JustPearlyThings - She Gets CONFUSED with Men's Choice in Dating Market

00:00:00.000 comes first? Sex. What? In 2022, what comes first? I mean, relationship for me. Okay. Okay. So every 0.99

00:00:06.820 person you've ever slept with, the relationship came first. Define relationship. Like we got to

00:00:13.400 meet each other. Not a, not a, not a, so, so usually. Like situationship or like this is,

00:00:17.940 you're my boyfriend. No, no, a boyfriend, girlfriend. I would say it's like 50-50. Okay.

00:00:21.740 So, so in the situationships, typically that's a man you find attractive, right? Yeah. Yeah. So

00:00:27.300 that means other women find them attractive. So you're probably not the only one you sleep

00:00:30.500 with. So you kind of start as a side chick. And if you, if you do good, you might get promoted

00:00:35.280 to girlfriend. Is that how you think? That's how it happens. No, because, because the number

00:00:41.300 one way people are meeting. Yeah, in a way. Yeah. Because the number one way people are

00:00:46.720 meeting nowadays are dating apps online. And, and, and again, women only swipe right 5% of 1.00

00:00:51.960 the time. What does that mean? We're sharing. If you're on a date, if you're on a date with

00:00:56.180 a guy, I mean, but we're all, but like the inverse is also true. Like we're also, women 0.96

00:01:01.880 are also being courted by multiple men at the same time. So again, like I, I'm, I'm struggling

00:01:07.600 to. That's, that's true. But, but of what percentage? So it's like 80% of women want 20% 1.00

00:01:13.040 of men. It's actually a hundred percent, but 80% of women share 20% of men. I don't like 0.98

00:01:18.640 this word share. No, I don't, you don't like it, but it's true. Did you, you, you had a question

00:01:24.020 in green? So yeah, I was going back to what you were saying before, like, what standard

00:01:29.840 is it you expect or you're insinuating that women should have then? Like, because I don't 1.00

00:01:33.640 think it's wrong. You have to settle. Yeah, but I don't think it's wrong to say, I don't

00:01:37.400 want a man that doesn't, I don't want a man who cheats. I want a man who earns a certain

00:01:41.180 amount of money that's, you know, realistic to whatever standard that woman is at. And 1.00

00:01:46.340 obviously just a good, I just don't see what is wrong with that expectation. Okay. So I don't

00:01:51.860 think it's wrong to want a man that doesn't, again, again, I, again, I was raised by a

00:01:56.800 dad that never cheated. He had 10 kids. He was a multimillionaire. He, he had a lot of,

00:02:01.540 yeah, he was, yeah, I have nine siblings. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's nice. I mean, I like

00:02:06.540 having a big, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What number are you? Um, four, four, but they

00:02:09.760 adopted, it's a long story. They adopted some like later, but it's okay. But, but I don't

00:02:15.020 think it's wrong to want that. But the problem is if you're going to go for a guy, if you want

00:02:19.240 him to be handsome, not just like, uh, okay. Handsome. Attractive. Right. But

00:02:24.600 remember women. So women rate 80% and it's okay. You guys have never heard this stuff 1.00

00:02:30.120 before. I don't expect you to know it, but women rate 80% of men is unattractive. 1.00

00:02:34.520 Girl. Okay. But how many times have you heard a girl from like, Oh, but he's cute to me.

00:02:38.740 Like how many times have you heard women? Like we, we are historic, like women lower our standards 1.00

00:02:44.160 for men. So more, so much more likely to do that. Right. But, but so no, no, no. But remember,

00:02:49.580 remember eight women rate 80% of men is unattractive. So, so top 20% of men, 10% women might be 0.97

00:02:55.860 like, Oh, he's hot. The next 10%. Oh, he's okay. Women are girls. We'll say girls. Yeah. That's 1.00

00:03:01.840 what I'm, that's what I'm talking about. Which is, which is, which is fine. You're less likely

00:03:05.560 to get cheated on if you date a less attractive guy. That's not true. Okay. Okay. Guys, but

00:03:10.500 this is like, guys, guys, guys, guys, again, you don't think, okay. You don't think a good

00:03:14.740 guy with character would have a hard time saying no to a model. Okay. So listen, right. Sometimes

00:03:21.360 when you date an unattractive guy, the second that somebody else starts giving him attention,

00:03:25.520 he's like, Oh, two people are giving me attention at the same time. Oh, I've never. He's not

00:03:31.480 unattractive. If two girls, two girls are giving him attention. No. Okay. I've, I've given

00:03:36.260 attention to him. His man's like, his, his sexual, what is it? His sexual rating goes higher depending

00:03:42.280 on the woman that he has on his arm. That's true. That's true. So like, yeah, he could, he could be

00:03:46.340 this, he could be a two, but he's with an eight. He's immediately a six. Okay. But usually

00:03:50.620 when girls say this, they're not ugly guys. Like if you could show me him and I won't show it

00:03:55.360 on screen, but if you show me the picture, no, usually because I've done this on the show, it's always guys

00:03:59.260 that I would rank a six or a seven. And typically like girls will say, Oh, I'm dating medium, ugly. 1.00

00:04:04.200 It's not medium, ugly. That's just your level respectfully. Like I've been there. I've been

00:04:08.120 there, but, but, but it's, it's just honest. And so it's like women want everything. And even like, 1.00

00:04:16.140 again, so on everything, no, they, that's, that's so again, what men swipe, right? 50% of women swipe, 1.00

00:04:22.600 right? Like the data just doesn't indicate that because men find about half of women attracted. Like,

00:04:27.360 it's actually crazy. When I started talking to men, there'd be a girl that I think is like kind

00:04:31.260 of chunky or like unattractive. And I'm like, would you, would you smash? And they're like, 0.75

00:04:35.140 hell yeah. Defining whether or not someone would like sleep with someone does not mean that he'll

00:04:39.700 like take her out on dates. Does not mean he'll take her home. Does not mean, which is, which is fine,

00:04:44.120 which is fine. But remember it in 2022, it starts with situationships typically. So that's where it

00:04:50.580 starts. I mean, I can't get behind this. Cause then earlier you were saying, Oh, men value purity,

00:04:56.500 minimum value purity. So like you're now you're saying, Oh, it starts with sex. Like I can't get

00:05:01.480 behind this. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Men do value purity and they like having sex.

00:05:11.500 Like it's just not adding up for me. Like the argument that you're making. Oh, I don't know.

00:05:15.740 It's not an argument. It just is what it is. It's like, okay. Men will want to sleep with a bunch

00:05:20.620 of girls typically. Like if, if they could do it the way they wanted to, if, if, you know,

00:05:25.200 if they had a bus full of models waiting to sleep with them, they're probably going to do it, 1.00

00:05:28.960 but they want to wife a girl and make the main show, the girlfriend, a girl that hasn't been 0.98

00:05:32.660 with a lot of people. Yeah. Can I, can I just say something real quick? It's just like,

00:05:37.260 like I said before, I'm pretty sure I mentioned it, like mandem have two separate categories.

00:05:41.600 You feel me? One is for fun and the other is for wifey. And you've got to understand that

00:05:46.800 those women who are wearing these short dresses, they're showing off their body and all of that. 1.00

00:05:52.320 They all go into the fun category. Like ask mandem, we can, you know how, okay, let's put it this way.

00:05:59.740 That women, I'm sure you've all been in the club before and a random guy approached you and like, 0.99

00:06:06.580 you kind of can smell that he's some kind of creep. You feel me? Right. Mandem can do the same thing.

00:06:12.320 We can smell when there's a hoe, like talking to us right now. Can we not use this type of terminology? 1.00

00:06:18.140 Like, can we not refer to women as like hoes or chants? No, no, no, we're not, we're not, we're not, we're not asking,

00:06:24.220 can we use other words? No, no, no, but we're not, we're not referring to all women as hoes,

00:06:27.540 we're referring to hoes as hoes. Yeah. Do we need to use, do we need to use that type of vernacular? 1.00

00:06:32.760 Yeah, but here's the thing, a man, a man who took someone else's life is a murderer, right?

00:06:38.540 It doesn't matter what you, that you can try, dress it up in any way you can.

00:06:43.520 The fact is that Donnie took someone else's life. Now, here's the thing, women, that, okay, 1.00

00:06:50.020 no, let me put it a different way. Humans, right, we all have choices to make. And one thing,

00:06:55.900 it's so unfortunate, but a lot of women struggle with the idea to understand that your choices have 0.99

00:07:01.580 consequences, right? Men have this image, but take this in, take this in, right? You can be the most

00:07:07.180 beautiful woman in the world. If you decide, you know what? I'm going to sell my body on OnlyFans. 1.00

00:07:13.380 Guess what? 95% of mandem are going to look at you and think, you know what? You're beautiful,

00:07:19.120 you're cute, but you're on OnlyFans, so you're only going to be in the fun category. Do you understand?

00:07:25.660 Like, there's a whole different category for women who act a certain way, who are going to be taking 1.00

00:07:30.700 this wife immaterial. And there's a lot of women out there who, like, they're living their best life. 1.00

00:07:37.000 They're, sorry, they're, I was about to swear, but they're effing a lot of mandem, right? And then

00:07:41.660 they're coming home at the end of the day and they think to themselves, why is no one committing

00:07:45.820 themselves to me? Men are territorial. We don't want women that's always... We're territorial. 1.00

00:07:49.360 Like, I'm not trying to talk about my relationship too much, but... Let me ask you a question. Let me ask

00:07:54.840 you a question. Would... Do you have a brother? You have a brother? I'm sure. Okay. Do you want... Only one

00:07:59.800 though. Okay. Is he older or younger? I'm the eldest, so yeah, he's younger. Okay. How old? How old is

00:08:04.740 girl? He is 22. 22. 22. Would you want him to date a girl that slept with two of his friends? He did.

00:08:13.120 Oh my God. Did you encourage him? Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. It happened after they broke

00:08:19.760 up. Okay. It happened, happened after they broke up and he was, he was, it really hurt his feelings. Yeah.

00:08:24.780 Yeah. No. But I mean, I mean, it's... But okay. Wait, so wait, let me get this straight. He dated a girl

00:08:30.000 and then she slept with two of his friends. Afterwards. Afterwards. Okay. So, so you've seen firsthand the

00:08:34.980 damage it can do to a guy to wife of Hope. No, I'm... Okay. Again, I don't like this word, but... But it describes... You

00:08:41.920 know what I'm saying? No, I mean, anyone would feel, regardless, like anyone would feel a certain

00:08:47.260 type of way, like you think that your relationship, you think your relationship is going one way

00:08:50.900 and then you realize, oh, like that clearly wasn't as valuable for her as it was for him.

00:08:56.580 So that's disappointing for sure. But, and again, like, I understand that line of logic.

00:09:01.440 I would feel quite similarly if I was dating someone, but again, this, I don't like this, I don't,

00:09:08.300 from my perspective, I don't like or enjoy conversation that is dictating how women use their bodies, 1.00

00:09:16.640 but then doesn't do the same thing for men. So it's not, it's not, it's not, wait, wait,

00:09:20.540 it's not... So then who are these, like, I don't, I, that's what I, like, if we're going

00:09:23.320 to be having conversations, like, okay, would women, how would, how, how would a man feel

00:09:27.820 if a woman slept with multiple men? I would like to have the same conversation about how a 1.00

00:09:31.000 man, the inverse of that. So, okay, I'll give you, I'll give you, I'll give you the

00:09:35.500 examples. Okay. So again, we can't undo biology. So would you agree that like when women start 1.00

00:09:41.500 running out of time to have kids, like they start to think more about it if they want

00:09:45.060 kids, right? Typically, because, because it's in the back of it, like, right, right, right.

00:09:51.880 So, but we, because we can't undo our biology, right? So, so the closer, like 90% of our eggs

00:09:57.480 are gone by 30. Exactly. So the closer we get to 30, we, we start thinking about it

00:10:01.340 more, right? And it becomes more to the forefront of our mind. Okay. So historically, men had

00:10:06.300 to ensure paternity. There wasn't, like, there wasn't paternity tests historically, right?

00:10:12.360 And that's, that's new modern medicine. So if a man dated a girl that slept around, he wasn't, 0.74

00:10:20.180 he could potentially pass on resources to a kid that was not his. So that's the biological

00:10:25.640 reason why men have evolved to not like girls that have slept around. However, women, it's 1.00

00:10:31.100 the opposite. We have evolved to like men that have slept around. For example, Drake, he's

00:10:37.140 had a kid with a corn star and he, he clearly sleeps around yet. There are women lined up. 0.89

00:10:43.880 I mean, so, right. Okay. There are other factors that go into that.

00:10:47.720 There's other factors, but, but you understand my point, right? Where Brittany runner or whatever 0.87

00:10:53.080 the runner, Brittany runner, there aren't men and Mia Khalifa, there are not men lined up

00:10:58.120 to date them. There's sleep with them. Okay. Okay. Okay. We're making a lot of assumptions.

00:11:02.460 Okay. We, we, we look at me. Okay. Okay. Okay. You could argue. I think, I think, you know,

00:11:09.860 deep down that men aren't lined up to date them, but if you want to believe that, but let me

00:11:13.320 just tell you the reason why. So, because if historically we wanted a man that could protect us and take

00:11:20.380 care of us financially. Yes. So if he did that, so back, back in the old days, if I found a guy

00:11:25.840 that slept with you, you, and you, then I want him because, oh, he could protect and take care 0.96

00:11:30.580 of her, her and her. So I want to get on that train. So that's what, but we can't undo our

00:11:34.840 biological roots. So we still feel the way we feel about it. So you're saying that it, this

00:11:39.460 is just so I can summarize what you're saying. You're saying that when, from a perspective of

00:11:44.980 a woman, when I see a guy who's been more promiscuous, I will see him biologically as 0.86

00:11:50.980 a better provider. Yes. You, you will be more attracted to, I'll give you an example. Have

00:11:54.940 you ever been, have you ever been cheated on? No. No. Have you ever been cheated on? No. Oh,

00:11:58.980 wow. I also haven't been in a lot of relationships. So. Okay. Okay. Typically, typically girls, 1.00

00:12:05.860 most girls that have been on my show have been cheated on at some point. Women like women, 1.00

00:12:10.020 the other women like. No, no girl wants a guy that nobody wants. And I'll give you, 0.95

00:12:13.840 I'll give you a reason why one at one in three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past

00:12:18.580 year. So if you wanted a guy that nobody wanted, there's a whole group, one out of three, but we

00:12:25.080 don't want them. I disagree with that. How many ladies here have a bestie in their friend zone? Do you get 1.00

00:12:37.800 it? Like, who has a guy in their friend zone? Like, do you know how many girls that, listen, 0.67

00:12:43.540 I've spoken to a lot of girls, right? And a lot of girls have mandem in their friend zone who would

00:12:48.180 literally treat them the best way any man would ever would. You feel me?

00:12:53.920 You don't want them. You don't want them. You don't want them.

00:12:55.920 You don't want them. You don't want them.

00:12:56.920 They will treat you like a princess. You don't want them.

00:12:59.420 They will give you everything you ever wanted. But guess what? You ladies don't want us toxic mandem. 1.00

00:13:04.920 That's not true. Wait, wait, wait. Go ahead. Go ahead. I just wanted to add to something that

00:13:10.680 you said earlier. So in America, being raised in a black Christian family, a lot of women are 1.00

00:13:21.880 raised within purity culture, which if you're not familiar with that, it's essentially basically

00:13:27.980 like God finds more value in you when you maintain your virginity. Yeah, I went to Catholic

00:13:34.100 school. Okay, cool. And so basically attached to that a lot of times is also the idea that

00:13:41.300 you lose value the more promiscuous you are, which is, you know, you see a little bit of

00:13:47.860 that in this conversation that we're having. But then you also have the concept that like,

00:13:54.340 all like men constantly want you for sex and they constantly want you for, 0.98

00:14:00.900 As a sexual object. As a sexual object. And there are specific even like passages in the Bible that 1.00

00:14:08.740 talk about like women who were just taken, like angels by different people, you know, and they just

00:14:13.380 get taken because they were beautiful and they, you know, everybody had their way with them. And

00:14:16.980 that's the story. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. My point is that like, sometimes I don't think

00:14:22.820 people realize this, that it creates a mindset of hypersexuality because sometimes as a woman now

00:14:29.300 you have to anticipate the hypersexuality that you think a man is going to have towards you. And so

00:14:34.180 you're just kind of like, oh, we're having a nice conversation. He must want to have sex with me, 0.99

00:14:38.820 you know. And so, so they do. No, no man. Yeah. Yeah. So like, like no man is going to want to date 0.99

00:14:45.540 you if he doesn't want to have sex. No man's going to want to marry you if he doesn't want to have sex. 1.00

00:14:48.900 Most men that are nice to you want to sleep with you. But isn't he celibate? He's dating a woman

00:14:52.660 right now. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. No, I have a question. I have a question. I have a question.

00:14:56.740 What do you want to do on your wedding night? Sex. Yeah. But I'm saying like, I guess my point 0.99

00:15:05.380 was that like a lot of men aren't bred almost like from childhood to, to anticipate someone wanting

00:15:14.500 to have sex with them, like as, as a, as the initial point of contact in the relationship.

00:15:20.020 Whereas women are, women are constantly from like, I can, I can literally like almost recite 1.00

00:15:24.820 conversations that I had when I was like in elementary school where it was like, by the way,

00:15:28.660 growing up, somebody's gonna, somebody's gonna want something for you. And you have to, it's,

00:15:32.100 it creates a mindset of anticipation, which creates a mindset of hypersexuality,

00:15:37.060 which has this effect that people are talking about. But to me, to me, I think that's honest.

00:15:41.460 That's true. Men do want to have sex. Like again, when you, when you hit 55 or whatever day your looks go, 0.94

00:15:47.300 you know, um, the world's going to treat you different, especially men, men, absolutely. And women talk 0.96

00:15:53.620 about this when they're in their late fifties, sixties, that like men treat you, that you get

00:15:57.220 way less attention from men. But that, I'm sorry, that wasn't my point. My point is, my point's not

00:16:02.500 on like the attention that you're getting from men. My point is that like, I, we were talking about

00:16:09.460 like whether or not, um, the body count thing. Yeah. Yeah. Like the body count thing, like whether or not

00:16:16.260 a man who has no body is, is attractive, like biologically, whether I would be more attracted to him or not.

00:16:21.220 Like I like, I would, I would love to have like pursued a relationship where we were both like

00:16:28.100 waiting until marriage. It's just like, it's just not, it's, it's just not common. It's not,

00:16:33.380 there aren't a lot of men there. There are, it's one out of three. Like, trust me,

00:16:37.140 if you want a virgin, go down to Tesco. Go down to Tesco, talk to your locals. 0.89

00:16:45.140 One previous summer. It's like, it's like, it's like, okay. Walgreens, go to Walgreens.

00:16:49.620 That's hilarious. Go to Walgreens. Look at the man behind the counter about five, six, five, seven.

00:16:55.700 That's so funny. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Go ahead. It was just quick. Um, because I had this discussion

00:17:01.700 with a couple of my friends and even though it's obviously, um, the truth that men do want to sleep

00:17:07.140 with women, uh, more so than, I guess, women wake up in the morning thinking, I want to sleep with a guy. 0.99

00:17:12.020 But women also, um, they set the level of what is acceptable to have sex. Like, for example, 1.00

00:17:19.380 at the moment where scantily clad women are popularized, you know, men don't feel the need 1.00

00:17:24.500 to put in the extra miles, do the extra work, be wholesome as they used to be. You know, when I had

00:17:29.540 conversations with my grandfather before he passed away, his, um, memories of how he met my grandmother

00:17:36.020 almost sound like a movie to me. You know, I wrote her letters. She wrote me letters back. You know,

00:17:40.420 that was because she set the premise of what she needed before she had sex. Right. And it would still 0.99

00:17:47.140 be the same today if women set those premises. For example, if women came together collectively 0.99

00:17:51.380 and turned around and said, we only want to date men who wear three piece suits. Do you know how many

00:17:55.220 men would be down the road buying three piece suits? They'd be running. They'd be in shoes,

00:17:59.540 dapper shoes and three piece suits. But this is what I'm saying. Like guys don't want to do the hard

00:18:04.500 work when the easy ones are there. Yeah, they got Tinder. Exactly. Yeah, exactly. But women can come 1.00

00:18:09.940 together and change the rules of the game. Women want to have sex. You cannot have it both ways. You 1.00

00:18:15.460 can't turn around and say, I can't believe men just want to have sex with me because they just see me 0.99

00:18:19.540 as a sexual object. But then at the same time, but women just want to have sex too. Women, I think that both 1.00

00:18:23.940 people, like both, like both, like we equal, equal, it's equal, like both. So I just think it's,

00:18:28.900 it is like women want to have sex just as much as men want to have sex. No, no, no, wait, wait, 0.99

00:18:33.460 I'm sorry. Can I just challenge you on that? No, wait, wait, let him go. He was going. Yeah,

00:18:38.340 please. So the girls who believe that men are just sleeping around, we've had the statistics, 1.00

00:18:43.380 80% of women are sleeping with 20% of men. Everybody likes to think that the guys have all these 0.96

00:18:47.700 bodies. Who are giving these men the bodies? Women. Presumably. Presumably 1.00

00:18:53.620 making the assumption that's a heterosexual relationship. Exactly. So it is, it literally

00:18:58.580 is the women who are giving these 20% of guys, all these bodies. No, I'm not going to push back on 0.79

00:19:04.100 that. Like if anything, I feel like that's something as an American, I have noticed that is different

00:19:08.980 here. Like UK culture, like as like a young American girl dating here in London, like the, what the women 1.00

00:19:16.660 here. And I, I don't want to, maybe I shouldn't say this, but like, it's just a different standard to what,

00:19:21.380 to what I'm using. And again, I'm from the South. Do you think women are more slutty here or less 1.00

00:19:26.260 slutty? I don't like these words. Okay. Okay. But you know what I'm saying. I think that women are more 1.00

00:19:31.140 likely to, they just don't have standards here. Like I just like, and standards for like how they want to

00:19:36.980 be treated, how a date should go. At least from what I, at least from what I've like seen. I feel like there's

00:19:41.860 more homes in the U.S. I have a bombshell. I have a bombshell. I'm actually. It's prevalent everywhere.

00:19:47.060 People are having sex everywhere. There's a, there's a hodemic. I'm from, I'm from, I was born in California,

00:19:54.100 San Francisco, raised until I was about eight years old. I moved here. I've been here from 11 till now.

00:20:00.660 I frequent back in Chicago where I tattoo time to time. And being on both sides of the pond through

00:20:09.220 different times of my life, I would say that women over in America, a lot more forward, like the amount 1.00

00:20:13.060 of times I've had whispers in my ear in a bar or wherever. Maybe it's because I'm from the South.

00:20:17.540 I don't know. Like, I mean, this may be a unique experience. So I can't, I can't speak for American

00:20:21.700 women. It's just, or American men. All I can say is from my experience, like men are more, more 0.87

00:20:28.100 traditional in America, like in America, like women that I've had conversations with here, specifically

00:20:34.660 white women don't have any type of expectation about how they want like partner, like relationships 1.00

00:20:41.060 to go. It's very much just like, we just have sex and like, I, or like even dating, like they want, 0.78

00:20:48.020 they want everything to be like 50, 50, like, it's just, or like from the big, like, there's no

00:20:52.260 courting to like, I just, from what I've experienced, again, I just, I don't know. I think again, again,

00:20:59.380 this is all quite unique. Maybe I shouldn't have used it. If you go up north, it's different.

00:21:03.300 Yeah. Maybe up north it is different. I think it's a mating strategy. This is what I think. So I feel like,

00:21:08.900 okay, all the girls want the top 10, 20% of guys. Right. So the girls that aren't like 0.99

00:21:14.340 attractive enough to get the attention of those guys, like through courting, they'll just sleep 1.00

00:21:18.020 with them because it's like 10 billion percent. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So absolutely. But then again,

00:21:23.300 if you had, if you had, if, if, if the standards were raised on both sides of the, of the field,

00:21:27.460 you know, good men wouldn't go for those girls. Do you see what I'm saying? They don't. I mean, I, I,

00:21:34.260 I mean, from actually, I can't speak for men. I can't, but from what I've noticed,

00:21:37.700 I wouldn't say that they do. I'm telling you, man, my app will change all of this.

00:21:41.860 Oh my God. No, I'm telling you. Um, I think you, you had something you wanted to say. Oh,

00:21:46.180 no, no. It's okay. It's okay. Okay. Um, I'm going to take a second to read super chats. Um,

00:21:50.500 if they're mean, I'm sorry. I just read them. Um, um, um, okay guys like the video, um, make sure

00:21:57.060 there's over, I think there's over 3000 people watching. So there should be over 2000 likes in here.

00:22:02.420 How many, how many we got watching right now? Blessing.

00:22:04.420 While I pull up the super 3.7. Um, also guys subscribe to the channel. I really want to hit

00:22:11.860 a million subscribers before new years. Um, so I, that's a pretty lofty goal. You know,

00:22:17.140 we're only at seven 25,000, which is still crazy in eight months, but it's that delusion showing.

00:22:24.020 Um, but make sure you guys subscribe to the channel, ring that notification bell. Um,

00:22:29.700 okay. Let me pull up the super chats. All these super chats are going towards blessings,

00:22:33.780 monopod. Okay. C Dumbledore red says, I don't like these words. Chicks love being the word police. 1.00

00:22:40.180 Men use words to describe reality. Women use words to try to change reality. 1.00

00:22:44.740 Silly sausage. They disagree and then go on a 10 minute circle of absolute waffle to eventually 1.00

00:22:49.300 come back to the point that they're wrong and then agree. So painful to communicate with you gals. 1.00

00:22:53.620 Sometimes this is honestly hilarious. I'm Matt butcher the couch of shame. It seems like you're

00:22:57.620 struggling to make facts and reality conform to what you want it to be. You don't have to follow

00:23:01.860 social and cultural norms, but try to understand. I hope Pearl doesn't have any trouble reading this.

00:23:06.900 You're always roasting me about how I read. I know. I know I'm not a good reader. Okay.

00:23:11.620 Amen. Um, thank you, Dennis. Amen. Dania, um, lady in red. I can appreciate your young and naive 0.98

00:23:16.420 about what men think or want, but she's a prime example of where I met where women are lacking 1.00

00:23:20.740 education of the male perspective. Please stop editing offers around you. Sheesh, um, Clifford range,

00:23:26.500 ladies, buy cat food, box wine, and die alone. Um, she's trying to police conversation. It's in 1.00

00:23:31.620 on feelings. Um, guys, the rest of them, I'm just going to read over $20. Um, how is Cheryl?

00:23:37.300 Oh, wow. Um, Troy Francis is a marriage counselor because both guys and gals have this problem.

00:23:42.340 His classes, fashion admin, priest, mechanical, he'll fix your courting and marriage issues.

00:23:47.300 Dramatic exits require dramatic entrances. Our dear host has a skill set to find dating protocol. 0.99

00:23:54.900 Whether parties can see if their marriage would work. One, um, um, great Gary champion's book is

00:23:59.860 about soulmates figuring out how to love each other, figuring out how long lasting fuel for

00:24:03.700 their marriage, not the honeymoon phase. Um, there are archers, any goal or theory. B ball scouts look

00:24:09.780 for shooters rhythm by when the shooter moves down with the ball and then up there in their shot motion.

00:24:15.140 Dating takes logic and instincts. Tier one SF candidates don't pass selection until they have

00:24:19.860 logic and instincts. Davis parents are models of success. Um, sentience girl in the red is

00:24:25.860 shaming men's preferences, but will vehemently defends women's proud of women's preference.

00:24:29.940 18 year olds are adults. And last I checked, they don't come with the emotional, emotional and

00:24:34.660 physical trauma that the 30 plus women have. It's not about controls to ensure paternity and

00:24:39.220 enforce avoid shame about her past. Uh, 20, uh, we're going to go down to the next 20. Okay. Um, 0.98

00:24:48.100 Manny fresh, um, black men here who black man here, mere black man here who makes six figures. 0.96

00:24:54.660 I don't care about my girl's money and FYI generational wealth creates family and kids. Um, 1.00

00:25:03.060 the, okay, I think that's Russell. Oh wait, that's the last super chat. Okay guys like the video. Um,

00:25:10.020 thank you for the super chats. I have one more question for the panel. All right. Why do you guys

00:25:16.580 think women are bad with money? I don't think women are bad with money. I'm great with money. 1.00

00:25:21.300 Yeah. By and large our gender doesn't do great. I won't lie to you. Yeah. They're easily influenced 1.00

00:25:28.100 by the, by social conditioning, adverts, social media and everything that's going on. I don't

00:25:34.100 think it's easily influenced. I think it's what you were saying earlier. Women are the focal, more ads 1.00

00:25:40.260 now are being pointed towards women. And so, but why are buying more things? Well, why? Because they know 0.76

00:25:45.940 more women are in the workforce and more women have money to spend. No, because they know. No, no, no, no. 1.00

00:25:50.100 Because the, you know, it's because the brands know exactly why, because they know they can influence

00:25:55.300 you to what you're the biggest spenders. And you, you know, that great with, you can be easily swayed

00:26:01.460 to have the, what's the word impulse buys. All right. I can, I can give you, I, I have it broken down.

00:26:09.380 Don't worry guys. Don't worry. All right. Yep. A study by a, guys, whose phone, whose phone is this?

00:26:20.100 Um, okay. A study by a company called Family Financials showed that the average woman spends,

00:26:27.540 I think I said this earlier, $526,374 more than the average man in her lifetime.

00:26:35.460 Breakdown is as follows. Okay. I'm going to give you guys the, the one, two, three, four, five, the six

00:26:42.100 things. And I'm just going to have you guys vote on, on what you think the women spend the most on. 0.94

00:26:46.500 Okay. There's personal care products, home ownership, feminine products, clothing, beauty products,

00:26:51.940 and healthcare. Who here thinks that personal care products is the most women spend? 1.00

00:26:57.780 Like makeup and nails. Yeah. I think that's beauty.

00:27:00.580 I think that's beauty. All right. So who here thinks it's personal care products? You two do?

00:27:06.260 Okay. Two. Two. Okay. Um, home ownership. Who thinks that's what women spend money on? 1.00

00:27:11.460 That's what I want it to be.

00:27:23.700 Okay. All right. Feminine care products. You know, we're talking about the tampon tax. 0.99

00:27:28.820 Anyone? Feminine care? No? Okay. Yeah, we know. Um, clothing.

00:27:33.220 You guys think clothing, you guys think clothing. Okay. Okay. Beauty products. And everyone's,

00:27:39.780 okay. They're changing beauty products. Healthcare. You know, we talk about women giving birth and 0.93

00:27:44.980 shit. Who says healthcare? That is very expensive. All right. All right. 1.00

00:27:48.420 Actually, I double vote. Okay. Well, I'll, I'll just let you do that.

00:27:54.260 The number one thing that women spend on in a lifetime is beauty products. 1.00

00:27:58.420 Yeah. $300,000 more than men. Damn. Yeah. I'm not surprised. 0.98

00:28:04.820 Number two, personal care products. $132,000 more. Um, number three, healthcare, $66,954.

00:28:17.380 Um, home ownership. It's like, I can't believe home ownership is one of the last ones.

00:28:22.500 Um, but it's on the list.

00:28:24.020 20, girl, not by $24,000 in a lifetime. Wow.

00:28:28.900 24, that's so bad. Okay. Okay. Extra money. You know what? I was,

00:28:34.580 feminine care products, $1,920. I was proud of us for clothing. That was last.

00:28:39.460 $1,500. Yeah. Have you seen, have you seen this? Have you seen what girls wear nowadays? 0.87

00:28:43.220 It's like a little bra. There's not much there. There's not much there to pay for.

00:28:47.620 Well, I just think there's like she, like there's such fast fashion. 0.99

00:28:50.740 Yeah. I was going to say that it's quite affordable.

00:28:52.420 We're trying to get one away from fast fashion because it's not sustainable.

00:28:55.060 Okay. Go ahead.

00:28:56.500 Yeah. I just wanted to, uh, go back to the previous question of why women spend more. 0.92

00:29:01.380 Uh, I also think it's because of women have this hive mindset. 1.00

00:29:05.860 They, they think like if, if her friend is have like, uh, the latest iPhone, she also wants the,

00:29:14.260 the iPhone. If the other girl has, I don't know, uh, Balenciaga shoes, she also wants that. 0.99

00:29:20.420 While men are more, uh, uh, analytical and more critical when thinking, why should I spend on,

00:29:27.380 I don't know, something that's not going to give me value in the future. That's going to,

00:29:31.380 you know, um, uh, give a good ROI. So I, that's what I think.

00:29:38.580 Men spend so much money on video games. Men spend money on likes. 0.50

00:29:42.180 I think, I think subconsciously women, women want to believe that somebody's going to take care of 0.99

00:29:46.340 them so they can be more frivolous.

00:29:48.260 Yeah, but how can, how, you know, it's, you know, it's interesting. This happens a lot.

00:29:52.180 Whenever we talk about something about women, like we always feel the need to say, but men.

00:29:56.420 Okay. But women do the same thing. You're like, what? 1.00

00:29:59.300 No, but if it's, if it's okay. Okay. Can we, can we just agree? Like,

00:30:02.820 if we spend half a million dollar more dollars more in a lifetime,

00:30:06.580 $300,000 in a lifetime on beauty products that maybe we have a problem.

00:30:10.740 Well, I mean, but we just had this whole, what, two hour conversation about what men value.

00:30:14.900 Yeah.

00:30:15.300 I've been conversing, like beauty is the number one thing.

00:30:18.020 Yeah, that's true.

00:30:18.900 I mean, there's the, there's a correlation.

00:30:20.740 There's a correlation right there.

00:30:21.700 There's definitely a correlation.

00:30:22.580 Could you, could you argue that then women want attention from men and that's the number

00:30:28.900 one thing they want if that's the number one thing they spend on?

00:30:31.220 I think, I think you can make that argument. I wouldn't say that's, I wouldn't say that's true.

00:30:36.580 And they want to compete with other women as well. 0.95

00:30:38.500 Or you could, or you could say, you could say women don't, you could say women don't dress for them.

00:30:42.980 If you're going to blame the men for like, like that being why we spend it on it,

00:30:46.340 then you can't say women dress for ourselves.

00:30:48.260 No, I'm not saying we blame, I'm not, there's no blaming here.

00:30:51.460 I just think that this, that we need to like think about these things like from a bird's eye view.

00:30:55.460 Like there's a, like we were having these conversations about like how, what influences

00:30:59.460 behavior.

00:31:00.180 And I think that when we talk about spending habits, that should be a part of the conversation

00:31:04.500 as well.

00:31:05.140 Like I know a lot of my, like same thing, like I do it for the girlies.

00:31:08.500 Like we always like get like the outfits that we wear.

00:31:11.540 Like, I don't think that men really care how our, our, our clothes match or not.

00:31:15.700 Okay. So, so we spend money on beauty products for ourselves.

00:31:19.300 I think it's, I think it's, I think it's both.

00:31:21.540 I think like, I want to feel like 50, 50, let's call it 50.

00:31:25.140 Okay. 50, 50, but, or maybe I'm wrong.

00:31:28.020 Like, but like, we can go like, we like, we like a well, a nicely dressed man.

00:31:32.020 Like I think a guy that's dressed well, like a suit, I think a suit gives a guy like at least a point.

00:31:36.740 Like you ever, you ever go to like a school dance and you're like, I didn't even know he was cute.

00:31:40.900 Like I went to high school, but I was from school for most of it.

00:31:54.180 But, but they don't spend for like frivolously like we do.

00:31:58.020 So like we have a problem, you know, as women, we spend more.

00:32:01.780 We're not as good with money, even though we make less,

00:32:03.780 like we make $10,000 less than men or pounds.

00:32:06.820 I don't know.

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JustPearlyThings - November 25, 2023

She Gets CONFUSED with Men's Choice in Dating Market

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