JustPearlyThings - August 14, 2023


Red Pill Millionaire DROPS The Realest Marriage Advice EVER


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8 minutes

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8

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In this episode, we talk about why women lie about their sexual history and why it doesn t matter. We also talk about when we stop dating because of our past and why we don t want to be with someone who has slept with multiple men.

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00:00:00.000 Okay, for the guys, have you ever stopped dating a girl because of her past?
00:00:04.940 Yeah.
00:00:06.140 What happened?
00:00:07.140 What did you find out?
00:00:09.140 So I found out, I was 18, found out that the girl.
00:00:15.920 Yeah, is that better for you?
00:00:17.200 To it.
00:00:18.800 Yeah.
00:00:19.720 Okay, cool.
00:00:21.640 18, I found out the girl had slept with, like, multiple men.
00:00:26.460 And this was through a conversation that I had heard from one of my friends saying,
00:00:32.320 oh, what's that girl? 1.00
00:00:34.500 Like, I know she's been with this guy and that guy.
00:00:37.800 And as soon as I heard that, I said to the girl, why did you tell me a strange number?
00:00:41.380 You told me this number, and now I'm finding out it's more than likely this.
00:00:45.940 And she broke down and said, oh, I didn't want to talk to you about all these girls and blah, 0.85
00:00:49.480 all these men, sorry, blah, blah, blah.
00:00:51.040 And for me, that was the end of it.
00:00:53.040 Why do women say body count doesn't matter if they don't want to tell you what it is? 1.00
00:00:56.700 Exactly.
00:00:57.100 It does matter.
00:00:57.800 As far as I'm concerned, it does matter.
00:00:59.680 A woman wouldn't tell you, I've slept with 8,000 men and I still want to be with you.
00:01:06.160 She won't say that at all.
00:01:07.600 A woman will keep it at a certain level. 1.00
00:01:09.460 Like, I understand what you're saying about it doesn't matter, it shouldn't matter, etc.
00:01:12.740 But when push comes to shove, if you get the ideal man in front of you,
00:01:16.040 you're not going to tell him, I've slept with 800 men.
00:01:20.480 You're not going to do that.
00:01:21.180 There is no woman on this earth that's actually going to do that. 0.99
00:01:23.980 You're going to downplay it or you're going to gaslight, like you were saying before,
00:01:27.360 and you're going to say, actually, do you know why you're asking me these questions?
00:01:30.140 It's the modern day era.
00:01:31.500 You shouldn't ask me this.
00:01:32.420 That's what I think is going to happen.
00:01:33.820 There's actually something we say that's kind of funny.
00:01:36.080 I'm like, there is a kind of girl that will lie about her number and lie up, and that's a whale. 1.00
00:01:43.400 And it's sad.
00:01:44.500 Why are you nodding now?
00:01:48.460 You're a mystery flip-flopper on the couch.
00:01:52.720 Like, me personally, I think, like, because me, I've broke it off one time with a girl,
00:02:01.280 but it was mainly, it wasn't even the body count.
00:02:04.060 Like, I knew it was high-ish, but it's like doing something with someone I know, I think.
00:02:12.100 Who was it?
00:02:14.000 It wasn't like a, it was a friend, but he's not like one of the brothers,
00:02:18.340 but it's like a friend, like I know him.
00:02:20.160 But it's more like you've done stuff for him, and I don't think I can be with you after that.
00:02:26.540 Like, I know what he's like as a person, you know what I mean?
00:02:28.640 You're eating the same hole.
00:02:30.540 You're sharing the hole.
00:02:32.900 Is he kind of like a player, the guy?
00:02:34.680 Yeah, he's more like a player.
00:02:36.040 Like, I know him from being a player, you know what I mean?
00:02:38.020 But it's like you've been with him.
00:02:40.400 I mean, like, for me, my, like, standards, I think that's where, like, standards comes in.
00:02:45.000 Like, you've been with that guy, and now I'm with you.
00:02:47.780 Like, I'm more like, what's going on?
00:02:49.640 You know what I mean?
00:02:50.240 But I think that was one of my, like... 0.98
00:02:52.200 Was he kind of a loser?
00:02:53.120 Like, was it because he was more high status than you or less high status? 0.97
00:02:56.500 I think it was because he was less.
00:02:57.980 Okay.
00:02:58.980 So if you thought he was a quality guy, would it have been different?
00:03:03.200 I wouldn't think it would have been different, but just because I know him,
00:03:08.040 I think that makes a big difference.
00:03:10.460 If I didn't know the person, then probably, like, I would have been like,
00:03:13.680 okay, fair enough, that can slide.
00:03:15.140 I don't know.
00:03:15.440 Oh, but because you knew him?
00:03:16.580 Just because I know him personally, it's like, that guy, really.
00:03:20.000 You know what I mean?
00:03:20.580 What about you?
00:03:21.460 Have you ever stopped speaking to a woman because of some things she did before?
00:03:25.440 No, that never happened to me.
00:03:27.120 I only had one girl, which was, like, secondary, so it wasn't a proper relationship.
00:03:32.040 That's about it.
00:03:32.980 Okay.
00:03:33.360 Yeah.
00:03:33.640 Did you have any other girls that happened to you or the one?
00:03:37.520 Yeah, I just learned to recognize, it's like, you just learned to recognize the sign quicker.
00:03:40.700 But, you know, as a man, when I was single, it doesn't mean that I disqualified her from sex.
00:03:44.280 It just means that's what it was and that's all it was.
00:03:47.700 What signs for guys that are watching this, like, what signs should they look out for?
00:03:52.220 Man, that's a, I mean, I'm going to, yeah, tattoos would be a pretty big sign.
00:03:57.160 Just any, like, I'll tell you why tattoos are a big sign.
00:03:59.200 You might say, well, that's not nice because I have tattoos.
00:04:00.840 I'll tell you why it's a big sign because if you had a good relationship with your dad,
00:04:03.660 he would not let you get tattoos when you were 18.
00:04:05.780 No.
00:04:05.940 That's what it means.
00:04:06.800 That's what, that's why I don't have tattoos.
00:04:09.360 Right?
00:04:09.640 Yeah.
00:04:09.880 Because, like, that's literally, it's like, it just tells me you don't have a good relationship
00:04:12.360 with your dad, which it doesn't mean for everybody, but it raises those numbers.
00:04:15.240 There's, there's obviously, the thing about social intelligence, it's very hard to describe it
00:04:19.760 because it's so nuanced, like, and you really have to sort of conflate a big number of variables
00:04:26.000 all into one, and that's what comprises, like, the social intelligence thing.
00:04:28.880 So it's hard to say, like, oh, because of this and this and this and that.
00:04:32.140 But there's definitely signs, and when you know, you know.
00:04:34.780 But it's like the dad thing, or like, what if she didn't have a dad?
00:04:39.240 Not our fault, he goes to the shop and don't come back.
00:04:41.680 You know what I mean?
00:04:42.080 Like, what if she didn't have a dad?
00:04:43.100 Like, how would you look at it?
00:04:43.800 Well, that also tells me, of course, look, I'm not saying it's her fault.
00:04:46.640 It's still her responsibility.
00:04:47.580 There, I understand it's not her fault, but it is her responsibility.
00:04:50.240 And it may be like, well, I was young, whatever.
00:04:51.960 Okay, fine.
00:04:52.380 I'm not responsible for that, thank you.
00:04:53.900 I'm not.
00:04:54.740 You are now.
00:04:55.700 You are now.
00:04:56.980 You are responsible for your life choices.
00:04:57.560 You are responsible for your life choices.
00:04:58.320 Yeah, of course, but I'm not responsible for walking out.
00:05:00.820 I know, you're not responsible for that.
00:05:02.380 But even when I hear you talk, like, you sort of blame it on everyone else but you.
00:05:06.040 Like, you kind of, you kind of blame, like, your situation and, like, this is, like,
00:05:09.760 like, instead of, it's my life choices.
00:05:13.020 Who have I blamed?
00:05:14.140 Um, it was just earlier when you were saying it's because of, like, this or because of
00:05:18.340 that.
00:05:18.680 No, it adds to it.
00:05:20.020 My, my, my, my child and stuff, it's kind of moulded me into a bit of a mess.
00:05:25.000 And I'll admit that.
00:05:25.920 I think she means, like, if you, if you get, like, a young guy who doesn't have his dad there,
00:05:29.520 some of those guys end up, like, alcoholics in prison and some of them end up, like,
00:05:33.000 amazing dads.
00:05:34.300 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:34.760 So, like, you can come from the same background and have two different, completely different,
00:05:38.020 and that's choices.
00:05:39.900 Definitely is life choices.
00:05:41.040 I came from.
00:05:41.380 Not getting at you, but that's just what she means.
00:05:43.420 I came from a life which was, if I put, like I said, I put it on camera before and what,
00:05:49.580 the reaction from people.
00:05:50.680 I came from a life that was an absolute mess.
00:05:53.260 And I chose not to go down a certain path.
00:05:55.400 Like, I didn't want to be, like, the man that brought me into this world.
00:05:58.420 And I didn't want to be and let my mom down, even though my mom, I haven't seen her for
00:06:02.820 13 years because she's schizophrenic.
00:06:04.640 So, I decide I'm not going to prison.
00:06:06.660 So, I have no remorse for people when they say, oh, well, this happened.
00:06:10.980 So, therefore, I've become this.
00:06:12.520 I've got no remorse for that because you don't have to.
00:06:14.460 One of the best women I know came from a single parent home and she was abused as a 1.00
00:06:18.740 kid.
00:06:19.040 And she's, like, genuinely one of the best women I know because she, like, went to the
00:06:21.800 church and she sought after, like, women she could look up to.
00:06:24.640 And she ended up getting married and having a family.
00:06:26.660 But it's, like, you can be from the same situation and have completely different
00:06:30.320 life outcomes.
00:06:31.580 And that's what he's saying.
00:06:32.640 He's saying, like, it's your responsibility what you do with your life.
00:06:34.960 It's your responsibility, but not everyone's strong.
00:06:37.700 Like, not everyone has that mindset.
00:06:40.440 Some people are actually weak.
00:06:41.880 And I'll admit it, I've had times in my life where I've felt so weak.
00:06:44.540 I don't want to be anymore.
00:06:45.240 But why would a guy want to be with a girl that's weak? 0.99
00:06:47.840 Well, don't be with me.
00:06:48.760 No, I'm not.
00:06:49.800 But I'm saying that's his point.
00:06:51.340 Yeah, yeah, okay.
00:06:52.060 Cool, cool, cool.
00:06:52.580 When he's speaking to men, like, a lot of men watch this show.
00:06:55.540 So it's, like, these are the signs.
00:06:56.960 And it's not, even for women, like, honestly, like, I think it's better to date people from 0.95
00:07:02.140 two-parent homes if you can.
00:07:03.400 Yeah, no, definitely, definitely, definitely.
00:07:05.340 Because it's easier when you've had a model, like, something you look up to.
00:07:08.520 Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely.
00:07:09.060 There is a way.
00:07:09.640 So I've spent a significant amount of my time in my youth thinking about this because I
00:07:14.440 realized I was a really bad judge of character of women.
00:07:17.000 Because when I was, like, young, like, coming out of high school, going to college and stuff,
00:07:19.680 I remember the girls I was falling for and trying to be in relationships with, they just
00:07:23.780 were horrible people.
00:07:25.360 And I thank the good Lord above every day that I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted
00:07:30.700 it at 20.
00:07:31.280 Because if I had gotten what I wanted, I would have signed up for a life of massive regret.
00:07:34.400 And you see a lot of those guys, they get married young, and then they just get
00:07:37.380 wiped out, right?
00:07:38.840 And sometimes, you know, I'll go on the show, and then guys will comment, like, that guy
00:07:41.960 is going to get what's coming to him, blah, blah, blah.
00:07:44.360 It's like, no, and I'll tell you why not.
00:07:46.260 Here's, if you're a guy, here's how you can tell what a girl is like, okay?
00:07:50.400 Make it your mission to go out in your early 20s and just sleep with as many girls as you 0.99
00:07:55.400 can.
00:07:55.780 And you might say, that's horrible advice.
00:07:57.040 No, that's great advice.
00:07:58.300 Because what you're going to learn, first of all, you're going to learn about the nature
00:08:01.280 of women.
00:08:02.440 And I'm not saying do that for your whole life.
00:08:04.140 Like, eventually, you will grow up.
00:08:05.400 Eventually, you will want to pursue a higher purpose.
00:08:09.200 But in order to pursue that higher purpose valiantly, you have to understand the game
00:08:14.100 you're playing.
00:08:14.700 And you don't understand the game you're playing if you've been with one or two girls.
00:08:17.980 And you might say, that's bad advice.
00:08:19.360 No, that's exactly the advice I'll give my sons.
00:08:20.860 Now, I'll give my daughters the opposite advice.
00:08:22.880 If you want to know about the seriousness of men, don't put out with them.
00:08:26.740 Then you'll absolutely learn what men are really after.
00:08:29.120 But if you want to learn what women are after, go out as a man. 0.96
00:08:31.680 Remember, it's not your job to protect the sexual marketplace as a man.
00:08:34.480 And it's the woman's job to protect. 1.00
00:08:36.220 She's the guardian to that.
00:08:37.680 You're the guardian to relationships.
00:08:38.960 You want to get socially intelligent?
00:08:40.820 Do it lots of times.