JustPearlyThings - November 29, 2023


She Gets ROASTED for Fighting These Stats


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39 minutes

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8,052

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888

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Misogyny

65

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In this episode, we talk about why women are picky when it comes to men and how to deal with it. We also talk about the statistics behind why women don t want to get married past the age of 35 and why it's better to be single than in a long term relationship.

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00:00:00.000 It is literally when you think about your DMs because this is this crazy place
00:00:07.740 No one looks at their DMs, but it's also if you if you walked into a bar and you just do you stood in the bar and you said
00:00:13.020 I will fuck every geezer here 1.00
00:00:16.440 Imagine how many would do imagine how many how many members do they've done that on YouTube before
00:00:21.200 Well, yeah, so they have like a girl go up to guys and a guy go up to girls and it's like over half the guys are like
00:00:28.000 Okay, she was a cute girl, and they had a hot guy go up to girls. It was like 99% of them said no exactly
00:00:35.160 That's what that was my win
00:00:37.400 So that showed the statistics of women trying to just keep themselves to themselves 0.98
00:00:43.680 Like because okay, all we may not be like oh, they don't want extra body count
00:00:48.940 No, I think I think it shows what's easier to get like it's easier for women to get sex than man 0.97
00:00:54.980 Yeah, so it's like a man a man has to have something for you to be interested in him like you're pretty girl
00:01:00.300 So it's like you're gonna want him to have a good job, right? Definitely. You want to be taller than I've been I've been very spoiled
00:01:05.980 Yes, right
00:01:06.980 So you want to you want to so you are picky is earlier. Yeah, okay
00:01:11.240 So
00:01:14.480 You want to be taller than you, right?
00:01:16.480 Yeah
00:01:18.480 Okay, okay, okay, what percent of men are over six foot not many minimum what it's fifteen percent. Wow, so then let's let's say let's say wow
00:01:28.800 Now what percent of wait wait what percent of men do you find attractive usually would you say I like men that are taller than me?
00:01:34.800 I like to look up how do you so out of out of ten men you may be maybe you'll find so if you're like the stats
00:01:40.220 You'll find two attractive so out of the fifteen percent
00:01:43.420 You're gonna find two out of the ten that are over six foot attractive
00:01:46.840 Yeah, and let's say let's say one of them is in your income category that you look for and one isn't
00:01:51.860 So you're looking for one percent of men and most women most women are looking 0.66
00:01:56.400 Most women at two baby moms most women are looking for one percent and you want him to have no kids, right? 1.00
00:02:01.960 That's
00:02:03.960 point four
00:02:05.960 And I want to be and I want to be a millionaire. Don't we all
00:02:14.640 That's what I'm saying it's all a possibility like I said I did you so date a very rich guy and he made me become very high
00:02:23.560 When we start dating I was like oh my god, how am I gonna get you to right get this level? How am I know that's the thing?
00:02:31.040 I mean
00:02:33.040 Statistically statistically you probably won't replace him statistically you probably won't
00:02:38.040 I'm just saying my DMs be popping
00:02:40.040 Yeah
00:02:42.040 Yeah
00:02:44.040 Your DMs might be popping but engagements count
00:02:47.040 That's what counts
00:02:49.040 I get more DMs
00:02:51.040 I get more DMs than interaction
00:02:53.040 I get more DMs
00:02:55.040 I get more DMs
00:02:56.040 Okay, okay
00:02:57.040 I've had like crazy messages but you know come on
00:03:01.040 It's a DM they don't count
00:03:03.040 No, no, no it don't count but obviously out of those DMs one of them was the one
00:03:08.040 I was like yes I'm gonna come see you
00:03:11.040 That's my point. That's what every girl thinks 0.99
00:03:13.040 Every girl's walking through life thinking they're gonna win the lottery and date this top 1% man 0.95
00:03:18.040 He has to be over 6 foot. He has to make over 70k. He has to be attractive. He has to be attractive
00:03:22.040 If you believe you can achieve
00:03:24.040 But see this is this is this is but this is here here wait this is the problem that sounds nice
00:03:28.040 It's it sounds nice and like and it's possible but it's not probable it's probably not gonna happen
00:03:33.040 So I'll tell you I'll tell you another stat okay, so big banks are investing in things like cat food wine
00:03:40.040 Because 50% of women are projected to be single and childless over 30
00:03:44.040 So that means all the girls in this room half of us will never have kids 0.98
00:03:47.040 Okay, half of us will never get married
00:03:49.040 So if you say oh just manifest it believe it sounds nice
00:03:52.040 And it's also like if you don't get married by 35 your odds of getting married and having a long stable relationship ever
00:03:57.040 It's very it's very low
00:03:59.040 It's very low. I actually
00:04:01.040 For a lot of women, yeah 1.00
00:04:03.040 I don't put myself
00:04:07.040 I don't put myself in that category
00:04:11.040 I really don't
00:04:13.040 Actually I'm gonna
00:04:15.040 I wanna actually
00:04:17.040 I wanna read
00:04:19.040 When a single woman reaches the age of 30 0.75
00:04:21.040 The statistical probability of her sex successfully finding a long-term relationship
00:04:25.040 And having just one child falls below 50%
00:04:29.040 It then declines rapidly by 3.5% to 5% each year
00:04:33.040 This is based on the average fertility rates in developed countries of course
00:04:37.040 But it's also based on the average amount of time
00:04:39.040 It would take a single 30 year old woman to find a good mate 1.00
00:04:41.040 And progress the relationship to the point of pregnancy
00:04:43.040 A little messed up is what you consider the average age of first child is 29 for women 0.95
00:04:49.040 Very slightly by country
00:04:51.040 And most women start taking the idea of a family seriously in their late 20s and 30s
00:04:57.040 And let's talk about IVF too
00:05:01.040 61
00:05:03.040 The failure rates of IVF is 61.1% in women under 34
00:05:07.040 So out of 100 women that go and get IVF, 61% fail 0.93
00:05:11.040 And women that are between the ages of 35 to 38
00:05:14.040 It's 73.7%
00:05:16.040 86.2% in women ages 39 to 42
00:05:19.040 And 94% in women over the ages of 43
00:05:22.040 That's the IVF failure rate
00:05:24.040 Wow
00:05:25.040 Isn't it now that there's more female binge drinkers than male for the first time ever? 1.00
00:05:28.040 Yeah, yeah, that's true
00:05:29.040 That's crazy
00:05:30.040 Yeah
00:05:31.040 That's mad
00:05:32.040 That's crazy
00:05:33.040 Which part?
00:05:34.040 There's more female 0.99
00:05:35.040 Yeah, there's more
00:05:36.040 You can go ahead
00:05:37.040 It was something that came out earlier this year that there are now more female binge drinkers than males 1.00
00:05:43.040 And it's the first time in history this has happened
00:05:45.040 Wow
00:05:46.040 That's crazy
00:05:47.040 I'm really getting educated
00:05:49.040 I'm gonna
00:05:50.040 I'm really getting educated today
00:05:51.040 I'm gonna
00:05:52.040 I'm really getting educated today
00:05:53.040 They're smoking more
00:05:55.040 So men smoke more and women drink more 1.00
00:05:57.040 Yeah, but that's the first time in history that women are drinking more 1.00
00:06:00.040 But why is that?
00:06:01.040 It's evolving
00:06:02.040 Because we're an evolving race
00:06:04.040 Because women are becoming men 1.00
00:06:06.040 I've heard
00:06:07.040 I've heard
00:06:08.040 That men are becoming women 1.00
00:06:09.040 Yeah
00:06:10.040 Yeah
00:06:11.040 That's what's going on
00:06:12.040 I'm gonna read one more thing to you guys
00:06:13.040 According to the average span of committed relationships
00:06:16.040 Of committed dating relationships
00:06:18.040 The average
00:06:19.040 And the average interval of time women take between relationships
00:06:24.040 An average woman has a maximum of guess how many serious relationships 1.00
00:06:27.040 Three
00:06:28.040 How many?
00:06:29.040 Four
00:06:30.040 Three
00:06:31.040 Two
00:06:32.040 Five
00:06:33.040 Five
00:06:34.040 jackets
00:06:36.040 Weight
00:06:37.040 Undersed
00:06:38.040 Wait
00:06:39.040 Wait
00:06:40.040 Wait
00:06:41.040 Angela
00:06:44.040 No
00:06:45.040 Wait
00:06:46.040 Wait
00:06:50.040 Wait
00:06:51.040 Woo
00:06:52.040 Question
00:07:01.040 between relationships the average woman has a maximum of five serious 0.99
00:07:04.640 relationships five swings at the bat before her chances of starting a family
00:07:08.860 drops to zero they need to change
00:07:19.920 depressing it's according to numbers like so they what if they what if the
00:07:26.000 new generation what if these people are just willing to love easily more
00:07:30.920 easily but this is what this is like we always do a roundabout way to make the
00:07:35.520 numbers not sound like what they are but this is my numbers when people started
00:07:40.580 creating numbers okay numbers wait numbers were only numbers when people
00:07:45.260 started creating numbers how did you count a rock like how did you know how
00:07:53.000 many rocks before they were okay this is this doesn't make any sense
00:07:57.840 they do sir they do serve they do surveys it's self-reported in different
00:08:07.560 countries around the world and they all have similar numbers so so they they
00:08:11.160 start to have a similar conclusion in a similar trend so when we when we tell
00:08:15.000 women oh it's gonna be okay it's like my dms are full this this this for a lot of
00:08:19.320 women for a lot of women it's not gonna be okay and out of women that don't have 1.00
00:08:23.080 kids right eighty percent of them wish they had them a hundred but it's gonna 0.67
00:08:26.800 be okay at the end of it oh that's what I'm saying sometimes these
00:08:31.040 conversations could also go to the other side of the one way explain that so what
00:08:36.880 do you mean I think that these sort of conversations we have they can
00:08:40.180 sometimes be very strategic and stats have stated and these people yeah but
00:08:45.160 there's a whole group community of people who don't do surveys and just love
00:08:50.200 their life and love people and talk to people and are real and they don't give
00:08:54.280 their reports back yes okay okay okay some some people you're at some people
00:09:02.380 don't take surveys but if we're doing surveys in different places and they're
00:09:06.720 all concluding the same thing it's like if you don't want to believe numbers you
00:09:09.580 don't have to you can just live in the in the land of feelings but but to do that
00:09:21.520 when you're living in the land of logic like we should we do a feeler okay we do an
00:09:26.020 episode that's just like statistics and just teaching people statistics we can
00:09:28.840 say you're you're what you're talking about a self-selection bias but once you
00:09:31.960 get over about 1,400 people you kind of have a pretty standard distribution which
00:09:35.740 is statistically significant these numbers are pretty damn tight so we'll do an
00:09:39.040 episode pro for white school statistics what do you think I would love to be
00:09:44.500 honest with you to be honest with you Demetrius yeah I feel like Demetrius sorry my
00:09:50.620 apologies Demetrius as you said Demetrius the one that was gonna take his suit
00:09:57.580 before he got you we stopped him we got him basically what I'm saying is that yes you
00:10:08.500 know not all of us were taught to be wives yeah and maybe that's because our
00:10:14.140 Some others saw what happened to wives. 1.00
00:10:16.140 Bruv, not all of us would talk to suckers. Woah.
00:10:18.140 Stop.
00:10:19.140 Wait, wait, wait. No, no, no, no, no.
00:10:21.140 Did you know what I said?
00:10:22.140 Okay, okay.
00:10:23.140 Can I ask a question?
00:10:24.140 Wait, wait.
00:10:25.140 Did you hear what I said first?
00:10:26.140 Yeah.
00:10:27.140 So, say that again.
00:10:28.140 Yeah, so...
00:10:29.140 Just the one part.
00:10:30.140 Just the part about they were not taught what...
00:10:32.140 Yeah, let me not get in my feelings, you're right.
00:10:34.140 What I'm saying is that...
00:10:36.140 Don't worry, girl.
00:10:37.140 Women that raise certain women in this world, 0.99
00:10:40.140 they never taught their children or their daughters obviously to be wives 1.00
00:10:44.140 because they had experienced what happens to wives
00:10:48.140 and they were like, I'm not going to be a wife
00:10:50.140 because that means I have to stand up with a guy
00:10:53.140 and that's due to relationship trauma.
00:10:55.140 But what outcomes are better?
00:10:57.140 No, but at the point it doesn't matter.
00:10:59.140 But this is the thing.
00:11:01.140 Because they are real people living on this earth.
00:11:03.140 Single childless women are not happy by and large.
00:11:06.140 They're not.
00:11:07.140 Over the age of over...
00:11:08.140 I don't think life is about only happiness though.
00:11:10.140 I mean, what...
00:11:11.140 Okay, what do you want your life to look like?
00:11:12.140 Okay, no, no.
00:11:13.140 Listen, listen.
00:11:14.140 Two seconds.
00:11:15.140 Just listen.
00:11:16.140 What do you want your life to look like at 60?
00:11:17.140 65?
00:11:18.140 What do you want Christmas to look like?
00:11:20.140 Your family...
00:11:21.140 Whole.
00:11:22.140 I just want it to look whole.
00:11:23.140 Okay, okay.
00:11:24.140 Not...
00:11:25.140 Listen, listen.
00:11:26.140 Okay.
00:11:27.140 What do you...
00:11:28.140 Do you want to spend it alone at 65?
00:11:31.140 Your parents are probably passed away then on 70, 65.
00:11:34.140 For myself, definitely not.
00:11:35.140 Okay.
00:11:36.140 For me, personally.
00:11:37.140 Right.
00:11:38.140 So, what are you arguing about here?
00:11:40.140 I'm arguing that community and having family and being a single woman doesn't come with 0.62
00:11:47.140 a lonely life.
00:11:49.140 The stats disagree.
00:11:50.140 No.
00:11:51.140 Women... 1.00
00:11:52.140 Women that don't have children are on antidepressants. 0.93
00:11:54.140 They drink more.
00:11:55.140 And the stats can disagree.
00:11:56.140 That's okay.
00:11:57.140 That's okay because...
00:11:58.140 So then what are you arguing?
00:11:59.140 Those people are probably on antidepressants and they on...
00:12:03.140 They drink tap water and they do certain things that...
00:12:06.140 It's not fun.
00:12:07.140 No, no.
00:12:08.140 And then, you know, they're desensitized.
00:12:10.140 Okay.
00:12:11.140 Are the single childless women that you know typically happy? 1.00
00:12:14.140 Are they happy they're in that position?
00:12:16.140 Typically, like majority of the time.
00:12:18.140 Okay.
00:12:19.140 They're all happy.
00:12:20.140 Yes.
00:12:21.140 They have children.
00:12:22.140 And if they had to pick, they would rather be by themselves than with a man they respect,
00:12:25.140 love, and admire.
00:12:26.140 Yeah.
00:12:27.140 They would prefer...
00:12:28.140 No, no, no.
00:12:29.140 Pick one.
00:12:30.140 What would they prefer typically?
00:12:31.140 Well, how can I pick one if that's not an option?
00:12:33.140 So...
00:12:34.140 If what's...
00:12:35.140 I'm giving you two options.
00:12:36.140 They'd rather be alone or with a man that they love, respect, and admire.
00:12:39.140 Which one would they pick?
00:12:40.140 They're all...
00:12:41.140 Always.
00:12:42.140 Always.
00:12:43.140 Yeah.
00:12:44.140 Always.
00:12:45.140 Don't want companions.
00:12:46.140 But they would be...
00:12:47.140 But this is like a need to be right.
00:12:48.140 It's like...
00:12:49.140 Because you know what the answer is.
00:12:50.140 Obviously.
00:12:51.140 You just like to argue.
00:12:52.140 According to the stats...
00:12:53.140 I just feel like...
00:12:54.140 No, no.
00:12:55.140 Wait, wait, wait.
00:12:56.140 One thing.
00:12:57.140 One more thing.
00:12:58.140 According to the stats, you're right and I'm wrong.
00:13:01.140 Mm-hmm.
00:13:02.140 But according to my world and my people and my community, we're good.
00:13:05.140 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:13:06.140 We're good.
00:13:07.140 We're good on the side.
00:13:08.140 But it's true what you said.
00:13:09.140 Not a lot of women have taught their girls to be wives. 1.00
00:13:12.140 No, that's what I'm saying.
00:13:13.140 Because they haven't come from that background.
00:13:15.140 No, but no, no, no.
00:13:16.140 Let me rephrase that.
00:13:17.140 They've seen the painful reality of them.
00:13:18.140 No, they've been through it because...
00:13:20.140 But why is that your answer?
00:13:22.140 It's a painful reality.
00:13:23.140 Why?
00:13:24.140 Because when I'm saying the women that were not raised, 0.97
00:13:27.140 to be wives, it's because their mothers had experienced something else. 1.00
00:13:33.140 Well, I feel like...
00:13:34.140 As children.
00:13:35.140 And that might be the majority.
00:13:37.140 That's why there's so many women who aren't wives, 1.00
00:13:40.140 who have to go to wife school. 1.00
00:13:42.140 I think she means that it's a knock-on effect.
00:13:44.140 To say someone's great-grandma went through some sort of trauma,
00:13:47.140 as you mentioned earlier, they're going to pass it down to their daughter.
00:13:51.140 Yeah.
00:13:52.140 They ain't going to teach them how to...
00:13:53.140 Then it goes down to...
00:13:54.140 It's a knock-on effect.
00:13:55.140 That's what they're saying.
00:13:56.140 It's generational.
00:13:57.140 You tried to break the pill.
00:13:58.140 But the difference is people used to go through trauma together.
00:14:03.140 Yeah.
00:14:04.140 Like, I mean, I know a couple that had the...
00:14:06.140 They lost a child.
00:14:08.140 And that's real trauma.
00:14:10.140 That's bad.
00:14:11.140 They lost a child and they stuck it out and they figured out a way to make it work
00:14:14.140 and they ended up having more kids, but that ruins most relationships.
00:14:17.140 That's real trauma.
00:14:18.140 Nowadays, women's trauma is just not being happy, having to listen to their husband.
00:14:22.140 Do you feel like...
00:14:23.140 Let me ask you this, Pearl.
00:14:24.140 Do you feel like, in this generation now, a lot of women are so quick to throw in the towel? 0.99
00:14:30.140 Is that what you feel like?
00:14:31.140 Yes.
00:14:32.140 Yeah.
00:14:33.140 I agree.
00:14:34.140 I agree.
00:14:35.140 But that's men and women.
00:14:36.140 It's even men.
00:14:37.140 It's both ways of course.
00:14:38.140 No, I don't.
00:14:39.140 I don't.
00:14:40.140 I'm doing a documentary on the court system in the UK.
00:14:43.140 Mm-hmm.
00:14:44.140 And I can tell you firsthand, men are not the first to throw in the towel.
00:14:47.140 They're not.
00:14:48.140 They're not.
00:14:49.140 They're not.
00:14:50.140 They're not.
00:14:51.140 They're not.
00:14:52.140 It might be for the kids, but the men are more selfless than the women, because they
00:14:56.140 care about the kids.
00:14:57.140 They'll stick it out for the kids.
00:14:58.140 Yes.
00:14:59.140 There is a man...
00:15:00.140 I just interviewed a guy.
00:15:01.140 I just...
00:15:02.140 I just...
00:15:03.140 I just...
00:15:04.140 I am talking about marriage.
00:15:05.140 She was married.
00:15:06.140 He has three daughters.
00:15:08.140 And he was married to a narcissist.
00:15:11.140 And he said that he would have stuck it out.
00:15:14.140 But she wouldn't.
00:15:16.140 Wow.
00:15:17.140 So then, one day he gets a call.
00:15:19.140 He can't go home.
00:15:20.140 She got a restraining order against him.
00:15:22.140 She accused him of abuse.
00:15:23.140 Wow.
00:15:24.140 And now he can't see his children.
00:15:26.140 Three daughters.
00:15:27.140 And he hasn't even gotten to fight in court in the last year.
00:15:31.140 Mm-hmm.
00:15:32.140 And all he wants is just to see his kids.
00:15:34.140 To bring his family together.
00:15:35.140 We hear this.
00:15:36.140 I'll find that so sad.
00:15:37.140 And this woman had no real reason. 0.99
00:15:38.140 And I'm telling you, I'm doing a documentary on this.
00:15:40.140 It's like the same story over and over again.
00:15:43.140 Because here the courts...
00:15:44.140 Think about if you're in a contract, right?
00:15:46.140 And person A gets everything by leaving.
00:15:49.140 They get the house.
00:15:50.140 They get the kids.
00:15:51.140 They get everything.
00:15:52.140 And person B, they lose everything.
00:15:54.140 Person B is always trying to please person A.
00:15:56.140 Because they have more to lose.
00:15:58.140 So it changes the way we interact in relationships, in my opinion.
00:16:02.140 That's why we always have women wearing the pants. 1.00
00:16:04.140 Especially in the West.
00:16:05.140 Because the men are always trying to appease the women. 0.99
00:16:07.140 Because they lose everything if they leave.
00:16:09.140 So yeah, I do think women today throw in the towel. 1.00
00:16:12.140 And partially it's because they're paid to.
00:16:14.140 I've had clients cry to me.
00:16:16.140 I've had like in law offices, the partners.
00:16:19.140 I've had them cry to me over the years.
00:16:21.140 Because of the divorce they're going through.
00:16:24.140 And not being able to see their kids.
00:16:26.140 And it's like...
00:16:28.140 And we know statistically it's 80% of women that leave the relationships. 0.98
00:16:31.140 I've had grown ass men cry to me about it.
00:16:34.140 Like I've had that relationship where they're like dude.
00:16:36.140 And they just bawl.
00:16:37.140 Yeah.
00:16:38.140 I know many men.
00:16:39.140 I know men.
00:16:40.140 I've met many men who are actually depressed.
00:16:43.140 And that's how they go into depression.
00:16:45.140 Because they've lost their kids.
00:16:46.140 And the mother is usually being sparked for just not letting them see their kid. 1.00
00:16:50.140 Not giving them the right.
00:16:51.140 Can I say something though?
00:16:53.140 I don't want to justify the thing that women sometimes they can be evil. 1.00
00:16:57.140 And take their kids and use them against their husbands. 1.00
00:17:00.140 Yeah.
00:17:01.140 But you have to check how many marriages are made where the woman she does everything. 1.00
00:17:06.140 She goes to work.
00:17:07.140 She takes care of kids. 0.96
00:17:08.140 She does everything.
00:17:09.140 And the man just goes to work and goes home and chills.
00:17:11.140 And sits down.
00:17:12.140 Like you don't really know the reason why people divorce.
00:17:14.140 And like I believe there's so many marriages nowadays where...
00:17:17.140 Well why did she have a kid with a guy that just sits at the couch all day? 1.00
00:17:20.140 I mean...
00:17:21.140 Why did she pick him?
00:17:22.140 No, because most of the men they say that like men in business or whatever.
00:17:26.140 Men by and large make more than women. 0.72
00:17:29.140 Sorry?
00:17:30.140 Men by and large make more than women. 0.72
00:17:32.140 Yeah.
00:17:33.140 I know.
00:17:34.140 But because they make more than women. 1.00
00:17:35.140 They feel that they are able to like just go home and chill.
00:17:38.140 Or watch the TV or go with their friends to drink a beer.
00:17:41.140 While the woman she goes to work. 1.00
00:17:43.140 She looks after the kids.
00:17:44.140 She takes care of the house.
00:17:46.140 She pays the bills. 0.54
00:17:47.140 She does everything basically.
00:17:49.140 Go ahead.
00:17:50.140 Okay.
00:17:51.140 Literally we talked about this today with Kirill.
00:17:53.140 So this is really interesting.
00:17:54.140 And again this is going to be super offensive.
00:17:56.140 So let's go viral.
00:17:57.140 First thing.
00:18:00.140 Okay.
00:18:01.140 Like...
00:18:02.140 Messi, the football soccer football player.
00:18:07.140 His wife isn't leaving him because he doesn't do the dishes. 1.00
00:18:09.140 When the wife's like I left him because he didn't do the chores. 0.93
00:18:12.140 It's like...
00:18:13.140 Is LeBron's wife leaving him because he doesn't do the dishes?
00:18:16.140 That's a bullshit reason.
00:18:17.140 No.
00:18:18.140 It's not true.
00:18:19.140 Let me tell you what is true.
00:18:20.140 The answer is he's not...
00:18:21.140 If a wife is like I'm leaving because my husband doesn't do chores. 1.00
00:18:24.140 It's because he's not making enough money.
00:18:26.140 That's the reason.
00:18:27.140 And the stat...
00:18:28.140 Wow.
00:18:29.140 I'll make it very simple.
00:18:30.140 I hate this.
00:18:31.140 I told you it's going to be...
00:18:32.140 It's true.
00:18:33.140 So I...
00:18:34.140 That makes sense.
00:18:35.140 Listen up.
00:18:36.140 I come home.
00:18:37.140 If you do the logic.
00:18:38.140 I come home and I'm like...
00:18:39.140 It's a hard day.
00:18:40.140 I'm super tired.
00:18:41.140 You know...
00:18:42.140 Whatever.
00:18:43.140 Pulled my portion next to my wife's G-Wagon that I got her.
00:18:45.140 She's very cool.
00:18:46.140 Everything's great.
00:18:47.140 And I'm freaking tired.
00:18:48.140 And I can see my wife...
00:18:49.140 We got four kids.
00:18:50.140 She's working really hard around the house.
00:18:52.140 And I'm like...
00:18:53.140 Honey, listen.
00:18:54.140 Let me just get a maid to come in and clean the house. 1.00
00:18:57.140 And my wife's like... 1.00
00:18:58.140 No, no.
00:18:59.140 I want to do this myself.
00:19:00.140 And I'm like...
00:19:01.140 Look, I know I'm not going to do it.
00:19:02.140 I'll tell you what I'm not going to.
00:19:03.140 I just worked 14 hours.
00:19:04.140 I'm not going to touch a dish in my life.
00:19:05.140 And I told her...
00:19:06.140 I have a full-time live-in maid. 0.95
00:19:07.140 And I'll literally get a nanny for myself if I'm single. 0.79
00:19:10.140 And she will just do everything.
00:19:11.140 So, finally, I convinced my wife to get a lady to come in and help around the house. 1.00
00:19:16.140 So, in comes this hot 23-year-old Ukrainian girl that's now living in Estonia as a refugee.
00:19:21.140 And she's in there wiping everything.
00:19:23.140 I see my wife do the side.
00:19:25.140 She never showed up again.
00:19:27.140 She never showed...
00:19:28.140 Gentlemen...
00:19:29.140 Why you shouldn't have hired her? 0.53
00:19:30.140 I didn't.
00:19:31.140 She's scaring people. 1.00
00:19:32.140 What I'm saying is, gentlemen, this is going to be offensive.
00:19:34.140 Listen up.
00:19:35.140 If you don't want to do dishes and you are successful enough to hire a maid... 0.97
00:19:39.140 No.
00:19:40.140 Hire a hot maid and I promise your wife will do the damn dishes. 1.00
00:19:42.140 No one say that.
00:19:43.140 If your wife seems to kill, she won't feed something. 1.00
00:19:46.140 I want to give you guys a stat.
00:19:47.140 Wait.
00:19:48.140 No.
00:19:49.140 Wait.
00:19:50.140 Surprisingly, studies showed that the divorce rate among couples who share chores equally was
00:19:53.140 50% higher than among those where the wife does the majority of the work. 1.00
00:19:58.140 It's a financial thing.
00:19:59.140 Yeah, I know.
00:20:00.140 But I'm not saying...
00:20:01.140 I'm not saying because the men like...
00:20:03.140 Because the men doesn't do it. 0.99
00:20:04.140 Because obviously the woman for nature, like even like in other religion, right? 1.00
00:20:08.140 The woman is the one that she looks after the kids, after the house and everything. 1.00
00:20:11.140 But like at the same time, if a man can make like that type of amount of money that he can come home and chill, then why her wife should go to work and be like, oh, I have to take care of everything. 1.00
00:20:23.140 Like if her wife can decide to be at home and be like, oh, I don't want to have like a really big career. 1.00
00:20:28.140 Do you think that successful men want their wives to work? 1.00
00:20:30.140 Does your wife work? 1.00
00:20:32.140 No.
00:20:33.140 I told her when I married her.
00:20:34.140 I said, I want my mom work. 0.91
00:20:35.140 My mom out on my dad.
00:20:36.140 So my parents got divorced.
00:20:37.140 And it was.
00:20:38.140 And I saw it as a kid.
00:20:39.140 I wasn't a dumb kid.
00:20:40.140 I'm like, I know why it's happening because my mom started out earning my dad.
00:20:43.140 I told my wife, I'm like, look, when we get married, I want my wife to be a stay home mom. 0.99
00:20:47.140 I was very open about it.
00:20:48.140 Why?
00:20:49.140 Because I want my kids to have an experience I didn't have.
00:20:51.140 And I want to work my ass off to provide my kids that experience.
00:20:54.140 Okay.
00:20:55.140 Can I just put that in there?
00:20:56.140 Well done.
00:20:57.140 The last guy I was hit with, even though he wanted me to have this and have that, he wanted me to do all of that.
00:21:02.140 He did not want me to stay at home and raise kids.
00:21:05.140 He wanted me to go to work.
00:21:07.140 And I thought, well, listen, if you're the breadwinner and you're the alpha, why would you want to put so much pressure on me?
00:21:14.140 He ain't no alpha, girl.
00:21:15.140 He ain't no alpha.
00:21:16.140 You want me to have the kids.
00:21:17.140 Wait, wait, wait.
00:21:18.140 Go ahead.
00:21:19.140 One thing, guys, so this is a topic that's come up here.
00:21:22.140 And so you're like, look, let's imagine we group men into two groups.
00:21:26.140 Okay.
00:21:27.140 Some men are slimy and they just have, you know, bad character and they mistreat you.
00:21:33.140 And maybe, you know, some of us were unfortunate enough to grow up with a father like that.
00:21:37.140 I just want to give a shout out to my dad, by the way, who never made a lot of money in his life.
00:21:41.140 He's still a mechanic to this day.
00:21:42.140 He's in his 60s.
00:21:43.140 He's never going to retire.
00:21:44.140 He's never going to retire.
00:21:45.140 But man, did he give me a good example of a man who suffers in dignity.
00:21:48.140 My God.
00:21:49.140 He just he suffers in dignity.
00:21:50.140 And I know he fucking hates it.
00:21:51.140 Pardon my French.
00:21:52.140 But he suffered in dignity for me because, you know, he had a son, me.
00:21:56.140 So we can group the men into these two categories, the slime balls.
00:22:00.140 And then we have guys that like genuinely want an optimal outcome for their family.
00:22:03.140 Pearl, I think your dad sounds like he might be that kind of guy.
00:22:06.140 Are there any other, by the way, folks here with a guy with a dad like that?
00:22:09.140 Oh, my goodness.
00:22:10.140 So about 50 percent.
00:22:11.140 You can see 50 percent.
00:22:12.140 Okay.
00:22:13.140 So and this is a painful question to ask.
00:22:16.140 But I would ask this question because if I'm coaching a young man or woman in our company and they're continuously getting a negative outcome, I would ask, well, if 50 percent of the guys are the good guys.
00:22:25.140 Why aren't they picking you?
00:22:27.140 Like, why are you being picked by these guys that are problematic guys?
00:22:30.140 Because that's the experience you're describing.
00:22:32.140 What about the good guys exist and they're picking somebody.
00:22:34.140 We exist.
00:22:35.140 Maybe.
00:22:36.140 Why are they picking you?
00:22:37.140 Maybe them slime balls know who to pre on. 1.00
00:22:40.140 And they just see it.
00:22:41.140 So why are you such a juicy target for that?
00:22:43.140 And why?
00:22:44.140 Why?
00:22:45.140 Why are you going for it?
00:22:47.140 Well, guys, because of my personality.
00:22:50.140 Wait, wait, wait.
00:22:52.140 This is my issue.
00:22:53.140 It's like, okay, once I'll give you one.
00:22:55.140 All right.
00:22:56.140 But it's like girls will pick two, three, four. 0.99
00:22:58.140 Like at some point it's a pattern.
00:22:59.140 At some point it's you.
00:23:00.140 Because men can be very deceiving in the beginning.
00:23:02.140 Oh, man.
00:23:03.140 They can be lovely.
00:23:04.140 They can be kind.
00:23:05.140 They can be generous.
00:23:06.140 No, no, no, no.
00:23:07.140 That's the men.
00:23:08.140 But that's the men you pick.
00:23:09.140 That's half the men.
00:23:10.140 Until you get to know them.
00:23:11.140 Give it three months, six months down the line.
00:23:13.140 Then we start giving them conversations.
00:23:15.140 Shall we have the kids?
00:23:16.140 Shall we move in?
00:23:17.140 That quitting?
00:23:18.140 Yeah.
00:23:19.140 Yeah, of course.
00:23:20.140 We're speaking about life.
00:23:21.140 We're not trying to waste time here.
00:23:22.140 Are you a good judge of character?
00:23:23.140 We're either in or out.
00:23:24.140 Are you a good judge of character?
00:23:25.140 I think so.
00:23:26.140 Well, that doesn't sound like it.
00:23:28.140 No, it is.
00:23:29.140 Because at the end of the day, if you come across a good man, he's hardworking.
00:23:34.140 He's very dedicated to his own game.
00:23:36.140 He's alpha male and da, da, da, da, da.
00:23:39.140 You're gonna give him that time of day because you think, oh, I like this energy.
00:23:42.140 I like this man.
00:23:43.140 So where's that man in your life?
00:23:44.140 He's giving me me.
00:23:45.140 I have so many to pick from and I haven't chose yet.
00:23:48.140 Really?
00:23:49.140 Yeah.
00:23:50.140 Okay.
00:23:51.140 I have many that I can actually say.
00:23:52.140 Meet Cap.
00:23:53.140 Cap.
00:23:54.140 Cap.
00:23:55.140 Cap.
00:23:56.140 No, no, no, babe.
00:23:57.140 Real.
00:23:58.140 I can show you my texts.
00:23:59.140 I'm not talking about texts.
00:24:00.140 I'm just saying any girl.
00:24:01.140 No, it's never.
00:24:02.140 I will never cap.
00:24:03.140 It's just, listen, listen, listen, listen.
00:24:04.140 I have options.
00:24:05.140 I believe you.
00:24:06.140 And I can say.
00:24:07.140 Honey, girl, if you're, if you're single, the guys, if you're single, it's like, then
00:24:11.140 you're not, the guys you want don't want you.
00:24:13.140 I'm on the journey.
00:24:14.140 I want to be a multimillionaire.
00:24:15.140 So, no.
00:24:16.140 I can't do it.
00:24:17.140 If you're single, it's, oh, come on.
00:24:18.140 If a guy, if a guy really you thought was taking you serious and checked all your boxes,
00:24:22.140 you'd go for it.
00:24:23.140 Any woman would. 0.96
00:24:24.140 Yeah, but I'm a picky person.
00:24:25.140 Any, any, but that's, but that's my point.
00:24:27.140 I'm a picky person.
00:24:28.140 That's my, that goes back to my point though, because the men, the men that are going for you don't
00:24:32.140 live up to your standards.
00:24:33.140 So either your standards are too high or the men aren't going for you.
00:24:35.140 There's one particular person and I'm like, wow, you really did do that.
00:24:40.140 Like he really, and I'm really shocked and I'm really proud of the man he's become.
00:24:44.140 And I've known him for many years.
00:24:46.140 And you know, we could have been in a relationship say 15 years ago, but I was like, no, I've come
00:24:51.140 to London and I'm on a journey and I don't want to be distracted by these guys.
00:24:55.140 Cause guess what?
00:24:56.140 They're going to give a baby to you. 1.00
00:24:58.140 So you misjudge a character.
00:24:59.140 Are they going to be there?
00:25:00.140 No, not necessarily.
00:25:01.140 Of course you do.
00:25:02.140 I'm on a journey.
00:25:03.140 How can I be judging characters when I'm on a journey?
00:25:06.140 I have a question.
00:25:07.140 You said, do you have kids?
00:25:09.140 No, I don't.
00:25:10.140 You have kids and you said you're 39?
00:25:11.140 Yes.
00:25:12.140 Do you want kids?
00:25:13.140 With the right person.
00:25:14.140 If I don't, I have many nieces and nephews.
00:25:17.140 Okay.
00:25:18.140 I've got a big family.
00:25:19.140 But it goes back to, you haven't found the right person to have kids with.
00:25:23.140 So again, again.
00:25:24.140 I've been picky.
00:25:25.140 Right.
00:25:26.140 So there's a misconnect there.
00:25:29.140 There has been right people.
00:25:31.140 Wait, wait.
00:25:32.140 So it's either your standards are too high.
00:25:34.140 Very high.
00:25:35.140 You don't know how to pick.
00:25:37.140 And maybe you don't have a good judge of character.
00:25:39.140 Or the men that you want don't want you. 1.00
00:25:41.140 It's one of the three.
00:25:42.140 There has to be.
00:25:43.140 If you're single, there's a disconnect.
00:25:44.140 Maybe the guys who I wanted, they probably don't want me no more.
00:25:47.140 Because we're in a different category.
00:25:50.140 He's far away.
00:25:52.140 I would have to move to his location and da-da-da-da-da. 0.99
00:25:55.140 And then the ones in England, I don't know.
00:25:58.140 They're just not working for me.
00:26:00.140 But this is the thing.
00:26:01.140 They're not that homie. 1.00
00:26:02.140 You've been dating since what?
00:26:04.140 You're 18?
00:26:05.140 16?
00:26:06.140 So in 20 years, you're the only common denominator.
00:26:08.140 It can't be all the men.
00:26:09.140 It's you.
00:26:10.140 I'm glad.
00:26:11.140 It's not me though.
00:26:12.140 Because if I have some guys that are ready and waiting for me to say yes.
00:26:20.140 You know what I mean?
00:26:21.140 That's just my choice.
00:26:22.140 But it might be your life choices.
00:26:24.140 It is.
00:26:25.140 It might be.
00:26:26.140 But it goes back to you're the common denominator.
00:26:28.140 Just like my outcomes, it's my fault.
00:26:31.140 Everyone's own outcomes are their own fault.
00:26:33.140 It's choices though.
00:26:34.140 It's choices though.
00:26:35.140 I really think it's the energy that she's putting that because you're in your place where you
00:26:42.140 want to go high up in life.
00:26:43.140 You're also not giving those energy to those men.
00:26:45.140 That's what things like that mean as well.
00:26:46.140 That's what I'm listening.
00:26:47.140 First of all, I can't waste time.
00:26:48.140 Guys, I'm going to do a little business thing here.
00:26:51.140 You said you want to be a multi-millionaire and be super successful, right?
00:26:54.140 Yeah.
00:26:55.140 I'm about to make you a multi-frickin' millionaire.
00:26:57.140 You ready for this?
00:26:58.140 Go on now.
00:26:59.140 Start a cat food company and call your friends.
00:27:00.140 You will make millions.
00:27:01.140 No, I don't have friends like that.
00:27:03.140 No, I'm sorry.
00:27:04.140 You might make millions, but that's not my fault.
00:27:07.140 So you're 39.
00:27:08.140 When are you going to be a millionaire by?
00:27:10.140 Well, there's no time plan, but we're working on the journey.
00:27:14.140 We're doing everything possible to make it happen.
00:27:16.140 Do you have over half a million saved?
00:27:18.140 No, I've got some money saved though.
00:27:20.140 Okay.
00:27:21.140 But it's like when?
00:27:22.140 You've had 20 years to do it.
00:27:24.140 I mean, it's not about when.
00:27:26.140 You know what?
00:27:27.140 It is about when and it's also about who wins.
00:27:30.140 Because if I have such a high mentality, I need somebody to match that mentality with me.
00:27:36.140 And they can't bring me down.
00:27:38.140 So at the rate I'm at, I'm 26.
00:27:40.140 Okay, I'm 26.
00:27:41.140 I probably will be a millionaire in the next five years.
00:27:44.140 Go girl. 0.99
00:27:45.140 No, no, no.
00:27:46.140 It's not even like that.
00:27:47.140 No, no.
00:27:48.140 On your journey.
00:27:49.140 But I could tell you, I didn't need anyone else to help me do it.
00:27:51.140 Good.
00:27:52.140 I just did it.
00:27:53.140 And it's like, if you're 39 and you're not on the actual path to being a millionaire,
00:27:59.140 I wasn't able to get on my path until I was 26.
00:28:02.140 But my whole point, but so it's still been 15 years.
00:28:05.140 That I had to come and move from a different city.
00:28:10.140 No, let me give you the statistics.
00:28:11.140 I had to move from a different city.
00:28:13.140 Okay.
00:28:14.140 I had to start fresh again.
00:28:16.140 Okay.
00:28:17.140 Came here with nothing, with nobody.
00:28:18.140 Yeah.
00:28:19.140 Had to start from fresh.
00:28:20.140 I did that a year ago.
00:28:21.140 You did that a year ago.
00:28:22.140 A year ago.
00:28:23.140 Maybe you had a bit more supportive parents.
00:28:25.140 I don't have supportive parents.
00:28:27.140 My dad has passed away and my mom, she's a single mom.
00:28:30.140 So no, I can't look to my family for anything.
00:28:32.140 So everything is all by myself.
00:28:35.140 Which is, which is fine.
00:28:36.140 You know what I mean?
00:28:37.140 You can phone your dad and say, dad, hi, I've got a, I've got a problem.
00:28:42.140 I can't phone nobody.
00:28:43.140 You're right.
00:28:44.140 I have to work it out and figure it out for myself.
00:28:47.140 If it's going to take me 15 years.
00:28:49.140 You still have that same problem.
00:28:51.140 And that's what I'm saying.
00:28:52.140 Babe, I am changing every day.
00:28:54.140 And every day I'm getting better and better.
00:28:57.140 And that's what I do know.
00:28:58.140 To who?
00:28:59.140 For me.
00:29:00.140 It's not about pleasing anybody though.
00:29:02.140 It's not.
00:29:03.140 It's about pleasing yourself.
00:29:04.140 If you're going to be a millionaire, and this is, like, this just sounds delusional.
00:29:08.140 That is a dream.
00:29:09.140 It's a dream.
00:29:10.140 It's a dream.
00:29:11.140 And we're working towards it.
00:29:12.140 How?
00:29:13.140 I do properties.
00:29:14.140 You didn't ask me my life story.
00:29:16.140 I do properties.
00:29:17.140 I do acting.
00:29:18.140 I do music.
00:29:19.140 I'm all on intellectual property.
00:29:22.140 Intellectual property takes time.
00:29:24.140 Then your property games take time as well.
00:29:27.140 You know what I mean?
00:29:28.140 I've been working on properties since 2017.
00:29:31.140 I didn't leave school with any JCSEs and I've just finished university four weeks ago.
00:29:36.140 So I had to go through that journey of becoming intellectual for me to go on these journeys.
00:29:41.140 Do you think you're still going to have the type of energy you had in your 20s, in your 40s and 50s?
00:29:46.140 Maybe not.
00:29:47.140 But guess what?
00:29:48.140 We're going to keep on going.
00:29:49.140 But you're going to be competing with the people in their 20s and their 30s.
00:29:52.140 Like you're starting.
00:29:53.140 No competition.
00:29:54.140 There's no competition.
00:29:55.140 It is.
00:29:56.140 Because if you're not telling you.
00:29:57.140 It isn't for you, but there is a competition.
00:29:59.140 There is a competition, but I can't look on that.
00:30:01.140 I promise you that business is absolutely a competition.
00:30:04.140 Oh my gosh.
00:30:05.140 It's a big competition.
00:30:06.140 Can I just say one thing, please?
00:30:07.140 Babe, you know you're saying you're not in competition.
00:30:10.140 My daughter is going to be 18 in July.
00:30:12.140 So you really think that you're going to have the same sort of, the same energy.
00:30:16.140 That's what she's just saying.
00:30:17.140 The same energy and the same drive and the same opportunities that my 18 year daughter.
00:30:21.140 Because you're going to be in the same gym.
00:30:23.140 But would your daughter be doing the same things that I'm doing now?
00:30:27.140 Who knows?
00:30:28.140 She could be.
00:30:29.140 Probably not if she wants to be successful. 0.98
00:30:31.140 But she could be.
00:30:32.140 You know what I mean?
00:30:33.140 She could be.
00:30:34.140 But we're going to be in a whole different category.
00:30:36.140 I'm going to be in, say, the 40 to 45.
00:30:39.140 She's going to be 18 to 25. 1.00
00:30:41.140 There is a lot of things a 40 and a 45 year old can do.
00:30:44.140 This is my point though for you.
00:30:46.140 It's like you're 39.
00:30:47.140 It doesn't sound like it doesn't.
00:30:49.140 No, no.
00:30:50.140 I'm just being honest.
00:30:52.140 It doesn't sound like.
00:30:53.140 I'm an older woman.
00:30:54.140 It doesn't sound like you're on track to be a millionaire.
00:30:55.140 It doesn't.
00:30:56.140 This doesn't sound.
00:30:57.140 Maybe.
00:30:58.140 You could have said that to Henry Ford.
00:30:59.140 Okay.
00:31:00.140 Okay.
00:31:01.140 You could have said that to Henry Ford.
00:31:02.140 It doesn't.
00:31:03.140 Based on the way.
00:31:04.140 But you could though.
00:31:05.140 Based on your.
00:31:06.140 What you're saying.
00:31:07.140 It doesn't sound like you're on track.
00:31:08.140 You might be.
00:31:09.140 I don't believe in statistics.
00:31:10.140 Okay.
00:31:11.140 Okay.
00:31:12.140 Yeah, I don't.
00:31:13.140 Of course not.
00:31:14.140 But business.
00:31:15.140 Okay.
00:31:16.140 I'll give you something.
00:31:17.140 Business people usually believe in statistics.
00:31:19.140 I understand that.
00:31:20.140 You're going to look at your market.
00:31:21.140 You're going to look at the people you're selling.
00:31:22.140 You believe in statistics.
00:31:23.140 But then.
00:31:24.140 If you want to be a millionaire.
00:31:25.140 You probably should believe in statistics.
00:31:27.140 If you're a kind of evolving person.
00:31:29.140 So now.
00:31:30.140 Now you're at the point.
00:31:31.140 It's like.
00:31:32.140 You want a family with the right guy.
00:31:33.140 And I can tell you do.
00:31:34.140 But it's like.
00:31:35.140 You're curving the guy.
00:31:36.140 That you said.
00:31:37.140 Would be a good relationship for you.
00:31:38.140 For 15 years.
00:31:39.140 But attraction is everything.
00:31:40.140 No.
00:31:41.140 It's not.
00:31:42.140 It is.
00:31:43.140 It is when you're younger.
00:31:44.140 But when you're older.
00:31:45.140 It's like.
00:31:46.140 You got to pick your poison.
00:31:47.140 You know.
00:31:48.140 I'll be single then.
00:31:49.140 I'm happy.
00:31:50.140 Do you know what.
00:31:51.140 Do you have money.
00:31:52.140 That you could be saved for retirement.
00:31:54.140 Like.
00:31:55.140 What do we need.
00:31:56.140 1.5 million to retire.
00:31:57.140 We're all working on it.
00:31:58.140 We're all working on it.
00:31:59.140 Because I wasn't around the people that was.
00:32:01.140 Going for those goals.
00:32:03.140 I had to take myself out of my environment.
00:32:06.140 But this is.
00:32:07.140 You can't.
00:32:08.140 You can't blame your.
00:32:09.140 You can't.
00:32:10.140 The generational curse environment. 0.94
00:32:11.140 You can't.
00:32:12.140 My dad grew up.
00:32:13.140 It's excuses.
00:32:14.140 My dad grew up on the south side of Chicago.
00:32:15.140 With 13 kids.
00:32:16.140 He didn't grow up in a good environment.
00:32:18.140 None of his siblings are successful.
00:32:19.140 It's either you're going to be successful.
00:32:21.140 Or you're not.
00:32:22.140 And most of the time.
00:32:23.140 People that are going to be millionaires.
00:32:24.140 Are on the way.
00:32:25.140 By the time they're your age.
00:32:26.140 Because.
00:32:27.140 You'd have to compete with the people.
00:32:28.140 That are in their 20s.
00:32:29.140 And 30s.
00:32:30.140 And have way more energy.
00:32:31.140 Than you're going to.
00:32:32.140 That does not matter.
00:32:33.140 Because everybody's going to be evolving.
00:32:34.140 It does matter.
00:32:35.140 Differently.
00:32:36.140 Can I.
00:32:37.140 This is like.
00:32:38.140 The reason.
00:32:39.140 I think some of us.
00:32:40.140 Are a little bit taken back.
00:32:41.140 Is like.
00:32:42.140 You're obviously intelligent.
00:32:43.140 No.
00:32:44.140 I'm just happy with my life.
00:32:45.140 Can I add something.
00:32:47.140 I really feel like.
00:32:49.140 With the cost of living.
00:32:50.140 A million pound is nothing as well.
00:32:52.140 And that's the sad part.
00:32:53.140 Like.
00:32:54.140 We're all gonna struggle.
00:32:55.140 Right.
00:32:56.140 Okay.
00:32:58.140 Sorry.
00:32:59.140 Go ahead.
00:33:00.140 Go ahead.
00:33:01.140 So.
00:33:02.140 Sorry.
00:33:03.140 I forgot.
00:33:04.140 Your name.
00:33:05.140 Abby.
00:33:06.140 Abby.
00:33:07.140 Abby.
00:33:08.140 Abby.
00:33:09.140 Abby.
00:33:10.140 Abby.
00:33:11.140 Abby, I apologize for that.
00:33:12.140 If you're smart, your verbal intelligence is fairly high, like you think fast, you talk fast.
00:33:18.140 There's a lot of opportunity, a lot of potential.
00:33:21.140 You recognize your own potential, you know that.
00:33:23.140 Yeah, so that's why I'm not evolved by competition or anything.
00:33:26.140 Because once you're in a ton of vision, you're happy.
00:33:29.140 The delusion, like you don't have to sell us anymore on that, we already know.
00:33:33.140 But you're smart, you're well-spoken, you're beautiful.
00:33:37.140 Thank you.
00:33:38.140 The potential is incredible.
00:33:40.140 The potential is incredible.
00:33:41.140 But I had this situation, this situation, this situation, this situation.
00:33:46.140 Now Pearl's dad, one of 13, certainly didn't grow up very privileged, right?
00:33:50.140 So you guys meet, like real simple, like I grew up as a Jew in the Soviet Union, which was not a happy place for Jews.
00:33:56.140 We immigrated to Canada in 92, which we're eating at the food bank.
00:34:00.140 And then here's what happened to me, I'll tell you guys a quick story, and I hope it's interesting, right?
00:34:05.140 I was rollerblading, like a complete loser rollerblading, like four or five kilometers to go from my parked car on the highway to my university because I couldn't afford the 75 cents a day they were charging for parking at my university because I was paying my own school.
00:34:20.140 So I was rollerblading, I would park on the highway and I would rollerblade like a good hour to get to my university campus.
00:34:27.140 And somebody saw me do that.
00:34:28.140 And they go, wow, you're so motivated.
00:34:30.140 You know, I can see you like you want to stay in shape, blah, blah, blah.
00:34:33.140 And I'm too embarrassed to tell this person I'm just freaking poor.
00:34:36.140 Like I can't afford the 75 cents, you know, you're motivated, but but but here's the thing.
00:34:42.140 I was lucky because I met a mentor, somebody that said, hey, you know, you want to do better than this?
00:34:47.140 I was like, yeah. And that's a dangerous thing. I was like 19 or 20.
00:34:50.140 It's a dangerous thing. And this person said to me, hey, I work on this company.
00:34:52.140 And this person was doing a selling encyclopedias door to door.
00:34:55.140 And they said, you can go do this. And that's that's what I did for six years, how I paid for university.
00:35:00.140 And I got like two degrees by selling encyclopedias door to door for six years.
00:35:05.140 Luckily, fortunately for me, I met a mentor that saw my potential, saw my energy.
00:35:11.140 And I was delusional because whatever I was doing, I couldn't afford 75 cents for parking.
00:35:15.140 So I knew that I was delusional because what I wanted was not what I had in my life.
00:35:19.140 Fair enough. I'm going to give a plug. So that's what we do at our company.
00:35:23.140 Fifty three percent of our salespeople make six figures within 18 months.
00:35:27.140 Fifty three percent. The reason I plug us here is lgv.com.
00:35:32.140 Really simple. What you need is like to be around somebody that's actually done what you want to do and not make up stories of how it works.
00:35:39.140 Like there are people that have done what you want to do.
00:35:41.140 Find those people and they will be so happy, happy to mentor you because that's what we do in our company, isn't it?
00:35:47.140 But what makes you think I'm not in those group of people? What makes you think I am not evolving around those people?
00:35:53.140 Results. The answer is results.
00:35:54.140 But my journey actually started properly at 26 years old when I moved to London.
00:35:59.140 That's 13 years ago. That's 13 years ago.
00:36:01.140 But I still had to educate myself. I came here with a hundred and eight pounds in my pocket.
00:36:05.140 Tell me how I'm going to sort myself out, get my house accrued.
00:36:09.140 I kind of understand her. I understand her.
00:36:12.140 I'm going to let him go. I don't think he's talked yet.
00:36:14.140 To your point, you were talking about how you came here with a hundred pounds.
00:36:19.140 I immigrated from Bulgaria with my parents and we lived in a single room.
00:36:26.140 It was just a single room, the three of us.
00:36:28.140 And right now I'm 21 and just like you, I wanted to do better for myself because I was an electrician.
00:36:35.140 And I wasn't happy with how things were going.
00:36:38.140 And I joined and all of a sudden I'm meeting high net worth individuals on a daily basis.
00:36:45.140 And I'm improving myself.
00:36:47.140 And you're here saying I had to take myself from the toxic situations that I had in my life.
00:36:54.140 But everyone deals with them. So that's really an excuse that you tell yourself.
00:36:58.140 That's true. But can I say something?
00:37:00.140 For you can look like an excuse. Yeah.
00:37:03.140 But what she's trying to say here, you had still your parents on your back.
00:37:06.140 You came with your parents on a single room, but you were with your parents.
00:37:10.140 You were not by yourself. You were not providing food by yourself.
00:37:14.140 You were not paying your bills by yourself. You were not looking around.
00:37:18.140 I was. I was. Yeah. Okay.
00:37:21.140 So I understand her. I understand her because I get it. She, I don't know your past, but before moving to London, maybe you didn't, maybe you were just, I don't know.
00:37:36.140 You're going through life. The difficulties of learning.
00:37:38.140 I was a recruitment consultant.
00:37:39.140 Well, I don't know, but you came London and the thing is, I get it because some people, they don't see as, let's just go for it.
00:37:46.140 Some people want to better themselves and educate themselves. And so that they know how to intellectually grow.
00:37:53.140 But I just think the people, the people that are successful don't educate themselves. They just do.
00:37:58.140 Exactly.
00:37:59.140 They don't, they don't spend time thinking.
00:38:01.140 Some people.
00:38:02.140 Some people.
00:38:03.140 Some people.
00:38:04.140 Some people don't even know that though.
00:38:05.140 Some people don't even know that.
00:38:06.140 Yes.
00:38:07.140 You know what I'm trying to say?
00:38:08.140 But how am I 21 and I already know this?
00:38:10.140 But not everyone is the same around the people.
00:38:12.140 Because you had the right way.
00:38:13.140 Because you had the right education bro.
00:38:14.140 Yeah.
00:38:15.140 I don't, I don't have education though.
00:38:17.140 No, I'm saying you had the right people around you.
00:38:19.140 To educate you.
00:38:20.140 You know what I'm trying to say?
00:38:21.140 No, everyone is the same.
00:38:22.140 But you, but you, but you choose.
00:38:24.140 But okay, at 18 that's an excuse.
00:38:26.140 But at 40 you pick who you surround yourself with.
00:38:29.140 I'll give you an example.
00:38:30.140 One time I decided I wanted more rich friends.
00:38:33.140 I literally was just like, my friends are too broke.
00:38:35.140 I'm a bunch of brokies.
00:38:36.140 Me too.
00:38:37.140 And so, you know, I lived, I lived in Milwaukee at the time.
00:38:40.140 And I worked, I worked a sales job.
00:38:42.140 So I was like, you know what?
00:38:43.140 I want to just see if I can call some of these numbers and see if any of these executives,
00:38:47.140 because I definitely, I was trying to sell copy or cinema one to meet with me.
00:38:50.140 But I was like, I want to see if they'll get coffee with me.
00:38:52.140 And just like, and see if they can mentor me, ask them about their success.
00:38:56.140 I got three C-level executives of multi-million dollar companies to literally sit down,
00:39:01.140 spend 30 minutes with me just by asking.
00:39:03.140 And then another time, another time, another time, this is for a YouTube video, right?
00:39:09.140 I was just bored one day.
00:39:10.140 And, you know, people will always say it's because I'm a girl or because of this or because
00:39:14.140 of that, whatever.
00:39:15.140 But like, honestly, I feel like I could do this with anyone.
00:39:18.140 I did this for a YouTube video.
00:39:20.140 I didn't have a job because I quit my job to be a TikToker. 1.00
00:39:23.140 I know.
00:39:24.140 And yeah, I quit.
00:39:25.140 I was working in sales and I was doing quite well, but I just quit it to do, to do TikTok.
00:39:29.140 And I moved home with my parents.
00:39:30.140 And I was like, maybe I'll see if I could find a job in a day.
00:39:33.140 So I went to this rich neighborhood and it's by Chicago.
00:39:36.140 It's like we're all the rich.
00:39:37.140 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:39:43.140 on this platform.
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