JustPearlyThings - December 24, 2022


She Defended Societal Standard On Divorce


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In this episode, we discuss the reasons why women are leaving their marriages and why men should not be penalised if they leave their marriages. We discuss the benefits to leaving a marriage and why women should not get the same amount of money as their male counterparts.

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00:00:00.000 That could happen for in marriages with husbands as well because to be divorced isn't such a bad thing on either on either side
00:00:08.400 Are you kidding? There's divorce parties women 1.00
00:00:10.800 No, no, I'm talking about for men. There isn't the consequences
00:00:15.200 When we're talking about shame okay to actually like be divorced okay on both sides the consequences are oh
00:00:21.120 I'm divorced and then carry on social stigma
00:00:25.120 I'm not talking about money this I'm talking about your social
00:00:28.080 Sorry, I thought you were talking about consequences. No, there isn't the social stigma that's being divorced for either side
00:00:35.760 So both parties can go on to
00:00:39.120 Be in other relations you're taking but I'm talking about no
00:00:42.640 What i'm saying is to stay together is optimum, but if you don't have the social stigmas
00:00:49.040 That's why there are more divorces 1.00
00:00:51.120 Why there wasn't before was because socially you would become a pariah if you're a woman you wouldn't be able to get married again 1.00
00:00:57.280 We don't have all of that happening now. That's why it's on the rise. It's not necessarily that it's just on women 1.00
00:01:03.440 It's also for men. Are you performing?
00:01:06.160 The way that you should be so that the marriage actually carries on if both people
00:01:10.480 In the marriage are not at an equilibrium that this is working. Why should a woman just stay in there? 1.00
00:01:17.760 The single parent the when you look at the single parent to gel pipeline is very real 0.95
00:01:22.400 So now you're not having these people stay together when you look at 75 of the people that end up in jail
00:01:28.480 They come from single parent households. So the facts are there to see that is very significant
00:01:32.640 So should both people not be penalized for working on their relationships or should it just be women? 1.00
00:01:37.760 But the money is just men because we gotta pay 0.97
00:01:40.240 No, it should be
00:01:41.760 The person that should be penalized is the one who chooses to leave which is mostly women 1.00
00:01:46.400 Yeah, I think both people if it wasn't working
00:01:50.480 Should literally be like we have to make you love to ignore the facts
00:01:54.560 Like just literally ignore the facts
00:01:57.200 I know what you're saying. Yeah, but the fact of the matter is yeah
00:01:59.920 The reason why more women are leaving now is because women have more money now than they've ever had 1.00
00:02:04.480 That's the only reason why they're leaving
00:02:06.880 So if they knew they wasn't getting that money from him on the divorce and they weren't getting a chance
00:02:11.040 But they weren't leaving i'm telling you staying your solution is that women should earn less money. No, that's not my solution 1.00
00:02:17.520 Okay, okay. No, no, no
00:02:20.320 He's saying that there is an incentive for women to leave because they get money women women have they own two-thirds of debt
00:02:28.240 Women women aren't in great financial places, but they get to be when they get making out that they are 1.00
00:02:33.280 No, no i'm saying they get to be in great financial places when they're getting a check from a dude for the rest for 18 years
00:02:41.040 Like what the relationship in a better state the richest the the richest women the richest women in the world got their money through divorce 1.00
00:02:47.040 But they're the richest women in the world because 1.00
00:02:51.600 They weren't the richest beforehand
00:02:53.600 They became because they were aligned with the richest man and then they
00:02:58.160 Even on average
00:03:00.160 Woman when she leave better than they came in. Yeah, so yeah before before you're married to me 1.00
00:03:04.080 You didn't have my assets and then when you're leaving you have half my assets now. Yeah, so you're in a better position
00:03:08.400 So it's like so the woman gets a prize basically for leaving 1.00
00:03:12.160 She gets free money every month and you also have to bear in mind if you look at the the changes between the sexes 0.90
00:03:18.160 Men have mostly stayed the same. Yeah, it's women that have changed your mind your mentality has changed 0.95
00:03:22.880 Obviously your financial well-being has changed a lot of the things that make you a woman has changed 0.98
00:03:27.520 So you're the ones that are driving this
00:03:30.240 This disparity between men. I absolutely agree with that 1.00
00:03:33.600 But what I would say is because the times are moving men need to actually adjust to this
00:03:39.040 We are adjusting
00:03:40.080 But they are adjusting they're not marrying you now
00:03:43.680 It's not people are still getting married all the time
00:03:50.720 50% of women over 30 are single and childless you see that we're adjusting women women are getting married at later and later ages than ever
00:03:57.520 So in the in the u.s. The average age of first marriage for a woman is um, either 27 or 28 in the uk. It's 31. Yeah 0.58
00:04:04.080 So men are marrying women 1.00
00:04:06.720 So we have all of these stats for women right men are also very disgruntled
00:04:12.640 Very feeling very alone
00:04:14.880 Angry not alone saying that
00:04:18.800 It's easier when you're busing it open more than ever
00:04:20.640 No, but I say this, but men are also
00:04:22.800 It's true
00:04:23.840 What did you say?
00:04:25.520 But I said you said that a lot of men are disgruntled
00:04:27.520 But really yo, this is probably the easiest time it's ever been as a man to get sex
00:04:32.400 For a small percentage of men
00:04:33.600 I know what you mean
00:04:34.240 But I mean in general
00:04:35.200 No, one out of three men are virgins or haven't had sex in a year
00:04:38.240 I understand that
00:04:39.440 But I'm saying they've got a better chance now than they've ever had
00:04:42.160 Because women are now open 1.00
00:04:43.520 No, that's not
00:04:44.240 You're not correct
00:04:45.200 You're not
00:04:45.520 That's incorrect
00:04:46.480 No, but what I'm saying is the stigma for sleeping around
00:04:49.360 Yeah, with women, yeah 0.85
00:04:50.720 Is not there now like it was before
00:04:52.720 That's what I'm saying
00:04:53.280 I'm not saying that men are still
00:04:55.280 I'm not saying men are getting more
00:04:56.880 I'm saying, yeah
00:04:57.600 That it will be easier now, yeah
00:04:59.120 You've got more of a chance now than you did before
00:05:01.280 When you needed a virgin wife 1.00
00:05:02.640 You ain't finding no virgin wife now 1.00
00:05:04.160 Most of the time
00:05:04.560 No, but I'm saying that's not correct
00:05:06.480 Like one out of three men under 30 are virgins or haven't had sex
00:05:09.120 I'm talking about women 1.00
00:05:10.080 I said virgin wife 0.97
00:05:11.200 Less men are having sex than ever
00:05:14.800 It's not easier to bust open the cheeks for most men
00:05:17.440 It's for the 20% of men 1.00
00:05:20.000 Yeah, it's easier than ever
00:05:21.440 They have their pick
00:05:22.720 Okay
00:05:23.040 Like for example, if you're over six foot as a guy
00:05:25.440 You're in the top 15% of men height-wise
00:05:28.800 Okay, I think where we're getting confused is
00:05:31.120 What I'm saying is
00:05:31.920 Obviously before, as a man
00:05:34.000 It was easier in the sense, yeah
00:05:35.520 That like more women were settling down with average men 0.99
00:05:38.640 So your average guy was getting more play
00:05:41.120 That's what I'm saying
00:05:41.760 But I'm talking about in terms of the stigma
00:05:43.440 In terms of sex
00:05:44.240 Oh, I see what you're saying
00:05:45.360 Women sleeping around, yeah 1.00
00:05:46.960 There's not the stigma there no more
00:05:48.320 Before they're like
00:05:48.800 Oh, I need a nice virgin wife and that 1.00
00:05:50.560 Now, man are wife in hoes 1.00
00:05:52.960 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:53.840 They weren't doing that before
00:05:54.880 They had to make sure that your thing was intact
00:05:56.800 Before man was thinking about marrying you
00:05:58.320 And now, do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:59.760 Man are running around wife in Boris bikes 0.52
00:06:01.920 Well, that's where it goes back to
00:06:03.120 There's no consequence
00:06:04.160 Yeah
00:06:04.400 You take away
00:06:04.800 We get birth control
00:06:05.920 Women can sleep with whoever 1.00
00:06:06.960 There's no consequence
00:06:07.840 That's it
00:06:08.400 And then on top of that
00:06:09.200 Even if they get pregnant 0.99
00:06:10.080 There's no consequence
00:06:10.880 They can have an abortion
00:06:11.840 And they don't know who their dad is
00:06:12.960 Man, them are raising kids
00:06:13.920 That ain't this
00:06:14.480 And that even if
00:06:15.840 Even if they get married
00:06:17.280 And they leave
00:06:18.240 There's no consequence
00:06:19.120 They get alimony
00:06:20.480 Or child
00:06:21.040 Even if they have a kid with the wrong guy
00:06:22.880 What do they get?
00:06:23.600 Child support
00:06:24.320 Even if there's homeless
00:06:25.280 There's women's shelters 0.99
00:06:26.080 The point is
00:06:27.120 That women face no consequences 0.93
00:06:29.360 There's always a cushion
00:06:31.040 For men
00:06:31.520 They're on the streets
00:06:32.400 Or they commit suicide
00:06:33.680 But there is a consequence
00:06:35.040 Because you are there
00:06:36.480 Bringing up a child
00:06:37.680 There is a consequence for leaving
00:06:39.360 Your time is spent now
00:06:40.960 Rearing another human being 0.98
00:06:42.160 It's not like you were running
00:06:43.920 Like you just left
00:06:45.040 And then you were getting money
00:06:46.080 No, you're a mother
00:06:46.880 But you would have had to do that
00:06:47.760 You have to do something
00:06:48.400 Yes
00:06:48.720 Yeah
00:06:49.520 But it's easier
00:06:50.560 Obviously it's easier
00:06:51.680 When you're in a pair
00:06:52.240 I don't want to leave
00:06:53.440 You force me to leave
00:06:54.800 Yeah
00:06:55.040 Or you leave
00:06:55.920 And you force me to be
00:06:56.880 Wifeless, divorced
00:06:58.160 And I have to pay you on top of that
00:06:59.760 And then I can't see my child
00:07:00.800 When I want to see my child
00:07:02.800 As well
00:07:03.760 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:04.400 And that isn't always the case as well
00:07:06.000 It's mostly the case
00:07:07.040 80% of the time
00:07:08.240 I heard you say it was easier
00:07:09.840 I heard you say it was easier
00:07:11.120 To do it with a co-parent
00:07:13.280 As such, right?
00:07:13.840 In a pair
00:07:14.960 She can just find another partner 1.00
00:07:17.440 Because it's that easy
00:07:18.880 As a single parent
00:07:20.560 To find another man
00:07:21.600 Maybe not one that you want
00:07:24.560 But to find another man
00:07:26.240 Yes
00:07:26.560 So again
00:07:27.040 You guys are saying
00:07:28.560 That women should settle 1.00
00:07:30.320 They should settle for 0.95
00:07:31.760 What they don't want
00:07:32.960 They should be earning less money
00:07:35.120 So that they are more dependent on men 0.84
00:07:36.800 We didn't say that
00:07:37.520 No
00:07:37.920 No, we didn't say that
00:07:38.320 You shouldn't be rewarded for that
00:07:39.680 If you want to leave that situation
00:07:41.040 Because of those reasons
00:07:41.840 My whole point is that
00:07:42.880 If you have bad behavior as a woman
00:07:44.720 There should be consequences
00:07:46.400 And as a society
00:07:47.280 We take them away from women 1.00
00:07:49.200 Okay
00:07:49.520 So if I'm the sole child
00:07:50.880 If I'm the primary carer
00:07:52.960 For the child
00:07:53.920 Or the children
00:07:54.800 In our relationship
00:07:56.000 And we are not working
00:07:57.200 We have a toxic environment
00:07:58.640 We're arguing all the time
00:08:00.000 We can't settle our differences
00:08:01.440 And I've decided
00:08:02.560 I can't do this
00:08:03.440 I don't think it's okay
00:08:04.400 And I'm gonna go for a divorce
00:08:05.760 And we get divorced
00:08:06.560 And we separate
00:08:07.200 Then you're selfish
00:08:08.640 And so
00:08:09.120 Yeah
00:08:09.360 I'm taking the children away
00:08:11.840 Because I don't want them
00:08:12.560 To be in a toxic relationship
00:08:14.160 That environment
00:08:15.680 And the dad shouldn't pay
00:08:17.840 Towards them in any way
00:08:19.200 No, you chose to leave
00:08:20.240 It's selfish
00:08:20.720 You broke up your home
00:08:21.760 Because you're not happy
00:08:22.800 And because you feel
00:08:23.520 Instead of figuring out
00:08:24.560 How to work it out
00:08:25.280 You're gonna leave
00:08:25.920 Break the home
00:08:26.400 Put your kid at every statistical
00:08:27.600 It's not one person
00:08:28.160 Put your kid at every statistical
00:08:29.760 Disadvantage
00:08:30.400 Because you can't figure out
00:08:31.280 How to work it out
00:08:32.240 You could also give the dad custody
00:08:33.920 You could also give the dad custody
00:08:35.040 If he's a better parent
00:08:37.120 If he's better equipped
00:08:38.240 But a lot of times
00:08:38.960 We see that
00:08:39.920 You know
00:08:40.480 Single dads 0.97
00:08:41.280 Raise children better than
00:08:42.400 Single women 1.00
00:08:43.520 So statistically
00:08:44.480 He would be the better parent
00:08:45.600 If he's equipped to do it
00:08:47.280 Yeah
00:08:47.440 There are loads of people
00:08:48.240 That don't want to
00:08:49.600 And yet straight away
00:08:51.440 We assume women 1.00
00:08:52.320 Inherently better
00:08:52.960 I agree with you on that
00:08:54.560 I think but there are also
00:08:55.840 Lots of men
00:08:56.640 That don't want to take on
00:08:58.880 The primary care of responsibility
00:09:01.120 And I think because
00:09:02.400 It generally falls onto the woman 1.00
00:09:04.960 To do that
00:09:05.840 I don't understand why
00:09:07.440 There would be men
00:09:08.320 That would be like
00:09:08.960 I'm not going to add
00:09:10.000 I'm not gonna add
00:09:11.040 The law set up for that
00:09:12.000 The law set up to give the woman 1.00
00:09:14.720 The win
00:09:15.200 When it comes to the child custody
00:09:16.640 Yeah
00:09:18.120 If the father is contesting it
00:09:21.040 Yeah
00:09:21.440 Once it goes to that
00:09:23.800 Yes that is definitely true
00:09:25.160 But even if he contests it
00:09:26.320 But there are loads of men
00:09:26.640 That don't even want to
00:09:27.720 To do joint custody
00:09:29.440 With their partners
00:09:30.520 If a man's getting
00:09:31.160 They are happy to do
00:09:31.960 Every other weekend
00:09:32.780 If a man's getting married 0.92
00:09:33.720 Chances are he wants to have children
00:09:35.440 And so the idea
00:09:37.240 That he wouldn't want to
00:09:38.020 Take care of those children
00:09:38.720 I think is just false
00:09:39.740 Because a lot of men
00:09:41.000 Actually complain that
00:09:41.580 They don't have a proper
00:09:42.780 Relationship with their children
00:09:43.400 Because they were working
00:09:44.120 Yeah I think
00:09:44.980 That's a great point
00:09:46.440 I think your argument
00:09:47.240 Of saying him being
00:09:47.860 The primary carer
00:09:49.100 Then yes
00:09:49.680 But in terms of co-parenting
00:09:50.880 I think most men
00:09:51.640 That get married
00:09:52.160 And have kids
00:09:52.760 Would like to co-parent 50-50
00:09:54.180 Yeah and the people
00:09:54.940 You're talking about
00:09:55.660 Are they actually married
00:09:56.480 Or are they just people
00:09:57.240 That ended up getting
00:09:58.200 Getting pregnant
00:09:59.260 By some guy
00:10:00.020 That she was sleeping with
00:10:00.980 And now all of a sudden
00:10:01.700 I didn't add in that
00:10:02.960 No but I'm saying
00:10:03.740 That's important
00:10:04.360 Because what they said is
00:10:05.360 If a man gets married 0.87
00:10:06.600 Most of the time
00:10:07.540 It's because he wants kids
00:10:08.220 Because if you don't want
00:10:09.240 Children as a man
00:10:09.880 There's no point in getting married
00:10:10.860 Why the hell would you do that
00:10:12.160 Having kids is the main point
00:10:12.860 I've been
00:10:13.180 If I get married
00:10:14.400 It will solely be 0.80
00:10:15.560 For my children
00:10:17.660 It won't be for no one else
00:10:18.820 It won't be for the woman 1.00
00:10:20.320 It won't be for me
00:10:20.980 But when that separates
00:10:21.320 But if that doesn't work out
00:10:23.560 And you separate
00:10:24.440 From the person
00:10:25.440 Would you not want to be involved
00:10:28.100 And actually financially
00:10:29.740 Providing for your child
00:10:31.380 Yep just like my dad did
00:10:33.020 My dad weren't paying child support
00:10:34.380 He bought everything for me
00:10:35.900 My school uniform
00:10:36.680 If I needed football boots
00:10:37.780 He paid for that
00:10:38.400 If I needed anything
00:10:39.340 And then he would give me money
00:10:40.740 Every weekend
00:10:41.620 To give my mum
00:10:42.640 To buy the food shopping
00:10:43.460 My dad paid for everything
00:10:44.600 But like my man
00:10:45.420 Didn't have to go through the courts
00:10:46.340 And talk about
00:10:46.860 You have to pay this amount
00:10:47.680 And that amount
00:10:48.120 If I needed anything
00:10:48.800 He paid for it
00:10:49.400 And I'll do the same thing
00:10:50.460 For my child
00:10:50.960 But I'm not giving you money
00:10:51.960 To go out with your brethren
00:10:52.900 And twerk bruv
00:10:54.120 I'm not doing that
00:10:54.780 If I'm financially
00:10:55.320 Financially reliable
00:10:56.660 For the child
00:10:57.180 There are certain rights
00:10:58.160 It should be given to me
00:10:58.720 And if you pick that woman 1.00
00:10:59.040 You should be held accountable
00:10:59.880 If I'm financially reliable
00:11:00.960 For a child
00:11:01.440 There are certain
00:11:02.120 Things that should be given to me
00:11:04.740 By the law
00:11:05.140 So I should have
00:11:06.440 A certain amount of hours
00:11:07.600 To see that child
00:11:08.180 If I'm paying for him
00:11:08.880 But that's not happening
00:11:09.700 Because if a woman has custody 1.00
00:11:11.680 She can say
00:11:12.120 No you're not seeing it
00:11:12.900 I agree with you
00:11:14.240 So my question is
00:11:15.200 How are men not held accountable
00:11:16.780 In this situation
00:11:17.620 Exactly the point
00:11:18.760 That he made out
00:11:19.500 That I'm not going to give her money
00:11:20.660 To go out to work in 0.97
00:11:21.740 On the weekend
00:11:22.600 If you have a child
00:11:23.940 With the woman 0.99
00:11:25.080 That is going to be the one
00:11:26.160 That's going out to work in
00:11:27.240 Take accountability
00:11:28.220 That you put your willy
00:11:29.280 In the wrong place
00:11:29.760 Okay okay
00:11:30.380 So he does
00:11:31.260 He is held accountable
00:11:33.480 Because now he does
00:11:34.580 Have a consequence
00:11:35.220 And that's it
00:11:35.680 So what is the woman's consequence 0.98
00:11:37.640 She has to be a mother 0.94
00:11:38.900 And bring up the child
00:11:39.540 No but she gets free money 0.99
00:11:40.780 Wait hold a minute
00:11:41.580 They're not free
00:11:42.720 Wait is a consequence
00:11:43.820 A kid
00:11:44.600 Bringing up a kid 0.72
00:11:45.440 For a woman
00:11:46.340 Because I thought
00:11:46.960 That's what she did
00:11:48.180 I thought women 1.00
00:11:48.600 Are maternal
00:11:49.520 So the idea of having a kid
00:11:51.480 Is something that
00:11:52.940 It should be treasured
00:11:54.080 Have a child
00:11:54.840 And let's talk about it
00:11:55.580 And also you chose
00:11:56.560 To have that child
00:11:57.520 Nobody just rang your doorbell
00:11:59.080 And said here you go
00:12:00.020 Either way
00:12:01.580 The whole point
00:12:02.660 Is that the women 1.00
00:12:03.400 Don't have a consequence
00:12:04.480 In this situation
00:12:05.400 Because they get child support
00:12:06.900 They get alimony
00:12:07.920 Money isn't the same
00:12:09.520 As bringing up the child
00:12:11.360 And they get custody
00:12:13.500 You're right
00:12:13.960 So and on top of that
00:12:14.980 The dude doesn't even
00:12:15.680 Get to see his kid as much
00:12:16.920 Well he should be
00:12:17.620 He should
00:12:18.080 But it's not
00:12:18.960 That's the whole point
00:12:20.160 And I'm not disagreeing
00:12:21.480 With you on that
00:12:22.040 I am like they should be
00:12:23.040 You're having a child anyway
00:12:23.240 Whether you get divorced or not
00:12:24.660 You're having a child
00:12:25.360 So you have to do all those things
00:12:26.340 Forget about the marriage thing
00:12:27.600 I'm talking about
00:12:28.200 Like two people
00:12:28.860 Just having a child together
00:12:29.860 If a woman's consequence 0.99
00:12:30.880 Is raising a child by herself
00:12:32.860 Is like saying
00:12:33.900 A man's consequence 0.99
00:12:34.700 For getting divorced
00:12:35.480 Is having to come home
00:12:36.480 From working
00:12:37.220 And he has to make food
00:12:38.560 For himself
00:12:39.060 How does that mean?
00:12:40.460 It's not even close
00:12:42.860 Because dreaming a child
00:12:44.620 Is very different
00:12:45.460 Than making a meal
00:12:46.240 Yeah but it's a choice
00:12:46.980 I'm saying that he's a choice
00:12:47.800 That he's a choice
00:12:47.820 That you made to have the child
00:12:48.700 But now he has to work and support himself
00:12:49.080 Through work
00:12:49.520 And that was a consequence of him
00:12:50.560 And then he's had a child out there
00:12:52.100 And he has to pay for the child
00:12:52.600 But if that man decided to get divorced
00:12:53.760 So if you guys are all saying
00:12:55.020 That men shouldn't be paying for their kids 1.00
00:12:56.980 Is that what you're saying?
00:12:57.840 No
00:12:57.980 It depends
00:12:58.620 I told you I'll pay for everything
00:13:00.640 He clearly said what men should be doing 0.87
00:13:02.140 I said I'll pay for everything
00:13:03.740 I said I'm not paying for you
00:13:04.860 To dutty wine though
00:13:05.720 I'm not doing that
00:13:06.580 I'm saying the man should be able
00:13:07.880 To pay for his kid
00:13:08.880 But I don't think the woman 1.00
00:13:09.820 Is entitled to his money
00:13:11.440 Just because
00:13:12.320 She got a kid off of him 1.00
00:13:13.860 And that incentivizes women 1.00
00:13:15.480 To have bad behavior
00:13:16.600 Like stealing a condom
00:13:17.900 And trying to get a kid off 0.96
00:13:19.140 But you're going into that
00:13:21.280 If the money is coming
00:13:22.700 Into the woman's account
00:13:23.920 That she is going to be using it badly
00:13:26.060 They often do
00:13:27.260 This is a common complaint
00:13:28.820 This is a common complaint
00:13:30.040 I hear from men
00:13:31.220 But how would they know?
00:13:33.380 Maybe
00:13:33.900 That's the solution
00:13:35.300 Okay
00:13:35.620 The accountability is
00:13:37.100 That you should know
00:13:38.160 Where your money is going
00:13:40.180 So wouldn't the man know
00:13:42.040 Where the money is going
00:13:42.940 If he spent it on the kid?
00:13:44.640 Yeah
00:13:44.880 Right
00:13:46.460 So shouldn't the man be able
00:13:48.340 To decide where his money goes?
00:13:50.500 And should he be able
00:13:51.140 He's going to do like the shopping
00:13:53.160 He's going to buy the clothes
00:13:55.100 He's going to pay for the school fees
00:13:56.560 Whatever it is
00:13:57.420 That the money
00:13:58.080 That would be going into
00:13:58.960 The woman's account
00:13:59.600 If he does that
00:14:01.200 There's online shopping
00:14:01.960 You know
00:14:02.280 Just send me the food shop
00:14:03.320 Send me the boots
00:14:04.000 Reimbursement
00:14:04.480 Reimbursement gang
00:14:06.160 I have no problems with that
00:14:08.060 Reimbursement gang
00:14:08.640 100%
00:14:09.320 Because then you live to your means
00:14:10.680 That way
00:14:11.120 Right
00:14:11.440 But I'm saying
00:14:11.860 Why is she entitled 1.00
00:14:12.820 To child support?
00:14:13.940 Why can't the man
00:14:14.580 Just spend the money on his own?
00:14:17.180 The child support
00:14:18.460 Should be
00:14:19.120 For the child
00:14:20.180 Yeah
00:14:20.580 And that should be how it is
00:14:22.340 However
00:14:22.760 Between the two of you
00:14:24.160 You go through your accountability
00:14:25.360 That you are going to pay for this
00:14:27.080 Or it's going to go into my account
00:14:29.020 And I'm paying for it this way
00:14:30.320 There should be child support 0.58
00:14:32.280 For the child to be supportive
00:14:33.980 Well shouldn't it just be
00:14:34.920 From either side
00:14:35.440 But shouldn't it just be 50-50 0.80
00:14:36.820 50-50 custody
00:14:38.160 And then 50-50
00:14:39.060 They pay when it's at the mom's house 0.99
00:14:40.340 In the best case scenario
00:14:41.140 I think that is exactly how it should be
00:14:43.740 It depends on the pay bracket
00:14:45.620 Exactly how it should be
00:14:46.660 But even with
00:14:47.360 Because if you broke up
00:14:48.240 And he was the higher earner
00:14:49.220 The 50-50 0.96
00:14:50.160 You might want to have
00:14:51.340 An elevator
00:14:52.360 But why are you entitled
00:14:53.440 To a better lifestyle?
00:14:54.700 No no I'm saying
00:14:55.140 For the child
00:14:55.780 But I'm saying
00:14:56.700 For the child
00:14:57.140 Say you're saying
00:14:57.780 The 50-50 0.96
00:14:58.580 When the child's there
00:15:00.020 With the mom
00:15:00.520 It should be paid for
00:15:01.240 Bro I know what you're saying
00:15:02.220 But then
00:15:02.700 I'll just be like
00:15:03.340 You know what bro
00:15:04.080 Mommy's broke fam
00:15:05.100 That's life
00:15:05.640 When you're here
00:15:07.560 It's live innit
00:15:08.940 When you go home
00:15:09.760 It's beans on toast
00:15:10.680 Yeah that's it
00:15:11.460 This is what it is
00:15:12.200 And then he's going to want
00:15:12.820 To stay with me
00:15:13.560 That's not a benefit
00:15:14.820 But that doesn't matter
00:15:16.200 The benefit would have been
00:15:17.080 Her not leaving
00:15:17.660 In the first place
00:15:18.420 But now you've left
00:15:19.360 Worry about what you're doing
00:15:20.920 You're punishing
00:15:21.400 You're punishing the woman 0.99
00:15:22.340 No no no no
00:15:23.740 I'm not punishing the child
00:15:26.460 Because the child
00:15:27.160 Can come stay with me
00:15:27.840 Whenever they want
00:15:28.480 I'm not punishing the child
00:15:29.920 Because your mom left me bro
00:15:31.020 Like it's not your fault
00:15:31.980 But you know
00:15:32.380 You always got a house here
00:15:33.300 So if you want to stay here
00:15:34.260 Five days
00:15:34.720 Daddy got five day money
00:15:35.920 It's not like
00:15:36.540 If you're poor
00:15:37.440 Like you're
00:15:38.260 What's wrong with that?
00:15:39.340 Yeah there's nothing
00:15:39.820 There's nothing wrong
00:15:40.600 With that evil
00:15:41.060 Yeah
00:15:41.440 I'm just saying
00:15:42.620 I think inadvertently
00:15:44.800 You may be punishing
00:15:46.180 Through punishing your wife 0.95
00:15:48.000 For like saying
00:15:48.820 Look I'm the better parent
00:15:50.220 You may punish the child
00:15:51.700 Exactly
00:15:52.200 In the way he sees his parent
00:15:53.800 The wife is inherently punished 1.00
00:15:55.060 But he will see his mother
00:15:57.480 As less than
00:15:58.560 His fault
00:15:59.360 And that's what I was on the scene
00:16:00.100 Because
00:16:00.500 No no no
00:16:02.000 Why would you put that on your kid?
00:16:03.920 Okay but then
00:16:04.780 She should get a job
00:16:05.740 Like the men have to
00:16:06.920 Go get it
00:16:07.480 You can work
00:16:08.420 That's true
00:16:09.220 Because this is what I'm saying though
00:16:10.020 Like the woman is 0.99
00:16:10.780 Inherently punishing the child
00:16:12.260 By divorcing them anyway
00:16:13.000 Yes
00:16:13.380 So if
00:16:14.300 There's two wrongs
00:16:15.820 Make a right
00:16:16.220 She's now in a situation
00:16:18.000 Where she can't afford
00:16:19.360 The same lifestyle
00:16:19.980 That her husband can
00:16:20.720 That's on her
00:16:21.660 Yeah
00:16:22.020 She's not entitled 0.65
00:16:22.940 To the lifestyle
00:16:23.440 So we're going to exasperate
00:16:24.660 The poor decision
00:16:25.280 Are we just going to
00:16:25.800 Keep that one
00:16:26.280 Yeah we can't be ignorant
00:16:27.440 We can't be ignorant
00:16:27.460 Of the effects
00:16:29.260 That's on the kids
00:16:29.720 Because we all know
00:16:30.720 The statistics of
00:16:31.780 What happens to children
00:16:32.800 When the nuclear family 0.87
00:16:35.160 Breaks down
00:16:35.660 So we can't be
00:16:37.160 Like egotistical
00:16:38.600 Ignorant of the facts
00:16:39.540 Of knowing the effect
00:16:40.480 It's going to have on the child
00:16:41.240 So we still need to maintain
00:16:42.360 The stability of the kids upbringing
00:16:43.880 Whilst doing what else
00:16:45.600 Needs to be done
00:16:46.220 I'm saying there should be
00:16:47.500 No incentive
00:16:48.540 For the woman to leave 1.00
00:16:49.820 None
00:16:50.320 Like none
00:16:51.660 But I'm saying
00:16:52.460 With child support
00:16:53.460 There is an incentive
00:16:54.680 Because that money
00:16:56.700 Can elevate the life
00:16:58.000 Her lifestyle
00:16:58.780 Why is she entitled 1.00
00:17:00.240 To his money
00:17:01.060 But correct me if I'm wrong
00:17:02.100 But the model
00:17:02.520 We were talking about now
00:17:03.700 Was if the man
00:17:04.740 Were to pay for
00:17:05.840 Even just for the child
00:17:07.040 The money
00:17:07.540 Let's assume that
00:17:08.360 The money is going to the child
00:17:09.560 While the child
00:17:11.120 Is living with the mom
00:17:11.920 You were saying
00:17:13.060 That he shouldn't pay
00:17:14.140 But I'm saying
00:17:14.640 If it is going to the child
00:17:15.920 While he's the child
00:17:16.840 With the parent
00:17:17.740 There shouldn't be
00:17:18.400 Because you're taking away
00:17:19.200 The consequence
00:17:19.740 Of the expensive cost
00:17:21.180 Of a child
00:17:21.720 For the woman
00:17:22.260 You're again
00:17:22.660 Making it easier
00:17:23.460 For her to leave
00:17:24.600 But you're trying to
00:17:25.380 She's left now
00:17:26.160 So I'm trying to benefit
00:17:26.900 My child
00:17:27.260 It should be a choice
00:17:28.020 She's already gone
00:17:28.300 She's already made
00:17:28.960 That bad decision
00:17:29.540 So then if the man
00:17:30.400 Wants to do that
00:17:31.120 He should be freely
00:17:32.200 Able to
00:17:32.740 If he wants
00:17:33.740 He shouldn't be legally
00:17:34.640 Forced
00:17:35.220 For her bad decision
00:17:36.560 I think most men
00:17:38.800 Want to take care
00:17:39.540 For their kids
00:17:40.280 And if it ends amicably
00:17:41.420 Most guys
00:17:42.180 They're going to do
00:17:43.120 What's best for the child
00:17:44.240 What I'm saying
00:17:45.080 Is there shouldn't be
00:17:45.580 A gun to his side
00:17:46.460 Saying you have to
00:17:47.700 Pay your baby mama 0.98
00:17:48.600 Who destroyed your home
00:17:49.740 Especially if he has access
00:17:51.120 Most of the time
00:17:51.840 When I hear guys
00:17:52.420 Ain't trying to pay no money
00:17:53.280 It's because
00:17:53.500 They can't see their kids
00:17:54.400 That's why
00:17:55.560 Do you know what I'm saying
00:17:56.460 I don't hear men 1.00
00:17:57.080 I don't hear men 1.00
00:17:57.100 That have their kids 0.94
00:17:57.600 All the time
00:17:57.980 Saying I ain't giving no money
00:17:59.000 Like I don't hear that
00:18:00.080 So if the guy's got that access
00:18:01.520 And he's got the 50% custody
00:18:03.420 I'm sure he won't mind
00:18:04.340 Handing over the bread
00:18:05.520 And also
00:18:06.420 If a man's making 0.79
00:18:07.240 A lot more than a woman 1.00
00:18:08.180 Yeah
00:18:08.500 Why is that not
00:18:10.180 Taken into account
00:18:10.960 Yeah
00:18:11.180 When they're doing custody
00:18:12.400 In the first place
00:18:13.020 Because you're talking
00:18:13.560 About the standard
00:18:14.720 As many of you know
00:18:15.740 I was just banned
00:18:16.980 On TikTok
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