JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2023


She Encourages Women To Be 304’s


Episode Stats

Length

14 minutes

Words per Minute

172.76727

Word Count

2,500

Sentence Count

154

Misogynist Sentences

31

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary

Tom Brady and Giselle Boonshin officially divorced on October 28th, 2022. What has happened since then and why are they both in the news again? Who wins after breakups, men or women?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Who wins after breakups, men or women?
00:00:03.860 So Tom Brady and Giselle Boonshin officially divorced on October 28, 2022.
00:00:12.280 Legal teams from both say that an ironclad prenup agreement was put in place before they were married in 2009,
00:00:19.360 making the financial aspects of the divorce relatively smooth.
00:00:23.480 What has happened since then, and why are they both in the news since?
00:00:29.100 Giselle has been linked with her children's jujitsu instructor, Jomaine Valentine,
00:00:34.300 a 42-year-old Brazilian man, with some speculating that they have had something going on before the official divorce.
00:00:41.240 He started appearing on Giselle's social media around February, showing Giselle basic techniques on Instagram.
00:00:48.360 He has also been seen traveling with Giselle and the children since the beginning of the year.
00:00:52.420 Tom Brady, 45, officially confirmed that he is dating Veronika Rajak, a 26-year-old Slovakian model with over 3.2 million Instagram followers.
00:01:03.760 She has attended a few of his games and has taken photographs wearing his jersey.
00:01:09.340 Gerard Peek and Shakira were in a relationship from 2011 to 2022.
00:01:13.860 Having two children during that time, after breaking up in 2022, Gerard Peek, 36-years-old,
00:01:22.280 has been confirmed to be in a relationship with 23-year-old Clara Chia Marti.
00:01:28.060 Shakira has moved from Spain to her family's home in Miami, Florida,
00:01:31.660 and has been linked to her 24-year-old surfing instructor.
00:01:34.900 Custody of the children is still pending.
00:01:37.260 This begs the question, who normally wins after high-profile breakups, men or women?
00:01:46.540 So start here and then go around.
00:01:48.840 Men or women?
00:01:49.920 Actually, I think I might need to hear what other people got to say first.
00:01:53.740 I can't lie.
00:01:54.740 Okay, who wants anyone opinionated?
00:01:56.320 One start.
00:01:57.300 Come on.
00:01:58.700 It just depends on how, like, what the situation is.
00:02:02.200 So if there's, obviously, kids involved, if, obviously, the prenup.
00:02:07.500 But if you had to pick one, who typically wins in high-profile breakups?
00:02:11.560 Ooh.
00:02:14.880 I'd say men do.
00:02:16.900 Okay.
00:02:17.500 Yeah.
00:02:18.280 Because it's like, no matter what, the publicity just sort of, like, dies down on them,
00:02:24.100 whereas women, they get it a lot more.
00:02:27.780 That makes sense.
00:02:29.800 No.
00:02:29.980 I don't know.
00:02:30.520 So, like, so how do I explain it?
00:02:33.920 So, like...
00:02:34.280 So men have more publicity after?
00:02:36.340 Like, they don't have as much.
00:02:37.400 No, they get publicity, but it's not as much as, like, it wouldn't go as long as what
00:02:44.880 the woman's publicity would go on for, if that makes sense.
00:02:48.600 So, like, there would be more paparazzi watching the woman, her every move, who she's dealt with,
00:02:55.140 and then sort of, like, you'd hear once in a blue moon, if the man decides to leave
00:02:59.700 and show off that he's got a new woman, then they would catch him.
00:03:02.960 But it's, like, a one-off story, and then that's it.
00:03:07.460 Bye.
00:03:08.340 That's what I see.
00:03:09.160 So you would dictate who wins and loses after the breakup by who has less publicity?
00:03:14.240 Yeah, because all publicities can be good, but it comes with bad as well.
00:03:20.720 A lot of negative.
00:03:21.780 Okay.
00:03:22.020 I think after a high-profile breakup, right, the women, the outlook from the society that
00:03:29.860 they get is kind of crazy.
00:03:31.480 I think they get told that they're not good for moving on and finding someone else.
00:03:37.660 So, and also, it's mostly men in high-profile breakups that money is associated with as well.
00:03:45.140 So, as soon as the female goes and finds another partner, it's always, like, she didn't bother
00:03:51.280 in the relationship.
00:03:52.160 Do you get it?
00:03:53.320 And that's what I think.
00:03:55.360 Do you think that's true?
00:03:56.640 If a woman's moving from relationship to relationship to relationship, then maybe she isn't the best
00:04:01.280 fit or the best candidate for a relationship?
00:04:04.820 I think a woman that moves from relationship to relationship knows what she wants in a relationship
00:04:09.040 because I'm going to tell you, not a lot of people out there, like, are going to be
00:04:12.420 what you want them to be.
00:04:13.280 So, move, I would say personally, move around as much as you want until you find the right
00:04:17.440 one.
00:04:17.980 But couldn't you figure that out before a relationship, like, by asking certain questions?
00:04:23.160 Some things you have to live to actually know because certain people, they know stuff, but
00:04:28.340 in order how they apply it practically is completely different.
00:04:31.760 You can know so much, but once you get into a relationship, it's way more sacrifices, way
00:04:37.300 more compromisation that gets involved that I think is important.
00:04:42.780 And if you need to move around as much relationship as you need to, to get that security to finally
00:04:48.880 understand that these situations won't work for you, then that's what you might need to
00:04:52.820 do.
00:04:53.120 And I think that women do get looked weirdly for that, but it's what you've got to do.
00:04:57.720 At the end of the day, men do it too.
00:04:59.280 Do you think a guy is a good candidate for a relationship if he's constantly having failed
00:05:03.680 situationships with women?
00:05:06.040 Like if he, if he's maybe in a two year span dated like 20 girls, do you think it's likely
00:05:10.960 he's going to date you?
00:05:13.520 Sorry.
00:05:14.200 I mean, if I know a man has dated 20 women and wanted to come date me, I'd kind of be
00:05:18.180 like, hmm.
00:05:19.520 And, but then it kind of contradicts what I just said.
00:05:22.700 Yeah.
00:05:22.940 But then at the same time, as a man, if a woman has gone through 30 men and came up to
00:05:26.620 me and said, I want to have a relationship with you, I'd kind of be like, what's up?
00:05:29.880 You know?
00:05:30.620 And also, as much as I said, compromisation is required.
00:05:33.920 There are stuff you have to learn and go through.
00:05:36.380 Sometimes you have to stick in a relationship for you to actually make stuff work.
00:05:39.300 It doesn't necessarily mean moving on to other ones, but just because you moved on from
00:05:42.400 relation, relationship to relationship, it doesn't mean you're crazy.
00:05:47.040 So.
00:05:50.260 Okay.
00:05:50.800 Go ahead.
00:05:51.200 Go on.
00:05:53.020 Either of you.
00:05:53.820 You go ahead.
00:05:54.620 Sorry.
00:05:55.600 Go, go, go, go.
00:05:56.860 So is this question reserved specifically for high profile relationships or just relationships
00:06:02.520 in general?
00:06:02.860 Why don't you tell me your opinion on both high profile and regular?
00:06:05.460 Yeah, sure.
00:06:05.940 So high profile, I think is a little bit worse because say with, also can't pronounce the
00:06:11.320 name, Giselle Bundchen, I think that's how you say it.
00:06:14.320 Tom Brady, he's probably going to be one of the most wealthy, top 10% type of men that
00:06:21.180 she'll ever be with.
00:06:21.960 And because women, we're hypergamous by nature, we typically can't date down and she would struggle
00:06:29.760 to find someone, especially at her age now that she has children, unfortunately, that
00:06:36.020 would give her what she wants, which would probably be marriage.
00:06:38.900 Um, so I think that applies to most high profile relationships because they have some form
00:06:43.480 of celebrity status.
00:06:45.140 Therefore, their partners will probably be a notch ahead of them.
00:06:48.860 Whereas for normal people like us, um, I think women generally, unfortunately, still do lose
00:06:57.060 in a break, in a breakup.
00:06:58.860 Um, in the short term, they're winning because they can find a simp to buy them a bag and take
00:07:05.080 them places.
00:07:06.180 Um, they can find men to fit different roles of a partner, but in the long term, they would
00:07:11.780 lose because they'll struggle to actually find someone who wants to be with them and vice
00:07:16.520 versa. And they'll probably get to say 35, no children because they've been playing the
00:07:20.520 field. Whereas if they stayed in the relationship, providing it's not abusive, you know, the exceptions
00:07:25.860 to the rule, um, and they tried to make it work, it probably could have been happier in the long
00:07:31.420 term.
00:07:31.680 I don't necessarily think that a breakup means that you're going to start sleeping around,
00:07:38.060 start dating around. I think some women do wait. I find men do move on pretty quick and
00:07:45.480 they seem to not be as picky. I do think that they move on a bit quicker. Um, I don't know.
00:07:52.740 I, I'm unsure of my opinion because there's so many different variables. Like, do they have
00:07:58.100 kids? Do they, are they married? Were they together for a long time?
00:08:02.320 I'm just saying if there's a hundred high profile breakups, who typically wins men or
00:08:08.580 women?
00:08:09.300 Can it be none of them? Because there's so much drama around it.
00:08:12.660 No, you have to pick one of the questions.
00:08:14.240 Oh, okay. Um, I think the woman.
00:08:19.220 The woman.
00:08:19.740 Yeah.
00:08:20.040 Tell me why.
00:08:21.080 Because as I said, the man moves on very quick and he's not as picky and he can seem to get
00:08:28.100 a lot younger partner than, than a woman would. If a woman's had children and there's that too.
00:08:35.700 So then what did the women lose?
00:08:38.520 What did the women lose?
00:08:39.800 Yeah. It seems like you're saying the man can get like a younger.
00:08:42.280 What I'm saying is that they can't move on. Maybe they want a relationship after that breakup
00:08:47.120 and it's harder for them because they have children maybe. Um, and then there's more to
00:08:52.180 consider. It's not just black and white, even though the man has children as well, when they move on,
00:08:57.120 that's, that doesn't seem to hinder their date inexperience. They can still date and move on
00:09:02.020 and do what they want. It doesn't stop that.
00:09:05.580 So it's just based on what you said, it sounds like you're saying that the women lose and the
00:09:09.740 men win.
00:09:10.720 Yeah.
00:09:11.080 Okay. Okay. You said the opposite when you started.
00:09:13.780 Oh, did I? I thought I said, no, I thought I said that the women lose.
00:09:17.640 I thought you did. Am I crazy? Maybe, maybe.
00:09:19.640 I thought I said the women lose.
00:09:20.940 Maybe you did. Okay. Um, go ahead.
00:09:23.060 I think it's, it is a difficult one. It is a broad one. Um, I think in, if you're looking
00:09:28.280 at high profile celebrity status and breakups, um, I think generally depending on how they
00:09:37.060 break up, I think it depicts on how it would end up, but probably women would lose in terms
00:09:43.440 of emotionally. I think, especially if there's children as well, um, pretty much in terms of
00:09:49.880 men, I don't think they're emotionally attached as much as women. I think women tend to be
00:09:55.780 more emotionally attached than men. So in a breakup, I think when women break up, they
00:10:02.340 break up way before they actually physically break up with a man. Whereas a man, I think
00:10:07.360 they're quite flippant and they will do it spur of the moment. It's how they're feeling.
00:10:11.040 So I think in terms of who generally wins, I would probably say men in that aspect, because
00:10:17.620 I feel like they're mentally there way before women are probably there.
00:10:22.460 Okay. What do you think?
00:10:24.780 Um, see, I think the opposite to you. I feel like a woman knows in her head that she's going
00:10:31.460 to break up with a guy before she's actually going to do it. Yeah. Like the other way around.
00:10:37.520 So yeah, I feel like when it comes to actually breaking up, I feel like women are more prepared
00:10:51.340 for that actually happening. I don't think men think too, especially if they're comfortable
00:10:57.040 in the relationship. They're not really thinking about it too tough. So I would say maybe men
00:11:04.760 lose more because I just think they're going to, they don't see it coming as often.
00:11:11.840 So you think men are more hurt after breakups and women, like women move on quicker.
00:11:15.540 Yeah. Okay.
00:11:16.660 Or like they start that process before.
00:11:19.980 Yeah. Because by the time the woman does it, she's been thinking about it for six months.
00:11:23.400 What do you think about dating options after? Do you think, who do you think typically is
00:11:26.820 more dating options after a relationship, men or women?
00:11:29.160 I think it depends on the man or the woman, like, so in high profile cases, um, again,
00:11:49.400 I think it depends on the, if you had to pick one, maybe men in high profile cases, because
00:11:59.800 I think for a high profile man, you'll have more women wanting to do whatever for you than
00:12:06.040 the other way around.
00:12:07.740 Auntie, what do you think?
00:12:11.340 At first I was going to say, before you brought the sexes into it, I was going to say the person
00:12:16.320 with the most money wins initially, because they're out of it, but then the women, but
00:12:23.740 then if it's the man and he's got most money and they split up, then the woman might think
00:12:27.780 she's winning because she gets like money and the kids and whatever, but then she's less
00:12:36.240 attractive to the outside world.
00:12:39.600 So she might thought she's winning, she might think she's won initially, but then I think the
00:12:45.640 men in the end win, because they can get any woman out there that they want younger, that looks a
00:12:49.500 whole lot better than the old bag that they've left.
00:12:51.960 So, you know, all the stretch marks and everything that's gone, because when you look at all of
00:12:57.100 those, whoever had the most money, got someone younger.
00:13:00.720 And even though their partner's gone, I thought, well, yeah, like, what do you call the guy,
00:13:08.800 the perfume, the aftershave guy, what's his name?
00:13:11.440 The one you just mentioned.
00:13:12.340 Tom Brady?
00:13:13.280 Yeah, that's him.
00:13:14.700 The aftershave guy?
00:13:15.700 I don't know, they're an aftershave name like that or something.
00:13:18.980 You're thinking of Tom Ford.
00:13:20.460 Oh, sorry, see, I don't want to say it, I don't want to say it.
00:13:23.700 Okay, I know it's something to do with sports, but he split up and she's gone and she's got
00:13:30.080 this guy.
00:13:30.560 So when they said about women, I find that in the public eye, sometimes the women move
00:13:34.260 on faster, because the men are less cautious, because they've lost a lot of money, so they're
00:13:37.040 not moving on fast, but afterwards they can get a younger person.
00:13:41.180 So the women would go out there and they would say, oh, we're going to get married again,
00:13:44.040 or we're going to get hooked up, we're going to settle down.
00:13:46.020 And the men would just go out there and get a young lady and play the field, because they
00:13:48.680 can.
00:13:49.580 So the women might lose that, you know, the men lose that more financially, but in the long
00:13:55.280 run, of course they got lucky.
00:13:56.920 They can go and get any young bird that they want.
00:13:58.760 Because when you're a mature man and you've got money, you're attractive, unlike the women
00:14:03.980 out there that got money, because they don't, they don't look all that, all the plastic surgery
00:14:09.400 and stuff that they need to keep up their looks, but men just work out and they're still looking.
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