tell you what you want to hear where men will tell you how to fix it

00:05:26.560 but the problem is like women we never want to fix it like actually fix it that's interesting yeah 1.00

00:05:32.320 i had a male therapist actually or the i had a therapist for eight years i'm not in therapy

00:05:38.560 anymore but the first four years it was a woman and the last four years a man and i'm not in therapy

00:05:44.160 anymore and i'm like i'm good now but that's because it was a man not a woman because when i was with

00:05:48.240 a woman they would just sit there and soak in all my issues and all the problems and there was 1.00

00:05:52.480 never a solve or a solution no one was trying to help me and then the trauma what's your like and

00:05:57.680 they call everything trauma everything you know everything abuse or trauma i'm like what the what

00:06:01.680 do you mean you know i don't believe in trauma i don't believe in trauma either it's a bunch of bs

00:06:06.880 it's just so that psychologists can make money off yeah well i do i do believe in like war trauma

00:06:12.960 like from war what do you mean like i think if a guy goes to war and see some like sees things

00:06:17.840 that's real trauma but the way we use it today my ex-boyfriend cheated on me my it's just everything's

00:06:26.000 everything but can i say something don't you think there's something called unhealed baggage that we

00:06:29.920 be carrying with us because we haven't overcome how we felt in the last relationship you should just

00:06:33.920 get over it okay yeah yeah i think that we should quit whining our great grandmothers had to deal with

00:06:41.840 like they used to have plagues and getting cheated on like this is just the example i'm using but most

00:06:47.200 of modern day problems are really nothing compared to like 100 200 years ago you could get the plague

00:06:54.480 and like die you know that'd be traumatic being afraid you know and you're right you know what

00:06:59.360 because i feel like personally i've been through so much i haven't had real therapy and i'm i'm strong

00:07:03.280 i'm i'm still going you know what i mean i don't really it's not affecting me maybe it is in a way

00:07:08.160 but it's not in intervening in my life yeah strong strongly the reveling in the story is what a lot

00:07:14.480 of the women therapists were using penelope's my daughter and they were um you know really listening

00:07:19.440 to your story and and and giving a lot of emphasis to it like you were really overweight and the

00:07:24.480 therapists were like no no don't don't talk about it don't don't don't try to help her lose weight 0.73

00:07:28.880 and i'm like what do you mean like we've got to fix this problem like what's the plan it was so

00:07:33.120 frustrating oh so they they wouldn't try to solve like how big were you i was 300 pounds shut up i 0.77

00:07:39.440 was 300 pounds you look great can we get us how did how did your life change from going from 300

00:07:47.600 pounds to i don't know what you are now but clearly not so i lost 130 pounds actually wow and you're 0.98

00:07:52.960 tall too yes what are you six two no five nine and a half oh shit you look you look tall as heck 0.94

00:07:57.840 okay um but basically i was you know i think part of the problem was because i was in therapy for so 0.97

00:08:04.160 long and i nobody told me in therapy that there was anything wrong with me and i had depression i

00:08:08.880 had anxiety i had suicidal thoughts and i was not i didn't have a good relationship with my father at

00:08:13.200 the time and nobody was saying oh you need to lose the weight your life will be better if you just do

00:08:18.080 that nobody they tried to give me medication they tried to give me pills they tried to put me in more

00:08:22.720 therapy and it wasn't until one day i looked in the mirror and i'm like i don't want to be like this

00:08:27.040 anymore i don't want to feel like this anymore and to be honest the body positivity movement

00:08:32.080 crushed my soul and told me oh you should be you know you're beautiful no matter what size you are

00:08:37.120 you're beautiful no matter you know how much you weigh you're beautiful no matter what you eat you

00:08:41.280 can eat anything you want and you're gorgeous go girl and i and i thought it was okay wow i thought it

00:08:47.040 was good because no one said anything and i could be sitting here if 300 pounds or enough i didn't make 0.93

00:08:51.440 the decision to say penelope you need to get your butt off the couch and work out fix your diet fix 0.94

00:08:56.320 your mental health fix everything and now i'm perfectly fine no meds just naturally all natural 0.90

00:09:03.680 what do you do you think that contributes to 70 of women being overweight in the u.s completely

00:09:09.680 i completely think that yeah go ahead no i just think that i think that the fact that people are

00:09:14.800 obese and that they make all these excuses for oh i'm obese because of this i'm obese because you can

00:09:18.960 lose weight no matter what anyone can lose weight it's just about finding the right way to do it and what

00:09:23.840 do you think of the women that say we need like representation and magazines we need fat chicks 1.00

00:09:29.920 on the cover victoria's secret fashion show it repulses me so it repulses me to see that because

00:09:36.400 you've been there it does because i've been there and not only that but you are showing thousands and

00:09:41.440 millions of women in the world that it is one okay to be unhealthy two okay to be slowly killing yourself 1.00

00:09:47.040 and three okay to go outside and dress provocatively with your rolls out i was a plus size model like 0.93

00:09:56.320 in the 90s you were a plus size model in the 90s yeah is there anything wrong with a little plus

00:10:01.600 size girl yeah because what about the people that actually what about the people that actually can't

00:10:06.080 lose weight physically they will never wait that's not a thing but but what about people that actually

00:10:10.320 but they mentally can't so for the rest of their life they're going to be that same size they need some

00:10:14.240 they need some empowerment because otherwise they could you know commit suicide or something

00:10:17.600 do you go to do you go to a basketball game and look to see like an nba game or what do you guys

00:10:23.600 have it's football right football here you do a football game here and you try to see average

00:10:27.760 football players average like below average football players play football here when you go to a

00:10:33.440 professional game do we see them no do you do you go there to see that oh well no so then why do

00:10:38.640 on the cover of magazines which is supposed to be the epitome of beauty do we have below average women on it 1.00

00:10:43.360 right like why like why is that why do we need that i feel i feel ashamed i don't like it i don't

00:10:49.840 want to see it i think you're right about the fact that they're doing it to because you know if you

00:10:54.320 want to talk about the health system and the way the world's set up they don't want people to come 0.99

00:10:58.160 out of a bce right so they're going to make it look like it's okay they don't want you to so so why

00:11:03.200 wouldn't we have healthy people on the front of mag i'm not saying like because they don't want that

00:11:06.880 yeah yeah but you you said we need that earlier no but i was saying that for the people that don't that

00:11:12.160 actually fit i think in my head i'm thinking for the people that actually because a person that

00:11:16.320 actually cannot overcome obesity and for the rest of their life till the age of 60 70 they're still

00:11:21.440 going to be overweight those people are probably feeling yes like they're they're feeling okay

00:11:26.400 they're empowered would you rather be empowered than commit suicide because people think look at

00:11:31.840 you you're fat but when you're eat when you're overeating you're slowly committing suicide

00:11:36.560 my mother did it wow she died like her cause of death was severe obesity and then when my daughter 0.98

00:11:43.440 started gaining the weight i was freaking out right and so that's why we're on a mission

00:11:48.320 but don't you think there's a certain level though obviously there's obesity and there's because i feel

00:11:52.560 like the modeling world has always promoted unhealthy unhealthiness and that makes sense even the slim

00:11:58.480 women slimming women was like six and like very smooth you know what i'm saying that would look like they 1.00

00:12:03.520 weren't eating i don't think so if you look at i always hear that but i like i look at marilyn monroe

00:12:07.920 she was healthy yeah but they're talking about one person there's a lot of a lot of women in the 1.00

00:12:11.600 modeling world was very slim and they wouldn't eat or they wouldn't do something just to fit in the

00:12:15.840 certain category do you get what i'm saying i mean there was some but i just maybe for like early 2000s

00:12:21.120 but i think if you look at the last like 100 years i think most women on the covers were just

00:12:25.920 objectively beautiful what's the average weight you would say uh let's see i don't know off the top of my head

00:12:32.160 i mean as a ford model the the girls who were in straight size modeling they were size four and 1.00

00:12:36.640 that's because the samples are made in a size four and so is your four different from uk four oh yeah

00:12:43.040 it is a bit yeah like more like a two i think it'd be more like a two and two hey the average the

00:12:48.240 average woman she's gone she's okay the average woman is five four i'm in america and i can do uk in a

00:12:54.800 second yeah five four 20 years old and weighs 170 pounds what's that in stone please okay okay

00:13:05.840 average stones i don't actually know

00:13:14.080 but that's overweight i would say that that average that she just quoted would be 12 stone 12 12.14 okay

00:13:20.480 because i would think that average is between eight to 12. i think if you're in a good in shape 12

00:13:25.680 there's good in shape 12 women anything above that then we're talking obesity you know what i'm saying 0.93

00:13:32.080 i mean it's bmi yeah to be honest sorry uh to be honest it depends i think like around 10 years ago

00:13:39.840 it used to be way different i think now they kind of raised it you know yeah yeah i think 10 years ago

00:13:47.680 i went i don't know why it was like 65 kilos i don't know what that is sorry in in stones it must

00:13:54.400 be like 165 in um in america 2.2 to 1. yeah and they would already say oh you should try to lose weight

00:14:02.560 you know for your height whatever now if you look at that they're like yeah you're perfect you can be a

00:14:07.680 model yeah so it really changed in the last decade i would say really it did so what about around 10 years

00:14:14.480 ago was there plus size models is that a new thing i'll be honest not really where on america's next

00:14:20.560 top model i mean it wasn't that as common though but i definitely i i know i used to watch tyra banks

00:14:26.160 anyone yeah yeah anyone there yeah but they weren't like this they weren't like the the like super yeah

00:14:33.440 yeah like you see today they're just kind of like they're like tens big boned uh 10's all right

00:14:40.160 10's not big no 10's not big at all 12 12 like this is what i'm saying for the modeling world that's

00:14:46.000 quite big yeah but again it's like when you go to an nba game i want to see good basketball players

00:14:50.960 like it's supposed to be the epitome of beauty yeah but but now we're rewarding average like i don't

00:14:56.000 want to see average chicks like faces on the cover of magazine i don't want to see average bodies 1.00

00:15:00.960 i hear that but if she's a good i'm not saying plus plus but she's a good size 12 with good curbs 1.00

00:15:06.160 in that man don't want to see that we don't really want to just see slim girls all the time i'll be 1.00

00:15:10.240 honest i believe that i believe that some men like that i really do it's typically a lot of us to be

00:15:14.720 honest it's typically broke men because if you look at rich men yeah yeah if you look at like it's so cap

00:15:20.160 like i'm just i don't like liars no offense but it's like like when you see rich men what do they have on

00:15:25.680 their arms but the only reason why they have slim women is because the slim women are in the higher 1.00

00:15:32.240 echelons of places where the other women no not in beauty no let's not talk about beauty only i'm

00:15:37.440 talking about venues certain venues certain places that they get to go to certain women can't get to 0.99

00:15:43.280 go there okay you get what i'm saying leonardo dicaprio if he wanted a big chick he couldn't find one no he

00:15:48.880 can find one but i'm saying in certain the plate the venue the events no the events he goes from

00:15:54.480 instagram come on like they can get any chick they want yeah they can but but i do you think leonardo

00:16:02.000 just got in in bear girls dms just hollering girls in the dms i think if he wants i think he'll i think

00:16:07.440 he'll pick like he hollered at that one chick uh the hadid who's that oh yeah yeah hello gg had 1.00

00:16:14.240 do you know oh gg the model yeah i don't know what i say it's like if you look at the richest

00:16:19.600 most successful man they they typically have slim women i'm saying if you're looking at the richest 0.99

00:16:23.920 parts of events and venues mayfair whatever and in america manhattan whatever if you go to the upper

00:16:30.880 echelons of places they've got to be you know what i'm saying do you really think that the only reason

00:16:35.440 they're with slim beautiful women is because of the events they go no but i'm saying because of the

00:16:40.880 environment that they're in okay i think that was because that that is society's ideal of a beautiful

00:16:46.400 woman that's why and so i feel like the plus model came in when people started complaining that there

00:16:51.440 wasn't a selection of variety of different sizes why why is it that all around the world they like

00:16:56.480 young beautiful slim women everywhere even in different societies with completely different 1.00

00:17:02.240 cultures please please do not bring out this one fringent tribe in africa everyone brings up but 1.00

00:17:08.720 it's like they're it's such a small percentage of the world well africa there's something no 1.00

00:17:14.480 they're trying they bring up some tribe in africa assist that that likes the fat women but it's a 0.98

00:17:19.440 very very i've done this conversation but if you think i hear that but if you think about it's the

00:17:23.440 motherland no i'm not being but i'm i mean coming out you know deep down you know that men like slim

00:17:33.120 women in general i'm gonna be honest i don't think they do i'm gonna be honest i don't like and i'm 0.99

00:17:37.920 i'm gonna say this coming from being a black man okay if i'm talking about being a black man and

00:17:43.760 from a black perspective of i feel like majority of us man like thicker women okay well and and 1.00

00:17:50.320 and even jordan no no no but you keep talking about celebrity men that are going to be around

00:17:56.400 higher women that certain women i'm from a one percent family my dad my dad my dad is a top one

00:18:01.920 percent earner i grew up around in a wealthy neighborhood i'm telling you they do not put fat

00:18:05.920 chicks on their arms in high class in high class society and celebrities want people with the 1.00

00:18:11.280 option to not have a fat chick on their arm do not all right but what even like i was having a 1.00

00:18:15.840 conversation the other day with with a woman and she was a slim woman she's from america as well so 0.98

00:18:20.560 american um i think like atlanta or emma and she said when she was slim she was only getting approached

00:18:26.320 by white men okay she put she put on a lot of weight no not a lot of weight but she's ticked got body 1.00

00:18:31.360 whatever and blah blah blah now she's getting approached by a lot of black men which is what

00:18:36.000 do you get what i'm saying but i'm saying if you if you look at it on on the democrats thing which

00:18:40.400 which successful black men that we know are dating are we only going to talk about successful men yeah

00:18:45.440 because those are the men with options broke men don't have as many options as rich men definitely

00:18:48.960 have options they do not have as many options as rich men so if you look at the men with the most

00:18:52.880 options to look okay so if we want to see what women want we got to look at the women with the most

00:18:56.560 option who do the most beautiful the youngest most fertile women pick if we want to look at men what 1.00

00:19:01.840 do men like we have to look at the men with the most options because it's not really fair to say

00:19:05.440 oh i like fat chicks if i make you know ten dollars an hour at taco bell right like you can't you don't 1.00

00:19:11.040 get no i get that but obviously if you're going if you're talking about celebrities celebrities are guided

00:19:18.640 no i didn't but i didn't just say celebrities i'm i'm from i'm my dad is in like he's a top one

00:19:24.720 percent earner i grew up with 10 siblings in a 10 bedroom mansion in a community where many people

00:19:29.680 made that amount of money yeah so so i've been around a successful wealthy men and they don't

00:19:35.200 put fat chicks sometimes they they do get fat later but they don't appreciate that you know what i mean 1.00

00:19:40.240 so yeah but i hear what you're saying what i'm saying the reason these men obviously going to go for

00:19:45.840 similar because they're around that's what you being in the top one percent and being in in this

00:19:49.680 neighborhood okay it allows you to see different things you get like i mean if you do no but if

00:19:54.560 you do have money obviously if you do have money a lot of people with money are fit in the gym they

00:19:59.120 do it because they have more time on their hands to do other things you get on saying no they have

00:20:02.640 less time i guarantee you you think they have less time people absolutely have less time totally

00:20:08.080 no i don't know about that you know no i could tell you a hundred percent but also i think the reason

00:20:12.720 that a lot of women and are slimmer and why do you think more successful men want women who are 1.00

00:20:18.320 slimmer it's because it's healthier for them like their risk for getting you know diseases at an

00:20:24.000 older age their risk for having pregnancy risks are much lower if they're not overweight so why would 0.78

00:20:29.440 a man choose a woman if he wants to marry them if they're going to die at 50 if they're going to die 0.96

00:20:35.200 at 70 if they're going to have their children's going to have i'd be at risk for birth risks i mean

00:20:38.640 i would never want that and i don't think i don't think men want that like when men are looking for

00:20:42.800 wives they're not looking for children like women who are going to have risks and we even saw how 1.00

00:20:49.200 for you how your bad habit passed on to her and that's like if you have a bad habit yourself you

00:20:54.880 will pass it on to your kids and then it's another problem that your kids like because i had the same

00:20:58.320 my mom used to feed me like pop tarts and stuff when i was a kid and i and my mom was pretty big and 0.82

00:21:02.800 then she ended up like losing all the weight um and she told me like she literally did it for my dad

00:21:08.080 um and um yeah i have a sugar addiction to this day you know what i mean so it's like bad habits

00:21:13.600 pass from like the parents to the kids exactly and sugar is more addictive than cocaine yeah

00:21:19.120 i do miss pop tarts they make healthy pop tarts but they're really not healthy they're still junk

00:21:24.160 food i don't like that i like the cinnamon ones i went in the complete opposite direction like total

00:21:30.080 neurosis i got my bachelor's and master's degree in nutrition i helped thousands of people lose

00:21:35.200 weight regain their health and it was almost like her rebellion so her choice to gain autonomy

00:21:41.440 through overeating and ill health was almost you know well it was just so so crazy for me because

00:21:47.760 i was so i thought you said you were overweight as a kid i was but as an adult so you were super what

00:21:53.600 were you doing my whole life until i was like 15 i was like rebelling against her i was like i'm gonna

00:21:59.760 eat all the junk food so i'd go to my friend's house and stuff my face with pizza and then their moms would 1.00

00:22:04.080 call her and be like oh my gosh is your daughter okay she's eaten like a box of pizza and like my 0.93

00:22:09.200 whole box of goldfish wow and i would just do that and then i'd come home and i would never like her 1.00

00:22:13.840 cooking even though she's the best cook i know but like i wouldn't i just rebelled my whole life

00:22:18.560 yeah terrible uh james says there's a difference between fit and thick men want fit women um puffy i'm

00:22:26.000 in las vegas and i see plenty of women from africa i am black this is cap we like thin women 1.00

00:22:30.960 uh and then i think there was one more i'm just going to do really quick uh lady in the red is 1.00

00:22:36.400 telling the truth i've lost 67 pounds my life is better off these plus size influencers are lying

00:22:41.120 to people example lizzo yeah what do you think of lizzo so i actually recently did a video on this um

00:22:46.160 i sub it a podcast but basically lizzo is portraying something that is terrible for young women and then

00:22:52.560 you have thousands of young women saying oh my gosh this is so beautiful everyone should be like

00:22:57.280 lizzo and then you have all the fat people looking at lizzo feeding off of her positivity her body 1.00

00:23:03.040 positivity and why does she lead with it too like because her brand like no people say yeah nobody 0.80

00:23:09.040 would talk when adele was overweight nobody really spoke about her weight because she didn't lead with 0.99

00:23:13.760 it no you know they did speak about it when she lost the weight they were like oh we can't believe

00:23:18.240 you lost the weight we hate you now like we don't like you like you did this for for social media and 0.53

00:23:22.000 it's like what yeah what about doing this to save her life why aren't more people supporting women 1.00

00:23:27.360 losing weight that's what real body positivity because we know the whole world is lazy the

00:23:31.840 majority of people so that it fits well also the food industry benefits the food industry and the

00:23:36.640 medical industry you have more overweight people because then you have more surgeries then you have

00:23:40.480 more medications being handed out then you have more depression anxiety suicide i mean the divorce rates

00:23:45.280 you know it's right it's insane right no i mean honestly like one time i was at work and these

00:23:51.520 guys were like like clowning on women over 200 pounds or like i would never date but they didn't

00:23:55.840 know i was because i like i don't look like i didn't look like i was over 200 and literally i ended up like

00:24:02.240 losing a bunch of weight because i was so embarrassed and i and that it was the best thing that ever

00:24:07.120 happened to me i ran a marathon because i was like i'm done i'm done with this it's like the quickest way to

00:24:11.360 lose weight run a marathon yeah or and i got addicted to exercise too like i remember being in

00:24:15.600 that place i went to the doctor's office actually and that's when i started i they were like your

00:24:20.080 triglycerides are up your your risk heart disease type 2 diabetes and you know if you don't start now

00:24:26.080 you are gonna die very like slowly but soon and i was terrified i was like what just from being fat

00:24:32.800 i was how long did they say you had i'm just curious no they weren't like you're gonna die

00:24:41.920 tomorrow but they were like no i'm curious like how long do 300 pound people live i don't know do

00:24:46.400 you know i don't know the stats on that actually no but they they definitely have a higher risk of

00:24:51.040 cardiovascular disease which is a number one killer they have a higher risk of cancer they definitely

00:24:56.080 will develop diabetes type 2 and other diseases that are 100 preventable there was that influencer that

00:25:01.040 just like dropped dead the other day because she was obese and like she would literally always be 1.00

00:25:05.040 eating and doing mukbangs then she died i'm not surprised why do you think she died everyone you

00:25:10.160 know and then they say like when obese people go to the doctor and they say to lose weight that

00:25:15.520 they're like not listening to them but i'm like well i mean i'm not a doctor but you might want to like

00:25:21.840 watch for you but even doctors are lying to people now saying oh it's okay to eat like cheeseburger

00:25:26.720 they can't weigh you they can't weigh you either even that and it's like you guys why are you lying

00:25:31.040 to these people who actually some some people who actually want to be helped are being lied to yeah

00:25:35.440 oh just do the keto diet oh just do the paleo diet it'll be fine that's not a long-term solution that's

00:25:39.920 not a lifestyle right doctors aren't really even trained in nutrition they don't know how to help and

00:25:45.280 the business model isn't set up for them to support their their their patients so it's the whole model is

00:25:51.600 flawed and we really need to get smart and get responsible and be clear about what we're putting

00:25:56.880 in our thoughts in our minds and in our in our mouths literally uh they said as an african woman 1.00

00:26:03.440 zimbabwean uh we are curvy there's a big difference between being curvy and overweight you can be thin

00:26:09.360 and curvy um and just big big uh and then there's another one that was from interracial marriages or 1.00

00:26:16.880 relationships uh for black men community we value bigger women because they make for better sex 0.99

00:26:22.720 partners uh the marriage is different requirements for it than sex my thin women 1.00

00:26:29.360 or my thin woman felt like she was too pretty to uh fulfill my sexual requirements um 1.00

JustPearlyThings - August 13, 2023

Radical Debate on Who a Good Woman Is

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