JustPearlyThings - She Encourages Women To Be 304’s

00:00:00.000 Who wins after breakups, men or women?

00:00:03.860 So Tom Brady and Giselle Boonshin officially divorced on October 28, 2022.

00:00:12.280 Legal teams from both say that an ironclad prenup agreement was put in place before they were married in 2009,

00:00:19.360 making the financial aspects of the divorce relatively smooth.

00:00:23.480 What has happened since then, and why are they both in the news since?

00:00:29.100 Giselle has been linked with her children's jujitsu instructor, Jomaine Valentine,

00:00:34.300 a 42-year-old Brazilian man, with some speculating that they have had something going on before the official divorce.

00:00:41.240 He started appearing on Giselle's social media around February, showing Giselle basic techniques on Instagram.

00:00:48.360 He has also been seen traveling with Giselle and the children since the beginning of the year.

00:00:52.420 Tom Brady, 45, officially confirmed that he is dating Veronika Rajak, a 26-year-old Slovakian model with over 3.2 million Instagram followers.

00:01:03.760 She has attended a few of his games and has taken photographs wearing his jersey.

00:01:09.340 Gerard Peek and Shakira were in a relationship from 2011 to 2022.

00:01:13.860 Having two children during that time, after breaking up in 2022, Gerard Peek, 36-years-old,

00:01:22.280 has been confirmed to be in a relationship with 23-year-old Clara Chia Marti.

00:01:28.060 Shakira has moved from Spain to her family's home in Miami, Florida,

00:01:31.660 and has been linked to her 24-year-old surfing instructor.

00:01:34.900 Custody of the children is still pending.

00:01:37.260 This begs the question, who normally wins after high-profile breakups, men or women?

00:01:46.540 So start here and then go around.

00:01:48.840 Men or women? 0.78

00:01:49.920 Actually, I think I might need to hear what other people got to say first.

00:01:53.740 I can't lie.

00:01:54.740 Okay, who wants anyone opinionated?

00:01:56.320 One start.

00:01:57.300 Come on.

00:01:58.700 It just depends on how, like, what the situation is.

00:02:02.200 So if there's, obviously, kids involved, if, obviously, the prenup.

00:02:07.500 But if you had to pick one, who typically wins in high-profile breakups?

00:02:11.560 Ooh.

00:02:14.880 I'd say men do.

00:02:16.900 Okay.

00:02:17.500 Yeah.

00:02:18.280 Because it's like, no matter what, the publicity just sort of, like, dies down on them,

00:02:24.100 whereas women, they get it a lot more. 1.00

00:02:27.780 That makes sense.

00:02:29.800 No.

00:02:29.980 I don't know.

00:02:30.520 So, like, so how do I explain it?

00:02:33.920 So, like...

00:02:34.280 So men have more publicity after?

00:02:36.340 Like, they don't have as much.

00:02:37.400 No, they get publicity, but it's not as much as, like, it wouldn't go as long as what

00:02:44.880 the woman's publicity would go on for, if that makes sense. 0.75

00:02:48.600 So, like, there would be more paparazzi watching the woman, her every move, who she's dealt with, 0.53

00:02:55.140 and then sort of, like, you'd hear once in a blue moon, if the man decides to leave

00:02:59.700 and show off that he's got a new woman, then they would catch him.

00:03:02.960 But it's, like, a one-off story, and then that's it.

00:03:07.460 Bye.

00:03:08.340 That's what I see.

00:03:09.160 So you would dictate who wins and loses after the breakup by who has less publicity?

00:03:14.240 Yeah, because all publicities can be good, but it comes with bad as well.

00:03:20.720 A lot of negative.

00:03:21.780 Okay.

00:03:22.020 I think after a high-profile breakup, right, the women, the outlook from the society that

00:03:29.860 they get is kind of crazy.

00:03:31.480 I think they get told that they're not good for moving on and finding someone else.

00:03:37.660 So, and also, it's mostly men in high-profile breakups that money is associated with as well.

00:03:45.140 So, as soon as the female goes and finds another partner, it's always, like, she didn't bother 0.99

00:03:51.280 in the relationship.

00:03:52.160 Do you get it?

00:03:53.320 And that's what I think.

00:03:55.360 Do you think that's true?

00:03:56.640 If a woman's moving from relationship to relationship to relationship, then maybe she isn't the best 1.00

00:04:01.280 fit or the best candidate for a relationship?

00:04:04.820 I think a woman that moves from relationship to relationship knows what she wants in a relationship 1.00

00:04:09.040 because I'm going to tell you, not a lot of people out there, like, are going to be

00:04:12.420 what you want them to be.

00:04:13.280 So, move, I would say personally, move around as much as you want until you find the right

00:04:17.440 one.

00:04:17.980 But couldn't you figure that out before a relationship, like, by asking certain questions?

00:04:23.160 Some things you have to live to actually know because certain people, they know stuff, but

00:04:28.340 in order how they apply it practically is completely different.

00:04:31.760 You can know so much, but once you get into a relationship, it's way more sacrifices, way

00:04:37.300 more compromisation that gets involved that I think is important.

00:04:42.780 And if you need to move around as much relationship as you need to, to get that security to finally

00:04:48.880 understand that these situations won't work for you, then that's what you might need to

00:04:52.820 do.

00:04:53.120 And I think that women do get looked weirdly for that, but it's what you've got to do.

00:04:57.720 At the end of the day, men do it too.

00:04:59.280 Do you think a guy is a good candidate for a relationship if he's constantly having failed

00:05:03.680 situationships with women?

00:05:06.040 Like if he, if he's maybe in a two year span dated like 20 girls, do you think it's likely

00:05:10.960 he's going to date you?

00:05:13.520 Sorry.

00:05:14.200 I mean, if I know a man has dated 20 women and wanted to come date me, I'd kind of be

00:05:18.180 like, hmm.

00:05:19.520 And, but then it kind of contradicts what I just said.

00:05:22.700 Yeah.

00:05:22.940 But then at the same time, as a man, if a woman has gone through 30 men and came up to

00:05:26.620 me and said, I want to have a relationship with you, I'd kind of be like, what's up?

00:05:29.880 You know?

00:05:30.620 And also, as much as I said, compromisation is required.

00:05:33.920 There are stuff you have to learn and go through.

00:05:36.380 Sometimes you have to stick in a relationship for you to actually make stuff work.

00:05:39.300 It doesn't necessarily mean moving on to other ones, but just because you moved on from

00:05:42.400 relation, relationship to relationship, it doesn't mean you're crazy.

00:05:47.040 So.

00:05:50.260 Okay.

00:05:50.800 Go ahead.

00:05:51.200 Go on.

00:05:53.020 Either of you.

00:05:53.820 You go ahead.

00:05:54.620 Sorry.

00:05:55.600 Go, go, go, go.

00:05:56.860 So is this question reserved specifically for high profile relationships or just relationships

00:06:02.520 in general?

00:06:02.860 Why don't you tell me your opinion on both high profile and regular?

00:06:05.460 Yeah, sure.

00:06:05.940 So high profile, I think is a little bit worse because say with, also can't pronounce the

00:06:11.320 name, Giselle Bundchen, I think that's how you say it.

00:06:14.320 Tom Brady, he's probably going to be one of the most wealthy, top 10% type of men that

00:06:21.180 she'll ever be with.

00:06:21.960 And because women, we're hypergamous by nature, we typically can't date down and she would struggle 1.00

00:06:29.760 to find someone, especially at her age now that she has children, unfortunately, that 0.99

00:06:36.020 would give her what she wants, which would probably be marriage. 0.97

00:06:38.900 Um, so I think that applies to most high profile relationships because they have some form

00:06:43.480 of celebrity status.

00:06:45.140 Therefore, their partners will probably be a notch ahead of them.

00:06:48.860 Whereas for normal people like us, um, I think women generally, unfortunately, still do lose 0.98

00:06:57.060 in a break, in a breakup.

00:06:58.860 Um, in the short term, they're winning because they can find a simp to buy them a bag and take

00:07:05.080 them places.

00:07:06.180 Um, they can find men to fit different roles of a partner, but in the long term, they would

00:07:11.780 lose because they'll struggle to actually find someone who wants to be with them and vice

00:07:16.520 versa. And they'll probably get to say 35, no children because they've been playing the

00:07:20.520 field. Whereas if they stayed in the relationship, providing it's not abusive, you know, the exceptions

00:07:25.860 to the rule, um, and they tried to make it work, it probably could have been happier in the long

00:07:31.420 term.

00:07:31.680 I don't necessarily think that a breakup means that you're going to start sleeping around,

00:07:38.060 start dating around. I think some women do wait. I find men do move on pretty quick and 0.95

00:07:45.480 they seem to not be as picky. I do think that they move on a bit quicker. Um, I don't know.

00:07:52.740 I, I'm unsure of my opinion because there's so many different variables. Like, do they have

00:07:58.100 kids? Do they, are they married? Were they together for a long time?

00:08:02.320 I'm just saying if there's a hundred high profile breakups, who typically wins men or 1.00

00:08:08.580 women? 1.00

00:08:09.300 Can it be none of them? Because there's so much drama around it.

00:08:12.660 No, you have to pick one of the questions.

00:08:14.240 Oh, okay. Um, I think the woman. 0.94

00:08:19.220 The woman.

00:08:19.740 Yeah.

00:08:20.040 Tell me why.

00:08:21.080 Because as I said, the man moves on very quick and he's not as picky and he can seem to get

00:08:28.100 a lot younger partner than, than a woman would. If a woman's had children and there's that too. 1.00

00:08:35.700 So then what did the women lose? 1.00

00:08:38.520 What did the women lose? 1.00

00:08:39.800 Yeah. It seems like you're saying the man can get like a younger.

00:08:42.280 What I'm saying is that they can't move on. Maybe they want a relationship after that breakup

00:08:47.120 and it's harder for them because they have children maybe. Um, and then there's more to

00:08:52.180 consider. It's not just black and white, even though the man has children as well, when they move on,

00:08:57.120 that's, that doesn't seem to hinder their date inexperience. They can still date and move on

00:09:02.020 and do what they want. It doesn't stop that.

00:09:05.580 So it's just based on what you said, it sounds like you're saying that the women lose and the

00:09:09.740 men win.

00:09:10.720 Yeah.

00:09:11.080 Okay. Okay. You said the opposite when you started.

00:09:13.780 Oh, did I? I thought I said, no, I thought I said that the women lose. 1.00

00:09:17.640 I thought you did. Am I crazy? Maybe, maybe.

00:09:19.640 I thought I said the women lose. 1.00

00:09:20.940 Maybe you did. Okay. Um, go ahead.

00:09:23.060 I think it's, it is a difficult one. It is a broad one. Um, I think in, if you're looking

00:09:28.280 at high profile celebrity status and breakups, um, I think generally depending on how they

00:09:37.060 break up, I think it depicts on how it would end up, but probably women would lose in terms 1.00

00:09:43.440 of emotionally. I think, especially if there's children as well, um, pretty much in terms of

00:09:49.880 men, I don't think they're emotionally attached as much as women. I think women tend to be 1.00

00:09:55.780 more emotionally attached than men. So in a breakup, I think when women break up, they 1.00

00:10:02.340 break up way before they actually physically break up with a man. Whereas a man, I think

00:10:07.360 they're quite flippant and they will do it spur of the moment. It's how they're feeling.

00:10:11.040 So I think in terms of who generally wins, I would probably say men in that aspect, because

00:10:17.620 I feel like they're mentally there way before women are probably there. 1.00

00:10:22.460 Okay. What do you think?

00:10:24.780 Um, see, I think the opposite to you. I feel like a woman knows in her head that she's going 1.00

00:10:31.460 to break up with a guy before she's actually going to do it. Yeah. Like the other way around. 1.00

00:10:37.520 So yeah, I feel like when it comes to actually breaking up, I feel like women are more prepared

00:10:51.340 for that actually happening. I don't think men think too, especially if they're comfortable

00:10:57.040 in the relationship. They're not really thinking about it too tough. So I would say maybe men

00:11:04.760 lose more because I just think they're going to, they don't see it coming as often.

00:11:11.840 So you think men are more hurt after breakups and women, like women move on quicker. 0.98

00:11:15.540 Yeah. Okay.

00:11:16.660 Or like they start that process before.

00:11:19.980 Yeah. Because by the time the woman does it, she's been thinking about it for six months. 1.00

00:11:23.400 What do you think about dating options after? Do you think, who do you think typically is

00:11:26.820 more dating options after a relationship, men or women?

00:11:29.160 I think it depends on the man or the woman, like, so in high profile cases, um, again,

00:11:49.400 I think it depends on the, if you had to pick one, maybe men in high profile cases, because

00:11:59.800 I think for a high profile man, you'll have more women wanting to do whatever for you than

00:12:06.040 the other way around.

00:12:07.740 Auntie, what do you think?

00:12:11.340 At first I was going to say, before you brought the sexes into it, I was going to say the person

00:12:16.320 with the most money wins initially, because they're out of it, but then the women, but 1.00

00:12:23.740 then if it's the man and he's got most money and they split up, then the woman might think 0.97

00:12:27.780 she's winning because she gets like money and the kids and whatever, but then she's less 1.00

00:12:36.240 attractive to the outside world.

00:12:39.600 So she might thought she's winning, she might think she's won initially, but then I think the

00:12:45.640 men in the end win, because they can get any woman out there that they want younger, that looks a 1.00

00:12:49.500 whole lot better than the old bag that they've left.

00:12:51.960 So, you know, all the stretch marks and everything that's gone, because when you look at all of

00:12:57.100 those, whoever had the most money, got someone younger.

00:13:00.720 And even though their partner's gone, I thought, well, yeah, like, what do you call the guy,

00:13:08.800 the perfume, the aftershave guy, what's his name?

00:13:11.440 The one you just mentioned.

00:13:12.340 Tom Brady?

00:13:13.280 Yeah, that's him.

00:13:14.700 The aftershave guy?

00:13:15.700 I don't know, they're an aftershave name like that or something.

00:13:18.980 You're thinking of Tom Ford.

00:13:20.460 Oh, sorry, see, I don't want to say it, I don't want to say it.

00:13:23.700 Okay, I know it's something to do with sports, but he split up and she's gone and she's got

00:13:30.080 this guy.

00:13:30.560 So when they said about women, I find that in the public eye, sometimes the women move 1.00

00:13:34.260 on faster, because the men are less cautious, because they've lost a lot of money, so they're

00:13:37.040 not moving on fast, but afterwards they can get a younger person.

00:13:41.180 So the women would go out there and they would say, oh, we're going to get married again, 1.00

00:13:44.040 or we're going to get hooked up, we're going to settle down.

00:13:46.020 And the men would just go out there and get a young lady and play the field, because they 0.99

00:13:48.680 can.

00:13:49.580 So the women might lose that, you know, the men lose that more financially, but in the long

00:13:55.280 run, of course they got lucky.

00:13:56.920 They can go and get any young bird that they want.

00:13:58.760 Because when you're a mature man and you've got money, you're attractive, unlike the women 1.00

00:14:03.980 out there that got money, because they don't, they don't look all that, all the plastic surgery

00:14:09.400 and stuff that they need to keep up their looks, but men just work out and they're still looking. 0.99

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JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2023

She Encourages Women To Be 304’s

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