JustPearlyThings - She Got A Reality CHECK

00:00:00.000 Today's topic is can modern women have it all? 1.00

00:00:03.880 The job, the career, the family, the husband.

00:00:08.820 So today we are going to react to a video to start the show.

00:00:13.760 Blessing, roll the clip, the Chelsea one, the one on the left.

00:00:27.040 That one, yeah.

00:00:30.000 Are we going to be able to see it on that?

00:00:31.940 Yeah, it's going to, you'll see it up there and then you'll hear it in your headphones.

00:00:52.600 In the life of a childless woman, I wake up at 6 a.m. 0.89

00:00:56.300 I remember that I have no kids to take to school, so I take an edible, masturbate, and go back to sleep. 0.99

00:01:03.240 I wake up at 12.30 p.m. and get ready for a busy day of doing whatever the f*** I feel like. 0.97

00:01:09.980 I put on my most impractical and stylish shoes since I won't be chasing a child around the grocery store.

00:01:16.420 I go to my fave spot in Paris to grab a croissant.

00:01:19.500 I do a meditation sesh on the plane since I have no screaming kids, allowing me all the time in the world to become enlightened.

00:01:27.840 The weightlessness of my existence has granted me superhuman powers.

00:01:32.960 I teleport myself back home.

00:01:35.120 Then I get ready for a night out with whatever hot guy I met on Raya that morning.

00:01:40.160 I call up a babysitter and tell her that I don't need her since I still don't have kids.

00:01:45.720 Now it's time for a workout, so I hit Mount Everest for a quick climb. 0.99

00:01:50.340 I invent a time machine, go back in time, and kill Hitler. 1.00

00:01:54.600 Freeze, you bastard! 1.00

00:01:56.200 It's amazing what you can do when you have this much free time. 1.00

00:01:59.620 And that's a day in the life of a childless woman.

00:02:03.280 She's hilarious.

00:02:04.520 So, this brings me to my first question for the ladies. 0.97

00:02:10.720 Would you be happy, single, childless, at, let's say, 55 to 60?

00:02:15.880 And does that seem like a happy life to you?

00:02:18.280 Oh, I have a fun fact.

00:02:20.560 And, wait, wait, in a second you can go.

00:02:22.840 Give me, give me one second.

00:02:24.020 And for the men, do you think women can be happy in that situation? 0.87

00:02:28.040 So, what's your fun fact?

00:02:29.780 Go ahead.

00:02:30.420 Yay! 0.99

00:02:30.860 Go ahead, go ahead.

00:02:32.260 So, fun fact, there was a study done with a demographic of people,

00:02:36.960 and it was shown that the happiest people in the world, it might surprise you.

00:02:41.680 Really?

00:02:41.980 The studies I've seen is that they're the least happy.

00:02:44.160 Go ahead.

00:02:44.340 Go ahead.

00:02:44.360 Go ahead, Brynner.

00:02:46.000 The happiest people in the world on a survey,

00:02:48.440 it's obviously, like, not all surveys.

00:02:50.800 It depends on who you're surveying.

00:02:52.660 Like, it could be done in certain cultures or whatever.

00:02:55.760 But in that survey, it showed that the happiest people on the planet today

00:03:00.320 are childless women.

00:03:02.440 Would you say that if they're on antidepressants more than any other group of women,

00:03:06.560 that maybe they're less happy?

00:03:08.240 I don't know.

00:03:08.980 Because we don't know.

00:03:10.000 We don't know.

00:03:10.540 We don't know.

00:03:10.840 Maybe.

00:03:11.480 That's a question to ask.

00:03:12.700 Also, like, what's their income?

00:03:14.280 Where are they living?

00:03:15.260 Would you say happy women get on antidepressants? 1.00

00:03:17.980 But, like, we don't know, like, what are they on?

00:03:19.900 We don't know where they live.

00:03:20.940 Like, it's obviously, like, based on, like,

00:03:23.320 where are they actually in the world as well, right?

00:03:25.760 So we don't know.

00:03:26.400 Yeah, well, I would say typically this is a phenomenon that's more in the West.

00:03:29.940 So that's not, I would say, in other countries,

00:03:31.880 there's less single childless women. 1.00

00:03:34.200 It's an interesting survey, though, right?

00:03:36.640 Because it's just to add into the pool,

00:03:38.440 whether or not it's for everyone, it's down to the individual.

00:03:42.260 I personally look at that video and it's a no for me.

00:03:45.740 Just, I just feel like life is here to share, like,

00:03:49.900 and that doesn't have to be in a romantic relationship,

00:03:52.420 but I feel, I'm a teacher, not children.

00:03:57.160 I teach women how to dance and feel sexy and all that kind of stuff. 1.00

00:04:00.480 But the joy I get from exchange, I just, looking at that,

00:04:05.700 I think it's hilarious and I think it looks fun,

00:04:08.140 but I would feel elements of loneliness, like me personally.

00:04:11.040 I'm sure there are satisfaction or there's moments of like,

00:04:15.200 this is lovely because I don't have that.

00:04:16.820 And I even had my niece the other day and I was like, Jesus,

00:04:19.960 like, this is a lot and I like my life.

00:04:22.320 Even though I want children, I'm like, maybe a little,

00:04:25.400 like, maybe another year or two or more. 0.99

00:04:27.720 But I do think that at 55, I'd be like, oh, damn. 0.98

00:04:32.160 I wish I did. 0.98

00:04:32.820 And the one thing to think about is she wouldn't have little kids anymore at 55. 1.00

00:04:36.200 Even if she waited until 30 or 35,

00:04:38.920 it would still be over the age of 18.

00:04:41.480 I had a lovely conversation with my mum yesterday and I was just like,

00:04:43.940 this is brilliant.

00:04:44.780 Like she's my, well, she's not,

00:04:45.600 we don't call each other friends because we don't have that dynamic,

00:04:47.520 but it was just lovely. 0.96

00:04:49.360 Like we was just talking about periods and shit and it was just like normal. 0.96

00:04:52.560 And I was like, 0.97

00:04:53.400 I'm so grateful to have this bond or whatever you want to call it.

00:04:56.480 So I can't wait to experience that with my children or my partner's children,

00:05:01.160 whoever, like whatever lifestyle I enter.

00:05:03.340 Yeah.

00:05:03.920 What would be the ideal time for you to do that?

00:05:07.280 For me now,

00:05:08.540 I would say in the next three to four years,

00:05:11.560 however,

00:05:12.380 just going back to pre-conversations,

00:05:14.360 I do feel like I enjoy my lifestyle.

00:05:18.060 So I don't think it's about giving up.

00:05:20.000 I think it's just about being like really ready.

00:05:22.520 And I think that's why we do see like people say,

00:05:25.700 oh,

00:05:25.860 don't have kids.

00:05:26.620 Like I speak to so many people.

00:05:27.480 And I just think it's a time thing.

00:05:29.800 Maybe.

00:05:30.040 You don't think you have to change your lifestyle for kids?

00:05:32.680 I do think there's an idea.

00:05:34.260 I do think so.

00:05:35.040 Like the way that I work,

00:05:36.060 I travel.

00:05:36.640 I don't think I could have a child,

00:05:38.320 especially if it depends on my partner and what he does.

00:05:41.140 And so it is a case of like not giving up,

00:05:44.780 but sacrificing or commitment.

00:05:46.660 Like I would have to be a choice of what and how I raise a child and what I

00:05:50.460 want to have with that.

00:05:51.380 I feel like if a child comes unexpectedly,

00:05:53.520 your life will have to change anyway.

00:05:56.640 Yeah.

00:05:57.040 I think everyone loves everyone would love a time where they will take their

00:06:00.840 time and change their lifestyle before a child comes.

00:06:03.380 But that doesn't always happen.

00:06:04.480 Of course.

00:06:04.940 If it happens now,

00:06:05.680 you have to adopt.

00:06:06.660 Of course.

00:06:07.420 So what's,

00:06:08.240 what's your answer?

00:06:09.080 Would you be happy single childless 55,

00:06:11.180 60?

00:06:11.880 Would I be happy?

00:06:13.120 I don't think so,

00:06:14.340 but that's because that's what I want.

00:06:15.920 You know,

00:06:16.620 I've already,

00:06:17.040 I've already had the discussion with a new guy.

00:06:19.540 I think it was a bit soon.

00:06:21.580 I was like,

00:06:22.240 Hey,

00:06:22.540 what are your thoughts for the next five years?

00:06:24.340 How soon did you have that discussion with him?

00:06:27.460 Oh, 0.95

00:06:27.960 fricking heck. 0.98

00:06:28.640 You're going to laugh at me. 0.91

00:06:30.020 It was like on the second date.

00:06:31.740 On the second.

00:06:32.340 How was he,

00:06:32.920 was he receptive to it?

00:06:34.420 Yeah.

00:06:35.040 Okay.

00:06:35.360 He was,

00:06:35.800 he was pretty chill,

00:06:36.460 but I was asking one of my,

00:06:37.580 my male friends,

00:06:38.340 I've got predominantly guy friends,

00:06:40.140 right?

00:06:40.640 I was like,

00:06:41.420 mate,

00:06:41.780 what do you reckon?

00:06:42.780 If I came up and rocked up,

00:06:44.160 I was like,

00:06:44.440 you want to have kids on the second date? 0.99

00:06:46.120 What would you say?

00:06:47.260 Which is interesting to think about.

00:06:48.880 Like,

00:06:49.040 is it okay to do that?

00:06:50.600 Well,

00:06:50.860 how old did you say you were?

00:06:52.260 34.

00:06:53.000 Yeah.

00:06:53.140 I mean,

00:06:53.400 geriatric pregnant,

00:06:54.400 if you want to have kids,

00:06:55.580 like geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. 0.99

00:06:58.380 So,

00:06:58.700 I mean,

00:06:58.940 if I was in your shoes,

00:06:59.700 I'd probably be asking immediately.

00:07:01.600 That's what I thought.

00:07:02.480 I was like,

00:07:02.900 do you know what? 0.65

00:07:03.220 I'm not going to get this question out the fricking way.

00:07:05.120 What are you going to wait?

00:07:05.980 What are you going to wait?

00:07:06.660 Six months?

00:07:07.420 And then.

00:07:07.760 Yeah.

00:07:07.940 But then if he doesn't want it,

00:07:09.660 what if he doesn't want it?

00:07:10.680 That's what I'm saying.

00:07:11.980 Like 34.

00:07:12.960 Yeah.

00:07:13.420 That's.

00:07:13.560 Then I've just like wasted so much of my fricking investment, 0.58

00:07:16.480 my energy, 0.59

00:07:17.080 my time.

00:07:17.660 And you're not saying like,

00:07:18.640 we need to go and have babies right this second.

00:07:20.740 You're just,

00:07:21.000 well,

00:07:21.120 maybe you are.

00:07:21.760 Maybe you are.

00:07:22.180 And I'm here for it.

00:07:22.640 That's the way.

00:07:23.020 But I have to have an intention.

00:07:25.540 Yeah.

00:07:25.820 Right.

00:07:26.220 I don't think,

00:07:26.980 um,

00:07:27.200 you said something earlier that,

00:07:28.500 you guys are going to laugh at me.

00:07:29.960 No,

00:07:30.200 I will do that.

00:07:30.960 I go on dates.

00:07:31.600 I'm just like,

00:07:32.540 are you here to waste my time?

00:07:33.880 Like straight up?

00:07:34.420 This is what I want.

00:07:35.320 This is what I don't want.

00:07:36.440 And I've made it known.

00:07:38.420 So if anything,

00:07:39.400 like,

00:07:40.420 if they declare anything otherwise,

00:07:42.820 then I can say,

00:07:43.840 you know what?

00:07:44.200 This is not for me.

00:07:44.880 And go rather than not asking them and be confused.

00:07:47.900 Does he feel like this?

00:07:49.100 You're just creating scenarios in your head.

00:07:51.040 I'm really curious if you've ever asked that question when you were in like your early twenties.

00:07:55.900 Yeah.

00:07:56.320 If you ask guys in your early twenties,

00:07:57.660 do you want to have kids?

00:07:58.900 I'm 26.

00:07:59.780 Yeah.

00:08:00.000 The sooner the better.

00:08:01.040 How,

00:08:01.340 how,

00:08:01.700 especially how it's true.

00:08:04.220 People don't want to accept it.

00:08:05.240 But as women, 0.92

00:08:06.140 the older you are,

00:08:07.220 the less value that you have.

00:08:08.520 So the sooner you have a plan and know what you're doing,

00:08:11.120 you don't have to get it done the same night.

00:08:13.020 But had the intention prior.

00:08:15.380 So,

00:08:15.980 you know,

00:08:16.520 imagine like,

00:08:17.400 can we have kids?

00:08:18.060 Yeah.

00:08:18.140 What tonight?

00:08:19.080 You can't tell the future.

00:08:20.620 You can't tell.

00:08:21.940 I don't know.

00:08:22.420 I'll be honest.

00:08:23.020 Like,

00:08:23.520 mine's literally only happened since I turned 30.

00:08:26.600 Prior to that,

00:08:27.920 I was,

00:08:28.440 it wasn't about being casual,

00:08:29.780 but I was a lot less.

00:08:32.820 I don't know.

00:08:33.460 I was open,

00:08:34.280 I guess a bit more.

00:08:35.040 I was open to seeing where things were going.

00:08:36.500 I was a bit more of a,

00:08:37.440 like,

00:08:37.820 go with the flow person.

00:08:39.100 Now I'm like direction.

00:08:40.500 Where are we heading?

00:08:40.980 As many of you know,

00:08:42.280 I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - May 10, 2023

She Got A Reality CHECK

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