JustPearlyThings - November 16, 2023


She DEMOLISHED Feminist Deception for Fat-Chicks


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In this episode, we talk about confidence, beauty standards, and why we should all be a 10 out of 10. We also talk about the beauty standards society has placed on women, and how we view them.

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00:00:00.000 um a lot of ass a lot of yeah it was a lot of everything a lot of everything anyways so i went 0.95
00:00:08.000 around and asked people to rank themselves one to ten and the most common answer i got from women 0.89
00:00:13.840 was i'm a ten i'm a ten i'm a ten and to me like a ten is that you're perfect um which to me is a
00:00:20.960 little bit narcissistic so why why are people so quick to say that they're a ten oh i mean you have
00:00:29.120 to kind of think that like people will always be drawn to confidence you can't just go around
00:00:36.960 saying i mean i mean even if you are like subjectively a i don't know five six maybe um
00:00:45.440 you can't you can't let everyone know that you have to be like no listen i'm a ten
00:00:50.000 you don't think it's delusion i think confidence is sexy so even if you aren't like objectively or
00:00:55.840 conventionally attractive someone that is very charming is still seen as attractive or just
00:01:00.880 charming in general but it's not like true confidence or is it just arrogance i don't think
00:01:05.600 it's arrogance because i don't think having confidence makes you arrogant but it's like why
00:01:09.520 are they confident so if they know that they're not they don't really feel that they're a ten but
00:01:13.280 they're just saying that they're a ten it's a good point i guess it's more than like attractiveness as
00:01:18.560 in how you look it's almost like i feel confident in myself you cannot be like you might have like
00:01:24.400 pimples or like scars on your face but if you're a confident person you can still be a ten no
00:01:30.400 wouldn't you say that means you have no room to improve i think i understand what you mean but i
00:01:35.680 feel like um i don't really like this idea of like humans having to constantly improve themselves
00:01:42.160 because it means that we're in like a perpetual state of not enough i feel like it's kind of good
00:01:46.720 that some people have accepted like oh i'm just good as i am because then you know it's a happy state
00:01:52.000 to be in yeah but you could be good as you are as a five that's not an insult that's average you
00:01:57.280 know yeah there'll always be someone that will uh like you yeah there's someone for everyone definitely
00:02:04.240 you think they're so afraid
00:02:08.240 there's more there's more women on the planet than men 1.00
00:02:11.520 yeah so like by the numbers there's not some people get left behind you know what i mean
00:02:15.600 um so um i have a clip for us to react to where we kind of dives into this a little bit blessing
00:02:26.640 pull up the first clip i i kept my original stance yeah this one so this was you can see how far the
00:02:33.520 show's come because this was an old show but it started from the beginning blessing
00:02:36.880 yeah yeah started from the i don't know why it started there yeah
00:02:47.600 11 if like being a 10 is you're perfect so do you do you think you're perfect no i think there's beauty
00:02:56.560 and imperfection you know perfection is not uh why are you talking over me
00:03:02.080 not out to this glamour and beauty and there's a difference anywhere just go chill i believe that
00:03:07.840 i'm an 11 out of 10 just because i'm and i'm allowed to do that way and no i genuinely believe
00:03:14.800 i was not done talking um i genuinely believe that perfection is not real but there's beauty and
00:03:20.960 imperfection and i think no like you're you're you're very attractive like i think you're like i think
00:03:26.480 you're attractive but but but no no but wait wait wait can you let me finish so what i'm saying
00:03:32.480 like like to me i would never say i'm a 10 because like a 10 is like perfect and i don't think i'm
00:03:38.320 perfect so i get like is that but we were saying looks wise right yeah and i genuinely see myself as
00:03:45.440 genuinely beautiful i genuinely see myself as someone who is a goddess because at the end of the day
00:03:52.640 society is what decides on beauty standards right right and i can i don't have to follow
00:04:00.640 that beauty standard right i genuinely believe that i'm beautiful yeah well and i'm not taking
00:04:05.040 that away from you i just like i just could i just could i just could never say like i wouldn't say
00:04:09.680 you're perfect do you know what i mean yeah yeah and that's and that's what i mean so i'm just playing
00:04:15.040 around yeah i think i'm really a 10 out of 10 like genuinely i feel like i'm a 10 out of 10.
00:04:19.120 yeah i take care of myself what has given you that uh my looks we were only talking about looks
00:04:25.440 we weren't talking about personality or skill or anything like that is is that based on the way
00:04:30.000 people have treated you throughout your life no this is based on how i was raised and how i view myself
00:04:34.800 and how i've worked hard to see the beauty that i deserve to see so you i worked so you see an 11 out
00:04:41.360 of 10 beauty i would bro it's a joke well okay okay but we could say 10 out of 10. yeah yeah yeah
00:04:47.600 like i just said i consider myself a 10 out of 10 for sure so you think you're up there with so who
00:04:52.960 would you see in like the media that's like a 10 out of 10 women why are we going based off of media 1.00
00:04:57.680 people no like why does that matter well because that was based on society's beauty standards and 1.00
00:05:02.320 what they think is a 10 out of 10. well because that like society's beauty but i don't give a
00:05:06.080 fuck about society that's the key here is that i i have my own viewpoint right like okay so who would 0.53
00:05:12.640 you class as a 10 out of 10. why does that matter well because like in order in order to scale someone
00:05:19.120 one to ten someone has to not be a 10. right so so so i fully agree with that yeah and so but i'm not
00:05:24.800 but we asked what i think i am what he thinks he is what you think you are i'm not going based off of
00:05:31.120 anybody else except for what i see in the mirror right so but then like that almost wouldn't be a
00:05:35.840 scale that like because then you have no way to measure okay so it's like your way of rebelling
00:05:41.120 against the scale almost forget rebellion it's just genuinely how i feel right and i'm not saying like
00:05:47.200 i like again like i think i think you're beautiful yeah and i genuinely think you're beautiful too
00:05:51.600 so i think it's just for you to say that you're a five out of ten right but i just think i live
00:05:55.440 like in compared to you then are you comparing her to you because you're a 10. no i'm not making
00:05:59.360 comparisons i'm telling her in her own right she is beautiful so you would say she's a 10 then yes 0.80
00:06:05.760 but like in her own right but i just think if i was if i was a 10 i would have had modeling
00:06:10.080 but do you know what i'm saying like i think if i was like a 10 right then i would have had
00:06:25.920 modeling i would have had modeling contracts by now i would have had people i would have had results
00:06:30.000 to show that i'm i would have had nfl nba players but remember that's all based on beauty standards
00:06:35.760 that are set by that's based on reality i do like that's society that's reality and like but i don't
00:06:42.480 see the same way that other people do though yeah let me ask the question do you think there's an
00:06:46.560 objective beauty standard yes can you describe objective to me as in like what the baseline okay
00:06:55.600 something like an objective society beauty standards so for example art is there good art or is all art the
00:07:01.760 same i feel like that's kind of different because art art is also something that's all about
00:07:07.280 perspective subjective yeah it's objective yeah to do but in in in if you look at medieval buildings
00:07:13.760 especially americans notice this when they come here they love our ancient architecture right compared
00:07:18.800 to their standard so there is a standard and like a stick figure versus like picasso
00:07:24.720 i guess um when it comes to that you know art is something that you put time and skill and detail
00:07:32.400 into i can't really say the same for people because my point is that as as genuinely human beings can
00:07:40.000 identify what's beauty and what's not okay so what is your reaction to this clip
00:07:47.280 what he was saying about um you know we have ideas about what's beautiful now i do i do think i'm
00:07:56.480 pretty sure like your brain is kind of programmed to recognize certain things as more aesthetically
00:08:05.120 pleasing and even though it's subjective it's i'm pretty sure there's even like certain measurements of
00:08:11.200 a specific type of face that humans are more um find more symmetry yeah like that yeah there's been
00:08:20.480 things like studies about women with like neotenic faces like baby faces that men tend to find more
00:08:26.240 attractive and babies like stare stare at for longer so i do feel like there is an objective um scale of
00:08:32.400 attractiveness that you can judge people on obviously it's not like cross-cultural like maybe
00:08:37.440 in the east it's different but i feel like in the west you can definitely say a person you could
00:08:41.360 write a person on a scale based on what collectively in the west people think and you could like rate
00:08:47.520 that on one to ten do you believe that beauty is in the eye of the a holder the eye of the beholder
00:08:55.200 i guess so because someone in east asia might not find um someone in the west attractive um so it really
00:09:02.560 depends on that person like what they grew up with like what they grew up was um what they their
00:09:08.800 society grew up with that's attractive would affect how they would perceive the person so it's like
00:09:13.840 pictures of people that you might not find attractive in like medieval times but back then people would
00:09:17.840 like kill themselves or done crazy things just to be with this person but like now we're looking like
00:09:22.320 oh i don't see the attraction there so i definitely feel like it's definitely a subjective experience
00:09:27.520 experience what do you think yeah no i definitely feel that way as well i also think um your taste
00:09:36.240 changes as you get older what you might find attractive and what you're drawn to initially
00:09:41.440 initially when you're younger will ultimately change as you get older um you might go for like the
00:09:49.440 the obvious pick but then as you get older you might start thinking
00:09:53.200 so different things are more beautiful do you think that's for men or for women oh
00:10:01.440 because because that sounds like a woman's point of view not necessarily a man's like i think yeah i
00:10:06.240 think when we get older we're like well we don't necessarily need these things but men i it seems
00:10:12.800 like they just like hot likes me yeah they're more uh visually yeah motivated than us yeah but like
00:10:19.520 they're more primal than like women like i don't know she hot in there yeah but it's kind of cute 1.00
00:10:25.280 because like some women like oh like i want my man to have a nice job to be so intelligent but i go 1.00
00:10:30.400 like oh i think you're cute and that's kind of enough for some what do you think is beauty in the eye
00:10:35.600 of the beholder um i yes in the term in in the um when we're thinking about character so i think
00:10:45.520 personally for me i i write myself a four physically really what yeah definitely not four
00:10:55.840 but but i genuinely like it doesn't bother me i'm just i'm very objective about it i i
00:11:00.240 rate myself a four however i honestly believe what we're missing today is like uh everybody's saying
00:11:07.280 that what it appears to be everybody's saying oh i'm a 10 i'm a 10 but they misconstrued it in
00:11:11.440 terms of their personality everything as a package they're a 10 so there is no room for improvement
00:11:17.840 and um i mean i'm thinking about like at what point does humility come in uh you know it seems like
00:11:24.960 non-existent therefore they won't really do any you know introspection and are they self-aware and all
00:11:30.720 that stuff so i'm just saying just saying you're a 10 it's just it's problematic but from what i'm saying
00:11:36.320 is that um so i think i'm a four but with my personality and everything and my character all
00:11:42.240 these very important things they kind of make the package they make the person and these are the ways
00:11:47.360 that people fall in love um you know with somebody's character so i think that's what they're
00:11:53.920 fundamentally missing when they just say they're a 10 okay so you're a 10 but what about your
00:11:58.640 personality i'm a 10 there as well i'm just perfect all around which just comes across as arrogance to me
00:12:07.120 what do you guys think of the body positivity movement
00:12:12.160 in terms of what do you think it's good for society no it isn't what why well uh whose whose body
00:12:23.280 are we saying that it's that that they're fine like what what what change has have we seen
00:12:29.600 i don't know i'm just i just wanted to know how you think uh well for example like i think about a
00:12:34.560 while ago i saw uh a clearly obese woman uh on the cover of a magazine i can't remember what 1.00
00:12:40.880 magazine it was but then they said very clearly this is healthy and i'm just like are they trying
00:12:45.840 to manipulate me into thinking that that's healthy and she was in sportswear but clearly she's not
00:12:51.520 it's like clearly you ain't going to the gym i i know right and she's been on the treadmill in a 0.79
00:12:56.240 mitt like come on but but what what i find generally heartbreaking is that okay yes i'm
00:13:01.360 i'm physically slim right so people are gonna be like oh you're just like fat shaming but i
00:13:05.600 genuinely have concerns for her so when i see people who are like oh yeah girl you're a 10 sorry
00:13:10.720 i can't speak like that i'm terrible but yeah yeah you know yes queen and i'm like i'm it breaks my
00:13:17.200 heart i'm just like you don't care about her you're not telling her you're not encouraging her
00:13:21.360 to change you know there's a risk of diabetes are they saying um diabetes is a 10 are they saying
00:13:25.920 asthma is a 10 i'm saying depression is a 10 uh so yeah you can say yeah you're a 10 but no one's
00:13:31.520 there when she's crying all alone and she has all these health problems what happens to all that
00:13:36.960 energy then and it is really heartbreaking as soon and and i've seen plenty of people who have been
00:13:43.120 obese and they've uh you know they made tiktoks and stuff and they say um on the tiktok uh i've done
00:13:49.040 this to myself or i'm going to take responsibility and then you see their progression and they're so much
00:13:54.640 happier and they're not in that delusion and somebody who genuinely cares about you will
00:13:59.840 tell you the ugly truth but they are telling you they're not telling you a beautiful lie
00:14:04.160 and that's what you want from a friend and that's what we should have in society if you have everybody's
00:14:08.240 like oh yeah you're fine yeah you're fine yeah you're fine um it's actually really unfair and i'm
00:14:13.840 just thinking like in a way i think it's really sinister because if i was fat and my friend told me
00:14:19.280 you're fine i'm like she doesn't give a shit about me she really doesn't she would have told me 0.94
00:14:23.280 this is you're actually ill you're not well and the moment i get on that treadmill and she's there
00:14:27.840 by my side you know championing me on i'm like what that is a friend so the moment i see people are
00:14:33.680 like encouraging very unhealthy behavior uh it really does genuinely break my heart and i i just
00:14:40.320 like my genetics or whatever is you know people say oh you're slim you can afford to say that
00:14:46.400 no i genuinely care about people and i encourage them and when i see people obviously are
00:14:51.680 yeah it really questions um it makes me question their motives like you have an agenda why are you
00:14:57.440 you know encouraging clearly unhealthy behavior and is that why you don't agree you don't think
00:15:02.640 the body positivity team movement is positive no i i well it's false body positivity because it's saying
00:15:10.560 you're fine the way you are and there is no you know improve there is no uh they're not we're not
00:15:16.560 championing improvement is what i'm saying okay i think that's a good point that you made um but i
00:15:22.800 would like to like draw upon like the opposite side of that like obviously with body positivity it's not
00:15:26.160 just about um like weight it's about like skin texture skin color yeah but that's like one of the
00:15:31.440 biggest things i've seen you you've seen more between like weight yeah i don't i don't really see skin
00:15:37.200 texture skin color marks that kind of thing or like people that don't shave people hairier
00:15:44.000 yeah i mean i don't want to see that why are they putting that i miss the days when models would
00:15:52.240 make me feel bad about myself and i would put their picture on the treadmill and i'd start running
00:15:58.400 i didn't bring them back i think you've got to find a balance because if you go to the other end of the
00:16:03.680 spectrum and someone's really underweight and it's being advertised it's it's not gonna that's not
00:16:10.720 so great i think you are you will ultimately ultimately you are fine the way you are because
00:16:15.760 i don't think no one can tell you anything obviously if you're having these health issues
00:16:19.440 then definitely needs to be addressed but um yeah to be honest with you so you think you're fine the way
00:16:26.480 you are at 300 pounds not necessarily you're not i do think you should you should definitely do
00:16:33.520 something about that but i think it's about being realistic if these types of things are being shown
00:16:40.160 on media then i think it should be shown in a way to show that listen whether it's bad or good uh there
00:16:47.440 are people like this and they're still part of society etc etc it doesn't it doesn't it doesn't deem you uh
00:16:52.720 uh a certain way in a negative way if that makes sense don't you think it normalizes it
00:17:00.320 because shouldn't obesity not be normal shouldn't it be abnormal isn't that what we should want i think
00:17:05.440 obesity shouldn't be the norm but i do feel like there are people that are just going to be bigger
00:17:10.000 there's people going to be smaller regardless like if we put everyone on the same diet people will
00:17:14.240 still be different sizes but not like morbidly i did say like not obese i said like people are going
00:17:20.000 to be different sizes i think um it'd be interesting if body positivity went in the in the way in the
00:17:24.720 direction that we're like okay they're going to be people that are different sizes and they're still
00:17:28.960 a part of society they still should be respected we still need to treat them like humans i think
00:17:32.800 that's kind of what the direction it should have gone in instead of like normalizing um being morbidly
00:17:37.840 obese i think that's what your point but i but i think people will say when you say all shapes and
00:17:41.600 sizes they will put in morbidly obese like that's fine unless you explicitly say except morbidly obese but
00:17:46.880 then you will be you know shamed for fat shaming no like i mean like genetically like you're going
00:17:52.720 to be shorter i might be taller someone might be i don't i don't want to say that use the term big
00:17:57.120 boned because it doesn't really make sense but some people are going to be broader and have wider
00:18:00.800 shoulders like this is like the reason why a lot of people pursue different sports um you just built
00:18:05.360 different you know regardless of diet and how how you train you can't really change your genetics by
00:18:11.280 that much certain people achieve certain muscle formations that certain people won't have
00:18:15.440 yeah i want to show you guys um something that i saw on twitter today i'm gonna blessing this is
00:18:22.560 i'm gonna send it to you you may send it on instagram yeah because it's an extra one i don't think it's
00:18:29.760 like normal to the extent here let me uh okay i saw a picture on twitter today that was like a beach
00:18:41.600 from the 70s or like it was before the 70s maybe 60s 50s and obesity really wasn't normal then if you
00:18:48.000 go to a third world country it's not normal even even like there weren't even really overweight people 0.97
00:18:54.320 um and so i feel like when you put them on the cover of magazines it's like you're saying
00:19:00.640 find like find me attractive you must find me attractive and when you're like uh not really like
00:19:07.520 i wouldn't want to look like that ever at all not even a little bit and they say you're body shaming
00:19:13.680 but it's just like honest do you know what i have more issue with i don't really have an issue with
00:19:18.080 putting someone that's larger in front of a magazine i have more of an issue with like the magazine's
00:19:22.640 intentions because a lot of these big magazines have promoted like hyper skinny or underweight women 1.00
00:19:28.320 for like the past 10 years or past decades before and then just to put a larger woman in front of the 1.00
00:19:33.360 magazine all of a sudden is like yeah let's just forget all the past women we promoted before and 0.99
00:19:39.200 this is the new standard of beauty i don't really like that kind of narrative where like okay we're
00:19:43.200 just going to switch up now and this is what we support when that's really not what they're about
00:19:48.240 what do you what do you mean because like let's say you use like like marilyn monroe she wasn't 1.00
00:19:53.440 underweight and she was like a pinnacle of beauty yeah but she's like one woman yeah i think that's the 1.00
00:19:59.600 exception not the rule when it comes to everybody had that hourglass figure that's why it's so iconic
00:20:04.960 yeah i feel like that was like because of the fashion at the time if you look at the kind of
00:20:08.400 the dresses that they wear it's very like skirts are very high-waisted and it's very tight at this
00:20:12.800 point i think it's more to the fashion and emulating this type of style also the body type followed
00:20:18.160 if you look more towards the 80s they're more sporty wear some women are a bit more like 1.00
00:20:22.160 fitter more athletic looking i think we kind of the bodies followed the fashion so like now you can
00:20:27.200 see like low-wasted clothing coming into fashion women going to want to be a bit more skinner skinnier 1.00
00:20:31.600 or thinner you see kim kardashian taking her implants out to follow that kind of fashion trend that's 0.75
00:20:35.680 going to come in wow okay yeah like y2k you might have heard of it like a lot of that kind of fashion
00:20:41.760 is coming back so a lot of people are going to try and be skinnier to match that fashion i think like
00:20:46.160 fashion and the way people want to dress and look like kind of follow each other yeah yeah but and it's
00:20:52.400 silly because why change your body for a micro trend just be healthy you know but it's it's it's how
00:20:58.960 it's how it goes i just think hourglass has always been like maryland like even if you look at audrey
00:21:04.080 hepper and there's another like i like i think it's not i think the hip to waist ratio yeah you can
00:21:09.600 be very thin and still have an hourglass figure because you've got really wide hips and a small like
00:21:13.440 rib cage yeah but you're not going to be like marilyn monroe marilyn roe was uh no i i agree with you i think
00:21:19.760 she wasn't very thin but she had that shape yeah like i think there's a difference between 1.00
00:21:25.520 like you know saying like we have different body types but either way like no no one's turning down
00:21:31.600 jennifer aniston and she's built more like square she was a pinnacle of beauty in the early 2000s 1.00
00:21:37.280 she's not she doesn't have that hourglass you know shape but you know in the same era like kim 1.00
00:21:43.200 kardashian was also beautiful like i think it's just like thin thinner oh this is the picture
00:21:49.440 from like the like look at it there's not really obesity back then everyone's balling what is this
00:21:55.200 in america is there a picture of are you going to do is there is there more than one i thought there
00:22:00.880 was like three oh it would have been good to have a contrast everybody kind of looks the same yeah
00:22:07.760 that's what i'm saying like everyone was thin for the most part so it's almost like we're normalizing
00:22:14.320 something that shouldn't be normal yeah and saying find me a try like that's and my other issue is
00:22:20.560 that people that are overweight feel like they can't be made fun of just like everyone else oh something
00:22:25.680 crazy happened to me the other day so i was in like a market in greenwich and i wanted to buy some
00:22:30.000 jeans and i was like there's like a way of trying them on like using your neck to see if it fits your
00:22:34.480 waist it's like a cool hack like you go around your neck and if it fits then it fits you interesting
00:22:38.800 and i ended up buying these jeans and like they fit and the woman's like oh they look great on you i was like 0.67
00:22:42.720 oh perfect i'm gonna buy them and i'm walking away and the woman shouts i hate skinny people 1.00
00:22:48.720 so imagine like i was just thinking yeah yeah like in a joke way but like i just thought to myself
00:22:53.680 like no one really makes the reverse of that joke and always like cliche to say you say i hate fat
00:22:57.680 people people be like yeah like no one batted an eyelid yeah but i feel like we've really normalized
00:23:03.840 i don't know like these back like side comments towards women that are a lot thinner and i feel like
00:23:09.600 we can't really talk about people that are obese the same way as we used to the transparency is gone
00:23:14.960 i feel everything's sugar-coated now anyways yeah i feel like if when someone tells you oh like
00:23:21.920 you've lost weight like it still has that same i just feel like it's the same way of saying oh like
00:23:31.040 you're fat now i'd be like oh i'd feel a bit like insecure like yeah no my parents don't really hold
00:23:36.800 back i'm not gonna lie me either i'm like but i feel like it was good for me though like i i think
00:23:43.680 i would have been like i've always been the type to like struggle like i've had to work really hard
00:23:48.080 because i eat really bad like i'm an athlete so it kind of evens out but like like honestly my mom
00:23:54.560 when i was younger would she would she would fashion me a little bit she'd be like oh you got your 0.92
00:23:58.560 but honestly like it hurt at the time but i'm so glad she did i got on the treadmill
00:24:03.920 i think there's definitely something that is important of like a parent
00:24:07.440 being like honest with their like son or daughter especially if they get into like a place that's
00:24:11.120 unhealthy i think um it's a shame because a lot of children are abuse like obese in childhood never
00:24:17.600 really lose um will stay obese for the rest of life and then they have problems with diabetes they
00:24:22.080 die earlier and i feel like if that was just addressed like when they were young if that honestly
00:24:26.800 like like your mother like maybe not fat shaming but just you know i'm gonna help you with your
00:24:30.640 health that conversation with heart i think would really improve like health in general i feel like
00:24:35.600 fat shaming was the best way to do it you look fat if it comes from a place of love yeah why not
00:24:41.520 if it's someone you know you may not know then it's just like sorry how dare you but if it's
00:24:46.000 someone like if your family it's different yeah yeah of course like why why not it's the truth it's not
00:24:50.720 like because being fat i mean it's not it doesn't have to be negative like unless you're obese and
00:24:58.000 you have actual health problems ultimately perhaps you need to change something in your life if you
00:25:03.120 feel like you're gaining too much weight but if someone's telling you are like listen i feel like
00:25:08.000 um you've put on a bit too much or it's just like oh yeah no i know i know i've realized as well
00:25:14.880 it's nothing it's nothing uh too personal you shouldn't feel so attacked okay blessing do the
00:25:23.040 second clip the i'm a 10 one yeah that one
00:25:28.880 girls are objective or do you think they think they're hotter than they are 1.00
00:25:46.640 or do they underrate themselves go around personally i think it depends on the person because growing
00:25:51.600 up i'm obviously not skinny hi everyone i'm not skinny so growing up i was never the beauty standard
00:25:57.040 for anyone so like all my friends were getting chatted out by people blah blah blah blah and i
00:26:02.000 was just the other one you know so like i never really thought of myself as an attractive person
00:26:08.640 like i would never call myself anything more than a thought but now like i don't really care about
00:26:15.760 what anyone thinks about me like i've grown into myself and i've i've i'm comfortable with who i am now
00:26:20.640 that like even if you guys call me delusion or whatever i think i'm maybe not a 10 let's not go
00:26:27.520 that far but like definitely an eight per so like whether you guys think i am or not
00:26:35.440 that's got nothing to do with her but like yeah what is it that took you from a four to an eight
00:26:40.640 if nothing's changed what is it that takes loving myself and and looking in the mirror and not
00:26:46.480 being disgusted at what i see i understand that yeah so but that doesn't you're you're not necessarily
00:26:52.320 being objective about how other people view you right because isn't that what a rating really is
00:26:57.200 like what you think the vast majority of people like like if i rated myself one to ten i give myself a
00:27:01.280 five i think i'm normal looking and i just think it's based on my results i think if i was an eight
00:27:05.840 nine or ten i would have had modeling contracts because people in the top 20 of beauty they get they get 0.93
00:27:10.400 modeling contracts so what is beauty i mean there's a lot of things like if you i mean you
00:27:17.520 can you can go online and have people rate your pictures and they rank you one to ten that's wild
00:27:22.720 and and so you can get you can get a lot of data that says how attractive you are in society
00:27:27.200 and men will rate you women will rate you like every day how we look is like how we represent ourselves
00:27:32.240 it's not fun but it's just like being honest so um and it's also like you can take good dating apps
00:27:40.000 to like you know everyone's tinder bumble like they have a ranking for you behind the scenes
00:27:45.440 yeah damn yeah well so um i don't understand when girls say like i'm an ape because or sometimes i hear
00:27:55.280 girls say time because i hear this a lot where they say like because i love myself and i'm like
00:27:59.200 confident now but don't you think attractiveness is based on results they may be but i don't care
00:28:05.760 about those results to be honest but do you think then you're not being objective about your how
00:28:12.960 attractive you are or how attractive anyone else might be i guess not but like yeah that stuff's not
00:28:23.040 really important to me yeah i think when when someone when someone rates somebody why why does
00:28:31.920 that have anything to do with them like if you rate me if someone rated like somebody a three and
00:28:37.840 it's just like okay that's that's your opinion like it's not okay so as many of you know i was just
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