She Gets PETTY While Defending Her Delusion
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Summary
In this episode, we have a conversation about how to deal with adversity and how to overcome it in order to achieve success in life. We share our own personal stories of how we have dealt with adversity in our lives and how it has shaped us into the person we are today.
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door in this neighborhood and just ask people for a job. Within one day, I got an interview
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for a sales job. Now, I didn't want the job, so I didn't end up taking it because I was
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just trying to do YouTube. But the point is, it's all about, you have two choices in life.
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Everything can be an excuse. I haven't made any excuses. You've made excuses the whole
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time. I came here 13 years ago. I was learning. I only had $100 in my pocket. How is that
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an excuse? Is that not involving? It is because honestly, the people, and I'm telling you,
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I'm around these people. The people that are really successful, they don't talk about
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that. They just talk about what they're doing. They're so excited about this next
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project, this, this, and this. Yeah, I'm excited about all the projects that I've got going on. And maybe you are, but I'm saying the way you've represented yourself in this conversation is it's always an excuse. No, I wouldn't say that. I think excuse is a very harsh word you're actually using. But it's describing what it is. Because why are I saying it to be harsh? Wait, wait. It's describing outcomes. And it's like you've had 13 years. Outcomes I had to deal
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with? Everyone's got stuff to deal with. What did you have to deal with at 26? Did you leave home with nobody? I came to this country by myself. Well, okay. I didn't know anyone in this country.
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Mm-hmm. So, I mean, have other people had it harder? Did you have it harder? Sure. But I'm telling you, I know people in worse situations that made more.
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I don't know. I feel like you're talking from a privileged place. Yes. You are. I'm talking from a generational place. No, no, no. I'm talking from a privileged place and being around these types of people. So I can tell you the people that have had good outcomes. And I know people that have had good outcomes. Wait. I know people that have had good outcomes from the bottom. I've known people that have had good outcomes from the top.
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And I can tell you, the way they talk isn't the way you talk. No. Because they're not always talking about the reasons they didn't succeed. They're talking about the way they're going to succeed.
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Because of the questions. You've got to answer questions, though. You know what I mean? No, you've got to. I'm answering the questions that you're putting out there, you know?
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Have you got a boyfriend? No. How old are you? 39. So I'm responding, you know? If you ask me now, okay, what do you do now? Nobody's asked me that.
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You only be like, oh, you're making excuses. I'm not. I'm evolving.
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The information you gave you offered, it didn't really have much to do with the question I asked.
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A response to the question, I believe. Did you want to raise your hand? Yeah, I just wanted to add to her point about you don't have any bills to pay when you're 18 living with your parents.
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But everyone has their situations. And in fact, during the coronavirus, I was maybe like 19. I had to basically pay for the whole family.
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My mom and dad went out of business and I was the only man in the house that was earning money and providing for the house.
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So there is different things that people go through. And again, you can't judge on them and I'm not trying to judge you.
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And to your point that you had £100 in your account when you came here. To be fair, you don't really need money to make money as long as you're willing to do it.
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That's true. But I feel like in this conversation, we're trying to put the finger on each person and be like, oh, you did, you did.
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Each person is different. Each person is a different character. Each person is different.
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See, what I would say, although we're all having conversations and we're sharing experience and stuff about our own lives,
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we feel like we're being vulnerable because we're sharing information. Actually, I don't see that anybody here, it might feel like people are being personally attacked.
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But it's not. And I'm hearing like, I can hear that you're feeling a bit maybe getting a bit defensive.
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Yeah, I agree words are powerful, but it's also words are down to interpretation.
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So somebody could say to me that I'm making an excuse. I'm not going to be defensive at somebody saying I'm making an excuse.
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That might make me think to myself, okay, could I have done something more? Could I have done this?
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It's all how we take it and how we understand it. So everyone's circumstances are their own. There's no competition.
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As you said, maybe you felt like Pearl was talking from a place of privilege.
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Somebody else might think that you're talking from a place of privilege.
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You know, everyone's circumstances and situations are their own. All you have to do is know that you're doing the best that you can do.
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But it's also very important that you need to be realistic.
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I think that I think as soon as we start being honest with ourselves and truthful with ourselves about where we lack, where we could do more, where we need to be more disciplined or the changes that we need to make, then you will really see like a propel of energy and you will go into the area that you want to go in.
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But I think that people spend a lot of time procrastinating and hesitating. And I'm not saying that you're doing that, but people do spend a lot of time procrastinating, hesitating.
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They're not in the right circles. They're not having the right influences, but they still believe that they're going to achieve the things that they want to achieve.
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That's okay. You can still believe that. But I don't think that you, I don't think that the word excuse was supposed to be an attack on you.
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Yeah, it is a lot of what people do, but you gotta, you gotta, you gotta look at the timeline, you know, the timeline.
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But that's just for your personal, that's for your personal.
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Even though there could be some, I could have probably done this a bit more, I could have done this, I could have went to college earlier.
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But at the end of the day, you don't know the challenges one has to face to make me end up and sit next to you guys today.
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You know Pearl, right? You now know Pearl, you've met, there she is.
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You have a wonderful, you have a wonderful example of somebody that came to a new country that has created a significant following.
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Because now I'm evolving around these type of people.
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Yeah, but it's like I give you, I tell you something and you argue with it.
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I have to stand my ground up because I know my heart.
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And if you're saying, oh, you make excuses and da da da.
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I've had successful people tell me that before.
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And my reaction is, oh shit, you're probably right.
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I don't feel attacked or anything, but I'm a very strong woman and I will stand my ground.
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You know the type of background I'm coming from.
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If I tell you some horror stories that I've done.
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I, I, you know, I actually, I actually get you basically.
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But I get the process and I get how, and it's different for different people.
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It's upbringing and how we've also been taught how to deal with certain situations in life.
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If we're not taught initially just by not sorting out certain situations, we go back.
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So that's where people get some advantage, some where people get disadvantage.
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And imagine you changing your mentality and you're going back to your friends that you
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used to speak to in 16, 18, 20, and you're telling them the journey who don't even understand
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In different weight changes, I was being treated differently.
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So that just goes to show, like when I, so pre pandemic, I became 28 stones.
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I'm a person who I'm quite happy to be a person.
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I love speaking to elderly people on the tube and just talking to people and making conversation.
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But when I lost that weight, I'm telling you, after pandemic, I lost eight stones.
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A lot of people come up to me like, Oh my God, you've got something.
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So it just goes to show how sometimes by looks and how you are.
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You have to be the change that people will believe.
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See, I just, sometimes you're, you guys are saying things and I feel like they mean nothing.
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That's because if you feel the hardship and the, and if you feel the, if you've been through
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the hardship and you've gone through the cycle of actually, okay, getting out from this hardship,
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If you don't understand the feeling and if you haven't gone through the process, it's really
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If we're talking about business success, it's what, what are you doing?
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When I first started this, all right, it was just me.
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I was in a living room in a small apartment in East London and I was running to the gym,
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trying to get people to get the gym to come on my podcast.
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But it's like, when we talk about, Oh, this is a feeling revolving mentally.
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You've come from a privileged place where your mindset has been amazing for you.
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This is like a conversation with a 16 year old.
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And I started changing my mindset, say about 27, 28, when I realized that I had to deprogram.
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The results is you still can't have a conversation without, without getting defensive.
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When you're being attacked from people that don't know your life story.
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The subject was about profession, like in business, being successful in business.
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So, but what you, but the conversation has gone into like a spiritual journey and uplifting.
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Logic and emotion are two completely different things.
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Everything's about feelings, emotions, but that's not what business is about.
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Sometimes people actually don't know business and they need to learn their lessons and then
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And I get your point as well, because I get it when you say, but you're talking about
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feelings and things, but feelings get involved when you learn a lesson and then you need
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I'm going to, I'm going to read super chats really quick.
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addict. He's lucky he's talented. Okay, Chris, Abby prioritizes winning an argument over learning
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from others. Stand your ground and be wrong. You were being heard, but you were still broke and
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alone. Amelia, have her back in a year to see if she made it. Zoroslaw, notice how masculine men
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in suits and feminine women left of the couch listens to understand, but masculine women and
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feminine men listen to respond with emotion. Zoroslaw, thank you, 39 years old. You're a
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prime example, that I've made a great decision to invest in nimble food, wine, and IVF. Fellas,
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let's make our monies. Johnny, Dimitri is king. I need to afford a maid. You're something. Some
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women only believe in spousal abuse statistics. Matt Butcher, ladies, if you're in a good man's
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shoes, men lose half their shit in kids. Women very, very rarely go through that. I've seen
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men go through that repeatedly. Men get F'd. It's extremely disappointing. 90 frito pie.
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Women cannot be honest because they always have someone in mind. They don't want to hurt. You
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can't be honest about relationships until you've realized the truth about your own parents. Have
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you done that? Fast, Clara. Women don't like numbers, and they don't paint a pretty picture
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for them. Say this. Women are beautiful. You know what you're worth. Not really. Reality
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is harsh. Only women and children are allowed to live in delusion. 90 frito pie. Pearl,
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scream for peace. Successful wives of wealthy men are like good dance partners and know how to lead
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and when to back lead. Interracial relationships. Coming from a sex-positive lifestyle trauma,
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a life-changing experience when changes your entire core belief and or personality. Do women
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understand the importance of sex men require for commitment? Matt Butcher. Can you wife a 304?
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Unstable people seek out enablers to validate their behavior. Thus, a downward spiral. Identify
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it. Don't get sucked into it. Great job reading Super Chats today, Pearl.
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Dion, Dimitri is the godfather of this show. The others need to pay attention to him and listen to
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him. He knows his stuff. Doug, MPA. The panel doesn't deserve to share the room with Dimitri. He has so
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much knowledge and you are squashing this opportunity. Listen and learn. YT Silk is a woman over a woman who
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overlooks red flags. Trustworthy. Matt Butcher. 50s to 60s ladies. I want someone to grow old with
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equals I want someone to fund my retirement. Okay, so back to the wife of health.
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Yeah, me too. Can someone please fund my retirement as well?
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Yeah, me too. Nothing, by the way, gives me more pleasure than to provide for my wife. It's so
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fun because, man, I went to the airport this morning and I'm stupid. I forgot my passport.
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I called my wife. She's like, did you forget passport? I'm like, yes, I did. She's like, I'll be right there.
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She literally dropped everything, like got whichever kid was at home in the car and drove straight to
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the airport. And I, and I, as I said, it's her 10 year wedding anniversary. And I said, I'm so glad,
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you know, if I wasn't married to you for these last 10 years, I would be missing a flight right now.
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But you know, but there are so many, there's so many little things that she'll do to like actually
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make my life easier because she's, because she's actually figured, but it wasn't, but it wasn't
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because like, it just, she figured out that like, because she loves you as well. Well, well, of course,
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I hope, I mean, I would, I would hope. She loves you and she knows that you love her. But, but you know,
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it's like, I'd love to find somebody to fund my retirement. Well, actually, let's just say that's
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true. Of course you would. Of course you would. Who wouldn't want that? Right. But it's like, are you
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the person, like, are you a person that guy picks? And that's, that's a question. We talk about this in
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business. It's like, you see a prospect he doesn't buy. It's like, are like that prospect is going to buy
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that product somewhere at some point. But are you, are you being the person that that
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that prospect wants to buy from? You know, like, and so it shifts the responsibility on me to better
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my, and so I'll tell you guys, I was 20, I was 22, I was 22 years old. I was sitting down with a mentor
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of mine who had like a massive impact on my life. He was about 40 years old, like extremely successful
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with women, with finances, everything. The guy was just a stud, went on to become a VP of a public
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company that sold for like a billion dollars. Just crazy. Private company sold like it. It was crazy.
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And I asked them and I was really, really frustrated. I was 22 years old. I hadn't got
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laid in about a year. That's 22. Sorry, 22. I was 22 and been laid in about a year.
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Wow, it was a bad choice. Um, because, because look, look, I didn't kiss a girl until I was 20.
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That's why, because I needed to, I didn't understand the reality of what I was dealing with. I had
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delusions in my mind. Like I thought I would meet a girl 20 and marry her because my grandparents
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were both married until everybody died. All both sets of grandparents. Dimitri, can I ask you something?
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Yeah. Like, what's your thoughts? Obviously you're a married man. And I've always wanted to ask
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Amanda this, obviously of your level. And it's like, what do you think about, um, what's it called
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again? The pre-nup. Yeah. What do you think about that? Does it go against the marriages of this girl?
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I have a really, I have some really controversial opinions on this. And if you'd like me to share,
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I'll share. Um, so I had two conditions, uh, three conditions for, for getting married. The first
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condition was my wife has to take my last name. It wasn't a religious choice. It was that a mentor
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of mine told me that it signified something. My mom didn't take my dad's last name and they got
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divorced. And I saw that my mom didn't respect my dad. Like I felt he deserved the respect, even
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though he suffered, he suffered with dignity. That was number one. Uh, number two, no prenup. That was a
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decision I made principally. I made the decision, no prenup. Like I told my wife, like, I didn't know
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if I was ever going to get married, but if I went for it, I was going to go all in, but I'm going to
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make a real strategic decision. I'm going to go all fricking in. That's the way it should be. That,
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that was the way that was love. That was my choice. And I admit it might not be the most,
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because people are going to say, Oh, but you're a businessman. You're making a discount,
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not a risk mitigating decision. I made a choice, but you know, I'll tell you something. My wife's told me
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this many, many times, like sort of in a playful way, kind of talk, you know, because we have hard
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conversations sometimes. She's like, look, if you divorce me, I don't want any money. I just,
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she just said, I just want to make sure that I have the kids. And I said, that's great. That's what
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I want too. Right. Um, but, but that's, but I made that decision. I made that decision to step into
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that and say, I'm going to risk everything because maybe it's a courageous, you know, delusion that I had
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at the time. And maybe I'm just lucky that it worked out the way it has so far. So would you say that
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there's no wrong or right when it comes to that kind of decision? Like, is it down to you as an
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individual? Cause it is like a business kind of marriage, marriage to marriage to me was, uh,
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look, look, again, 85%. Is it, is it the, are the laws different in the country you're in?
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I got married in Canada first. Okay. So that's like, that is a terrible place to do it. Right. Okay.
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Um, well, because the Canadian court system just is like Australia or the U S it just really favors
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women. And I, but, but you know what, but I felt like I vouched my wife's character. You know,
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what's crazy is my wife's never had a public Instagram. I'll just tell you right now. She
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never had it. And by the way, people that meet my wife, they're like, wow, Dimitri, like really,
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like they're impressed that I got a girl of that caliber. Cause she's, you know, five,
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10 blonde. Don't nod your head. You met her. No, not cool. You know, my wife's like, like,
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I have a type and it's her like five, 10 blonde. Like, you know, people say, wow,
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is she like a model or something? Because, you know, so I did well in that regard,
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but I vouched her. I like vetted her character. So like no public Instagram,
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I'm going to say this about no tattoos, no piercings. Okay. Hate me. I don't care. No
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tattoos, no piercings, no public Instagram, great relationship with her dad. Her dad's a heart
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surgeon, like incredible, like successful stern man, great relationship. One of three sisters.
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She's the oldest of three, uh, educated, uh, could have a lot of dudes chose not to. Uh, and in fact,
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I was my wife and I have my wife's first and only serious relationship.
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Wow. So I guess if you choose right, you don't need to choose for life. Well, and of course,
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like what bigger decision can a man make than to get married? Like everything right.
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I kind of hear what he's saying. I think when you're looking for a partner,
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you need to actually look at, do they actually, the little things, does it match with the person?
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And if the little things match, and if you can deal with one another's differences in opinions,
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I think that's, that's a winner because then you're showing that you have respect and you're
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listening and you're working as a team, how a relationship should be.
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I was going to say, so I'm sitting with my mentor. I'm 22 years old. I remember it very vividly.
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Like I, I got to the party late, you know what I mean? Like I didn't kiss a girl until I was 20.
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Um, and then like, I'm 22 and I'm single and I'm frustrated and my life is not going the way I
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wanted to go. And I'm like, why am I like, why? By the way, by 23, a lot of things, I bought my
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first house at 23 and I was a full-time university student. So like, there was a lot of changes that
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I was undergoing. Like I started going to the gym. I started doing things that sucked. Like I took
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cold showers every freaking morning. In fact, my 1988 Toyota Corolla, actual 1988 Toyota Corolla that
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I took a girl on a date on told me that she'll never go on a date with me again because my car smells
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like old people. And she thought I was a psycho, which makes sense because my Corolla had a Ferrari
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sticker on the steering wheel. Tony Robbins. No, it was Napoleon Hill secrets of whatever Napoleon
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Hill playing and motivational quotes posted on all the mirrors. So I look like a crazy person,
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right? Okay. So anyways, 22, I'm sitting with a mentor of mine. I'm like, and I said, dude,
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like, how do I get a happy and successful girlfriend? I want a girlfriend. I don't want to-
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You're saying you've done the mentoring for the girlfriend.
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Well, I just, that's who I was at 22. Yeah. And I said, I respect it though.
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I went through the other phase too, by the way, like, I went through that.
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And if you're listening to Napoleon Hill at 22, wow.
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Because I lived in the actual projects. Well done.
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Like I lived like, you know, the projects are social housing.
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Literally, I was rollerblading and somebody's recruited me to go into sales. Like,
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hey, you look really motivated. Come to sales. And I'm like, oh, they think I'm motivated.
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I'm just poor. I'm just poor. But here's the, and by the way, like, so, so he, I said,
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how do I get a happy and successful girlfriend? At the time I was just,
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I just wanted a girl to like me. I wasn't thinking about like anything else. He goes, he goes, oh,
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that's easy. You just have to be happy and successful. Yeah. And I thought about that a lot.
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And it comes back to, you know, McConaughey quote, he does the thing like,
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don't chase a butterfly, build a garden, the butterflies will come. So a mentor of mine
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that had a really huge impact on my life. Like he really told me like, he's like,
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just build your own value, focus on you and do everything you need to do to be the most
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attractive guy to the, to, to women around you. Cause I wasn't an attractive guy to women around
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me. I was rollerblading to university in the 1988 Corolla was falling apart.
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The driving test I took the first time he didn't let me drive the car to borrow my dad's car
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So, you know, 22, I'm not a good prospect for women. So like now my mind changed like, oh,
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it's not that I'm not good at getting women. It's that women don't want me.
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Why not? Well, because I'm 22 and I was at the time I was going to university.
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I was professionally gaming. I was playing games 14, 15 hours a day. I stunk.
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So why do you, why do you, why do you think you were able to take that feedback where most women,
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if you say the men you want, don't want you to get offended?
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Because the pain of staying the same was greater than the pain of change. It just hurt too fricking
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much. To be fair at 22 men are at that level where they're not, um, they're not as highly,
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you know, I'm, I'm talking from a perspective of 22 year old man and a 22 year old woman. Yeah.
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Yeah. A 22 year old role, a 22 year old woman is a lot more desired than a 22 year old man.
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Yeah, but we could use the opposite, like a 42 year old man and a 42 year old woman.
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Yes. The man's going to be a lot more desired than the woman.
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Definitely, because now he's in his game. It actually, it switches for women about 30,
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um, according to dating apps. Yeah. Yeah. It's all facts. It's like where the tables turn.
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Well, and there's, and there's a wisdom there too. Like, why did I get married? I'll say why.
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I have friends that are 40 that are very successful. They never got married, right?
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Mm-hmm. Um, I kind of looked at it like, I understand obviously that men's value grows
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with time and women value, like it's whatever you call sexual market value goes down. Yeah,
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yeah. Um, but, but that's like what actually, in my opinion, my, this is an opinion. In my
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opinion, it's what makes a successful man, a man who can be dangerous, but chooses not to be and
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chooses to control it. That to me is like a really high aspiration for a way of living. And I might be
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wrong, but, but I love that. I love the aspiration of being able to do the things that are dangerous,
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but choosing to control that danger. So I have a question with the prenup stuff.
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I feel like I, it's tough because it's almost like if you have a kid, you're screwed anyway.
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Yeah. When it comes to marriage, like just, I've been doing this documentary on the court system,
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but even so, I just don't think I could ever advise a guy not to get a prenup because, um, because just
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the outcomes are so catastrophic, especially when I'm learning like about, um, men like committing
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suicide a lot during that process. It's like a really big problem. And I started, um, asking Uber
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drivers that I drive with and I'll just start asking them questions. And I found out like,
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I would guess like one out of four of my Uber drivers, they somehow were in the court system
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in some way. So it's like all these men that were just financially ruined at their 40s or their 50s
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to the point they're never going to come back. So do you, do you advise men to like do the same route
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that you did? Because I would just have a hard time doing that. My, you know, I'm a logical guy
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and I like to think of like, and things about mitigating risk. Probably I made a very suboptimal
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decision. Um, I'm very happy with my decision. That was a personal choice for me to, you know, I,
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I get really hard for commitment. I get hard for discipline. It's just how commitment turns me on.
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I've done one thing in my life, you know, at a university selling door to door, I started to sell a
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company that's, I sold suits door to door in office buildings, which has just grown to 20 countries. We now have
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over a hundred people working at our company. I've only, that's the only thing I've done.
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I don't like jumping around. I don't like to, I don't like to look for success in places that I
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don't know they exist. I don't like to, I don't like to look at my neighbor's lawn. I like to fertilize
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my own lawn. So for me, that decision of commitment was actually bigger than the risk that I felt.
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And that's just me. Not everybody's going to feel that way. And, um, and that's okay. I mean, I don't
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think, I don't know if there's a right answer. I think this is part to me, it's just personal.
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I was just wondering, you have so many guys you mentor. So I was just curious if you advise them
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the same way. I tell my guys this, never marry from a weak position, never commit from a weak
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position. What I mean from a weak position, you know, when you see red flags and you're like,
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everybody's, you know, everybody knows that you see the red flags and you choose to ignore them.
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Why? Because that's the only option you have. And like, I tell guys in our company, when they joined
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their early twenties, I'm like, don't like, don't commit to the first girl you fricking kiss, man,
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because you're like, there's things you're not going to see, like go and run the hose just straight
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up. Like, Oh, go through the three or fours, run it, run it, run it, run it. So that you, sorry,
00:26:16.500
man. That's a very different, I expected you to have more of a trap. No, that's very opposite.
00:26:21.540
No, no, that is, that is the optimal, the op, the optimal thing that a man can do
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is make himself as highly attractive to women as possible, as possible to increase his pool,
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and then pick the option that optimizes for him and then commit to that. Now,
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some people might say, Oh, you should have three or four wives. Some people want that. I don't want
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that. Like, I'm, I'm happy. What did you think about what he said earlier about guys liking,
00:26:44.420
um, alpha women sometimes like certain guys? Well, I found myself very, my, my mom is an alpha woman.
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She's a high, high income earner, um, compared to my dad. So she actually, her career took off,
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you know, in computer science, she's got a master's computer science. So when we moved to Canada,
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she was like the Soviet engineer and her career took off and my dad just remained a humble mechanic.
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Um, and so I found myself at a young age, attracted to these women that were sort of like
00:27:08.260
argumentative, uh, sometimes would cause a scene in public cause that's my mom, um, and, and wanted
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control. And I made a, and again, I, I started finding myself attracted to those women. And I
00:27:19.140
remember my first serious girlfriend for two years, she never cooked the meal. She said,
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I think it's beneath women to cook for men. In the bin.
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They were there. It wasn't, and that wasn't the only, and that was the only,
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that wasn't the only thing she would do. Can I share something? Something that came
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in my mind, basically what you're saying is I get it because you know, for example,
00:27:39.060
a lot of people DM me saying they talk about my chest and that, and I'm like, is it because they've
00:27:44.900
got a fat mom and they've been like, you know, when they're breastfeeding. So that's why they DM me
00:27:50.980
talking about wanting to lick my nipples and all that. So I get it. It comes from childhood
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and it comes from like little things. Like, you know, I mean, do you guys get it?
00:27:59.940
It comes from certain feelings must come from childhood for them to have those things as adults.
00:28:05.540
And I really believe people that have fat mothers also like fat people.
00:28:09.940
Uh, there's a study that's been shown that poor men prefer, uh, corpulent, you know,
00:28:15.860
larger women. And what's interesting about that. I'm like, I wonder, I'm like, I wonder if it's because,
00:28:19.940
I wonder if it's because that's just the pool that they have available to them, you know,
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and obviously if you grow up poor, there's more likelihood you will be poor. Like, of course,
00:28:27.460
there is that. Like, we know that. Um, yeah, sorry, you were going to say that.
00:28:32.340
No, I was just going to ask you that in terms of obviously every man's different.
00:28:35.220
Yeah. You see me, I couldn't be of a girl for two years, one year, six months.
00:28:40.500
No food. No dinner. What's going on? You're probably just naturally better with women than I was.
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I wasn't naturally good at it, but, but you know what I did? No, I'm just serious.
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Like if you worked where you worked and you were getting some good for you, man.
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I'd like to know. You got good ribs. I don't want to like, maybe I argue and I'm being too,
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you know, we're talking about being picky. Some men don't care about cooking.
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They'll teach the girl how to cook. Oh, you do care?
00:29:05.060
Very much. And my wife cooks all the time and it's amazing. And it's only steak at our house now.
00:29:08.660
That's the rule this month. I've only, I've only eaten steak at home this month.
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It's the only thing I eat. But anyways, um, I, I, I was intentional about again,
00:29:15.460
I'll just share my thing. This everybody's different. I had a book, uh, a vision book.
00:29:20.100
I believed in actualization because my mentor said, you need to believe in it. Okay.
00:29:23.220
I said, fine. I don't believe in astrology, but I'll try this stuff, whatever.
00:29:26.500
I had a book and one of the, it was like a folder. There was like, you know,
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goals in different areas. And one of the, uh, one of the dividers was about my ideal mate.
00:29:36.100
And I actually described very vividly with pictures, what my ideal mate would be to me.
00:29:40.500
That included not only looks, of course, looks was there. It was number one, uh, for me.
00:29:45.060
It also included, you know, background family. Really? Like I got really detailed.
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I had another mentor who was 39. He sold his company at 39 for 50 million bucks. And just look,
00:29:53.700
a guy put me on the board of his fricking company. Just, I said, dude, I'm, I was like 24.
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I'm like, what are you doing? He goes, Dimitri, I want you to just sit there and listen.
00:30:03.140
We're not going to pay you. I just want you to sit and listen so you can be around these people
00:30:06.020
and just see how they talk, see how they think and just learn from them. And I learned a ton
00:30:09.540
from that. Right. And, and he was like, girl's relationship with her father matters a lot.
00:30:14.100
I didn't know why I didn't understand it, but I said, okay, so I wrote down, I want my future
00:30:17.700
wife to have an amazing relationship with her dad and respect her father. That was the words he said,
00:30:20.820
respect her father. So I, I got really, really detailed right now, as I got into like 24, 25,
00:30:26.580
26, my options opened up profusely. Like it was like, it was like good times at that time.
00:30:32.180
But then I was choosing from the women that made themselves available to me. And I, and I didn't
00:30:36.180
turn the sex down, let's put it that way. But in terms of like who I was going to wife up,
00:30:39.940
I knew exactly what I wanted. And that may be different from different people, but I really
00:30:43.060
want to take a strategic position. And I was willing to wait, you know why I was willing to wait,
00:30:46.900
because the sex was available. You know, I think, I think if the guys aren't getting laid,
00:30:50.820
then they're probably just going to get married for the pee. That's a terrible decision.
00:30:54.260
Yeah. I got married for the character and I, I, you know, and that, and that's been the intent.
00:30:59.300
Yeah. Dimitri, you've been sharing some sort of special wisdom,
00:31:03.380
because I've actually really been enjoying this. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:31:06.180
It's actually your wisdom to hear your experiences to, to how it is for you. Also,
00:31:12.100
the fact that you've come from a hardship background. I must say, I think you deserve a clap.
00:31:19.220
Dimitri, can I touch on, you guys know, you guys, you guys know, you guys know that statistically,
00:31:23.860
if you're, yeah, I was going to say, statistically, if you're wearing a suit,
00:31:26.100
people just believe you more as an expert. So, uh, LGBT fashion house.
00:31:29.060
Dimitri, you know what's interesting when you were talking about, um,
00:31:34.580
no tattoos, no, I don't know if you said piercings.
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No piercings. For my wife, no piercings, no tattoos.
00:31:46.660
That's someone with a, that's someone with a, that's someone with a tattoo sitting up.
00:31:49.860
It's, it's interesting because when I was growing up, my mom would always say that to me.
00:31:52.820
She'd be like, you can't get a tattoo. Like, you, and I'd be like, mom, you're so judgmental.
00:31:58.180
Why would you say, like, you know, and I would, I would always be, you know,
00:32:01.140
just arguing with my mom about it. And she would always tell me, you can't get tattoos,
00:32:04.660
no piercings, no this, no that. And, um, I made it to 18, right?
00:32:08.660
And I went to Germany for the summer and I was thinking, I was like, maybe I will just to piss my mom,
00:32:17.460
So I, I didn't, I didn't, I didn't end up doing it, but it's like, one of the things I'm so thankful
00:32:22.580
for now is that like my mom just like beat that into me, like no heavy makeup, no, no tattoos,
00:32:29.140
no, don't like stay in shape, like all that stuff. Like I'm just, yeah.
00:32:33.140
And it's interesting you say that because what I noticed is like my brothers,
00:32:37.220
like they won't even give a girl like a second look if they say she's got any tattoos that are
00:32:40.900
visible. And it, and it's interesting. It's sad because sometimes like girls are so beautiful,
00:32:45.940
but it's like, they'll get like a sleeve or they'll get something. I'm like, why are you wasting that?
00:32:50.180
That's true. But is it, is it someone without tattoo or without piercing better than someone that has them?
00:32:58.180
Does it make them greater than the one that doesn't have them?
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I mean, I don't think it's the same and there's no tattoos, no tattoos.
00:33:06.020
I love makeup. I love, that's just me. I'm a girly girl.
00:33:10.420
Like my mom was always like, no tattoos, no, no, no, no, very judgmental.
00:33:14.580
I mean, I was, I was raised as a Roman Catholic.
00:33:21.700
You want to hear something crazy? I value purity.
00:33:27.700
I had to learn about myself. Like, why do I feel that way?
00:33:30.020
And then I introspect. I value purity is number one. And, and, and again, I don't,
00:33:34.100
I know that some people listen to this or even here are not going to agree with me. That's okay.
00:33:37.380
I don't, I don't make your decisions. You make your decisions. I'm just telling you my own
00:33:40.900
perspective. Like I value purity and I think it shows a lack of impulse control.
00:33:45.140
Uh, what do you, uh, sorry, what do you define as a purity?
00:33:52.100
Yeah. Like it's symbolic, right? I understand. It's not, it's not physical. It's metaphysical. It's symbolic.
00:33:57.220
They're like, and by the way, I see you have tattoos. I'm not like you're,
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I'm sure that like 99% of men would disagree with me on this. So I'm probably not statistically
00:34:05.060
correct here. So just know that you're more qualified in many men's eyes than less qualified
00:34:09.540
because I'm sure other men would see that as fun and, uh, and expressive and, and maybe,
00:34:14.580
um, no, they don't, whatever. I don't know. I don't know.
00:34:19.380
It depends on the type of guy you're going for.
00:34:21.380
Yeah. Guys that, guys that from like, um, a corporate background, like that's not what
00:34:28.580
You know what they say when they say birds of a feather flock together.
00:34:35.540
I think we need to always circle back around to that because if I date somebody completely
00:34:42.340
out of my character, completely out of the people I vibrate on like this frequency,
00:34:48.340
of course I'm gonna have to challenge myself. I'm going to want to get my tattoos lasered and stuff.
00:34:54.260
So if you want to get into that, um, level of, of people, you know, those, those kind of people,
00:35:01.620
you want to be around millionaires and you want to have a millionaire husband and all of those things.
00:35:08.180
Yeah, but do you actually feel like just because like people don't have tattoos and piercing,
00:35:13.460
they can be more successful than people not necessarily.
00:35:16.020
In relationships. Yeah. My, my brother, so I just, you know, I, I'm one of 10.
00:35:20.740
So I have, I have, um, a family at 10, five boys, five girls.
00:35:24.180
And, um, out of my five brothers, I think four makes six figures. So four are in the top,
00:35:28.660
like five to 10% of earners. As many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized
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