She Gets TRIGGERED By This Question
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about how women lie to each other on a daily basis, why it s so common, and how to deal with it. We also talk about why men lie and why women lie.
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What is the biggest challenge you guys have found in dating in 2023?
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I'll go first. I would just say general lack of integrity and a lack of honesty.
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Okay. I think that's a big problem nowadays. Everybody is just lying. You know, everybody's
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like flex culture. Everybody's lying about how good they are, how pure they are, how much money
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they make. I mean, you girls were saying it earlier, like, you know, the guys that try
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to show off on the first date. When the backbone of relationships is trust and the number one
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thing that destroys trust is lies and dishonesty. Like the more you lie, the more you're just
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going to set yourself up for guaranteed failure. Like I just, like when you meet somebody, you
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start dating them and they lie at the beginning and then you find out the truth of these lies
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later. Like all it does is build resentment and you feel like duped. You feel caught.
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Bamboozled. Yeah. You've been caught. Bamboozled. Tricked. You know? So I just think integrity
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is huge. Integrity and honesty, which I think, you know, just nowadays is fleeting.
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What is the top three things women lie about to you?
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Oh, definitely body count, body count, um, not being over an ex, you know, when that guy
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just casually comes up conversation, like, what are we doing here? Why are we, why are
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we talking about this person? And then we never do that. No, no. Okay. Okay. And then
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I just think, uh, intentions, you know what I mean? Like, what do you really like me for?
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So body count? Body count? Being over an ex. Being over an ex. Intention. So I'm curious.
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Intention. Girls, raise your hand. Have you ever lied about your body count? No? Never? Have
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you ever been asked from a guy? Yeah. Yeah. And you've always told the truth. Okay. So we've got a lot of liars.
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I think you're, you know, obligated to answer the question. I mean, you know, if somebody
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asks you a personal question, you don't have to answer it, you know? Yeah. But I think if
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you, if you want to get married, I think if you want to get married, you should want to
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get married. I mean, even in some religions, you know, it says that, you know, you don't
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have to disclose that information or anything. In fact, that's to do with anything you have
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done previously that involves. What religions say that? Islam. Does it? Yeah. You're not
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obligated to tell your partner, future partner, how many, if you have slept with
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anyone or how many or anything like that, which is crazy. It's very interesting. You
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should look up the facts. Yeah. I've never heard of that. Yeah. Yeah. From what I know of
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Muslims, you're not supposed to be sleeping with anyone before you're married. That's a fact.
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Yeah. But you're also, if you have happened, you happen to have done something before, you're
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not obligated to tell anyone. So I'm confused because you said you'd never lied about it.
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Do you just not answer if they ask you? I mean, any personal question they ask me, I don't
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have to answer. I have answered that question previously. Yes. To people. But yeah, you just,
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I don't think you should be, should feel, you know, on edge to answer people's questions.
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Yeah. That's okay. What, from the girls, do you think, like, if a guy asks you that,
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are you okay answering? You don't care? Raise your hand if you think it's okay. Like,
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for him to ask that if she's okay. I don't, I don't think it's okay, but I feel like I'll
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just have to answer. If I don't answer, he'll be like, why are you not answering? They're
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just going to assume it's high. Yeah, like, he'll think it's a million, so I just might as well
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just answer. But I hate the question. On a first date, anyway. Like, if I know you.
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If I ask you on a first date? That's pretty cool. Men will ask you when they're texting you.
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They don't even know you. Like, and they'll just ask you on text. Do you know why that
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is? Why? Because there's so many hoes out there lying that they're fucking jaded. That's
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a big part of it. Jaded? Yeah, jaded as in, like, you know, they're just, they have a lot
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of bad experiences about being lied to about that stuff. Because that's a big thing. A lot
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of guys, men value sexual purity above a majority of things in a relationship, right? And if you're
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going to lie about that, it's just like, we're just not. It's not okay. That's why,
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like, virgin brides are, like, celebrated across all cultures, all religions, over all
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Okay. Would you want a virgin? Would you want to be with a girl that's a virgin?
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Yeah. I mean, if I met a girl and I liked her, and she was like, I'm a virgin, I'm not
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going to be like, all right, bitch, get out of here. Like, I just think, in my opinion,
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I think there's so much more to relationships than sex. Like, literally, like, if I decided
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to go celibate right now, I wouldn't feel any type of way. So I don't think how many people
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someone has slept with. For women. Yeah. For women. Yeah, but.
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For men are different. If you told a guy, oh, you get a wife, if you tell a guy, if you
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get a tell a guy, you get a wife, but no sex, no guy is going to sign up for that.
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We are different. Yeah. I think you tell yourself you're different, but I think it's
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literally just about self-control. Yeah. And just learning how to just control yourself
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and just not be a dog. Like, you can't just tell, you can't just say, oh, men are different.
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That's why I'm allowed to sleep with a hundred people, but I want a virgin. You can't say
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that. I never said, like, anyone's allowed to do anything. But, you know, I mean, people
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can do whatever they want, but the part I'm trying to make is, like, we are definitely
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different. From what I've read, it seems like testosterone is a problem.
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The primary hormone that determines the one's libido. So men have that a lot more. So that
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would make sense that our libido generally is a lot higher. And I'm not saying this is
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exhaustive for all men and women. I'm just saying generally men have a higher libido and therefore
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a higher sex drive. So that difference is a fact.
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Well, and it's not about what they can and can't do. Like, a lot of times people try to
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make this like men can sleep with a lot of people and women can as a moral argument, but
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it's just how it's always been throughout all of history. Women have typically been virgins,
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and if they were not virgins, they were concubines. And the men would get multiple
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women. Or at least the top men anyway. Like, the top, like, 15% of men. Most men were monogamous
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in history, but the top men just had a lot of women.
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Yeah, I think being societally allowed to do something as well doesn't necessarily mean
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a lot of guys can. Just because you're societally allowed to, that doesn't mean your status,
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you know, a bunch of other things allow you to actually get that result.
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I was looking for, gosh, I'm trying to find this study where it talks about, like, what
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percent of men will ask a girl their body count.
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Yeah, I would never ask because I just don't think you're going to get the right answer.
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I would just, like, watch, you know, because then you can actually see, you know, I would
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never, I'd rather, like, watch paint dry on a wall than ask. I think asking is just,
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Because you know you're not necessarily going to get the truth, but there's some kind of
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I can't find it, but it's roughly, like, 50% of men will ask in the first, like, three
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And it's, like, over, like, it's seven to ten or something, roughly, most men will
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disqualify you if you've slept with more than that.
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Yeah, because that's, because it's just, like, it just, it's not that, it's just, the
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high body count is usually a symptom of something else that's not conducive to a long-term
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It's, like, the decision-making factors that have led her to be, like, you know, in her
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What do you guys, what do you guys think the average body count is for a 30-year-old single
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Because the average age of first marriage in the UK is 31.
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What's the average body count of a 30-year-old?
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I think that's, that's difficult to say, because, like, obviously you work in a particular industry
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and your lifestyle is a particular way, so you're going to be influenced by what's around
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I mean, there are definitely women on all sorts of spectrums.
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In terms of numbers, like, I would say definitely higher than in the past.
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And that's, like, I guess, like, being kind of polite, especially because of how accessible
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The average body count, according to data, is four to eight.
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This is why you don't ask for their body count.
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Maybe if they're nuns or they're in a church or they're really religious, maybe.
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But as far as average ladies go, I don't think so.
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Not unless they really are down with Jesus Christ.
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I think that's because we're in London, though.
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Because it might be a bit different if you're in the countryside a little bit more.
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I think it'd be higher if it's in the countryside, because there's nothing for them
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All the good girls I met, they all live, like, in the fucking sticks.
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So I think it's like the city is like, I don't know, modern cities are just like giant hookup
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It's like, I'm ready to be a good girl in the city.
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Like, I'm really ready to find a good church down there.
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And I think, you know, I think it is an important question for guys because it's like, that's
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She's like, why would somebody talk about a body count like that?
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But I think, yeah, I mean, for guys, I've been all over the world.
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I've been to South America, you know, Canada, North America, Europe.
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And it seems across the board that guys do value a woman with a lower body count versus
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And I just think, I think more guys are concerned with it, but they, I think they either kind
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of give up, like the gentleman over here said, like, they're just like, they're going
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But I think like certain other guys, they just want to know the truth.
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For me, I just want to know what I'm getting into.
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That's, I met a girl one time, she was like, yeah, I went on, like, I had a hoe phase on
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And I was just like, yeah, I really respected her for telling me that.