She Cried After Listening To This Feminist
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On this episode of the podcast, we have our first guest on the show, and it's a girl who has been through hell and high water! She s been through a lot in her life, and we're here to talk about it all.
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I actually decided just now that we were going to react to the 200k engagement ring
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because I was like, I was like, that's a great, I didn't even think about doing this one.
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Yeah, basically to give you guys the backstory of what happened that day.
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So, this girl, I met, I was in LA for a couple months, like, last year,
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and I met her because she was in, like, the, she kind of talked about, like, feminine,
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like, have you ever seen those, like, feminine dating coaches, but they're not, like, feminine at all?
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But I didn't know that until I met her because it was, like, TikTok.
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So, I was just like, oh, I'm kind of starting to look at red pill, so let me just go meet up with her.
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Did, like, a reaction with her to Kevin Samuels.
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It's funny, everyone loved her in the Kevin Samuels reaction I did with her because she was open.
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Oh, she also was open to letting her man cheat.
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So, if you just want to pull it up, if you bring the Google Doc up.
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It was, like, an Instagram Live where people could join.
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And she starts telling me about her, like, dating.
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And I, personally, I look for guys with a job, you know.
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But, I didn't realize how high, like, women's standards can go at times.
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Oh, her dating coach actually seemed kind of feminine.
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But, I just think, like, she's, have you ever heard of the book, Why Men Love Bitches?
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That's, like, every feminine, like, dating coach's, like, playbook.
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It's, like, raise your standards while you have less to offer.
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Like, if I was to advise, I'd say put yourself on sale a little bit.
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But, it'll be, like, make your standards higher and higher.
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But, it's, like, if Leonardo DiCaprio was at your door, then I'm sure you would have accepted that.
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Just, if they're not good, that kind of says something about you.
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Do you want to just grab the other mouse, then?
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I don't think my algorithm throws those other things.
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I'd like to say I was a lot more patient than I am now.
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So, um, but, yeah, this is, back then, it's funny, because I re-watch it, and I'm, like,
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But I was, like, shocked, because I couldn't, I couldn't believe, like, this was real.
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Like, I never heard of someone, like, I don't know, me and my friends back home, just, you
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kind of just started dating someone in college, and they just, you know, and there was just
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a normal guy from college, and that's who you'd end up dating for, like, three years,
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I feel like I know what she looks like before even seeing her, because people with them
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And she has to bring it above the video capture device.
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So, is this, like, a reaction, like, video of the wedding ring one?
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Jess, this was just working for you, wasn't it?
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So, say, like, you know, getting married to multiple people became the norm.
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How would, say, like, the guy gets divorced by multiple women, how would the assets be
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That depends if the country recognises if that's an actual marriage.
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So, let's say it became the norm and it was all a legal thing.
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Another thing is when you get a marriage certificate, like, you could cohabit.
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I know, let's just say the cohabiting thing is quite recent, but a marriage certificate, it's
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As soon as you want to get a divorce, the courts and everyone treat it as if you're
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business partners and there is no feeling or anything involved, if that makes sense.
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Would you be okay with getting married without, like, without the government?
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Yeah, I feel like it would be much better if the government did not get involved.
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No, because then they treat you as like you're just too...
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Because when I first saw it, I was like, I'm very pro-marriage because my parents were
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They were able to build a business and do all this stuff.
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And I was like, why would all these people so adamantly anti-marriage?
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And I was like, when I found out that you could lose 25% of your income per kid.
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That's the number one reason NBA players go broke.
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I was like, well, if I hit it rich, I wouldn't want to get married.
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I just know that's what they said in the video about the child support in California.
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Like you're not even, let's just say you haven't been working for a while, but based
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on your work history, they say this is how much you will be making, whether you like
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And that's the other crazy thing with Jesse Williams.
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He's like the pretty boy in Grey's Anatomy and he wanted to go into theater and he was
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Like he made a ton of money in Grey's Anatomy and then he went to theater.
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But I guess you still have to pay the same child support even if you switch jobs.
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But it's crazy that even like even a multi-millionaire, they took most of his income, like 5k per month
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It just seems like they're just being punished, punished, punished.
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And it's like even when they don't get married, they still get punished by living with her.
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And then girls will say, oh, I'm afraid of being left high and dry.
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He should be afraid you're going to leave and take half.
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Isn't the most wealthy, most wealthy women due to like, the most wealthy due to divorce
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That's like the most wealthy women on the planet.
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And it's interesting because then they can claim that they're self-made because they
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I think like what's personally I find really sad is that basically people...
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Is that like, this is supposed to be, you know, this is supposed to be a beautiful thing
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coming and finding someone that you want to spend time with, that you feel comfortable
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You know, this is the thing, like everyone has different flavors, right?
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Some people, they do want to have multiple partners.
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I've seen people with polygamous relationships and they're very healthy.
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They just put everything up on the table and say, this is what we want.
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And if we're not, can we come back to the table and talk about it?
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And I find that it's really sad that there's a lot of examples of people who basically come
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in with, maybe like, I don't want to think this, but I know that some people go into it
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And I think that's so bad because then it damages many.
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When you say people, are you specific to the gender though?
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Because I think that's more from women than men.
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I think men, we're just, we're just creatures where we look at things like, is it a fair
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Like marriage to men does not seem like a fair deal.
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Do you, do you think the laws will ever get better for men?
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Is there a tide switching or do you think it's getting worse?
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Because in April of this year, they introduced no fault divorces.
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No fault divorces basically means that just to get a divorce, I don't need to state the
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For example, before no fault divorces, there's a fault divorce.
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So I can only get a divorce if I can prove my, my husband or my wife was guilty of something,
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which is like, he deserted me or she deserted me.
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And now I don't have to give any reason whatsoever.
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Whether my husband likes it or not, I can just go to the court and just be like, yeah,
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So, so the, so the law know that it's 85% women, 15% men, and you still, they're introducing
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Guess, guess, guess who was championing no fault divorce?
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They're just, it's so sad, but, um, so I forgot what I was going to say.
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So if they go through with that process, do they still get the same amount of money?
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So what happens is if there's no fault, if you go for a no fault divorce, so it's like
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you can get the divorce without, you know, if, if you committed adultery, that's the judge
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will say that's none of my business and whatever.
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But when it comes to dividing up assets, then your fault is actually brought up because then
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Then they, they're forced to look into that because now you're fighting over 50%, 50%.
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Like if the girl, like 25% of marriages are sexless.
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So if he cheats, like if you aren't sleeping with him, like what do you think he's doing?
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It's your own fault if you get cheated on and you're not having sex with him.
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But the thing is, it's like if, if the court, if the courts doesn't, don't recognize that,
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obviously women are going to use that to their advantage.
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It's like, how can the courts not recognize that sex is not, now it's not part of a marriage
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When do we get to the point where we're just honest about the differences between men
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and women in regards to, to put it bluntly, how horny men are compared to how horny women
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are, how, how much we want to have sex compared to how much women are.
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When do we get to the point where we're honest?
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Because the courts are never going to be honest.
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Women can't seem to fathom the fact that we enjoy having sex more than.
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I think it's just telling women straight that if you're insecure about him being
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Like, just, the thing is, you're not trying to be insecure.
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You're just insecure because of jealousy or whatever.
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But if you see how it is actually a benefit, then there's nothing to be insecure about.
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The problem is 90% of the, if you hold your phone up, you go on Instagram and scroll through,
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women are telling you the complete opposite that, like, if he does this, go, if he does,
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Because they're insecure, but they won't admit that they're insecure because who would do that?
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Okay, we're going to, we're going to watch the video now.
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But for my back, he's, he's immediately like, I want, let's celebrate.
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And I'm like, oh, how many, how many dates have you guys gone on?
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Oh, that's, you're, you're what, like 5'9", right?
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We just haven't been able to, like, link on the schedules.
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There's another guy who I just made this whole TikTok about who was, like, all about me,
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asking me out, calling me all these pet names, my love, and all this shit.
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And then we're talking, and I was like, oh, you have the vaccine, right?
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I was like, you're not vaccinated, and you want to go out with me?
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I'm in too many arenas where you have to be vaccinated.
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Like, I work at a yoga studio where we're requiring proof of vaccination.
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That's where I am right now, holding all this laundry.
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I also do all these music festivals where they're requiring proof of vaccination.
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And to me, it's so much deeper than just, like, do you or don't you?
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It's about that, like, I don't want to have that debate with you, right?
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Like, clearly, if we don't view it the same way, we're not in alignment.
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So would you not date someone that was different than you, like, politically?
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I mean, politically, I definitely want us to have the same view.
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So I'm not going to date, like, a white Republican.
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We wouldn't have the same friends, we wouldn't travel in the same circles, and we don't
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So I want people to view the world the same as me.
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And even if you're not black, but you're white, and you, like, get and understand the
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But, yeah, I definitely want them to have the same political views as me, because it's
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This other guy who didn't have the vaccine, he didn't even have a car.
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Um, I've also realized that I want someone that has, like, some sort of creative or,
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You have to be very ambitious, because I am very ambitious.
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I want to be able to, like, you know, we'll spend our days or whatever separately, and
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then at the end of the night, I want us to be able to come together and talk about all
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of the exciting things that happen in each of our lives, right?
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And this other guy was like, well, I'm not rich.
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And I was like, that's fine, but, like, I'm not a regular girl.
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So, like, if you are going to date me, like, either you have to be able to handle that,
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or you yourself also have to not be, like, regular.
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Like, I don't think I'm, like, just an average person.
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Okay, would you be cool with a guy that makes less money, but he's very, he's a hard worker?
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Okay, so, like, if he was making, like, let's say he just started his own business,
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but he makes $45,000 a year, would you date him?
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He wouldn't be able to afford my engagement ring.
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I'm getting an eight-carat cushion-cut vintage engagement ring.
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If you make $45,000 a year, it would take you four years?
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It's about the fact that you can afford that, right?
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I go to yoga with this girl who has an eight-carat diamond engagement ring.
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So it's about more than just – it's about the fact that you can't afford that.
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Well, I'm just thinking, like, you're going to miss out on a lot of guys because I'm telling –
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I'm telling you, like, my dad would – if my mom asked for that from my dad, my dad would have told her to go find a new boyfriend because there's no way in hell he was going to spend $200,000 on an engagement ring.
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And that's a multi – no, and that's a multimillionaire in the top half a percent who had 10 kids but my mom never –
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He wasn't – well, he was making, like, six figures in his early 20s.
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So any woman with half a brain would think, hmm, this is a good – this is a good – but my dad's, like, he's good with money.
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He's not, like – like, to me, that's, like, such an unwise investment to spend $200,000.
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That's – like, I would rather put that in a college fund for our kids or, like –
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But this just sounds, like, not, like, real to me, you know?
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For me, like, I told you, like, my – my status is going up.
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Like, I just did a music festival where I made $30,000 over the weekend – in one weekend.
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Like, I need somebody who can be on that level.
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But the problem is, like, guys don't care about your money.
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I know, but it doesn't, like – you know, like – I'm just – I think you're going to miss out on a lot of guys with, like, this – like, to me, these are, like, crazy high standards.
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And she herself makes, like, 30 to 50 grand a month.
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I mean, good luck if that, like, works for you.
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I just, like – to me, that sounds like a 200K engagement ring.
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Like, I think, like, guys are going to hear that and be like, no.
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Because you just have to have the man who's okay with maintaining you.
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But if you are dating a man that is okay with maintaining you, you're fine.
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But those guys that are making, like, that amount of money, like, I think they typically
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I'm actually an age to be wiped up by somebody who's, like, in their 40s and, like, ready
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A 21-year-old, unless you're Kylie Jenner, is realistically too young to be, like, popping
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Someone that can make that amount of money in a shorter period of time, like somebody
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who is, say, a musical artist, right, a music producer, somebody who's in entertainment,
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somebody who's on a TV show, somebody who does, like, concerts and tours, that amount
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Like, say I was dating somebody, like, a G-Eazy, right?
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So if he does a couple shows, the $200,000 to him, he won't even feel it.
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No, but, like, this is something coming from someone, like, I've been in a relationship
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with a guy that was worth over a million, like, but I would never in a million years
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Like, to me, that's, like, that's almost, like, entitled.
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If I can afford it myself, I would want you to be able to get it for me, right?
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Yeah, I guess, like, we kind of probably have different, like, views on, like, spending
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Even if I had the money, I would never spend that on a ring.
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But I'm also not that much of a jewelry person, right?
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So it's, like, you're not going to need to be buying me diamonds for every anniversary
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She's going to be in a very unhappy relationship.
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If she finds that person, it's all based on whatever is exterior.
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Guys who have so much, they're working so hard.
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They're trying to prove themselves because society makes them.
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You have to do so much to prove yourself these days.
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And to have this girl come here and just completely belittle you on the internet.
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If a guy takes me to McDonald's and then buys me a meal.
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It's about the fact that someone went out of their way and they wanted to do a wonderful gesture for you.
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And to sit here and demand an eight-carat ring so that someone next door can see you across the road.
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Clearly, you've got insecurities because you feel like that's what's going to add value to you.
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I'm interested because it's quite interesting that that upsets you.
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Because at the beginning you said you feel sorry for her.
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Because off the bat of that, I feel sorry for men.
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Remember I said before we even watched it, I knew what a woman looked like?
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And I think we can all categorically agree, without being harsh, that is a bang-average-looking lady.
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You're a bang-average-looking lady with I want this, I want this, I want this, I want this.
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And I think she listed one thing that she offers.
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She then went on to say, but it's what I care about.
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And she can't even offer the first thing that men appreciate, which is what she looks like.
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Which, to me, I know the beauty is in the eye of a hoarder, but that's a bang-average-looking lady.
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So, if she was a very incredibly pretty lady, at least it adds some sort of substance.
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At least it adds some sort of, I mean, level where you can say, all right, cool.
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But to give all of those requirements and to be...
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