JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2023


She Exposed this fact about women


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In this episode, we discuss the importance of honesty in a relationship and why men need to be 100% honest with their partners. We also talk about cheaters and why it s important to be honest with your partner.

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00:00:00.000 Can I say, I've clocked that we've all been saying honesty,
00:00:03.280 but I feel like personally, if you yearn for honesty in a relationship,
00:00:07.200 it kind of sucks because if you're going into a relationship
00:00:09.600 and being like, I just want honesty, I need you to be honest with me,
00:00:11.960 I need you to be honest with me.
00:00:13.160 It's kind of like, do you need to beg for that?
00:00:16.040 But also at the end of the day, I don't know about you guys,
00:00:18.600 but personally, for someone that's been honest with me,
00:00:22.160 I have felt hurt before.
00:00:23.720 And it's kind of like also that honesty doesn't,
00:00:25.800 I feel like there's certain things that you don't have to say.
00:00:28.100 There's certain things that you don't have to say,
00:00:33.460 but if you say it's going to cause some type of, you know.
00:00:37.040 I like that.
00:00:37.680 And also, can I say, guys that are always honest,
00:00:41.860 they're normally always honest about their past relationships.
00:00:43.860 And I feel like if you've established that you guys are going to be 100%
00:00:48.960 about everything you've done, you're going to feel some type of way,
00:00:51.960 regardless of whether that involved you or not.
00:00:53.900 So they've been doing stuff before they even knew you,
00:00:56.360 but you'd feel the type of way because they're with you right now.
00:00:58.720 So it's kind of like certain stuff you don't have to say.
00:01:00.720 And it's not me being secretive.
00:01:02.040 If there's certain stuff that we can talk about, we can talk about.
00:01:03.880 That's going to progress our relationship.
00:01:05.320 But if it's about, oh, like, yeah, I used to do like this with her.
00:01:08.800 And like, yeah, like this and that.
00:01:10.600 It's kind of like, hmm?
00:01:11.640 I think you're right.
00:01:12.340 I don't think women want honesty by and large. 1.00
00:01:14.360 Because then they wouldn't keep dating liars.
00:01:16.100 Yeah, you'd sit here and be like, yeah, I want you to be 100% honest with me.
00:01:19.900 But if you're honest with me, I'm going to start crying.
00:01:21.540 It's the same thing with cheaters.
00:01:22.460 I would rather just cry and be mad and then just get over it.
00:01:27.080 My first reaction, I always say, tell me the honest truth.
00:01:29.680 Let the first reaction go over their head because that's it soaking in.
00:01:32.560 But does the honesty progress your relationship?
00:01:34.380 Is it positive to your relationship though?
00:01:35.980 Yes, because they know that there's no point in lying to me.
00:01:39.300 I'm not the one you want to lie to.
00:01:41.320 And why did you say honesty when I asked you what you were looking for?
00:01:45.760 Because to me that implies that maybe you haven't always gotten that.
00:01:48.380 No, I haven't.
00:01:50.340 The past relationships.
00:01:52.780 Well, like, you're a pretty girl.
00:01:54.340 You have a million options.
00:01:55.320 There's many men that will be honest with you.
00:01:57.060 But it's like, we picked a liar.
00:01:58.060 No, I don't know.
00:01:59.440 I just feel like they, as you said, make my funny flop.
00:02:03.380 It's like the liars, the lies make you want them.
00:02:07.420 You're attracted to the liar.
00:02:08.840 Get the lead.
00:02:10.520 Good for you.
00:02:12.720 But I do want the truth.
00:02:14.200 It'd be nice.
00:02:14.760 So then what incentive do men have to be honest with us if the liars get laid?
00:02:19.040 I just prefer that if you just turn around and said, yeah, you're seeing, talking to
00:02:22.920 that two, three other girls and I'm just an option at the moment.
00:02:25.880 If they told you that, then you wouldn't sleep with them.
00:02:28.880 That kind of links back to what I said earlier.
00:02:31.340 A lot of time, and this has been mentioned on Fresh and Fit, another podcast, women want 0.99
00:02:36.620 honesty, honesty, but as the saying goes, they can't really handle the truth because when
00:02:41.080 you are honest, they immediately leave, which, you know, I understand, but what incentive
00:02:47.740 is there for men to be honest?
00:02:49.300 Because they'll lose the resources they put into you, you know, whether it's taking on
00:02:53.280 dates, life advice, everything.
00:02:54.920 Men help us with a lot of things when we're with them.
00:02:56.680 But then you just leave because they're with other people, which is most likely the thing
00:03:01.980 that they're not being honest about.
00:03:03.900 So as you said, what incentive do they have to be honest when they could lose the whole
00:03:07.140 thing they've put work into?
00:03:08.560 You must be crazy to not tell me something that, you know, I'm going to be like, yeah,
00:03:11.980 I'm going to leave you for.
00:03:13.580 It's kind of like, what?
00:03:15.000 People are selfish.
00:03:16.400 I mean, do you go into relationships telling men your body count?
00:03:20.460 Well, it depends if they're asked.
00:03:21.480 Like if we're going to be 100% honest.
00:03:22.280 Has anyone ever asked?
00:03:23.120 I've never been asked.
00:03:23.920 Because I don't know, because I feel like.
00:03:26.680 Any guy that you talk to these days, they will ask you your body count.
00:03:29.500 Really?
00:03:30.040 Not really.
00:03:30.640 Not anymore.
00:03:31.280 Maybe like.
00:03:31.880 Maybe young people.
00:03:33.420 Not anymore.
00:03:33.760 Not anymore.
00:03:34.880 It's a.
00:03:35.500 It's a.
00:03:35.800 She's right.
00:03:36.640 She's right.
00:03:37.120 It's a young person.
00:03:37.940 It's like the younger the guy.
00:03:39.280 The younger the guy is.
00:03:40.300 Yeah.
00:03:40.580 Maybe it's because.
00:03:41.480 Yeah.
00:03:41.820 But I'm just saying if we're going to be 100% honest.
00:03:44.840 Yeah.
00:03:45.460 No, because I feel like.
00:03:47.460 Especially right now.
00:03:48.740 Like a lot of girls are with guys where they know if they said their body count, it would end 1.00
00:03:51.640 their relationship.
00:03:53.260 So.
00:03:53.580 So.
00:03:53.860 So.
00:03:54.180 Like there's.
00:03:54.860 There's in a way we're not always honest with them.
00:03:56.680 Either.
00:03:57.260 Because I was going to say like if you're going into a relationship nowadays, especially
00:04:00.220 like my friends, everybody that I'm surrounded by right now as a 19 year old, they will 100%
00:04:05.620 ask you your body count.
00:04:07.100 100.
00:04:07.460 It's one of the first things that comes up.
00:04:08.580 What's your name?
00:04:09.280 What school do you go?
00:04:10.100 What's your favourite colour?
00:04:10.700 What's your body count?
00:04:11.440 It's definitely the age thing.
00:04:12.200 Do you get it?
00:04:12.960 Maybe it's the age thing.
00:04:14.200 But in this.
00:04:14.920 Like in this day and age right now that I'm in right now, they will ask you with no shame
00:04:19.320 because.
00:04:19.920 But will you answer?
00:04:20.720 That's the question.
00:04:21.440 Will you answer?
00:04:22.400 100%.
00:04:22.920 I'll be straight up with you.
00:04:24.080 I'll say this many.
00:04:24.920 It's just, I've never had anybody ask me that.
00:04:29.220 Older men just don't see the point in asking. 1.00
00:04:31.000 Yeah, maybe it's older men.
00:04:31.860 They just feel like you're going to lie anyway.
00:04:33.620 You're right.
00:04:34.240 But the last time I ever got asked that question, I think I was 16 years old.
00:04:38.760 That's a good nine years ago.
00:04:39.940 Really?
00:04:40.780 Because.
00:04:41.720 I did get asked once.
00:04:44.960 I lied.
00:04:45.580 I did get asked once.
00:04:46.600 It happens all the time right now.
00:04:47.680 And I did give my honest answer.
00:04:49.340 I think with men as well.
00:04:51.620 Obviously, you know, you can't look at a woman and be like, oh yeah, her body count is this.
00:04:56.160 But you can get an inkling of whether it's higher or lower.
00:04:58.740 And sometimes that is enough to suffice them as to whether they get in a relationship or just
00:05:03.580 have sex with you or whatever it may be. 0.94
00:05:05.320 I think how you portray yourself is sometimes enough for them to decide.
00:05:10.280 Would it put you off if their body count was like higher than yours?
00:05:13.880 No.
00:05:14.080 No, I'd prefer that.
00:05:14.900 If my partner's body count was higher than mine?
00:05:18.080 No, of course not.
00:05:19.580 You know, I think men value inexperience whereas women value experience. 1.00
00:05:24.280 So my partner's body count is of course higher than mine.
00:05:26.980 And if it wasn't, I'd be like, well, where the hell am I with you if no one else wants you?
00:05:30.220 But did the young lady on the end say she wanted experience?
00:05:32.500 See, I don't think that.
00:05:32.940 I don't think that.
00:05:33.860 I don't agree with that.
00:05:34.500 But I just expect that men.
00:05:36.720 You don't agree with what?
00:05:37.700 That you think it's because of the experience.
00:05:41.060 I don't think.
00:05:41.620 You don't think women value experience?
00:05:43.300 No, no.
00:05:43.560 I do think they value experience.
00:05:44.840 But I don't think I'd be saying, oh, your body count is less than mine.
00:05:49.080 So I don't like that because other women don't like you. 1.00
00:05:51.760 I mean, I don't think it's a conscious thing.
00:05:54.080 But I mean.
00:05:54.860 Yeah, I don't sit there and think to myself, well, these women didn't. 1.00
00:05:58.480 You've got a lower body count.
00:06:00.000 Therefore, these women didn't like you. 1.00
00:06:01.740 So why am I?
00:06:02.460 It's just, you know, a silent tick in your head where it's, you know, it's like evolution.
00:06:06.700 Well, it's like when a guy's very, I mean, one of the guys will tell me getting verified is the first way to get women.
00:06:13.600 Really?
00:06:14.020 Yeah.
00:06:14.220 Because it's a sign of preselection.
00:06:16.300 That's so superficial, isn't it?
00:06:17.860 I mean, we can't really change it.
00:06:20.520 Yeah, it's like it's like telling the world not to be the world.
00:06:23.040 And all in history, like women have gone for men that other women have selected.
00:06:27.000 So it's like you could say it's superficial, but that's that's always what's happened.
00:06:30.820 Yeah.
00:06:30.960 Like, look at, you know, Genghis Khan or the world's conquerors.
00:06:34.260 If women didn't like men that weren't.
00:06:36.300 If women did not like men that were experienced, why do these men let you have harems of women? 0.96
00:06:41.080 Women just naturally gravitate to them. 1.00
00:06:42.540 17 women reproduced for one man, every one man 8,000 years ago. 0.78
00:06:45.820 My ex has this saying that girls can get who they want and guys get what they want.
00:06:52.140 No, girls get what they want. 1.00
00:06:53.800 Guys get like if a guy can only get a girl if the girl wants them. 0.94
00:06:57.840 He can't just go out and get the girl.
00:06:59.720 Girls can get who they want and guys can get who they can.
00:07:02.100 Can I say, I feel like just we were talking about a couple of seconds ago, but I feel like
00:07:09.680 women always say they want to experience someone who's experienced, but will cry if they find 1.00
00:07:15.560 out who they've been in those experiences with and how many body count there is.
00:07:19.720 Can I just say it?
00:07:20.540 Because I could say and be like, I want someone who's so experienced that's going to do this,
00:07:23.720 that's going to do that and make me feel this type of way.
00:07:25.480 But then as soon as, okay, cool, that happens and they're like, okay, cool.
00:07:28.840 What's your body count?
00:07:29.560 Who have you been with in the past?
00:07:30.440 They're going to start crying.
00:07:31.180 And it's kind of like, choose, choose whether you want him to be experienced.
00:07:36.080 Is that common?
00:07:38.200 100%.
00:07:38.520 Just don't answer them.
00:07:40.940 I just want to hear if you didn't ask her the question about what she wants in a man. 0.93
00:07:45.040 Oh yeah.
00:07:45.240 What do you look for?
00:07:45.980 What do I look for in a man? 0.97
00:07:48.460 I feel like even though I'm quite small, I'd say like 5'8".
00:07:53.360 How tall are you?
00:07:54.320 Sorry?
00:07:54.520 I'm like 5'3".
00:07:56.520 Do you have two little people?
00:07:57.980 Yeah.
00:07:58.740 They're making me...
00:07:59.500 Normally I feel short next to Pearl, I feel tall today.
00:08:04.820 That's not today.
00:08:07.600 I like a man that's family, very big on my family, big family.
00:08:14.300 I like chivalry.
00:08:16.780 I don't really have like a type, like physically.
00:08:19.400 So he's got to be 5'8", and he likes his family and chivalry?
00:08:23.020 Well, he's nice.
00:08:23.960 Yeah, he's got a good family and he's chivalrous.
00:08:26.040 What about money?
00:08:27.440 Any minimum?
00:08:28.560 What if he's unemployed?
00:08:30.620 Are you paying the bills till he figures it out?
00:08:32.660 It just, it depends on how much passion he has in what he's doing.
00:08:35.700 That's not paying bills.
00:08:37.980 Is like money a big thing?
00:08:39.180 Usually unemployed people don't have passion, typically.
00:08:43.500 I'll tell you what, welcome to England.
00:08:46.720 So are we all going to say like money is a big thing in a relationship, going into a relationship
00:08:50.000 right now?
00:08:51.080 Yeah.
00:08:51.540 Money is a big thing.
00:08:52.920 They have to worry money.
00:08:54.660 I've heard everybody mention everything.
00:08:57.340 And for me, all I want is a man that's working, that's going to treat me the same way he'd
00:09:03.000 like to be treated.
00:09:04.140 And he's got to be good in bed.
00:09:06.240 I ain't going to have no money.
00:09:07.220 I don't care what you look like. 0.81
00:09:08.920 I don't care how tall you are.
00:09:10.640 If you're not good in bed, it ain't happening.
00:09:12.440 I don't care how much money you've got either.
00:09:14.880 And everybody's talking, talking about this fanny fluttering, that fanny fluttering, and
00:09:19.360 nobody said about sex.
00:09:20.920 What?
00:09:21.500 So your fanny can flutter and the man's going to tell him he ain't going to be good in bed.
00:09:24.520 What are you going to do then?
00:09:25.700 He's got everything else that's in the shopping trolley, except that.
00:09:28.600 Because I see you put that, you need to put that in the shopping trolley.
00:09:30.760 I missed that off, but that is vital.
00:09:33.180 Absolutely.
00:09:33.500 Would you guys rather have a guy that you weren't physically attracted to that's good
00:09:36.980 and bad, or a guy that you were very physically attracted to but he was bad and
00:09:40.500 bad?
00:09:40.980 Give me the one now.
00:09:41.780 Not physical.
00:09:42.540 I want the good in bed.
00:09:43.320 I don't mind because I feel like if you're not good in bed, I can always do that kind
00:09:48.020 of bit myself.
00:09:48.780 Nah, it's not working for me.
00:09:50.200 So you would take the hot guy? 0.99
00:09:52.860 Yeah.
00:09:53.500 You'd take the hot guy. 0.97
00:09:54.280 What about you?
00:09:56.540 I think I'd have to be attracted to him to some degree to be able to lay down.
00:10:01.020 So I'd have to teach, I think, rather than not have an attractive man.
00:10:04.020 No, no, there's no, this isn't build a man.
00:10:09.680 He's bad in bed today.
00:10:11.100 He's going to be bad in bed tomorrow.
00:10:12.620 I'm going to teach him to build him out being an actor.
00:10:15.220 He does not care.
00:10:17.620 Give her one, yeah. 0.94
00:10:18.360 She'll make him the best.
00:10:20.240 60 seconds, that's it.
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