JustPearlyThings - She Cried After Listening To This Feminist

00:00:00.000 I actually decided just now that we were going to react to the 200k engagement ring

00:00:05.420 because I was like, I was like, that's a great, I didn't even think about doing this one.

00:00:12.120 Oh, I think, I think their mics are muted-ish.

00:00:17.840 Yeah, yeah, okay.

00:00:20.140 Yeah, basically to give you guys the backstory of what happened that day.

00:00:24.120 So, this girl, I met, I was in LA for a couple months, like, last year,

00:00:30.720 and I met her because she was in, like, the, she kind of talked about, like, feminine,

00:00:37.800 like, have you ever seen those, like, feminine dating coaches, but they're not, like, feminine at all? 0.99

00:00:42.980 But I didn't know that until I met her because it was, like, TikTok.

00:00:45.700 So, I was just like, oh, I'm kind of starting to look at red pill, so let me just go meet up with her.

00:00:50.340 Did, like, a reaction with her to Kevin Samuels.

00:00:53.260 It's funny, everyone loved her in the Kevin Samuels reaction I did with her because she was open.

00:00:57.920 Oh, she also was open to letting her man cheat.

00:01:00.100 She was, yeah.

00:01:00.900 Oh, it's not cheating.

00:01:02.200 That's not cheating.

00:01:02.940 Oh, sorry, sorry.

00:01:03.940 It's marriage.

00:01:04.500 You don't made a distinction.

00:01:05.720 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:01:06.260 You're right, you're right, you're right.

00:01:07.660 I'm sorry.

00:01:08.440 But, like, letting him step out.

00:01:10.060 Okay.

00:01:10.680 And so, they loved her there.

00:01:13.740 Now, no, no, it wasn't that one-ish. 0.97

00:01:16.380 Oh, I added the new one in the Google Doc.

00:01:19.680 So, if you just want to pull it up, if you bring the Google Doc up.

00:01:23.260 But, basically, yeah, I had her.

00:01:27.920 So, I was doing a Zoom call.

00:01:30.320 Or, not a Zoom call.

00:01:30.960 It was, like, an Instagram Live where people could join.

00:01:32.780 I was new to Instagram Live.

00:01:34.160 So, this was an exciting time in my life.

00:01:36.760 And she starts telling me about her, like, dating.

00:01:41.820 And I, personally, I look for guys with a job, you know.

00:01:49.020 But, I didn't realize how high, like, women's standards can go at times. 1.00

00:01:54.580 So, I was very much, like, shocked at this.

00:01:59.800 But, let's see.

00:02:00.760 You got it pulled up.

00:02:01.660 No, that's the same one-ish.

00:02:02.780 It's the second one.

00:02:03.860 YouTube.

00:02:04.180 The second one.

00:02:06.440 Yeah.

00:02:08.440 It's the second one.

00:02:10.000 No, that's the third one.

00:02:11.040 The second one.

00:02:11.780 Yeah, there.

00:02:13.320 Okay.

00:02:14.380 And then just make it full screen.

00:02:16.340 It's on the screen, right?

00:02:17.520 Okay.

00:02:17.680 And then just start it from the beginning.

00:02:30.280 So, is her dating coach masculine?

00:02:33.820 Oh, her dating coach actually seemed kind of feminine. 0.99

00:02:37.520 But, I just think, like, she's, have you ever heard of the book, Why Men Love Bitches? 1.00

00:02:43.460 No.

00:02:44.320 That's, like, every feminine, like, dating coach's, like, playbook. 0.82

00:02:47.420 It's, like, raise your standards while you have less to offer.

00:02:50.380 Like, if I was to advise, I'd say put yourself on sale a little bit.

00:02:53.740 Like, because you have less than ever to give.

00:02:57.200 You know?

00:02:57.740 That's what I would say.

00:02:59.580 But, it'll be, like, make your standards higher and higher.

00:03:02.700 And, that's been your problem the whole time.

00:03:04.300 Your standards were just too low.

00:03:06.700 But, it's, like, if Leonardo DiCaprio was at your door, then I'm sure you would have accepted that.

00:03:13.660 Like, the issue is what you offer.

00:03:16.080 That's, like, the buyers that are coming.

00:03:18.880 Just, if they're not good, that kind of says something about you.

00:03:21.480 Yeah, yeah.

00:03:22.260 You know?

00:03:22.620 That's what I would say.

00:03:23.760 But, Ish, is there a, you got it?

00:03:26.800 It's the one with a mouse.

00:03:29.620 Can you see it on the screen?

00:03:31.680 No.

00:03:32.040 So, you guys haven't seen it before?

00:03:37.800 No.

00:03:38.400 No.

00:03:38.800 No.

00:03:40.360 Do you want to just grab the other mouse, then?

00:03:43.080 I don't think my algorithm throws those other things.

00:03:46.820 I'm not interested.

00:03:47.880 This is kind of old.

00:03:48.920 Oh, it's working now.

00:04:05.560 Yeah, it's working.

00:04:13.700 How many years ago was this?

00:04:16.120 This was, like, a year ago, about.

00:04:18.420 I was a lot nicer then.

00:04:21.280 I'd like to say I was a lot more patient than I am now.

00:04:24.180 So, um, but, yeah, this is, back then, it's funny, because I re-watch it, and I'm, like,

00:04:36.260 I would have said so much more now.

00:04:39.260 But, I don't know.

00:04:41.260 And so it's 2020, man.

00:04:43.260 Yeah.

00:04:44.120 But I was, like, shocked, because I couldn't, I couldn't believe, like, this was real.

00:04:49.800 Like, I never heard of someone, like, I don't know, me and my friends back home, just, you

00:04:55.320 kind of just started dating someone in college, and they just, you know, and there was just

00:04:58.660 a normal guy from college, and that's who you'd end up dating for, like, three years,

00:05:02.020 and then you'd get married.

00:05:03.420 I feel like I know what she looks like before even seeing her, because people with them

00:05:07.180 opinions, they always look the same.

00:05:08.220 Oh, good guy for it.

00:05:10.320 Average looking.

00:05:11.840 The low power.

00:05:12.520 And she has to bring it above the video capture device.

00:05:15.300 That's why.

00:05:16.400 You have to bring, you have to push it up.

00:05:19.800 So, is this, like, a reaction, like, video of the wedding ring one?

00:05:27.660 No, I think she's speaking.

00:05:28.540 No, in the middle.

00:05:30.100 I think she's speaking live to parole.

00:05:46.180 Jess, this was just working for you, wasn't it?

00:05:48.660 Yeah.

00:05:49.800 So, it's one, but the class is a short answer.

00:05:52.900 It's not just one.

00:05:58.100 That's weird.

00:05:59.380 What's wrong with this one?

00:06:01.000 It was in the same time.

00:06:03.340 Okay.

00:06:04.660 So, I've got a question for you guys.

00:06:06.920 Right.

00:06:07.100 So, say, like, you know, getting married to multiple people became the norm.

00:06:14.420 How would, say, like, the guy gets divorced by multiple women, how would the assets be

00:06:20.520 divided, you know?

00:06:21.900 Like, you know, you know what I'm saying?

00:06:23.580 How would that work?

00:06:25.100 That would be interesting.

00:06:26.060 That depends if the country recognises if that's an actual marriage.

00:06:29.800 So, let's just say he's legally married to me.

00:06:32.840 Yeah.

00:06:33.160 And then he has, like, I don't know.

00:06:34.500 So, let's say it became the norm and it was all a legal thing.

00:06:37.700 Well, that's a new arena to explore.

00:06:39.840 Yeah, that would be really interesting, right?

00:06:41.400 Another thing is when you get a marriage certificate, like, you could cohabit.

00:06:46.700 I know, let's just say the cohabiting thing is quite recent, but a marriage certificate, it's

00:06:51.940 all lovey-dovey and woo and everything.

00:06:53.440 As soon as you want to get a divorce, the courts and everyone treat it as if you're

00:06:58.300 business partners and there is no feeling or anything involved, if that makes sense.

00:07:03.440 Yeah.

00:07:03.840 Would you be okay with getting married without, like, without the government?

00:07:07.280 Yeah.

00:07:07.880 Because you see all the time.

00:07:08.780 I prefer that.

00:07:10.300 Yeah.

00:07:10.720 Yeah, I feel like it would be much better if the government did not get involved.

00:07:14.920 It should not be a government contract.

00:07:16.820 Yeah.

00:07:17.420 No, because then they treat you as like you're just too...

00:07:20.260 Marriage sounds a lot like a merger.

00:07:22.140 Yeah, and I realized that once.

00:07:23.740 I was just like, oh my God, that's so true.

00:07:25.740 Yeah, until I started watching Red Pill.

00:07:28.460 Because when I first saw it, I was like, I'm very pro-marriage because my parents were

00:07:33.600 married and I saw the benefits.

00:07:36.140 They were able to build a business and do all this stuff.

00:07:38.200 And I was like, why would all these people so adamantly anti-marriage?

00:07:41.680 Until I started learning about it.

00:07:44.140 And I was like, when I found out that you could lose 25% of your income per kid.

00:07:49.720 That's just crazy.

00:07:50.500 That's the number one reason NBA players go broke.

00:07:52.860 I was like, well, if I hit it rich, I wouldn't want to get married.

00:07:57.620 So what happens if you have five kids?

00:08:00.220 I don't know.

00:08:00.820 I'm sure there's some, I don't know.

00:08:02.980 That's crazy.

00:08:03.660 I don't think people...

00:08:04.500 Interesting stuff though, right?

00:08:05.100 Yeah, I just know.

00:08:07.620 I just know that's what they said in the video about the child support in California.

00:08:11.660 Maybe it's like two is capped.

00:08:13.060 I don't know.

00:08:13.500 And then there's like punitive as well.

00:08:15.440 Like you're not even, let's just say you haven't been working for a while, but based

00:08:18.300 on your work history, they say this is how much you will be making, whether you like

00:08:22.020 it or not.

00:08:22.700 And that's the other crazy thing with Jesse Williams.

00:08:25.840 Oh, okay.

00:08:26.480 Did you hear about that?

00:08:27.840 No, I didn't.

00:08:28.280 So he wanted to switch careers.

00:08:31.000 So he did Grey's Anatomy.

00:08:33.660 He's my childhood crush.

00:08:35.220 Oh, that's so cute.

00:08:36.340 Shout out Jesse Williams.

00:08:38.080 That was...

00:08:39.020 He did Grey's Anatomy though.

00:08:41.900 He's like the pretty boy in Grey's Anatomy and he wanted to go into theater and he was

00:08:45.480 a multi...

00:08:45.960 Like he made a ton of money in Grey's Anatomy and then he went to theater.

00:08:48.700 But I guess you still have to pay the same child support even if you switch jobs.

00:08:52.900 So he had to go to court to get it switched.

00:08:55.860 But I guess like you probably know about this.

00:08:57.680 Like guys go broke in the process.

00:08:59.780 Yeah, absolutely.

00:09:00.240 He didn't...

00:09:00.740 He was a multi-millionaire, so he was fine.

00:09:02.860 But it's crazy that even like even a multi-millionaire, they took most of his income, like 5k per month

00:09:09.980 roughly.

00:09:11.260 Jesus.

00:09:11.900 It just seems like they're just being punished, punished, punished.

00:09:15.200 It's just...

00:09:15.700 And it's like even when they don't get married, they still get punished by living with her.

00:09:20.900 Yeah.

00:09:21.620 And then girls will say, oh, I'm afraid of being left high and dry.

00:09:25.020 But you're like...

00:09:25.820 Exactly.

00:09:26.240 He should be afraid you're going to leave and take half.

00:09:30.160 Isn't the most wealthy, most wealthy women due to like, the most wealthy due to divorce 1.00

00:09:37.100 in most cases?

00:09:38.800 Yeah.

00:09:39.380 I see that.

00:09:40.460 Wow.

00:09:41.400 That's like the most wealthy women on the planet. 1.00

00:09:43.940 It's because of divorce.

00:09:45.560 Yeah.

00:09:45.980 Which is like kind of nuts.

00:09:46.760 And it's interesting because then they can claim that they're self-made because they

00:09:49.820 can invest in a business and stuff like that.

00:09:52.380 It's like, I made my own money.

00:09:53.520 And then it's like their head.

00:09:55.920 Oh.

00:09:56.640 Yeah.

00:09:56.980 So you existed?

00:09:58.440 Oh, God.

00:09:59.440 I think like what's personally I find really sad is that basically people...

00:10:03.380 Oh.

00:10:03.460 Is that okay?

00:10:05.640 Yeah.

00:10:05.840 Yeah.

00:10:05.960 Yeah.

00:10:06.340 Yeah.

00:10:06.380 Yeah.

00:10:06.560 Yeah.

00:10:06.880 Yeah.

00:10:07.140 I think that's pretty good.

00:10:07.720 Is that like, this is supposed to be, you know, this is supposed to be a beautiful thing

00:10:15.940 coming and finding someone that you want to spend time with, that you feel comfortable

00:10:19.400 with together.

00:10:22.180 You know, this is the thing, like everyone has different flavors, right?

00:10:26.100 Some people, they do want to have multiple partners.

00:10:29.200 I've seen people with polygamous relationships and they're very healthy.

00:10:32.500 They just put everything up on the table and say, this is what we want.

00:10:36.200 Are we happy with that?

00:10:37.060 And if we're not, can we come back to the table and talk about it?

00:10:39.600 That's what you should do.

00:10:40.660 And I find that it's really sad that there's a lot of examples of people who basically come

00:10:45.920 in with, maybe like, I don't want to think this, but I know that some people go into it

00:10:52.800 with the intention of doing harm.

00:10:55.320 And I think that's so bad because then it damages many.

00:10:58.120 When you say people, are you specific to the gender though?

00:10:59.700 Because I think that's more from women than men. 0.96

00:11:04.040 Yeah.

00:11:04.900 Because there's more benefit for women. 1.00

00:11:06.480 I think men, we're just, we're just creatures where we look at things like, is it a fair

00:11:09.940 deal?

00:11:10.360 Like marriage to men does not seem like a fair deal. 0.67

00:11:12.520 Like you feel like the laws against you.

00:11:13.900 Do you, do you think the laws will ever get better for men?

00:11:17.300 They, in this country.

00:11:19.040 Is there a tide switching or do you think it's getting worse?

00:11:21.640 In this country?

00:11:22.580 Yeah.

00:11:22.820 Let's say in this country.

00:11:23.620 Man, it just got worse, I think.

00:11:25.600 Because in April of this year, they introduced no fault divorces.

00:11:29.520 I don't know if you were aware of that.

00:11:30.580 What does that mean?

00:11:31.060 What does that mean?

00:11:31.600 No fault divorces basically means that just to get a divorce, I don't need to state the

00:11:36.820 reason why I want to divorce.

00:11:38.280 For example, before no fault divorces, there's a fault divorce. 0.92

00:11:42.580 So I can only get a divorce if I can prove my, my husband or my wife was guilty of something,

00:11:48.740 which is like, he deserted me or she deserted me.

00:11:53.300 There was adultery or whatever abuse.

00:11:55.220 And now I don't have to give any reason whatsoever.

00:11:57.520 Whether my husband likes it or not, I can just go to the court and just be like, yeah,

00:12:00.200 I want to divorce.

00:12:00.960 And then they'll give it to you.

00:12:01.960 So the statistics are, what did you say?

00:12:04.220 Have you experienced a 15% man, right? 0.98

00:12:06.080 That initially in divorce.

00:12:07.700 Yes.

00:12:08.380 So, so the, so the law know that it's 85% women, 15% men, and you still, they're introducing

00:12:15.760 no fault divorce.

00:12:16.660 Guess, guess, guess who was championing no fault divorce? 0.88

00:12:19.380 Women. 0.81

00:12:19.920 Yeah, of course.

00:12:20.560 Yeah, of course.

00:12:21.280 It's easy peasy.

00:12:22.520 They're just, it's so sad, but, um, so I forgot what I was going to say.

00:12:26.700 So if they go through with that process, do they still get the same amount of money?

00:12:31.420 Exactly.

00:12:31.920 That's the thing.

00:12:32.360 They do?

00:12:32.740 No, no, no.

00:12:33.060 So what happens is if there's no fault, if you go for a no fault divorce, so it's like

00:12:37.880 you can get the divorce without, you know, if, if you committed adultery, that's the judge

00:12:43.240 will say that's none of my business and whatever.

00:12:44.900 But when it comes to dividing up assets, then your fault is actually brought up because then

00:12:49.520 it's like a contributing factor.

00:12:51.760 Then they, they're forced to look into that because now you're fighting over 50%, 50%.

00:12:57.060 It's crazy.

00:12:57.840 So it's like a, it's misleading.

00:12:59.320 Well, they don't talk about adultery.

00:13:01.020 Like if the girl, like 25% of marriages are sexless. 0.81

00:13:04.740 Yeah.

00:13:05.100 So if he cheats, like if you aren't sleeping with him, like what do you think he's doing?

00:13:09.880 But then, but then actually.

00:13:11.380 It's your own fault if you get cheated on and you're not having sex with him. 0.90

00:13:13.820 That is your own fault. 0.78

00:13:15.060 That is your own fault.

00:13:15.740 But the thing is, it's like if, if the court, if the courts doesn't, don't recognize that,

00:13:19.440 obviously women are going to use that to their advantage. 1.00

00:13:21.320 And it's, it's really sad.

00:13:22.700 It's like, how can the courts not recognize that sex is not, now it's not part of a marriage

00:13:27.400 When do we get to the point where we're just honest about the differences between men

00:13:31.920 and women in regards to, to put it bluntly, how horny men are compared to how horny women 0.84

00:13:37.700 are, how, how much we want to have sex compared to how much women are. 1.00

00:13:40.880 When do we get to the point where we're honest?

00:13:42.660 Because the courts are never going to be honest.

00:13:44.020 The government's never going to be honest.

00:13:45.080 Women can't seem to fathom the fact that we enjoy having sex more than. 1.00

00:13:49.400 I think it's just telling women straight that if you're insecure about him being

00:13:53.880 religious, it's okay.

00:13:55.560 If you're insecure, it's fine.

00:13:56.780 Right.

00:13:57.040 Like, I think women, like, I'm not insecure.

00:13:59.900 Like, just, the thing is, you're not trying to be insecure.

00:14:03.340 You're just insecure because of jealousy or whatever.

00:14:05.500 But if you see how it is actually a benefit, then there's nothing to be insecure about.

00:14:11.540 The problem is 90% of the, if you hold your phone up, you go on Instagram and scroll through,

00:14:14.880 women are telling you the complete opposite that, like, if he does this, go, if he does, 1.00

00:14:20.040 yeah, of course.

00:14:20.600 Because they're insecure, but they won't admit that they're insecure because who would do that?

00:14:24.460 Would, would your girl be open to that?

00:14:27.680 Hell no.

00:14:28.920 Hell no. 1.00

00:14:30.060 She'll kill me. 1.00

00:14:30.520 She'll watch it right now? 1.00

00:14:31.700 Probably. 1.00

00:14:32.480 She'll kick my ass. 1.00

00:14:33.760 Yeah. 1.00

00:14:33.980 Okay, we're going to, we're going to watch the video now.

00:14:38.080 So this goes back to, right?

00:14:41.420 You said you got it?

00:14:42.260 Okay.

00:14:44.880 And then start it from the beginning.

00:14:57.520 Yeah, there you go.

00:15:00.560 That sort of, sort of space.

00:15:02.300 But for my back, he's, he's immediately like, I want, let's celebrate.

00:15:05.880 Like, I want to take you out.

00:15:06.720 And I'm like, oh, how many, how many dates have you guys gone on?

00:15:11.160 One.

00:15:11.980 Okay.

00:15:12.340 Yeah, we went on one right before I left.

00:15:14.300 That was our first, first date.

00:15:16.360 Is it a date?

00:15:17.700 Go ahead.

00:15:18.100 Sorry.

00:15:18.560 So now we'll go, I guess, on a second one.

00:15:21.380 Okay.

00:15:22.660 But he's kind of short.

00:15:23.820 He's only like 5'9".

00:15:24.720 Oh, that's, you're, you're what, like 5'9", right?

00:15:28.140 I'm 5'8".

00:15:29.020 That's tall enough, right?

00:15:30.640 Not really.

00:15:31.740 Yeah.

00:15:32.140 I'm manifesting a tall man.

00:15:33.400 One of the other guys I'm talking to is 6'7".

00:15:35.720 Oh, wow.

00:15:37.460 Okay.

00:15:38.160 Yeah.

00:15:41.080 And we'll be going out soon.

00:15:42.580 It's just a matter of, like, scheduling.

00:15:44.360 We just haven't been able to, like, link on the schedules.

00:15:46.900 We both work a lot.

00:15:48.420 Mm-hmm.

00:15:49.780 Oh, okay.

00:15:50.220 There's another guy who I just made this whole TikTok about who was, like, all about me, 0.96

00:15:54.920 asking me out, calling me all these pet names, my love, and all this shit. 0.97

00:15:58.980 And then we're talking, and I was like, oh, you have the vaccine, right? 0.99

00:16:02.300 And he was like, no.

00:16:03.820 I was like, you're not vaccinated, and you want to go out with me?

00:16:06.440 I'm like, I'm not going out with you.

00:16:07.520 You're not vaccinated.

00:16:08.280 What, you expect me to be kissing you?

00:16:09.700 You're not vaccinated? 1.00

00:16:10.560 I'm like, get the fuck out. 1.00

00:16:11.420 Really? 0.96

00:16:11.880 Oh, I wouldn't care.

00:16:13.160 I wouldn't care.

00:16:13.900 I'm in too many arenas where you have to be vaccinated.

00:16:17.340 Like, I work at a yoga studio where we're requiring proof of vaccination.

00:16:20.680 That's where I am right now, holding all this laundry.

00:16:22.780 I also do all these music festivals where they're requiring proof of vaccination.

00:16:26.200 And to me, it's so much deeper than just, like, do you or don't you?

00:16:29.140 It's about that, like, I don't want to have that debate with you, right?

00:16:32.720 Like, clearly, if we don't view it the same way, we're not in alignment.

00:16:37.400 Right.

00:16:38.580 So would you not date someone that was different than you, like, politically?

00:16:42.640 No, I wouldn't.

00:16:43.360 What are your standards?

00:16:44.720 Like, what are your requirements for a guy?

00:16:47.540 I mean, politically, I definitely want us to have the same view.

00:16:49.860 You know, I'm a black woman, right?

00:16:51.000 So I'm not going to date, like, a white Republican. 0.98

00:16:52.960 That would just be a headache.

00:16:53.840 Like, why would we do that to ourselves?

00:16:56.200 We wouldn't have the same friends, we wouldn't travel in the same circles, and we don't

00:16:59.780 view the world the same way.

00:17:01.680 So I want people to view the world the same as me.

00:17:03.680 And even if you're not black, but you're white, and you, like, get and understand the

00:17:08.060 black struggle, fine.

00:17:09.580 That's fine.

00:17:10.760 But, yeah, I definitely want them to have the same political views as me, because it's

00:17:13.820 just, why bother in having those arguments?

00:17:17.040 Okay.

00:17:17.700 It's just going to turn into a fight later.

00:17:20.620 Yeah.

00:17:21.180 So, like, what else?

00:17:22.500 Um, well, I have to have a car.

00:17:27.040 This other guy who didn't have the vaccine, he didn't even have a car.

00:17:29.480 I was like, how are you coming to take me out?

00:17:30.600 You don't have a car.

00:17:31.120 You know, I'm not driving anywhere.

00:17:32.300 Yeah.

00:17:34.380 So that's, like, minimum requirement.

00:17:36.340 You have to have a car.

00:17:36.880 Um, I've also realized that I want someone that has, like, some sort of creative or,

00:17:41.380 like, job and entertainment, like I have.

00:17:44.880 Mm-hmm.

00:17:45.760 You have to be very ambitious, because I am very ambitious.

00:17:48.880 I want to be able to, like, you know, we'll spend our days or whatever separately, and

00:17:52.200 then at the end of the night, I want us to be able to come together and talk about all

00:17:55.200 of the exciting things that happen in each of our lives, right?

00:17:57.820 Like, okay.

00:17:58.920 And this other guy was like, well, I'm not rich.

00:18:00.920 I'm a regular guy.

00:18:01.860 And I was like, that's fine, but, like, I'm not a regular girl.

00:18:04.800 Like, I'm not.

00:18:07.080 So, like, if you are going to date me, like, either you have to be able to handle that,

00:18:10.740 or you yourself also have to not be, like, regular.

00:18:13.340 Like, I don't think I'm, like, just an average person.

00:18:16.440 Like, that to me is boring.

00:18:17.940 Okay, so is there, like, do you care?

00:18:22.640 Okay, would you be cool with a guy that makes less money, but he's very, he's a hard worker?

00:18:26.480 Like, he's ambitious?

00:18:28.280 Yeah.

00:18:28.520 Okay, so, like, if he was making, like, let's say he just started his own business,

00:18:33.780 but he makes $45,000 a year, would you date him?

00:18:36.980 He wouldn't be able to afford my engagement ring.

00:18:39.060 I'm getting an eight-carat cushion-cut vintage engagement ring.

00:18:42.500 If you make $45,000 a year, it would take you four years?

00:18:46.540 No.

00:18:47.200 Eight years to afford my engagement ring?

00:18:48.480 Wait, how much?

00:18:49.200 I don't know anything about rings.

00:18:50.960 How much is that?

00:18:52.340 About $200,000.

00:18:53.820 Girl, you want a $200,000 ring? 0.99

00:18:56.000 Are you insane? 0.94

00:18:56.780 My ring has to sparkle from across the street. 1.00

00:19:00.540 Like, you have to see that shit. 1.00

00:19:01.540 It's going to blind people. 1.00

00:19:02.460 That's so superficial.

00:19:04.460 That's, like, so superficial.

00:19:06.280 But it's about so much more than that.

00:19:07.940 It's about the fact that you can afford that, right?

00:19:10.040 I go to yoga with this girl who has an eight-carat diamond engagement ring.

00:19:13.140 Yeah.

00:19:13.580 It's a weed company and drives an Audi.

00:19:15.220 So it's about more than just – it's about the fact that you can't afford that.

00:19:19.240 Okay.

00:19:19.720 Well, I'm just thinking, like, you're going to miss out on a lot of guys because I'm telling –

00:19:25.840 No, no, no.

00:19:26.640 But not in a good way.

00:19:28.040 Not in a good way.

00:19:28.880 I'm telling you, like, my dad would – if my mom asked for that from my dad, my dad would have told her to go find a new boyfriend because there's no way in hell he was going to spend $200,000 on an engagement ring.

00:19:40.520 And that's a multi – no, and that's a multimillionaire in the top half a percent who had 10 kids but my mom never – 0.87

00:19:48.740 He built – he said.

00:19:50.360 He's built to the becoming that.

00:19:52.260 He wasn't that originally, right?

00:19:54.060 He wasn't – well, he was making, like, six figures in his early 20s.

00:19:57.640 Oh, nice.

00:19:58.220 Yeah.

00:19:58.320 So any woman with half a brain would think, hmm, this is a good – this is a good – but my dad's, like, he's good with money. 0.74

00:20:05.440 He's not, like – like, to me, that's, like, such an unwise investment to spend $200,000.

00:20:12.200 Diamonds appreciate.

00:20:14.240 Oh, my God.

00:20:14.800 No.

00:20:15.640 No.

00:20:16.400 Oh, my God.

00:20:17.380 No.

00:20:18.620 That's – like, I would rather put that in a college fund for our kids or, like –

00:20:22.640 Yeah, they'll have that, too.

00:20:25.860 But this just sounds, like, not, like, real to me, you know?

00:20:29.580 Really?

00:20:30.300 Yeah.

00:20:30.680 I don't know.

00:20:31.140 For me, like, I told you, like, my – my status is going up.

00:20:34.900 Like, I just did a music festival where I made $30,000 over the weekend – in one weekend.

00:20:38.760 You know what I mean?

00:20:39.300 Right.

00:20:39.380 Like, I need somebody who can be on that level.

00:20:41.440 Right.

00:20:41.840 But the problem is, like, guys don't care about your money.

00:20:45.140 Right.

00:20:45.500 I don't care.

00:20:46.640 I know, but it doesn't, like – you know, like – I'm just – I think you're going to miss out on a lot of guys with, like, this – like, to me, these are, like, crazy high standards.

00:20:56.600 So today, I listened to my dating coach.

00:20:59.560 She said, you do not get your expectation.

00:21:02.360 You get your minimum standard.

00:21:03.880 Is your dating coach married?

00:21:09.060 Yes.

00:21:09.740 And she has a baby.

00:21:10.740 And her wedding ring is at least five carats.

00:21:13.300 Yeah.

00:21:14.340 And her man is rich.

00:21:15.520 And she doesn't even have to work.

00:21:16.200 Okay.

00:21:16.740 You know what?

00:21:17.060 And she herself makes, like, 30 to 50 grand a month. 0.98

00:21:20.540 Coaching women in love.

00:21:22.460 I mean, good luck if that, like, works for you.

00:21:25.200 I just, like – to me, that sounds like a 200K engagement ring.

00:21:30.300 Like, I think, like, guys are going to hear that and be like, no.

00:21:34.700 No.

00:21:35.060 No.

00:21:35.160 Because you just have to have the man who's okay with maintaining you.

00:21:38.960 Right?

00:21:39.520 With maintaining you?

00:21:41.020 Right.

00:21:41.260 Like, you can be high maintenance.

00:21:42.240 But if you are dating a man that is okay with maintaining you, you're fine.

00:21:45.880 You're not high maintenance.

00:21:46.660 Then you're just on their level.

00:21:49.140 Okay.

00:21:49.640 But I'm just thinking, like – like, I know.

00:21:54.080 But those guys that are making, like, that amount of money, like, I think they typically

00:22:01.180 want, like, the young, like, 21, 22-year-olds.

00:22:06.780 I don't think so.

00:22:10.020 What?

00:22:11.240 I'm 30, so I'm not that old.

00:22:13.340 I'm actually an age to be wiped up by somebody who's, like, in their 40s and, like, ready

00:22:18.520 to be serious and start popping out babies.

00:22:20.500 A 21-year-old, unless you're Kylie Jenner, is realistically too young to be, like, popping

00:22:24.500 out kids.

00:22:26.220 Like, you're too young.

00:22:27.060 Yeah, I mean, that's just – I'm sorry.

00:22:31.660 The $200,000, like, that's crazy to me.

00:22:35.180 That's, like – oh, my gosh.

00:22:37.560 I cannot believe.

00:22:38.540 That's crazy.

00:22:41.140 Someone that can make that amount of money in a shorter period of time, like somebody

00:22:45.580 who is, say, a musical artist, right, a music producer, somebody who's in entertainment,

00:22:50.000 somebody who's on a TV show, somebody who does, like, concerts and tours, that amount

00:22:55.440 of money isn't the same to them.

00:22:59.040 You know what I mean?

00:23:00.340 What do you mean?

00:23:02.080 Like, say I was dating somebody, like, a G-Eazy, right?

00:23:04.740 Okay.

00:23:05.000 G-Eazy makes $150,000 minimum per show.

00:23:08.060 Minimum.

00:23:08.460 That's what he makes in a show.

00:23:09.640 Yeah.

00:23:10.180 So if he does a couple shows, the $200,000 to him, he won't even feel it.

00:23:14.020 No, but, like, this is something coming from someone, like, I've been in a relationship

00:23:19.360 with a guy that was worth over a million, like, but I would never in a million years

00:23:24.400 ask him to spend $200,000 on a ring.

00:23:27.840 Like, to me, that's, like, that's almost, like, entitled.

00:23:30.140 Like, I'm not entitled to his money.

00:23:32.120 I mean, here's the thing.

00:23:35.900 If I can afford it myself, I would want you to be able to get it for me, right?

00:23:40.720 Yeah.

00:23:41.000 Get it myself.

00:23:42.960 Wow.

00:23:43.620 Oh, my gosh.

00:23:44.260 That's just...

00:23:45.260 Yeah, I guess, like, we kind of probably have different, like, views on, like, spending

00:23:49.540 habits, because to me, I'm, like, I would...

00:23:51.440 Even if I had the money, I would never spend that on a ring.

00:23:56.220 But I'm also not that much of a jewelry person, right?

00:23:58.580 So it's, like, you're not going to need to be buying me diamonds for every anniversary

00:24:02.160 for jewelry all the time.

00:24:04.520 Like, get me my ring, and that's it.

00:24:07.060 I don't really need much else.

00:24:09.300 Bye.

00:24:10.160 Oh, God.

00:24:11.000 You can pause it now.

00:24:12.120 You can pause it now.

00:24:14.100 Yeah.

00:24:17.960 Where do we start?

00:24:19.380 Are you okay?

00:24:20.940 That's horrible.

00:24:22.940 I'm sorry, but that's horrible.

00:24:25.540 She's, number one, missing the point. 0.89

00:24:27.640 She's looking at things that...

00:24:29.400 How can you...

00:24:29.940 How can you...

00:24:29.960 Really, really doesn't...

00:24:31.780 I'm sorry.

00:24:32.580 She's going to be in a very unhappy relationship. 0.99

00:24:34.880 If she finds that person, it's all based on whatever is exterior.

00:24:39.300 She doesn't care about anything deeper.

00:24:42.260 And that's...

00:24:43.340 I'm very...

00:24:44.300 I feel sorry for her.

00:24:45.920 She doesn't actually know what's important.

00:24:50.620 And...

00:24:51.180 I really feel for the men.

00:24:53.480 Like...

00:24:53.840 Guys who have so much, they're working so hard.

00:25:00.360 They're trying to prove themselves because society makes them.

00:25:04.120 Because you have to make your way in society.

00:25:07.920 You have to do so much to prove yourself these days.

00:25:12.500 And to have this girl come here and just completely belittle you on the internet. 1.00

00:25:20.420 These are good men out there.

00:25:24.000 And they don't...

00:25:25.340 They don't deserve...

00:25:27.540 You don't even deserve a McDonald's from them.

00:25:32.340 I'm sorry, but...

00:25:34.580 You...

00:25:35.860 It's not about the dollar sign.

00:25:38.720 It's about the intention.

00:25:40.300 I would love...

00:25:43.340 Even if...

00:25:45.060 Who cares about the food?

00:25:46.420 If a guy takes me to McDonald's and then buys me a meal.

00:25:50.980 Amazing.

00:25:52.120 I love McDonald's.

00:25:54.020 Like, what's wrong with that?

00:25:56.140 It's the intention.

00:25:57.240 It's the fact that he...

00:25:59.380 Made a point and said,

00:26:01.700 Hey, I've got this.

00:26:03.360 I want to take you out.

00:26:04.460 I want to get you the meal.

00:26:06.880 That's the point.

00:26:07.760 It's not about how much it is.

00:26:10.300 It's about the fact that someone went out of their way and they wanted to do a wonderful gesture for you.

00:26:17.240 That's the point.

00:26:18.720 And to sit here and demand an eight-carat ring so that someone next door can see you across the road.

00:26:26.520 Well, one, you're...

00:26:28.000 Clearly, you've got insecurities because you feel like that's what's going to add value to you.

00:26:32.520 Because it's not...

00:26:33.240 I'm interested because it's quite interesting that that upsets you.

00:26:38.080 Because that's why I asked you...

00:26:39.780 Well, I'm glad you clarified.

00:26:42.020 Because at the beginning you said you feel sorry for her.

00:26:43.420 Then you said you feel sorry for men.

00:26:44.700 Because off the bat of that, I feel sorry for men.

00:26:49.700 Because, I mean...

00:26:52.160 Right.

00:26:54.140 Remember I said before we even watched it, I knew what a woman looked like? 1.00

00:26:56.680 And I think we can all categorically agree, without being harsh, that is a bang-average-looking lady. 1.00

00:27:05.220 So, that's the problem.

00:27:07.800 You're a bang-average-looking lady with I want this, I want this, I want this, I want this. 1.00

00:27:12.340 And I think she listed one thing that she offers.

00:27:14.460 She made 30 grand over the weekend.

00:27:15.860 You told her men don't care about money. 0.73

00:27:18.660 She then went on to say, but it's what I care about.

00:27:22.020 But it's why she has nothing to... 0.89

00:27:23.620 All she has is a list of requirements.

00:27:25.080 And she can't even offer the first thing that men appreciate, which is what she looks like. 1.00

00:27:29.460 Which, to me, I know the beauty is in the eye of a hoarder, but that's a bang-average-looking lady. 1.00

00:27:32.980 I don't know what you think.

00:27:33.800 You can be honest. 1.00

00:27:34.340 No, it's fucked. 0.99

00:27:35.220 Yeah, she's bang-average-looking. 0.99

00:27:36.240 So, if she was a very incredibly pretty lady, at least it adds some sort of substance. 1.00

00:27:41.800 At least it adds some sort of, I mean, level where you can say, all right, cool.

00:27:45.940 She's in the top 10% of ladies in the world. 0.59

00:27:47.680 She's asking for this requirement.

00:27:48.900 At least, off the bat, she's pretty. 0.96

00:27:50.440 But to give all of those requirements and to be...

00:27:53.600 Oh, God. 0.99

00:27:54.580 Honestly, I feel the fuck that. 0.99

00:27:56.420 I was just banned on TikTok. 0.98

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JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023

She Cried After Listening To This Feminist

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