JustPearlyThings - October 17, 2023


She EXPOSES The Truth Behind Obesity.


Episode Stats

Length

35 minutes

Words per Minute

192.12564

Word Count

6,887

Sentence Count

17

Misogynist Sentences

90

Hate Speech Sentences

67


Summary

In this episode, Pam and Pam are joined by their good friend and co-host, MPA, to talk all things body positivity, nutrition, and fat shaming. Pam talks about her journey to losing weight, how she lost weight, and how she managed to get pregnant with her third child.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You know, it's all the fluid fluid. Yeah, you know, it's crazy
00:00:03.960 I was dating this beautiful Chinese girl at the time and she took lotion and like rubbed it all over me took care
00:00:09.420 I couldn't even believe a woman would do this
00:00:13.500 Yeah, so yeah, yeah, and she massaged it and she took care of me. I saw a deeper side of female love during that time
00:00:24.040 Well, I hope she wasn't small framed in
00:00:30.000 She didn't get a ring
00:00:34.560 I don't think she'll ever forget me though
00:00:42.420 To the girl on the couch there's a difference between LDL cholesterol and HDL LDL builds up when eating processed seeds and
00:00:50.980 Hydrogenated oil like canola HDL is good. Also, we do need cholesterol to feed our brains and make sex hormones
00:00:58.300 NSX
00:01:00.300 Red meat only I'm correlates negatively when it's a part of London modern diet meat only green veg or a mix of those
00:01:07.780 Show lower risks of heart to be heart disease and diabetes
00:01:12.500 What's removed carbohydrates?
00:01:14.500 NSX obese man self-sterilized due to the heat downstairs the twig and berries need room to stay cool for healthy
00:01:22.620 Fertility facts
00:01:24.620 My co body positivity, but most overweight people I've known were the meanest people I've known Doug MPA
00:01:30.940 Is it socially acceptable for a fat person to make fun of a skinny person if a skinny woman makes fun of a fat woman?
00:01:37.380 Then all hell freezes over
00:01:40.200 All hell breaks loose. Sorry, so savvy
00:01:43.340 Savvy
00:01:45.340 The savvy ninja are raging on someone who chooses to get like goes up
00:01:49.140 Lipo is mini person energy do it. You must you know what must to evoke the change you desire
00:01:55.460 Some changes take extreme measures
00:01:57.900 NSX don't mistake good manners with body positivity mainstream and health care needs to be honest about health concerns
00:02:05.080 One-to-one dynamics with people can still be polite while doing this honestly
00:02:08.800 Uh weaponry fitness. I was 50 pounds overweight last year following a traumatic situation aside from that
00:02:15.560 My brother's fat shamed me every day and I lost the weight in four months
00:02:20.060 WMLD for my clients MPA. Oh, no way
00:02:23.060 Yeah, the average woman with a master's degree has over a hundred and three has a hundred and three thousand dollars in debt
00:02:30.000 There are too many economically unattractive women in the u.s. Moral for all all of those juices are full of sugar
00:02:36.420 I think I read that one earlier
00:02:38.420 You were talking raw juices
00:02:40.420 Raw juices?
00:02:42.420 Hello, when people juice
00:02:44.420 I just want to make sure there's no other ones
00:02:46.660 Okay, go ahead. When people juice what do you think they juice? Of course they'll get a fruit and juice it. That's what I meant
00:02:54.020 It's literally a fruit. They thought you were talking about the you know the juices that you buy in
00:02:58.360 Yeah, they're like
00:03:00.360 Raw juice that is the best way
00:03:02.360 It's so funny right when you buy those fruit juices they're like 70% fruit juice like
00:03:06.420 What the fuck's the other 30%?
00:03:08.420 This is not what I signed up for
00:03:10.420 I have a question next question. Do you guys think fat shaming can be a good thing for me?
00:03:16.280 Yeah, no, no
00:03:18.280 personally
00:03:22.780 Do you guys think fat shaming can be a good thing for no
00:03:25.780 wait
00:03:27.780 I'm sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry
00:03:29.780 I apologize
00:03:31.780 Do you think that fat shaming can be a good thing for me personally?
00:03:33.780 It motivated me to lose weight. I think it was a great thing for me, and I'm very thankful for it
00:03:39.780 But other people have different opinions, so I
00:03:43.780 You didn't interrupt me so you get to go first
00:03:45.780 Go ahead
00:03:47.780 So I can remember some years ago where my mother tapped me on my shoulder
00:03:53.780 And and she said Pam you're just a little bit too big
00:03:59.780 And at the time I can remember feeling like
00:04:03.780 Oh
00:04:05.780 I felt really sad, but it was truth and I needed to hear that
00:04:09.780 Yeah, and it was shortly after I'd had I think my third baby
00:04:14.780 But I was I kept with the habits
00:04:17.780 So I had really bad habits
00:04:19.780 And looking back now at the time I was quite offended by that and I was upset
00:04:24.780 What are those habits if you don't mind me asking?
00:04:26.780 so
00:04:28.780 Just the eating of lots of chocolate I had a sweet tooth that was my issue and also it was
00:04:33.780 From me too
00:04:34.780 There was yeah
00:04:35.780 There was chocolates and there was gato cakes and there was I used to have when I was a kid
00:04:39.780 I used to have club biscuits underneath my pillow
00:04:41.780 Oh yeah
00:04:42.780 Whenever I was in a particular type of mood because it has it's catch 22 because you need the sugar
00:04:47.780 Because it's now controlling your mood it's dictating your mood
00:04:51.780 Did you grow up poor?
00:04:52.780 Yeah, pretty much
00:04:53.780 Me too
00:04:54.780 And therefore I had there was that we didn't have a variation of foods around food was just like it was like money
00:05:00.780 You're just like yeah, I got food whatever it was
00:05:02.780 And so for me it was for me to be able to have the sweets
00:05:05.780 Whatever it was I was getting a sugar is what I thought I needed so that became a habit
00:05:10.780 Yeah, and I took that habit into adulthood
00:05:12.780 So when my mom who was the first person to come and say to me
00:05:16.780 Pam you're a little bit too big you know because even the father of my children he used to bring me chocolates
00:05:23.780 That was a way to shut me up
00:05:25.780 Oh bring bring me the chocolates now eat them and then everybody's happy in the house
00:05:29.780 But again that became a habit so even now even though I've had a tummy tuck and I've had lipo
00:05:35.780 If I'm feeling a particular way there are times when I will you know wouldn't so much get there for a rocher
00:05:41.780 But I might have a healthier chocolate
00:05:43.780 Or you know a dark chocolate perhaps but I need to have that sugar fix
00:05:48.780 Yeah, and I think that now
00:05:50.780 We can we can we can still have those those types of behaviors that they can still linger about
00:05:56.780 Even when you you know you might look good, but again, are you healthy?
00:06:00.780 It sure sugar is sugar is way more addicting sugar is more addicting than cocaine
00:06:05.780 I know you've never I know you've never done cocaine pearl
00:06:13.780 But I've been at Columbia a couple times let me tell you something like it's crazy how addictive sugar is
00:06:22.780 And and it's honestly in in the United States sugars in everything it's in you know it's in bread in the States
00:06:29.780 It's high fructose syrup is in the bread there's sugar in every single thing in the States and that's the side that that's the main reason why so many people
00:06:39.780 Are fat in states because everything has sugar in the salad dressing has sugar in it people like I'm gonna be healthy
00:06:45.780 I'm gonna eat a salad and they have fucking salad dressing that has sugar and all these seed oils in it
00:06:50.780 So we're living in this like kind of contaminant world
00:06:53.780 But there's a lot of people making these breakthroughs and coming through and understanding like the fundamentals of nutritional science
00:06:59.780 And putting it into food. Thank God, you know, but like the average person is just so poorly uneducated
00:07:07.780 Do you remember the food pyramid?
00:07:09.780 Did you guys have food pyramid?
00:07:11.780 I did it in school but I don't remember it
00:07:13.780 The food pyramid said you needed to eat six to eleven servings of bread or rice a day
00:07:19.780 Can you imagine? Eleven cups of rice a day? Eleven cups of rice a day
00:07:24.780 But you know what? It's your it's your it's your responsibility to educate yourself on nutrition
00:07:30.780 I was dumb. I trusted the government
00:07:32.780 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:34.780 Years ago I did but when I got really fat when I told you and I went vegan
00:07:38.780 I started looking at what is in the food and the ingredients
00:07:42.780 It's up to you to educate yourself
00:07:44.780 Yes, it is
00:07:46.780 Unless you educate yourself
00:07:48.780 But now that we have social media, it's become a lot easier
00:07:50.780 But if you think about years ago, we didn't have this
00:07:52.780 We had to trust the government
00:07:54.780 You know you can question everything
00:07:56.780 You know now ketchup is considered a fruit in the food pyramid of the United States
00:08:00.780 What?
00:08:02.780 Process is the key word here
00:08:04.780 It's processed sugar
00:08:06.780 If it was from a sugar cane, if it was from a fruit
00:08:08.780 It's natural sugar
00:08:10.780 Yeah, it's natural sugar
00:08:11.780 So it's actually processed is the key word
00:08:13.780 Not sugar cane
00:08:14.780 Because honey is natural
00:08:16.780 Honey, not true raw honey
00:08:17.780 I don't know
00:08:18.780 When I was a kid, I was also a chunky kid
00:08:20.780 I lost the weight when I started sports
00:08:22.780 But the habits continued, you know what I mean?
00:08:24.780 Yeah, they persist
00:08:26.780 And I know how to make really good cookies from scratch
00:08:30.780 And it's with all natural stuff because you're making it from scratch
00:08:32.780 And that made me pretty fat
00:08:34.780 So I think that's for sure
00:08:36.780 It's the American
00:08:38.780 I used to eat like half of the cookie dough when I was a kid
00:08:40.780 I used to have long cookie dough
00:08:42.780 The American diet, like the mainstream American diet is just so unfortunately unhealthy
00:08:47.780 Like you know, do you know which country has the lowest obesity rate in the world?
00:08:51.780 Japan?
00:08:52.780 No
00:08:53.780 Australia
00:08:54.780 It's China, no?
00:08:55.780 No, no, not China
00:08:56.780 I thought it was like Mediterranean food
00:08:59.780 Iceland
00:09:00.780 No, no, no
00:09:01.780 It's Vietnam
00:09:02.780 Oh
00:09:03.780 Yeah, and if you ever go to Vietnam, if you eat there, it's like
00:09:06.780 First of all, if you ever go to Vietnam, it's just like a giant
00:09:09.780 It's like a small city in a jungle
00:09:11.780 And Vietnamese people eat so healthy
00:09:14.780 They eat natural foods
00:09:16.780 There's not a lot of GMOs nonsense, you know
00:09:18.780 You know, Vietnam has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world too
00:09:21.780 7%
00:09:22.780 Have you been to Vietnam?
00:09:23.780 It's a place I want to go to
00:09:24.780 It's really awesome
00:09:25.780 I've been to Vietnam
00:09:26.780 Vietnamese food
00:09:27.780 That's money
00:09:28.780 It's good
00:09:29.780 And I used to have a boy called Li Nam
00:09:30.780 When I was in primary school as well
00:09:32.780 He was Vietnamese
00:09:33.780 Yeah, so like, you know, the food when you eat there too
00:09:35.780 And I've noticed this because, you know, I travel a lot
00:09:38.780 I'm like, I'm addicted to traveling
00:09:40.780 But honestly, every time I go back to America and I start eating American food
00:09:44.780 I get like, a bloated stomach
00:09:46.780 Yeah
00:09:47.780 I get digestion issues
00:09:48.780 It's poison
00:09:49.780 Yeah, no, dead ass
00:09:50.780 It's poison
00:09:51.780 Now that I'm vegan
00:09:52.780 Yeah
00:09:53.780 If I ever eat
00:09:54.780 Because obviously I've grown up on processed food
00:09:56.780 I've grown up with meat, you know, and, you know, fish and all that kind of thing
00:10:01.780 So when I go back to eating those kind of foods
00:10:04.780 Yeah
00:10:05.780 It does
00:10:06.780 It affects me
00:10:07.780 Yeah
00:10:08.780 It affects my body
00:10:09.780 I just went to the United States and every time I go back to America, I just have to eat Chick-fil-A
00:10:15.780 I just have to eat Chick-fil-A
00:10:17.780 But I eat it
00:10:18.780 I eat a breakfast
00:10:19.780 I eat like the Chick-fil-A chicken sandwich or I eat the breakfast biscuit or whatever
00:10:23.780 And then my stomach, I look like I'm three months pregnant
00:10:26.780 Like it just bloats me up
00:10:27.780 Yeah
00:10:28.780 And I'm miserable for the rest of the day
00:10:30.780 You're bloated
00:10:31.780 You know what my trick is for me for that?
00:10:32.780 If I do eat something and I know I'm bloated
00:10:35.780 I have a waist trainer that I wear
00:10:38.780 And I'm not joking
00:10:41.780 If I know I want to eat something, my waist trainer is in my bag
00:10:45.780 Can we talk about the health of that then?
00:10:47.780 We're talking about health
00:10:49.780 Let's explore what waist trainers do for people and to people
00:10:54.780 Right?
00:10:55.780 Because waist trainers, you know, they used to be used for posture correction
00:10:58.780 Yes
00:10:59.780 You have like, you know, post-surgery garments like Farha's
00:11:02.780 Yes
00:11:03.780 But if you are just putting on a waist trainer and let's say you're wearing it for extended periods of time
00:11:07.780 Because you're super committed to having a snatched waist
00:11:10.780 What is that doing to your organs?
00:11:11.780 Well, I've been doing it for five years
00:11:13.780 You know, honestly, I just
00:11:17.780 Say more words
00:11:18.780 I've been wearing it for five years
00:11:21.780 I just can't see waist trainers being as big of a problem as obesity
00:11:26.780 No, I'm not saying it is
00:11:27.780 I'm not saying this to a comparable
00:11:28.780 No, and I'm saying I think that's why we focus on obesity a lot more
00:11:31.780 Because it's just a way bigger problem
00:11:33.780 I you guys would always clown
00:11:35.780 I'm so tired of the UK clowning on America for being overweight
00:11:38.780 Because I looked up the stats and it's not that different
00:11:42.780 It's not that different
00:11:44.780 But the US is massive
00:11:46.780 US is massive
00:11:47.780 But I will say this
00:11:48.780 It's like, it's like, okay
00:11:49.780 I think we're like 70% overweight
00:11:51.780 And you guys are like 60
00:11:53.780 Yeah, we've caught up
00:11:54.780 You are right
00:11:55.780 We've caught up
00:11:56.780 But they're
00:11:57.780 I don't
00:11:58.780 I think they're in the hillbilly sides of England
00:12:00.780 Because like in London
00:12:01.780 I don't know
00:12:02.780 I was expecting to see a bunch of fatties here
00:12:04.780 But I see gorgeous good women
00:12:06.780 Good looking women here
00:12:07.780 I think it's because everybody's walking all the time here
00:12:10.780 You know what I mean?
00:12:11.780 That's like when I first moved
00:12:12.780 It depends who you are
00:12:13.780 Yeah, Australians are pretty fat
00:12:14.780 Like
00:12:15.780 I was driving
00:12:16.780 Like I drove everywhere in Australia
00:12:18.780 I moved here
00:12:19.780 Four months
00:12:20.780 Ten kilos
00:12:21.780 Gone
00:12:22.780 I didn't change my diet
00:12:23.780 Nothing
00:12:24.780 Everything was the same
00:12:25.780 And I'm like, whoa
00:12:26.780 25% of adults in England are obese
00:12:29.780 Just like
00:12:30.780 Isn't that terrible?
00:12:31.780 That's like
00:12:32.780 That's not bad
00:12:33.780 Because like when we're Americans
00:12:34.780 Like, well, that's not bad
00:12:35.780 Because we have
00:12:36.780 40% in the States
00:12:38.780 I can believe that
00:12:40.780 We are 40%
00:12:41.780 I know the fat stats
00:12:43.780 I know the fat stats
00:12:44.780 I got in trouble
00:12:45.780 So I'll tell you ladies
00:12:46.780 Something
00:12:47.780 I recently got in trouble
00:12:48.780 Because I like
00:12:49.780 I trolled chats once in a while
00:12:50.780 There was a girl
00:12:51.780 There was a girl
00:12:52.780 That was on
00:12:53.780 There was a girl that was on a show
00:12:54.780 And no disrespect to her
00:12:55.780 It is what it is
00:12:56.780 But, you know
00:12:57.780 She was
00:12:58.780 I mean, objectively speaking
00:12:59.780 She was a little bit on the
00:13:00.780 Chubbier side
00:13:01.780 And I just wrote
00:13:03.780 Who is this chubby woman?
00:13:04.780 And then I wrote
00:13:05.780 Ha ha ha
00:13:06.780 And then I wrote
00:13:07.780 She's about 40 pounds too heavy for me
00:13:09.780 My personal preference, right?
00:13:10.780 Yeah
00:13:11.780 And she was really, really, really, really upset that I said this
00:13:18.780 And the reality is though
00:13:22.780 Like if you look at her
00:13:23.780 Like her weight is still what it is
00:13:25.780 Yeah
00:13:26.780 But she like vilified me
00:13:28.780 And demonized me
00:13:29.780 She could have ran a marathon like I did
00:13:31.780 Ha ha ha ha
00:13:32.780 You know, it's like
00:13:34.780 So I went to America
00:13:35.780 And basically a girl got angry because
00:13:38.780 I said she was a little heavier
00:13:41.780 Than I preferred for my sexual preference
00:13:44.780 I think women were
00:13:45.780 I've been offended by that though
00:13:46.780 No
00:13:47.780 I think as women
00:13:48.780 But how did you say
00:13:49.780 Sure
00:13:50.780 How did you say
00:13:51.780 What was the context?
00:13:52.780 I just told you the context
00:13:53.780 I don't think it matters how he says it
00:13:54.780 I think as women were too soft
00:13:56.780 And we need to get thicker skin
00:13:57.780 Yes
00:13:58.780 And especially if he's making fun of something
00:14:00.780 That you can change
00:14:01.780 Because we make fun of short men all the time
00:14:04.780 And until we stop doing that
00:14:06.780 Yeah
00:14:07.780 Until we stop doing that
00:14:08.780 We have no right
00:14:09.780 To tell men what they can and can't prefer
00:14:12.780 But it was a peak America experience too
00:14:15.780 Because basically
00:14:16.780 I went to America
00:14:17.780 And a fat girl got mad at me
00:14:19.780 Because she was fat
00:14:20.780 Well
00:14:21.780 I was just like
00:14:22.780 You know
00:14:23.780 And that's the thing like
00:14:24.780 If there was no truth in that
00:14:25.780 You weren't a bit as angry as she was
00:14:27.780 Yeah
00:14:28.780 Did you trigger her anyway?
00:14:29.780 Oh she was super triggered
00:14:30.780 But did you trigger her?
00:14:31.780 What did you do?
00:14:32.780 We need to at least hear this
00:14:33.780 Because a fat person would love to get angry if you don't
00:14:36.780 I wrote those three things in the chat
00:14:38.780 That's all I did
00:14:39.780 Sometimes the truth needs to be told
00:14:41.780 Some people need to hear
00:14:42.780 I agree
00:14:43.780 And the other thing I don't understand
00:14:45.780 Is like
00:14:46.780 Celebrities like Lizzo will lead with their weight
00:14:49.780 Yes
00:14:50.780 And that's what she's leading with
00:14:51.780 Because she's in these super scantily
00:14:53.780 Like she's wearing basically nothing
00:14:55.780 And that's what she's leading with
00:14:57.780 And then she gets mad when people comment on her weight
00:14:59.780 Adele was overweight
00:15:00.780 Nobody commented on it
00:15:01.780 Also
00:15:02.780 Because she didn't lead with it
00:15:04.780 Until she lost it
00:15:05.780 Then they commented
00:15:06.780 Yeah
00:15:07.780 And then they said that she might have not been well
00:15:10.780 When she lost the weight
00:15:11.780 Yeah
00:15:12.780 That's like
00:15:13.780 Fat Amy as well
00:15:14.780 She's known as Fat Amy
00:15:15.780 But like
00:15:16.780 She's lost all that weight
00:15:17.780 And she looks amazing
00:15:18.780 The one with the blonde hair
00:15:19.780 Are you talking about pitch?
00:15:20.780 Perfect pitch
00:15:21.780 That was from walking
00:15:22.780 Yeah
00:15:23.780 All she did was walk
00:15:24.780 And even Lizzo
00:15:25.780 She wore like a thong to a basketball game
00:15:27.780 With kids
00:15:28.780 No
00:15:29.780 But I think that's a separate thing
00:15:31.780 She should have just covered that
00:15:32.780 If you look at her Instagram
00:15:33.780 She knows kids follow her
00:15:34.780 It looks like softcore porn
00:15:36.780 It literally does
00:15:37.780 I'm not
00:15:38.780 I'm not done with that
00:15:39.780 And it's like
00:15:40.780 If an Instagram model
00:15:41.780 Leads with her body
00:15:42.780 Yeah
00:15:43.780 And men call her a slut
00:15:44.780 You've got to expect the criticism
00:15:45.780 Yeah
00:15:46.780 Like if an Instagram
00:15:48.780 Even a thin one
00:15:49.780 It's like an Instagram model
00:15:50.780 She's wearing nothing
00:15:51.780 And then people call her a slut
00:15:52.780 Well you're leading with that
00:15:53.780 Yeah
00:15:54.780 So let me ask you a question then
00:15:55.780 So I'm sitting here
00:15:56.780 I'm wearing
00:15:57.780 I don't know what this is called
00:15:58.780 But it doesn't have
00:15:59.780 A boob tube?
00:16:00.780 Boob tube
00:16:01.780 There we go
00:16:02.780 I don't know my fashion
00:16:03.780 Corset
00:16:04.780 So if I had a smaller chest
00:16:06.780 People probably wouldn't pick up on the fact
00:16:09.780 That I'm wearing a boob tube
00:16:11.780 Right?
00:16:12.780 But because I have breasts
00:16:13.780 And they are quite large
00:16:14.780 Someone might go
00:16:15.780 Oh she's got big boobs
00:16:16.780 And isn't she dressed a bit funnily
00:16:18.780 Like she's putting her weight out there
00:16:20.780 Am I putting my weight out there?
00:16:22.780 Or am I just wearing clothes?
00:16:23.780 I mean I would say
00:16:24.780 You're putting your boobs out there
00:16:25.780 Like if you have them out
00:16:26.780 Yeah
00:16:27.780 Are you putting your boobs out there?
00:16:28.780 I would say no
00:16:29.780 Because I'm not built the same as you
00:16:31.780 Okay so it's subjective then
00:16:33.780 No it's based on what we can see
00:16:35.780 So if you can't see my boobs
00:16:36.780 And we can see yours
00:16:38.780 But am I leading with my weight
00:16:39.780 Based on what I've put onto it?
00:16:40.780 I wouldn't say you're leading with your weight
00:16:42.780 I'd say that like your boobs are very
00:16:44.780 Like they're owls
00:16:45.780 Yeah they are
00:16:46.780 Lizzo is way more sexualized than you are right now
00:16:48.780 She absolutely is
00:16:49.780 Yeah
00:16:50.780 We're not saying that
00:16:51.780 We're not saying that
00:16:52.780 The point is valid though
00:16:53.780 If you see a woman walking down the street
00:16:55.780 In that top
00:16:56.780 With your size breasts
00:16:57.780 Compared to someone with a 32 AA
00:17:00.780 You are not going to look at that woman
00:17:02.780 In the same way
00:17:03.780 Yes
00:17:04.780 Same way
00:17:05.780 I just think
00:17:06.780 But I think
00:17:07.780 But I think life isn't fair
00:17:09.780 I'm tall
00:17:10.780 So things are shorter
00:17:11.780 Yeah
00:17:12.780 That is the way it is
00:17:13.780 I'll tell you a story
00:17:14.780 When I was in high school
00:17:15.780 I got kicked out of homecoming
00:17:16.780 Because I had like a day
00:17:17.780 To find my volleyball dress
00:17:19.780 And I couldn't find one that fit me
00:17:21.780 But I had just waited too long
00:17:22.780 And so it was way too short
00:17:23.780 And they sent me home
00:17:24.780 And I could have whined
00:17:25.780 And been like
00:17:26.780 Oh poor me
00:17:27.780 No
00:17:28.780 Like I waited till the last minute
00:17:29.780 And that was the
00:17:30.780 That was the hand dealt
00:17:31.780 But there's an
00:17:33.780 In regards to like
00:17:34.780 You know
00:17:35.780 Like what Sophie said
00:17:36.780 You know Sophie right?
00:17:37.780 Yeah, yeah
00:17:38.780 So Sophie said earlier
00:17:39.780 Like she just ignores guys
00:17:40.780 That are like 5'5
00:17:41.780 Like I'm the same way
00:17:42.780 When I see a woman's a cup
00:17:43.780 I'm like I don't see anything here
00:17:44.780 Yeah
00:17:45.780 You know
00:17:46.780 And they did a
00:17:47.780 They did a
00:17:48.780 They did a study too
00:17:49.780 Like the way women
00:17:50.780 Like disproportionately desire a man that is super tall
00:17:56.780 Yeah
00:17:57.780 Because like tall men are really really short
00:17:58.780 A small percentage of the population
00:18:00.780 Yeah
00:18:01.780 That's the same way guys want women with big breasts
00:18:03.780 Did you know that?
00:18:04.780 I agree
00:18:05.780 Like the big breasts
00:18:06.780 Yeah
00:18:07.780 Like because they did a lot of data based upon men's preferences
00:18:10.780 And then like the guys who are ordering sex dolls
00:18:13.780 And the guys who are ordering sex dolls
00:18:15.780 And the guys who are ordering sex dolls
00:18:16.780 The average breast size they wanted was American D cup or larger
00:18:20.780 Wow
00:18:21.780 You know?
00:18:22.780 I'm a boot man myself too
00:18:23.780 I'm old school
00:18:24.780 I don't
00:18:25.780 This whole new ass thing
00:18:26.780 I'm not about it
00:18:27.780 I'm a weird one
00:18:28.780 I'm a weird one
00:18:29.780 I'm a weird one
00:18:30.780 I'm a weird one
00:18:31.780 Put it out there
00:18:32.780 You know
00:18:33.780 But that's
00:18:34.780 But you know what's so interesting?
00:18:35.780 People would call you misogynistic for that preference
00:18:37.780 I mean you don't care
00:18:38.780 That GPT has me listed as a misogynist
00:18:40.780 So
00:18:41.780 That's personal preference
00:18:42.780 Yeah
00:18:43.780 Everyone has a personal preference
00:18:44.780 I have a question on preferences
00:18:46.780 So
00:18:47.780 If I said
00:18:48.780 Hey guys
00:18:49.780 Men don't like
00:18:51.780 Old fat single mothers
00:18:53.780 Is that offensive to you?
00:18:55.780 No
00:18:56.780 Well if they don't
00:18:57.780 They don't
00:18:58.780 There's no old fat single mothers here
00:18:59.780 If I fell into that category
00:19:00.780 It might be offensive
00:19:01.780 Well I would want to know why
00:19:03.780 What's
00:19:04.780 Because
00:19:05.780 Men just don't typically pick
00:19:06.780 Women that are older
00:19:07.780 Their options go down on dating apps
00:19:09.780 But
00:19:10.780 Men don't typically pick
00:19:11.780 Women that are fatter
00:19:12.780 Their options also go
00:19:13.780 Wait wait wait
00:19:14.780 Okay
00:19:15.780 Men also don't typically pick
00:19:17.780 Women with kids
00:19:18.780 Their options go down
00:19:19.780 Okay
00:19:20.780 So I'm
00:19:21.780 I'm
00:19:22.780 I have children
00:19:23.780 Although
00:19:24.780 They're adults
00:19:25.780 Um
00:19:26.780 I'm an older woman
00:19:27.780 Yeah but you're sexy
00:19:28.780 You know
00:19:32.780 You're sexy though
00:19:33.780 They're different
00:19:34.780 These don't apply to you
00:19:35.780 You're clearly an exception to the rule
00:19:38.780 Those rare cases
00:19:39.780 So who are we speaking about here?
00:19:43.780 Non-sexy women
00:19:44.780 I'm just talking about
00:19:45.780 No I'm talking about
00:19:46.780 We all carry sex and
00:19:48.780 Sexiness differently
00:19:49.780 It's whether you're not
00:19:50.780 You're peeling
00:19:51.780 Do you think you're equally
00:19:52.780 Like do you think
00:19:53.780 If a guy had you at 20 with no kids
00:19:55.780 Versus you now with four kids
00:19:57.780 Who are they picking?
00:19:58.780 Four grandkids
00:19:59.780 I think just three kids
00:20:00.780 Oh sorry sorry sorry
00:20:01.780 Three kids
00:20:02.780 Four grandkids right?
00:20:03.780 Probably now but not because of the way that I look
00:20:05.780 But because I'm very much a healed person of the person I used to be
00:20:09.780 The way you are
00:20:10.780 The way I am now
00:20:11.780 And who I am now
00:20:12.780 I'm telling you most men will just
00:20:13.780 Just for sex only
00:20:15.780 For sex only
00:20:16.780 For sex only
00:20:17.780 Well then obviously more now
00:20:18.780 There we go
00:20:19.780 I get that
00:20:20.780 The majority
00:20:21.780 Because again it's eye candy isn't it
00:20:22.780 We all want a bit of eye candy
00:20:23.780 Yeah
00:20:24.780 Yeah
00:20:25.780 Men think sex first
00:20:26.780 Relationship after
00:20:27.780 I got a friend
00:20:28.780 I got a friend
00:20:29.780 I got a friend
00:20:30.780 I got a friend
00:20:31.780 That actually likes older women
00:20:32.780 Older women
00:20:33.780 Yeah
00:20:34.780 Older women
00:20:35.780 But listen
00:20:36.780 I'll push back on that
00:20:37.780 So there's two sides to the men who like older women
00:20:39.780 It's a little dark
00:20:40.780 So
00:20:41.780 One side is like
00:20:43.780 They may have been
00:20:45.780 You know
00:20:46.780 Touched by an older woman when she was younger
00:20:49.780 Yeah
00:20:50.780 Or
00:20:51.780 Or
00:20:52.780 Older women is all he can get
00:20:53.780 So he fetishizes it
00:20:55.780 He's like
00:20:56.780 I like older women
00:20:57.780 Interesting
00:20:58.780 Because I know a few people
00:21:00.780 On social media
00:21:02.780 Myself
00:21:03.780 That
00:21:04.780 Prefer
00:21:05.780 Older women
00:21:06.780 Your male friends prefer older women
00:21:08.780 Some of them
00:21:09.780 How old are they?
00:21:10.780 Are these guys like good looking chads?
00:21:12.780 Are they like good looking chads?
00:21:13.780 He's good looking
00:21:14.780 I'm not gonna lie
00:21:15.780 I would go there with some of them
00:21:16.780 Yes
00:21:17.780 Is his mother present in his life?
00:21:18.780 I
00:21:19.780 Don't know that much
00:21:20.780 Well my friend
00:21:22.780 Older women sometimes want younger men as well
00:21:24.780 Can I say
00:21:25.780 Yeah
00:21:26.780 For example
00:21:27.780 I'm 43
00:21:28.780 Yeah
00:21:29.780 So
00:21:30.780 You don't look at
00:21:31.780 Guys my age
00:21:32.780 I'm younger
00:21:33.780 Don't necessarily look that great
00:21:34.780 So
00:21:35.780 I would not really pretend
00:21:36.780 Like I would not really have a choice
00:21:39.780 My choice would not be older men
00:21:41.780 But
00:21:42.780 If I had the choice
00:21:43.780 I would go for younger
00:21:44.780 I would go for younger
00:21:45.780 Because I personally believe that younger men just look better than the guys my age
00:21:49.780 Look better or
00:21:50.780 Perform better?
00:21:51.780 It's actually a normal
00:21:57.780 Like that happens a lot older women with younger men
00:22:00.780 But it's because men don't have as much leverage on the sexual marketplace
00:22:04.780 So men
00:22:05.780 Like their peak
00:22:06.780 If you look at dating apps where they have the most options
00:22:09.780 It's like roughly around like 35 to 37
00:22:12.780 Where women have the most options roughly around like 22
00:22:15.780 Younger
00:22:16.780 Yeah
00:22:17.780 Yeah
00:22:18.780 Imagine
00:22:19.780 For me
00:22:20.780 The men that I attract now
00:22:21.780 I mean there's a variation in ages
00:22:23.780 But a majority
00:22:24.780 They're not even as old as my older son
00:22:27.780 Younger
00:22:28.780 Right
00:22:29.780 They all
00:22:30.780 I know
00:22:31.780 Right
00:22:32.780 That's the point
00:22:33.780 Because they don't have as many options
00:22:34.780 When men are young
00:22:35.780 They can't sleep with as many women
00:22:36.780 They have less options
00:22:37.780 So it's like
00:22:38.780 The older women have less options
00:22:40.780 And the younger men have less options
00:22:41.780 So they tend to go together
00:22:42.780 That's interesting
00:22:43.780 Yeah
00:22:44.780 Where it's like
00:22:45.780 The 35 year olds
00:22:46.780 Like typically date the younger
00:22:48.780 The younger women
00:22:49.780 And I'm not saying
00:22:50.780 Like how much
00:22:51.780 Like I think the average age gap
00:22:52.780 Is like
00:22:53.780 Like each prefer
00:22:54.780 Like five to seven years difference
00:22:55.780 But
00:22:56.780 But it starts with looks
00:22:57.780 And men find 22 year olds
00:22:59.780 The most attractive
00:23:00.780 I will say this too
00:23:01.780 At right now
00:23:02.780 Because with the way society is structured
00:23:04.780 Like men are just being slammed with sexual images nonstop
00:23:08.780 Like the moment we wake up
00:23:10.780 Like how about some sex
00:23:11.780 You know
00:23:12.780 Yeah
00:23:13.780 And so this has caused male thirst to be at an all time high
00:23:17.780 Yeah
00:23:18.780 And so dudes are like
00:23:19.780 You know when guys get good with game
00:23:22.780 You know getting with a bunch of women
00:23:24.780 That sex
00:23:25.780 That ejaculation
00:23:26.780 That hunt
00:23:27.780 Is all based upon dopamine
00:23:28.780 And so you got these guys
00:23:29.780 That are just
00:23:30.780 Searching for that next dopamine hit
00:23:33.780 You know what I mean?
00:23:34.780 And then also
00:23:35.780 I don't think we've ever had a period in time
00:23:37.780 Where older women were doing their best
00:23:40.780 To stay sexy
00:23:42.780 You know what I mean?
00:23:43.780 I agree
00:23:44.780 I agree
00:23:45.780 You know
00:23:46.780 The modern day
00:23:47.780 You know you have like the J Lo's
00:23:48.780 And you got all these different women
00:23:50.780 I don't keep up celebrities
00:23:51.780 But J Lo's the only one I know
00:23:53.780 But like you know
00:23:54.780 They're older women
00:23:55.780 In their 40s and 50s
00:23:57.780 Right
00:23:58.780 That are like trying to be super sexy
00:24:00.780 So when you're sexy
00:24:02.780 You know guys are dogs
00:24:03.780 Guys are fucking dogs
00:24:05.780 And so they're gonna come after you
00:24:07.780 Yeah but I also think it doesn't really count
00:24:10.780 Until you're married really
00:24:12.780 Or in a long-term relationship with kids
00:24:14.780 Because that seems to be the new marriage nowadays
00:24:16.780 Because I think a lot of times
00:24:17.780 As women will mistake sexual attention
00:24:19.780 For relationship attention
00:24:20.780 Yes
00:24:21.780 And they're not the same
00:24:22.780 That's huge
00:24:23.780 Yeah but because a lot of women
00:24:24.780 They'll conflate the fact that a million dudes
00:24:26.780 Are in their DMs
00:24:28.780 Right?
00:24:29.780 And like hollering at them
00:24:30.780 But I would say 99% of those dudes
00:24:33.780 They're gonna fuck you a couple times
00:24:34.780 And disappear
00:24:35.780 Yeah
00:24:36.780 And then you're gonna be like
00:24:37.780 Oh I thought you liked me
00:24:38.780 I am guilty of that
00:24:40.780 I'm curious
00:24:41.780 People do it
00:24:42.780 Majority girls are
00:24:43.780 For women that want relationships
00:24:45.780 Where are the best places to look?
00:24:47.780 See you know what?
00:24:48.780 Here's the thing
00:24:49.780 I know I'm like a red pill guy
00:24:50.780 And I'm supposed to like shit on women
00:24:51.780 Because that's like what the majority of people do
00:24:53.780 But that even for me
00:24:55.780 Is something that I have been trying to answer the question to
00:24:59.780 I can't tell these women where to find good men
00:25:03.780 But I can tell them where not to find them
00:25:05.780 Where?
00:25:06.780 Where not to find them
00:25:07.780 Any dating app
00:25:08.780 I agree
00:25:09.780 I'm not on any of those at all anymore
00:25:11.780 Any dating app
00:25:12.780 Bars
00:25:13.780 If he has any kind of drug addiction
00:25:15.780 No
00:25:16.780 Yes
00:25:17.780 Right?
00:25:18.780 Church used to be a stable thing
00:25:19.780 But honestly I would say this
00:25:20.780 The guys that you ignore are probably gonna be some of the better relationships
00:25:24.780 Yeah
00:25:25.780 The guys that don't even show up on your radar
00:25:26.780 Yeah
00:25:27.780 Because it's just
00:25:28.780 It is hard
00:25:29.780 Because for guys
00:25:31.780 You know
00:25:32.780 When mainstream media and mainstream culture is just telling girls by default to be sluts
00:25:39.780 To be whores
00:25:40.780 To sleep around
00:25:41.780 Right?
00:25:42.780 It's really hard
00:25:43.780 So that's the conundrum we have right now
00:25:45.780 Is like good women are usually trying so hard to find good men
00:25:51.780 And good men are trying so hard to find good women
00:25:53.780 Because for me too
00:25:54.780 After I became successful
00:25:55.780 It's just like
00:25:56.780 How
00:25:57.780 I don't even know
00:25:58.780 Like where to like find decent women
00:26:01.780 Because like women who like you for your clout
00:26:02.780 Or for your money
00:26:03.780 Or all those things
00:26:04.780 She's real
00:26:05.780 You know
00:26:06.780 It's just like
00:26:07.780 This bitch is treacherous
00:26:08.780 Like she's after me
00:26:09.780 Yeah
00:26:10.780 For things that I have
00:26:11.780 Not me
00:26:12.780 Dating
00:26:13.780 Once you have a following is so different
00:26:15.780 Oh dude
00:26:16.780 I have trauma
00:26:17.780 I want to go to a monastery
00:26:18.780 Like
00:26:19.780 Because it's just
00:26:20.780 It's so
00:26:21.780 So I'm talking from a guy's perspective
00:26:23.780 It's so hard
00:26:25.780 To
00:26:26.780 One
00:26:28.780 Vet a woman
00:26:29.780 And find out the truth
00:26:31.780 Of who she is
00:26:32.780 See I like Pam
00:26:33.780 She knows the fact
00:26:34.780 Yeah
00:26:35.780 And then on the other side of the coin
00:26:36.780 It's the same thing for ladies
00:26:37.780 It's the same thing
00:26:38.780 Because you're blinded by your own attraction
00:26:41.780 Like I like this person
00:26:42.780 Well they did this
00:26:43.780 Like this means they like me
00:26:44.780 But then like
00:26:45.780 You know when you go through a situation
00:26:47.780 When you thought someone loved you
00:26:48.780 You thought they liked you a lot
00:26:49.780 And then you find out that
00:26:51.780 Yeah
00:26:52.780 They didn't
00:26:53.780 And then they leave quickly
00:26:54.780 They don't want to resolve conflict
00:26:55.780 Or whatever
00:26:56.780 Then you're just sitting there like
00:26:57.780 Damn I just really don't know shit
00:26:58.780 And I went through that
00:26:59.780 I literally went through that
00:27:01.780 Someone who I thought was on my team
00:27:03.780 Who I you know I gave myself to
00:27:07.780 And we thought I thought we were on the same page
00:27:10.780 And then you later on find out
00:27:11.780 It was it wasn't that
00:27:13.780 It was not being reciprocated
00:27:15.780 Yeah
00:27:16.780 And that's where you have to draw every piece of strength
00:27:18.780 What happened?
00:27:20.780 Without going into too much detail
00:27:22.780 Wrong show
00:27:23.780 You gotta go into detail
00:27:24.780 I put a lot of trust into someone whom
00:27:30.780 When I began communicating with him
00:27:33.780 Of what I had previously been through
00:27:36.780 Which allowed me to drop my guard
00:27:39.780 And I was happy to do so because
00:27:41.780 He made me feel safe
00:27:43.780 Okay
00:27:44.780 And I think for him
00:27:45.780 It may have been what he could get
00:27:47.780 But I think the worst thing for me
00:27:50.780 Was there was no resolution
00:27:52.780 It was a straight cutoff
00:27:54.780 What do you mean a cutoff?
00:27:56.780 I mean when it when things kind of sort of came about
00:27:59.780 And you know when things really mattered
00:28:02.780 And we should have been communicating
00:28:03.780 We should have been speaking about it
00:28:05.780 Speaking about the very small issue
00:28:07.780 It was a very very small issue
00:28:09.780 What issue was that?
00:28:10.780 It was a very small issue
00:28:11.780 It literally there was no conversation
00:28:14.780 We didn't get to speak about what the problem was
00:28:18.780 Did you leave or did he leave?
00:28:19.780 He did
00:28:20.780 Oh so he left and then you just never heard from him?
00:28:22.780 And I never heard from him
00:28:24.780 Was he younger?
00:28:25.780 No he was older
00:28:26.780 So can I say that emotional labor
00:28:29.780 It does not come with a marker
00:28:32.780 I don't think that you can
00:28:34.780 You know be on a dating app
00:28:36.780 Or be in church or wherever
00:28:37.780 See someone meet them
00:28:38.780 Be on a date with them
00:28:39.780 And say yes this person is willing
00:28:41.780 And committed to put in emotional labor
00:28:44.780 To make this work
00:28:46.780 You only know that
00:28:47.780 When you come up to those situations
00:28:49.780 That require the emotional labor
00:28:51.780 I actually don't really think men should care about our emotional needs
00:28:54.780 No I don't think she means emotional needs
00:28:56.780 I think like you know when you get to a point in a relationship
00:28:58.780 Where there's like a breaking point
00:29:01.780 Where the both of you are going to have to endure through a
00:29:04.780 That wasn't even
00:29:05.780 I'm not even trying to be
00:29:06.780 Yeah yeah
00:29:07.780 But like when you have to like endure through hardship
00:29:10.780 Absolutely
00:29:11.780 You know
00:29:12.780 Some people
00:29:13.780 They just give up
00:29:14.780 Yeah
00:29:15.780 Yeah
00:29:16.780 And it's detrimental
00:29:17.780 Because I've been that person who didn't want to give up
00:29:21.780 I was like you know
00:29:22.780 And I wanted to be committed to the situation
00:29:25.780 When your partner gives up
00:29:26.780 And then that's just like
00:29:28.780 And unfortunately
00:29:29.780 That's just life
00:29:30.780 I just don't understand how that like works
00:29:32.780 Because you're not a dirtbag
00:29:33.780 That's why
00:29:34.780 Well no because when I hear emotional labor
00:29:37.780 Like I always hear that
00:29:38.780 I don't really hear that term used then
00:29:40.780 I usually hear it when it's like
00:29:41.780 My partner's not meeting my emotional needs
00:29:43.780 That's what I hear when I hear emotional
00:29:45.780 No I think she's talking about
00:29:46.780 Because there's points in a relationship
00:29:47.780 What do you mean?
00:29:48.780 I would say that the emotional labor is
00:29:50.780 Any situation that you come up against
00:29:52.780 As a partnership
00:29:53.780 Where there requires some either compromise
00:29:57.780 Or you two have to sit down and have a difficult discussion
00:30:00.780 About you know
00:30:01.780 Do the kids go to school here or there?
00:30:03.780 Or you know
00:30:04.780 It's just anything
00:30:05.780 I think the man should automatically decide
00:30:07.780 Do you?
00:30:08.780 I do
00:30:09.780 I do
00:30:10.780 I believe in traditional relationships
00:30:12.780 Which are a bit different than like 50-50
00:30:14.780 So which basically
00:30:16.780 Like a lot of times women
00:30:17.780 We want the guy to pay for everything
00:30:18.780 We want like a traditional outcome
00:30:21.780 Where he pays for us
00:30:22.780 He leads
00:30:23.780 He's masculine
00:30:24.780 But what you're supposed to give up with that
00:30:25.780 Is authority
00:30:26.780 Yeah
00:30:27.780 Can I add on to
00:30:28.780 Because I
00:30:29.780 You tell me if I'm wrong
00:30:30.780 Because this was your original statement
00:30:32.780 But I'm just going to add on to it
00:30:33.780 I think what she means by emotional labor is like
00:30:36.780 Again like it will get to a point
00:30:38.780 Where you will have a hard time
00:30:41.780 Like you both need to push through an obstacle
00:30:45.780 And I think that the example she gave
00:30:48.780 About you know
00:30:49.780 The schooling whatever
00:30:50.780 Was more about like
00:30:51.780 There's going to be emotional turmoil and conflict
00:30:54.780 Can I have an example just so I could understand better
00:30:57.780 What you're talking about
00:30:58.780 Let's just say you know
00:30:59.780 You're both at an impasse
00:31:01.780 Where you're just like
00:31:03.780 There's a communication barrier
00:31:05.780 Like you're saying one thing
00:31:07.780 And I'm saying another thing
00:31:09.780 Right?
00:31:10.780 And we really don't see eye to eye
00:31:12.780 And we should just keep on trying to push through
00:31:18.780 Keep on trying to communicate and get through it
00:31:21.780 That's what a relationship that works looks like
00:31:25.780 But one party man or woman
00:31:27.780 The emotional labor
00:31:29.780 What's the actual issue?
00:31:31.780 Have you ever been in a relationship?
00:31:33.780 Yeah I have
00:31:34.780 Okay
00:31:35.780 Everyone says I haven't
00:31:36.780 But I have
00:31:37.780 Okay, okay
00:31:38.780 Virgin vibes
00:31:40.780 Let's take you at your word then
00:31:42.780 So you've been in a relationship
00:31:44.780 Have you ever had to make a decision in that relationship
00:31:47.780 Either you say that you believe in traditional relationships
00:31:49.780 Has your partner ever had to make a decision?
00:31:51.780 I think one
00:31:52.780 I think traditional relationships work better
00:31:55.780 Because if you look at the history of them
00:31:57.780 Relationships tend to work better in countries that have more traditional relationships
00:32:01.780 And you know
00:32:02.780 If you look at a hundred years ago
00:32:03.780 Ninety-five percent of people were married
00:32:05.780 But I'll say no
00:32:06.780 I wasn't a good girlfriend
00:32:07.780 I think that's why we broke up
00:32:08.780 I'm not sure that answers the question
00:32:10.780 Which part?
00:32:11.780 Have you ever had a confrontation or a disagreement with your partner
00:32:16.780 Ever in history?
00:32:17.780 Yeah
00:32:18.780 And the result of that confrontation was what?
00:32:20.780 Have you ever broken up over a disagreement?
00:32:22.780 Irreconcilable differences
00:32:23.780 Yeah
00:32:24.780 Yeah
00:32:25.780 It was more different values though
00:32:27.780 So it was like
00:32:28.780 It was kind of getting to the point where we've been dating a bit
00:32:31.780 And it was either we're going to get married
00:32:33.780 Take that next step
00:32:34.780 Or we're not
00:32:35.780 And I just didn't see us getting married
00:32:36.780 Because our backgrounds were just a bit too different
00:32:38.780 And do you think that sort of unwillingness to compromise
00:32:42.780 Was
00:32:43.780 Would you say that that's a lack of emotional labour
00:32:46.780 To see where the other person is coming from
00:32:48.780 And make the necessary adjustments?
00:32:50.780 I would say there's different situations
00:32:52.780 Where I definitely did not compromise
00:32:54.780 And I should have
00:32:55.780 Like
00:32:56.780 But in that situation
00:32:57.780 I think it's just picking what you want to marry
00:32:59.780 Okay
00:33:00.780 You know?
00:33:01.780 Like I think before you get married
00:33:02.780 You should weigh out what you want
00:33:03.780 Do you think everything can be known
00:33:05.780 Before you get into that situation
00:33:07.780 Or are there instances in the relationship
00:33:10.780 Where you go
00:33:11.780 You discover things about them
00:33:12.780 And you have to decide at that point
00:33:13.780 You're at a sort of decision point
00:33:15.780 You have to say
00:33:16.780 I want to marry this person
00:33:17.780 I'm going to work it out
00:33:18.780 Or actually this is a bit too difficult
00:33:20.780 And I'm not willing to compromise on this
00:33:22.780 And neither are they
00:33:23.780 So we have to part ways
00:33:24.780 Yeah
00:33:25.780 Do I think there's situations where issues come up
00:33:27.780 And you might find out something about him
00:33:29.780 Or he might find out something
00:33:31.780 He's like oh you slept with a hundred people
00:33:33.780 What?
00:33:34.780 Like I can't compromise on that
00:33:35.780 Or whatever it is
00:33:36.780 Yeah
00:33:37.780 You know
00:33:38.780 But that's not like a compromise
00:33:39.780 It's more of like a deception thing
00:33:41.780 Yeah
00:33:42.780 Which ties into trust
00:33:43.780 Which if you don't have trust in a relationship
00:33:44.780 It's game over
00:33:45.780 Yeah
00:33:46.780 Not gonna work
00:33:47.780 Yeah
00:33:48.780 Yeah
00:33:49.780 But does that answer your question?
00:33:51.780 Well I wonder if
00:33:52.780 Are we on the same page here?
00:33:54.780 Do we
00:33:55.780 I see
00:33:56.780 I see
00:33:58.780 I get it
00:34:00.780 You're trying to find the answers of
00:34:02.780 Why she believes that
00:34:04.780 And you're
00:34:05.780 Yeah
00:34:06.780 But no
00:34:07.780 Why she believes what she believes
00:34:08.780 Cause you're
00:34:09.780 You want to understand why
00:34:10.780 And
00:34:11.780 Why she feels like that
00:34:12.780 I guess
00:34:13.780 I understand the emotional labour point
00:34:14.780 Cause I've been through that
00:34:15.780 And then you know
00:34:16.780 And it's so
00:34:17.780 Cause when you're in the relationship too
00:34:19.780 You know
00:34:20.780 You feel like a fool
00:34:21.780 Cause you're like damn
00:34:22.780 I'm willing
00:34:23.780 To push through here
00:34:24.780 Dickhead
00:34:25.780 Like
00:34:26.780 And they're just like
00:34:28.780 And they're just like
00:34:29.780 No I'm just gonna
00:34:30.780 See you later
00:34:31.780 Download the Medellin Hinge
00:34:32.780 You know
00:34:33.780 I'm gonna be on out of here
00:34:34.780 It's the fact that they give up
00:34:36.780 Yes
00:34:37.780 At a point where
00:34:38.780 If you
00:34:39.780 When you had that discussion
00:34:40.780 About you know
00:34:41.780 How you'd like things to be conducted
00:34:43.780 Or how you would deal with the matter
00:34:45.780 If the matter ever arose
00:34:46.780 And the fact that they give up
00:34:48.780 Yeah
00:34:49.780 To me that's disheartening
00:34:50.780 That's the hardest thing
00:34:51.780 I will give everybody what they want
00:34:53.780 Which is the attempt
00:34:54.780 The ability to throw shade at their exes
00:34:57.780 So
00:35:00.780 But the reality of the situation is this
00:35:03.780 It's not that they just gave up on you
00:35:06.780 They're just quitters in general
00:35:08.780 Yeah
00:35:09.780 Yeah
00:35:10.780 How many times
00:35:11.780 And you can reflect on your cases
00:35:13.780 Yeah
00:35:14.780 How many times did they
00:35:15.780 Give up on you
00:35:16.780 And went off and had happily ever after
00:35:18.780 Are they still jumping from person to person to person
00:35:21.780 I've broken up with all mine
00:35:23.780 So
00:35:24.780 Oh I know
00:35:25.780 I know
00:35:26.780 Just put it out there
00:35:27.780 So you're the
00:35:28.780 You're the person to person to person
00:35:29.780 You're the quitter
00:35:30.780 No
00:35:31.780 No
00:35:32.780 No
00:35:33.780 Okay
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