JustPearlyThings - She EXPOSES The Truth Behind Obesity.

00:00:00.000 You know, it's all the fluid fluid. Yeah, you know, it's crazy

00:00:03.960 I was dating this beautiful Chinese girl at the time and she took lotion and like rubbed it all over me took care 1.00

00:00:09.420 I couldn't even believe a woman would do this 1.00

00:00:13.500 Yeah, so yeah, yeah, and she massaged it and she took care of me. I saw a deeper side of female love during that time 1.00

00:00:24.040 Well, I hope she wasn't small framed in 0.65

00:00:30.000 She didn't get a ring

00:00:34.560 I don't think she'll ever forget me though

00:00:42.420 To the girl on the couch there's a difference between LDL cholesterol and HDL LDL builds up when eating processed seeds and

00:00:50.980 Hydrogenated oil like canola HDL is good. Also, we do need cholesterol to feed our brains and make sex hormones

00:00:58.300 NSX

00:01:00.300 Red meat only I'm correlates negatively when it's a part of London modern diet meat only green veg or a mix of those

00:01:07.780 Show lower risks of heart to be heart disease and diabetes

00:01:12.500 What's removed carbohydrates? 0.73

00:01:14.500 NSX obese man self-sterilized due to the heat downstairs the twig and berries need room to stay cool for healthy

00:01:22.620 Fertility facts

00:01:24.620 My co body positivity, but most overweight people I've known were the meanest people I've known Doug MPA

00:01:30.940 Is it socially acceptable for a fat person to make fun of a skinny person if a skinny woman makes fun of a fat woman? 1.00

00:01:37.380 Then all hell freezes over 0.97

00:01:40.200 All hell breaks loose. Sorry, so savvy

00:01:43.340 Savvy

00:01:45.340 The savvy ninja are raging on someone who chooses to get like goes up

00:01:49.140 Lipo is mini person energy do it. You must you know what must to evoke the change you desire

00:01:55.460 Some changes take extreme measures

00:01:57.900 NSX don't mistake good manners with body positivity mainstream and health care needs to be honest about health concerns

00:02:05.080 One-to-one dynamics with people can still be polite while doing this honestly

00:02:08.800 Uh weaponry fitness. I was 50 pounds overweight last year following a traumatic situation aside from that

00:02:15.560 My brother's fat shamed me every day and I lost the weight in four months

00:02:20.060 WMLD for my clients MPA. Oh, no way

00:02:23.060 Yeah, the average woman with a master's degree has over a hundred and three has a hundred and three thousand dollars in debt 1.00

00:02:30.000 There are too many economically unattractive women in the u.s. Moral for all all of those juices are full of sugar 1.00

00:02:36.420 I think I read that one earlier

00:02:38.420 You were talking raw juices

00:02:40.420 Raw juices?

00:02:42.420 Hello, when people juice

00:02:44.420 I just want to make sure there's no other ones

00:02:46.660 Okay, go ahead. When people juice what do you think they juice? Of course they'll get a fruit and juice it. That's what I meant

00:02:54.020 It's literally a fruit. They thought you were talking about the you know the juices that you buy in

00:02:58.360 Yeah, they're like

00:03:00.360 Raw juice that is the best way

00:03:02.360 It's so funny right when you buy those fruit juices they're like 70% fruit juice like 0.97

00:03:06.420 What the fuck's the other 30%? 1.00

00:03:08.420 This is not what I signed up for 0.99

00:03:10.420 I have a question next question. Do you guys think fat shaming can be a good thing for me?

00:03:16.280 Yeah, no, no

00:03:18.280 personally

00:03:22.780 Do you guys think fat shaming can be a good thing for no

00:03:25.780 wait

00:03:27.780 I'm sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry

00:03:29.780 I apologize

00:03:31.780 Do you think that fat shaming can be a good thing for me personally?

00:03:33.780 It motivated me to lose weight. I think it was a great thing for me, and I'm very thankful for it

00:03:39.780 But other people have different opinions, so I

00:03:43.780 You didn't interrupt me so you get to go first

00:03:45.780 Go ahead

00:03:47.780 So I can remember some years ago where my mother tapped me on my shoulder

00:03:53.780 And and she said Pam you're just a little bit too big 1.00

00:03:59.780 And at the time I can remember feeling like

00:04:03.780 Oh

00:04:05.780 I felt really sad, but it was truth and I needed to hear that

00:04:09.780 Yeah, and it was shortly after I'd had I think my third baby

00:04:14.780 But I was I kept with the habits

00:04:17.780 So I had really bad habits

00:04:19.780 And looking back now at the time I was quite offended by that and I was upset

00:04:24.780 What are those habits if you don't mind me asking?

00:04:26.780 so

00:04:28.780 Just the eating of lots of chocolate I had a sweet tooth that was my issue and also it was

00:04:33.780 From me too

00:04:34.780 There was yeah

00:04:35.780 There was chocolates and there was gato cakes and there was I used to have when I was a kid

00:04:39.780 I used to have club biscuits underneath my pillow

00:04:41.780 Oh yeah

00:04:42.780 Whenever I was in a particular type of mood because it has it's catch 22 because you need the sugar

00:04:47.780 Because it's now controlling your mood it's dictating your mood

00:04:51.780 Did you grow up poor?

00:04:52.780 Yeah, pretty much

00:04:53.780 Me too

00:04:54.780 And therefore I had there was that we didn't have a variation of foods around food was just like it was like money

00:05:00.780 You're just like yeah, I got food whatever it was

00:05:02.780 And so for me it was for me to be able to have the sweets

00:05:05.780 Whatever it was I was getting a sugar is what I thought I needed so that became a habit

00:05:10.780 Yeah, and I took that habit into adulthood

00:05:12.780 So when my mom who was the first person to come and say to me 0.52

00:05:16.780 Pam you're a little bit too big you know because even the father of my children he used to bring me chocolates

00:05:23.780 That was a way to shut me up

00:05:25.780 Oh bring bring me the chocolates now eat them and then everybody's happy in the house

00:05:29.780 But again that became a habit so even now even though I've had a tummy tuck and I've had lipo

00:05:35.780 If I'm feeling a particular way there are times when I will you know wouldn't so much get there for a rocher 0.94

00:05:41.780 But I might have a healthier chocolate

00:05:43.780 Or you know a dark chocolate perhaps but I need to have that sugar fix

00:05:48.780 Yeah, and I think that now

00:05:50.780 We can we can we can still have those those types of behaviors that they can still linger about

00:05:56.780 Even when you you know you might look good, but again, are you healthy?

00:06:00.780 It sure sugar is sugar is way more addicting sugar is more addicting than cocaine

00:06:05.780 I know you've never I know you've never done cocaine pearl

00:06:13.780 But I've been at Columbia a couple times let me tell you something like it's crazy how addictive sugar is

00:06:22.780 And and it's honestly in in the United States sugars in everything it's in you know it's in bread in the States

00:06:29.780 It's high fructose syrup is in the bread there's sugar in every single thing in the States and that's the side that that's the main reason why so many people

00:06:39.780 Are fat in states because everything has sugar in the salad dressing has sugar in it people like I'm gonna be healthy 0.96

00:06:45.780 I'm gonna eat a salad and they have fucking salad dressing that has sugar and all these seed oils in it 0.98

00:06:50.780 So we're living in this like kind of contaminant world 0.98

00:06:53.780 But there's a lot of people making these breakthroughs and coming through and understanding like the fundamentals of nutritional science

00:06:59.780 And putting it into food. Thank God, you know, but like the average person is just so poorly uneducated

00:07:07.780 Do you remember the food pyramid?

00:07:09.780 Did you guys have food pyramid?

00:07:11.780 I did it in school but I don't remember it

00:07:13.780 The food pyramid said you needed to eat six to eleven servings of bread or rice a day

00:07:19.780 Can you imagine? Eleven cups of rice a day? Eleven cups of rice a day

00:07:24.780 But you know what? It's your it's your it's your responsibility to educate yourself on nutrition

00:07:30.780 I was dumb. I trusted the government 0.96

00:07:32.780 Do you know what I mean?

00:07:34.780 Years ago I did but when I got really fat when I told you and I went vegan

00:07:38.780 I started looking at what is in the food and the ingredients

00:07:42.780 It's up to you to educate yourself

00:07:44.780 Yes, it is

00:07:46.780 Unless you educate yourself

00:07:48.780 But now that we have social media, it's become a lot easier

00:07:50.780 But if you think about years ago, we didn't have this

00:07:52.780 We had to trust the government

00:07:54.780 You know you can question everything

00:07:56.780 You know now ketchup is considered a fruit in the food pyramid of the United States

00:08:00.780 What?

00:08:02.780 Process is the key word here

00:08:04.780 It's processed sugar

00:08:06.780 If it was from a sugar cane, if it was from a fruit

00:08:08.780 It's natural sugar

00:08:10.780 Yeah, it's natural sugar

00:08:11.780 So it's actually processed is the key word

00:08:13.780 Not sugar cane

00:08:14.780 Because honey is natural

00:08:16.780 Honey, not true raw honey

00:08:17.780 I don't know

00:08:18.780 When I was a kid, I was also a chunky kid

00:08:20.780 I lost the weight when I started sports

00:08:22.780 But the habits continued, you know what I mean?

00:08:24.780 Yeah, they persist

00:08:26.780 And I know how to make really good cookies from scratch

00:08:30.780 And it's with all natural stuff because you're making it from scratch

00:08:32.780 And that made me pretty fat

00:08:34.780 So I think that's for sure

00:08:36.780 It's the American

00:08:38.780 I used to eat like half of the cookie dough when I was a kid

00:08:40.780 I used to have long cookie dough

00:08:42.780 The American diet, like the mainstream American diet is just so unfortunately unhealthy

00:08:47.780 Like you know, do you know which country has the lowest obesity rate in the world?

00:08:51.780 Japan?

00:08:52.780 No

00:08:53.780 Australia

00:08:54.780 It's China, no? 0.72

00:08:55.780 No, no, not China

00:08:56.780 I thought it was like Mediterranean food

00:08:59.780 Iceland

00:09:00.780 No, no, no

00:09:01.780 It's Vietnam 0.96

00:09:02.780 Oh

00:09:03.780 Yeah, and if you ever go to Vietnam, if you eat there, it's like 0.94

00:09:06.780 First of all, if you ever go to Vietnam, it's just like a giant 1.00

00:09:09.780 It's like a small city in a jungle

00:09:11.780 And Vietnamese people eat so healthy

00:09:14.780 They eat natural foods

00:09:16.780 There's not a lot of GMOs nonsense, you know

00:09:18.780 You know, Vietnam has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world too

00:09:21.780 7%

00:09:22.780 Have you been to Vietnam?

00:09:23.780 It's a place I want to go to

00:09:24.780 It's really awesome

00:09:25.780 I've been to Vietnam

00:09:26.780 Vietnamese food

00:09:27.780 That's money

00:09:28.780 It's good

00:09:29.780 And I used to have a boy called Li Nam

00:09:30.780 When I was in primary school as well

00:09:32.780 He was Vietnamese

00:09:33.780 Yeah, so like, you know, the food when you eat there too

00:09:35.780 And I've noticed this because, you know, I travel a lot

00:09:38.780 I'm like, I'm addicted to traveling

00:09:40.780 But honestly, every time I go back to America and I start eating American food

00:09:44.780 I get like, a bloated stomach

00:09:46.780 Yeah

00:09:47.780 I get digestion issues

00:09:48.780 It's poison 1.00

00:09:49.780 Yeah, no, dead ass 1.00

00:09:50.780 It's poison 1.00

00:09:51.780 Now that I'm vegan

00:09:52.780 Yeah

00:09:53.780 If I ever eat

00:09:54.780 Because obviously I've grown up on processed food

00:09:56.780 I've grown up with meat, you know, and, you know, fish and all that kind of thing

00:10:01.780 So when I go back to eating those kind of foods

00:10:04.780 Yeah

00:10:05.780 It does

00:10:06.780 It affects me

00:10:07.780 Yeah

00:10:08.780 It affects my body

00:10:09.780 I just went to the United States and every time I go back to America, I just have to eat Chick-fil-A

00:10:15.780 I just have to eat Chick-fil-A

00:10:17.780 But I eat it

00:10:18.780 I eat a breakfast

00:10:19.780 I eat like the Chick-fil-A chicken sandwich or I eat the breakfast biscuit or whatever

00:10:23.780 And then my stomach, I look like I'm three months pregnant

00:10:26.780 Like it just bloats me up

00:10:27.780 Yeah

00:10:28.780 And I'm miserable for the rest of the day

00:10:30.780 You're bloated

00:10:31.780 You know what my trick is for me for that?

00:10:32.780 If I do eat something and I know I'm bloated

00:10:35.780 I have a waist trainer that I wear

00:10:38.780 And I'm not joking

00:10:41.780 If I know I want to eat something, my waist trainer is in my bag

00:10:45.780 Can we talk about the health of that then?

00:10:47.780 We're talking about health

00:10:49.780 Let's explore what waist trainers do for people and to people

00:10:54.780 Right?

00:10:55.780 Because waist trainers, you know, they used to be used for posture correction

00:10:58.780 Yes

00:10:59.780 You have like, you know, post-surgery garments like Farha's

00:11:02.780 Yes

00:11:03.780 But if you are just putting on a waist trainer and let's say you're wearing it for extended periods of time

00:11:07.780 Because you're super committed to having a snatched waist

00:11:10.780 What is that doing to your organs?

00:11:11.780 Well, I've been doing it for five years

00:11:13.780 You know, honestly, I just

00:11:17.780 Say more words

00:11:18.780 I've been wearing it for five years

00:11:21.780 I just can't see waist trainers being as big of a problem as obesity

00:11:26.780 No, I'm not saying it is

00:11:27.780 I'm not saying this to a comparable

00:11:28.780 No, and I'm saying I think that's why we focus on obesity a lot more

00:11:31.780 Because it's just a way bigger problem

00:11:33.780 I you guys would always clown

00:11:35.780 I'm so tired of the UK clowning on America for being overweight

00:11:38.780 Because I looked up the stats and it's not that different

00:11:42.780 It's not that different

00:11:44.780 But the US is massive

00:11:46.780 US is massive

00:11:47.780 But I will say this

00:11:48.780 It's like, it's like, okay

00:11:49.780 I think we're like 70% overweight

00:11:51.780 And you guys are like 60

00:11:53.780 Yeah, we've caught up

00:11:54.780 You are right

00:11:55.780 We've caught up

00:11:56.780 But they're

00:11:57.780 I don't

00:11:58.780 I think they're in the hillbilly sides of England

00:12:00.780 Because like in London

00:12:01.780 I don't know

00:12:02.780 I was expecting to see a bunch of fatties here 1.00

00:12:04.780 But I see gorgeous good women 1.00

00:12:06.780 Good looking women here 1.00

00:12:07.780 I think it's because everybody's walking all the time here

00:12:10.780 You know what I mean?

00:12:11.780 That's like when I first moved

00:12:12.780 It depends who you are 1.00

00:12:13.780 Yeah, Australians are pretty fat 1.00

00:12:14.780 Like 1.00

00:12:15.780 I was driving

00:12:16.780 Like I drove everywhere in Australia

00:12:18.780 I moved here

00:12:19.780 Four months

00:12:20.780 Ten kilos

00:12:21.780 Gone

00:12:22.780 I didn't change my diet

00:12:23.780 Nothing

00:12:24.780 Everything was the same

00:12:25.780 And I'm like, whoa

00:12:26.780 25% of adults in England are obese

00:12:29.780 Just like

00:12:30.780 Isn't that terrible?

00:12:31.780 That's like

00:12:32.780 That's not bad

00:12:33.780 Because like when we're Americans

00:12:34.780 Like, well, that's not bad

00:12:35.780 Because we have

00:12:36.780 40% in the States

00:12:38.780 I can believe that

00:12:40.780 We are 40%

00:12:41.780 I know the fat stats

00:12:43.780 I know the fat stats

00:12:44.780 I got in trouble

00:12:45.780 So I'll tell you ladies

00:12:46.780 Something

00:12:47.780 I recently got in trouble

00:12:48.780 Because I like

00:12:49.780 I trolled chats once in a while

00:12:50.780 There was a girl 0.68

00:12:51.780 There was a girl 0.68

00:12:52.780 That was on

00:12:53.780 There was a girl that was on a show 0.75

00:12:54.780 And no disrespect to her

00:12:55.780 It is what it is

00:12:56.780 But, you know

00:12:57.780 She was

00:12:58.780 I mean, objectively speaking

00:12:59.780 She was a little bit on the

00:13:00.780 Chubbier side

00:13:01.780 And I just wrote

00:13:03.780 Who is this chubby woman? 1.00

00:13:04.780 And then I wrote

00:13:05.780 Ha ha ha

00:13:06.780 And then I wrote

00:13:07.780 She's about 40 pounds too heavy for me 1.00

00:13:09.780 My personal preference, right?

00:13:10.780 Yeah

00:13:11.780 And she was really, really, really, really upset that I said this

00:13:18.780 And the reality is though

00:13:22.780 Like if you look at her

00:13:23.780 Like her weight is still what it is

00:13:25.780 Yeah

00:13:26.780 But she like vilified me

00:13:28.780 And demonized me

00:13:29.780 She could have ran a marathon like I did 1.00

00:13:31.780 Ha ha ha ha

00:13:32.780 You know, it's like

00:13:34.780 So I went to America

00:13:35.780 And basically a girl got angry because 1.00

00:13:38.780 I said she was a little heavier

00:13:41.780 Than I preferred for my sexual preference

00:13:44.780 I think women were 1.00

00:13:45.780 I've been offended by that though

00:13:46.780 No

00:13:47.780 I think as women

00:13:48.780 But how did you say

00:13:49.780 Sure

00:13:50.780 How did you say

00:13:51.780 What was the context?

00:13:52.780 I just told you the context

00:13:53.780 I don't think it matters how he says it

00:13:54.780 I think as women were too soft 1.00

00:13:56.780 And we need to get thicker skin

00:13:57.780 Yes

00:13:58.780 And especially if he's making fun of something

00:14:00.780 That you can change

00:14:01.780 Because we make fun of short men all the time

00:14:04.780 And until we stop doing that

00:14:06.780 Yeah

00:14:07.780 Until we stop doing that

00:14:08.780 We have no right

00:14:09.780 To tell men what they can and can't prefer 0.76

00:14:12.780 But it was a peak America experience too

00:14:15.780 Because basically

00:14:16.780 I went to America 0.98

00:14:17.780 And a fat girl got mad at me 1.00

00:14:19.780 Because she was fat 1.00

00:14:20.780 Well

00:14:21.780 I was just like

00:14:22.780 You know

00:14:23.780 And that's the thing like

00:14:24.780 If there was no truth in that

00:14:25.780 You weren't a bit as angry as she was

00:14:27.780 Yeah

00:14:28.780 Did you trigger her anyway?

00:14:29.780 Oh she was super triggered 0.65

00:14:30.780 But did you trigger her?

00:14:31.780 What did you do?

00:14:32.780 We need to at least hear this 0.72

00:14:33.780 Because a fat person would love to get angry if you don't

00:14:36.780 I wrote those three things in the chat 0.89

00:14:38.780 That's all I did

00:14:39.780 Sometimes the truth needs to be told

00:14:41.780 Some people need to hear

00:14:42.780 I agree

00:14:43.780 And the other thing I don't understand

00:14:45.780 Is like

00:14:46.780 Celebrities like Lizzo will lead with their weight

00:14:49.780 Yes

00:14:50.780 And that's what she's leading with

00:14:51.780 Because she's in these super scantily

00:14:53.780 Like she's wearing basically nothing

00:14:55.780 And that's what she's leading with

00:14:57.780 And then she gets mad when people comment on her weight 1.00

00:14:59.780 Adele was overweight

00:15:00.780 Nobody commented on it

00:15:01.780 Also

00:15:02.780 Because she didn't lead with it

00:15:04.780 Until she lost it

00:15:05.780 Then they commented

00:15:06.780 Yeah

00:15:07.780 And then they said that she might have not been well

00:15:10.780 When she lost the weight

00:15:11.780 Yeah

00:15:12.780 That's like

00:15:13.780 Fat Amy as well

00:15:14.780 She's known as Fat Amy 1.00

00:15:15.780 But like

00:15:16.780 She's lost all that weight 0.96

00:15:17.780 And she looks amazing

00:15:18.780 The one with the blonde hair

00:15:19.780 Are you talking about pitch?

00:15:20.780 Perfect pitch

00:15:21.780 That was from walking

00:15:22.780 Yeah

00:15:23.780 All she did was walk 0.99

00:15:24.780 And even Lizzo

00:15:25.780 She wore like a thong to a basketball game 0.99

00:15:27.780 With kids

00:15:28.780 No

00:15:29.780 But I think that's a separate thing

00:15:31.780 She should have just covered that

00:15:32.780 If you look at her Instagram

00:15:33.780 She knows kids follow her 0.99

00:15:34.780 It looks like softcore porn

00:15:36.780 It literally does

00:15:37.780 I'm not

00:15:38.780 I'm not done with that

00:15:39.780 And it's like

00:15:40.780 If an Instagram model

00:15:41.780 Leads with her body 0.95

00:15:42.780 Yeah 1.00

00:15:43.780 And men call her a slut 1.00

00:15:44.780 You've got to expect the criticism 1.00

00:15:45.780 Yeah

00:15:46.780 Like if an Instagram

00:15:48.780 Even a thin one

00:15:49.780 It's like an Instagram model

00:15:50.780 She's wearing nothing 0.99

00:15:51.780 And then people call her a slut 1.00

00:15:52.780 Well you're leading with that 1.00

00:15:53.780 Yeah

00:15:54.780 So let me ask you a question then

00:15:55.780 So I'm sitting here

00:15:56.780 I'm wearing

00:15:57.780 I don't know what this is called

00:15:58.780 But it doesn't have

00:15:59.780 A boob tube? 1.00

00:16:00.780 Boob tube

00:16:01.780 There we go

00:16:02.780 I don't know my fashion

00:16:03.780 Corset

00:16:04.780 So if I had a smaller chest

00:16:06.780 People probably wouldn't pick up on the fact

00:16:09.780 That I'm wearing a boob tube

00:16:11.780 Right? 0.95

00:16:12.780 But because I have breasts 0.96

00:16:13.780 And they are quite large 0.63

00:16:14.780 Someone might go 0.99

00:16:15.780 Oh she's got big boobs 1.00

00:16:16.780 And isn't she dressed a bit funnily 0.99

00:16:18.780 Like she's putting her weight out there

00:16:20.780 Am I putting my weight out there?

00:16:22.780 Or am I just wearing clothes?

00:16:23.780 I mean I would say 0.99

00:16:24.780 You're putting your boobs out there 1.00

00:16:25.780 Like if you have them out 0.99

00:16:26.780 Yeah 0.99

00:16:27.780 Are you putting your boobs out there? 1.00

00:16:28.780 I would say no 0.99

00:16:29.780 Because I'm not built the same as you

00:16:31.780 Okay so it's subjective then

00:16:33.780 No it's based on what we can see 0.88

00:16:35.780 So if you can't see my boobs

00:16:36.780 And we can see yours 0.57

00:16:38.780 But am I leading with my weight

00:16:39.780 Based on what I've put onto it?

00:16:40.780 I wouldn't say you're leading with your weight 0.98

00:16:42.780 I'd say that like your boobs are very 1.00

00:16:44.780 Like they're owls 0.99

00:16:45.780 Yeah they are

00:16:46.780 Lizzo is way more sexualized than you are right now

00:16:48.780 She absolutely is 0.62

00:16:49.780 Yeah

00:16:50.780 We're not saying that

00:16:51.780 We're not saying that

00:16:52.780 The point is valid though

00:16:53.780 If you see a woman walking down the street

00:16:55.780 In that top 0.99

00:16:56.780 With your size breasts 1.00

00:16:57.780 Compared to someone with a 32 AA 0.98

00:17:00.780 You are not going to look at that woman 1.00

00:17:02.780 In the same way

00:17:03.780 Yes

00:17:04.780 Same way

00:17:05.780 I just think

00:17:06.780 But I think

00:17:07.780 But I think life isn't fair

00:17:09.780 I'm tall

00:17:10.780 So things are shorter

00:17:11.780 Yeah

00:17:12.780 That is the way it is

00:17:13.780 I'll tell you a story

00:17:14.780 When I was in high school

00:17:15.780 I got kicked out of homecoming

00:17:16.780 Because I had like a day

00:17:17.780 To find my volleyball dress

00:17:19.780 And I couldn't find one that fit me

00:17:21.780 But I had just waited too long

00:17:22.780 And so it was way too short

00:17:23.780 And they sent me home

00:17:24.780 And I could have whined

00:17:25.780 And been like

00:17:26.780 Oh poor me

00:17:27.780 No

00:17:28.780 Like I waited till the last minute

00:17:29.780 And that was the

00:17:30.780 That was the hand dealt

00:17:31.780 But there's an

00:17:33.780 In regards to like

00:17:34.780 You know

00:17:35.780 Like what Sophie said

00:17:36.780 You know Sophie right?

00:17:37.780 Yeah, yeah

00:17:38.780 So Sophie said earlier

00:17:39.780 Like she just ignores guys

00:17:40.780 That are like 5'5

00:17:41.780 Like I'm the same way

00:17:42.780 When I see a woman's a cup 1.00

00:17:43.780 I'm like I don't see anything here

00:17:44.780 Yeah

00:17:45.780 You know

00:17:46.780 And they did a

00:17:47.780 They did a

00:17:48.780 They did a study too

00:17:49.780 Like the way women 1.00

00:17:50.780 Like disproportionately desire a man that is super tall

00:17:56.780 Yeah

00:17:57.780 Because like tall men are really really short

00:17:58.780 A small percentage of the population

00:18:00.780 Yeah 0.97

00:18:01.780 That's the same way guys want women with big breasts 1.00

00:18:03.780 Did you know that? 0.96

00:18:04.780 I agree 0.96

00:18:05.780 Like the big breasts 0.99

00:18:06.780 Yeah

00:18:07.780 Like because they did a lot of data based upon men's preferences

00:18:10.780 And then like the guys who are ordering sex dolls

00:18:13.780 And the guys who are ordering sex dolls 0.99

00:18:15.780 And the guys who are ordering sex dolls 0.99

00:18:16.780 The average breast size they wanted was American D cup or larger 1.00

00:18:20.780 Wow

00:18:21.780 You know?

00:18:22.780 I'm a boot man myself too

00:18:23.780 I'm old school

00:18:24.780 I don't 0.99

00:18:25.780 This whole new ass thing 1.00

00:18:26.780 I'm not about it 0.99

00:18:27.780 I'm a weird one

00:18:28.780 I'm a weird one

00:18:29.780 I'm a weird one

00:18:30.780 I'm a weird one

00:18:31.780 Put it out there

00:18:32.780 You know

00:18:33.780 But that's

00:18:34.780 But you know what's so interesting?

00:18:35.780 People would call you misogynistic for that preference

00:18:37.780 I mean you don't care

00:18:38.780 That GPT has me listed as a misogynist

00:18:40.780 So

00:18:41.780 That's personal preference

00:18:42.780 Yeah

00:18:43.780 Everyone has a personal preference

00:18:44.780 I have a question on preferences

00:18:46.780 So

00:18:47.780 If I said

00:18:48.780 Hey guys

00:18:49.780 Men don't like 1.00

00:18:51.780 Old fat single mothers 1.00

00:18:53.780 Is that offensive to you? 1.00

00:18:55.780 No

00:18:56.780 Well if they don't

00:18:57.780 They don't 0.96

00:18:58.780 There's no old fat single mothers here 1.00

00:18:59.780 If I fell into that category 0.89

00:19:00.780 It might be offensive

00:19:01.780 Well I would want to know why

00:19:03.780 What's

00:19:04.780 Because

00:19:05.780 Men just don't typically pick 0.97

00:19:06.780 Women that are older 0.99

00:19:07.780 Their options go down on dating apps

00:19:09.780 But

00:19:10.780 Men don't typically pick 0.99

00:19:11.780 Women that are fatter 1.00

00:19:12.780 Their options also go

00:19:13.780 Wait wait wait

00:19:14.780 Okay

00:19:15.780 Men also don't typically pick 0.99

00:19:17.780 Women with kids 1.00

00:19:18.780 Their options go down

00:19:19.780 Okay

00:19:20.780 So I'm

00:19:21.780 I'm

00:19:22.780 I have children

00:19:23.780 Although

00:19:24.780 They're adults

00:19:25.780 Um

00:19:26.780 I'm an older woman

00:19:27.780 Yeah but you're sexy 0.97

00:19:28.780 You know

00:19:32.780 You're sexy though

00:19:33.780 They're different

00:19:34.780 These don't apply to you

00:19:35.780 You're clearly an exception to the rule

00:19:38.780 Those rare cases

00:19:39.780 So who are we speaking about here?

00:19:43.780 Non-sexy women 1.00

00:19:44.780 I'm just talking about

00:19:45.780 No I'm talking about 0.86

00:19:46.780 We all carry sex and 0.92

00:19:48.780 Sexiness differently

00:19:49.780 It's whether you're not

00:19:50.780 You're peeling

00:19:51.780 Do you think you're equally

00:19:52.780 Like do you think

00:19:53.780 If a guy had you at 20 with no kids

00:19:55.780 Versus you now with four kids

00:19:57.780 Who are they picking? 0.69

00:19:58.780 Four grandkids

00:19:59.780 I think just three kids

00:20:00.780 Oh sorry sorry sorry

00:20:01.780 Three kids

00:20:02.780 Four grandkids right?

00:20:03.780 Probably now but not because of the way that I look

00:20:05.780 But because I'm very much a healed person of the person I used to be

00:20:09.780 The way you are

00:20:10.780 The way I am now

00:20:11.780 And who I am now

00:20:12.780 I'm telling you most men will just 0.93

00:20:13.780 Just for sex only 0.99

00:20:15.780 For sex only 0.99

00:20:16.780 For sex only 0.98

00:20:17.780 Well then obviously more now 0.98

00:20:18.780 There we go

00:20:19.780 I get that

00:20:20.780 The majority 0.87

00:20:21.780 Because again it's eye candy isn't it

00:20:22.780 We all want a bit of eye candy

00:20:23.780 Yeah

00:20:24.780 Yeah

00:20:25.780 Men think sex first 1.00

00:20:26.780 Relationship after

00:20:27.780 I got a friend

00:20:28.780 I got a friend

00:20:29.780 I got a friend

00:20:30.780 I got a friend

00:20:31.780 That actually likes older women 1.00

00:20:32.780 Older women 0.81

00:20:33.780 Yeah

00:20:34.780 Older women 0.81

00:20:35.780 But listen

00:20:36.780 I'll push back on that

00:20:37.780 So there's two sides to the men who like older women

00:20:39.780 It's a little dark

00:20:40.780 So

00:20:41.780 One side is like

00:20:43.780 They may have been

00:20:45.780 You know

00:20:46.780 Touched by an older woman when she was younger 0.98

00:20:49.780 Yeah

00:20:50.780 Or

00:20:51.780 Or

00:20:52.780 Older women is all he can get 1.00

00:20:53.780 So he fetishizes it

00:20:55.780 He's like

00:20:56.780 I like older women 1.00

00:20:57.780 Interesting

00:20:58.780 Because I know a few people

00:21:00.780 On social media

00:21:02.780 Myself

00:21:03.780 That

00:21:04.780 Prefer

00:21:05.780 Older women 0.81

00:21:06.780 Your male friends prefer older women

00:21:08.780 Some of them

00:21:09.780 How old are they?

00:21:10.780 Are these guys like good looking chads?

00:21:12.780 Are they like good looking chads?

00:21:13.780 He's good looking

00:21:14.780 I'm not gonna lie

00:21:15.780 I would go there with some of them

00:21:16.780 Yes

00:21:17.780 Is his mother present in his life?

00:21:18.780 I

00:21:19.780 Don't know that much

00:21:20.780 Well my friend

00:21:22.780 Older women sometimes want younger men as well 1.00

00:21:24.780 Can I say

00:21:25.780 Yeah

00:21:26.780 For example

00:21:27.780 I'm 43

00:21:28.780 Yeah

00:21:29.780 So

00:21:30.780 You don't look at

00:21:31.780 Guys my age

00:21:32.780 I'm younger

00:21:33.780 Don't necessarily look that great

00:21:34.780 So

00:21:35.780 I would not really pretend

00:21:36.780 Like I would not really have a choice

00:21:39.780 My choice would not be older men 1.00

00:21:41.780 But

00:21:42.780 If I had the choice

00:21:43.780 I would go for younger

00:21:44.780 I would go for younger

00:21:45.780 Because I personally believe that younger men just look better than the guys my age 0.98

00:21:49.780 Look better or

00:21:50.780 Perform better?

00:21:51.780 It's actually a normal

00:21:57.780 Like that happens a lot older women with younger men 1.00

00:22:00.780 But it's because men don't have as much leverage on the sexual marketplace 1.00

00:22:04.780 So men

00:22:05.780 Like their peak

00:22:06.780 If you look at dating apps where they have the most options

00:22:09.780 It's like roughly around like 35 to 37

00:22:12.780 Where women have the most options roughly around like 22 1.00

00:22:15.780 Younger

00:22:16.780 Yeah

00:22:17.780 Yeah

00:22:18.780 Imagine

00:22:19.780 For me

00:22:20.780 The men that I attract now

00:22:21.780 I mean there's a variation in ages

00:22:23.780 But a majority

00:22:24.780 They're not even as old as my older son

00:22:27.780 Younger

00:22:28.780 Right

00:22:29.780 They all

00:22:30.780 I know

00:22:31.780 Right

00:22:32.780 That's the point

00:22:33.780 Because they don't have as many options

00:22:34.780 When men are young

00:22:35.780 They can't sleep with as many women 1.00

00:22:36.780 They have less options

00:22:37.780 So it's like

00:22:38.780 The older women have less options 1.00

00:22:40.780 And the younger men have less options

00:22:41.780 So they tend to go together

00:22:42.780 That's interesting

00:22:43.780 Yeah

00:22:44.780 Where it's like

00:22:45.780 The 35 year olds 0.99

00:22:46.780 Like typically date the younger

00:22:48.780 The younger women 0.94

00:22:49.780 And I'm not saying

00:22:50.780 Like how much

00:22:51.780 Like I think the average age gap

00:22:52.780 Is like

00:22:53.780 Like each prefer

00:22:54.780 Like five to seven years difference

00:22:55.780 But

00:22:56.780 But it starts with looks

00:22:57.780 And men find 22 year olds 0.89

00:22:59.780 The most attractive

00:23:00.780 I will say this too

00:23:01.780 At right now

00:23:02.780 Because with the way society is structured

00:23:04.780 Like men are just being slammed with sexual images nonstop

00:23:08.780 Like the moment we wake up 0.99

00:23:10.780 Like how about some sex 0.97

00:23:11.780 You know 0.99

00:23:12.780 Yeah

00:23:13.780 And so this has caused male thirst to be at an all time high

00:23:17.780 Yeah

00:23:18.780 And so dudes are like

00:23:19.780 You know when guys get good with game

00:23:22.780 You know getting with a bunch of women 1.00

00:23:24.780 That sex 1.00

00:23:25.780 That ejaculation 1.00

00:23:26.780 That hunt

00:23:27.780 Is all based upon dopamine

00:23:28.780 And so you got these guys

00:23:29.780 That are just

00:23:30.780 Searching for that next dopamine hit

00:23:33.780 You know what I mean?

00:23:34.780 And then also

00:23:35.780 I don't think we've ever had a period in time

00:23:37.780 Where older women were doing their best 1.00

00:23:40.780 To stay sexy

00:23:42.780 You know what I mean?

00:23:43.780 I agree

00:23:44.780 I agree

00:23:45.780 You know

00:23:46.780 The modern day

00:23:47.780 You know you have like the J Lo's 0.75

00:23:48.780 And you got all these different women 0.99

00:23:50.780 I don't keep up celebrities

00:23:51.780 But J Lo's the only one I know

00:23:53.780 But like you know

00:23:54.780 They're older women 1.00

00:23:55.780 In their 40s and 50s

00:23:57.780 Right

00:23:58.780 That are like trying to be super sexy

00:24:00.780 So when you're sexy 0.99

00:24:02.780 You know guys are dogs 1.00

00:24:03.780 Guys are fucking dogs 1.00

00:24:05.780 And so they're gonna come after you 1.00

00:24:07.780 Yeah but I also think it doesn't really count

00:24:10.780 Until you're married really

00:24:12.780 Or in a long-term relationship with kids

00:24:14.780 Because that seems to be the new marriage nowadays

00:24:16.780 Because I think a lot of times

00:24:17.780 As women will mistake sexual attention 1.00

00:24:19.780 For relationship attention

00:24:20.780 Yes

00:24:21.780 And they're not the same

00:24:22.780 That's huge

00:24:23.780 Yeah but because a lot of women 1.00

00:24:24.780 They'll conflate the fact that a million dudes 1.00

00:24:26.780 Are in their DMs

00:24:28.780 Right?

00:24:29.780 And like hollering at them

00:24:30.780 But I would say 99% of those dudes 1.00

00:24:33.780 They're gonna fuck you a couple times 1.00

00:24:34.780 And disappear 1.00

00:24:35.780 Yeah

00:24:36.780 And then you're gonna be like

00:24:37.780 Oh I thought you liked me

00:24:38.780 I am guilty of that

00:24:40.780 I'm curious

00:24:41.780 People do it

00:24:42.780 Majority girls are 0.67

00:24:43.780 For women that want relationships 1.00

00:24:45.780 Where are the best places to look?

00:24:47.780 See you know what?

00:24:48.780 Here's the thing

00:24:49.780 I know I'm like a red pill guy 1.00

00:24:50.780 And I'm supposed to like shit on women 1.00

00:24:51.780 Because that's like what the majority of people do 1.00

00:24:53.780 But that even for me

00:24:55.780 Is something that I have been trying to answer the question to

00:24:59.780 I can't tell these women where to find good men 1.00

00:25:03.780 But I can tell them where not to find them

00:25:05.780 Where?

00:25:06.780 Where not to find them

00:25:07.780 Any dating app

00:25:08.780 I agree

00:25:09.780 I'm not on any of those at all anymore

00:25:11.780 Any dating app

00:25:12.780 Bars 1.00

00:25:13.780 If he has any kind of drug addiction

00:25:15.780 No

00:25:16.780 Yes

00:25:17.780 Right?

00:25:18.780 Church used to be a stable thing

00:25:19.780 But honestly I would say this

00:25:20.780 The guys that you ignore are probably gonna be some of the better relationships

00:25:24.780 Yeah

00:25:25.780 The guys that don't even show up on your radar

00:25:26.780 Yeah

00:25:27.780 Because it's just

00:25:28.780 It is hard

00:25:29.780 Because for guys

00:25:31.780 You know 0.99

00:25:32.780 When mainstream media and mainstream culture is just telling girls by default to be sluts 1.00

00:25:39.780 To be whores 1.00

00:25:40.780 To sleep around 1.00

00:25:41.780 Right?

00:25:42.780 It's really hard

00:25:43.780 So that's the conundrum we have right now

00:25:45.780 Is like good women are usually trying so hard to find good men 1.00

00:25:51.780 And good men are trying so hard to find good women

00:25:53.780 Because for me too

00:25:54.780 After I became successful

00:25:55.780 It's just like

00:25:56.780 How

00:25:57.780 I don't even know

00:25:58.780 Like where to like find decent women 1.00

00:26:01.780 Because like women who like you for your clout 1.00

00:26:02.780 Or for your money

00:26:03.780 Or all those things

00:26:04.780 She's real

00:26:05.780 You know

00:26:06.780 It's just like 1.00

00:26:07.780 This bitch is treacherous 1.00

00:26:08.780 Like she's after me 1.00

00:26:09.780 Yeah

00:26:10.780 For things that I have

00:26:11.780 Not me

00:26:12.780 Dating

00:26:13.780 Once you have a following is so different

00:26:15.780 Oh dude

00:26:16.780 I have trauma

00:26:17.780 I want to go to a monastery

00:26:18.780 Like

00:26:19.780 Because it's just

00:26:20.780 It's so

00:26:21.780 So I'm talking from a guy's perspective

00:26:23.780 It's so hard

00:26:25.780 To

00:26:26.780 One

00:26:28.780 Vet a woman 1.00

00:26:29.780 And find out the truth

00:26:31.780 Of who she is

00:26:32.780 See I like Pam

00:26:33.780 She knows the fact

00:26:34.780 Yeah

00:26:35.780 And then on the other side of the coin

00:26:36.780 It's the same thing for ladies 1.00

00:26:37.780 It's the same thing

00:26:38.780 Because you're blinded by your own attraction

00:26:41.780 Like I like this person

00:26:42.780 Well they did this

00:26:43.780 Like this means they like me

00:26:44.780 But then like

00:26:45.780 You know when you go through a situation

00:26:47.780 When you thought someone loved you

00:26:48.780 You thought they liked you a lot

00:26:49.780 And then you find out that

00:26:51.780 Yeah

00:26:52.780 They didn't

00:26:53.780 And then they leave quickly

00:26:54.780 They don't want to resolve conflict

00:26:55.780 Or whatever

00:26:56.780 Then you're just sitting there like 1.00

00:26:57.780 Damn I just really don't know shit 0.99

00:26:58.780 And I went through that 1.00

00:26:59.780 I literally went through that

00:27:01.780 Someone who I thought was on my team

00:27:03.780 Who I you know I gave myself to

00:27:07.780 And we thought I thought we were on the same page

00:27:10.780 And then you later on find out

00:27:11.780 It was it wasn't that

00:27:13.780 It was not being reciprocated

00:27:15.780 Yeah

00:27:16.780 And that's where you have to draw every piece of strength

00:27:18.780 What happened?

00:27:20.780 Without going into too much detail

00:27:22.780 Wrong show

00:27:23.780 You gotta go into detail

00:27:24.780 I put a lot of trust into someone whom

00:27:30.780 When I began communicating with him

00:27:33.780 Of what I had previously been through

00:27:36.780 Which allowed me to drop my guard

00:27:39.780 And I was happy to do so because

00:27:41.780 He made me feel safe

00:27:43.780 Okay

00:27:44.780 And I think for him

00:27:45.780 It may have been what he could get

00:27:47.780 But I think the worst thing for me

00:27:50.780 Was there was no resolution

00:27:52.780 It was a straight cutoff

00:27:54.780 What do you mean a cutoff?

00:27:56.780 I mean when it when things kind of sort of came about

00:27:59.780 And you know when things really mattered

00:28:02.780 And we should have been communicating

00:28:03.780 We should have been speaking about it

00:28:05.780 Speaking about the very small issue

00:28:07.780 It was a very very small issue

00:28:09.780 What issue was that?

00:28:10.780 It was a very small issue

00:28:11.780 It literally there was no conversation

00:28:14.780 We didn't get to speak about what the problem was

00:28:18.780 Did you leave or did he leave?

00:28:19.780 He did

00:28:20.780 Oh so he left and then you just never heard from him?

00:28:22.780 And I never heard from him

00:28:24.780 Was he younger?

00:28:25.780 No he was older

00:28:26.780 So can I say that emotional labor

00:28:29.780 It does not come with a marker

00:28:32.780 I don't think that you can

00:28:34.780 You know be on a dating app

00:28:36.780 Or be in church or wherever

00:28:37.780 See someone meet them

00:28:38.780 Be on a date with them

00:28:39.780 And say yes this person is willing

00:28:41.780 And committed to put in emotional labor

00:28:44.780 To make this work

00:28:46.780 You only know that

00:28:47.780 When you come up to those situations

00:28:49.780 That require the emotional labor

00:28:51.780 I actually don't really think men should care about our emotional needs

00:28:54.780 No I don't think she means emotional needs

00:28:56.780 I think like you know when you get to a point in a relationship

00:28:58.780 Where there's like a breaking point

00:29:01.780 Where the both of you are going to have to endure through a

00:29:04.780 That wasn't even

00:29:05.780 I'm not even trying to be

00:29:06.780 Yeah yeah

00:29:07.780 But like when you have to like endure through hardship

00:29:10.780 Absolutely

00:29:11.780 You know

00:29:12.780 Some people

00:29:13.780 They just give up

00:29:14.780 Yeah

00:29:15.780 Yeah

00:29:16.780 And it's detrimental

00:29:17.780 Because I've been that person who didn't want to give up

00:29:21.780 I was like you know

00:29:22.780 And I wanted to be committed to the situation

00:29:25.780 When your partner gives up

00:29:26.780 And then that's just like

00:29:28.780 And unfortunately

00:29:29.780 That's just life

00:29:30.780 I just don't understand how that like works

00:29:32.780 Because you're not a dirtbag

00:29:33.780 That's why

00:29:34.780 Well no because when I hear emotional labor

00:29:37.780 Like I always hear that

00:29:38.780 I don't really hear that term used then

00:29:40.780 I usually hear it when it's like

00:29:41.780 My partner's not meeting my emotional needs

00:29:43.780 That's what I hear when I hear emotional

00:29:45.780 No I think she's talking about

00:29:46.780 Because there's points in a relationship

00:29:47.780 What do you mean?

00:29:48.780 I would say that the emotional labor is

00:29:50.780 Any situation that you come up against

00:29:52.780 As a partnership

00:29:53.780 Where there requires some either compromise

00:29:57.780 Or you two have to sit down and have a difficult discussion

00:30:00.780 About you know

00:30:01.780 Do the kids go to school here or there?

00:30:03.780 Or you know

00:30:04.780 It's just anything

00:30:05.780 I think the man should automatically decide

00:30:07.780 Do you?

00:30:08.780 I do

00:30:09.780 I do

00:30:10.780 I believe in traditional relationships

00:30:12.780 Which are a bit different than like 50-50

00:30:14.780 So which basically

00:30:16.780 Like a lot of times women 1.00

00:30:17.780 We want the guy to pay for everything

00:30:18.780 We want like a traditional outcome

00:30:21.780 Where he pays for us

00:30:22.780 He leads

00:30:23.780 He's masculine 1.00

00:30:24.780 But what you're supposed to give up with that

00:30:25.780 Is authority

00:30:26.780 Yeah

00:30:27.780 Can I add on to

00:30:28.780 Because I

00:30:29.780 You tell me if I'm wrong

00:30:30.780 Because this was your original statement

00:30:32.780 But I'm just going to add on to it

00:30:33.780 I think what she means by emotional labor is like

00:30:36.780 Again like it will get to a point

00:30:38.780 Where you will have a hard time

00:30:41.780 Like you both need to push through an obstacle

00:30:45.780 And I think that the example she gave

00:30:48.780 About you know

00:30:49.780 The schooling whatever

00:30:50.780 Was more about like

00:30:51.780 There's going to be emotional turmoil and conflict

00:30:54.780 Can I have an example just so I could understand better

00:30:57.780 What you're talking about

00:30:58.780 Let's just say you know

00:30:59.780 You're both at an impasse

00:31:01.780 Where you're just like

00:31:03.780 There's a communication barrier

00:31:05.780 Like you're saying one thing

00:31:07.780 And I'm saying another thing

00:31:09.780 Right?

00:31:10.780 And we really don't see eye to eye

00:31:12.780 And we should just keep on trying to push through

00:31:18.780 Keep on trying to communicate and get through it

00:31:21.780 That's what a relationship that works looks like

00:31:25.780 But one party man or woman

00:31:27.780 The emotional labor

00:31:29.780 What's the actual issue?

00:31:31.780 Have you ever been in a relationship?

00:31:33.780 Yeah I have

00:31:34.780 Okay

00:31:35.780 Everyone says I haven't

00:31:36.780 But I have

00:31:37.780 Okay, okay

00:31:38.780 Virgin vibes

00:31:40.780 Let's take you at your word then

00:31:42.780 So you've been in a relationship

00:31:44.780 Have you ever had to make a decision in that relationship

00:31:47.780 Either you say that you believe in traditional relationships

00:31:49.780 Has your partner ever had to make a decision?

00:31:51.780 I think one

00:31:52.780 I think traditional relationships work better

00:31:55.780 Because if you look at the history of them

00:31:57.780 Relationships tend to work better in countries that have more traditional relationships

00:32:01.780 And you know

00:32:02.780 If you look at a hundred years ago

00:32:03.780 Ninety-five percent of people were married

00:32:05.780 But I'll say no

00:32:06.780 I wasn't a good girlfriend

00:32:07.780 I think that's why we broke up

00:32:08.780 I'm not sure that answers the question

00:32:10.780 Which part?

00:32:11.780 Have you ever had a confrontation or a disagreement with your partner

00:32:16.780 Ever in history?

00:32:17.780 Yeah

00:32:18.780 And the result of that confrontation was what?

00:32:20.780 Have you ever broken up over a disagreement?

00:32:22.780 Irreconcilable differences

00:32:23.780 Yeah

00:32:24.780 Yeah

00:32:25.780 It was more different values though

00:32:27.780 So it was like

00:32:28.780 It was kind of getting to the point where we've been dating a bit

00:32:31.780 And it was either we're going to get married

00:32:33.780 Take that next step

00:32:34.780 Or we're not

00:32:35.780 And I just didn't see us getting married

00:32:36.780 Because our backgrounds were just a bit too different

00:32:38.780 And do you think that sort of unwillingness to compromise

00:32:42.780 Was

00:32:43.780 Would you say that that's a lack of emotional labour

00:32:46.780 To see where the other person is coming from

00:32:48.780 And make the necessary adjustments?

00:32:50.780 I would say there's different situations

00:32:52.780 Where I definitely did not compromise

00:32:54.780 And I should have

00:32:55.780 Like

00:32:56.780 But in that situation

00:32:57.780 I think it's just picking what you want to marry 0.51

00:32:59.780 Okay

00:33:00.780 You know?

00:33:01.780 Like I think before you get married

00:33:02.780 You should weigh out what you want

00:33:03.780 Do you think everything can be known

00:33:05.780 Before you get into that situation

00:33:07.780 Or are there instances in the relationship

00:33:10.780 Where you go

00:33:11.780 You discover things about them

00:33:12.780 And you have to decide at that point

00:33:13.780 You're at a sort of decision point

00:33:15.780 You have to say

00:33:16.780 I want to marry this person

00:33:17.780 I'm going to work it out

00:33:18.780 Or actually this is a bit too difficult

00:33:20.780 And I'm not willing to compromise on this

00:33:22.780 And neither are they

00:33:23.780 So we have to part ways

00:33:24.780 Yeah

00:33:25.780 Do I think there's situations where issues come up

00:33:27.780 And you might find out something about him

00:33:29.780 Or he might find out something

00:33:31.780 He's like oh you slept with a hundred people

00:33:33.780 What?

00:33:34.780 Like I can't compromise on that

00:33:35.780 Or whatever it is

00:33:36.780 Yeah

00:33:37.780 You know

00:33:38.780 But that's not like a compromise

00:33:39.780 It's more of like a deception thing

00:33:41.780 Yeah

00:33:42.780 Which ties into trust

00:33:43.780 Which if you don't have trust in a relationship

00:33:44.780 It's game over

00:33:45.780 Yeah

00:33:46.780 Not gonna work

00:33:47.780 Yeah

00:33:48.780 Yeah

00:33:49.780 But does that answer your question?

00:33:51.780 Well I wonder if

00:33:52.780 Are we on the same page here?

00:33:54.780 Do we

00:33:55.780 I see

00:33:56.780 I see

00:33:58.780 I get it

00:34:00.780 You're trying to find the answers of

00:34:02.780 Why she believes that

00:34:04.780 And you're

00:34:05.780 Yeah

00:34:06.780 But no

00:34:07.780 Why she believes what she believes

00:34:08.780 Cause you're

00:34:09.780 You want to understand why

00:34:10.780 And

00:34:11.780 Why she feels like that

00:34:12.780 I guess

00:34:13.780 I understand the emotional labour point

00:34:14.780 Cause I've been through that

00:34:15.780 And then you know

00:34:16.780 And it's so

00:34:17.780 Cause when you're in the relationship too

00:34:19.780 You know 1.00

00:34:20.780 You feel like a fool 1.00

00:34:21.780 Cause you're like damn 1.00

00:34:22.780 I'm willing 0.99

00:34:23.780 To push through here 0.51

00:34:24.780 Dickhead

00:34:25.780 Like

00:34:26.780 And they're just like

00:34:28.780 And they're just like

00:34:29.780 No I'm just gonna

00:34:30.780 See you later

00:34:31.780 Download the Medellin Hinge

00:34:32.780 You know

00:34:33.780 I'm gonna be on out of here

00:34:34.780 It's the fact that they give up

00:34:36.780 Yes

00:34:37.780 At a point where

00:34:38.780 If you

00:34:39.780 When you had that discussion

00:34:40.780 About you know

00:34:41.780 How you'd like things to be conducted

00:34:43.780 Or how you would deal with the matter

00:34:45.780 If the matter ever arose

00:34:46.780 And the fact that they give up

00:34:48.780 Yeah

00:34:49.780 To me that's disheartening

00:34:50.780 That's the hardest thing

00:34:51.780 I will give everybody what they want

00:34:53.780 Which is the attempt

00:34:54.780 The ability to throw shade at their exes

00:34:57.780 So

00:35:00.780 But the reality of the situation is this

00:35:03.780 It's not that they just gave up on you

00:35:06.780 They're just quitters in general

00:35:08.780 Yeah

00:35:09.780 Yeah

00:35:10.780 How many times

00:35:11.780 And you can reflect on your cases

00:35:13.780 Yeah

00:35:14.780 How many times did they

00:35:15.780 Give up on you

00:35:16.780 And went off and had happily ever after

00:35:18.780 Are they still jumping from person to person to person

00:35:21.780 I've broken up with all mine 0.87

00:35:23.780 So

00:35:24.780 Oh I know

00:35:25.780 I know

00:35:26.780 Just put it out there

00:35:27.780 So you're the

00:35:28.780 You're the person to person to person

00:35:29.780 You're the quitter

00:35:30.780 No

00:35:31.780 No

00:35:32.780 No

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JustPearlyThings - October 17, 2023

She EXPOSES The Truth Behind Obesity.

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