She Gets CONFUSED with Men's Choice in Dating Market
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In this episode, we talk about what comes first: sex, relationships, and relationships with friends and family. We also talk about the difference between being a "side chick" and a "relationship" in situationships.
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comes first? Sex. What? In 2022, what comes first? I mean, relationship for me. Okay. Okay. So every
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person you've ever slept with, the relationship came first. Define relationship. Like we got to
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meet each other. Not a, not a, not a, so, so usually. Like situationship or like this is,
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you're my boyfriend. No, no, a boyfriend, girlfriend. I would say it's like 50-50. Okay.
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So, so in the situationships, typically that's a man you find attractive, right? Yeah. Yeah. So
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that means other women find them attractive. So you're probably not the only one you sleep
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with. So you kind of start as a side chick. And if you, if you do good, you might get promoted
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to girlfriend. Is that how you think? That's how it happens. No, because, because the number
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one way people are meeting. Yeah, in a way. Yeah. Because the number one way people are
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meeting nowadays are dating apps online. And, and, and again, women only swipe right 5% of
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the time. What does that mean? We're sharing. If you're on a date, if you're on a date with
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a guy, I mean, but we're all, but like the inverse is also true. Like we're also, women
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are also being courted by multiple men at the same time. So again, like I, I'm, I'm struggling
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to. That's, that's true. But, but of what percentage? So it's like 80% of women want 20%
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of men. It's actually a hundred percent, but 80% of women share 20% of men. I don't like
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this word share. No, I don't, you don't like it, but it's true. Did you, you, you had a question
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in green? So yeah, I was going back to what you were saying before, like, what standard
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is it you expect or you're insinuating that women should have then? Like, because I don't
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think it's wrong. You have to settle. Yeah, but I don't think it's wrong to say, I don't
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want a man that doesn't, I don't want a man who cheats. I want a man who earns a certain
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amount of money that's, you know, realistic to whatever standard that woman is at. And
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obviously just a good, I just don't see what is wrong with that expectation. Okay. So I don't
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think it's wrong to want a man that doesn't, again, again, I, again, I was raised by a
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dad that never cheated. He had 10 kids. He was a multimillionaire. He, he had a lot of,
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yeah, he was, yeah, I have nine siblings. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's nice. I mean, I like
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having a big, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What number are you? Um, four, four, but they
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adopted, it's a long story. They adopted some like later, but it's okay. But, but I don't
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think it's wrong to want that. But the problem is if you're going to go for a guy, if you want
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him to be handsome, not just like, uh, okay. Handsome. Attractive. Right. But
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remember women. So women rate 80% and it's okay. You guys have never heard this stuff
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before. I don't expect you to know it, but women rate 80% of men is unattractive.
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Girl. Okay. But how many times have you heard a girl from like, Oh, but he's cute to me.
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Like how many times have you heard women? Like we, we are historic, like women lower our standards
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for men. So more, so much more likely to do that. Right. But, but so no, no, no. But remember,
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remember eight women rate 80% of men is unattractive. So, so top 20% of men, 10% women might be
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like, Oh, he's hot. The next 10%. Oh, he's okay. Women are girls. We'll say girls. Yeah. That's
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what I'm, that's what I'm talking about. Which is, which is, which is fine. You're less likely
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to get cheated on if you date a less attractive guy. That's not true. Okay. Okay. Guys, but
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this is like, guys, guys, guys, guys, again, you don't think, okay. You don't think a good
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guy with character would have a hard time saying no to a model. Okay. So listen, right. Sometimes
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when you date an unattractive guy, the second that somebody else starts giving him attention,
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he's like, Oh, two people are giving me attention at the same time. Oh, I've never. He's not
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unattractive. If two girls, two girls are giving him attention. No. Okay. I've, I've given
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attention to him. His man's like, his, his sexual, what is it? His sexual rating goes higher depending
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on the woman that he has on his arm. That's true. That's true. So like, yeah, he could, he could be
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this, he could be a two, but he's with an eight. He's immediately a six. Okay. But usually
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when girls say this, they're not ugly guys. Like if you could show me him and I won't show it
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on screen, but if you show me the picture, no, usually because I've done this on the show, it's always guys
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that I would rank a six or a seven. And typically like girls will say, Oh, I'm dating medium, ugly.
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It's not medium, ugly. That's just your level respectfully. Like I've been there. I've been
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there, but, but, but it's, it's just honest. And so it's like women want everything. And even like,
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again, so on everything, no, they, that's, that's so again, what men swipe, right? 50% of women swipe,
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right? Like the data just doesn't indicate that because men find about half of women attracted. Like,
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it's actually crazy. When I started talking to men, there'd be a girl that I think is like kind
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of chunky or like unattractive. And I'm like, would you, would you smash? And they're like,
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hell yeah. Defining whether or not someone would like sleep with someone does not mean that he'll
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like take her out on dates. Does not mean he'll take her home. Does not mean, which is, which is fine,
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which is fine. But remember it in 2022, it starts with situationships typically. So that's where it
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starts. I mean, I can't get behind this. Cause then earlier you were saying, Oh, men value purity,
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minimum value purity. So like you're now you're saying, Oh, it starts with sex. Like I can't get
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behind this. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Men do value purity and they like having sex.
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Like it's just not adding up for me. Like the argument that you're making. Oh, I don't know.
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It's not an argument. It just is what it is. It's like, okay. Men will want to sleep with a bunch
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of girls typically. Like if, if they could do it the way they wanted to, if, if, you know,
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if they had a bus full of models waiting to sleep with them, they're probably going to do it,
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but they want to wife a girl and make the main show, the girlfriend, a girl that hasn't been
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with a lot of people. Yeah. Can I, can I just say something real quick? It's just like,
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like I said before, I'm pretty sure I mentioned it, like mandem have two separate categories.
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You feel me? One is for fun and the other is for wifey. And you've got to understand that
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those women who are wearing these short dresses, they're showing off their body and all of that.
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They all go into the fun category. Like ask mandem, we can, you know how, okay, let's put it this way.
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That women, I'm sure you've all been in the club before and a random guy approached you and like,
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you kind of can smell that he's some kind of creep. You feel me? Right. Mandem can do the same thing.
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We can smell when there's a hoe, like talking to us right now. Can we not use this type of terminology?
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Like, can we not refer to women as like hoes or chants? No, no, no, we're not, we're not, we're not, we're not asking,
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can we use other words? No, no, no, but we're not, we're not referring to all women as hoes,
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we're referring to hoes as hoes. Yeah. Do we need to use, do we need to use that type of vernacular?
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Yeah, but here's the thing, a man, a man who took someone else's life is a murderer, right?
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It doesn't matter what you, that you can try, dress it up in any way you can.
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The fact is that Donnie took someone else's life. Now, here's the thing, women, that, okay,
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no, let me put it a different way. Humans, right, we all have choices to make. And one thing,
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it's so unfortunate, but a lot of women struggle with the idea to understand that your choices have
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consequences, right? Men have this image, but take this in, take this in, right? You can be the most
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beautiful woman in the world. If you decide, you know what? I'm going to sell my body on OnlyFans.
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Guess what? 95% of mandem are going to look at you and think, you know what? You're beautiful,
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you're cute, but you're on OnlyFans, so you're only going to be in the fun category. Do you understand?
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Like, there's a whole different category for women who act a certain way, who are going to be taking
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this wife immaterial. And there's a lot of women out there who, like, they're living their best life.
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They're, sorry, they're, I was about to swear, but they're effing a lot of mandem, right? And then
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they're coming home at the end of the day and they think to themselves, why is no one committing
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themselves to me? Men are territorial. We don't want women that's always... We're territorial.
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Like, I'm not trying to talk about my relationship too much, but... Let me ask you a question. Let me ask
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you a question. Would... Do you have a brother? You have a brother? I'm sure. Okay. Do you want... Only one
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though. Okay. Is he older or younger? I'm the eldest, so yeah, he's younger. Okay. How old? How old is
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girl? He is 22. 22. 22. Would you want him to date a girl that slept with two of his friends? He did.
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Oh my God. Did you encourage him? Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. It happened after they broke
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up. Okay. It happened, happened after they broke up and he was, he was, it really hurt his feelings. Yeah.
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Yeah. No. But I mean, I mean, it's... But okay. Wait, so wait, let me get this straight. He dated a girl
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and then she slept with two of his friends. Afterwards. Afterwards. Okay. So, so you've seen firsthand the
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damage it can do to a guy to wife of Hope. No, I'm... Okay. Again, I don't like this word, but... But it describes... You
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know what I'm saying? No, I mean, anyone would feel, regardless, like anyone would feel a certain
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type of way, like you think that your relationship, you think your relationship is going one way
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and then you realize, oh, like that clearly wasn't as valuable for her as it was for him.
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So that's disappointing for sure. But, and again, like, I understand that line of logic.
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I would feel quite similarly if I was dating someone, but again, this, I don't like this, I don't,
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from my perspective, I don't like or enjoy conversation that is dictating how women use their bodies,
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but then doesn't do the same thing for men. So it's not, it's not, it's not, wait, wait,
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it's not... So then who are these, like, I don't, I, that's what I, like, if we're going
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to be having conversations, like, okay, would women, how would, how, how would a man feel
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if a woman slept with multiple men? I would like to have the same conversation about how a
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man, the inverse of that. So, okay, I'll give you, I'll give you, I'll give you the
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examples. Okay. So again, we can't undo biology. So would you agree that like when women start
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running out of time to have kids, like they start to think more about it if they want
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kids, right? Typically, because, because it's in the back of it, like, right, right, right.
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So, but we, because we can't undo our biology, right? So, so the closer, like 90% of our eggs
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are gone by 30. Exactly. So the closer we get to 30, we, we start thinking about it
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more, right? And it becomes more to the forefront of our mind. Okay. So historically, men had
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to ensure paternity. There wasn't, like, there wasn't paternity tests historically, right?
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And that's, that's new modern medicine. So if a man dated a girl that slept around, he wasn't,
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he could potentially pass on resources to a kid that was not his. So that's the biological
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reason why men have evolved to not like girls that have slept around. However, women, it's
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the opposite. We have evolved to like men that have slept around. For example, Drake, he's
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had a kid with a corn star and he, he clearly sleeps around yet. There are women lined up.
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I mean, so, right. Okay. There are other factors that go into that.
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There's other factors, but, but you understand my point, right? Where Brittany runner or whatever
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the runner, Brittany runner, there aren't men and Mia Khalifa, there are not men lined up
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to date them. There's sleep with them. Okay. Okay. Okay. We're making a lot of assumptions.
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Okay. We, we, we look at me. Okay. Okay. Okay. You could argue. I think, I think, you know,
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deep down that men aren't lined up to date them, but if you want to believe that, but let me
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just tell you the reason why. So, because if historically we wanted a man that could protect us and take
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care of us financially. Yes. So if he did that, so back, back in the old days, if I found a guy
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that slept with you, you, and you, then I want him because, oh, he could protect and take care
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of her, her and her. So I want to get on that train. So that's what, but we can't undo our
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biological roots. So we still feel the way we feel about it. So you're saying that it, this
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is just so I can summarize what you're saying. You're saying that when, from a perspective of
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a woman, when I see a guy who's been more promiscuous, I will see him biologically as
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a better provider. Yes. You, you will be more attracted to, I'll give you an example. Have
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you ever been, have you ever been cheated on? No. No. Have you ever been cheated on? No. Oh,
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wow. I also haven't been in a lot of relationships. So. Okay. Okay. Typically, typically girls,
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most girls that have been on my show have been cheated on at some point. Women like women,
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the other women like. No, no girl wants a guy that nobody wants. And I'll give you,
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I'll give you a reason why one at one in three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past
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year. So if you wanted a guy that nobody wanted, there's a whole group, one out of three, but we
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don't want them. I disagree with that. How many ladies here have a bestie in their friend zone? Do you get
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it? Like, who has a guy in their friend zone? Like, do you know how many girls that, listen,
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I've spoken to a lot of girls, right? And a lot of girls have mandem in their friend zone who would
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literally treat them the best way any man would ever would. You feel me?
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You don't want them. You don't want them. You don't want them.
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They will treat you like a princess. You don't want them.
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They will give you everything you ever wanted. But guess what? You ladies don't want us toxic mandem.
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That's not true. Wait, wait, wait. Go ahead. Go ahead. I just wanted to add to something that
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you said earlier. So in America, being raised in a black Christian family, a lot of women are
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raised within purity culture, which if you're not familiar with that, it's essentially basically
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like God finds more value in you when you maintain your virginity. Yeah, I went to Catholic
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school. Okay, cool. And so basically attached to that a lot of times is also the idea that
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you lose value the more promiscuous you are, which is, you know, you see a little bit of
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that in this conversation that we're having. But then you also have the concept that like,
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all like men constantly want you for sex and they constantly want you for,
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As a sexual object. As a sexual object. And there are specific even like passages in the Bible that
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talk about like women who were just taken, like angels by different people, you know, and they just
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get taken because they were beautiful and they, you know, everybody had their way with them. And
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that's the story. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. My point is that like, sometimes I don't think
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people realize this, that it creates a mindset of hypersexuality because sometimes as a woman now
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you have to anticipate the hypersexuality that you think a man is going to have towards you. And so
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you're just kind of like, oh, we're having a nice conversation. He must want to have sex with me,
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you know. And so, so they do. No, no man. Yeah. Yeah. So like, like no man is going to want to date
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you if he doesn't want to have sex. No man's going to want to marry you if he doesn't want to have sex.
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Most men that are nice to you want to sleep with you. But isn't he celibate? He's dating a woman
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right now. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. No, I have a question. I have a question. I have a question.
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What do you want to do on your wedding night? Sex. Yeah. But I'm saying like, I guess my point
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was that like a lot of men aren't bred almost like from childhood to, to anticipate someone wanting
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to have sex with them, like as, as a, as the initial point of contact in the relationship.
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Whereas women are, women are constantly from like, I can, I can literally like almost recite
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conversations that I had when I was like in elementary school where it was like, by the way,
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growing up, somebody's gonna, somebody's gonna want something for you. And you have to, it's,
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it creates a mindset of anticipation, which creates a mindset of hypersexuality,
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which has this effect that people are talking about. But to me, to me, I think that's honest.
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That's true. Men do want to have sex. Like again, when you, when you hit 55 or whatever day your looks go,
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you know, um, the world's going to treat you different, especially men, men, absolutely. And women talk
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about this when they're in their late fifties, sixties, that like men treat you, that you get
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way less attention from men. But that, I'm sorry, that wasn't my point. My point is, my point's not
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on like the attention that you're getting from men. My point is that like, I, we were talking about
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like whether or not, um, the body count thing. Yeah. Yeah. Like the body count thing, like whether or not
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a man who has no body is, is attractive, like biologically, whether I would be more attracted to him or not.
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Like I like, I would, I would love to have like pursued a relationship where we were both like
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waiting until marriage. It's just like, it's just not, it's, it's just not common. It's not,
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there aren't a lot of men there. There are, it's one out of three. Like, trust me,
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if you want a virgin, go down to Tesco. Go down to Tesco, talk to your locals.
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One previous summer. It's like, it's like, it's like, okay. Walgreens, go to Walgreens.
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That's hilarious. Go to Walgreens. Look at the man behind the counter about five, six, five, seven.
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That's so funny. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Go ahead. It was just quick. Um, because I had this discussion
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with a couple of my friends and even though it's obviously, um, the truth that men do want to sleep
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with women, uh, more so than, I guess, women wake up in the morning thinking, I want to sleep with a guy.
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But women also, um, they set the level of what is acceptable to have sex. Like, for example,
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at the moment where scantily clad women are popularized, you know, men don't feel the need
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to put in the extra miles, do the extra work, be wholesome as they used to be. You know, when I had
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conversations with my grandfather before he passed away, his, um, memories of how he met my grandmother
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almost sound like a movie to me. You know, I wrote her letters. She wrote me letters back. You know,
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that was because she set the premise of what she needed before she had sex. Right. And it would still
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be the same today if women set those premises. For example, if women came together collectively
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and turned around and said, we only want to date men who wear three piece suits. Do you know how many
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men would be down the road buying three piece suits? They'd be running. They'd be in shoes,
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dapper shoes and three piece suits. But this is what I'm saying. Like guys don't want to do the hard
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work when the easy ones are there. Yeah, they got Tinder. Exactly. Yeah, exactly. But women can come
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together and change the rules of the game. Women want to have sex. You cannot have it both ways. You
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can't turn around and say, I can't believe men just want to have sex with me because they just see me
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as a sexual object. But then at the same time, but women just want to have sex too. Women, I think that both
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people, like both, like both, like we equal, equal, it's equal, like both. So I just think it's,
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it is like women want to have sex just as much as men want to have sex. No, no, no, wait, wait,
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I'm sorry. Can I just challenge you on that? No, wait, wait, let him go. He was going. Yeah,
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please. So the girls who believe that men are just sleeping around, we've had the statistics,
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80% of women are sleeping with 20% of men. Everybody likes to think that the guys have all these
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bodies. Who are giving these men the bodies? Women. Presumably. Presumably
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making the assumption that's a heterosexual relationship. Exactly. So it is, it literally
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is the women who are giving these 20% of guys, all these bodies. No, I'm not going to push back on
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that. Like if anything, I feel like that's something as an American, I have noticed that is different
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here. Like UK culture, like as like a young American girl dating here in London, like the, what the women
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here. And I, I don't want to, maybe I shouldn't say this, but like, it's just a different standard to what,
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to what I'm using. And again, I'm from the South. Do you think women are more slutty here or less
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slutty? I don't like these words. Okay. Okay. But you know what I'm saying. I think that women are more
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likely to, they just don't have standards here. Like I just like, and standards for like how they want to
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be treated, how a date should go. At least from what I, at least from what I've like seen. I feel like there's
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more homes in the U.S. I have a bombshell. I have a bombshell. I'm actually. It's prevalent everywhere.
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People are having sex everywhere. There's a, there's a hodemic. I'm from, I'm from, I was born in California,
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San Francisco, raised until I was about eight years old. I moved here. I've been here from 11 till now.
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I frequent back in Chicago where I tattoo time to time. And being on both sides of the pond through
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different times of my life, I would say that women over in America, a lot more forward, like the amount
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of times I've had whispers in my ear in a bar or wherever. Maybe it's because I'm from the South.
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I don't know. Like, I mean, this may be a unique experience. So I can't, I can't speak for American
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women. It's just, or American men. All I can say is from my experience, like men are more, more
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traditional in America, like in America, like women that I've had conversations with here, specifically
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white women don't have any type of expectation about how they want like partner, like relationships
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to go. It's very much just like, we just have sex and like, I, or like even dating, like they want,
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they want everything to be like 50, 50, like, it's just, or like from the big, like, there's no
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courting to like, I just, from what I've experienced, again, I just, I don't know. I think again, again,
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this is all quite unique. Maybe I shouldn't have used it. If you go up north, it's different.
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Yeah. Maybe up north it is different. I think it's a mating strategy. This is what I think. So I feel like,
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okay, all the girls want the top 10, 20% of guys. Right. So the girls that aren't like
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attractive enough to get the attention of those guys, like through courting, they'll just sleep
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with them because it's like 10 billion percent. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So absolutely. But then again,
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if you had, if you had, if, if, if the standards were raised on both sides of the, of the field,
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you know, good men wouldn't go for those girls. Do you see what I'm saying? They don't. I mean, I, I,
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I mean, from actually, I can't speak for men. I can't, but from what I've noticed,
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I wouldn't say that they do. I'm telling you, man, my app will change all of this.
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Oh my God. No, I'm telling you. Um, I think you, you had something you wanted to say. Oh,
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no, no. It's okay. It's okay. Okay. Um, I'm going to take a second to read super chats. Um,
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if they're mean, I'm sorry. I just read them. Um, um, um, okay guys like the video, um, make sure
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there's over, I think there's over 3000 people watching. So there should be over 2000 likes in here.
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How many, how many we got watching right now? Blessing.
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While I pull up the super 3.7. Um, also guys subscribe to the channel. I really want to hit
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a million subscribers before new years. Um, so I, that's a pretty lofty goal. You know,
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we're only at seven 25,000, which is still crazy in eight months, but it's that delusion showing.
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Um, but make sure you guys subscribe to the channel, ring that notification bell. Um,
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okay. Let me pull up the super chats. All these super chats are going towards blessings,
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monopod. Okay. C Dumbledore red says, I don't like these words. Chicks love being the word police.
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Men use words to describe reality. Women use words to try to change reality.
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Silly sausage. They disagree and then go on a 10 minute circle of absolute waffle to eventually
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come back to the point that they're wrong and then agree. So painful to communicate with you gals.
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Sometimes this is honestly hilarious. I'm Matt butcher the couch of shame. It seems like you're
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struggling to make facts and reality conform to what you want it to be. You don't have to follow
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social and cultural norms, but try to understand. I hope Pearl doesn't have any trouble reading this.
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You're always roasting me about how I read. I know. I know I'm not a good reader. Okay.
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Amen. Um, thank you, Dennis. Amen. Dania, um, lady in red. I can appreciate your young and naive
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about what men think or want, but she's a prime example of where I met where women are lacking
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education of the male perspective. Please stop editing offers around you. Sheesh, um, Clifford range,
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ladies, buy cat food, box wine, and die alone. Um, she's trying to police conversation. It's in
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on feelings. Um, guys, the rest of them, I'm just going to read over $20. Um, how is Cheryl?
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Oh, wow. Um, Troy Francis is a marriage counselor because both guys and gals have this problem.
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His classes, fashion admin, priest, mechanical, he'll fix your courting and marriage issues.
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Dramatic exits require dramatic entrances. Our dear host has a skill set to find dating protocol.
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Whether parties can see if their marriage would work. One, um, um, great Gary champion's book is
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about soulmates figuring out how to love each other, figuring out how long lasting fuel for
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their marriage, not the honeymoon phase. Um, there are archers, any goal or theory. B ball scouts look
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for shooters rhythm by when the shooter moves down with the ball and then up there in their shot motion.
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Dating takes logic and instincts. Tier one SF candidates don't pass selection until they have
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logic and instincts. Davis parents are models of success. Um, sentience girl in the red is
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shaming men's preferences, but will vehemently defends women's proud of women's preference.
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18 year olds are adults. And last I checked, they don't come with the emotional, emotional and
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physical trauma that the 30 plus women have. It's not about controls to ensure paternity and
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enforce avoid shame about her past. Uh, 20, uh, we're going to go down to the next 20. Okay. Um,
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Manny fresh, um, black men here who black man here, mere black man here who makes six figures.
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I don't care about my girl's money and FYI generational wealth creates family and kids. Um,
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the, okay, I think that's Russell. Oh wait, that's the last super chat. Okay guys like the video. Um,
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thank you for the super chats. I have one more question for the panel. All right. Why do you guys
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think women are bad with money? I don't think women are bad with money. I'm great with money.
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Yeah. By and large our gender doesn't do great. I won't lie to you. Yeah. They're easily influenced
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by the, by social conditioning, adverts, social media and everything that's going on. I don't
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think it's easily influenced. I think it's what you were saying earlier. Women are the focal, more ads
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now are being pointed towards women. And so, but why are buying more things? Well, why? Because they know
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more women are in the workforce and more women have money to spend. No, because they know. No, no, no, no.
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Because the, you know, it's because the brands know exactly why, because they know they can influence
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you to what you're the biggest spenders. And you, you know, that great with, you can be easily swayed
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to have the, what's the word impulse buys. All right. I can, I can give you, I, I have it broken down.
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Don't worry guys. Don't worry. All right. Yep. A study by a, guys, whose phone, whose phone is this?
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Um, okay. A study by a company called Family Financials showed that the average woman spends,
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I think I said this earlier, $526,374 more than the average man in her lifetime.
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Breakdown is as follows. Okay. I'm going to give you guys the, the one, two, three, four, five, the six
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things. And I'm just going to have you guys vote on, on what you think the women spend the most on.
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Okay. There's personal care products, home ownership, feminine products, clothing, beauty products,
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and healthcare. Who here thinks that personal care products is the most women spend?
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Like makeup and nails. Yeah. I think that's beauty.
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I think that's beauty. All right. So who here thinks it's personal care products? You two do?
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Okay. Two. Two. Okay. Um, home ownership. Who thinks that's what women spend money on?
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Okay. All right. Feminine care products. You know, we're talking about the tampon tax.
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Anyone? Feminine care? No? Okay. Yeah, we know. Um, clothing.
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You guys think clothing, you guys think clothing. Okay. Okay. Beauty products. And everyone's,
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okay. They're changing beauty products. Healthcare. You know, we talk about women giving birth and
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shit. Who says healthcare? That is very expensive. All right. All right.
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Actually, I double vote. Okay. Well, I'll, I'll just let you do that.
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The number one thing that women spend on in a lifetime is beauty products.
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Yeah. $300,000 more than men. Damn. Yeah. I'm not surprised.
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Number two, personal care products. $132,000 more. Um, number three, healthcare, $66,954.
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Um, home ownership. It's like, I can't believe home ownership is one of the last ones.
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24, that's so bad. Okay. Okay. Extra money. You know what? I was,
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feminine care products, $1,920. I was proud of us for clothing. That was last.
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$1,500. Yeah. Have you seen, have you seen this? Have you seen what girls wear nowadays?
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It's like a little bra. There's not much there. There's not much there to pay for.
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Well, I just think there's like she, like there's such fast fashion.
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Yeah. I was going to say that it's quite affordable.
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We're trying to get one away from fast fashion because it's not sustainable.
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Yeah. I just wanted to, uh, go back to the previous question of why women spend more.
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Uh, I also think it's because of women have this hive mindset.
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They, they think like if, if her friend is have like, uh, the latest iPhone, she also wants the,
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the iPhone. If the other girl has, I don't know, uh, Balenciaga shoes, she also wants that.
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While men are more, uh, uh, analytical and more critical when thinking, why should I spend on,
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I don't know, something that's not going to give me value in the future. That's going to,
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you know, um, uh, give a good ROI. So I, that's what I think.
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Men spend so much money on video games. Men spend money on likes.
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I think, I think subconsciously women, women want to believe that somebody's going to take care of
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Yeah, but how can, how, you know, it's, you know, it's interesting. This happens a lot.
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Whenever we talk about something about women, like we always feel the need to say, but men.
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Okay. But women do the same thing. You're like, what?
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No, but if it's, if it's okay. Okay. Can we, can we just agree? Like,
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if we spend half a million dollar more dollars more in a lifetime,
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$300,000 in a lifetime on beauty products that maybe we have a problem.
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Well, I mean, but we just had this whole, what, two hour conversation about what men value.
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I've been conversing, like beauty is the number one thing.
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Could you, could you argue that then women want attention from men and that's the number
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one thing they want if that's the number one thing they spend on?
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I think, I think you can make that argument. I wouldn't say that's, I wouldn't say that's true.
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And they want to compete with other women as well.
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Or you could, or you could say, you could say women don't, you could say women don't dress for them.
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If you're going to blame the men for like, like that being why we spend it on it,
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No, I'm not saying we blame, I'm not, there's no blaming here.
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I just think that this, that we need to like think about these things like from a bird's eye view.
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Like there's a, like we were having these conversations about like how, what influences
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And I think that when we talk about spending habits, that should be a part of the conversation
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Like I know a lot of my, like same thing, like I do it for the girlies.
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Like we always like get like the outfits that we wear.
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Like, I don't think that men really care how our, our, our clothes match or not.
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Okay. So, so we spend money on beauty products for ourselves.
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I think like, I want to feel like 50, 50, let's call it 50.
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Like, but like, we can go like, we like, we like a well, a nicely dressed man.
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Like I think a guy that's dressed well, like a suit, I think a suit gives a guy like at least a point.
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Like you ever, you ever go to like a school dance and you're like, I didn't even know he was cute.
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Like I went to high school, but I was from school for most of it.
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But, but they don't spend for like frivolously like we do.
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So like we have a problem, you know, as women, we spend more.
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We're not as good with money, even though we make less,
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