JustPearlyThings - She Got Caught in Her GAME

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00:00:30.000 Listen, I didn't with my man. I didn't mention on the clock or off the club

00:00:36.020 Let me add some context. Let me let me add some context. I'm trying to say let us agree

00:00:40.880 I really think sex is a duty. I think you're supposed to listen to your husband

00:00:44.480 Let's have a selfless mindset in marriage. It's not supposed to be about you. Yep. Yeah, that's my point when they were talking

00:00:51.580 It was always about Tom. It's about my pleasure. How would you react if he said no to sex for you? I

00:00:56.840 Mean I would respect it, but he cannot say no to me too often. That's tough

00:01:10.200 So I'm gonna tell you guys my opinion. I think a divorce should be banished

00:01:16.700 Banished I think we should erase divorce. Do you know what country to legal in? I think before we do it

00:01:22.880 We should give all the married people to be like look here's your chance legally now to get out if you need to 1.00

00:01:28.020 Yeah, amnesty

00:01:30.020 They didn't sign up for that. They thought they were at the easy divorce

00:01:33.200 So now anyone going forward knows if you sign up for this contract

00:01:38.560 You are stuck for life because there's a lot of people that really don't believe in divorce

00:01:43.160 And there are a lot of good women that want to get married and stay married 1.00

00:01:46.560 But the men are like well

00:01:49.280 My friend married a good woman who wanted to get married and stay married and she divorced him and took half

00:01:54.660 So why should I trust you? Well, I think the government should force us to stay

00:01:58.820 I disagree. Yeah

00:02:00.540 So unless wait, wait, wait, wait, I need you to yeah unless

00:02:05.700 There's three reasons

00:02:09.020 Okay

00:02:12.940 Addiction abuse and adultery

00:02:16.640 And I still think you should try to be separated first and then try to work it out

00:02:24.320 Yeah

00:02:24.700 Because there are success stories of people that have gotten through abuse addiction and adultery

00:02:30.340 We never talk about those and I think first you should put the kids first

00:02:33.740 So that's my opinion

00:02:35.160 Do kids first 100%

00:02:37.480 And what you disagree

00:02:38.680 No, no, no, I agree

00:02:39.660 I didn't know you was going to say that

00:02:40.640 But I was also going to say that if a woman's hitting a man 0.99

00:02:43.720 I don't think that should be

00:02:44.720 You should be going for a divorce 0.99

00:02:46.200 If your woman's hitting you 1.00

00:02:47.480 Like man up bro

00:02:48.140 Like obviously

00:02:48.680 You'd like it?

00:02:49.300 No

00:02:49.660 I wouldn't like it

00:02:50.520 I'm saying like

00:02:53.240 If you're a grown man

00:02:54.220 Then you're

00:02:54.860 Then you want to go

00:02:55.480 Then you're

00:02:57.480 I'm going to do it

00:02:59.320 I think if you're a grown

00:03:00.520 If you're a grown man 0.86

00:03:02.140 And your woman's hitting you 1.00

00:03:02.940 Like come on bro

00:03:03.480 Boss up man

00:03:03.980 Like you can't get divorced

00:03:04.720 Because your woman's hitting you 1.00

00:03:05.480 Like I don't agree that she should be hitting you

00:03:07.460 Slip and counter

00:03:08.340 No, I'm just joking

00:03:09.260 But I

00:03:10.840 I also don't

00:03:12.040 This is going to be controversial

00:03:14.620 But I also don't think

00:03:15.520 A woman should divorce the man 1.00

00:03:17.860 If he cheats as well

00:03:18.640 But I think if a woman cheats 1.00

00:03:19.700 That's far more

00:03:20.500 I agree

00:03:21.600 Ultra hurrah

00:03:22.800 Yeah

00:03:23.300 I think cheating for a woman 1.00

00:03:25.100 Is a hundred times worse

00:03:26.600 It's completely different

00:03:27.100 Than cheating for a man

00:03:28.700 Facts

00:03:29.160 It's a thousand percent

00:03:30.500 Women can disagree 1.00

00:03:32.120 When a woman cheats 1.00

00:03:33.620 She's trying to replace you 1.00

00:03:34.920 When a man cheats

00:03:35.900 She's just there

00:03:36.760 A woman might sleep with somebody 1.00

00:03:37.840 She doesn't like to 0.99

00:03:38.480 Let me tell you something

00:03:39.100 Let me tell you something

00:03:39.940 When a guy

00:03:41.080 When a guy cheats on a girl

00:03:42.460 Nine times out of ten

00:03:44.320 When he cheats on her

00:03:45.340 There's some flaws

00:03:47.860 In the woman he's cheating with 0.71

00:03:49.800 That his main girl has 0.98

00:03:53.240 That this one doesn't have

00:03:54.360 And that actually makes him

00:03:56.100 Like his main girl more

00:03:57.160 That's a controversial advice

00:03:59.420 Do you think it's actually flaws though

00:04:00.680 Or do you just think

00:04:01.300 He fancies like a bit of variety

00:04:02.940 I mean like

00:04:03.800 Because you know the classic thing

00:04:05.540 You know you can have

00:04:06.200 You can have steak at home

00:04:07.240 But you just sometimes

00:04:07.960 Fancy a McDonald's

00:04:08.840 No, no

00:04:09.140 You do fancy a McDonald's

00:04:10.260 But sometimes there's like

00:04:11.080 A homeless person in the park

00:04:12.360 Doing a lot of McDonald's

00:04:13.460 That you don't want to deal with

00:04:15.180 I don't want to McDonald's do I

00:04:16.100 No, no

00:04:16.540 But like what I'm trying to say

00:04:17.440 Is that

00:04:17.880 Typically

00:04:18.940 When a guy does

00:04:20.340 Cheat

00:04:21.000 He doesn't leave

00:04:23.300 For that one

00:04:24.060 Because the main woman 1.00

00:04:25.580 And listen to him

00:04:26.500 From a man's perspective

00:04:27.440 When he cheats

00:04:29.040 Okay

00:04:29.600 The main girl

00:04:32.180 Actually gains more value

00:04:34.080 Because he

00:04:34.900 He decides

00:04:36.360 He's just satisfying

00:04:37.700 She's just a pleb 1.00

00:04:39.240 She's just there

00:04:40.340 For pleasure

00:04:41.740 Pump and dump

00:04:42.620 Sayonara

00:04:43.420 And then the main girl

00:04:45.140 Has

00:04:46.180 What he wants

00:04:47.800 For the long term

00:04:49.460 And a lot of people

00:04:50.120 It's an uncomfortable

00:04:50.720 Conversation to have

00:04:52.040 Right

00:04:52.580 But hold on

00:04:53.420 Hold on

00:04:53.720 Tell your wife 0.89

00:04:54.160 That she marries you

00:04:55.360 Just listen

00:04:55.720 Let me make my point

00:04:56.660 Let me make my point

00:04:57.340 Right

00:04:58.100 A lot of guys

00:05:00.160 When they do do that

00:05:01.040 They actually appreciate

00:05:02.500 The main girl more

00:05:03.240 And I know you don't want

00:05:04.220 To hear that

00:05:04.780 But that's a reality

00:05:06.060 Should I tell you what it is

00:05:07.040 I think that's an opinion

00:05:08.480 For sure

00:05:09.080 By nature

00:05:09.780 Men

00:05:10.320 We can argue over the hills

00:05:12.840 But the facts are

00:05:13.700 By nature

00:05:14.520 Men are polygamists

00:05:15.220 By nature

00:05:15.640 Women are not 1.00

00:05:16.900 So

00:05:17.580 Having said that

00:05:18.920 The thing is

00:05:19.460 Women 1.00

00:05:19.760 Especially in the west

00:05:20.840 They're not having it

00:05:21.620 They're saying

00:05:22.020 He's having me or nothing

00:05:22.780 So men

00:05:23.340 Are trying to fight

00:05:24.680 Their natural urges

00:05:25.460 It's basically like

00:05:26.360 A man saying to a woman

00:05:27.160 When you're on your period

00:05:28.740 Or when you're pregnant

00:05:29.480 And your hormones

00:05:30.080 Are going all over the place

00:05:30.940 I don't want to hear you crying

00:05:31.980 I don't want to see you cry 0.96

00:05:32.740 Don't kick off at me

00:05:33.440 How unfair would that be

00:05:34.320 To the woman 0.68

00:05:34.700 So you

00:05:35.540 Imagine a man saying to a woman

00:05:36.660 Don't care for your period

00:05:37.440 Don't care about your hormones 1.00

00:05:38.160 Shut up 1.00

00:05:38.580 Don't cry 1.00

00:05:39.020 Don't be emotional

00:05:39.660 Don't get aggy with me

00:05:40.700 But when a man's got hormones

00:05:41.980 And we're acting them

00:05:43.180 Then it's a completely different thing

00:05:44.600 Cheating you mean

00:05:45.420 It's cheating

00:05:46.000 That doesn't compare to a pregnancy 0.96

00:05:47.640 That's completely out of the way

00:05:49.200 I'm saying is

00:05:49.500 When you have hormones

00:05:50.400 And a man has hormones 0.83

00:05:51.380 You're allowed to

00:05:51.960 Because it's in us

00:05:52.960 God made us like this

00:05:53.720 God made men

00:05:54.440 Polygamists by nature

00:05:55.380 So you're telling me

00:05:56.420 But where did you get that information from

00:05:58.240 I'm sorry

00:05:59.220 Ask any man

00:06:00.060 Wait okay

00:06:01.080 I'll give you an answer

00:06:01.720 I'll give you an answer

00:06:02.640 You wanted the answer to this

00:06:04.060 Listen

00:06:05.340 Listen

00:06:05.780 Okay

00:06:06.140 You're basically using the information

00:06:08.260 For your own

00:06:08.960 No no no no

00:06:09.760 Listen

00:06:10.240 To justify cheating

00:06:12.760 If a man can be absolutely 0.82

00:06:15.260 In love with his woman

00:06:16.380 Ready to die for her

00:06:17.340 Do anything for her 0.99

00:06:18.080 Still sleep with someone

00:06:18.640 I'm thinking in front of her

00:06:19.280 If a woman's in love with her man 0.86

00:06:20.520 She

00:06:21.140 The best lucky man in the world

00:06:23.240 Can come to her

00:06:23.660 She will repulse

00:06:24.240 Invisible

00:06:24.760 It's invisible

00:06:25.640 But a man could be

00:06:26.640 Absolutely been started

00:06:27.920 With a woman 1.00

00:06:28.360 And go fucking ugly bits 1.00

00:06:29.200 Because it's just 1.00

00:06:29.660 Men and women

00:06:30.520 Are not the same

00:06:31.140 Also

00:06:31.800 Wait wait wait

00:06:33.160 Also

00:06:33.600 They surveyed cheaters

00:06:34.780 They surveyed cheaters

00:06:36.000 The majority of cheating

00:06:37.080 Is only one time

00:06:38.120 So women are throwing away marriages 1.00

00:06:39.960 For a one time thing

00:06:41.640 Yeah

00:06:42.000 And then listen

00:06:42.720 There's a book called 0.77

00:06:45.640 Sex by Dawn

00:06:46.860 As well right 0.98

00:06:47.580 Sex by Dawn

00:06:48.040 And it talks about 1.00

00:06:49.540 Even the shape of a male penis 0.99

00:06:51.100 You've seen a penis before right 1.00

00:06:52.700 I'm sure 0.99

00:06:53.240 No

00:06:53.620 Okay

00:06:54.220 You're a virgin too 1.00

00:06:55.800 But the structure of the penis too 0.99

00:06:58.560 Is meant to 0.99

00:06:59.560 Push his sperm in 0.99

00:07:01.160 And then 0.99

00:07:02.000 You know

00:07:02.240 The outside mushroom

00:07:03.580 The edge

00:07:04.080 Is to pull 0.99

00:07:04.940 Other men's sperm out 0.99

00:07:06.300 Right 0.57

00:07:07.180 Because that's how

00:07:08.220 We are set up

00:07:09.100 Biologically speaking

00:07:10.660 It's in the book

00:07:12.580 I just told you

00:07:13.060 The book

00:07:13.320 Sex at Dawn

00:07:13.960 Who wrote the book?

00:07:15.320 Dr. Christopher

00:07:16.760 Sorry

00:07:17.220 Dr. Christopher

00:07:20.560 I mean

00:07:21.140 Doesn't mean it's right

00:07:21.560 If we're gonna go

00:07:22.440 From a biological perspective

00:07:23.980 Like men 0.99

00:07:24.760 Would only pass on DNA

00:07:26.000 When they

00:07:26.460 Impregnated

00:07:27.200 Like the most women 1.00

00:07:28.040 Because a lot of kids

00:07:28.500 Used to die

00:07:29.120 During childbirth

00:07:30.100 No but what

00:07:31.240 Sorry

00:07:32.060 Dr. Christopher Ryan

00:07:34.060 What about sperm wars

00:07:35.840 Is that

00:07:36.280 These doctors come up with all sorts

00:07:38.500 Do you know

00:07:38.840 What I'm saying is

00:07:40.180 Do you know

00:07:40.760 It's interesting though

00:07:41.540 It's like

00:07:41.940 If a guy

00:07:42.840 Fulfils his mating strategy

00:07:44.600 Which is like

00:07:45.220 Impregnating as many women 0.99

00:07:46.660 As possible 0.99

00:07:47.320 He's shamed

00:07:48.080 And like

00:07:48.400 They're often said

00:07:49.080 That's a bad thing

00:07:49.920 But if a woman 1.00

00:07:50.840 Fulfils her mating strategy 0.96

00:07:52.280 By getting the best guy

00:07:53.420 She possibly can

00:07:54.400 Like the richest

00:07:54.940 Tallest

00:07:55.420 Most handsome

00:07:55.980 That's just considered normal

00:07:57.180 Yeah

00:07:57.560 I heard it expressed

00:07:58.420 Really well the other day

00:07:59.300 By somebody

00:07:59.680 On one of these shows

00:08:00.440 She said

00:08:01.400 When men cheat

00:08:02.800 It's just like

00:08:03.340 They cheat 0.96

00:08:03.900 When women cheat 1.00

00:08:04.500 They mean it

00:08:05.400 And that's the problem

00:08:06.460 And that's the problem

00:08:07.380 Isn't it

00:08:07.740 A woman will never sleep 1.00

00:08:08.500 With someone that she doesn't like

00:08:09.720 And if she's in love

00:08:10.820 With her husband

00:08:11.200 It's impossible for a woman 1.00

00:08:12.800 To cheat if she's in love

00:08:13.500 With her husband

00:08:13.920 Unless she's fundamentally broken

00:08:15.480 Patrice O'Neill

00:08:16.640 Said it best

00:08:17.340 Cheating is for women 1.00

00:08:19.100 It's benefit

00:08:19.900 I think it goes

00:08:23.020 Completely against

00:08:23.780 The sanctity of marriage

00:08:25.040 There are vows

00:08:26.860 I'm being facetious

00:08:28.260 Obviously

00:08:28.640 I have a question

00:08:30.920 I have a question

00:08:31.500 So for show of hands

00:08:33.140 Who here would work

00:08:34.840 Through addiction

00:08:35.900 With their partner

00:08:36.740 So their partner's

00:08:37.700 Addicted to something

00:08:38.540 If there was a possible

00:08:40.060 Outcome of her recovering

00:08:41.020 There's no possible

00:08:41.820 She's going back

00:08:42.840 To the street

00:08:43.120 Or if she shared it

00:08:44.140 With me

00:08:44.480 Okay

00:08:44.800 That's what I mean

00:08:47.420 Pass the dutchie

00:08:49.560 Wait wait wait

00:08:51.020 Who here would work out

00:08:52.680 Adultery with their partner 0.90

00:08:54.060 So their partner

00:08:54.880 Cheats on them

00:08:55.620 Any guy puts up

00:08:56.460 Their hands

00:08:56.860 For fighting

00:08:57.480 I will work it out

00:08:58.960 Because everybody

00:09:00.220 Deserves a challenge

00:09:01.380 I figured

00:09:03.160 Daniel said he's 50-50

00:09:04.540 Who would try to work out

00:09:08.560 Abuse with their partner

00:09:09.760 If they felt like

00:09:10.980 They had a part to play

00:09:12.020 I shall endure

00:09:12.960 I shall endure

00:09:14.180 I shall endure

00:09:15.380 I shall endure

00:09:16.980 Sorry could you

00:09:19.120 Repeat the question

00:09:19.760 I said who would

00:09:20.500 Work out

00:09:20.980 Work through abuse

00:09:21.980 With their partner

00:09:22.660 If they felt like

00:09:23.720 They had a part to play

00:09:24.720 Yeah of course

00:09:26.160 You've got to recognise

00:09:27.120 If you've done something

00:09:28.060 Sorry and hard to play

00:09:28.900 Yeah yeah yeah

00:09:29.680 Okay okay

00:09:30.420 So the thing

00:09:32.000 I think with this conversation

00:09:33.900 The reason it always gets like

00:09:35.640 Like this

00:09:36.860 Right

00:09:37.340 Is because

00:09:38.320 Guys have a really hard

00:09:40.000 It's very hard

00:09:41.140 For guys to explain

00:09:42.040 What they mean

00:09:42.780 Do you know what it is

00:09:43.740 In a woman's way 1.00

00:09:44.560 To a woman

00:09:45.440 You know what I mean

00:09:46.160 So when a guy says

00:09:47.320 Oh

00:09:47.640 When like

00:09:48.420 Oh guys cheat

00:09:49.240 For different reasons

00:09:49.860 And girls

00:09:50.240 And guys just do it

00:09:51.200 What a girl 1.00

00:09:52.520 A lot of times

00:09:53.600 Because I saw you

00:09:54.360 With the faces

00:09:55.180 And stuff

00:09:55.480 What they're hearing

00:09:56.380 Is you giving a pass

00:09:58.000 Or you being like

00:09:59.160 Oh it's okay

00:09:59.780 For one person

00:10:00.660 Exactly

00:10:00.940 It's not okay

00:10:01.440 But that's not

00:10:02.100 The conversation we're having

00:10:03.080 We're not talking

00:10:04.000 About the outcome

00:10:04.740 We're talking about

00:10:05.340 The reason for the outcome

00:10:06.520 That's a conversation

00:10:07.440 That the guys are having

00:10:08.280 The reason that this happens

00:10:10.040 Is different

00:10:11.080 For both sides

00:10:12.100 It triggers an emotional

00:10:12.820 Response in you

00:10:13.520 Because you think

00:10:13.960 That we're saying

00:10:14.360 Men should cheat 1.00

00:10:15.060 Men should cheat 1.00

00:10:16.860 It's almost like

00:10:18.480 You're giving yourself a pass

00:10:19.980 You know

00:10:20.600 Because we have this

00:10:22.100 Because we were supposed

00:10:23.020 To go into the mushroom

00:10:24.400 No but it's like

00:10:25.360 Explaining

00:10:25.720 It's an explanation

00:10:26.720 Men try so hard

00:10:29.360 To understand us

00:10:30.380 But we never try

00:10:31.140 To understand men 0.66

00:10:32.360 So a lot of times

00:10:33.300 So a lot of times

00:10:33.900 When men are trying 0.59

00:10:34.580 To explain how they are to us

00:10:36.080 We get this gut reaction

00:10:37.500 And we get mad

00:10:38.340 When they're just explaining

00:10:39.600 That cheating is different

00:10:40.780 For men and for women

00:10:41.820 It's not the same

00:10:42.600 I totally agree

00:10:43.620 It is different

00:10:44.560 But it doesn't justify

00:10:46.300 The one or the other

00:10:47.560 No one said it did

00:10:47.720 No but no one said it did

00:10:47.980 No but no one said it did

00:10:49.480 I was just about to say

00:10:49.720 I'd like to clarify that

00:10:50.980 I don't condone cheating at all

00:10:52.180 I was going to actually wait

00:10:53.480 For a break

00:10:53.900 And then I was going to say

00:10:54.560 Exactly

00:10:54.900 So we want to say finish guys

00:10:55.900 I need to clarify

00:10:56.560 I don't agree with cheating

00:10:57.980 Men should not cheat

00:10:59.160 No

00:10:59.440 God knows it's our natural nature

00:11:01.440 Nobody should cheat

00:11:02.220 If you love your partner

00:11:03.180 You're going to take a second wife 1.00

00:11:04.100 No but the difference is

00:11:06.360 Like men can love a girl

00:11:07.980 And cheat on her 1.00

00:11:09.060 Yeah

00:11:09.400 There's no emotional investment

00:11:11.600 Yeah

00:11:12.180 She was there

00:11:13.640 She was available

00:11:14.600 You know what?

00:11:16.340 I would rather have my man say

00:11:17.800 Okay can we do something together

00:11:19.840 And I say let's go

00:11:22.340 Because I've got your back

00:11:24.320 You know

00:11:24.920 But it's this backstabbing

00:11:27.420 I like it

00:11:27.840 It's the backstabbing that hurts

00:11:29.900 Because it's same as you do

00:11:31.780 To your best friend

00:11:32.780 Or whoever

00:11:33.140 When you do something

00:11:33.940 Behind someone's back

00:11:35.340 That's what hurts

00:11:36.480 Can I ask you a question?

00:11:37.920 I want to

00:11:38.420 Pearl have a quick question for her

00:11:39.920 It really adds to the context

00:11:41.200 Would you have had that same stance

00:11:43.700 Ten years ago

00:11:44.340 When you were 24?

00:11:47.020 No

00:11:47.460 But

00:11:47.780 No

00:11:48.100 No

00:11:49.020 Because I was much younger

00:11:50.200 And don't forget

00:11:50.920 I was at a time where

00:11:52.020 For basically two years

00:11:53.980 My fiancé was in the box

00:11:55.980 And he said

00:11:58.420 I'm not attacking you

00:11:59.720 Or insulting you

00:12:00.260 No no no

00:12:00.380 I'm just sharing

00:12:01.020 He said I'll retract my

00:12:02.900 You know proposal

00:12:03.840 Because I don't want you

00:12:04.740 To be a widow

00:12:05.740 So young

00:12:06.520 And I said

00:12:07.440 No I'm going to be there

00:12:08.520 For you

00:12:08.840 Two years

00:12:09.460 I flew from London

00:12:10.620 To Geneva

00:12:11.140 While studying my bachelors

00:12:12.560 Wearing the mask

00:12:14.680 The hat

00:12:15.960 Everything

00:12:16.660 I couldn't touch him

00:12:17.540 I couldn't kiss him

00:12:18.400 But I was there

00:12:19.100 I wasn't going anywhere

00:12:20.680 And you know

00:12:22.380 So I believe in the fact

00:12:23.900 That I will support my man

00:12:25.820 But my man

00:12:26.720 Will also support me

00:12:27.900 Because as much as

00:12:29.080 I respect him

00:12:29.840 He will respect me

00:12:30.820 I want to add on to something

00:12:32.760 So then

00:12:33.140 At 24

00:12:33.920 That would have been a hard no

00:12:35.280 But now at 34

00:12:36.200 You're negotiable

00:12:37.620 You're like

00:12:37.860 Okay if you're going to cheat

00:12:38.800 Cheat with me

00:12:39.760 No because now

00:12:40.640 I'm a bit more open minded

00:12:42.080 Like I'm thinking

00:12:43.260 But I haven't tried this

00:12:44.480 People talk

00:12:45.000 Okay because now

00:12:45.680 We live in a very different world

00:12:47.000 I hear things

00:12:47.900 That I've never done before

00:12:48.900 I've never seen

00:12:49.620 I don't know what it is

00:12:50.600 So I was thinking

00:12:51.460 Okay if I would ever try

00:12:52.960 Something would be with my man

00:12:54.540 Because he deserves anything

00:12:55.920 He wants

00:12:56.420 You know

00:12:57.200 Give me your Instagram

00:12:58.260 After the show

00:12:58.940 I have a question for the guys

00:13:03.560 I have a question

00:13:04.080 Is a woman being bisexual 1.00

00:13:06.140 Is that a plus for you?

00:13:08.760 Sometimes

00:13:09.240 In theory

00:13:10.040 No no no

00:13:11.000 In theory

00:13:12.040 There's only room for one degenerate

00:13:13.580 In this relationship

00:13:14.340 And that's me

00:13:15.100 So in a wife 0.99

00:13:17.080 Is that a plus?

00:13:18.320 No no no no

00:13:19.360 For me no

00:13:20.040 No it's seen as cheating

00:13:22.400 So I was in a relationship

00:13:23.880 I was in love

00:13:24.620 Before I was married

00:13:25.380 I was in love

00:13:26.580 And we were out

00:13:29.240 All night

00:13:29.760 I had some friends

00:13:30.480 Home

00:13:31.380 And it was an after party

00:13:33.800 Just chilling out

00:13:34.780 I went to bed

00:13:35.520 And my girlfriend at the time

00:13:37.280 Was just hanging out

00:13:37.880 With some friends

00:13:38.400 And then

00:13:38.820 She wandered in

00:13:40.500 With a girl 0.98

00:13:41.240 I was just

00:13:42.480 I was just half asleep

00:13:43.780 Looked up

00:13:44.360 And they just sat on top of the bed

00:13:46.020 And they started kissing

00:13:47.480 And I was so upset

00:13:49.800 Haram

00:13:50.260 Really?

00:13:50.940 I was about to just say

00:13:53.160 The crazy thing is

00:13:56.180 I look back

00:13:56.740 I look back

00:13:57.300 And I go

00:13:57.540 Oh my god

00:13:57.960 I missed such fun

00:13:59.140 You know

00:13:59.360 I could have had so much fun there

00:14:00.680 But in the moment

00:14:01.740 If I'm in love with her

00:14:02.980 She's cheating 1.00

00:14:03.660 Doesn't matter who it is

00:14:04.580 And I couldn't do it

00:14:05.640 I was so upset

00:14:06.300 So did she think

00:14:06.900 You were going to be into it

00:14:07.960 And did you freak out?

00:14:09.320 Yeah

00:14:09.520 I said

00:14:10.180 Get the hell out of here

00:14:12.020 You kicked them out?

00:14:13.300 That's tough

00:14:14.300 You could have at least jumped in first

00:14:18.960 And then

00:14:19.320 So I have a video

00:14:21.420 I wanted to show you guys

00:14:22.820 Of two girls kissing

00:14:24.380 No

00:14:24.840 Oh okay

00:14:25.340 Sorry

00:14:25.840 This is actually from a woman

00:14:28.480 Who talks about like the mindset

00:14:30.200 You have to have in a traditional marriage 1.00

00:14:31.940 So

00:14:32.580 Do you want to pull up the video?

00:14:35.020 This is called

00:14:35.440 The Transformed Wife

00:14:36.520 For anyone who wants to

00:14:37.440 You know

00:14:37.740 Follow her on YouTube

00:14:39.340 Oh my god

00:14:40.260 She's ancient 0.99

00:14:40.840 Oh damn 0.99

00:14:41.840 That was from a woman 1.00

00:14:43.380 That was from a woman 0.81

00:14:44.260 Just starting it out there 0.89

00:14:45.340 Female sexual competition coming 1.00

00:14:47.340 I think she's been married 0.96

00:14:49.980 For a long time

00:14:50.860 How would you open?

00:14:51.820 There's a theory out there

00:14:54.000 Even among Christians 0.97

00:14:55.020 That our husbands

00:14:56.700 Are supposed to meet

00:14:58.120 Our emotional needs

00:14:59.720 Now you can't find that

00:15:01.480 Scripturally

00:15:02.120 They are to be our

00:15:03.680 Spiritual leaders

00:15:04.520 They are to wash us 0.96

00:15:05.900 With the word

00:15:06.560 And if we have a question

00:15:08.040 At church

00:15:08.600 We're to ask them

00:15:10.180 At home

00:15:10.840 So they're definitely

00:15:12.060 Our spiritual leaders

00:15:13.100 They're head over us

00:15:14.600 We're to submit

00:15:15.240 To their leadership

00:15:16.080 They are an authority

00:15:17.580 Over us

00:15:18.100 They are to protect us

00:15:19.420 To nourish and cherish us

00:15:23.920 As Ephesians 5 says

00:15:25.880 And they are to provide for us

00:15:29.320 If any man does not provide

00:15:30.920 For his family

00:15:31.800 He is worse than an infidel 1.00

00:15:33.540 But none of these verses

00:15:36.120 There's no verse in the Bible

00:15:38.020 That says that our husbands 1.00

00:15:39.540 Are supposed to meet

00:15:41.460 Our emotional needs

00:15:42.520 What are they even?

00:15:44.040 You know

00:15:44.680 To meet

00:15:45.260 That's such a

00:15:46.280 That's not something

00:15:47.980 You can grab a hold of

00:15:49.320 You can grab a hold of

00:15:51.060 Being a spiritual leader

00:15:52.600 You know

00:15:53.220 Watching us with the word

00:15:54.200 Reading the word to us

00:15:55.320 Rebuking us

00:15:56.520 Teaching us

00:15:57.260 We can define

00:15:58.480 What providing for us

00:16:00.060 Means

00:16:00.960 Meeting our

00:16:02.160 Physical

00:16:03.280 Needs

00:16:04.740 Our

00:16:05.100 Need for clothing

00:16:06.640 And for food

00:16:07.400 And shelter

00:16:08.000 You can

00:16:09.500 Define what protection means

00:16:12.240 To protect us

00:16:14.480 To protect us

00:16:14.500 From harm and injury

00:16:16.640 Or when we're injured

00:16:18.380 They'll help us

00:16:19.400 But you can't

00:16:21.100 Really clearly define

00:16:22.780 What our emotional needs are

00:16:24.860 And

00:16:25.980 This is why

00:16:28.140 In fact

00:16:28.560 I just studied yesterday

00:16:29.520 I wrote a post about it yesterday

00:16:30.820 I'll link it below

00:16:31.700 But the term emotional needs

00:16:34.160 Didn't even come into existence

00:16:35.640 Until the 80s

00:16:36.800 And it was pop psychology

00:16:38.680 And

00:16:39.860 It

00:16:40.680 Caused us to look inward

00:16:43.040 And think about us

00:16:44.340 And

00:16:44.860 What we need

00:16:45.760 And define

00:16:46.760 What

00:16:47.140 Our emotional needs

00:16:48.320 We all get to define

00:16:49.300 What emotional needs are

00:16:50.920 We don't define

00:16:51.860 Those other needs

00:16:52.700 The spiritual

00:16:53.360 The being protected

00:16:54.940 The being provided

00:16:56.260 For this

00:16:57.080 You know

00:16:57.640 Our husbands being

00:16:58.980 Our spiritual

00:16:59.720 Leader

00:17:01.220 Those are defined

00:17:02.100 In scripture

00:17:02.720 But our emotional needs

00:17:04.480 We get to define

00:17:06.040 What those are

00:17:06.840 And so

00:17:07.880 They become

00:17:08.600 What this article said

00:17:09.840 It's narcissists

00:17:11.060 It's thinking about ourselves

00:17:12.320 And what we want

00:17:13.400 Yes

00:17:14.280 We were created

00:17:15.180 Emotional beings

00:17:16.680 We cry

00:17:18.040 We laugh

00:17:18.900 We grieve

00:17:20.100 We mourn

00:17:21.040 We praise the Lord

00:17:22.540 You know

00:17:23.240 But

00:17:24.060 God tells us

00:17:26.080 Over and over again

00:17:27.160 That we are to be joyful

00:17:28.300 And thankful

00:17:29.460 To take every thought

00:17:30.860 Captive to the

00:17:31.720 Obedience of Christ

00:17:33.000 To renew our minds

00:17:35.320 With God's word

00:17:36.640 All of our emotions

00:17:38.420 Come from our thoughts

00:17:40.100 And

00:17:41.160 We alone

00:17:42.380 Are the only ones

00:17:43.860 Who control our thoughts

00:17:45.120 I used to use

00:17:46.700 My emotions

00:17:47.560 Continually

00:17:48.380 In the early years

00:17:49.960 Of my marriage

00:17:50.880 To manipulate

00:17:52.200 My husband

00:17:53.020 And it was ugly

00:17:54.860 You know

00:17:55.740 And women

00:17:56.780 Will use

00:17:57.700 Their emotions

00:17:58.480 All the time

00:17:59.080 To manipulate others

00:18:00.340 We use our emotions

00:18:02.260 Before we're going

00:18:03.800 To start our period

00:18:04.460 And we get in bad moods

00:18:06.080 And we're sour

00:18:06.740 And we can justify that

00:18:09.240 Because we're going

00:18:09.660 To start our period

00:18:10.500 Or when we're sick

00:18:11.980 And I had to learn

00:18:13.500 When I was sick

00:18:15.140 For many years

00:18:16.200 That just because

00:18:17.480 I was miserable

00:18:18.460 I wasn't going to make

00:18:19.580 Other people miserable

00:18:20.960 There's no way

00:18:22.160 My husband could have met

00:18:23.520 All of my emotional needs

00:18:25.180 Of despair

00:18:26.700 And pain

00:18:27.800 And suffering

00:18:28.380 And almost falling

00:18:30.420 Into a pit of depression

00:18:31.920 When I was so ill

00:18:33.400 For so many years

00:18:34.000 I had to learn

00:18:35.000 To take my thoughts

00:18:36.460 Continually captive

00:18:38.060 To the obedience of Christ

00:18:39.420 I wanted to renew my mind

00:18:41.380 You can pause

00:18:42.140 Women it's your job 1.00

00:18:44.120 To be in control

00:18:45.120 Of your emotions

00:18:45.700 So

00:18:47.220 Is your husband

00:18:49.120 Supposed to meet

00:18:50.040 Your emotional needs

00:18:51.240 She's right

00:18:55.280 She makes 0.98

00:18:56.540 She makes 0.98

00:18:57.020 A really good point

00:18:57.740 Doesn't she

00:18:58.260 And this is kind of

00:18:59.140 What I was

00:18:59.640 Less articulately

00:19:00.780 Trying to say

00:19:01.400 In the sense that

00:19:02.260 Emotional needs

00:19:03.720 Is a very nebulous term

00:19:05.040 Right

00:19:05.260 What does it actually mean

00:19:06.280 You know

00:19:06.500 It's hard to grab hold of

00:19:07.580 Right

00:19:07.740 Like she says

00:19:08.460 But the problem is

00:19:09.560 That marriage is now

00:19:10.680 Predicated on that

00:19:12.040 So a woman will say 1.00

00:19:13.680 Well he didn't meet

00:19:14.660 My emotional needs

00:19:15.620 So therefore

00:19:16.160 I'm gonna divorce him

00:19:18.020 And I'm gonna go

00:19:18.640 And travel the Caribbean

00:19:19.400 For five years

00:19:20.340 And you know

00:19:20.740 Find myself whatever

00:19:21.740 But it's like

00:19:22.960 It's an ever shifting thing

00:19:24.660 Isn't it

00:19:25.080 Emotional needs

00:19:26.220 It can change

00:19:27.080 On the

00:19:27.360 You know

00:19:28.260 On the turn of a coin

00:19:29.340 Really

00:19:29.600 And that's

00:19:31.260 That's the problem

00:19:32.640 That we have

00:19:33.520 In marriage today

00:19:35.260 And certainly

00:19:36.580 In formalizing marriage

00:19:37.680 Into a contract

00:19:39.340 And trying to bind people

00:19:40.660 With that contract

00:19:41.580 When it's based in emotion

00:19:43.280 Which is changeable

00:19:44.480 I mean

00:19:44.880 If you are gonna base

00:19:46.560 Your life

00:19:47.580 Your business

00:19:49.140 Your diet program

00:19:50.960 Whatever

00:19:51.320 On emotionalism

00:19:52.660 You're gonna fail

00:19:53.860 Like imagine

00:19:54.480 If you go to Google

00:19:55.140 And you're like

00:19:55.720 Hey

00:19:56.000 Like

00:19:56.320 What is the capital of India

00:19:58.080 And it's like

00:19:58.500 Sorry

00:19:58.740 We don't feel like

00:19:59.500 Answering that right now

00:20:00.520 Would Google be the number one

00:20:01.720 Search provider in the world

00:20:02.780 No

00:20:03.180 Right

00:20:03.700 If you're gonna base your life

00:20:05.560 Upon how you feel

00:20:07.300 It is an absolute guarantee

00:20:10.120 That you are gonna be a failure

00:20:11.620 But this is where

00:20:12.540 There's always a pressure

00:20:13.560 I feel between men and women 1.00

00:20:14.680 Because women are 1.00

00:20:15.500 By nature

00:20:16.260 And it's the beauty of them

00:20:17.360 They're emotional creatures

00:20:18.440 Where men are very logical 0.97

00:20:19.400 And I feel like

00:20:20.540 Sometimes you have to understand

00:20:22.000 And have patience with each other

00:20:24.000 Yes

00:20:24.360 And understand

00:20:24.900 Because sometimes

00:20:25.700 This is a

00:20:26.580 Like

00:20:27.100 Women will say 1.00

00:20:28.360 I just need a man 0.71

00:20:30.200 That understands me

00:20:30.980 Yeah

00:20:31.540 I need a man 0.62

00:20:32.000 That's understanding

00:20:32.580 But then

00:20:33.280 We don't even understand ourselves

00:20:34.980 That's what I'm saying

00:20:35.540 They'll say

00:20:38.020 I need a man 0.62

00:20:38.500 That's understanding

00:20:39.120 That understands me

00:20:40.080 And then

00:20:40.520 They'll be in a mood

00:20:41.360 I won't tell you why

00:20:42.040 And they'll just expect you to know

00:20:43.040 Like we're geniuses

00:20:44.240 But that's the beauty of women though 1.00

00:20:45.460 And they'll leave the relationship

00:20:46.380 To find themselves

00:20:47.700 Do you know what I mean

00:20:48.580 It's true

00:20:49.160 If you knew yourself

00:20:50.480 Why'd you have to find yourself

00:20:51.660 Exactly

00:20:51.940 And how many times

00:20:53.120 Men yeah

00:20:53.640 We've been in a relationship

00:20:54.680 And your missus

00:20:55.500 Will come back

00:20:55.980 And she's got

00:20:56.880 She's modest

00:20:57.800 She's not speaking

00:20:58.480 What's up

00:20:59.060 No nothing

00:20:59.680 Yeah

00:21:00.140 You want me to be understanding

00:21:02.520 I don't know

00:21:02.960 And we're

00:21:03.900 And they

00:21:04.780 They get angry

00:21:05.760 I was like

00:21:06.220 Why

00:21:06.820 Why do we not understand them

00:21:08.160 But we're very easy to understand

00:21:09.560 We're the most plain

00:21:10.280 Straight down the line

00:21:11.700 Okay I'm upset about this

00:21:12.980 Women 1.00

00:21:13.240 That's the beauty of them

00:21:14.540 Men and women are different 1.00

00:21:15.480 Silent dreams

00:21:16.200 Doesn't that link to like

00:21:17.640 A boredom theory

00:21:18.360 So I heard this theory

00:21:19.260 Right

00:21:19.580 And stick with me

00:21:20.500 This might be

00:21:20.980 This might be

00:21:21.780 A little long winded thing

00:21:23.260 So boredom theory

00:21:24.080 That I saw online

00:21:24.940 Is essentially saying

00:21:25.880 That we now live in a world

00:21:26.960 Right

00:21:27.520 That all the essential things

00:21:30.080 That needed to be done

00:21:31.020 Are done

00:21:31.900 So people are now

00:21:33.220 So bored with reality

00:21:34.620 That they are finding things

00:21:36.080 To argue about

00:21:36.960 Think about like this

00:21:38.240 In medieval times

00:21:39.480 When they had to worry about famine

00:21:40.900 And where their water's coming from

00:21:42.700 Women's rights

00:21:43.540 And emotional

00:21:44.200 And the husband's being

00:21:46.520 The emotional rock

00:21:47.680 Was never a thing

00:21:48.700 Yep

00:21:49.360 Back when

00:21:50.200 Back in

00:21:50.820 Mongolian days 0.99

00:21:52.640 When all these guys

00:21:53.980 Are doing that

00:21:54.360 The emotional needs

00:21:55.680 Of a marriage

00:21:56.120 Was never brought up

00:21:57.040 But it is now

00:21:58.100 Why is it different now

00:21:59.540 To back then

00:22:00.800 What is different

00:22:01.860 The thing that is different now

00:22:03.020 Is now

00:22:03.560 Human race has got 1.00

00:22:04.520 Most of their shit in order 0.99

00:22:06.120 And now it's about feelings 0.99

00:22:08.100 It's not about duty

00:22:09.080 That's what I'm saying

00:22:09.680 It's about

00:22:09.980 If you feel like it

00:22:10.980 And that's a western centric problem 0.99

00:22:12.640 You know

00:22:12.940 If you look at the east

00:22:15.600 Okay

00:22:15.940 India

00:22:16.940 Divorce rate

00:22:17.820 1%

00:22:18.980 Vietnam

00:22:19.860 Divorce rate

00:22:21.080 Does anybody know

00:22:21.720 Divorce rate in Vietnam

00:22:23.220 No

00:22:23.720 No

00:22:24.260 7%

00:22:25.260 Okay

00:22:26.100 Look at all

00:22:27.480 The Philippines

00:22:28.560 Divorce

00:22:29.400 Do you guys know

00:22:29.800 Divorce rate in Philippines

00:22:30.600 It's very low

00:22:31.460 My fiance is Filipino

00:22:32.580 It is

00:22:33.680 Zero

00:22:34.360 Because it's illegal

00:22:35.480 It is

00:22:37.300 There you go

00:22:40.060 There you go 0.99

00:22:41.180 I'm insane 0.92

00:22:42.620 Don't

00:22:43.340 Don't

00:22:44.240 Paul you know what's funny

00:22:45.760 You know what's funny as well

00:22:46.960 Guess what else is illegal

00:22:48.040 And you'll be very happy about this

00:22:49.540 Abortion

00:22:50.720 And he's gonna

00:22:51.200 Paul's gonna

00:22:53.340 Paul's moving

00:22:53.620 Paul's moving

00:22:54.560 Paul's moving to Manila

00:22:56.340 Yeah let's go

00:22:57.300 Next time I go out there

00:22:59.660 I'll bet you

00:23:00.060 Do you know what

00:23:00.720 On that same point

00:23:01.540 I was literally

00:23:02.880 You struck a chord with me

00:23:05.360 Because I've just come back

00:23:05.980 From Gambia

00:23:06.420 I was out there

00:23:06.800 Doing some charity work

00:23:07.620 And these lot have got nothing

00:23:08.980 You know what I mean

00:23:09.700 Yeah

00:23:10.160 And you see what

00:23:11.220 Within themselves

00:23:12.460 They're so happy

00:23:13.420 And grateful

00:23:13.940 Yeah

00:23:14.320 And I was actually thinking

00:23:15.820 The same thing

00:23:16.340 I was thinking

00:23:16.780 I wonder if these lot

00:23:18.500 Have the same

00:23:19.240 Like

00:23:19.520 They're not gonna have the same

00:23:20.500 Emotional desires

00:23:23.120 Like all the issues

00:23:24.020 That we have

00:23:24.540 Because I'm thinking

00:23:25.000 They literally

00:23:25.580 Are survival

00:23:26.860 They're unsurvival

00:23:27.580 They're walking miles

00:23:29.380 To get water

00:23:30.080 They're trying to find out

00:23:31.500 They're trying to ration

00:23:32.260 The rice

00:23:32.800 And this and that

00:23:33.440 And I just

00:23:34.320 Even the way they are now

00:23:35.700 I see the dynamics

00:23:36.500 Between the men

00:23:37.140 And the women 1.00

00:23:37.540 And they all get along

00:23:38.840 All the children

00:23:39.400 Play together

00:23:39.860 And they literally

00:23:40.320 Just live in mudhauts 1.00

00:23:41.220 In the middle of a desert

00:23:41.980 That's scalding hot

00:23:42.700 And I think

00:23:44.360 Nobody

00:23:44.780 No two humans

00:23:46.440 Are gonna get on

00:23:46.920 Completely fine all the time

00:23:47.820 But I just think

00:23:48.260 I better divorce

00:23:48.860 Or spin ups

00:23:49.480 They're too worried about

00:23:50.860 Trying to raise their kids

00:23:51.760 And make sure the kids

00:23:52.720 Don't die

00:23:53.200 Because in the west

00:23:54.820 We're too 0.74

00:23:56.060 Sort of fat

00:23:57.000 Aren't we

00:23:57.380 And we're too lazy

00:23:58.120 And we're too

00:23:58.620 We're too comfortable

00:23:59.540 And so now

00:24:00.500 We've got all these

00:24:01.020 Other issues

00:24:01.480 These are problems

00:24:02.180 That we can worry about

00:24:03.120 Fake problems

00:24:04.120 Really

00:24:04.440 We're like

00:24:05.380 Oh you know what 0.97

00:24:05.960 God I'm such a loser 0.93

00:24:07.060 I only have an iPhone 13 0.97

00:24:08.860 We live in a privileged society

00:24:12.680 That we're not even aware of anymore

00:24:14.180 We're very privileged

00:24:15.700 It's good to go

00:24:16.480 It's good to go out

00:24:17.620 To them

00:24:17.980 Federal countries

00:24:19.220 And literally

00:24:19.740 You come back so grateful

00:24:21.040 And you come back

00:24:22.040 And just think

00:24:22.360 My problems are actually

00:24:23.500 Nothing

00:24:24.060 I'm bothered

00:24:24.560 Because I've not got Wi-Fi

00:24:25.340 My Wi-Fi's not working

00:24:26.200 That happened to me

00:24:26.900 When I was

00:24:27.300 I was lucky enough

00:24:28.720 That happened to me

00:24:29.420 When I was 15

00:24:30.020 I went to

00:24:30.740 Dwanisburg, South Africa

00:24:31.940 My mom helped me

00:24:33.120 Raise money

00:24:33.620 To go on this

00:24:34.080 Missions trip

00:24:34.600 At my church

00:24:35.240 And I went out

00:24:36.780 To like

00:24:37.320 The boonies

00:24:38.740 Of

00:24:39.340 I think we were in

00:24:40.040 Krugersdorp

00:24:40.660 Which is another city

00:24:41.420 In South Africa

00:24:42.120 And I met a lady

00:24:44.740 Who had

00:24:45.500 Gangrene

00:24:46.280 In her leg 0.97

00:24:47.060 And we

00:24:48.580 Went to her

00:24:49.420 House

00:24:49.940 Which was like

00:24:50.560 Dirt floor

00:24:51.320 And like

00:24:51.800 Tin

00:24:52.160 Shack

00:24:53.120 And we prayed

00:24:54.300 For her

00:24:54.800 We're like

00:24:55.300 Lord please

00:24:55.900 Deliver this woman 1.00

00:24:56.520 From her gangrene

00:24:57.420 And then 0.98

00:24:58.700 I was foolish 0.98

00:24:59.780 Young boy 0.98

00:25:00.500 15

00:25:00.840 I was like

00:25:01.120 Lord's gonna cure her 1.00

00:25:01.920 Right?

00:25:02.160 Like she's gonna be okay

00:25:02.960 Right?

00:25:03.660 But later

00:25:04.940 They told me

00:25:05.460 Like most likely

00:25:06.680 This woman's gonna die 1.00

00:25:07.680 And then I went back 0.97

00:25:09.140 To my area

00:25:11.360 Where I lived

00:25:12.100 Where I lived

00:25:12.440 On the outskirts

00:25:13.060 Of the rich white area

00:25:14.140 And I could go to

00:25:15.260 The school

00:25:15.740 I went to

00:25:15.980 Winter Park High School

00:25:16.740 It was like

00:25:17.200 One of the richest

00:25:17.720 High schools

00:25:18.200 In Florida

00:25:18.880 And I would see

00:25:20.840 People be like

00:25:21.380 Oh you know 1.00

00:25:21.900 My dad sucks 1.00

00:25:22.760 He bought me 1.00

00:25:23.280 A used Honda Civic

00:25:24.320 And I wanted a BMW

00:25:25.240 You know 0.99

00:25:26.140 This air conditioning sucks 0.98

00:25:27.180 It only makes me 0.98

00:25:27.840 Kinda hot

00:25:28.420 And I was like

00:25:28.900 In Africa

00:25:30.340 Watching death happen

00:25:31.860 In a hopeless situation

00:25:33.360 Your perspective

00:25:34.300 Your perspective

00:25:35.100 Is totally changed

00:25:36.420 And I'm so grateful

00:25:37.540 That my mom was able

00:25:38.320 To pay for that

00:25:38.980 And that I was able

00:25:39.860 To get that perspective

00:25:41.340 On life

00:25:42.000 I'm telling you

00:25:42.520 Because you know

00:25:43.560 In the west

00:25:44.200 We're so

00:25:45.060 Just drunk

00:25:46.980 On

00:25:47.640 The

00:25:48.920 Benefits of

00:25:50.420 Yeah

00:25:51.000 Like the

00:25:52.020 Quite frankly

00:25:52.840 Like the

00:25:53.520 The glory

00:25:53.960 The glory of war

00:25:55.660 For

00:25:56.080 That our

00:25:56.820 Ancestors

00:25:57.860 Won

00:25:58.340 When they

00:25:58.800 You know

00:25:59.360 Stormed Normandy

00:26:00.060 And you know

00:26:00.680 Endured all these

00:26:01.700 Attacks from the

00:26:02.500 Japanese and what not

00:26:03.340 So I just think

00:26:04.840 About everything

00:26:05.640 Pulling back to

00:26:06.940 Where we are right now

00:26:07.860 I just think that

00:26:09.500 Our lives are so good

00:26:11.520 That we have to

00:26:12.520 Make problems

00:26:13.340 Yeah

00:26:13.540 When you think about

00:26:14.220 A lot of the

00:26:14.580 Culture war stuff

00:26:15.360 It's based on that

00:26:16.260 Isn't it

00:26:16.700 Like a lot of

00:26:17.360 This culture

00:26:17.760 Culture war stuff

00:26:18.520 Yes

00:26:18.820 Wouldn't be a thing

00:26:19.720 So take it home

00:26:20.780 Of you guys

00:26:21.400 The boredom theory

00:26:22.220 Is real guys

00:26:22.880 Exactly

00:26:23.140 I want to read you

00:26:26.060 About

00:26:26.380 This is a column

00:26:27.460 Where they answer

00:26:28.320 Some of the real

00:26:29.200 Problems that we have

00:26:30.640 Today in marriage

00:26:31.580 Okay

00:26:32.100 Now I don't want

00:26:33.720 You guys to take

00:26:34.260 This lightly

00:26:34.720 I want to pretend

00:26:35.360 Like we are

00:26:36.040 Answering this

00:26:37.200 Woman's question 1.00

00:26:38.120 Okay

00:26:38.740 Dear

00:26:40.960 Jessica

00:26:43.520 The girl's name

00:26:44.660 My husband

00:26:45.620 Wakes me up

00:26:46.460 In the middle

00:26:46.880 Of the night 0.99

00:26:47.380 Wanting sex 0.98

00:26:48.340 I struggle 0.98

00:26:50.080 To fall back

00:26:50.780 Asleep afterwards

00:26:51.660 And have told him

00:26:52.380 So

00:26:52.660 I wake up

00:26:53.800 Very early

00:26:54.580 For work

00:26:55.080 Each day

00:26:55.440 So the fact

00:26:55.960 That he continues

00:26:56.660 To awaken me

00:26:57.560 Troubles me

00:26:58.340 Because I am not

00:26:59.060 Getting adequate sleep

00:27:00.140 When I bring this up

00:27:01.940 He claims I wake him up

00:27:03.600 And that he is trying

00:27:04.840 To satisfy me

00:27:05.800 I feel like he's

00:27:06.920 Gaslighting me

00:27:07.820 But he continues

00:27:09.200 To insist

00:27:09.980 It is my doing

00:27:11.140 How do I help

00:27:12.820 Now

00:27:14.420 I want to first

00:27:15.540 Give you guys

00:27:16.440 What this woman 0.99

00:27:18.900 Said to her

00:27:19.900 Now

00:27:20.340 We will see

00:27:21.300 Do women give 1.00

00:27:21.960 Good relationship

00:27:22.660 Advice

00:27:23.100 No

00:27:23.300 Maybe

00:27:24.320 Let's give her 0.99

00:27:26.460 The benefit

00:27:27.040 Of the doubt

00:27:27.540 It's a waste of time

00:27:29.160 Alright

00:27:30.120 Look

00:27:31.000 Look

00:27:31.460 Lord

00:27:31.740 It's possible

00:27:33.240 Your husband

00:27:33.820 Is lying to you

00:27:34.860 About this

00:27:35.640 To justify

00:27:38.880 To justify

00:27:40.160 His habit

00:27:40.780 Of waking you 0.94

00:27:42.040 For sex 0.73

00:27:42.680 And it's also 0.56

00:27:44.060 Possible

00:27:45.060 You're experiencing

00:27:46.520 Some form

00:27:47.180 Of what

00:27:47.500 What is known

00:27:48.420 As sex 0.63

00:27:49.000 Somnia 0.98

00:27:49.700 Get one of those

00:27:52.000 Little surveillance

00:27:52.860 Cameras

00:27:53.340 That records

00:27:53.900 The movements

00:27:54.500 And has

00:27:54.940 I was going to say

00:27:56.600 It's not my show

00:27:57.300 I was going to say

00:27:57.980 It's not my show

00:27:59.120 I was going to say

00:27:59.780 I was just going to say

00:28:00.720 Just do it

00:28:01.840 No

00:28:02.080 Exactly

00:28:03.500 I wish I had that problem

00:28:04.880 Only because

00:28:05.580 Only because

00:28:06.520 The camera is only

00:28:08.420 To do one thing

00:28:09.720 Is to underline

00:28:10.900 Who is the actual culprit

00:28:12.300 Because she said

00:28:13.700 That

00:28:13.940 He said it's her

00:28:15.040 But she said it's him

00:28:16.500 So you get the camera out

00:28:17.900 And you prove who did it

00:28:19.160 Yeah but why don't you

00:28:19.780 Just not

00:28:20.320 Why don't you just not

00:28:20.960 Complain and just do it

00:28:22.120 Are you supposed to

00:28:22.880 Sleep in the house

00:28:23.540 What's going to happen

00:28:26.980 So they get the camera

00:28:28.080 And they're like

00:28:28.620 Aha he's doing it

00:28:30.220 Then what

00:28:30.700 Listen

00:28:32.480 I want to give up

00:28:34.840 I want to give a proper

00:28:35.700 Shout out to our friend

00:28:37.140 Ally

00:28:37.520 The real femme sapien 1.00

00:28:38.440 She gave a really good book

00:28:39.980 That I think a lot of women 1.00

00:28:40.940 And men should read

00:28:41.980 It's the proper

00:28:43.120 Care and feeding of husbands

00:28:45.160 By Dr. Lawrence

00:28:46.280 Schlesinger

00:28:46.760 Has anybody read that book

00:28:47.840 No

00:28:48.820 I think you're on commission

00:28:49.960 Or something

00:28:50.580 How many books

00:28:51.240 Have you mentioned

00:28:51.880 I read a lot

00:28:53.360 So do we

00:28:55.160 So you know

00:28:56.600 That's a really good book

00:28:57.660 For women to understand 0.91

00:28:58.680 Like what men really want

00:29:00.420 And Dr. Lawrence Schlesinger

00:29:01.280 She does a really

00:29:02.060 Really really good job

00:29:02.960 At it

00:29:03.120 But maybe

00:29:03.860 That wouldn't be an issue

00:29:05.480 If she was being

00:29:06.960 Fulfilled each time

00:29:08.100 Oh it would have

00:29:10.000 It would have

00:29:10.640 Something ain't working there

00:29:12.360 Sexually fulfilled

00:29:13.100 She's been

00:29:13.720 Woken up

00:29:14.640 And not

00:29:15.440 You know

00:29:15.840 He's like

00:29:16.200 Cheers

00:29:17.020 You know

00:29:18.000 And she's like

00:29:19.000 What the hell

00:29:19.440 We just started

00:29:20.080 Maybe

00:29:20.620 She said that

00:29:21.180 It keeps her awake

00:29:21.720 Maybe

00:29:22.260 She said it keeps her awake

00:29:23.500 After she never said

00:29:24.200 That it was bad

00:29:24.700 She said that

00:29:25.100 So maybe

00:29:25.940 Is Ross in it

00:29:26.860 And then

00:29:27.300 Maybe

00:29:27.880 She's thinking

00:29:28.480 You know what

00:29:29.280 Is a good session

00:29:29.920 I'm going to go about to sleep

00:29:30.680 Because women do wake up 1.00

00:29:32.120 Wouldn't you have had sex 0.99

00:29:32.660 I just 0.98

00:29:33.080 I thought it was your duty 1.00

00:29:34.220 To have sex with your husband 1.00

00:29:35.600 So I'm just 1.00

00:29:36.160 Why are you

00:29:36.680 Like marriage is an exclusive

00:29:39.740 Sexual contract 0.72

00:29:41.500 If you deny your partner sex

00:29:43.260 Like who is he supposed

00:29:44.400 To go get it from

00:29:45.140 Yeah but even in military

00:29:47.180 You're not always on duty

00:29:48.360 You're only on duty

00:29:49.320 On a certain time

00:29:50.260 No you're always on duty

00:29:51.320 You're not supposed to be on duty

00:29:52.200 Like say if you were

00:29:53.600 The horse guard parade

00:29:55.140 You're only on duty

00:29:56.020 While you stand there

00:29:56.840 No no no no

00:29:57.940 If you start messing with you

00:30:03.660 So essentially

00:30:04.600 You get to be a wife 0.93

00:30:05.540 When you feel like it

00:30:06.380 No what I'm trying to say

00:30:07.800 Is you always use

00:30:09.380 This negative words

00:30:10.500 A negative connotation

00:30:11.740 Like for me

00:30:12.440 This is

00:30:12.960 This is part

00:30:14.020 Like

00:30:14.540 What was negative

00:30:15.420 About doing your duty

00:30:16.600 No but

00:30:16.760 Because for me

00:30:17.500 That's not a duty

00:30:18.460 It's a pleasure

00:30:19.580 It's not a duty

00:30:20.520 No it is a duty

00:30:21.800 I'm going to back her up 0.98

00:30:22.700 Duty is a very different

00:30:23.500 What if I wanted

00:30:24.820 To find pleasure

00:30:25.680 What if I wanted

00:30:26.260 To find pleasure

00:30:26.760 With another woman 1.00

00:30:28.460 Then you were weak

00:30:29.620 So then you're on duty

00:30:32.940 Wait wait wait wait

00:30:33.720 So then you're on duty

00:30:34.560 Wait wait wait wait

00:30:35.080 So he's weak

00:30:36.180 For sleeping with another girl 1.00

00:30:37.700 But the girl's not 1.00

00:30:38.540 Wait wait wait wait

00:30:40.040 But the girl is not weak 0.87

00:30:42.640 For not sleeping

00:30:43.420 With her husband

00:30:44.160 No no no

00:30:44.880 Let's get real

00:30:46.080 Can I just

00:30:46.720 I'm sorry

00:30:47.700 But I really need

00:30:48.540 To put an end

00:30:49.240 To this like

00:30:50.340 Oh what should we do

00:30:51.380 We should do whatever

00:30:52.140 We want

00:30:52.720 In the end

00:30:53.240 No you shouldn't

00:30:54.140 Do whatever you want

00:30:54.960 That is complete

00:30:55.840 That's the selfish nature

00:30:57.720 That's going to 1.00

00:30:58.580 Get your ass alone 1.00

00:31:00.120 And dying with a dog 1.00

00:31:01.580 I'm sure it does

00:31:01.600 But did it get you

00:31:02.480 Recently I hear

00:31:03.440 But listen

00:31:04.180 Let me just

00:31:04.800 Go back

00:31:05.460 Did what get me

00:31:05.940 Did what get me

00:31:06.460 You're just saying

00:31:07.140 You're just saying

00:31:07.160 Like you're bringing

00:31:08.720 You know to me

00:31:09.500 And like oh

00:31:10.120 Shouldn't be doing

00:31:10.980 Wait wait

00:31:11.460 What did get me

00:31:12.840 And what

00:31:13.220 Let's just go back

00:31:15.240 No no

00:31:15.580 Back up your statement

00:31:16.400 I'm not going to

00:31:19.440 Even go into this

00:31:20.360 Okay fair play

00:31:21.020 But you brought it up

00:31:22.040 I know I did

00:31:22.900 But he didn't insult you

00:31:24.420 No I'm not insulting

00:31:25.520 But he's not letting me finish

00:31:27.180 I said to him

00:31:28.040 You're insulting him personally

00:31:29.560 When he didn't insult you

00:31:30.260 I didn't mean to insult him

00:31:31.500 That probably came out wrong

00:31:32.800 But you can't say that

00:31:34.840 It's okay

00:31:35.100 I have this effect

00:31:36.160 On women on podcasts

00:31:37.120 I have this effect

00:31:38.200 On women 1.00

00:31:38.700 I'm afraid

00:31:39.420 You know

00:31:39.740 But you can't go

00:31:41.320 Immediately use that

00:31:42.540 Oh I'll go sleep with somebody

00:31:43.780 You have to respect

00:31:44.940 That we are not machines

00:31:46.000 Women are not machines 1.00

00:31:47.400 It's a must

00:31:48.120 No no

00:31:48.920 There is never

00:31:49.480 I didn't

00:31:50.540 I didn't say

00:31:51.540 You're a machine

00:31:52.280 But his point was that

00:31:53.700 She said it's about pleasure

00:31:55.240 And so he's saying

00:31:56.240 If it's about pleasure

00:31:57.620 Yeah

00:31:57.960 I didn't

00:31:59.100 I didn't

00:31:59.540 Listen

00:32:00.020 I didn't

00:32:00.600 With my men

00:32:01.860 That doesn't matter what time it is

00:32:03.400 No no no

00:32:03.880 I'm not on the clock

00:32:05.060 Or off the clock

00:32:05.780 Let me add some context

00:32:06.880 Let me

00:32:07.800 Let me add some context

00:32:08.840 That's what I'm trying to say

00:32:09.820 Let me add some context

00:32:10.800 To the statement that I made

00:32:12.500 I didn't say my wife

00:32:14.240 Was neglecting me

00:32:15.460 Sexually 0.98

00:32:16.560 But you don't have a wife

00:32:18.160 Stop

00:32:18.660 Just listen

00:32:19.140 Again

00:32:19.440 Allow me to finish my sentence

00:32:22.240 Sure

00:32:22.760 And add some context

00:32:24.040 To this theoretical

00:32:25.220 Situation

00:32:26.420 We're talking right now

00:32:27.740 I was saying

00:32:29.060 Because you mentioned

00:32:30.180 It was about pleasure

00:32:30.900 I said

00:32:31.800 So what if another woman 0.99

00:32:32.880 Were to offer me pleasure

00:32:33.940 Outside of the relationship

00:32:35.500 But

00:32:36.400 I mean

00:32:37.080 You always bring in 0.99

00:32:38.060 Other women 0.95

00:32:38.700 Let's bring in

00:32:39.680 Let's do

00:32:40.100 Whose husband are you

00:32:41.740 Can I say something

00:32:43.240 In her support

00:32:43.960 I'm sorry

00:32:44.940 There's only one queen

00:32:46.200 Same way for me

00:32:47.460 There's only one king

00:32:48.620 And that means to be known

00:32:50.200 Hey

00:32:51.000 But kings throughout history

00:32:53.080 Have always had concubines

00:32:54.660 If we're gonna go that route

00:32:55.500 I don't care who had what

00:32:57.320 I'm just gonna use that analogy

00:32:58.920 I am

00:32:59.680 I am

00:32:59.700 I am

00:32:59.920 Like

00:33:00.200 I know my analogy

00:33:01.840 Seem to be funny for you

00:33:03.040 But my analogy

00:33:03.920 They fit into what I am

00:33:05.400 Well it's not

00:33:06.000 The analogy's not funny

00:33:07.240 But I mean

00:33:07.560 This is the Andrew Tate argument

00:33:08.620 Isn't it

00:33:09.000 Where the wife

00:33:09.700 The head woman 0.99

00:33:11.540 She is my queen

00:33:13.020 She is the queen

00:33:14.300 Absolutely

00:33:14.760 But that doesn't mean

00:33:16.140 That he won't necessarily

00:33:17.400 On occasion

00:33:19.340 Entertain

00:33:20.400 Which is fine

00:33:22.040 But my

00:33:22.800 He would never be my man

00:33:24.660 That's the only thing

00:33:25.800 I don't need to give anyone advice

00:33:29.280 Can I just say something

00:33:31.020 If you really think

00:33:31.860 That you're gonna get a man

00:33:32.700 What you're saying

00:33:33.760 Is like

00:33:34.040 It's about my pleasure

00:33:35.140 And it's all about me

00:33:36.620 No

00:33:37.140 That's not what I said

00:33:38.660 Wait

00:33:38.860 Wait

00:33:39.360 Yes you just said

00:33:40.540 It's about pleasure

00:33:41.420 This is just twisting the words

00:33:42.860 It's about

00:33:43.420 You're just twisting the words

00:33:44.500 If you are married

00:33:45.680 You can make all the comments

00:33:47.140 In the world

00:33:47.580 If you're not in a marriage

00:33:48.780 Just assuming

00:33:49.960 That's how it should be

00:33:50.980 I think it's really unfair

00:33:52.240 The answer is

00:33:53.720 The answer is here

00:33:54.020 Yeah

00:33:54.200 The response to that

00:33:56.260 To that scenario is this

00:33:57.560 They should just compromise

00:33:58.880 If it's an issue

00:33:59.920 If it's that much of an issue

00:34:01.040 For her

00:34:01.440 Then she's saying

00:34:02.500 Don't wake me up

00:34:03.940 In the middle of the night

00:34:04.560 But I'll wake you up

00:34:05.860 In the right way

00:34:06.360 Yeah

00:34:06.840 You shouldn't

00:34:07.260 That's exactly

00:34:07.840 I just

00:34:08.260 That's for me

00:34:10.140 I disagree

00:34:11.240 I really think sex is a duty 1.00

00:34:12.880 I think you're supposed 0.71

00:34:13.800 To listen to your husband

00:34:14.980 I'm not disagreeing with you

00:34:18.200 Are you married?

00:34:18.700 Wife too 0.62

00:34:19.260 Listen

00:34:19.620 No no no

00:34:20.340 This is what you guys do

00:34:21.720 It's like

00:34:22.080 Wait but this is what you

00:34:23.440 This is what you two do

00:34:24.600 Whenever you guys don't

00:34:27.180 Like a response

00:34:27.980 Dude I am the one

00:34:28.720 That is married here 0.97

00:34:29.580 So I'm happily married

00:34:30.440 If you're going to

00:34:31.240 Overtalk me

00:34:31.920 You're going to go

00:34:32.500 Stop

00:34:32.800 Yeah I'm happy to go

00:34:33.740 To be honest

00:34:34.440 Okay goodbye

00:34:34.520 Go

00:34:34.980 Thank you

00:34:35.640 I got to see you live

00:34:38.860 Where's the cam

00:34:39.460 Send a super chat

00:34:41.780 Right now

00:34:42.160 So you get that

00:34:42.700 Kick out cam

00:34:43.380 Whoa whoa whoa

00:34:44.860 What's happening

00:34:45.480 Because the thing is

00:34:46.740 I'm engaged

00:34:47.700 So am I allowed to talk about it

00:34:49.040 No but this is the thing

00:34:50.080 It's like when women 1.00

00:34:50.820 Don't like

00:34:51.500 It's so feminine 1.00

00:34:52.720 It's like when women 1.00

00:34:53.420 Don't like what you have

00:34:54.300 To say

00:34:54.600 They'll attack you personally

00:34:55.920 And she started to do it

00:34:57.340 To you

00:34:57.600 She does it to me

00:34:58.240 But it's like

00:34:58.640 Is what we're saying true

00:34:59.660 Or is it not true

00:35:00.600 That's the whole point

00:35:01.500 The more a woman 0.99

00:35:03.660 Hates my message

00:35:04.680 The more I know

00:35:05.240 I'm on the right path

00:35:06.080 The thing where

00:35:07.020 You took it away

00:35:08.160 From reality

00:35:08.900 Because the original

00:35:10.620 Discussion was about

00:35:11.720 Being woken up

00:35:12.340 In the middle of the night

00:35:12.780 Nobody can deal with

00:35:14.800 Sleep depravity very well

00:35:16.720 I was woken up

00:35:17.760 Last night by a woman 0.99

00:35:18.820 Who wanted to have sex 1.00

00:35:19.620 I didn't want to have sex 0.99

00:35:20.760 But I endured

00:35:22.020 I went through with that

00:35:23.440 I was enduring last night

00:35:25.540 No no no

00:35:26.040 I was literally

00:35:26.920 Enduring last night

00:35:27.920 I didn't want to deal with that

00:35:29.020 It's a persistent

00:35:29.600 It's a persistent complaint

00:35:31.360 Because she's a nice girl

00:35:32.440 If I keep getting woken up

00:35:33.400 Every night

00:35:33.880 I am not going to be

00:35:34.860 With that person for very long

00:35:35.920 That's the reality

00:35:37.140 Of the conversation

00:35:38.020 But what's John

00:35:39.040 So John

00:35:39.620 You're saying that

00:35:40.200 You were with a woman 0.62

00:35:40.760 Last night

00:35:41.340 And you didn't particularly

00:35:42.080 Feel like putting out

00:35:42.920 But for the team

00:35:43.920 You endured

00:35:45.380 I didn't want her

00:35:46.140 To make a headpiece on me

00:35:47.200 I'm lying

00:35:47.580 You know what

00:35:49.800 I think I can see it

00:35:50.640 From both sides of the coin

00:35:51.620 I think if

00:35:52.360 I've never been in a relationship

00:35:55.220 Where I've ever wanted sex

00:35:57.200 And I've been refused it

00:35:58.160 It's just never happened

00:35:59.480 So I can't really relate

00:36:00.560 But I can imagine

00:36:02.300 How frustrating it would be

00:36:03.220 I think if

00:36:03.920 But I also agree

00:36:04.800 If she's asleep

00:36:06.000 And you're waiting for her

00:36:06.640 To go to sleep 0.99

00:36:07.000 Then waking up for sex 0.96

00:36:07.920 That can't be nice

00:36:09.180 For a long period of time

00:36:10.480 If it's a one-off

00:36:11.300 Here and there

00:36:11.860 Yeah you should do it

00:36:12.760 But I just think

00:36:13.480 If you're waiting for her

00:36:14.640 To go to sleep

00:36:15.220 I think they can be compromised

00:36:16.520 I think if you love her

00:36:17.420 And you respect her

00:36:18.860 You don't have to just think

00:36:19.840 Oh well that's when I want it

00:36:20.780 It is compromised

00:36:21.260 But also if she's asleep

00:36:22.380 And you need it

00:36:22.840 Wake up

00:36:23.480 Yeah yo

00:36:23.900 But I think my point

00:36:25.640 Is the mindset

00:36:26.420 It's not even about the action

00:36:27.980 It's like you're supposed

00:36:28.740 To have a selfless mindset

00:36:30.040 In marriage

00:36:30.440 It's not supposed to be about you

00:36:32.120 Yep

00:36:32.460 And that was my point

00:36:34.580 When they were talking

00:36:35.420 It was always about them

00:36:36.560 It's about my pleasure

00:36:38.060 Yeah

00:36:38.560 No I agree

00:36:39.240 Don't confuse it

00:36:40.260 Don't confuse it please

00:36:41.260 What I said about pleasure

00:36:42.520 Don't confuse it

00:36:43.540 Please don't

00:36:44.100 I know it's easy

00:36:44.920 To point fingers

00:36:45.660 And say that's what you think

00:36:47.040 But let me just clarify it again

00:36:49.720 What I said about pleasure is

00:36:51.800 You also said

00:36:52.680 I'm not on the clock 24-7

00:36:54.380 So that's me

00:36:55.000 Yeah

00:36:55.260 So I'm talking about duty

00:36:58.340 For me duty

00:36:59.380 Is a negative connotation

00:37:01.060 Whereas pleasure

00:37:02.280 My man's pleasure

00:37:03.420 For me is a positive connotation

00:37:04.840 Marriage is a duty though 1.00

00:37:05.660 Yeah yeah yeah

00:37:06.240 Duty above all

00:37:07.420 Give me a chance to explain

00:37:08.540 So you say

00:37:09.400 You're looking at the same coin

00:37:10.660 From a different

00:37:11.240 But one sounds a little bit uncomfortable

00:37:13.580 Whereas the other one

00:37:15.140 Makes you know

00:37:16.500 It feels like

00:37:17.700 I would always pleasure my man

00:37:19.660 I don't need to have a duty

00:37:21.180 To pleasure my man

00:37:22.500 No no I understand

00:37:22.620 What you're saying is

00:37:23.120 It should always be pleasure

00:37:24.040 So I'd rather call it

00:37:24.520 Volunteering work

00:37:25.640 You know

00:37:26.240 I understand what you're saying

00:37:27.460 Do you understand what I mean

00:37:28.360 And those two sounds very different

00:37:30.620 I get you

00:37:31.140 But if a burglar breaks into the house

00:37:32.560 It's not my pleasure

00:37:33.260 To go and defend my family

00:37:34.420 It's my duty

00:37:35.120 To go and defend my family

00:37:36.120 Yes but that's different

00:37:37.160 You're talking about burglar

00:37:38.120 I'm talking about my husband

00:37:39.280 I don't know

00:37:40.160 It's not

00:37:40.700 It's not a burglar

00:37:41.700 No I think it's the same thing

00:37:43.840 Because he's talking about

00:37:44.740 When he has to do something

00:37:45.700 He doesn't want to do

00:37:46.660 And we're talking about

00:37:47.540 But it's different

00:37:47.960 This is a protective mode

00:37:49.240 You're protecting your family

00:37:50.880 I'm protecting my marriage

00:37:53.140 From giving it

00:37:54.040 Yes but it's different

00:37:54.960 You're protecting your marriage

00:37:55.700 From sleeping with your man

00:37:56.560 When you don't want to

00:37:57.180 So he doesn't go and

00:37:57.880 He's not even

00:37:58.780 Wait wait wait

00:37:59.320 He's not even protecting

00:38:00.300 He's not even protecting

00:38:01.040 I'm not protecting

00:38:01.800 I'm actually sustaining my marriage

00:38:03.880 By being with my man

00:38:04.680 It's also protecting

00:38:05.280 Because we just love

00:38:06.220 Do whatever we want to do

00:38:07.180 But what Ty said

00:38:08.040 Is even more

00:38:09.240 If you want to rank it

00:38:10.400 Right

00:38:10.640 When someone's burglaring your house

00:38:13.900 He's risking the ultimate asset

00:38:16.460 His life

00:38:18.040 To protect your life

00:38:19.240 Yeah but we're talking about

00:38:22.620 Someone waking you up

00:38:23.940 In the middle of the night

00:38:24.920 To have some fun times

00:38:26.680 And then all of a sudden

00:38:28.260 You ended up in a place

00:38:29.380 Where someone is coming

00:38:30.200 To attack us

00:38:31.280 It's still duty

00:38:33.280 But this is what I'm saying

00:38:36.100 For me I would rather have

00:38:38.200 You know

00:38:38.840 Like I understand what you mean

00:38:41.020 And it's duty in a sense

00:38:42.220 But to see

00:38:43.100 Your whole marriage

00:38:44.560 As a woman

00:38:45.320 Or as a man

00:38:46.720 As a duty

00:38:47.780 I understand why people

00:38:49.400 Don't want to get married

00:38:50.320 I don't think

00:38:50.840 You should have sex 1.00

00:38:51.560 Every night 1.00

00:38:53.160 How would you react

00:38:54.660 If he said no to sex

00:38:55.660 For you

00:38:56.080 I mean

00:38:58.080 I would respect it

00:38:59.320 But he cannot say no

00:39:00.360 To me too often

00:39:01.160 That's tough 1.00

00:39:01.720 You cannot make this shit 1.00

00:39:07.980 You can't make this shit 1.00

00:39:09.260 You can't make this shit 1.00

00:39:11.240 You're gonna go 1.00

00:39:11.940 Go home 1.00

00:39:12.480 Get the fuck out of here 1.00

00:39:13.080 Get out of here 0.99

00:39:13.500 Get out of here 1.00

00:39:14.360 Get this shit up 1.00

00:39:15.300 You cannot make it up 1.00

00:39:16.500 Listen

00:39:17.260 Why is this happening

00:39:19.020 Across the globe

00:39:19.900 Why is this happening

00:39:21.020 On the whatever podcast

00:39:22.080 Why is this happening

00:39:23.320 On Fresh and Fit

00:39:24.200 And why is it happening

00:39:25.340 On the pregame 0.98

00:39:26.200 What the fuck 0.98

00:39:27.500 Is going on here 0.99

00:39:28.600 Come on guys

00:39:29.240 But I also wanted to make a joke

00:39:30.680 I've been on all three of these shows

00:39:36.400 On three different corners of the earth

00:39:38.540 Why is this happening

00:39:39.900 You guys just recruit the women 1.00

00:39:41.900 You guys just recruit the women 1.00

00:39:41.920 It's easy

00:39:42.320 Yeah

00:39:42.580 Okay wait

00:39:44.820 Also wait wait wait

00:39:45.820 No

00:39:46.000 That was funny

00:39:46.840 That was so funny

00:39:47.900 That was so funny

00:39:48.180 Shane Mattress said

00:39:49.320 Modern women have lost leverage 1.00

00:39:51.360 They are just not aware

00:39:52.420 Of the fact

00:39:53.240 Thank you for the $200 super chat

00:39:55.000 Whoa that's a big one

00:39:56.300 To Hundo

00:39:57.600 Send 500 and we'll block Nelva 1.00

00:40:00.640 We'll just block her 0.99

00:40:04.960 From the show

00:40:05.500 Oh yes

00:40:08.460 Oh yeah yeah yeah

00:40:09.440 Guys

00:40:09.860 Guys

00:40:10.460 That's 10% 0.69

00:40:12.800 Of the way

00:40:13.240 100 bucks

00:40:14.640 We'll mute a mic

00:40:15.500 For five minutes

00:40:16.540 Oh

00:40:17.000 Oh no

00:40:22.180 Yeah

00:40:22.660 Okay

00:40:23.240 Let me

00:40:25.500 I'm going to read the rest

00:40:26.400 Of the super chats

00:40:27.200 Though one second

00:40:27.920 Guys make sure you like

00:40:28.980 The video

00:40:29.440 Like is the most important

00:40:30.500 Metric

00:40:31.000 That YouTube uses

00:40:32.500 To push out

00:40:33.340 These live streams

00:40:34.480 Also guys

00:40:35.860 Make sure

00:40:37.840 That you guys

00:40:38.580 Are leaving a comment

00:40:39.540 And let me know

00:40:40.580 Let me know

00:40:43.180 If you guys thought

00:40:43.720 That girl was a virgin 0.99

00:40:44.620 Yesterday

00:40:45.160 Yes

00:40:45.600 One in the chat

00:40:46.340 If you did

00:40:46.820 Okay

00:40:47.720 Rob

00:40:48.300 Bordox

00:40:49.360 Dr. Laura's book

00:40:50.780 Is great

00:40:51.480 Pickle Rick

00:40:52.760 For the ladies

00:40:53.600 And gentlemen

00:40:54.100 Do you have conversations

00:40:54.960 About men and women

00:40:55.720 In an honest capacity

00:40:56.740 With friends and family members

00:40:58.140 If you do

00:40:58.780 Do you trust those

00:41:00.140 That those you have

00:41:01.360 These conversations

00:41:02.340 With or being honest

00:41:03.340 Just raise the hands

00:41:04.260 Really quick

00:41:04.700 Who has conversations

00:41:05.680 About these kind of topics

00:41:07.180 With their family

00:41:07.860 And their friends

00:41:08.540 Friends

00:41:09.080 Yes

00:41:09.380 Yeah

00:41:09.980 My mom's texting me

00:41:11.120 Right now

00:41:11.580 My nan's loving this

00:41:15.900 Night shift 1000

00:41:18.160 If she cheats on you 0.96

00:41:19.120 Kick her out to the curb 1.00

00:41:20.080 And cut her off 1.00

00:41:20.700 She's for the streets 1.00

00:41:21.540 And give her what she wants

00:41:22.600 The streets

00:41:23.280 Zoo not

00:41:24.340 Make a poll

00:41:25.340 About those questions

00:41:27.620 Night shift 1000

00:41:28.880 I disagree with what

00:41:30.160 They are saying

00:41:30.680 If you love your girl

00:41:31.420 Be loyal to her

00:41:32.100 Even if she's not

00:41:33.020 Don't stoop to her level

00:41:34.400 Be better

00:41:34.800 Even if she's not

00:41:35.700 Doesn't make that

00:41:37.320 Through me

00:41:37.780 I was like what

00:41:38.340 Yeah don't stoop to her level

00:41:40.020 Be better man

00:41:40.980 Send that money back

00:41:42.000 Send your cash up

00:41:46.940 I'm all deal

00:41:47.540 Send it back

00:41:48.200 I'll send it right back to you

00:41:49.460 I'll keep it

00:41:50.640 The savvy ninja

00:41:52.900 It's a woman's duty 1.00

00:41:54.460 To pick a man 0.53

00:41:55.200 Who showed

00:41:55.540 Oh I read that one

00:41:56.120 Let me just refresh it

00:41:57.360 Really quick

00:41:57.940 To make sure

00:41:58.800 Also guys

00:42:00.100 Make sure you send them

00:42:01.180 To our google form

00:42:01.980 So you can be informed

00:42:02.920 When we have events

00:42:04.700 In London

00:42:05.460 Gerardo

00:42:06.680 When people love each other

00:42:08.980 The sex will be frequent 0.53

00:42:10.140 It won't even be

00:42:10.760 A logical debate

00:42:11.780 The issue is like

00:42:13.440 The woman 0.98

00:42:14.040 About how it is explained

00:42:16.120 I've actually heard guys

00:42:17.720 That when a woman 1.00

00:42:18.420 Has like a child

00:42:19.500 It stops

00:42:20.580 Because she gets

00:42:21.280 More her like 1.00

00:42:21.900 Physical means

00:42:22.620 Depends what the person

00:42:24.180 Means by love right

00:42:25.480 I mean yeah

00:42:26.020 They might still be fond

00:42:26.880 Of the person

00:42:27.300 But if the

00:42:27.680 If the attraction's gone

00:42:28.940 The sport's gone

00:42:29.620 The sex is not 0.93

00:42:30.260 Going to be frequent

00:42:30.900 And when a woman 1.00

00:42:31.620 Has a child

00:42:32.540 Everything in her

00:42:34.660 Entire life

00:42:35.580 Gets shifted

00:42:36.260 To a number two priority

00:42:37.620 Because the children

00:42:38.820 Are number one

00:42:39.600 Indeed

00:42:40.000 I have one thing

00:42:41.000 That can debunk

00:42:41.760 That entire thing

00:42:42.760 Your parents 0.99

00:42:43.760 Do they have more sex 1.00

00:42:45.040 After they had you 0.99

00:42:46.160 Or less

00:42:46.920 I don't want to

00:42:48.180 Talk about that

00:42:49.020 I don't want to

00:42:50.440 Talk about that

00:42:51.100 I didn't ask that

00:42:52.320 No I'm not

00:42:53.000 That point that they made

00:42:56.580 Is that

00:42:56.860 Oh if you love

00:42:57.440 Your partner

00:42:57.780 But it's like

00:42:58.400 Every relationship

00:42:59.460 That I've ever seen

00:43:00.420 Go past like 0.52

00:43:01.340 Fifteen years

00:43:02.340 They all say

00:43:03.000 The same thing

00:43:03.680 Fifteen years

00:43:04.660 Or fifteen days

00:43:05.740 I mean like

00:43:06.140 So it's like

00:43:06.980 Either you're not

00:43:07.720 Listening to the people

00:43:08.540 In long term relationships

00:43:09.540 Or you just don't

00:43:10.720 You aren't talking to them

00:43:11.820 Because everyone

00:43:12.400 In long term relationships

00:43:13.160 All say the same thing

00:43:14.640 The sex goes up and down

00:43:15.780 A lot of times 0.57

00:43:16.460 The sex will be 0.95

00:43:17.540 Gone after a while

00:43:18.620 It's like

00:43:19.680 The attraction comes in waves

00:43:21.160 Absolutely

00:43:21.760 It comes in waves

00:43:23.000 And like sometimes

00:43:23.720 Your girl

00:43:24.080 She like looks good 1.00

00:43:24.900 And listen

00:43:25.520 In life

00:43:26.540 Sometimes you gain weight

00:43:27.660 You get a little fat

00:43:28.260 Sometimes you lose weight

00:43:29.200 Sometimes your skin breaks out

00:43:30.640 Right

00:43:30.940 Life happens

00:43:32.280 We need to stop

00:43:33.560 Demanding perfection

00:43:35.640 In relationships

00:43:36.560 When we're all broken

00:43:38.300 In perfect people

00:43:39.200 Oh to answer

00:43:40.820 To answer your point

00:43:41.700 Earlier

00:43:42.060 Because I was trying

00:43:42.600 I was trying to

00:43:43.040 Interject

00:43:43.900 But everyone was just

00:43:44.760 Arguing

00:43:45.460 Someone about

00:43:45.840 Kik Taro

00:43:46.240 It's crazy

00:43:46.820 So to that point

00:43:50.040 That was made

00:43:51.000 With the story

00:43:52.020 With the guy and girl

00:43:52.860 Yes

00:43:53.700 There's a few things

00:43:54.800 That I would personally need

00:43:55.900 I'd need to know

00:43:57.140 The facts of the story

00:43:59.100 Which is why

00:43:59.620 I wanted the camera

00:44:00.320 Because we all know

00:44:01.400 That people like to

00:44:02.740 When they retell stories

00:44:03.780 They tell themselves

00:44:04.420 To be the protagonist

00:44:05.240 Of those stories

00:44:05.960 So I'd like

00:44:06.920 Some sort of

00:44:08.020 Information that will

00:44:09.200 Let me know

00:44:09.840 What the actual facts are

00:44:11.320 Right

00:44:11.600 That's number one

00:44:12.560 Number two

00:44:13.580 It's my pleasure

00:44:16.880 And blah blah blah

00:44:17.540 It's like alright

00:44:18.960 So I'm a fiance

00:44:22.160 As well

00:44:22.700 And I've seen

00:44:23.260 These marriages

00:44:23.680 And stuff

00:44:24.000 If we're playing

00:44:25.920 The whole

00:44:26.380 I don't want

00:44:27.240 To do it right now

00:44:28.120 So I'm not going

00:44:28.800 To do it

00:44:29.360 I think that's

00:44:30.360 A very

00:44:30.940 Very slippery slope

00:44:32.520 To go down 1.00

00:44:33.160 It's bullshit 1.00

00:44:33.300 Because what if 0.99

00:44:33.940 The bill comes

00:44:34.680 In the restaurant

00:44:34.940 Like listen

00:44:35.520 Baby

00:44:36.320 I don't feel like

00:44:37.340 I don't feel like

00:44:38.120 I feel like

00:44:39.000 You know

00:44:39.280 It's time for you

00:44:40.200 To whip out 1.00

00:44:40.740 That fucking 1.00

00:44:41.300 Discover card 1.00

00:44:42.060 Someone attacks

00:44:43.480 You on the street

00:44:44.200 And he's like

00:44:44.560 You know what

00:44:44.880 Today

00:44:45.200 I just don't

00:44:45.940 Feel like

00:44:46.420 Protecting you

00:44:47.420 I just know

00:44:48.820 I don't

00:44:49.160 Like what

00:44:50.220 Ty was saying

00:44:50.820 To like

00:44:51.160 Okay listen

00:44:51.640 Baby

00:44:51.940 The last mugger 1.00

00:44:53.380 I whooped his ass 1.00

00:44:54.480 Like listen 1.00

00:44:55.260 Here's the knife

00:44:56.180 Here's the knife

00:44:56.920 I taught you

00:44:57.360 Those shank moves

00:44:58.180 Like get out there

00:44:59.580 And be someone

00:45:00.140 Go out there 0.94

00:45:00.980 Go for the neck 0.99

00:45:01.640 Take them out 0.98

00:45:02.560 Go ahead

00:45:03.540 I don't want

00:45:03.920 To be a

00:45:04.300 I don't want

00:45:04.720 To be a 0.98

00:45:05.220 Chauvinist pig 0.98

00:45:06.120 The reason I bring 0.97

00:45:06.720 This point up

00:45:07.320 Is because

00:45:07.760 We all agree

00:45:08.440 That a relationship

00:45:09.700 Is a partnership

00:45:10.360 That has both sides

00:45:11.440 I have to give

00:45:12.060 A certain amount

00:45:12.860 To make it work

00:45:14.060 Right

00:45:14.860 So if we agree

00:45:15.840 On that

00:45:16.380 How can we then

00:45:17.500 Disagree on the fact

00:45:18.440 That this is what

00:45:19.080 That guy needs

00:45:19.980 For it to work

00:45:20.840 And he kind of

00:45:21.900 Might need that

00:45:22.520 Yeah it might be

00:45:23.300 A disadvantage to you

00:45:24.380 But if I was to

00:45:25.680 Talk about all the times

00:45:26.440 I did stuff

00:45:27.420 For my partner

00:45:28.220 That I didn't want

00:45:29.160 To do at the time

00:45:29.900 And we start

00:45:30.580 Playing tallies

00:45:31.500 Right

00:45:31.920 This is one of those

00:45:32.700 Things where

00:45:33.180 What was it

00:45:34.140 Cancel this man

00:45:35.220 He's making too much

00:45:35.820 Sense

00:45:36.000 You know when

00:45:36.340 You're in a relationship

00:45:36.920 When you're in a relationship

00:45:37.620 It was one thing

00:45:38.280 That I saw

00:45:38.640 When you bring

00:45:39.060 You should do this

00:45:40.320 You should go

00:45:40.640 On the street

00:45:41.460 Find a couple

00:45:42.100 Right

00:45:42.420 And then ask

00:45:43.260 The girl

00:45:44.400 How many things

00:45:45.220 Do you ask

00:45:45.640 Of your man

00:45:46.120 To do

00:45:46.420 In a day to day

00:45:46.980 Basis

00:45:47.640 And ask the guy

00:45:48.240 The same question

00:45:48.940 More times

00:45:50.180 Than not

00:45:50.740 The woman 0.98

00:45:51.280 Has asked the guy

00:45:51.980 To do at least

00:45:52.880 Five times more

00:45:53.600 Than he's asked

00:45:54.200 From her

00:45:54.480 In a day to day

00:45:55.700 Like

00:45:56.660 Like

00:45:57.300 Like

00:45:57.580 Basis

00:45:58.160 You know

00:45:58.400 But that's why

00:45:59.200 I keep going back

00:45:59.920 To the mindset

00:46:00.680 Like the mindset

00:46:01.460 In a marriage

00:46:02.640 Is supposed to be

00:46:03.480 To give

00:46:04.040 It's not to receive

00:46:04.940 It's like

00:46:05.220 What can I do

00:46:05.820 For the other person

00:46:06.800 In traditional marriages

00:46:08.120 Anyway

00:46:08.460 But the problem

00:46:08.900 Is the intimate nature

00:46:09.860 Of the sexual act

00:46:10.600 That's why

00:46:11.100 There's

00:46:11.400 You know

00:46:11.720 I imagine

00:46:12.820 That there's

00:46:13.340 Some sort of

00:46:13.800 Constellation

00:46:14.360 Around this point

00:46:15.040 But the problem

00:46:16.120 Is that you've got

00:46:16.880 Due to a living

00:46:17.640 In sexist marriages

00:46:18.560 For decades

00:46:19.360 All right

00:46:20.200 And I mean

00:46:20.580 Is that really

00:46:21.220 What they signed up for

00:46:22.320 You know

00:46:22.620 Is that

00:46:23.000 A workable way

00:46:24.900 To conduct a relationship

00:46:26.960 It works the other way

00:46:27.840 As well

00:46:28.320 I know

00:46:28.780 Women in marriages 1.00

00:46:29.840 That they don't get enough

00:46:31.260 Yes

00:46:31.960 Come on

00:46:32.940 I say pleasure

00:46:33.900 And you attack me

00:46:35.380 With rubberies

00:46:37.900 And then

00:46:38.600 She says give

00:46:39.720 But give is pleasure

00:46:40.800 Sometimes to prove a point

00:46:41.520 You have to take it to extremes

00:46:42.440 To get the point

00:46:43.000 No, no

00:46:43.060 But what I'm saying is

00:46:44.340 Maybe I'm not using

00:46:45.240 The right words

00:46:46.140 But you continuously think

00:46:47.460 That I don't understand you

00:46:49.520 But actually

00:46:50.040 I think you don't understand me

00:46:51.720 Okay

00:46:51.980 What about

00:46:52.440 Do you have to my points

00:46:53.340 Because what I was saying

00:46:53.600 About the pleasure

00:46:54.660 Is giving

00:46:56.120 Is pleasure

00:46:57.200 To my men

00:46:58.480 So

00:46:59.360 You just said it yourself

00:47:01.620 Giving

00:47:02.520 Marriage

00:47:03.140 Marriage should be about giving 0.97

00:47:04.120 And I'm saying

00:47:05.320 For me

00:47:06.340 Maybe

00:47:06.940 Woken up

00:47:08.120 Or wake up my man

00:47:09.260 Is pleasure

00:47:10.240 Because I am giving

00:47:11.680 So actually

00:47:12.980 We're saying

00:47:13.380 Exactly the same thing

00:47:14.520 Using the different words

00:47:16.360 So this is what I'm saying

00:47:18.000 But it's not a duty

00:47:19.540 I don't want to see it as a duty

00:47:21.000 I don't want to feel like

00:47:21.840 I'm going to work

00:47:22.660 You know

00:47:23.100 I want to feel like

00:47:24.080 I'm at home

00:47:24.620 Because it's my home

00:47:25.600 I feel at home

00:47:26.340 I can do this

00:47:27.260 Anytime I want

00:47:28.720 So what about my points

00:47:29.660 But then that doesn't

00:47:30.500 Wait wait wait

00:47:31.100 I want her to answer this

00:47:32.420 So what about my points

00:47:33.300 What was your point

00:47:34.080 Sorry

00:47:34.840 What was your point

00:47:35.500 Exactly

00:47:37.040 Because

00:47:39.400 Your final arguments

00:47:40.960 Against all those guys

00:47:42.040 And I purposely

00:47:42.960 Took this time

00:47:43.540 To make sure

00:47:44.040 That my argument

00:47:44.880 Isn't the same as that

00:47:45.860 I wasn't talking about duty

00:47:47.160 I was talking about

00:47:48.340 My whole thing was

00:47:50.060 Can you

00:47:50.560 If we were to take a list

00:47:51.980 Of all the times

00:47:52.680 That your partner

00:47:53.380 Has done stuff

00:47:54.060 For you

00:47:55.120 That you've asked of them

00:47:57.860 And they didn't want to do it

00:47:59.100 And if we're going to be

00:48:00.160 Very petty

00:48:00.860 This is a very petty thing to do

00:48:02.420 I'm not saying to go out

00:48:03.380 And make this list

00:48:04.180 Right

00:48:04.740 But it's one of those things

00:48:05.860 That sometimes needs to be made

00:48:07.100 Because visual understanding

00:48:08.780 Sometimes is the best teacher

00:48:10.380 To see an actual graph

00:48:12.500 Of the amount of times

00:48:13.800 You ask him for something

00:48:14.880 In a day to day

00:48:15.600 Week to week

00:48:16.020 Month to month

00:48:16.480 And the amount of times

00:48:17.460 That he asks you

00:48:18.480 Puts into perspective

00:48:19.700 How much you ask

00:48:21.080 From a significant other

00:48:22.660 On a regular basis

00:48:23.560 Right

00:48:24.060 If the only thing

00:48:25.300 That he's asking for

00:48:26.140 Because he's gone to work

00:48:27.600 And he's come back

00:48:28.200 And he's coming back late 0.99

00:48:29.000 And he wants to have sex 0.99

00:48:30.220 If that's all he's asking for 0.95

00:48:32.020 I'm not saying it's great

00:48:32.720 He probably should not

00:48:33.480 Wake you up

00:48:33.980 In the middle of the night

00:48:34.620 That's not

00:48:34.960 That's not good jokes

00:48:35.920 Right

00:48:36.380 But we're acting like

00:48:38.320 It's like

00:48:39.260 It's like

00:48:39.680 I can't believe

00:48:40.660 He's asked for this thing

00:48:42.080 For me

00:48:42.660 When it's like

00:48:43.240 Bro

00:48:43.520 How many times

00:48:44.680 How many times

00:48:45.220 Guys are there

00:48:45.940 I think you're saying

00:48:46.700 She's saying like

00:48:47.340 I don't want to have to

00:48:48.460 Exactly

00:48:49.120 But I'm going to do it

00:48:50.540 It's not a problem for me

00:48:51.800 Men don't want to have to 1.00

00:48:53.340 Men don't want to have to 1.00

00:48:54.320 I vote

00:48:54.920 But their point is

00:48:56.720 There's all these things

00:48:57.660 That men do

00:48:58.660 Like all the time

00:49:00.020 For women

00:49:00.560 That they

00:49:01.100 That they just

00:49:01.640 They don't want to do

00:49:02.480 But they have to do

00:49:03.700 Guys I'm sorry

00:49:04.580 There's literally no argument

00:49:05.440 Nobody's attacking you

00:49:07.200 We're just

00:49:07.580 I cannot answer

00:49:09.020 For all the women

00:49:09.720 What I'm saying is

00:49:10.880 I'm in solidarity with you

00:49:12.360 Because I understand

00:49:13.180 What you mean

00:49:13.780 But I'm not able to answer

00:49:16.060 For all those women

00:49:16.840 That you are talking about

00:49:17.940 To be honest

00:49:18.820 Because I can only talk

00:49:20.040 From my own perspective

JustPearlyThings - July 06, 2023

She Got Caught in Her GAME

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