JustPearlyThings - June 19, 2023


She Gets TRIGGERED By This Question


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10 minutes

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195.45566

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2,119

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188

Misogynist Sentences

11

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12


Summary


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00:00:00.000 What is the biggest challenge you guys have found in dating in 2023?
00:00:08.080 I'll go first. I would just say general lack of integrity and a lack of honesty.
00:00:16.000 Okay. I think that's a big problem nowadays. Everybody is just lying. You know, everybody's
00:00:22.460 like flex culture. Everybody's lying about how good they are, how pure they are, how much money
00:00:28.220 they make. I mean, you girls were saying it earlier, like, you know, the guys that try
00:00:32.360 to show off on the first date. When the backbone of relationships is trust and the number one
00:00:37.760 thing that destroys trust is lies and dishonesty. Like the more you lie, the more you're just
00:00:43.400 going to set yourself up for guaranteed failure. Like I just, like when you meet somebody, you
00:00:48.620 start dating them and they lie at the beginning and then you find out the truth of these lies
00:00:53.300 later. Like all it does is build resentment and you feel like duped. You feel caught.
00:00:57.900 Bamboozled. Yeah. You've been caught. Bamboozled. Tricked. You know? So I just think integrity
00:01:04.100 is huge. Integrity and honesty, which I think, you know, just nowadays is fleeting.
00:01:10.160 What is the top three things women lie about to you?
00:01:16.120 Definitely body count.
00:01:17.240 Oh, definitely body count, body count, um, not being over an ex, you know, when that guy
00:01:27.620 just casually comes up conversation, like, what are we doing here? Why are we, why are
00:01:31.160 we talking about this person? And then we never do that. No, no. Okay. Okay. And then
00:01:38.520 I just think, uh, intentions, you know what I mean? Like, what do you really like me for?
00:01:44.780 So body count? Body count? Being over an ex. Being over an ex. Intention. So I'm curious.
00:01:51.080 Intention. Girls, raise your hand. Have you ever lied about your body count? No? Never? Have
00:01:56.180 you ever been asked from a guy? Yeah. Yeah. And you've always told the truth. Okay. So we've got a lot of liars.
00:02:03.500 I think you're, you know, obligated to answer the question. I mean, you know, if somebody
00:02:14.560 asks you a personal question, you don't have to answer it, you know? Yeah. But I think if
00:02:18.480 you, if you want to get married, I think if you want to get married, you should want to
00:02:22.920 get married. I mean, even in some religions, you know, it says that, you know, you don't
00:02:26.960 have to disclose that information or anything. In fact, that's to do with anything you have
00:02:31.800 done previously that involves. What religions say that? Islam. Does it? Yeah. You're not
00:02:38.980 obligated to tell your partner, future partner, how many, if you have slept with
00:02:43.380 anyone or how many or anything like that, which is crazy. It's very interesting. You
00:02:48.380 should look up the facts. Yeah. I've never heard of that. Yeah. Yeah. From what I know of
00:02:52.960 Muslims, you're not supposed to be sleeping with anyone before you're married. That's a fact.
00:02:57.600 Yeah. But you're also, if you have happened, you happen to have done something before, you're
00:03:03.740 not obligated to tell anyone. So I'm confused because you said you'd never lied about it.
00:03:08.340 Do you just not answer if they ask you? I mean, any personal question they ask me, I don't
00:03:13.380 have to answer. I have answered that question previously. Yes. To people. But yeah, you just,
00:03:19.780 I don't think you should be, should feel, you know, on edge to answer people's questions.
00:03:23.660 Yeah. That's okay. What, from the girls, do you think, like, if a guy asks you that,
00:03:28.200 are you okay answering? You don't care? Raise your hand if you think it's okay. Like,
00:03:31.800 for him to ask that if she's okay. I don't, I don't think it's okay, but I feel like I'll
00:03:35.260 just have to answer. If I don't answer, he'll be like, why are you not answering? They're
00:03:39.320 just going to assume it's high. Yeah, like, he'll think it's a million, so I just might as well
00:03:43.020 just answer. But I hate the question. On a first date, anyway. Like, if I know you.
00:03:46.880 If I ask you on a first date? That's pretty cool. Men will ask you when they're texting you.
00:03:50.340 They don't even know you. Like, and they'll just ask you on text. Do you know why that
00:03:53.840 is? Why? Because there's so many hoes out there lying that they're fucking jaded. That's
00:03:58.860 a big part of it. Jaded? Yeah, jaded as in, like, you know, they're just, they have a lot
00:04:03.700 of bad experiences about being lied to about that stuff. Because that's a big thing. A lot
00:04:07.780 of guys, men value sexual purity above a majority of things in a relationship, right? And if you're
00:04:16.920 going to lie about that, it's just like, we're just not. It's not okay. That's why,
00:04:22.420 like, virgin brides are, like, celebrated across all cultures, all religions, over all
00:04:27.660 time periods.
00:04:30.880 Okay. Would you want a virgin? Would you want to be with a girl that's a virgin?
00:04:34.080 Yeah. I mean, if I met a girl and I liked her, and she was like, I'm a virgin, I'm not
00:04:39.940 going to be like, all right, bitch, get out of here. Like, I just think, in my opinion,
00:04:47.000 I think there's so much more to relationships than sex. Like, literally, like, if I decided
00:04:51.320 to go celibate right now, I wouldn't feel any type of way. So I don't think how many people
00:04:55.360 someone has slept with. For women. Yeah. For women. Yeah, but.
00:04:58.360 For men are different. If you told a guy, oh, you get a wife, if you tell a guy, if you
00:05:03.640 get a tell a guy, you get a wife, but no sex, no guy is going to sign up for that.
00:05:07.500 We are different. Yeah. I think you tell yourself you're different, but I think it's
00:05:11.740 literally just about self-control. Yeah. And just learning how to just control yourself
00:05:17.140 and just not be a dog. Like, you can't just tell, you can't just say, oh, men are different.
00:05:22.680 That's why I'm allowed to sleep with a hundred people, but I want a virgin. You can't say
00:05:25.440 that. I never said, like, anyone's allowed to do anything. But, you know, I mean, people
00:05:30.140 can do whatever they want, but the part I'm trying to make is, like, we are definitely
00:05:33.300 different. From what I've read, it seems like testosterone is a problem.
00:05:37.500 The primary hormone that determines the one's libido. So men have that a lot more. So that
00:05:42.140 would make sense that our libido generally is a lot higher. And I'm not saying this is
00:05:45.440 exhaustive for all men and women. I'm just saying generally men have a higher libido and therefore
00:05:49.220 a higher sex drive. So that difference is a fact.
00:05:52.860 Well, and it's not about what they can and can't do. Like, a lot of times people try to
00:05:56.880 make this like men can sleep with a lot of people and women can as a moral argument, but
00:06:00.680 it's just how it's always been throughout all of history. Women have typically been virgins,
00:06:04.740 and if they were not virgins, they were concubines. And the men would get multiple
00:06:09.380 women. Or at least the top men anyway. Like, the top, like, 15% of men. Most men were monogamous
00:06:15.100 in history, but the top men just had a lot of women.
00:06:19.180 Yeah, I think being societally allowed to do something as well doesn't necessarily mean
00:06:23.020 a lot of guys can. Just because you're societally allowed to, that doesn't mean your status,
00:06:28.240 you know, a bunch of other things allow you to actually get that result.
00:06:31.600 I was looking for, gosh, I'm trying to find this study where it talks about, like, what
00:06:38.880 percent of men will ask a girl their body count.
00:06:42.420 I would never ask.
00:06:43.980 No, it's higher than you think.
00:06:46.280 Yeah, I would never ask because I just don't think you're going to get the right answer.
00:06:49.240 I would just, like, watch, you know, because then you can actually see, you know, I would
00:06:52.260 never, I'd rather, like, watch paint dry on a wall than ask. I think asking is just,
00:06:56.060 it's just not going to be worth it, bro.
00:06:58.060 Because you know you're not necessarily going to get the truth, but there's some kind of
00:07:03.020 weird amalgamation of the truth and a lie.
00:07:06.220 Wow, very well said.
00:07:09.260 I can't find it, but it's roughly, like, 50% of men will ask in the first, like, three
00:07:14.680 months, basically.
00:07:15.480 Wow.
00:07:15.940 Yeah, 50%.
00:07:17.260 And it's, like, over, like, it's seven to ten or something, roughly, most men will
00:07:23.580 disqualify you if you've slept with more than that.
00:07:26.100 Facts.
00:07:26.420 Yeah.
00:07:26.620 Yeah, because that's, because it's just, like, it just, it's not that, it's just, the
00:07:32.620 high body count is usually a symptom of something else that's not conducive to a long-term
00:07:38.300 relationship.
00:07:39.520 That's the big thing.
00:07:40.580 It's, like, the decision-making factors that have led her to be, like, you know, in her
00:07:45.220 20s with, like, 30, 40 bodies.
00:07:47.540 You're just like, okay, uh, what happened?
00:07:51.180 What do you guys, what do you guys think the average body count is for a 30-year-old single
00:07:56.560 woman?
00:07:57.140 Because the average age of first marriage in the UK is 31.
00:08:00.200 So let's just say he meets her at 30.
00:08:01.780 What's the average body count of a 30-year-old?
00:08:03.560 I think that's, that's difficult to say, because, like, obviously you work in a particular industry
00:08:09.140 and your lifestyle is a particular way, so you're going to be influenced by what's around
00:08:12.220 you.
00:08:12.820 I mean, there are definitely women on all sorts of spectrums.
00:08:15.240 In terms of numbers, like, I would say definitely higher than in the past.
00:08:22.300 Yeah.
00:08:22.920 Yeah.
00:08:23.300 It's a given.
00:08:24.200 That's, that's a really tough one.
00:08:25.520 I mean, it could be a broad range.
00:08:27.040 I'd say maybe, like, 40 to 60.
00:08:30.120 And that's, like, I guess, like, being kind of polite, especially because of how accessible
00:08:34.180 it is.
00:08:35.100 It's like.
00:08:35.420 The average body count, according to data, is four to eight.
00:08:38.620 Who believes that?
00:08:39.820 Yeah, that's a capping.
00:08:41.200 That's a capping.
00:08:42.280 That is capping.
00:08:43.540 Capping so badly.
00:08:44.960 Does anyone here believe that?
00:08:48.760 This is why you don't ask for their body count.
00:08:52.060 Maybe if they're nuns or they're in a church or they're really religious, maybe.
00:08:56.720 But as far as average ladies go, I don't think so.
00:09:00.080 Not unless they really are down with Jesus Christ.
00:09:03.240 I think that's because we're in London, though.
00:09:05.280 Oh, sorry.
00:09:05.800 Because it might be a bit different if you're in the countryside a little bit more.
00:09:11.760 I agree.
00:09:12.260 I think it'd be higher if it's in the countryside, because there's nothing for them
00:09:14.940 cats to do out there.
00:09:16.040 Really?
00:09:16.960 I think it's the opposite.
00:09:18.740 I think it's the opposite.
00:09:20.660 All the good girls I met, they all live, like, in the fucking sticks.
00:09:24.520 Oh, you need to watch Emmerdale.
00:09:25.560 So I think it's like the city is like, I don't know, modern cities are just like giant hookup
00:09:32.220 culture centers.
00:09:33.420 Yeah.
00:09:33.860 You know, nobody comes to the city.
00:09:35.320 It's like, I'm ready to be a good girl in the city.
00:09:37.980 Girls don't like go to Miami.
00:09:39.680 Like, I'm really ready to find a good church down there.
00:09:42.220 You know?
00:09:45.400 And I think, you know, I think it is an important question for guys because it's like, that's
00:09:50.280 slang now.
00:09:51.200 Everybody, you say, what is body count?
00:09:53.020 Like, I was explaining body count to my mom.
00:09:54.780 She's like, have these people killed people?
00:09:57.320 She's like, why would somebody talk about a body count like that?
00:10:00.800 I was like, no, mom, actually.
00:10:02.600 It's this part of the culture.
00:10:03.780 But I think, yeah, I mean, for guys, I've been all over the world.
00:10:08.320 I've been to Africa.
00:10:09.040 I've been all over Asia.
00:10:09.800 I've been to South America, you know, Canada, North America, Europe.
00:10:13.760 And it seems across the board that guys do value a woman with a lower body count versus
00:10:20.760 a higher body count.
00:10:22.740 And I just think, I think more guys are concerned with it, but they, I think they either kind
00:10:27.580 of give up, like the gentleman over here said, like, they're just like, they're going
00:10:32.120 to lie, so fuck it.
00:10:33.040 But I think like certain other guys, they just want to know the truth.
00:10:37.020 For me, I just want to know what I'm getting into.
00:10:39.160 That's, I met a girl one time, she was like, yeah, I went on, like, I had a hoe phase on
00:10:43.620 the first date, she told me.
00:10:45.260 And I was just like, yeah, I really respected her for telling me that.
00:10:49.140 Then we had sex on the first date.