JustPearlyThings - November 22, 2023


She Gets MOCKED for Being DISHONEST About Beauty Standard


Episode Stats


Length

27 minutes

Words per minute

215.42822

Word count

5,953

Sentence count

703

Harmful content

Misogyny

33

sentences flagged

Hate speech

33

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss confidence and how women overrate themselves. We also talk about the patriarchy and how to deal with it. We also get into the controversial topic of comparing yourself to other women and why you shouldn t compare yourself to them.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Okay, what would you do to your number?
00:00:02.000 It depends what day it is. Are you a lover?
00:00:04.000 Today.
00:00:05.000 I'm like, okay.
00:00:06.000 Ten.
00:00:10.000 I'd probably go down and say, I need some volume, but seven.
00:00:15.000 I'll go down lower a second. Personality makes it better.
00:00:18.000 Okay, seven? You said seven?
00:00:20.000 Okay, go ahead.
00:00:21.000 I'm sticking with my answer.
00:00:23.000 Okay, okay.
00:00:24.000 Yeah, give my answer.
00:00:25.000 Ten.
00:00:26.000 Okay, did anyone switch it?
00:00:27.000 Why don't we go through this again?
00:00:29.000 No, I'm gonna switch it.
00:00:31.000 I'm gonna bring it down to a six, I think.
00:00:33.000 A six? Okay.
00:00:34.000 Okay.
00:00:35.000 You're pretty.
00:00:36.000 Very.
00:00:37.000 You got me blushing.
00:00:38.000 She's not gonna have no baggage either.
00:00:40.000 My point is, outside of me, no one rated themselves as average from the women.
00:00:45.000 And most people are average.
00:00:46.000 I'm not an average girl.
00:00:47.000 So what's average then?
00:00:48.000 I'm not an average babe.
00:00:50.000 I think most people are average.
00:00:52.000 No one thinks they're average.
00:00:54.000 If you think that's average, that's absolutely fine.
00:00:57.000 No, but the point is like women tend to overrate themselves. 1.00
00:01:00.000 Yeah.
00:01:01.000 Confidence is a lot though.
00:01:02.000 I feel like if girls ain't got confidence, it makes a lot of issues within the Senate and 1.00
00:01:04.000 the relationship.
00:01:05.000 So if you ain't got confidence.
00:01:06.000 That's a fair point actually.
00:01:07.000 How do you suffer?
00:01:08.000 How do you suffer?
00:01:09.000 How do you suffer?
00:01:10.000 How do you suffer?
00:01:11.000 How do you suffer?
00:01:12.000 How do you suffer?
00:01:13.000 The sickest thing a woman can wear is that confidence. 1.00
00:01:14.000 Let's bring up from school.
00:01:15.000 No, but how do you suffer?
00:01:16.000 Let's bring up the patriarchy.
00:01:17.000 Let's bring up the patriarchy.
00:01:18.000 It's from succeeding in school as a child, to like jobs, to like doing anything.
00:01:22.000 To be successful, you know what?
00:01:23.000 Bro, bro, bro.
00:01:24.000 You need to come on this platform and hold a mic in front of yourself.
00:01:26.000 You have to have a level of confidence.
00:01:27.000 You've got to look in your mirror and believe in your soul.
00:01:28.000 How can you not?
00:01:29.000 I'm being realistic.
00:01:30.000 Okay.
00:01:31.000 Okay.
00:01:32.000 Okay.
00:01:33.000 Okay.
00:01:34.000 I agree with you.
00:01:35.000 I think confidence is important if you have like the stuff to back it up.
00:01:40.000 So if you're going to come on a podcast and you can't talk, it doesn't matter how confident
00:01:45.000 you are.
00:01:46.000 You still can't talk.
00:01:47.000 If you're going to rate yourself a 10 and you're not a 10, like it doesn't make you a
00:01:52.000 10.
00:01:53.000 And that's fine.
00:01:54.000 That's fine if you think you're average because there are some people that are average.
00:01:57.000 But you see me.
00:01:58.000 Let me tell you a lot.
00:02:01.000 No, no, no, wait, wait, wait, wait, because obviously you know me personally.
00:02:06.000 But I'm just saying that in a room full of people that don't know me, I'm not going
00:02:11.000 to water down how I feel when I'm by myself.
00:02:13.000 Let me ask you a question.
00:02:14.000 Let me ask you a question.
00:02:15.000 I do agree that there's some people are average.
00:02:16.000 Let me, let me, okay.
00:02:17.000 Let me ask you a question.
00:02:18.000 What celebrity do you think is a 10?
00:02:20.000 I'll be honest with you.
00:02:21.000 Give me, give me one slip, please.
00:02:23.000 Please don't make this complicated.
00:02:24.000 I'm not going to make it complicated, but I'm not going to lie to you.
00:02:27.000 I know you answer the questions and I'm here to answer, but I can't.
00:02:30.000 I'm not a celebrity.
00:02:31.000 I'm not a fan of celebrities.
00:02:32.000 Okay.
00:02:33.000 Okay.
00:02:34.000 You know what?
00:02:35.000 Let me ask someone else.
00:02:36.000 Can someone raise your hand if you can give me, give me a, okay.
00:02:40.000 Rihanna.
00:02:41.000 Rihanna.
00:02:42.000 Do you, do you feel like you're as pretty as Rihanna?
00:02:43.000 Do I think as pretty as Rihanna?
00:02:44.000 Yeah.
00:02:45.000 I wouldn't compare myself to Rihanna.
00:02:46.000 Why?
00:02:47.000 Do you know?
00:02:48.000 Wait, why?
00:02:49.000 Why wouldn't you compare yourself to Rihanna?
00:02:54.000 Because I just wouldn't.
00:02:56.000 I don't look at other girls and compare myself.
00:02:58.000 Okay.
00:02:59.000 That's just, that's just something I don't do.
00:03:01.000 I find it really strange what other people do.
00:03:02.000 But you know what?
00:03:03.000 We're talking very, very like vapid, very, very like looks based only.
00:03:08.000 Yeah.
00:03:09.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:10.000 Yeah.
00:03:11.000 Looks based only.
00:03:12.000 If you're going to be fucking like, conceded.
00:03:14.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:15.000 And compare yourself to Rihanna.
00:03:17.000 Look at Rihanna and then look at you.
00:03:18.000 And then be like, you know what?
00:03:20.000 Let's say who's Penga. 0.64
00:03:22.000 Yeah.
00:03:23.000 Why wouldn't you compare yourself to Rihanna?
00:03:24.000 I don't do that.
00:03:25.000 Because I'm not Rihanna.
00:03:26.000 But on the basis of this conversation, just give us a comparison please.
00:03:29.000 If I had to compare myself to Rihanna, if you lot force me to look at Rihanna.
00:03:32.000 I'm forcing you.
00:03:33.000 I'm forcing you.
00:03:34.000 And say who's prettier, I wouldn't say she's prettier than me.
00:03:37.000 And I'm being honest.
00:03:38.000 And that's words.
00:03:39.000 Stick to your words.
00:03:40.000 And I'm not even saying that just to be difficult.
00:03:43.000 Like, I don't want to be difficult.
00:03:44.000 That's fair enough.
00:03:45.000 But that's actually how I feel.
00:03:46.000 I mean, it's just like.
00:03:47.000 I'm living my truth.
00:03:48.000 If you ask me to compare myself to her, I'm crawling back in the uterus now. 1.00
00:03:53.000 Yeah.
00:03:54.000 I'm crawling back.
00:03:55.000 I take my life back because she's sexy. 1.00
00:03:58.000 But then that's why before we were saying that some women are delusional. 1.00
00:04:02.000 I'm not saying that you're not pretty, but I'm saying that to say that Rihanna's not
00:04:09.000 pretty than you.
00:04:10.000 I never said that.
00:04:11.000 What did you say?
00:04:12.000 What did you say?
00:04:13.000 What did you say?
00:04:14.000 Sorry, sorry.
00:04:15.000 Sorry.
00:04:16.000 What did you say?
00:04:17.000 I said I wouldn't compare myself.
00:04:18.000 I never said Rihanna is not pretty.
00:04:19.000 She's not pretty than me.
00:04:20.000 I would never say that.
00:04:21.000 I just can't compare myself.
00:04:22.000 And you said if you had to.
00:04:23.000 But if you had to, yeah.
00:04:24.000 No, but if you had to.
00:04:25.000 If I had to.
00:04:26.000 You did.
00:04:27.000 You did.
00:04:28.000 You did.
00:04:29.000 Exactly.
00:04:30.000 So that's what I'm saying.
00:04:31.000 If I had to, I wouldn't say she's pretty. 0.82
00:04:32.000 Exactly.
00:04:33.000 So that's why I'm saying that.
00:04:34.000 But that's why I'm saying that.
00:04:35.000 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:04:36.000 But that's why I'm saying that before we were saying that some of the women are a little 1.00
00:04:39.000 bit delusional.
00:04:40.000 Yeah, that's fine.
00:04:41.000 Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.
00:04:43.000 Guys, guys, guys, okay, okay.
00:04:44.000 I'm delusional.
00:04:45.000 But you see, this is like, honestly, I'm not even trying to be rude.
00:04:48.000 You just proved my point.
00:04:49.000 That women are delusional.
00:04:50.000 Yeah.
00:04:51.000 Yeah, my girl.
00:04:52.000 The thing is, you know what it is.
00:04:53.000 And I'm not even saying you're not, like, I'm not even trying to insult your looks.
00:04:56.000 It's just, it's Rihanna.
00:04:57.000 No, it's fine.
00:04:58.000 That's all in your opinion.
00:04:59.000 The thing is, though, we got to this point in the conversation.
00:05:00.000 Have you seen her in real life?
00:05:01.000 Have you seen Rihanna in real life?
00:05:02.000 Okay, wait.
00:05:03.000 That's true, though.
00:05:04.000 That's true, though.
00:05:05.000 How many of you have seen Rihanna in real life?
00:05:06.000 That's true, though.
00:05:07.000 How many of you have seen Rihanna in real life?
00:05:08.000 That's true, though.
00:05:09.000 How many of you know about FaceTune and all them apps like that?
00:05:10.000 That's all true, she's spitting. 1.00
00:05:19.000 I just want to say, I don't disagree with you.
00:05:21.000 There are some women that are delusional. 0.96
00:05:22.000 There are some women that rate themselves higher, and they have nothing to offer. 1.00
00:05:26.000 But I'm just here to tell you, ladies and gentlemen, I'm not one of them.
00:05:30.000 And I don't care if you think that's all.
00:05:32.000 But you can understand.
00:05:33.000 The thing is, every single person in this room can say, you're dead.
00:05:35.000 Hold on, hold on, hold on.
00:05:36.000 No, no, no, wait.
00:05:37.000 Zings, zings.
00:05:38.000 But you can understand why some people might think that what you just said.
00:05:41.000 It's delusional.
00:05:42.000 You can understand it, right?
00:05:43.000 That's fine.
00:05:44.000 But that goes back to you.
00:05:45.000 That goes back to you.
00:05:46.000 But that goes back to me.
00:05:47.000 I'm a millionaire.
00:05:48.000 But if you don't have money in the bank account, it doesn't matter.
00:05:50.000 I don't think that's the same thing.
00:05:51.000 Just because you say something.
00:05:52.000 And I'm not trying to, just because, just because, like, like, Tens, I'm sorry.
00:05:56.000 I'm not even trying to be rude, but Tens get modeling contracts. 0.90
00:05:58.000 They're in Hollywood.
00:05:59.000 Okay.
00:06:00.000 And I thought, why can't I be a model?
00:06:01.000 It doesn't even matter.
00:06:02.000 It doesn't even matter.
00:06:03.000 It doesn't.
00:06:04.000 Wait, wait, wait.
00:06:05.000 They're in, they could be in a small town in the middle of nowhere.
00:06:07.000 Hollywood will find Tens.
00:06:08.000 Hold on, hold on.
00:06:09.000 They find them.
00:06:10.000 Okay, there are people out there that can sing.
00:06:11.000 They're not singers.
00:06:12.000 There are people out there that can cook.
00:06:13.000 They're not chefs.
00:06:14.000 Anyway.
00:06:15.000 Let me back you.
00:06:16.000 Let me back you.
00:06:17.000 Let me back you.
00:06:18.000 I'm going to be real.
00:06:19.000 I'm going to be real.
00:06:20.000 I'm going to be real.
00:06:21.000 I'm going to be real.
00:06:22.000 I'm going to be real.
00:06:23.000 I'm going to be real.
00:06:24.000 I'm going to be real.
00:06:25.000 Guys, guys, guys, one at a time.
00:06:26.000 That was a weak example.
00:06:27.000 So just because, like, everybody's saying something, it doesn't mean.
00:06:30.000 Everybody was taking certain tests and stuff recently.
00:06:32.000 And you get me?
00:06:33.000 Like, they was all wrong.
00:06:34.000 So just because everybody's saying something, it doesn't mean it's the truth.
00:06:37.000 Okay?
00:06:38.000 Like, everyone, like, Rihanna, Rihanna, da, da, da, da.
00:06:41.000 Okay.
00:06:42.000 Me personally, I'm not a fan of makeup.
00:06:44.000 Not that.
00:06:45.000 I'm going to be real.
00:06:46.000 No one cares.
00:06:47.000 Whoever said that, I want to talk a lot.
00:06:50.000 That's a bit of insecurity there, but we don't talk about that.
00:06:53.000 But listen, my personal preference, my personal preference, if I see a girl, if I see four 0.98
00:06:59.000 girls, the one that's not got makeup on, I'm going to look first.
00:07:03.000 Or who has less.
00:07:04.000 Let's say that.
00:07:05.000 So you can't really be on, oh, yeah, she's prettier than this, she's prettier than that.
00:07:09.000 You're all capping, innit?
00:07:10.000 Because really and truly, like, you know, if she rates herself more than Rihanna, then boom.
00:07:16.000 But I think everyone as well is confusing pretty and sexy.
00:07:20.000 I'm going to get into that.
00:07:21.000 Let me hear what you're going to say.
00:07:22.000 Pretty is your face.
00:07:23.000 Like, that's how somebody looks at your face and say, oh, like, if we, if you're all, everyone's
00:07:37.000 all dressed up in like, you can't see nobody.
00:07:39.000 Then like, who are we picking?
00:07:42.000 Who are you picking?
00:07:43.000 Sexy is the whole picture.
00:07:45.000 Like, who do I want to take home out of all fronts?
00:07:48.000 I didn't know this.
00:07:49.000 I didn't know that.
00:07:50.000 Can I add to you what you just said?
00:07:51.000 Because I think they're, they're, I've lost my train of thought.
00:07:54.000 All right, guys, guys.
00:07:55.000 I'm going to, I'm going to take a second to read super chats.
00:07:58.000 Blessing, if you want to.
00:07:59.000 Okay.
00:08:00.000 Okay.
00:08:01.000 Okay, guys.
00:08:02.000 Thank you for the super chats.
00:08:03.000 These are all going towards a monopod for Blessing.
00:08:06.000 Basically, that is when we go out and do street interviews.
00:08:08.000 We want to.
00:08:14.000 Okay.
00:08:15.000 He, he muted my mic for a second.
00:08:16.000 Okay.
00:08:17.000 We want to up the production quality of street interviews.
00:08:19.000 So, um, I think it like balances the camera.
00:08:22.000 I don't even know.
00:08:23.000 I'm sorry, guys.
00:08:24.000 Okay.
00:08:25.000 So, um, like the video, make sure you guys are liking the video.
00:08:27.000 And we have over 2000 people in here watching live.
00:08:29.000 So it is really important that you guys like that is the number one metric that YouTube uses
00:08:33.000 to push out this content.
00:08:34.000 Okay.
00:08:35.000 Alistair Horton.
00:08:36.000 Everyone thought the earth was flat before.
00:08:37.000 And look how that ended.
00:08:38.000 Steven Roberts.
00:08:39.000 They're all average.
00:08:40.000 They can't compare themselves to celebs or millionaires when they aren't accomplished
00:08:43.000 or good looking.
00:08:44.000 It's very delusional.
00:08:45.000 Attraction is determined by others, not yourself.
00:08:47.000 J Rob GC and team energy.
00:08:49.000 Pearl loved the show, but pleased for the love of God.
00:08:51.000 Stop saying over talking.
00:08:52.000 You should be saying stop over, stop talking over me.
00:08:56.000 This is eighth grade English.
00:08:57.000 Gus.
00:08:58.000 Yes.
00:08:59.000 We want, we want pick me girls. 1.00
00:09:00.000 Boss babes are masculine AF.
00:09:02.000 We don't care about your money status and success.
00:09:05.000 We don't care about your money status success.
00:09:08.000 We want no 304s. 1.00
00:09:09.000 Femininity complicit, compliant, fit, and friendly. 0.89
00:09:14.000 Silly sausage.
00:09:15.000 Maternal age impacts the success of IVF.
00:09:20.000 31% in women younger than 35.
00:09:23.000 24% in women aged 35 to 37.
00:09:26.000 16% in women aged 38 to 40.
00:09:29.000 Men's minimum cost is 30 grand up to, 30 grand up to 120 grand.
00:09:35.000 Um, major leaves, um, sperm bank lock, um, Charles, uh, and a man.
00:09:41.000 Um, men can control fertility with an implant structured like a inline shredder inserted into 0.95
00:09:47.000 a tube leading to the prostate gland.
00:09:49.000 Invest, save flights.
00:09:50.000 Um, some maintain, um, the blonde girl on the couch is the most wifey, um, domain keeper. 0.99
00:09:57.000 The baby is always planned only by the woman, um, Charles, and a man. 0.85
00:10:01.000 Men, um, option to be fertile. 0.83
00:10:03.000 See the movie children of men having children. 0.81
00:10:05.000 If you are past your birthing prime, a fellow woman who is in the same situation to marry 0.99
00:10:10.000 and petition and to adopt children, major leagues, then claim legacy versus genetically.
00:10:16.000 You, they, they claim legacy versus genetically.
00:10:21.000 You want work here, here works.
00:10:24.000 When you give birth to one son or daughter, you stay with that same person.
00:10:28.000 Here's why.
00:10:29.000 The um, um, umbilical cord of the second offspring can save the child from diseases.
00:10:33.000 Also avoid AIDS and HIV.
00:10:36.000 The UK economist.
00:10:37.000 Do your guests know that our nation needs a certain percentage of babies to replace future
00:10:42.000 taxpayers, our economy and social care systems and dependent on future are dependent on future
00:10:47.000 taxpayers.
00:10:48.000 Alistair Horton.
00:10:49.000 Most women are emotionally unstable at the best times, um, at the best of times when they 1.00
00:10:54.000 are pregnant.
00:10:55.000 It's like they get a different hormonal, hormonal injection every day at least.
00:11:00.000 The savvy ninja.
00:11:01.000 I grew up thinking I would have kids, got to be an adult and started rethinking it.
00:11:04.000 After I passed 35 years old, snip snip, no kids.
00:11:07.000 Legacy can be carried on beyond just last name and children.
00:11:10.000 Gus.
00:11:11.000 We are put on this world to procreate selfish 304s. 1.00
00:11:15.000 Um, Josh Nixon.
00:11:16.000 When birth control was invented, studies and tests were conducted.
00:11:20.000 When birth control was invented, the studies and tests conducted were inhumane and only
00:11:26.000 being made for women. 0.95
00:11:27.000 So that, so for that happened today that the test for male birth control would be against
00:11:32.000 the law.
00:11:33.000 Doug MPA.
00:11:34.000 It's easier to stop one egg each month than millions of sperm for a man.
00:11:37.000 They haven't perfected a way to stop the little swimmers constantly.
00:11:41.000 Um, domain keeper.
00:11:42.000 They belong to the streets.
00:11:43.000 Uh, Gus.
00:11:44.000 Um, the saddest demo of people, the saddest demo of people in the West are 40 plus year 0.95
00:11:49.000 old women making 50K a year. 0.81
00:11:51.000 No family and kids.
00:11:52.000 Menopause can begin as early as 40 and you're on a hundred times more emotional.
00:11:57.000 Domain keeper.
00:11:58.000 Girl, your eggs are gone already.
00:11:59.000 Let me refresh the page one second.
00:12:02.000 Um, okay.
00:12:04.000 Um, the one in the black is so insecure.
00:12:09.000 She's afraid to contend with the reality that she's severely mid.
00:12:11.000 The only girl who isn't is, um, the only girl who isn't kid is the one who isn't fully 0.84
00:12:17.000 mid with a blonde with the tattoos.
00:12:19.000 Dennis, um, bat matcher. 0.66
00:12:21.000 Big fan.
00:12:22.000 How do I get on your show?
00:12:23.000 You DM the pregame show.
00:12:24.000 Um, Dylan chillin.
00:12:26.000 Women in the black is an example of the delusion of the women. 1.00
00:12:29.000 She's a four tops and the blondie in the middle is certainly, is most certainly not an eight, 1.00
00:12:34.000 a solid four without makeup.
00:12:35.000 Uh, the bikini bottom.
00:12:36.000 Of course, the gray shirt in the back and the memigand on the left of the couch are loud 1.00
00:12:41.000 and crass.
00:12:42.000 They're rude and masculine. 0.99
00:12:43.000 No commitment.
00:12:44.000 We'll find you.
00:12:45.000 Alistar.
00:12:46.000 Oh, I read that one.
00:12:47.000 We'll watch it one more time and then we'll go back to the show.
00:12:49.000 Also guys like the video.
00:12:50.000 There should be over a thousand likes on this video.
00:12:53.000 Um, we're at 607.
00:12:55.000 The next time I look, we better be at a thousand.
00:12:57.000 There are over 2000 people watching live.
00:13:00.000 Um, I'm sorry guys.
00:13:01.000 I know I'm not good at reading the super chats.
00:13:03.000 Okay.
00:13:04.000 Um, okay.
00:13:05.000 So we have, why don't we introduce the new faces on the panel?
00:13:09.000 Um, we basically got a whole new panel.
00:13:12.000 We had over booking tonight.
00:13:13.000 So, um, China, you want to start?
00:13:17.000 Oh, we have to unmute the mics. 1.00
00:13:22.000 Okay.
00:13:23.000 Go ahead.
00:13:24.000 Yeah.
00:13:25.000 Am I a new face?
00:13:26.000 I'm not.
00:13:27.000 I mean, just introduce yourself for the people that don't know you.
00:13:29.000 Okay.
00:13:30.000 Um, what camera am I?
00:13:31.000 Listen, my name is China.
00:13:32.000 The mandem's voice.
00:13:33.000 Uh, yeah.
00:13:35.000 It's nice to be on the show again.
00:13:37.000 Shout out to you over there.
00:13:39.000 Uh, my name is Bonnie.
00:13:42.000 Thanks for writing the show.
00:13:44.000 Okay.
00:13:45.000 Go ahead.
00:13:46.000 Hi.
00:13:47.000 I'm Ruth.
00:13:48.000 Um, I'm 40 and I'm a mom.
00:13:50.000 Okay.
00:13:51.000 Hey guys.
00:13:52.000 It's Miriam.
00:13:53.000 It's nice to be back.
00:13:55.000 MK.
00:13:56.000 Um, if they're going to share blessing, can one of them go there?
00:14:00.000 If they're going to share is someone is some, oh, is she coming back?
00:14:03.000 Okay.
00:14:04.000 That's fine.
00:14:05.000 Um, okay.
00:14:06.000 So, um, let me go back to the questions.
00:14:12.000 Okay.
00:14:13.000 So going back to Jennifer Aniston, would you guys consider having a child by yourself if
00:14:22.000 you couldn't find a partner?
00:14:24.000 Absolutely not.
00:14:25.000 No?
00:14:26.000 None.
00:14:27.000 Um, no, cause I want my child to have a father figure.
00:14:32.000 Okay.
00:14:33.000 What about you?
00:14:34.000 Certainly a reason.
00:14:35.000 I want to give my child the best opportunity, so.
00:14:37.000 Okay.
00:14:38.000 I think, I think it's quite obvious.
00:14:40.000 I don't want children.
00:14:41.000 Okay.
00:14:42.000 Okay.
00:14:43.000 In the back.
00:14:44.000 No, I wouldn't.
00:14:45.000 No.
00:14:46.000 Well, I have a child, um, by myself, but, um, I wouldn't do it again.
00:14:49.000 I wait until I'm married.
00:14:50.000 Okay.
00:14:51.000 Um, what made you guys say that?
00:14:53.000 Why wouldn't you?
00:14:54.000 Cause a lot of people are considering IVF nowadays and having a child on their own.
00:14:59.000 Yeah.
00:15:00.000 I just think when I look at my own life, I feel like it would have been completely different
00:15:05.000 without a father figure.
00:15:06.000 And I think as much as big up to like single moms and stuff, they want to give that to their 0.99
00:15:13.000 child.
00:15:14.000 I think there are certain qualities as a woman that you can't give a child because you're 1.00
00:15:18.000 not a man and I feel like with, for example, when you get into puberty and stuff as a child,
00:15:24.000 you have very different convos with your mom than you have with your dad and you take
00:15:28.000 away things from both of them.
00:15:29.000 And I feel like that's irreplaceable.
00:15:31.000 You can't give the same advice as a woman because you simply don't have the same brain 1.00
00:15:35.000 as a man.
00:15:36.000 So, yeah.
00:15:37.000 What about you guys?
00:15:38.000 Mine, um, is just from my own experience.
00:15:41.000 Like my parents are still, it's actually their anniversary today, 34 years, big them up.
00:15:46.000 Um, and I just think I've grew up in that environment of having like a loving family and being supported
00:15:53.000 as a loving family.
00:15:54.000 So I can't imagine kind of not giving my children that.
00:15:57.000 It's like, maybe it's the white picket fence fantasy that I have, but that's how I kind
00:16:01.000 of want my future.
00:16:03.000 I just don't want to give, put any child in position where like the other ladies have 1.00
00:16:09.000 said, they're going to be like, just basically not have the influence of a father figure.
00:16:16.000 Pretty much that.
00:16:17.000 Yeah.
00:16:18.000 Okay.
00:16:19.000 Me personally, I, I think see it from the perspective of, I would never have a child out of wedlock.
00:16:24.000 Like I would have to be married, just preference, morals, whatever, whatever.
00:16:29.000 So if I was to never get married or never get to that point, I wouldn't bring a child into
00:16:34.000 this world.
00:16:35.000 Yeah.
00:16:36.000 Just every child needs a mother and a father. 0.92
00:16:38.000 Obviously situations and things happen that that is not the case, but I think to go into
00:16:43.000 it without, you know, denying that child, a mother or a father or a father, should I say
00:16:49.000 it's selfish.
00:16:50.000 I was about to ask, do you guys think it's selfish women that do that? 1.00
00:16:55.000 Depends.
00:16:56.000 And this is for the men too.
00:16:58.000 You guys can weigh in.
00:16:59.000 Yeah.
00:17:00.000 It depends on their situation.
00:17:01.000 Depends on what, I mean, the situation is there's no dad.
00:17:04.000 Okay.
00:17:05.000 Yeah.
00:17:06.000 But it might not have been the choice, you know?
00:17:09.000 So, okay, let's, let's take me.
00:17:11.000 I don't have kids.
00:17:12.000 Let's say I'm 35.
00:17:13.000 Would it be selfish in this situation?
00:17:15.000 I'm 35 and I, no prospects.
00:17:19.000 It's just, you know, my DMs are a desert.
00:17:21.000 It's horrible.
00:17:22.000 And so I say, you know what?
00:17:25.000 I want a child.
00:17:27.000 So I'm going to go to the IVF clinic and I'm going to do it.
00:17:30.000 Or I'm going to, I don't, I don't know.
00:17:32.000 I don't know the science behind it.
00:17:33.000 I don't think it's selfish, but I think you need to think about, you know, what can you
00:17:39.000 offer the child?
00:17:40.000 Can you, cause you want your child to grow up in certain conditions, right?
00:17:44.000 So do you have enough money to provide for the child?
00:17:47.000 Do you have, maybe have a male figure around you?
00:17:50.000 Um, maybe your brother, your dad that can still support your child as a man.
00:17:56.000 So you don't think it's selfish to expect that out of them?
00:17:59.000 No, because again, before you have a child, I would have locked that in.
00:18:04.000 I would have already like thought about these things.
00:18:07.000 Do I have money for this?
00:18:09.000 Do I have men around me that can support my child, that can offer that guidance?
00:18:14.000 If I don't, then I'm, then I may not have a child because again, it's a life.
00:18:20.000 You want to offer someone the best life that you can give, right?
00:18:23.000 If I'm not in that position, I'm not going to have a child.
00:18:26.000 Okay. What do you guys think?
00:18:27.000 Well, you said no prospects.
00:18:29.000 So I'd say that's kind of selfish if you had prospects.
00:18:32.000 Cause what you really bring into the table as like, as a sole person, you're not really bringing like the love and the support.
00:18:39.000 You might be able to, to a certain extent, but by yourself, that's hard.
00:18:42.000 Like, I wouldn't really want to wish that on someone.
00:18:45.000 Okay.
00:18:46.000 I think if it's a choice for you to bring a child into this world by yourself and then look after the child by yourself.
00:18:52.000 I think that is selfish because yeah.
00:18:55.000 And what about you China?
00:18:56.000 Yeah.
00:18:57.000 I was just, I was just waiting to see if anyone's going to say it wasn't selfish, but yeah, it's incredibly selfish to, to bring a child into the world and do it by, by those types of means.
00:19:05.000 Yeah.
00:19:06.000 Okay.
00:19:07.000 I feel like, I feel like having a kid in general is kind of selfish.
00:19:13.000 Even though you mentioned Pearl earlier, you said that having a, not having a kid was selfish.
00:19:17.000 I think like having a kid is inherently quite selfish.
00:19:20.000 Let's take a moment to think about the world that we live in today.
00:19:23.000 Let's think about politics.
00:19:24.000 Let's think about financials.
00:19:25.000 Let's think about everything that comes into being an adult in the world that we live in today.
00:19:30.000 The lowest rates of poverty ever in human history.
00:19:32.000 Yeah.
00:19:33.000 But human history is shit.
00:19:34.000 First of all, like, let's think about it comparatively.
00:19:37.000 I mean, if you genuinely, really genuinely want children, of course you can have children.
00:19:42.000 But if you're having children because you feel like you need to, that's different.
00:19:46.000 What's wrong with the, like the world today is great, especially in the West.
00:19:49.000 Yeah.
00:19:50.000 It is better than it's ever been, but it's still awesome.
00:19:52.000 Great.
00:19:53.000 I mean, isn't it?
00:19:54.000 It's phenomenal.
00:19:55.000 So were your parents selfish for having you?
00:19:56.000 They're rubbing my face all the time.
00:19:57.000 No, but I'm just asking you.
00:19:58.000 No, I think they are.
00:19:59.000 Okay.
00:20:00.000 How many siblings do you have?
00:20:01.000 I have two.
00:20:02.000 So there's three of you.
00:20:03.000 So your parents are incredibly selfish for having you guys.
00:20:05.000 And the thing is, I feel like my parents do have a lot of regret in terms of having children,
00:20:09.000 especially.
00:20:10.000 So, so you wish you wasn't alive.
00:20:12.000 Do you feel like, you feel like you don't want to be alive?
00:20:14.000 That's not what I'm saying because before a fetus is born, they don't even know what
00:20:18.000 life is.
00:20:19.000 That's not what I'm asking.
00:20:20.000 You said it's incredibly selfish and you're saying, but I'm saying you come from a family
00:20:23.000 of three.
00:20:24.000 Um, so do you consider your life to be selfish?
00:20:26.000 I'm not going to say on fucking camera that I wish I was dead.
00:20:29.000 There's no need to swear.
00:20:30.000 We're just having a conversation.
00:20:31.000 You don't need to swear.
00:20:32.000 But no, but you're swearing a conversation.
00:20:33.000 Someone is quite rude.
00:20:34.000 I wasn't trying to be rude.
00:20:35.000 I was just swearing like I normally talk.
00:20:37.000 I know, but it's not quite.
00:20:38.000 Okay.
00:20:39.000 So when you, when you meet somebody, you've never met somebody for the first time to swear 0.72
00:20:43.000 when you speak to that person, we consider it to be quite rude.
00:20:46.000 So we're on a platform and we're talking to like a thousand, thousand people.
00:20:49.000 I think the tone that you're using towards her is quite rude.
00:20:51.000 It's fucking rude.
00:20:52.000 I'm not going to lie.
00:20:53.000 Oh.
00:20:54.000 You're being rude to me.
00:20:55.000 Okay.
00:20:56.000 Okay.
00:20:57.000 So.
00:20:58.000 Wait, hold on a second.
00:20:59.000 I was not being rude to you.
00:21:00.000 Hold on a second.
00:21:01.000 Hold on a second.
00:21:02.000 I've just literally just spoke.
00:21:03.000 I haven't done anything.
00:21:04.000 You're baiting her.
00:21:05.000 Did I raise my voice?
00:21:06.000 No, bro.
00:21:07.000 Have I said anything derogatory?
00:21:08.000 Hold on a second.
00:21:09.000 Wait, you're stopping me.
00:21:10.000 It's really rude.
00:21:11.000 You did say, does she wish that she's alive?
00:21:13.000 No, I asked her a question.
00:21:14.000 I asked her a question.
00:21:15.000 I asked her a question.
00:21:16.000 You keep interrupting.
00:21:17.000 So nothing about my tone.
00:21:18.000 So the problem of, so what we seem to find is when men speak and when we speak directly, 0.52
00:21:22.000 we always get women that try to speak to us about a tone. 1.00
00:21:24.000 There's nothing wrong with my tone.
00:21:25.000 I haven't raised it.
00:21:26.000 She literally just said it.
00:21:27.000 She did.
00:21:28.000 So could you just, could you just check your friend for, oh, check the lady next to you and say
00:21:31.000 there's nothing wrong with his tone?
00:21:32.000 I don't know how to check her.
00:21:33.000 No, but the thing is directly if you want to.
00:21:37.000 No, but the thing is I am and everyone else.
00:21:39.000 Because now you're raising your voice and that's rude.
00:21:40.000 That's a tone.
00:21:41.000 So what you're doing is you're gaslighting the situation.
00:21:43.000 This is what you women do. 1.00
00:21:44.000 This is not what gaslighting is.
00:21:45.000 No, no, no, no.
00:21:46.000 This is a classic.
00:21:47.000 He didn't do anything.
00:21:48.000 Let me teach you.
00:21:49.000 I didn't say he wasn't doing anything.
00:21:50.000 No, you weren't gaslighting.
00:21:51.000 I think the question was a bit wild, but that's why we're on a podcast.
00:21:55.000 The question is, so what you guys are doing again, you guys are stopping the man from speaking.
00:21:58.000 I've tried several times on this platform to speak.
00:22:00.000 Oh, now I'm waiting.
00:22:01.000 Not you, but what you've done is first of all, you gaslighted that situation by saying about my tone.
00:22:05.000 I didn't raise my tone.
00:22:06.000 I didn't speak in a different way.
00:22:07.000 You didn't.
00:22:08.000 You didn't.
00:22:09.000 See, what you're doing again is.
00:22:10.000 You didn't continue, please.
00:22:11.000 See guys, guys.
00:22:12.000 So this is a good platform.
00:22:13.000 So I want the Super Chats to look at this.
00:22:15.000 This is an example of gaslighting.
00:22:17.000 I simply asked the question because she said it was selfish for people to have children right now. 0.52
00:22:21.000 So I asked her, do you consider it to be selfish for your parents to have you as a child?
00:22:25.000 She was, you know, thinking about it.
00:22:27.000 That's fine of her to think about it, but she swore at me. 1.00
00:22:29.000 So I've never met this lady.
00:22:30.000 It's the first time I met her and she swore at me. 1.00
00:22:32.000 So I just said, could you please not swear at me on a platform?
00:22:34.000 What you've then said to me is about my tone.
00:22:36.000 If anything, I would actually be quite in my right if someone swore at me.
00:22:40.000 Sorry, bro.
00:22:41.000 What she actually did respond has just said she naturally swears anyway.
00:22:44.000 So as much as you're willing your rights to be offended by what she said,
00:22:48.000 because you don't know her.
00:22:49.000 You don't know me.
00:22:50.000 And you're yourself, your own person.
00:22:52.000 You have your boundaries, okay?
00:22:54.000 So you're allowed to feel the way you feel.
00:22:56.000 So do you think the world owes you any understanding?
00:22:59.000 So if you've never met somebody and you meet them for the first time,
00:23:02.000 do you think the world owes you understanding to be like,
00:23:04.000 I can just effing blind at you.
00:23:05.000 Do you think I owe you understanding?
00:23:07.000 No.
00:23:08.000 You've never been to East London, babe.
00:23:10.000 I'm not saying the world necessarily owes her understanding.
00:23:13.000 She just said that to almost like, to comfort you.
00:23:17.000 Like, it's all right.
00:23:18.000 I didn't mean it.
00:23:19.000 So let's use this example, right, guys.
00:23:20.000 So let's use the example, right?
00:23:21.000 There's nothing wrong.
00:23:22.000 So there's nothing wrong with my tone.
00:23:24.000 I haven't raised my tone.
00:23:25.000 I haven't pointed at you.
00:23:26.000 I haven't shouted at you.
00:23:27.000 You have.
00:23:28.000 Okay.
00:23:29.000 Okay.
00:23:30.000 No, he didn't.
00:23:31.000 It's easy.
00:23:32.000 It's easy.
00:23:33.000 He did point at me.
00:23:34.000 He was doing she, she, she.
00:23:35.000 So he did, yeah.
00:23:36.000 She. 0.93
00:23:37.000 I didn't.
00:23:38.000 So you know what it is?
00:23:39.000 You know what it is?
00:23:40.000 I find it.
00:23:41.000 So I don't want to do this, Pearl.
00:23:43.000 I'm going to say this as a black man.
00:23:45.000 And I'm going to do that.
00:23:46.000 I find it.
00:23:47.000 This is a scenario that we find ourselves in.
00:23:49.000 I haven't done anything.
00:23:50.000 I haven't shouted at you.
00:23:52.000 I haven't been aggressive to you.
00:23:53.000 I haven't sworn at you.
00:23:54.000 No, but wait, yet you have continued to talk about my tone.
00:23:57.000 You've tried to create an image of me, a perpetual image of me on screen, which is not that.
00:24:00.000 I was sworn to on live on the air.
00:24:03.000 That's all I said was, can you please not sweat?
00:24:05.000 No, no, no, it's fine.
00:24:06.000 But we're not talking about you now.
00:24:07.000 What we're talking about is her gaslight in a scenario.
00:24:09.000 And she's spoken about the tone.
00:24:11.000 She's trying to act like I've been aggressive to her.
00:24:13.000 Guys, the super chats and everything will let you know.
00:24:15.000 Because I really haven't done it.
00:24:16.000 You guys have jumped on top of me.
00:24:17.000 But it's fine.
00:24:18.000 I'm ready for this.
00:24:19.000 Let's go.
00:24:20.000 I'm going to switch the situation.
00:24:21.000 If you're offended.
00:24:22.000 No, no, stop, stop, stop.
00:24:23.000 If you're offended, I apologize.
00:24:24.000 But I'm not trying to offend you.
00:24:26.000 I'm just sticking up something.
00:24:27.000 I'm not offended.
00:24:28.000 Guys, stop.
00:24:29.000 If we switch the, not the racist, the genders here. 0.99
00:24:32.000 If a girl says that to a guy, could you please not swear at me? 0.85
00:24:34.000 It wouldn't be a thing.
00:24:35.000 And that's the thing.
00:24:37.000 Whenever men have standards, they're shamed for having standards.
00:24:39.000 Constantly.
00:24:40.000 Yeah.
00:24:41.000 It wasn't a thing in the first place.
00:24:43.000 He said, I swore at him, I'm swearing as I talk.
00:24:46.000 The way I talk, occasionally I might throw a fuck or shit.
00:24:50.000 I'm just having a conversation because I feel a little bit more comfortable.
00:24:54.000 If you don't want me to swear at you, that's completely fine.
00:24:56.000 It was quite simple.
00:24:57.000 I simply said, and I just made you aware of it.
00:24:59.000 I didn't actually get at you.
00:25:00.000 I just simply said, could you please not swear at me?
00:25:02.000 You're unaware of it.
00:25:03.000 But what's happened from there?
00:25:04.000 I can't believe what's happening.
00:25:05.000 It's just simply a man saying, please don't swear at me.
00:25:07.000 And you guys have used it as a situation to gaslight instead of out my tone.
00:25:10.000 And even if I did lose my rag a little bit, why are you swearing at a man that you've never
00:25:14.000 met before and the first time on a platform is very disrespectful.
00:25:17.000 I was not swearing at you.
00:25:19.000 No, no, no, no.
00:25:20.000 Right now, this is not even about this.
00:25:21.000 No, no, no, no.
00:25:22.000 Because I'm not actually offended by what you said.
00:25:24.000 I just simply said, could you please not swear at me?
00:25:25.000 You said, okay, that's cool.
00:25:26.000 What she's then gone on to do is create a whole separate scenario now. 0.75
00:25:29.000 And I want to know, why have you done that?
00:25:31.000 I was sticking up for her because I felt like the question just was a little insensitive
00:25:37.000 to say that.
00:25:38.000 And targeted as well.
00:25:39.000 Just the way it was worded, I didn't like that.
00:25:41.000 So you don't think I was in my right to ask her considering she said...
00:25:44.000 No, not about the swearing.
00:25:45.000 I understand.
00:25:46.000 No, no, not about the swearing.
00:25:47.000 She said that being selfish, right?
00:25:50.000 So I just said, do you consider your existence and your sibling's existence to be selfish?
00:25:55.000 Based upon the question that she put out there, I simply just gave her counter question.
00:25:59.000 It was the way it was worded.
00:26:00.000 How was it worded?
00:26:01.000 Oh my gosh.
00:26:02.000 No, I want to know.
00:26:03.000 I'm so bored of this conversation.
00:26:04.000 No, no, no, no.
00:26:05.000 Because this is an example.
00:26:06.000 No, we're not going to do this.
00:26:07.000 Because what you women do is, you guys gaslight men. 1.00
00:26:11.000 And then when we actually want to prove a point, you're like, let's move it on.
00:26:13.000 We're not going to move it on.
00:26:14.000 I want to know.
00:26:15.000 What point are you proving?
00:26:16.000 No, because I want to know what led to the point where you can start saying about my tone
00:26:20.000 and start a disrespect. 0.90
00:26:21.000 What led to it?
00:26:22.000 What did I say to her?
00:26:23.000 Do you wish that you weren't alive?
00:26:25.000 Or something along them lines.
00:26:26.000 It was worded that way.
00:26:27.000 And I just thought, oh, that's a little bit too much.
00:26:29.000 But that came after the fact that she said she considered it to be selfish.
00:26:32.000 Can I say something?
00:26:33.000 Can I let her talk for a second?
00:26:36.000 I do think the question was a bit, whoa.
00:26:39.000 And we're all at that.
00:26:40.000 No, we're all at that.
00:26:41.000 It's on topic.
00:26:42.000 It's on topic.
00:26:43.000 I thought it was a great point.
00:26:45.000 No, if you asked me the question after what she had said,
00:26:48.000 I wouldn't be like, why are you asking me that?
00:26:50.000 It makes sense.
00:26:51.000 Because even me, I was kind of like, yeah, do you not want to be here?
00:26:53.000 I was about to.
00:26:54.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:26:55.000 And low key, I'm sitting here like, I'm not going to lie.
00:26:56.000 Sometimes I have my days.
00:26:57.000 So, I'm out of it, guys.
00:27:00.000 So, I don't think that was, personally.
00:27:02.000 But I can see why someone else might be a bit like, I don't know you.
00:27:05.000 Whoa.
00:27:06.000 Do you understand?
00:27:07.000 So, even if she threw in the little fucking or whatever, I was a bit taken about that
00:27:11.000 you took the-
00:27:12.000 Okay.
00:27:13.000 Okay.
00:27:14.000 Okay.
00:27:15.000 Okay.
00:27:16.000 Okay.
00:27:17.000 Okay.
00:27:18.000 Guys, guys, we're going to move up.
00:27:19.000 We're going to move up.
00:27:20.000 Guys, guys, guys, stop.
00:27:21.000 We're going to-
00:27:22.000 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:27:25.000 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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