JustPearlyThings - June 11, 2023


She Claims That Good Looking Guys Are Boring


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14 minutes

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships and how to deal with it. We also talk about why women are more attracted to looks than personality and why men are more likely to remarry than women. We are joined by our good friend and friend of the show, to talk about it all.

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00:00:00.000 Support, if you want to leave your cheating boyfriend, go ahead.
00:00:02.360 Yeah, yeah, 100%.
00:00:03.560 It's your choice.
00:00:04.440 My thing is once you have the children and you take the vows, it's not...
00:00:08.660 It affects the children.
00:00:09.560 So what about if you're married and you don't have kids and he's cheating?
00:00:12.900 I think the goal should be to work through it.
00:00:15.880 I think that a lot of women leave thinking they're going to do better. 1.00
00:00:19.540 And a lot of times they end up alone.
00:00:22.240 I get this especially from like women will tell me like their moms, 0.99
00:00:26.040 how they left their dads or something.
00:00:27.520 And then it's like the dad remarries, the mom does it.
00:00:30.820 Is that a better situation?
00:00:32.660 Do you know what?
00:00:33.200 Yeah, I can speak on that because with my parents, it was the same kind of scenario.
00:00:39.400 I think it's more so of the man that ends up alone.
00:00:43.480 Because you got to understand if they've messed up a good woman, 0.99
00:00:46.980 it's hard to get another good woman the way that they had it in some aspects.
00:00:52.360 And I've seen it.
00:00:53.620 Do you know what I mean?
00:00:54.000 So like I said, when we touch base again on women can have options. 1.00
00:00:59.960 Not a lot of men can.
00:01:01.600 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:02.180 So it's a lot harder for a man sometimes to find a good woman.
00:01:06.380 And if you've got a good woman and you're cheating on her,
00:01:08.560 and now you want to settle down because you come to an age or you feel lonely,
00:01:13.680 you know, it's a lot harder.
00:01:15.880 I'll be honest.
00:01:16.820 So you know what's interesting though?
00:01:18.360 The numbers will tell you like differently because under the age of like 35 or something,
00:01:23.580 it's like 75% of women are in relationships. 1.00
00:01:28.460 But it switches when men are over like 55 or something.
00:01:32.880 Really?
00:01:33.540 So yeah.
00:01:34.060 So like men will remarry more likely than women. 0.94
00:01:38.880 I have a question.
00:01:40.500 I guess I am.
00:01:41.680 Do women go for looks more than personality? 1.00
00:01:45.640 No.
00:01:46.900 Say again?
00:01:47.480 Well, actually, most of them, but I think that's what I was saying about using eyes.
00:01:51.600 Let's be honest now.
00:01:52.160 Let's be honest now.
00:01:52.900 I'm being personally no.
00:01:54.320 But no, what, what?
00:01:55.340 I would go for personality overload.
00:01:57.500 Obviously, you have to be attracted to them in some way.
00:02:01.340 Can we put a face to it?
00:02:04.020 Thank you.
00:02:05.020 I feel like I can.
00:02:07.020 I'm ready for this.
00:02:08.900 Can you give me two men, a side-by-side?
00:02:12.540 Thank you.
00:02:13.260 But we don't know them.
00:02:15.300 Come on.
00:02:15.760 No, but we can just say one is funny and one is a square, right?
00:02:20.700 I think, sorry, it is like looks bring you in and then personality keeps you.
00:02:24.740 I think both sides.
00:02:25.780 So then looks.
00:02:27.720 So then it's the looks that's first.
00:02:29.820 Because you can't, you know what I mean?
00:02:31.420 You know what I mean?
00:02:32.120 You can't be attracted to personality.
00:02:33.600 Say for instance, you have a friend, right?
00:02:34.820 And you've got to know them over a certain amount of time.
00:02:38.120 Yeah.
00:02:38.560 You didn't necessarily find them attractive at first, but because you spent so much time
00:02:41.640 with them and then they're like, you're batted to the bench and all this kind of stuff.
00:02:47.660 And then that's what you see when you say a guy is he's cute.
00:02:50.420 Right.
00:02:51.420 Yeah, but most good-looking guys are boring.
00:02:56.040 They don't have personality.
00:02:56.520 I don't know who you're talking to.
00:03:06.040 I'd rather, yeah.
00:03:08.120 But you're right.
00:03:08.900 Like if there's someone that you work with, like someone that you're in their proximity,
00:03:12.700 it can grow.
00:03:14.540 It can.
00:03:15.340 But then at the same time, it's looks.
00:03:17.200 You're going to look at somebody first time and be like, oh, this guy or this girl looks
00:03:20.660 good.
00:03:21.220 Yeah, of course.
00:03:21.520 Let me know a bit more about that person.
00:03:23.300 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:24.460 Yeah.
00:03:25.040 I got to be honest.
00:03:27.960 Looks first.
00:03:28.940 It has to be.
00:03:29.960 Come on.
00:03:30.580 I feel like if you make it like personality first, you're just not as attractive.
00:03:35.480 Come on.
00:03:36.380 You're just going to friend zone that person, right?
00:03:38.500 In what context are we actually talking about?
00:03:42.300 If a good-looking guy comes up to me and you've got the pictures.
00:03:45.820 Okay.
00:03:47.440 All right.
00:03:48.100 Yeah, let's go.
00:03:48.720 Let's go.
00:03:49.460 Let's go.
00:03:50.080 All right.
00:03:50.940 He's got brilliant personality though.
00:03:52.980 Yeah.
00:03:53.360 Yeah.
00:03:53.680 Yeah.
00:03:53.960 100%.
00:03:54.520 And he is a dog.
00:03:56.000 This does not work through photos.
00:03:59.140 This is literally, you get to know someone.
00:04:01.340 No, no.
00:04:01.880 Be real.
00:04:02.200 Is this who we would pick?
00:04:03.180 That's two amazing photos.
00:04:04.020 All right.
00:04:04.320 So, you know, he's got great personality and he's a dog.
00:04:07.940 Yeah.
00:04:08.760 So, what are you looking at?
00:04:10.660 Are you looking at the personality then?
00:04:12.480 No, it's deeper than that.
00:04:14.160 I'm not talking about watching someone on the TV and you're like, oh, yeah.
00:04:17.800 Are we delusional here now?
00:04:19.200 I don't know if it's about you connecting with that person.
00:04:22.940 Delusional.
00:04:23.940 If it's about you connecting with that person, it's got nothing to do with whether they're
00:04:27.640 a comedian or not.
00:04:27.900 So, what would you go for?
00:04:29.220 This guy on the left's personality, like, I'm really sorry.
00:04:30.940 I don't know.
00:04:31.460 I don't even know.
00:04:32.100 But you know what, yeah?
00:04:33.160 Are we choosing?
00:04:34.180 I'll be honest.
00:04:34.740 One guy's a comedian and the other guy's obviously awesome.
00:04:36.180 Yeah, but forget that, yeah?
00:04:37.520 I'll be very honest, though.
00:04:39.040 There's been a lot of relationships that I've seen that, yeah, they're with that person
00:04:43.080 based on personality.
00:04:44.060 And sometimes I wonder how.
00:04:45.800 It's a beautiful thing because it's like, you know, you two connect energy-wise and whatever.
00:04:49.380 It is a beautiful thing.
00:04:50.600 But then I kind of feel like, well, where does it go?
00:04:55.600 How does a, you know, how did you attract that person?
00:04:59.020 You said it could be a friend, but let's say it wasn't a friend.
00:05:01.180 Let's say that I'm approaching you.
00:05:02.440 Let's say I'm approaching you now.
00:05:04.060 Hi, how are you?
00:05:06.160 You're going to look at me before I speak.
00:05:08.500 That's what I'm saying.
00:05:09.040 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:09.460 There has to be some sort of attraction.
00:05:11.320 There has to be some sort of attraction.
00:05:12.440 So then looks has to play a big part.
00:05:14.140 But that's only if you're not in their proximity.
00:05:15.960 Yeah, I agree with you.
00:05:16.940 If you don't know the person, looks bring you in.
00:05:18.580 But if you're choosing someone with them or something.
00:05:22.840 I have a theory with that.
00:05:24.580 I'm one of the ladies. 0.78
00:05:25.700 You tell me if this is true.
00:05:27.000 Oh, cool.
00:05:27.740 So there's immediate yes.
00:05:29.140 You see him, immediate yes.
00:05:30.680 Yeah.
00:05:30.960 Yeah, that's my type.
00:05:32.500 Immediate no.
00:05:33.520 There's nothing the guy in the no category could ever do to become a yes.
00:05:37.200 Yeah.
00:05:37.360 And then there's the maybes.
00:05:39.200 Okay.
00:05:39.780 So the maybes are like, depending on what he says, he could be a yes or a no.
00:05:47.240 Some girls see men and they're like, oh, I have to get this. 0.78
00:05:50.400 Yeah.
00:05:51.060 I have to get this.
00:05:52.160 Yeah, but I've...
00:05:53.500 He's cute.
00:05:54.040 He's mine tonight.
00:05:54.880 Come on.
00:05:55.500 Girls speak like that. 1.00
00:05:56.440 I don't have one night stand.
00:05:58.500 So not his mind tonight.
00:05:59.740 I'm just saying like, there's a lot of feelings.
00:06:02.220 I wouldn't want someone that's really, really, really attractive.
00:06:06.140 Why not?
00:06:06.600 I just wouldn't.
00:06:07.760 Doesn't that make you tingle?
00:06:09.040 Like, ooh, look at this.
00:06:10.560 I have a theory on this, too.
00:06:13.140 I have a theory.
00:06:14.360 You know what I mean?
00:06:15.120 I feel like when women say this, when women in general, not saying you, but it's because
00:06:21.580 they don't want to compete for that guy.
00:06:23.560 It's like they would have to do too much.
00:06:26.220 The girls are throwing themselves at him.
00:06:29.680 It's just like, we don't need that trouble in our lives.
00:06:32.800 You don't see a guy in the night and be like, oh, I wonder what his personality is like.
00:06:36.640 Never.
00:06:38.320 Yeah, but a lot of girls don't give that the good looking guy or any guy a chance to even 1.00
00:06:42.880 show personality.
00:06:44.080 So it's almost like, mate, everybody's at the same level.
00:06:47.280 You feel hard done by.
00:06:49.060 Everybody has been, isn't it?
00:06:50.740 You know what I'm saying?
00:06:51.700 You know, like, I haven't always been successful.
00:06:55.020 Let's be real.
00:06:55.740 Like, everybody's been shut down.
00:06:57.800 Like, I'm sure most women have too. 0.83
00:07:00.520 Like, it's not, you know.
00:07:02.080 But at the same time, it is a good question.
00:07:04.740 Because for me, like I said, I've seen relationships where, you know, how did I get together?
00:07:09.900 Like, she is a 10 and he's a minus 5.
00:07:13.080 It happens way more that way around as well, which is why I think women do go for personality 1.00
00:07:18.540 more than looks than men.
00:07:20.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:07:21.520 Well, also, women find 80% of men as unattractive.
00:07:25.440 Not okay.
00:07:26.560 Not he's all right.
00:07:27.260 Like, they think 80% of men are ugly.
00:07:29.820 Really?
00:07:30.240 How?
00:07:30.520 Why?
00:07:30.720 If they, you know, if they see 10 men and they say, do you find him attractive?
00:07:34.780 They say, no, I do not at all.
00:07:36.940 He's ugly to eight of them.
00:07:38.160 On what world?
00:07:39.080 I don't.
00:07:39.580 I don't.
00:07:40.040 In multiple studies.
00:07:41.400 So you could do, there are some studies where they just ask, they show them pictures and
00:07:45.960 the women, this is what the women say. 1.00
00:07:47.460 Or you can also look at dating app data where women only swipe right roughly 5% of the time.
00:07:52.560 So, where men, on the other hand, they swipe right 50% of the time.
00:07:59.100 We're like, our finger hurts.
00:08:01.560 Our finger hurts.
00:08:03.040 That's to do with the sex thing where we can choose who we sleep with, who we see. 0.98
00:08:09.320 Men can't as much.
00:08:10.860 So they're probably just like, they're probably not looking for a relationship when they're
00:08:14.080 clicking 50%.
00:08:15.140 Can I ask you a question?
00:08:15.940 Well, that's the number one way people are meeting today.
00:08:20.320 And you could argue that nowadays sex comes before relationships.
00:08:24.160 Thank you.
00:08:24.700 So in a way, the sex is where it starts.
00:08:29.240 Right.
00:08:29.700 I'm not happy with this world.
00:08:32.120 It's not a relationship.
00:08:33.040 So the question I want to ask here is, all right, cool.
00:08:36.080 So if, I don't know, you're going to have a one-night stand or if you had a one-night
00:08:41.600 stand or whatever, you're going to be attracted by his looks rather than his personality.
00:08:46.700 I don't have one-night stand.
00:08:47.600 No, no, but if you were the, do you know what I'm saying?
00:08:49.740 I'm not saying you have, or I'm not saying if you would, but I'm saying it would be the
00:08:53.600 looks, right?
00:08:54.160 I need to connect more than their looks.
00:08:56.200 That's why I don't have them because I wouldn't even want to.
00:08:58.860 Even if I thought they were really attractive, I'd be like, I don't feel connected to you.
00:09:04.500 Fair enough.
00:09:04.900 It's just not, you know, it is deeper women though, isn't it? 0.98
00:09:07.160 It is deeper.
00:09:07.960 I can't understand.
00:09:08.980 I can't understand that.
00:09:10.000 I think it's just the people that's here because we're going to have other women who 0.94
00:09:13.960 would see it differently.
00:09:15.400 As a man, would you be a woman based on personality? 0.57
00:09:20.140 100%.
00:09:20.580 Everything.
00:09:21.460 She ticks, but she's not like your type. 0.98
00:09:24.620 I'm not saying she's ugly. 0.97
00:09:25.880 She's just not your type. 1.00
00:09:26.400 I'll tell you the truth here.
00:09:26.760 There's times like I've approached a girl, well, before my relationship, of course.
00:09:32.160 And get that in there. 0.91
00:09:34.900 Not now though, not now.
00:09:37.120 You're looking all pretty and that, but then when I walk up to you and you open your mouth,
00:09:41.620 I'm like, no.
00:09:44.900 As soon as you open my mouth, I'm like, no.
00:09:46.840 Would you agree she has to be over a certain baseline though?
00:09:50.040 You ain't dating no girl that's like 300 pounds? 0.98
00:09:53.860 No.
00:09:54.100 Yeah, yeah.
00:09:55.300 You know you don't agree?
00:09:56.980 Or yes, you would date 300 pounds.
00:09:59.400 You dating her?
00:10:00.140 No.
00:10:00.560 Okay.
00:10:01.080 Yeah.
00:10:01.220 Each said around no.
00:10:01.980 So there has to be like a basic level of attracting.
00:10:03.620 Yeah, I was just going to say that.
00:10:03.940 That's just my preference.
00:10:05.540 Yeah.
00:10:05.980 Exactly.
00:10:06.440 And everybody has their own types.
00:10:07.200 Everybody has their own preference.
00:10:08.580 Some guys only like bigger women. 1.00
00:10:10.700 Now, is that in stone?
00:10:12.040 Yeah.
00:10:12.400 No.
00:10:12.840 There's men that like big women. 0.97
00:10:13.920 I think it's a cultural thing as well.
00:10:16.560 Okay.
00:10:17.040 Caribbean, African men.
00:10:18.380 I'm going to break this down.
00:10:22.540 All right.
00:10:22.900 So if men really liked bigger women, right?
00:10:27.500 If that was really their type, why is it when men have all the options to sleep with whoever 0.90
00:10:33.600 they want, money, status, looks, who do they pick? 0.92
00:10:38.260 A slim one.
00:10:39.100 A slim woman. 1.00
00:10:40.400 A slim woman. 1.00
00:10:41.240 I'm just going, I'm not going from statistics.
00:10:44.000 I'm going from real life and experience and being around.
00:10:46.860 No, this is real life.
00:10:47.640 Look at, look at.
00:10:48.380 Look at this.
00:10:50.920 No, but I'm saying the guys that like bigger women, they usually don't have options. 1.00
00:10:54.900 That's true.
00:10:56.640 Hey, that is facts.
00:10:58.600 Yeah.
00:10:59.320 That is facts.
00:11:00.300 That's the real thing.
00:11:01.880 It's like the men that are like, oh, I'm not picky.
00:11:05.040 Well, you can't be.
00:11:07.020 No, I can't lie.
00:11:09.200 She put a n in that. 0.95
00:11:10.540 Well, what is 300 pounds in stone?
00:11:12.660 Oh, I just want to check because are we talking about, obviously, curvy girls are appreciated,
00:11:17.200 but if it's big, big, then yeah.
00:11:21.280 Well, but also there is still guys that like it, but I don't think they're in the minority.
00:11:25.320 21 stone.
00:11:27.480 Yeah, I think they're in the minority.
00:11:28.980 That's 300 pounds.
00:11:32.700 Yeah, that's a lot.
00:11:33.480 21 stone.
00:11:34.480 Yeah.
00:11:35.480 Yeah.
00:11:35.980 Yeah.
00:11:36.480 That's like, here, show, oh, Blessing's got a mint.
00:11:38.980 21.
00:11:39.980 Pintishes and stuff, didn't they?
00:11:40.980 Yeah, I was about to say that.
00:11:41.980 I was about to say that.
00:11:42.980 Yeah.
00:11:43.980 You've got feeders and all this kind of stuff.
00:11:44.980 Oh.
00:11:45.980 Whoa.
00:11:46.480 Guys, probably a small percentage, but there are like feeders and they love fattening their
00:11:50.720 women up.
00:11:51.600 But see, this is, this is the problem right here.
00:11:54.340 That's not.
00:11:54.940 You're, you're the problem a little bit.
00:11:56.840 Who, me?
00:11:57.300 Respectfully.
00:11:57.680 Yeah, because, okay, because it's like, you keep saying, yeah, yeah, because this is how
00:12:01.060 we live in this delusion.
00:12:01.840 You're the problem, babe.
00:12:02.600 Yeah, respectfully.
00:12:03.320 Because we keep living, we keep living in this clown world of delusion because we keep
00:12:08.520 telling women, oh, there's some guys that like that, da, da, da, da, da.
00:12:12.720 You don't look like that.
00:12:14.240 You know if you looked like that, no guys would be lining up.
00:12:17.080 You're, you're beautiful.
00:12:18.100 So it's like, so it's like, you're, you're going to have these outcomes.
00:12:21.460 And if I said, you look like her, you would be offended. 0.87
00:12:24.900 I mean.
00:12:25.840 I mean.
00:12:27.600 You would be so offended.
00:12:28.920 I mean, I wouldn't be offended because I know I don't look like that.
00:12:31.380 Imagine, imagine you got cheated on with her.
00:12:35.080 I'd be like, you can have him.
00:12:36.660 The thing is, I do, I do have a couple of like beautiful friends that, that do weigh a
00:12:42.660 lot and their personality is unbelievable.
00:12:44.460 Can I see?
00:12:45.100 Can I see them?
00:12:46.420 I want to see if they're, I won't show the screen.
00:12:48.480 I just want to see like between me and you, you have your phone.
00:12:51.500 No, I just don't think, I don't think that's fair.
00:12:54.840 I'll show you after.
00:12:55.940 Honestly, like she has the most beautiful face like ever and she does have curves as well 1.00
00:13:01.480 as being overweight.
00:13:02.180 So there will, there's definitely guys that will like it.
00:13:04.140 And her personality is, it's one of the best personalities I've ever met.
00:13:06.960 So I do think she's still attractive and she should be, but I think she's an, she's 1.00
00:13:11.500 probably an exception.
00:13:12.180 Yeah.
00:13:12.320 And also like my, my sister is, is a larger lady and she's beautiful. 1.00
00:13:18.420 She's stunning.
00:13:18.880 Can I see?
00:13:19.400 She's, you can see a picture of her.
00:13:21.140 She's absolutely stunning.
00:13:22.380 Because a lot of times we use these words and when I see stunning, I see like eights,
00:13:27.440 sevens to tens.
00:13:28.700 That's like stunning for me.
00:13:30.080 Let me find a picture.
00:13:30.840 I use a boost in other three now.
00:13:32.400 So I feel at that specific weight.
00:13:35.820 I won't show it on the camera.
00:13:37.500 I, I, I would, I would help my woman to get fit and healthy.
00:13:42.600 That's quite cool.
00:13:43.260 So if you really liked her personality, you'd just get her in the gym. 0.99
00:13:46.460 But she wouldn't get in the door, she couldn't fit. 0.98
00:13:49.880 300.
00:13:50.260 That's what I was going to say, like, oh no, it's not a specific weight because 300 pounds
00:13:54.780 is like, to get this.
00:13:56.720 This is the most recent picture of it.
00:13:58.120 It's only her face, but.
00:13:59.400 Yeah.
00:13:59.600 She's beautiful.
00:14:00.460 Did I meet her?
00:14:00.860 She is.
00:14:01.240 I'm going to see her at the show.
00:14:03.420 She's cute, but like I can see she's fat. 1.00
00:14:06.400 Yeah, she's, she's chugging. 1.00
00:14:07.940 Yeah, okay.
00:14:08.440 Okay, so she's, she's gay. 0.96
00:14:10.560 When, when she, um, was younger, she did date guys.
00:14:14.260 When I mean the, when we go out, I'm not even seen.
00:14:18.720 Mm-mm.
00:14:19.840 Like she's got a big.
00:14:22.220 Bunda.
00:14:23.440 Yeah.
00:14:24.660 And like she gets harassed by guys, literally, like it's unreal.
00:14:29.500 And that's why I say.
00:14:30.280 Actually, blessing, I think this would be really great to go into our next topic.
00:14:34.260 Oh, gosh.
00:14:34.760 Can you pull up the one that says, let me find it.
00:14:40.320 I like these topics.
00:14:41.000 Um, there's a zero percent, the Isabella Riley Moody one.
00:14:45.720 Sorry, go ahead.
00:14:46.740 Just at one point, can we go back to like the mental health and well-being of parents in
00:14:52.300 the marriage, but not now, but like whenever.