JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023


She Cried After Listening To This Feminist


Episode Stats

Length

28 minutes

Words per Minute

182.74597

Word Count

5,151

Sentence Count

528

Misogynist Sentences

35

Hate Speech Sentences

12


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I actually decided just now that we were going to react to the 200k engagement ring
00:00:05.420 because I was like, I was like, that's a great, I didn't even think about doing this one.
00:00:12.120 Oh, I think, I think their mics are muted-ish.
00:00:17.840 Yeah, yeah, okay.
00:00:20.140 Yeah, basically to give you guys the backstory of what happened that day.
00:00:24.120 So, this girl, I met, I was in LA for a couple months, like, last year,
00:00:30.720 and I met her because she was in, like, the, she kind of talked about, like, feminine,
00:00:37.800 like, have you ever seen those, like, feminine dating coaches, but they're not, like, feminine at all?
00:00:42.980 But I didn't know that until I met her because it was, like, TikTok.
00:00:45.700 So, I was just like, oh, I'm kind of starting to look at red pill, so let me just go meet up with her.
00:00:50.340 Did, like, a reaction with her to Kevin Samuels.
00:00:53.260 It's funny, everyone loved her in the Kevin Samuels reaction I did with her because she was open.
00:00:57.920 Oh, she also was open to letting her man cheat.
00:01:00.100 She was, yeah.
00:01:00.900 Oh, it's not cheating.
00:01:02.200 That's not cheating.
00:01:02.940 Oh, sorry, sorry.
00:01:03.940 It's marriage.
00:01:04.500 You don't made a distinction.
00:01:05.720 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:06.260 You're right, you're right, you're right.
00:01:07.660 I'm sorry.
00:01:08.440 But, like, letting him step out.
00:01:10.060 Okay.
00:01:10.680 And so, they loved her there.
00:01:13.740 Now, no, no, it wasn't that one-ish.
00:01:16.380 Oh, I added the new one in the Google Doc.
00:01:19.680 So, if you just want to pull it up, if you bring the Google Doc up.
00:01:23.260 But, basically, yeah, I had her.
00:01:27.920 So, I was doing a Zoom call.
00:01:30.320 Or, not a Zoom call.
00:01:30.960 It was, like, an Instagram Live where people could join.
00:01:32.780 I was new to Instagram Live.
00:01:34.160 So, this was an exciting time in my life.
00:01:36.760 And she starts telling me about her, like, dating.
00:01:41.820 And I, personally, I look for guys with a job, you know.
00:01:49.020 But, I didn't realize how high, like, women's standards can go at times.
00:01:54.580 So, I was very much, like, shocked at this.
00:01:59.800 But, let's see.
00:02:00.760 You got it pulled up.
00:02:01.660 No, that's the same one-ish.
00:02:02.780 It's the second one.
00:02:03.860 YouTube.
00:02:04.180 The second one.
00:02:06.440 Yeah.
00:02:08.440 It's the second one.
00:02:10.000 No, that's the third one.
00:02:11.040 The second one.
00:02:11.780 Yeah, there.
00:02:13.320 Okay.
00:02:14.380 And then just make it full screen.
00:02:16.340 It's on the screen, right?
00:02:17.520 Okay.
00:02:17.680 And then just start it from the beginning.
00:02:30.280 So, is her dating coach masculine?
00:02:33.820 Oh, her dating coach actually seemed kind of feminine.
00:02:37.520 But, I just think, like, she's, have you ever heard of the book, Why Men Love Bitches?
00:02:43.460 No.
00:02:44.320 That's, like, every feminine, like, dating coach's, like, playbook.
00:02:47.420 It's, like, raise your standards while you have less to offer.
00:02:50.380 Like, if I was to advise, I'd say put yourself on sale a little bit.
00:02:53.740 Like, because you have less than ever to give.
00:02:57.200 You know?
00:02:57.740 That's what I would say.
00:02:59.580 But, it'll be, like, make your standards higher and higher.
00:03:02.700 And, that's been your problem the whole time.
00:03:04.300 Your standards were just too low.
00:03:06.700 But, it's, like, if Leonardo DiCaprio was at your door, then I'm sure you would have accepted that.
00:03:13.660 Like, the issue is what you offer.
00:03:16.080 That's, like, the buyers that are coming.
00:03:18.880 Just, if they're not good, that kind of says something about you.
00:03:21.480 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:22.260 You know?
00:03:22.620 That's what I would say.
00:03:23.760 But, Ish, is there a, you got it?
00:03:26.800 It's the one with a mouse.
00:03:29.620 Can you see it on the screen?
00:03:31.680 No.
00:03:32.040 So, you guys haven't seen it before?
00:03:37.800 No.
00:03:38.400 No.
00:03:38.800 No.
00:03:40.360 Do you want to just grab the other mouse, then?
00:03:43.080 I don't think my algorithm throws those other things.
00:03:46.820 I'm not interested.
00:03:47.880 This is kind of old.
00:03:48.920 Oh, it's working now.
00:04:05.560 Yeah, it's working.
00:04:13.700 How many years ago was this?
00:04:16.120 This was, like, a year ago, about.
00:04:18.420 I was a lot nicer then.
00:04:21.280 I'd like to say I was a lot more patient than I am now.
00:04:24.180 So, um, but, yeah, this is, back then, it's funny, because I re-watch it, and I'm, like,
00:04:36.260 I would have said so much more now.
00:04:39.260 But, I don't know.
00:04:41.260 And so it's 2020, man.
00:04:43.260 Yeah.
00:04:44.120 But I was, like, shocked, because I couldn't, I couldn't believe, like, this was real.
00:04:49.800 Like, I never heard of someone, like, I don't know, me and my friends back home, just, you
00:04:55.320 kind of just started dating someone in college, and they just, you know, and there was just
00:04:58.660 a normal guy from college, and that's who you'd end up dating for, like, three years,
00:05:02.020 and then you'd get married.
00:05:03.420 I feel like I know what she looks like before even seeing her, because people with them
00:05:07.180 opinions, they always look the same.
00:05:08.220 Oh, good guy for it.
00:05:10.320 Average looking.
00:05:11.840 The low power.
00:05:12.520 And she has to bring it above the video capture device.
00:05:15.300 That's why.
00:05:16.400 You have to bring, you have to push it up.
00:05:19.800 So, is this, like, a reaction, like, video of the wedding ring one?
00:05:27.660 No, I think she's speaking.
00:05:28.540 No, in the middle.
00:05:30.100 I think she's speaking live to parole.
00:05:46.180 Jess, this was just working for you, wasn't it?
00:05:48.660 Yeah.
00:05:49.800 So, it's one, but the class is a short answer.
00:05:52.900 It's not just one.
00:05:58.100 That's weird.
00:05:59.380 What's wrong with this one?
00:06:01.000 It was in the same time.
00:06:03.340 Okay.
00:06:04.660 So, I've got a question for you guys.
00:06:06.920 Right.
00:06:07.100 So, say, like, you know, getting married to multiple people became the norm.
00:06:14.420 How would, say, like, the guy gets divorced by multiple women, how would the assets be
00:06:20.520 divided, you know?
00:06:21.900 Like, you know, you know what I'm saying?
00:06:23.580 How would that work?
00:06:25.100 That would be interesting.
00:06:26.060 That depends if the country recognises if that's an actual marriage.
00:06:29.800 So, let's just say he's legally married to me.
00:06:32.840 Yeah.
00:06:33.160 And then he has, like, I don't know.
00:06:34.500 So, let's say it became the norm and it was all a legal thing.
00:06:37.700 Well, that's a new arena to explore.
00:06:39.840 Yeah, that would be really interesting, right?
00:06:41.400 Another thing is when you get a marriage certificate, like, you could cohabit.
00:06:46.700 I know, let's just say the cohabiting thing is quite recent, but a marriage certificate, it's
00:06:51.940 all lovey-dovey and woo and everything.
00:06:53.440 As soon as you want to get a divorce, the courts and everyone treat it as if you're
00:06:58.300 business partners and there is no feeling or anything involved, if that makes sense.
00:07:03.440 Yeah.
00:07:03.840 Would you be okay with getting married without, like, without the government?
00:07:07.280 Yeah.
00:07:07.880 Because you see all the time.
00:07:08.780 I prefer that.
00:07:10.300 Yeah.
00:07:10.720 Yeah, I feel like it would be much better if the government did not get involved.
00:07:14.920 It should not be a government contract.
00:07:16.820 Yeah.
00:07:17.420 No, because then they treat you as like you're just too...
00:07:20.260 Marriage sounds a lot like a merger.
00:07:22.140 Yeah, and I realized that once.
00:07:23.740 I was just like, oh my God, that's so true.
00:07:25.740 Yeah, until I started watching Red Pill.
00:07:28.460 Because when I first saw it, I was like, I'm very pro-marriage because my parents were
00:07:33.600 married and I saw the benefits.
00:07:36.140 They were able to build a business and do all this stuff.
00:07:38.200 And I was like, why would all these people so adamantly anti-marriage?
00:07:41.680 Until I started learning about it.
00:07:44.140 And I was like, when I found out that you could lose 25% of your income per kid.
00:07:49.720 That's just crazy.
00:07:50.500 That's the number one reason NBA players go broke.
00:07:52.860 I was like, well, if I hit it rich, I wouldn't want to get married.
00:07:57.620 So what happens if you have five kids?
00:08:00.220 I don't know.
00:08:00.820 I'm sure there's some, I don't know.
00:08:02.980 That's crazy.
00:08:03.660 I don't think people...
00:08:04.500 Interesting stuff though, right?
00:08:05.100 Yeah, I just know.
00:08:07.620 I just know that's what they said in the video about the child support in California.
00:08:11.660 Maybe it's like two is capped.
00:08:13.060 I don't know.
00:08:13.500 And then there's like punitive as well.
00:08:15.440 Like you're not even, let's just say you haven't been working for a while, but based
00:08:18.300 on your work history, they say this is how much you will be making, whether you like
00:08:22.020 it or not.
00:08:22.700 And that's the other crazy thing with Jesse Williams.
00:08:25.840 Oh, okay.
00:08:26.480 Did you hear about that?
00:08:27.840 No, I didn't.
00:08:28.280 So he wanted to switch careers.
00:08:31.000 So he did Grey's Anatomy.
00:08:33.660 He's my childhood crush.
00:08:35.220 Oh, that's so cute.
00:08:36.340 Shout out Jesse Williams.
00:08:38.080 That was...
00:08:39.020 He did Grey's Anatomy though.
00:08:41.900 He's like the pretty boy in Grey's Anatomy and he wanted to go into theater and he was
00:08:45.480 a multi...
00:08:45.960 Like he made a ton of money in Grey's Anatomy and then he went to theater.
00:08:48.700 But I guess you still have to pay the same child support even if you switch jobs.
00:08:52.900 So he had to go to court to get it switched.
00:08:55.860 But I guess like you probably know about this.
00:08:57.680 Like guys go broke in the process.
00:08:59.780 Yeah, absolutely.
00:09:00.240 He didn't...
00:09:00.740 He was a multi-millionaire, so he was fine.
00:09:02.860 But it's crazy that even like even a multi-millionaire, they took most of his income, like 5k per month
00:09:09.980 roughly.
00:09:11.260 Jesus.
00:09:11.900 It just seems like they're just being punished, punished, punished.
00:09:15.200 It's just...
00:09:15.700 And it's like even when they don't get married, they still get punished by living with her.
00:09:20.900 Yeah.
00:09:21.620 And then girls will say, oh, I'm afraid of being left high and dry.
00:09:25.020 But you're like...
00:09:25.820 Exactly.
00:09:26.240 He should be afraid you're going to leave and take half.
00:09:30.160 Isn't the most wealthy, most wealthy women due to like, the most wealthy due to divorce
00:09:37.100 in most cases?
00:09:38.800 Yeah.
00:09:39.380 I see that.
00:09:40.460 Wow.
00:09:41.400 That's like the most wealthy women on the planet.
00:09:43.940 It's because of divorce.
00:09:45.560 Yeah.
00:09:45.980 Which is like kind of nuts.
00:09:46.760 And it's interesting because then they can claim that they're self-made because they
00:09:49.820 can invest in a business and stuff like that.
00:09:52.380 It's like, I made my own money.
00:09:53.520 And then it's like their head.
00:09:55.920 Oh.
00:09:56.640 Yeah.
00:09:56.980 So you existed?
00:09:58.440 Oh, God.
00:09:59.440 I think like what's personally I find really sad is that basically people...
00:10:03.380 Oh.
00:10:03.460 Is that okay?
00:10:05.640 Yeah.
00:10:05.840 Yeah.
00:10:05.960 Yeah.
00:10:06.340 Yeah.
00:10:06.380 Yeah.
00:10:06.560 Yeah.
00:10:06.880 Yeah.
00:10:07.140 I think that's pretty good.
00:10:07.720 Is that like, this is supposed to be, you know, this is supposed to be a beautiful thing
00:10:15.940 coming and finding someone that you want to spend time with, that you feel comfortable
00:10:19.400 with together.
00:10:22.180 You know, this is the thing, like everyone has different flavors, right?
00:10:26.100 Some people, they do want to have multiple partners.
00:10:29.200 I've seen people with polygamous relationships and they're very healthy.
00:10:32.500 They just put everything up on the table and say, this is what we want.
00:10:36.200 Are we happy with that?
00:10:37.060 And if we're not, can we come back to the table and talk about it?
00:10:39.600 That's what you should do.
00:10:40.660 And I find that it's really sad that there's a lot of examples of people who basically come
00:10:45.920 in with, maybe like, I don't want to think this, but I know that some people go into it
00:10:52.800 with the intention of doing harm.
00:10:55.320 And I think that's so bad because then it damages many.
00:10:58.120 When you say people, are you specific to the gender though?
00:10:59.700 Because I think that's more from women than men.
00:11:04.040 Yeah.
00:11:04.900 Because there's more benefit for women.
00:11:06.480 I think men, we're just, we're just creatures where we look at things like, is it a fair
00:11:09.940 deal?
00:11:10.360 Like marriage to men does not seem like a fair deal.
00:11:12.520 Like you feel like the laws against you.
00:11:13.900 Do you, do you think the laws will ever get better for men?
00:11:17.300 They, in this country.
00:11:19.040 Is there a tide switching or do you think it's getting worse?
00:11:21.640 In this country?
00:11:22.580 Yeah.
00:11:22.820 Let's say in this country.
00:11:23.620 Man, it just got worse, I think.
00:11:25.600 Because in April of this year, they introduced no fault divorces.
00:11:29.520 I don't know if you were aware of that.
00:11:30.580 What does that mean?
00:11:31.060 What does that mean?
00:11:31.600 No fault divorces basically means that just to get a divorce, I don't need to state the
00:11:36.820 reason why I want to divorce.
00:11:38.280 For example, before no fault divorces, there's a fault divorce.
00:11:42.580 So I can only get a divorce if I can prove my, my husband or my wife was guilty of something,
00:11:48.740 which is like, he deserted me or she deserted me.
00:11:53.300 There was adultery or whatever abuse.
00:11:55.220 And now I don't have to give any reason whatsoever.
00:11:57.520 Whether my husband likes it or not, I can just go to the court and just be like, yeah,
00:12:00.200 I want to divorce.
00:12:00.960 And then they'll give it to you.
00:12:01.960 So the statistics are, what did you say?
00:12:04.220 Have you experienced a 15% man, right?
00:12:06.080 That initially in divorce.
00:12:07.700 Yes.
00:12:08.380 So, so the, so the law know that it's 85% women, 15% men, and you still, they're introducing
00:12:15.760 no fault divorce.
00:12:16.660 Guess, guess, guess who was championing no fault divorce?
00:12:19.380 Women.
00:12:19.920 Yeah, of course.
00:12:20.560 Yeah, of course.
00:12:21.280 It's easy peasy.
00:12:22.520 They're just, it's so sad, but, um, so I forgot what I was going to say.
00:12:26.700 So if they go through with that process, do they still get the same amount of money?
00:12:31.420 Exactly.
00:12:31.920 That's the thing.
00:12:32.360 They do?
00:12:32.740 No, no, no.
00:12:33.060 So what happens is if there's no fault, if you go for a no fault divorce, so it's like
00:12:37.880 you can get the divorce without, you know, if, if you committed adultery, that's the judge
00:12:43.240 will say that's none of my business and whatever.
00:12:44.900 But when it comes to dividing up assets, then your fault is actually brought up because then
00:12:49.520 it's like a contributing factor.
00:12:51.760 Then they, they're forced to look into that because now you're fighting over 50%, 50%.
00:12:57.060 It's crazy.
00:12:57.840 So it's like a, it's misleading.
00:12:59.320 Well, they don't talk about adultery.
00:13:01.020 Like if the girl, like 25% of marriages are sexless.
00:13:04.740 Yeah.
00:13:05.100 So if he cheats, like if you aren't sleeping with him, like what do you think he's doing?
00:13:09.880 But then, but then actually.
00:13:11.380 It's your own fault if you get cheated on and you're not having sex with him.
00:13:13.820 That is your own fault.
00:13:15.060 That is your own fault.
00:13:15.740 But the thing is, it's like if, if the court, if the courts doesn't, don't recognize that,
00:13:19.440 obviously women are going to use that to their advantage.
00:13:21.320 And it's, it's really sad.
00:13:22.700 It's like, how can the courts not recognize that sex is not, now it's not part of a marriage
00:13:27.400 When do we get to the point where we're just honest about the differences between men
00:13:31.920 and women in regards to, to put it bluntly, how horny men are compared to how horny women
00:13:37.700 are, how, how much we want to have sex compared to how much women are.
00:13:40.880 When do we get to the point where we're honest?
00:13:42.660 Because the courts are never going to be honest.
00:13:44.020 The government's never going to be honest.
00:13:45.080 Women can't seem to fathom the fact that we enjoy having sex more than.
00:13:49.400 I think it's just telling women straight that if you're insecure about him being
00:13:53.880 religious, it's okay.
00:13:55.560 If you're insecure, it's fine.
00:13:56.780 Right.
00:13:57.040 Like, I think women, like, I'm not insecure.
00:13:59.900 Like, just, the thing is, you're not trying to be insecure.
00:14:03.340 You're just insecure because of jealousy or whatever.
00:14:05.500 But if you see how it is actually a benefit, then there's nothing to be insecure about.
00:14:11.540 The problem is 90% of the, if you hold your phone up, you go on Instagram and scroll through,
00:14:14.880 women are telling you the complete opposite that, like, if he does this, go, if he does,
00:14:20.040 yeah, of course.
00:14:20.600 Because they're insecure, but they won't admit that they're insecure because who would do that?
00:14:24.460 Would, would your girl be open to that?
00:14:27.680 Hell no.
00:14:28.920 Hell no.
00:14:30.060 She'll kill me.
00:14:30.520 She'll watch it right now?
00:14:31.700 Probably.
00:14:32.480 She'll kick my ass.
00:14:33.760 Yeah.
00:14:33.980 Okay, we're going to, we're going to watch the video now.
00:14:38.080 So this goes back to, right?
00:14:41.420 You said you got it?
00:14:42.260 Okay.
00:14:44.880 And then start it from the beginning.
00:14:57.520 Yeah, there you go.
00:15:00.560 That sort of, sort of space.
00:15:02.300 But for my back, he's, he's immediately like, I want, let's celebrate.
00:15:05.880 Like, I want to take you out.
00:15:06.720 And I'm like, oh, how many, how many dates have you guys gone on?
00:15:11.160 One.
00:15:11.980 Okay.
00:15:12.340 Yeah, we went on one right before I left.
00:15:14.300 That was our first, first date.
00:15:16.360 Is it a date?
00:15:17.700 Go ahead.
00:15:18.100 Sorry.
00:15:18.560 So now we'll go, I guess, on a second one.
00:15:21.380 Okay.
00:15:22.660 But he's kind of short.
00:15:23.820 He's only like 5'9".
00:15:24.720 Oh, that's, you're, you're what, like 5'9", right?
00:15:28.140 I'm 5'8".
00:15:29.020 That's tall enough, right?
00:15:30.640 Not really.
00:15:31.740 Yeah.
00:15:32.140 I'm manifesting a tall man.
00:15:33.400 One of the other guys I'm talking to is 6'7".
00:15:35.720 Oh, wow.
00:15:37.460 Okay.
00:15:38.160 Yeah.
00:15:41.080 And we'll be going out soon.
00:15:42.580 It's just a matter of, like, scheduling.
00:15:44.360 We just haven't been able to, like, link on the schedules.
00:15:46.900 We both work a lot.
00:15:48.420 Mm-hmm.
00:15:49.780 Oh, okay.
00:15:50.220 There's another guy who I just made this whole TikTok about who was, like, all about me,
00:15:54.920 asking me out, calling me all these pet names, my love, and all this shit.
00:15:58.980 And then we're talking, and I was like, oh, you have the vaccine, right?
00:16:02.300 And he was like, no.
00:16:03.820 I was like, you're not vaccinated, and you want to go out with me?
00:16:06.440 I'm like, I'm not going out with you.
00:16:07.520 You're not vaccinated.
00:16:08.280 What, you expect me to be kissing you?
00:16:09.700 You're not vaccinated?
00:16:10.560 I'm like, get the fuck out.
00:16:11.420 Really?
00:16:11.880 Oh, I wouldn't care.
00:16:13.160 I wouldn't care.
00:16:13.900 I'm in too many arenas where you have to be vaccinated.
00:16:17.340 Like, I work at a yoga studio where we're requiring proof of vaccination.
00:16:20.680 That's where I am right now, holding all this laundry.
00:16:22.780 I also do all these music festivals where they're requiring proof of vaccination.
00:16:26.200 And to me, it's so much deeper than just, like, do you or don't you?
00:16:29.140 It's about that, like, I don't want to have that debate with you, right?
00:16:32.720 Like, clearly, if we don't view it the same way, we're not in alignment.
00:16:37.400 Right.
00:16:38.580 So would you not date someone that was different than you, like, politically?
00:16:42.640 No, I wouldn't.
00:16:43.360 What are your standards?
00:16:44.720 Like, what are your requirements for a guy?
00:16:47.540 I mean, politically, I definitely want us to have the same view.
00:16:49.860 You know, I'm a black woman, right?
00:16:51.000 So I'm not going to date, like, a white Republican.
00:16:52.960 That would just be a headache.
00:16:53.840 Like, why would we do that to ourselves?
00:16:56.200 We wouldn't have the same friends, we wouldn't travel in the same circles, and we don't
00:16:59.780 view the world the same way.
00:17:01.680 So I want people to view the world the same as me.
00:17:03.680 And even if you're not black, but you're white, and you, like, get and understand the
00:17:08.060 black struggle, fine.
00:17:09.580 That's fine.
00:17:10.760 But, yeah, I definitely want them to have the same political views as me, because it's
00:17:13.820 just, why bother in having those arguments?
00:17:17.040 Okay.
00:17:17.700 It's just going to turn into a fight later.
00:17:20.620 Yeah.
00:17:21.180 So, like, what else?
00:17:22.500 Um, well, I have to have a car.
00:17:27.040 This other guy who didn't have the vaccine, he didn't even have a car.
00:17:29.480 I was like, how are you coming to take me out?
00:17:30.600 You don't have a car.
00:17:31.120 You know, I'm not driving anywhere.
00:17:32.300 Yeah.
00:17:34.380 So that's, like, minimum requirement.
00:17:36.340 You have to have a car.
00:17:36.880 Um, I've also realized that I want someone that has, like, some sort of creative or,
00:17:41.380 like, job and entertainment, like I have.
00:17:44.880 Mm-hmm.
00:17:45.760 You have to be very ambitious, because I am very ambitious.
00:17:48.880 I want to be able to, like, you know, we'll spend our days or whatever separately, and
00:17:52.200 then at the end of the night, I want us to be able to come together and talk about all
00:17:55.200 of the exciting things that happen in each of our lives, right?
00:17:57.820 Like, okay.
00:17:58.920 And this other guy was like, well, I'm not rich.
00:18:00.920 I'm a regular guy.
00:18:01.860 And I was like, that's fine, but, like, I'm not a regular girl.
00:18:04.800 Like, I'm not.
00:18:07.080 So, like, if you are going to date me, like, either you have to be able to handle that,
00:18:10.740 or you yourself also have to not be, like, regular.
00:18:13.340 Like, I don't think I'm, like, just an average person.
00:18:16.440 Like, that to me is boring.
00:18:17.940 Okay, so is there, like, do you care?
00:18:22.640 Okay, would you be cool with a guy that makes less money, but he's very, he's a hard worker?
00:18:26.480 Like, he's ambitious?
00:18:28.280 Yeah.
00:18:28.520 Okay, so, like, if he was making, like, let's say he just started his own business,
00:18:33.780 but he makes $45,000 a year, would you date him?
00:18:36.980 He wouldn't be able to afford my engagement ring.
00:18:39.060 I'm getting an eight-carat cushion-cut vintage engagement ring.
00:18:42.500 If you make $45,000 a year, it would take you four years?
00:18:46.540 No.
00:18:47.200 Eight years to afford my engagement ring?
00:18:48.480 Wait, how much?
00:18:49.200 I don't know anything about rings.
00:18:50.960 How much is that?
00:18:52.340 About $200,000.
00:18:53.820 Girl, you want a $200,000 ring?
00:18:56.000 Are you insane?
00:18:56.780 My ring has to sparkle from across the street.
00:19:00.540 Like, you have to see that shit.
00:19:01.540 It's going to blind people.
00:19:02.460 That's so superficial.
00:19:04.460 That's, like, so superficial.
00:19:06.280 But it's about so much more than that.
00:19:07.940 It's about the fact that you can afford that, right?
00:19:10.040 I go to yoga with this girl who has an eight-carat diamond engagement ring.
00:19:13.140 Yeah.
00:19:13.580 It's a weed company and drives an Audi.
00:19:15.220 So it's about more than just – it's about the fact that you can't afford that.
00:19:19.240 Okay.
00:19:19.720 Well, I'm just thinking, like, you're going to miss out on a lot of guys because I'm telling –
00:19:25.840 No, no, no.
00:19:26.640 But not in a good way.
00:19:28.040 Not in a good way.
00:19:28.880 I'm telling you, like, my dad would – if my mom asked for that from my dad, my dad would have told her to go find a new boyfriend because there's no way in hell he was going to spend $200,000 on an engagement ring.
00:19:40.520 And that's a multi – no, and that's a multimillionaire in the top half a percent who had 10 kids but my mom never –
00:19:48.740 He built – he said.
00:19:50.360 He's built to the becoming that.
00:19:52.260 He wasn't that originally, right?
00:19:54.060 He wasn't – well, he was making, like, six figures in his early 20s.
00:19:57.640 Oh, nice.
00:19:58.220 Yeah.
00:19:58.320 So any woman with half a brain would think, hmm, this is a good – this is a good – but my dad's, like, he's good with money.
00:20:05.440 He's not, like – like, to me, that's, like, such an unwise investment to spend $200,000.
00:20:12.200 Diamonds appreciate.
00:20:14.240 Oh, my God.
00:20:14.800 No.
00:20:15.640 No.
00:20:16.400 Oh, my God.
00:20:17.380 No.
00:20:18.620 That's – like, I would rather put that in a college fund for our kids or, like –
00:20:22.640 Yeah, they'll have that, too.
00:20:25.860 But this just sounds, like, not, like, real to me, you know?
00:20:29.580 Really?
00:20:30.300 Yeah.
00:20:30.680 I don't know.
00:20:31.140 For me, like, I told you, like, my – my status is going up.
00:20:34.900 Like, I just did a music festival where I made $30,000 over the weekend – in one weekend.
00:20:38.760 You know what I mean?
00:20:39.300 Right.
00:20:39.380 Like, I need somebody who can be on that level.
00:20:41.440 Right.
00:20:41.840 But the problem is, like, guys don't care about your money.
00:20:45.140 Right.
00:20:45.500 I don't care.
00:20:46.640 I know, but it doesn't, like – you know, like – I'm just – I think you're going to miss out on a lot of guys with, like, this – like, to me, these are, like, crazy high standards.
00:20:56.600 So today, I listened to my dating coach.
00:20:59.560 She said, you do not get your expectation.
00:21:02.360 You get your minimum standard.
00:21:03.880 Is your dating coach married?
00:21:09.060 Yes.
00:21:09.740 And she has a baby.
00:21:10.740 And her wedding ring is at least five carats.
00:21:13.300 Yeah.
00:21:14.340 And her man is rich.
00:21:15.520 And she doesn't even have to work.
00:21:16.200 Okay.
00:21:16.740 You know what?
00:21:17.060 And she herself makes, like, 30 to 50 grand a month.
00:21:20.540 Coaching women in love.
00:21:22.460 I mean, good luck if that, like, works for you.
00:21:25.200 I just, like – to me, that sounds like a 200K engagement ring.
00:21:30.300 Like, I think, like, guys are going to hear that and be like, no.
00:21:34.700 No.
00:21:35.060 No.
00:21:35.160 Because you just have to have the man who's okay with maintaining you.
00:21:38.960 Right?
00:21:39.520 With maintaining you?
00:21:41.020 Right.
00:21:41.260 Like, you can be high maintenance.
00:21:42.240 But if you are dating a man that is okay with maintaining you, you're fine.
00:21:45.880 You're not high maintenance.
00:21:46.660 Then you're just on their level.
00:21:49.140 Okay.
00:21:49.640 But I'm just thinking, like – like, I know.
00:21:54.080 But those guys that are making, like, that amount of money, like, I think they typically
00:22:01.180 want, like, the young, like, 21, 22-year-olds.
00:22:06.780 I don't think so.
00:22:10.020 What?
00:22:11.240 I'm 30, so I'm not that old.
00:22:13.340 I'm actually an age to be wiped up by somebody who's, like, in their 40s and, like, ready
00:22:18.520 to be serious and start popping out babies.
00:22:20.500 A 21-year-old, unless you're Kylie Jenner, is realistically too young to be, like, popping
00:22:24.500 out kids.
00:22:26.220 Like, you're too young.
00:22:27.060 Yeah, I mean, that's just – I'm sorry.
00:22:31.660 The $200,000, like, that's crazy to me.
00:22:35.180 That's, like – oh, my gosh.
00:22:37.560 I cannot believe.
00:22:38.540 That's crazy.
00:22:41.140 Someone that can make that amount of money in a shorter period of time, like somebody
00:22:45.580 who is, say, a musical artist, right, a music producer, somebody who's in entertainment,
00:22:50.000 somebody who's on a TV show, somebody who does, like, concerts and tours, that amount
00:22:55.440 of money isn't the same to them.
00:22:59.040 You know what I mean?
00:23:00.340 What do you mean?
00:23:02.080 Like, say I was dating somebody, like, a G-Eazy, right?
00:23:04.740 Okay.
00:23:05.000 G-Eazy makes $150,000 minimum per show.
00:23:08.060 Minimum.
00:23:08.460 That's what he makes in a show.
00:23:09.640 Yeah.
00:23:10.180 So if he does a couple shows, the $200,000 to him, he won't even feel it.
00:23:14.020 No, but, like, this is something coming from someone, like, I've been in a relationship
00:23:19.360 with a guy that was worth over a million, like, but I would never in a million years
00:23:24.400 ask him to spend $200,000 on a ring.
00:23:27.840 Like, to me, that's, like, that's almost, like, entitled.
00:23:30.140 Like, I'm not entitled to his money.
00:23:32.120 I mean, here's the thing.
00:23:35.900 If I can afford it myself, I would want you to be able to get it for me, right?
00:23:40.720 Yeah.
00:23:41.000 Get it myself.
00:23:42.960 Wow.
00:23:43.620 Oh, my gosh.
00:23:44.260 That's just...
00:23:45.260 Yeah, I guess, like, we kind of probably have different, like, views on, like, spending
00:23:49.540 habits, because to me, I'm, like, I would...
00:23:51.440 Even if I had the money, I would never spend that on a ring.
00:23:56.220 But I'm also not that much of a jewelry person, right?
00:23:58.580 So it's, like, you're not going to need to be buying me diamonds for every anniversary
00:24:02.160 for jewelry all the time.
00:24:04.520 Like, get me my ring, and that's it.
00:24:07.060 I don't really need much else.
00:24:09.300 Bye.
00:24:10.160 Oh, God.
00:24:11.000 You can pause it now.
00:24:12.120 You can pause it now.
00:24:14.100 Yeah.
00:24:17.960 Where do we start?
00:24:19.380 Are you okay?
00:24:20.940 That's horrible.
00:24:22.940 I'm sorry, but that's horrible.
00:24:25.540 She's, number one, missing the point.
00:24:27.640 She's looking at things that...
00:24:29.400 How can you...
00:24:29.940 How can you...
00:24:29.960 Really, really doesn't...
00:24:31.780 I'm sorry.
00:24:32.580 She's going to be in a very unhappy relationship.
00:24:34.880 If she finds that person, it's all based on whatever is exterior.
00:24:39.300 She doesn't care about anything deeper.
00:24:42.260 And that's...
00:24:43.340 I'm very...
00:24:44.300 I feel sorry for her.
00:24:45.920 She doesn't actually know what's important.
00:24:50.620 And...
00:24:51.180 I really feel for the men.
00:24:53.480 Like...
00:24:53.840 Guys who have so much, they're working so hard.
00:25:00.360 They're trying to prove themselves because society makes them.
00:25:04.120 Because you have to make your way in society.
00:25:07.920 You have to do so much to prove yourself these days.
00:25:12.500 And to have this girl come here and just completely belittle you on the internet.
00:25:20.420 These are good men out there.
00:25:24.000 And they don't...
00:25:25.340 They don't deserve...
00:25:27.540 You don't even deserve a McDonald's from them.
00:25:32.340 I'm sorry, but...
00:25:34.580 You...
00:25:35.860 It's not about the dollar sign.
00:25:38.720 It's about the intention.
00:25:40.300 I would love...
00:25:43.340 Even if...
00:25:45.060 Who cares about the food?
00:25:46.420 If a guy takes me to McDonald's and then buys me a meal.
00:25:50.980 Amazing.
00:25:52.120 I love McDonald's.
00:25:54.020 Like, what's wrong with that?
00:25:56.140 It's the intention.
00:25:57.240 It's the fact that he...
00:25:59.380 Made a point and said,
00:26:01.700 Hey, I've got this.
00:26:03.360 I want to take you out.
00:26:04.460 I want to get you the meal.
00:26:06.880 That's the point.
00:26:07.760 It's not about how much it is.
00:26:10.300 It's about the fact that someone went out of their way and they wanted to do a wonderful gesture for you.
00:26:17.240 That's the point.
00:26:18.720 And to sit here and demand an eight-carat ring so that someone next door can see you across the road.
00:26:26.520 Well, one, you're...
00:26:28.000 Clearly, you've got insecurities because you feel like that's what's going to add value to you.
00:26:32.520 Because it's not...
00:26:33.240 I'm interested because it's quite interesting that that upsets you.
00:26:38.080 Because that's why I asked you...
00:26:39.780 Well, I'm glad you clarified.
00:26:42.020 Because at the beginning you said you feel sorry for her.
00:26:43.420 Then you said you feel sorry for men.
00:26:44.700 Because off the bat of that, I feel sorry for men.
00:26:49.700 Because, I mean...
00:26:52.160 Right.
00:26:54.140 Remember I said before we even watched it, I knew what a woman looked like?
00:26:56.680 And I think we can all categorically agree, without being harsh, that is a bang-average-looking lady.
00:27:05.220 So, that's the problem.
00:27:07.800 You're a bang-average-looking lady with I want this, I want this, I want this, I want this.
00:27:12.340 And I think she listed one thing that she offers.
00:27:14.460 She made 30 grand over the weekend.
00:27:15.860 You told her men don't care about money.
00:27:18.660 She then went on to say, but it's what I care about.
00:27:22.020 But it's why she has nothing to...
00:27:23.620 All she has is a list of requirements.
00:27:25.080 And she can't even offer the first thing that men appreciate, which is what she looks like.
00:27:29.460 Which, to me, I know the beauty is in the eye of a hoarder, but that's a bang-average-looking lady.
00:27:32.980 I don't know what you think.
00:27:33.800 You can be honest.
00:27:34.340 No, it's fucked.
00:27:35.220 Yeah, she's bang-average-looking.
00:27:36.240 So, if she was a very incredibly pretty lady, at least it adds some sort of substance.
00:27:41.800 At least it adds some sort of, I mean, level where you can say, all right, cool.
00:27:45.940 She's in the top 10% of ladies in the world.
00:27:47.680 She's asking for this requirement.
00:27:48.900 At least, off the bat, she's pretty.
00:27:50.440 But to give all of those requirements and to be...
00:27:53.600 Oh, God.
00:27:54.580 Honestly, I feel the fuck that.
00:27:56.420 I was just banned on TikTok.
00:27:58.660 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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