JustPearlyThings - December 26, 2022


She Got DESTROYED THIS

Topics
beer belly
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Tik Tok Jerry
Modern Women DON'T Look At BIG PICTURE Andrew Tate Educates This Feminists

Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

199.24

Word count

1,999

Sentence count

191

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

sentences flagged

Toxicity

11

sentences flagged

Hate speech

2

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Summary

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In this episode, I sit down with my best friend and business partner to talk about what it means to be single and childless in 2019. We talk about the challenges of being single, how to navigate the dating game, and what it takes to find the right partner.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I'm not looking for a husband, I'm looking for my husband, and there's a difference.
00:00:03.000 That guy is going to be a very small percentage, and I'm okay with that.
00:00:07.000 I'm at peace, and I'm at peace with the things I've done.
00:00:09.000 But I will say moving forward, like talking to any girl, to you, you know, whoever's listening.
00:00:15.000 Like, you really should think about why you're doing what you're doing.
00:00:19.000 Like, really think about why am I attracting that?
00:00:22.000 What part of me is resonating with a guy like that?
00:00:25.000 If you have all these complaints about him, what's resonating with him?
00:00:29.000 Really analyzing what you're doing. That's what I would suggest.
00:00:32.000 So why don't, because in my head, like, why wouldn't you avoid this?
00:00:37.000 If you could go back, you wouldn't avoid the situations?
00:00:40.000 Because I thought in the beginning you said that, like, you wouldn't change it because of the wisdom you've acquired.
00:00:46.000 But to me, it's like, oh my God, if I knew what I know now, like, I probably would have waited until I was married.
00:00:52.000 No, I get that. I understand that.
00:00:55.000 I think that I have a very influential voice and I have grown to be a voice for women who have gone through what I've gone through and experienced what I've experienced.
00:01:05.000 And although, again, I can't speak for the majority because my situation still isn't even average, right?
00:01:11.000 And I'm aware of that. But my voice is important, just like your voice is important.
00:01:17.000 And that's why I don't, I would not want to change anything because what, again, I don't know what my, this is a very tough spot to be in, right?
00:01:26.000 Because you're figuring it out. You have people who are also trying to figure it out.
00:01:30.000 And it's like, I'm needed in this space because I, my voice guides those women that you guys talk about, right?
00:01:38.000 So that's why I wouldn't change it because there is a greater picture.
00:01:42.000 Even in my, like I told you, my last relationship had the Bentley, had the house, had the kid and it wasn't enough.
00:01:48.000 Okay. So it may be a small percentage of us women who feel this way, but those, I feel like that's the voice that I'm, I represent.
00:01:56.000 Oh no. Oh no. There's a large percentage.
00:01:58.000 Okay. Okay. Well, I mean, I mean, I don't know.
00:02:01.000 I mean, I don't know.
00:02:02.000 They're predicting that 45% of women will be single and childless by 2030.
00:02:07.000 So much so that big banks are investing in like cat food, wine, like things that go with like single women. 1.00
00:02:13.000 Wow. Yeah.
00:02:14.000 Okay. Well, a big percentage. So I feel like my voice does matter to navigate through this space for them.
00:02:20.000 So, so it's like, it's like, again, it's such a small percentage of men that you're like looking for now.
00:02:27.000 I know.
00:02:28.000 Yeah. Um, how do you want to navigate that? Like moving forward?
00:02:34.000 Um, do you even want to date like right now? Cause you, you, um, so I know some people when their kids are young, like just don't want to date.
00:02:42.000 How do you like feel about that?
00:02:46.000 Um, I think it has more to do with where I'm at, um, emotionally and it's not even like a jaded thing, right?
00:02:58.000 It's more of, I know my value. I can talk to, I can have one conversation with a guy now.
00:03:04.000 And I know exactly what he's about. So most of the guys that have presented themselves in front of me just want to fuck me. 1.00
00:03:12.000 I'm not interested in that. And I'm going to keep my, I'm going to keep an open mind and I'm going to keep an open heart. 0.99
00:03:19.000 But I know by how a man approaches me, how he speaks to me, I know that there's that, that he wants more with me.
00:03:27.000 It is just, I know. So that's where I'm like, I'm not going on dates right now. I'm not talking.
00:03:34.000 I don't have somebody that we talk every few days, every day. I have no masculine energy, besides like my family, our family friend, Jerry.
00:03:42.000 Um, I have no masculine energy in my, in my, in my sphere, in my bubble. I don't, because I think I focused on men and just dick in general for a very long time. 0.96
00:03:53.000 And now I'm, I'm just going to get to the business. Um, I understand that the window, the percentage it's, it's, it's changed a lot from when I was 22. 0.66
00:04:02.000 So all I can do is kind of equip myself financially, take advantage of the opportunities I have now to set myself up because I can't rely on a man and come someone coming to save me.
00:04:14.000 I can only save myself now. So that's why dating is not a focal point, but I'm not like turning guys away that, that actually want to get to know me.
00:04:24.000 Like the real me, not just want to fuck me and say all the right things and fuck me. Cause I can see through that too. 0.98
00:04:29.000 So I just use discernment now where I'm like, no guys even really try to talk to me. Like, or I should say, um, no guys that, no, no, no, no.
00:04:39.000 No, no, no. Of course, of course guys. No, no, no, no. I'm saying, of course those guys in my DM, like random people, but guys that I would be interested in, they, there's really nobody trying to talk to me like that. And that's okay. That's fine.
00:04:50.000 Would you date a guy? That's a normal nine. Okay. Would you date a guy makes 40,000 per year? And he's not hot. He's just like, eh, all right. Average guy.
00:05:03.000 Average guy is a little, a little beer. He's like skinny, you know, little beer belly.
00:05:08.000 No.
00:05:09.000 No.
00:05:10.000 I take care of myself. I'm in the gym four to five times a week. Um, at whatever his salary is, to me, I feel like I still want to be attracted to the person that I'm with. And $45,000. Well, you could be in the gym. Gym membership's $20 a month.
00:05:24.000 So if I'm, again, I had a kid a year and a half ago and I look damn good. So it's like, I would want someone who takes care of their body. So the, the beer belly is where you lost me. It wasn't even really the money thing. It was like the attractiveness.
00:05:36.000 What if he was like dead in the face, but jacked? 40,000 a year.
00:05:41.000 No. I don't like what I'm looking at. And then like, especially too, as they get older, like, I like the salt and pepper. Like they get sexier. Like, I don't want to date someone that I'm not attracted to.
00:05:53.000 Me too. Would you date someone like 20, 30 years older? 30 years older.
00:06:01.000 He's salt and pepper and fine? Probably. He's okay.
00:06:07.000 Because it's just like, even when girls say they're like breaking down their standards, it's like, do we really?
00:06:12.000 I think I, I think I'm like, you know what percent of men most women find unattractive?
00:06:19.000 What?
00:06:20.000 Not, not just okay. Unattractive.
00:06:22.000 Okay. What?
00:06:23.000 80, you probably find 80% of men unattractive.
00:06:27.000 So even if like just, and that's why I say like, even if you find a guy attractive, like you just think he's fine.
00:06:32.000 That means other girls think he's fine. That's top 20% of men.
00:06:34.000 And it kind of puts us, and it kind of just puts us in the same predicament where it's like through our twenties, like this, this is what the guys are complaining about.
00:06:43.000 It's like, okay, through our twenties, we're going to sleep around with the rappers, the entertainers, and maybe like, you know, most girls, I would say, I know the manosphere says differently.
00:06:52.000 Don't, don't have access to the guys you would access to. Right.
00:06:55.000 But it could be like the town rapper, the town, like whatever it was. Right.
00:06:59.000 Yeah.
00:07:00.000 And those guys will never commit. And if they do commit, they'll probably cheat. And then we come at 30 and say, take me now, maybe with a kid from someone.
00:07:09.000 Yeah.
00:07:10.000 And it's like the guy comes in and feels like he's like settled for, because the guys you really wanted were in your twenties.
00:07:16.000 And it's kind of like what you're saying is kind of reiterating this because you just said now, like you don't have the guys you want in your DMs anymore.
00:07:23.000 Correct. But this is how it's meant to be because a lot of people have villainized me and I've played into that.
00:07:29.000 Actually, I want to say people have villainized me and I have villainized myself because it's like, well, instead of fighting against it and, you know, I don't know, trying to convince people I'm actually a good hearted person.
00:07:40.000 It's easier to just be the villain.
00:07:41.000 So I do feel like the villain element is a lot of, I would say more so what guys fear.
00:07:47.000 Right. Because they're thinking she's going to hurt me. She's going to write about me. She's going to this.
00:07:51.000 Um, so to be honest, I wasn't meant to be with any of those guys in my twenties. Like there, it wasn't a match.
00:07:59.000 Like there's nobody then that I'm like, I wish they would take me seriously now. No, like they, I like them the same reason they like me.
00:08:06.000 I'm trophy pussy to them. And they're basically trophy dick to me. We both got what we wanted. I mean, essentially we want to have sex. That worked. 1.00
00:08:14.000 I mean, yeah, you have sex and you maybe want to start being in a relationship, but you don't, I didn't fucking know them like that. 0.97
00:08:20.000 There's a lot of guys I didn't really know on that level to even, it makes sense. So it's not even like you were saying, um, I'm trying to think of the sentence you said before we started this conversation though. 0.97
00:08:32.000 Oh, this, this topic. Um, so it's not even that I'm like, Oh, I wish I had those options. It's just more so like that shit was shallow anyways.
00:08:41.000 Everything was shallow about it. Like he didn't really want to get to know me for me. 0.99
00:08:45.000 Yeah. But that's like the woman's point of view. You know what I mean? Like, but they didn't want to get, if they wanted to get to know me for me, it'd have been a little different. 0.98
00:08:54.000 No, I'm saying like from the men's point of view, it's going to be, and this is just, you know, again, what the guys are saying, but it's like, yeah, you made all those, like you let all those guys hit for free.
00:09:04.000 And now I got to do all this.
00:09:06.000 Well, it's not even, I don't even look at it as, well, you did it for free. Cause I'm not a prostitute. Like, and I'm not a glorified escort. 0.55
00:09:11.000 Right. And that's, that might not be how you look at it, but this is, this is, this is just like, this is how men see it. It's like, it's like, okay. Blessing.
00:09:21.000 Pretty sad. You have, you, you took your girl on dates, right? Yeah. How would you feel? How would you feel if you took her on, let's say five dates before you hit? I don't know what y'all did. I'm not. And then you found out that your Bob down the street hit without taking her on shit.
00:09:41.000 Like it, it hurts. It's like, it hurts the man's ego. As many of you know, I was just banned on Tik Tok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform. 1.00
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