JustPearlyThings - August 13, 2023


Radical Debate on Who a Good Woman Is


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Length

26 minutes

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220.28078

Word Count

5,858

Sentence Count

8

Misogynist Sentences

58

Hate Speech Sentences

30


Summary

In this episode, we talk about why there are not enough good women in society and how to find them. We also talk about how to become a better woman and what it takes to be a good woman in today's society.


Transcript

00:00:00.080 today um we're gonna talk about where have all the good women gone so one thing i always hear
00:00:06.080 is where have all the good men gone right in society um however i just started looking up
00:00:10.720 some stats okay one in three women have an std one in three women have had an abortion 38 of
00:00:16.080 kids are born into single parent homes the average age of first child is 26 which is before the
00:00:20.640 average age of first marriage which is 30. 45 of marriages end in divorce the average number of
00:00:26.320 partners for a woman is between four and eight and when women get below above five partners their
00:00:31.760 chance of a happy marriage goes from 80 to 20 depends on the study plus or minus 10 percent
00:00:37.520 um and if men get pick the wrong woman they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken
00:00:43.600 from them and on top of that 70 of women um 60 70 of women are overweight in the u.s
00:00:51.120 um so um the question is how does a guy identify a good woman and what percent of women do you think
00:00:57.920 are good women really good question how does a guy identify a good woman i think mostly it's looks but
00:01:04.480 that's not how they do it but i think it's about it's about a vibe actually it's about an energy and
00:01:10.080 it's about respect if a woman you know can really show this man that she respects him okay but in the
00:01:16.880 beginning that's challenging because you know you're on a first date i think the first indication is
00:01:21.120 usually looks what was the second question bro what percent of women do you think are good women
00:01:25.760 oh in this day and age yes i think women are so confused it's really hard to say i would say
00:01:33.040 good woman what do you mean by that what i mean by that i think a good woman is probably less than 10
00:01:37.200 percent these days okay i think a good woman is a healed woman so i feel like the reason why there's not
00:01:44.000 much good women out there is because no one really knows how to heal and recover from their past
00:01:48.960 relationships and traumas and so they bring those good women not be like broken to begin with yeah
00:01:54.240 100 yeah yeah yeah and so i feel like they found ways to heal and they've like taken time out to
00:02:00.560 isolate themselves and i feel like maybe then they will be able to move forward and find the right
00:02:05.280 partner for the right reasons and i feel like um why the percentage may be so low is because no one's
00:02:11.680 really willing to do the hard dark shadow work what do you mean shadow because whenever i hear
00:02:17.200 like this stuff no offense like the shadow work the healing i always hear like nothing yeah like never
00:02:23.440 like real concrete steps of like so if you're a woman you're trying to improve what do you what do you do
00:02:28.240 so you're trying to like your ego you know the dark side of you decide that you don't show anyone but
00:02:34.160 it can come out so you are trying to like kind of tame that and work on your insecurities and all the
00:02:39.360 things that you don't want people to see okay and so you can how do you how do you work on them so i
00:02:44.480 mean for me personally i write down i journal stuff so i write things down my fears or things i don't
00:02:50.720 like about myself or that i want to change or that i feel i'm i'm um expression maybe in the wrong way
00:02:56.560 and so i try and like find ways to fix that and just you know work so how are you like held you know
00:03:01.760 like if i want to lose weight you go to a personal trainer and they say like good bad like how do you
00:03:06.000 hold yourself accountable oh doing doing research finding a routine making sure that you're
00:03:11.280 consistently keeping up with things and maintaining that process yeah this just kind of sounds like
00:03:17.760 nothing to me yeah okay i'm just i'm sorry it's real no no no but like when i whenever i hear girls
00:03:24.400 like talk about this it just sounds like okay i write in my journal um i and i google things online
00:03:32.640 and i try to be better but there's no like accountability like anyone keeping you in check
00:03:36.720 to like show that you are getting better i think most people um don't have anyone to keep them in
00:03:42.080 check when there's a will there's a way if you really want to change then you will make sure that
00:03:46.000 you get that done like so so so if you're talking to a guy and he says like okay you you said i was
00:03:52.240 broken before i'm healed now like what steps would you show him that i am now healed um you're able to
00:03:57.360 be more compassionate and less judgmental and more open and vulnerable okay so how could you prove that
00:04:03.520 you are just by being just by being that i mean i feel like time will tell okay you know okay because
00:04:11.120 like i was just thinking like if you want to concrete steps it's like married mentors uh maybe a male
00:04:16.400 therapist like that sort of thing i just never hear whenever i hear women's self-improvement it's always
00:04:21.280 like be more confident write in a journal and google things no fact like respectfully so i just i just don't
00:04:26.560 understand but you know what's crazy i've tried personally i've tried therapy and i and the first
00:04:31.040 time i tried it i walked out in an anger and rage that i was like human and the second time i told
00:04:36.320 her look it's not gonna work i don't think you can fix my problems you know i agree with you i've been
00:04:40.640 to therapists before and i just thought therapy was like stupid for the most part and now i'm in
00:04:44.640 school for psychology and i see the women that are therapists and they're nuts i would not go to
00:04:48.960 therapy yeah i feel like they don't care they're just getting paid to do what they need to do they
00:04:52.880 don't give a fuck so yeah yeah but but i do think there are some male therapists that are helpful
00:04:58.800 like male um what do you think about that um i've never had a male therapist and i wouldn't go to
00:05:04.560 a male therapist because i need to i need to connect with a woman that's like do you know i mean like
00:05:08.640 women no that's broken like me not necessarily but i feel like women connect easier no i think i think
00:05:14.960 women look to comfort and then look to solve problems and that's why i don't think therapy works
00:05:18.800 when they're women most of the time there's exceptions because like men like women are just going to
00:05:22.720 comfort you they're going to tell you what you want to hear where men will tell you how to fix it
00:05:26.560 but the problem is like women we never want to fix it like actually fix it that's interesting yeah
00:05:32.320 i had a male therapist actually or the i had a therapist for eight years i'm not in therapy
00:05:38.560 anymore but the first four years it was a woman and the last four years a man and i'm not in therapy
00:05:44.160 anymore and i'm like i'm good now but that's because it was a man not a woman because when i was with
00:05:48.240 a woman they would just sit there and soak in all my issues and all the problems and there was
00:05:52.480 never a solve or a solution no one was trying to help me and then the trauma what's your like and
00:05:57.680 they call everything trauma everything you know everything abuse or trauma i'm like what the what
00:06:01.680 do you mean you know i don't believe in trauma i don't believe in trauma either it's a bunch of bs
00:06:06.880 it's just so that psychologists can make money off yeah well i do i do believe in like war trauma
00:06:12.960 like from war what do you mean like i think if a guy goes to war and see some like sees things
00:06:17.840 that's real trauma but the way we use it today my ex-boyfriend cheated on me my it's just everything's
00:06:26.000 everything but can i say something don't you think there's something called unhealed baggage that we
00:06:29.920 be carrying with us because we haven't overcome how we felt in the last relationship you should just
00:06:33.920 get over it okay yeah yeah i think that we should quit whining our great grandmothers had to deal with
00:06:41.840 like they used to have plagues and getting cheated on like this is just the example i'm using but most
00:06:47.200 of modern day problems are really nothing compared to like 100 200 years ago you could get the plague
00:06:54.480 and like die you know that'd be traumatic being afraid you know and you're right you know what
00:06:59.360 because i feel like personally i've been through so much i haven't had real therapy and i'm i'm strong
00:07:03.280 i'm i'm still going you know what i mean i don't really it's not affecting me maybe it is in a way
00:07:08.160 but it's not in intervening in my life yeah strong strongly the reveling in the story is what a lot
00:07:14.480 of the women therapists were using penelope's my daughter and they were um you know really listening
00:07:19.440 to your story and and and giving a lot of emphasis to it like you were really overweight and the
00:07:24.480 therapists were like no no don't don't talk about it don't don't don't try to help her lose weight
00:07:28.880 and i'm like what do you mean like we've got to fix this problem like what's the plan it was so
00:07:33.120 frustrating oh so they they wouldn't try to solve like how big were you i was 300 pounds shut up i
00:07:39.440 was 300 pounds you look great can we get us how did how did your life change from going from 300
00:07:47.600 pounds to i don't know what you are now but clearly not so i lost 130 pounds actually wow and you're
00:07:52.960 tall too yes what are you six two no five nine and a half oh shit you look you look tall as heck
00:07:57.840 okay um but basically i was you know i think part of the problem was because i was in therapy for so
00:08:04.160 long and i nobody told me in therapy that there was anything wrong with me and i had depression i
00:08:08.880 had anxiety i had suicidal thoughts and i was not i didn't have a good relationship with my father at
00:08:13.200 the time and nobody was saying oh you need to lose the weight your life will be better if you just do
00:08:18.080 that nobody they tried to give me medication they tried to give me pills they tried to put me in more
00:08:22.720 therapy and it wasn't until one day i looked in the mirror and i'm like i don't want to be like this
00:08:27.040 anymore i don't want to feel like this anymore and to be honest the body positivity movement
00:08:32.080 crushed my soul and told me oh you should be you know you're beautiful no matter what size you are
00:08:37.120 you're beautiful no matter you know how much you weigh you're beautiful no matter what you eat you
00:08:41.280 can eat anything you want and you're gorgeous go girl and i and i thought it was okay wow i thought it
00:08:47.040 was good because no one said anything and i could be sitting here if 300 pounds or enough i didn't make
00:08:51.440 the decision to say penelope you need to get your butt off the couch and work out fix your diet fix
00:08:56.320 your mental health fix everything and now i'm perfectly fine no meds just naturally all natural
00:09:03.680 what do you do you think that contributes to 70 of women being overweight in the u.s completely
00:09:09.680 i completely think that yeah go ahead no i just think that i think that the fact that people are
00:09:14.800 obese and that they make all these excuses for oh i'm obese because of this i'm obese because you can
00:09:18.960 lose weight no matter what anyone can lose weight it's just about finding the right way to do it and what
00:09:23.840 do you think of the women that say we need like representation and magazines we need fat chicks
00:09:29.920 on the cover victoria's secret fashion show it repulses me so it repulses me to see that because
00:09:36.400 you've been there it does because i've been there and not only that but you are showing thousands and
00:09:41.440 millions of women in the world that it is one okay to be unhealthy two okay to be slowly killing yourself
00:09:47.040 and three okay to go outside and dress provocatively with your rolls out i was a plus size model like
00:09:56.320 in the 90s you were a plus size model in the 90s yeah is there anything wrong with a little plus
00:10:01.600 size girl yeah because what about the people that actually what about the people that actually can't
00:10:06.080 lose weight physically they will never wait that's not a thing but but what about people that actually
00:10:10.320 but they mentally can't so for the rest of their life they're going to be that same size they need some
00:10:14.240 they need some empowerment because otherwise they could you know commit suicide or something
00:10:17.600 do you go to do you go to a basketball game and look to see like an nba game or what do you guys
00:10:23.600 have it's football right football here you do a football game here and you try to see average
00:10:27.760 football players average like below average football players play football here when you go to a
00:10:33.440 professional game do we see them no do you do you go there to see that oh well no so then why do
00:10:38.640 on the cover of magazines which is supposed to be the epitome of beauty do we have below average women on it
00:10:43.360 right like why like why is that why do we need that i feel i feel ashamed i don't like it i don't
00:10:49.840 want to see it i think you're right about the fact that they're doing it to because you know if you
00:10:54.320 want to talk about the health system and the way the world's set up they don't want people to come
00:10:58.160 out of a bce right so they're going to make it look like it's okay they don't want you to so so why
00:11:03.200 wouldn't we have healthy people on the front of mag i'm not saying like because they don't want that
00:11:06.880 yeah yeah but you you said we need that earlier no but i was saying that for the people that don't that
00:11:12.160 actually fit i think in my head i'm thinking for the people that actually because a person that
00:11:16.320 actually cannot overcome obesity and for the rest of their life till the age of 60 70 they're still
00:11:21.440 going to be overweight those people are probably feeling yes like they're they're feeling okay
00:11:26.400 they're empowered would you rather be empowered than commit suicide because people think look at
00:11:31.840 you you're fat but when you're eat when you're overeating you're slowly committing suicide
00:11:36.560 my mother did it wow she died like her cause of death was severe obesity and then when my daughter
00:11:43.440 started gaining the weight i was freaking out right and so that's why we're on a mission
00:11:48.320 but don't you think there's a certain level though obviously there's obesity and there's because i feel
00:11:52.560 like the modeling world has always promoted unhealthy unhealthiness and that makes sense even the slim
00:11:58.480 women slimming women was like six and like very smooth you know what i'm saying that would look like they
00:12:03.520 weren't eating i don't think so if you look at i always hear that but i like i look at marilyn monroe
00:12:07.920 she was healthy yeah but they're talking about one person there's a lot of a lot of women in the
00:12:11.600 modeling world was very slim and they wouldn't eat or they wouldn't do something just to fit in the
00:12:15.840 certain category do you get what i'm saying i mean there was some but i just maybe for like early 2000s
00:12:21.120 but i think if you look at the last like 100 years i think most women on the covers were just
00:12:25.920 objectively beautiful what's the average weight you would say uh let's see i don't know off the top of my head
00:12:32.160 i mean as a ford model the the girls who were in straight size modeling they were size four and
00:12:36.640 that's because the samples are made in a size four and so is your four different from uk four oh yeah
00:12:43.040 it is a bit yeah like more like a two i think it'd be more like a two and two hey the average the
00:12:48.240 average woman she's gone she's okay the average woman is five four i'm in america and i can do uk in a
00:12:54.800 second yeah five four 20 years old and weighs 170 pounds what's that in stone please okay okay
00:13:05.840 average stones i don't actually know
00:13:14.080 but that's overweight i would say that that average that she just quoted would be 12 stone 12 12.14 okay
00:13:20.480 because i would think that average is between eight to 12. i think if you're in a good in shape 12
00:13:25.680 there's good in shape 12 women anything above that then we're talking obesity you know what i'm saying
00:13:32.080 i mean it's bmi yeah to be honest sorry uh to be honest it depends i think like around 10 years ago
00:13:39.840 it used to be way different i think now they kind of raised it you know yeah yeah i think 10 years ago
00:13:47.680 i went i don't know why it was like 65 kilos i don't know what that is sorry in in stones it must
00:13:54.400 be like 165 in um in america 2.2 to 1. yeah and they would already say oh you should try to lose weight
00:14:02.560 you know for your height whatever now if you look at that they're like yeah you're perfect you can be a
00:14:07.680 model yeah so it really changed in the last decade i would say really it did so what about around 10 years
00:14:14.480 ago was there plus size models is that a new thing i'll be honest not really where on america's next
00:14:20.560 top model i mean it wasn't that as common though but i definitely i i know i used to watch tyra banks
00:14:26.160 anyone yeah yeah anyone there yeah but they weren't like this they weren't like the the like super yeah
00:14:33.440 yeah like you see today they're just kind of like they're like tens big boned uh 10's all right
00:14:40.160 10's not big no 10's not big at all 12 12 like this is what i'm saying for the modeling world that's
00:14:46.000 quite big yeah but again it's like when you go to an nba game i want to see good basketball players
00:14:50.960 like it's supposed to be the epitome of beauty yeah but but now we're rewarding average like i don't
00:14:56.000 want to see average chicks like faces on the cover of magazine i don't want to see average bodies
00:15:00.960 i hear that but if she's a good i'm not saying plus plus but she's a good size 12 with good curbs
00:15:06.160 in that man don't want to see that we don't really want to just see slim girls all the time i'll be
00:15:10.240 honest i believe that i believe that some men like that i really do it's typically a lot of us to be
00:15:14.720 honest it's typically broke men because if you look at rich men yeah yeah if you look at like it's so cap
00:15:20.160 like i'm just i don't like liars no offense but it's like like when you see rich men what do they have on
00:15:25.680 their arms but the only reason why they have slim women is because the slim women are in the higher
00:15:32.240 echelons of places where the other women no not in beauty no let's not talk about beauty only i'm
00:15:37.440 talking about venues certain venues certain places that they get to go to certain women can't get to
00:15:43.280 go there okay you get what i'm saying leonardo dicaprio if he wanted a big chick he couldn't find one no he
00:15:48.880 can find one but i'm saying in certain the plate the venue the events no the events he goes from
00:15:54.480 instagram come on like they can get any chick they want yeah they can but but i do you think leonardo
00:16:02.000 just got in in bear girls dms just hollering girls in the dms i think if he wants i think he'll i think
00:16:07.440 he'll pick like he hollered at that one chick uh the hadid who's that oh yeah yeah hello gg had
00:16:14.240 do you know oh gg the model yeah i don't know what i say it's like if you look at the richest
00:16:19.600 most successful man they they typically have slim women i'm saying if you're looking at the richest
00:16:23.920 parts of events and venues mayfair whatever and in america manhattan whatever if you go to the upper
00:16:30.880 echelons of places they've got to be you know what i'm saying do you really think that the only reason
00:16:35.440 they're with slim beautiful women is because of the events they go no but i'm saying because of the
00:16:40.880 environment that they're in okay i think that was because that that is society's ideal of a beautiful
00:16:46.400 woman that's why and so i feel like the plus model came in when people started complaining that there
00:16:51.440 wasn't a selection of variety of different sizes why why is it that all around the world they like
00:16:56.480 young beautiful slim women everywhere even in different societies with completely different
00:17:02.240 cultures please please do not bring out this one fringent tribe in africa everyone brings up but
00:17:08.720 it's like they're it's such a small percentage of the world well africa there's something no
00:17:14.480 they're trying they bring up some tribe in africa assist that that likes the fat women but it's a
00:17:19.440 very very i've done this conversation but if you think i hear that but if you think about it's the
00:17:23.440 motherland no i'm not being but i'm i mean coming out you know deep down you know that men like slim
00:17:33.120 women in general i'm gonna be honest i don't think they do i'm gonna be honest i don't like and i'm
00:17:37.920 i'm gonna say this coming from being a black man okay if i'm talking about being a black man and
00:17:43.760 from a black perspective of i feel like majority of us man like thicker women okay well and and
00:17:50.320 and even jordan no no no but you keep talking about celebrity men that are going to be around
00:17:56.400 higher women that certain women i'm from a one percent family my dad my dad my dad is a top one
00:18:01.920 percent earner i grew up around in a wealthy neighborhood i'm telling you they do not put fat
00:18:05.920 chicks on their arms in high class in high class society and celebrities want people with the
00:18:11.280 option to not have a fat chick on their arm do not all right but what even like i was having a
00:18:15.840 conversation the other day with with a woman and she was a slim woman she's from america as well so
00:18:20.560 american um i think like atlanta or emma and she said when she was slim she was only getting approached
00:18:26.320 by white men okay she put she put on a lot of weight no not a lot of weight but she's ticked got body
00:18:31.360 whatever and blah blah blah now she's getting approached by a lot of black men which is what
00:18:36.000 do you get what i'm saying but i'm saying if you if you look at it on on the democrats thing which
00:18:40.400 which successful black men that we know are dating are we only going to talk about successful men yeah
00:18:45.440 because those are the men with options broke men don't have as many options as rich men definitely
00:18:48.960 have options they do not have as many options as rich men so if you look at the men with the most
00:18:52.880 options to look okay so if we want to see what women want we got to look at the women with the most
00:18:56.560 option who do the most beautiful the youngest most fertile women pick if we want to look at men what
00:19:01.840 do men like we have to look at the men with the most options because it's not really fair to say
00:19:05.440 oh i like fat chicks if i make you know ten dollars an hour at taco bell right like you can't you don't
00:19:11.040 get no i get that but obviously if you're going if you're talking about celebrities celebrities are guided
00:19:18.640 no i didn't but i didn't just say celebrities i'm i'm from i'm my dad is in like he's a top one
00:19:24.720 percent earner i grew up with 10 siblings in a 10 bedroom mansion in a community where many people
00:19:29.680 made that amount of money yeah so so i've been around a successful wealthy men and they don't
00:19:35.200 put fat chicks sometimes they they do get fat later but they don't appreciate that you know what i mean
00:19:40.240 so yeah but i hear what you're saying what i'm saying the reason these men obviously going to go for
00:19:45.840 similar because they're around that's what you being in the top one percent and being in in this
00:19:49.680 neighborhood okay it allows you to see different things you get like i mean if you do no but if
00:19:54.560 you do have money obviously if you do have money a lot of people with money are fit in the gym they
00:19:59.120 do it because they have more time on their hands to do other things you get on saying no they have
00:20:02.640 less time i guarantee you you think they have less time people absolutely have less time totally
00:20:08.080 no i don't know about that you know no i could tell you a hundred percent but also i think the reason
00:20:12.720 that a lot of women and are slimmer and why do you think more successful men want women who are
00:20:18.320 slimmer it's because it's healthier for them like their risk for getting you know diseases at an
00:20:24.000 older age their risk for having pregnancy risks are much lower if they're not overweight so why would
00:20:29.440 a man choose a woman if he wants to marry them if they're going to die at 50 if they're going to die
00:20:35.200 at 70 if they're going to have their children's going to have i'd be at risk for birth risks i mean
00:20:38.640 i would never want that and i don't think i don't think men want that like when men are looking for
00:20:42.800 wives they're not looking for children like women who are going to have risks and we even saw how
00:20:49.200 for you how your bad habit passed on to her and that's like if you have a bad habit yourself you
00:20:54.880 will pass it on to your kids and then it's another problem that your kids like because i had the same
00:20:58.320 my mom used to feed me like pop tarts and stuff when i was a kid and i and my mom was pretty big and
00:21:02.800 then she ended up like losing all the weight um and she told me like she literally did it for my dad
00:21:08.080 um and um yeah i have a sugar addiction to this day you know what i mean so it's like bad habits
00:21:13.600 pass from like the parents to the kids exactly and sugar is more addictive than cocaine yeah
00:21:19.120 i do miss pop tarts they make healthy pop tarts but they're really not healthy they're still junk
00:21:24.160 food i don't like that i like the cinnamon ones i went in the complete opposite direction like total
00:21:30.080 neurosis i got my bachelor's and master's degree in nutrition i helped thousands of people lose
00:21:35.200 weight regain their health and it was almost like her rebellion so her choice to gain autonomy
00:21:41.440 through overeating and ill health was almost you know well it was just so so crazy for me because
00:21:47.760 i was so i thought you said you were overweight as a kid i was but as an adult so you were super what
00:21:53.600 were you doing my whole life until i was like 15 i was like rebelling against her i was like i'm gonna
00:21:59.760 eat all the junk food so i'd go to my friend's house and stuff my face with pizza and then their moms would
00:22:04.080 call her and be like oh my gosh is your daughter okay she's eaten like a box of pizza and like my
00:22:09.200 whole box of goldfish wow and i would just do that and then i'd come home and i would never like her
00:22:13.840 cooking even though she's the best cook i know but like i wouldn't i just rebelled my whole life
00:22:18.560 yeah terrible uh james says there's a difference between fit and thick men want fit women um puffy i'm
00:22:26.000 in las vegas and i see plenty of women from africa i am black this is cap we like thin women
00:22:30.960 uh and then i think there was one more i'm just going to do really quick uh lady in the red is
00:22:36.400 telling the truth i've lost 67 pounds my life is better off these plus size influencers are lying
00:22:41.120 to people example lizzo yeah what do you think of lizzo so i actually recently did a video on this um
00:22:46.160 i sub it a podcast but basically lizzo is portraying something that is terrible for young women and then
00:22:52.560 you have thousands of young women saying oh my gosh this is so beautiful everyone should be like
00:22:57.280 lizzo and then you have all the fat people looking at lizzo feeding off of her positivity her body
00:23:03.040 positivity and why does she lead with it too like because her brand like no people say yeah nobody
00:23:09.040 would talk when adele was overweight nobody really spoke about her weight because she didn't lead with
00:23:13.760 it no you know they did speak about it when she lost the weight they were like oh we can't believe
00:23:18.240 you lost the weight we hate you now like we don't like you like you did this for for social media and
00:23:22.000 it's like what yeah what about doing this to save her life why aren't more people supporting women
00:23:27.360 losing weight that's what real body positivity because we know the whole world is lazy the
00:23:31.840 majority of people so that it fits well also the food industry benefits the food industry and the
00:23:36.640 medical industry you have more overweight people because then you have more surgeries then you have
00:23:40.480 more medications being handed out then you have more depression anxiety suicide i mean the divorce rates
00:23:45.280 you know it's right it's insane right no i mean honestly like one time i was at work and these
00:23:51.520 guys were like like clowning on women over 200 pounds or like i would never date but they didn't
00:23:55.840 know i was because i like i don't look like i didn't look like i was over 200 and literally i ended up like
00:24:02.240 losing a bunch of weight because i was so embarrassed and i and that it was the best thing that ever
00:24:07.120 happened to me i ran a marathon because i was like i'm done i'm done with this it's like the quickest way to
00:24:11.360 lose weight run a marathon yeah or and i got addicted to exercise too like i remember being in
00:24:15.600 that place i went to the doctor's office actually and that's when i started i they were like your
00:24:20.080 triglycerides are up your your risk heart disease type 2 diabetes and you know if you don't start now
00:24:26.080 you are gonna die very like slowly but soon and i was terrified i was like what just from being fat
00:24:32.800 i was how long did they say you had i'm just curious no they weren't like you're gonna die
00:24:41.920 tomorrow but they were like no i'm curious like how long do 300 pound people live i don't know do
00:24:46.400 you know i don't know the stats on that actually no but they they definitely have a higher risk of
00:24:51.040 cardiovascular disease which is a number one killer they have a higher risk of cancer they definitely
00:24:56.080 will develop diabetes type 2 and other diseases that are 100 preventable there was that influencer that
00:25:01.040 just like dropped dead the other day because she was obese and like she would literally always be
00:25:05.040 eating and doing mukbangs then she died i'm not surprised why do you think she died everyone you
00:25:10.160 know and then they say like when obese people go to the doctor and they say to lose weight that
00:25:15.520 they're like not listening to them but i'm like well i mean i'm not a doctor but you might want to like
00:25:21.840 watch for you but even doctors are lying to people now saying oh it's okay to eat like cheeseburger
00:25:26.720 they can't weigh you they can't weigh you either even that and it's like you guys why are you lying
00:25:31.040 to these people who actually some some people who actually want to be helped are being lied to yeah
00:25:35.440 oh just do the keto diet oh just do the paleo diet it'll be fine that's not a long-term solution that's
00:25:39.920 not a lifestyle right doctors aren't really even trained in nutrition they don't know how to help and
00:25:45.280 the business model isn't set up for them to support their their their patients so it's the whole model is
00:25:51.600 flawed and we really need to get smart and get responsible and be clear about what we're putting
00:25:56.880 in our thoughts in our minds and in our in our mouths literally uh they said as an african woman
00:26:03.440 zimbabwean uh we are curvy there's a big difference between being curvy and overweight you can be thin
00:26:09.360 and curvy um and just big big uh and then there's another one that was from interracial marriages or
00:26:16.880 relationships uh for black men community we value bigger women because they make for better sex
00:26:22.720 partners uh the marriage is different requirements for it than sex my thin women
00:26:29.360 or my thin woman felt like she was too pretty to uh fulfill my sexual requirements um