JustPearlyThings - She Gets SCHOOLED for Being A Masculine Lady

00:00:00.000 the topic today is men finding love overseas and yeah we just watched a

00:00:06.120 video which got taken down but we're gonna talk about it it was a video from

00:00:09.960 Good Morning Britain with Piers Morgan and they were talking about finding love

00:00:16.080 overseas there was a guy speaking about him finding Russian ladies specifically

00:00:21.120 and how we found them more attractive and the question I'm going to ask is are

00:00:26.640 women from foreign countries better wives than the ones we currently have 1.00

00:00:33.360 let's not let's not limit it to Great Britain in the West in general are women 1.00

00:00:39.780 better wives let's go for a guy Banksy what do you say well I've been

00:00:45.780 recommending this for a long time that men in the West due to myriad of reasons

00:00:51.260 should start looking elsewhere I spoke to a gentleman in Australia about four years

00:00:55.740 ago in regards to him he was a pilot he had all his house everything paid fully

00:01:01.980 like stacked the man was rich handsome and generally you know in that top what what

00:01:08.400 you guys call the ten ten twenty percent and he categorically told me that when

00:01:13.560 he is ready to get married he is going to get married to a lady or a wife where

00:01:19.260 he's going to find them either in Vietnam Cambodia Philippines and a country like

00:01:23.820 that he's in Australia himself very wealthy in Australia but he will not bring

00:01:28.500 his wife to Australia he will marry her and he will stay with her and build a life 1.00

00:01:34.200 in that country because he knows that if he brings her to Australia ultimately the

00:01:39.360 feminist in Australia will corrupt her and thus she'll be looking for for for the 1.00

00:01:44.280 exit door within a few years possibly a visa situation so in order to

00:01:49.140 counteract any of that he will marry in his 50s but he will keep her in that

00:01:54.120 country where the laws are much more favorable in divorce courts to the men 0.99

00:01:58.140 Wow ladies so do you feel that like he's marrying her do you think she's gonna 1.00

00:02:09.180 actually be marrying him because she loves him and desires him or that she just

00:02:13.980 truly wants to get out of the country or the poverty that she may be living in to 0.58

00:02:17.940 get to Australia to wherever you were saying that she what like he's from he's

00:02:22.700 really wealthy so he's then gonna but keep her in a little box in the country

00:02:28.500 that she's trying to maybe get away from just so that in order so he can control

00:02:32.280 that situation no to me do British women marry more for love you think I mean I 0.95

00:02:39.900 feel that women automatically marry from a place of feeling rather than logic most 0.98

00:02:44.700 obviously there's the difference between logic and emotion and around women that are more 1.00

00:02:49.320 pragmatic but I think generally women do go I think I think women marry out of opportunity 1.00

00:02:56.520 although so my question is if so they why is the average marriage seven to eight years and

00:03:02.220 why is the number one reason they leave financial if women in the West marry because 1.00

00:03:05.580 well because men are meant to be the provider if we're going back to what 0.99

00:03:08.580 everyone says we're meant to be virgins

00:03:10.980 it's true it's true but at the same time if we're talking about the polarities of the

00:03:18.720 masculine and the feminine energy if you want your wife or your partner to be in her feminine

00:03:24.000 energy I want to say provider she could still be working she could still be doing her thing 1.00

00:03:27.700 but in his energy being the provider so looking after what's the female energy supposed to be 0.99

00:03:33.240 in her feminine obviously that doesn't mean virginity but I mean it does it means purity

00:03:39.360 that's what mess if you look at the polarities of feminine and masculine energy even within every 0.98

00:03:44.700 single person in this room there is feminine and masculine energy that doesn't say purity 0.85

00:03:49.480 you're not any less feminine because you're not a virgin are you a virgin people wouldn't say

00:03:53.940 no I would say I would say I am less feminine than I was like I was more feminine when I was a virgin

00:04:01.320 yeah I definitely wasn't because every every heartbreak makes you a little bit more bitter

00:04:05.520 oh I don't know and then I think just I think honest every every heartbreak comes with some 0.97

00:04:10.620 trauma the more penises you have inside you the more masculine you come yes I would say I would 1.00

00:04:17.280 say when I when I was a virgin like I was like 100% but it doesn't negate from the fact that you 0.99

00:04:23.280 are still able if you do the work to step into your feminine energy if you're with the counterpart that

00:04:28.980 is in his masculine energy I just think women are either feminine or they're not to me and to me 0.96

00:04:33.540 like you can learn to fake it but like you'd be like but you can always smell it like no if you do

00:04:38.160 though if you do the true work on allowing yourself when I had my son that forced me into my feminine

00:04:43.860 energy what what is like the because no offense I I just hear this like do the work but then like

00:04:49.080 there's no work there is when you go to when you do you work out why you're in your masculine

00:04:54.900 energy because there is always a why to your so so say I'm too masculine and then so like I find

00:05:01.260 out it's x reason then what what do I do what's the work well therapy okay deep trauma work shadow

00:05:07.500 work there's so many different things sound bath healing reiki healing there's so many different

00:05:11.640 types of work that you can do therapy to maybe get over your father wound which are your mother wound

00:05:16.980 which is usually where this I need to be in my masculine energy in order to prove something or even

00:05:22.920 society okay so those phrases yeah but those are like real things I think sometimes women can be 1.00

00:05:30.660 quite masculine because they have not met a man that has allowed them to to be in their feminine

00:05:36.900 energy so sometimes they feel like you know they're not with the right man that is allowing them to take

00:05:42.960 a step back and be in that feminine energy and to like lead them so do you think that femininity is 1.00

00:05:51.000 conditional then conditional like do you think that it depends on the condition just like 0.96

00:05:55.980 masculinity that you know it's not because I've seen many bitches out as a man if I said I'll be 1.00

00:06:02.700 masculine for the right woman no no no no you're gonna look at me and say what what would you mean 0.98

00:06:09.120 I'll be masculine for the right woman but you say you'll be feminine for the right man and you think

00:06:13.500 that makes sense because he's meant to be the leader is a leader you're meant to lead so if you're if

00:06:18.600 you're you're meant to be in your if I'm meant to be my masculine I think we have meant to be in your

00:06:22.740 feminine yeah but I think we have masculine and feminine energy and I think if you're a woman and 1.00

00:06:29.580 you're with a man that doesn't allow you to step into your femininity because he's not masculine enough

00:06:35.280 then your masculine side kind of comes out and compensates for that

00:06:38.920 I disagree I just think that's an excuse that women want to use as an excuse to be masculine 1.00

00:06:45.920 I just think that's an excuse like like the most picture-perfect feminine women I know it doesn't 1.00

00:06:50.840 matter who they're with they're feminine regardless I just think you're either feminine or you're not 0.99

00:06:54.520 feminine for stars I agree with what she just what Pearl just said but do you think it works both ways

00:07:01.940 so basically if you're a slightly masculine female because you're not with the right guy that can bring 0.77

00:07:08.720 out your femininity do you think a man will get away with saying he's a slightly feminine man 0.99

00:07:14.540 because he's not with the right woman yeah maybe a man can be with a woman that's maybe a little bit 1.00

00:07:19.640 too masculine for him and then it doesn't allow him that confidence to step into his masculinity

00:07:26.180 do you know what I mean so it's all about balance and finding the right person

00:07:29.200 the question is would go ahead go ahead would you give a guy who's very much in his feminine energy a chance 1.00

00:07:35.540 nope probably not because I just feel like I want a man to lead

00:07:40.780 yeah and I am in

00:07:42.420 alright so that's a bit of a contradiction

00:07:44.000 yeah because I'm sure that uh you know females in their masculine energy would like a man to give them a chance 1.00

00:07:49.940 I mean just imagine this imagine if a guy just started like being like hey girls

00:07:55.160 hey girls 1.00

00:07:55.880 yeah and because he's like I'm with some masculine females hello

00:08:00.080 that's crazy

00:08:01.100 like that would sound nuts to you

00:08:02.980 crazy 0.99

00:08:03.340 but we can like no fat spew this is like nonsense to me 1.00

00:08:06.980 I just think you're either a feminine woman or you're not a feminine woman 1.00

00:08:09.940 but I think sometimes

00:08:11.120 the thing is um sorry there's a this is something where most people who've done any kind of training martial arts

00:08:16.340 anything else they say you are your habits you are what you train if you train full contact you punch full contact if you train semi-contact you throw semi-contact you are your habits

00:08:26.720 it is incredibly difficult to live your life for most of it or for decades as a

00:08:31.640 masculine woman and then suddenly turn on the feminine 1.00

00:08:35.000 but you can train you can train you can train it but the thing is by the time you meet that guy

00:08:41.240 do you not can you not have no but who trains you does a man train you or do you train yourself

00:08:45.320 well it depends if you some relationships can bring out that side of you to do that deep work because a lot of the time when you get into a relationship the reflections and the trauma that is brought up where then it forces you into that space of like you know what actually maybe I am not doing something in this relationship that's not allowing this man to do what he's meant to be doing and so then it forces you to look to get that mirror and be like you know what I need to do the work on me

00:09:08.720 outside of therapy what else

00:09:11.000 because I just imagine like if you're going to change your whole temperament like there's a lot that's in it

00:09:16.360 so I mean I'm sure it takes well no it does take many years therapy is that probably

00:09:20.560 so not outside of outside the therapy um

00:09:24.000 a lot of stuff I can't say

00:09:26.840 I wouldn't like to

00:09:28.700 but do you think like this is the thing about like women that say this kind of stuff 1.00

00:09:32.080 men here we don't want masculine women 1.00

00:09:35.420 no we don't want to be masculine either

00:09:37.440 but what I'm trying to say what I'm trying to say is like you said oh we've got to train ourselves to be feminine right

00:09:42.980 reprogram or reprogram yourself or rejig yourself whatever it is get yourself download a new program

00:09:48.960 well it's like going to the gym

00:09:49.940 but men generally don't they ain't got time for it 0.82

00:09:53.180 like if it's for instance if if if we take you on a date

00:09:56.520 for instance right and we see that you're more masculine than you are feminine 0.61

00:10:01.620 we're already calculating like this is going to be a problem

00:10:04.620 it's going to be a problem and I haven't got time because I don't know you

00:10:08.540 like that

00:10:09.740 we haven't got time to be trying to program you

00:10:12.560 and you're trying to train you into being more

00:10:15.560 feminine

00:10:16.740 like we want if we go on a date with you

00:10:18.640 we want a woman that we can see 1.00

00:10:20.620 she's kind of feminine I kind of like this

00:10:22.780 do you know what I mean and then we'll pursue it

00:10:24.340 but masculine women we don't want to train you 1.00

00:10:26.420 because if we say the word because you use the word train

00:10:28.560 I didn't

00:10:29.240 yeah but you said that you asked me a question whether a man can do can help you in that

00:10:34.880 and so I I didn't say because a lot of the work the deep work that I've done I've done on my own

00:10:39.460 not fro like yes relationships have presented these mirrors for me to have which every relationship presents mirrors

00:10:45.780 it could be a relationship with your mum your friends can present these spaces of where you're like

00:10:51.420 okay I've got to work on myself in this and understand sometimes you don't need to say this

00:10:56.460 or you don't need to say that or you can take a step back and understand that yes this man can lead me

00:11:00.760 so I'm not saying that it's a man's role or job to do that

00:11:04.760 that's a twist of words

00:11:06.180 do you think you need a man to co-sign it though

00:11:08.300 so like if you know you did this not just you but anyone that does like the deep work the femininity training 0.93

00:11:15.160 like would you say that there has to be a man that co-signs it because like women lie to each other 1.00

00:11:19.500 well I think that when you get into a relationship you'll then when if you take time out maybe after a relationship

00:11:25.140 and then I think a relationship will let you know how successful your deep work has been

00:11:29.740 because you're not going to know how successful you're going to be in a relationship 0.74

00:11:32.740 so you're in a relationship right so the thing is I wouldn't say a man because you could be a lesbian 0.99

00:11:37.180 this is like beyond cap um

00:11:40.060 it's like the amount of cap here is I or cope I don't know

00:11:44.340 are you married um I was engaged for a long time

00:11:47.380 but the thing is that's that the what I see here is like the women saying oh when I meet the right guy 0.53

00:11:53.560 I'll then turn it turn on the femininity whilst actually in the realities they don't actually even turn on the femininity

00:11:59.380 They just go you just can't handle a strong woman 1.00

00:12:01.720 Yeah

00:12:02.120 and then you as a man are berated and ridiculed because you can't handle this

00:12:07.900 incredibly masculine energy of this woman that's coming at you all day long because you don't want that you want feminine submissive 0.99

00:12:14.540 beautiful women and so that's I think part of the reason why men in the west are actually going abroad

00:12:20.720 whether it be Dominican Republic, Brazil, certain parts of Africa, Eastern Europe, Thailand, Philippines

00:12:29.540 that's why they're going there to kind of find wives because what what a lot of them are saying and I've heard it a lot from men

00:12:36.720 that Western women are too much work so I'm too much work sorry so I'm interested to know like what do we feel is

00:12:45.600 femininity and what a feminine traits and what 1.00

00:12:49.200 considered too masculine

00:12:51.480 for a female to to kind of be I think from one of the traits the femininity community is so interesting to me 0.95

00:12:57.660 I was going on a rant on Twitter about this because they're just so they're so broad they just say like a lot of nothing in different ways

00:13:04.160 when I when I think of femininity I think of like nurturing I think of like typical like motherly traits

00:13:11.540 however, I found that there's no real way to like measure it or show anything or show any work or really

00:13:19.100 so I don't know it's so broad that's why it really confuses me as that that community

00:13:23.480 I'm interested because I think sometimes I can be seen as being in my masculine energy because

00:13:29.880 why why would you say that for a while I was a single mother and I was doing everything by myself and I was very much used to

00:13:36.540 Okay, this is down to me. I'm going to do this by myself. Everyone's relying on me. I can get on with it

00:13:42.440 You're not a single mother anymore. No. Okay. You're married now 0.75

00:13:45.780 I'm not married, but I have a partner. Yeah, so I was very kind of used to doing everything on my own

00:13:51.880 That's me. I've got this kind of thing and some some people some men would consider that too masculine

00:13:58.800 So I'm just interested

00:14:00.800 I looked at God is it okay? Yeah, I looked it up

00:14:03.920 I was just I saw this chart when I was going on my rant on Twitter that I tweeted

00:14:09.600 Feminine I'm not aggressive dependent easily influenced I'm submissive passive home-oriented easily hurt emotionally

00:14:16.400 Indecisive talkative gentle sensitive to others feelings very desirous of security cries a lot emotional verbal kind

00:14:25.040 nurturing tactful another chart says intuitive generous

00:14:29.000 Nurturing creative collaborative caring receptive grateful, which I agree with those. I agree with those statements, but like

00:14:37.200 When you said that for me when I had my son

00:14:41.660 was when

00:14:43.660 my

00:14:44.920 Level of femininity had to come out automatically just because you just said that when you had your children your masculinity came out 0.68

00:14:55.420 Because I felt like I had to be I was a single mom before that, but I had a girl

00:15:00.180 So my first my first child was a girl, but when I had my son

00:15:03.820 Mm-hmm art like my son is very very affectionate very very he he just

00:15:09.720 Brought out that side of me that needed to nurture him in a way and also I didn't want him to

00:15:18.200 Grow up thinking that men women have in their masculine angry

00:15:21.480 Like I wanted him to see the calmness and the stillness and for him to be able to communicate with me openly

00:15:28.600 Because it's not taught to young men that you can communicate you could like if he's upset

00:15:33.320 I don't go in shouting at him. I don't shout. I don't raise my I'd like I very much bring the femininity to my son all the time

00:15:40.240 I have a question

00:15:42.240 All right, so you're not in a relationship

00:15:58.240 There's a guy you like yeah, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, and then you're in a relationship

00:16:03.480 No, you're not you're in a relationship. Would you guys

00:16:06.680 Um if you guys were to marry the person you're talking to or talking to in a relationship with

00:16:12.820 Would you quit your job if you told you to?

00:16:15.460 No questions asked if if I'm married here if I've married him if I

00:16:20.440 If I've married if I've married him it means I trust him

00:16:24.480 To lead and I would trust his decision in that and I would trust that it's for the best interest of our family

00:16:30.820 Okay, yeah, you would yeah, so if he said to me, I'm sorry

00:16:34.000 I'm sorry, so if he said to me, you know, I think you should

00:16:39.740 Work and I'd be like yeah again

00:16:41.820 I trust him in that and I'm ready for that because I feel like

00:16:46.280 He's allowed me to step into that feminine energy and I don't I no longer have to be like right 0.99

00:16:52.060 I need to be on it. I need to do this. I need to do that

00:16:54.060 I'm on my I'm on my own. I'm not on my own anymore

00:16:56.240 I can trust him lean into him and yeah, so I would I'd love that actually

00:17:01.980 I would really love that

00:17:03.980 I think I would be like I'm really ready to settle down now

00:17:07.420 Like I would think about kids. So I think yeah, like if he is in control and if he's leading this

00:17:14.940 Whole marriage then I would say yeah

00:17:17.620 What if what if what if the pen is we're not we're not the window

00:17:23.360 What if he made 40,000 a year

00:17:25.360 I

00:17:27.360 Mean

00:17:29.360 No

00:17:31.360 I'm just curious

00:17:33.360 He still would in the father

00:17:35.360 But there would be lots of

00:17:37.360 No, no, no, no, no objections. This is you're trusting him. I have some questions. No, no

00:17:41.560 Okay, that's a mission. We already know that he's gonna lead the family. So yeah, I was like 40,000. Yes

00:17:50.240 Okay

00:17:52.240 No, you said no, you said but I would yeah say you know like because no, no's your answer

00:17:57.240 I wouldn't yeah, yeah, no's your answer. That's fine. Yeah, so

00:18:01.040 She's I feel like that's kind of a no

00:18:03.680 No, no, but then yes, no

00:18:06.380 Yeah, because I feel like he must have worked something out

00:18:11.560 And I'm a trust and believe I think the difference between Western women and women from abroad like taking it back to the subject is

00:18:22.380 that the women from abroad

00:18:25.120 Would probably be more submissive and not question as much and I think I don't know I will ask the guys here, right?

00:18:32.380 Do you think that the women?

00:18:35.060 From the West or women abroad would make better wives for you guys 1.00

00:18:38.640 Do you know what? For starters, I haven't had problems getting submissive women in the UK 1.00

00:18:47.140 but

00:18:48.140 I think I'd say 50% of the

00:18:51.780 people I've been in long-term relationships with have been

00:18:55.260 Even if they live in the UK, they've had their formative years in another country, right and 1.00

00:19:02.260 Very I'm not gonna say submissive. I'm gonna say very feminine like I've heard people say, you know

00:19:07.640 We both have masculine and feminine energy in us, but

00:19:11.320 All the women have been with I can't even imagine them being supremely masculine at all

00:19:16.520 Like they're so feminine that even when they're trying to do masculine type things it just comes off feminine and that's feminine 0.96

00:19:22.520 Do you mind me asking like what countries they were from respectively?

00:19:26.400 The one I'm really thinking about now

00:19:28.520 She was based she was brought up in South Africa

00:19:31.140 Okay, and another one. I'm thinking of she was like heart. She was written her mom's Filipino. So right, you know

00:19:38.180 And a Filipino that wasn't born here. Yeah, right. So she's got that influence 0.99

00:19:42.160 Yeah, I think I think ultimately women in the West are brought up to be more independent 1.00

00:19:47.580 Whereas women in different cultures may be brought to be independent, but ultimately are brought up to serve the man 1.00

00:19:52.720 So mmm based on that they're wired differently and they have different

00:19:56.600 Goals into or they have to play different roles in comparison to women in the West when it comes to marriages and relationships 0.99

00:20:02.940 so it's just

00:20:04.680 Yeah, that's just what it is basically. Yeah, and also I just want to piggyback off that and say

00:20:09.040 I

00:20:11.040 Think a lot women in the West they look at it as it's almost like a job that they're they kind of have to do to look after a man 1.00

00:20:18.180 Whereas other women raised in other parts of the world 0.97

00:20:21.940 They look at it like they want to do this

00:20:24.180 Yeah, and I find whenever I've been with a woman long term or just even dated them short term

00:20:29.560 They all seem to want to do feminine things for me. Like you know, they wouldn't do my hair 1.00

00:20:34.860 They want to cook for me. I've never had to ask a woman to cook for me. I mean, it might be something about my energy as well

00:20:40.360 I don't know, but I think that factors into it as well. Yeah

00:20:42.960 Yeah, well that that brings me to another point, you know

00:20:47.020 The guy on the clip that we can't show yeah, you know, he said he did well over here

00:20:52.520 but

00:20:54.520 It's just that he russian went to russia because there's more there's just more of what he wants and I really don't see a problem with that

00:21:00.220 By the way, you know, if you think that you're gonna have more options more of what you like in a certain country

00:21:06.040 Why why wouldn't you go but from what I've seen is that there's a lot of women? 1.00

00:21:10.840 Because they called the passport bros shout out to the passport bros 0.85

00:21:15.960 Shout out to the passport bros 0.98

00:21:18.440 There's a lot of women in the West now 1.00

00:21:21.500 Trying to shame

00:21:22.900 Passport bros men who actually go 0.65

00:21:24.840 I know yeah, yeah, and they look like bullies going up

00:21:28.520 I think it's a delivery

00:21:29.720 I don't necessarily think you can have a choice and a preference of whatever you want

00:21:33.880 I think it's a delivery of shaming another type of woman just because you like something else 0.72

00:21:38.840 It's like the oh, I like this because this part that you don't you your preference if that's your preference

00:21:44.600 You like women from Russia then say that and say I what I want to go here 1.00

00:21:49.080 But you don't have to like give the reason is because of just say you like that

00:21:53.320 So yeah, I think but I think the stuff he said was true was true 0.99

00:21:56.920 Yeah, and like we we are more overweight, you know UK they always talk shit about the u.s. But y'all ain't here 0.96

00:22:10.040 Your obesity stats are better, but not much

00:22:12.440 And I wouldn't follow America. We're like little puppies after America 0.51

00:22:16.120 And that's the thing like when we are less submissive in the west the women of the women 1.00

00:22:20.760 Outside of here were raised more to be wives 1.00

00:22:23.720 Like instead of instead of shaming men for like saying what's true

00:22:26.920 I think we should say, you know, maybe we should try to learn from them. What exactly

00:22:31.320 Shout out to pearls white school. I'm gonna be on it 0.99

00:22:38.840 The thing is is I was engaged to get married, but it's like do I stay in that relationship where he's gonna

00:22:44.920 Continuously cheat on me just so that I can be a why don't you don't get points for almost

00:22:50.040 I didn't ask for pine. No, I'm just saying I ask I've been engaged to you, but I never got my point

00:22:54.440 Is is that do I like for me to get across that line of like yay? I can be married

00:22:59.560 Do I then have to be that submissive that I then put up with being?

00:23:05.480 What sort of I was yeah, what are you but you're not a virgin you weren't a virgin for him, right?

00:23:11.080 You had children we've got children. Yeah, were you no, I'm saying were you a virgin?

00:23:14.840 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no

00:23:16.040 And that's what I'm saying like in a way we cheat on our husbands by not saving purity for them

00:23:20.680 And we're gonna shame them for cheating. No, I would cheat on us too

00:23:28.200 Would you stay in a marriage if he cheated on you you got kids 1.00

00:23:32.760 No, that'd be free. Yeah, I oh, yeah, if you got kids

00:23:36.360 You got kids it's not about you anymore

00:23:38.920 It's also then teaching your son that it's okay to be

00:23:43.000 in that way

00:23:45.000 Why would your son know about that? Why would he be exposed to that?

00:23:48.760 He's a blueprint so automatically

00:23:51.640 His dad is constantly cheating. I'm not gonna be happy

00:23:53.640 Yeah, but are you gonna tell your son that his dad cheated?

00:23:56.360 No, I haven't told him but at the same time, I'm not gonna be happy

00:24:00.360 Yeah, it just looks like mommy's not happy

00:24:02.120 It doesn't look like my daddy's cheating

00:24:04.120 Why should the child see that he's happy?

00:24:06.360 Don't you think you're in control of your happiness?

00:24:09.960 You don't think it's a choice?

00:24:10.360 Yeah, my choice is to not stay in that relationship that's gonna continuously cheat on me

00:24:15.240 So I'll be happy my son has brilliant

00:24:17.240 Right, but that's that's what I'm saying

00:24:18.600 So like you're putting your happiness over what's best for the kids

00:24:21.640 And that's like a while a lot of time

00:24:23.640 And that's that's why a lot of times like men are leaving for the west because it's like women here 1.00

00:24:27.960 Like think it's about us when it's not about us. It's about the family first

00:24:31.800 And and I know like and the other thing is one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the last year under 30

00:24:37.400 Like there are men that you could pick that would be faithful to you

00:24:40.440 But if you if you go for a guy that's attractive to you, he's gonna be attractive to other women

00:24:44.360 That's what I was gonna. I was gonna ask you was he a top 20% man?

00:24:48.760 We were both in the military. I was like 18 when I'm yeah, but was he good looking?

00:24:51.880 Okay, so I'm saying if you look if you looked at your man, you looked at your man

00:24:56.280 Was he the type of man that other women wanted of course right? 0.91

00:24:59.480 Okay, so what happened is you probably chose a top 20% man because you were attracted to him

00:25:04.600 But he was and who is also attractive to other women caveat women find 80% of men as unattractive

00:25:11.080 So if you found him attractive, he's probably in the top 20% of right

00:25:14.200 So so so what happens is there's a top 20% man who's got 80% of women to choose from right?

00:25:20.120 And so I'm saying and I'm not condoning what he's doing

00:25:23.640 I'm just saying if a man is in the top 20% and he's got 80% of women throwing in throwing their panties at him

00:25:29.960 Right at some point in time. He might take that option and I'm not saying that it's right or wrong

00:25:36.440 I'm saying women generally go for men right that other women find attractive of course 1.00

00:25:42.680 Because you don't go for men who you know work at starbucks and they're stacking shelves generally and you don't go for those men

00:25:49.560 So what happens is part and parcel of choosing a guy that other women like 1.00

00:25:54.760 Is it you've got to put up with being cheap? I'm not saying you've got to put up with it. I'm saying

00:26:02.600 Me as a parent now in comparison to me as a parent when I was because obviously I had a daughter

00:26:07.560 Me as the the mother that my son has

00:26:11.080 Now and my ability to give him the calm from my feminine energy

00:26:17.240 I wouldn't have been able to do in that relationship

00:26:19.240 So for me 100% my son gets the best of me out of that relationship

00:26:24.520 Can I can I just simply say for the lady with the son?

00:26:27.720 I

00:26:28.920 Don't think you'll have to worry about any influences from outside

00:26:33.960 Of your husband or anyone else that your son's gonna learn how to cheat your son will know how to cheat

00:26:41.160 When he gets older when when women simply offer themselves to 0.97

00:26:44.600 Yeah, so there's no this again. I see that as a cope. It's it's like I think I got my happiness

00:26:50.200 I got rid of him because yeah, exactly again

00:26:52.680 It comes down to you. So it was actually your personal choice for your

00:26:57.480 Well-being not your sons not your daughters. It was really your

00:27:01.800 I'm sure

00:27:04.360 So do you I'm just curious do you you think your happiness is more important than the family and your son's happiness

00:27:10.520 My ability to feed into my children determines my 100% if I my cup's not full

00:27:16.360 Okay, then I'm not able to fill my children

00:27:18.360 And you don't you don't you don't you don't you don't and you don't think you control your emotions in any way

00:27:24.440 Not back then. No, I was so young. I was like in my early 20s

00:27:27.320 Which I understand maybe it was like in hindsight. Would you say it was a mistake?

00:27:31.720 Being with him 100%

00:27:32.920 No, not being with him leaving him. No

00:27:34.760 No, not at all. I would do it exactly 100%

00:27:38.440 You know what's interesting is because like even last week I was I was talking about um, I actually watched a tick tock video

00:27:44.680 And I say it was on tick tock, but it was actually a

00:27:48.280 Conversation between a man and a woman who had just divorced her husband. Yeah, and he was asking her

00:27:54.440 Why did you divorce your husband? 1.00

00:27:56.440 And she was saying

00:27:58.760 He was too

00:28:01.000 Good with money

00:28:03.480 And this is what she was saying. She was saying he was he liked to save

00:28:07.800 Didn't like to spend

00:28:09.640 You know, he was a little bit. He was always talking about. Oh, we got a safe for a rainy day blah blah blah blah, right?

00:28:14.440 And she left him

00:28:16.600 Because he didn't do the things that made her happy

00:28:21.000 But what he was actually doing

00:28:23.480 Was doing that

00:28:25.480 To secure the family unit

00:28:27.480 Right and so when when a woman says if i'm not happy 0.99

00:28:31.480 Then i'll do x y and z this men have to watch

00:28:34.360 I would say men have to really watch out for women who care about their happiness

00:28:38.520 Over the actual family structure because that means that because you know as a woman your happiness fluctuates from week to week

00:28:45.400 From day to day from month to month as a woman

00:28:47.400 Right deep depression. They're two different things

00:28:49.400 But i'm trying to but what i'm trying to say is a woman is 1.00

00:28:53.480 So led by her emotions, right and the man is more so led by logic pragmatic pragmatic, right?

00:28:59.880 And so we when a woman says things that oh because I wasn't happy 0.53

00:29:04.040 That's why I left in in my in my head. I don't know about the other men. I'm like

00:29:08.920 Red flag alarm bells

00:29:10.920 Happiness and then there's being cheap like if your concert it's not like i've left at the first cheat

00:29:16.120 Like I didn't just be like yo, bye peace out. Thanks. This is fantastic

00:29:20.760 Not at all

00:29:21.560 It took a lot for me to get to that point to what I do

00:29:24.520 I did not want to be a single parent again. How did you find out about the cheating?

00:29:28.680 Um, he had a whole relationship with her my son was and she phoned him and I answered and we were

00:29:34.520 And she was having a whole affair. Yeah, and she was crying down the phone saying oh he told me that you's two weren't together and 0.99

00:29:42.200 Um, yeah as many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform

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JustPearlyThings - November 26, 2023

She Gets SCHOOLED for Being A Masculine Lady

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