She Got Kicked Out of the SHOW
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1 hour and 3 minutes
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186.38838
Summary
What's the definition of prejudice? What's the difference between a man and a woman? What are the benefits of having a man in your life? What does it mean to be a woman without a man? What do you need a man to do for you?
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The baby mother, divorcee, is lecturing me about marriage.
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It's like, the fat baby mom is going to talk to me about being married.
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Women that think they're better than men because they make more money.
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Because, just because it's like, I make a lot for a girl, right?
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But, well, I mean, I do well and I make more than a lot of men,
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but I'm not better than the guy that built the building.
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Because I wouldn't be able to do any of this without men.
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But it's like, we have made women's lives so comfortable that we don't realize we need men.
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I need a man to protect me if anyone breaks in.
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It's like, successful women cannot do what they do without men.
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And so, it irritates me to my core when we get to a certain point and then shit on them
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as a thank you because we couldn't get there in the first place.
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One example I see of this is like Chelsea Handler.
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You know, she's turned into like a man hater when she couldn't even do comedy without the microphone.
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She couldn't do comedy without Ticketmaster, which was invented by a man.
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No, don't come here because that's very condescending.
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Everything you've defined has nothing to do with this.
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You haven't given us the right definition every single time.
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Wait, I don't have so many different examples of definition.
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At least I'm saying with people, when it's all about peace, you don't try.
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I feel like you guys don't try and have a conversation.
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She yells over everybody and cries about disrep...
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The baby, the baby mother divorcee is lecturing me about marriage.
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It's like, the fat baby mom is going to talk to me about being married.
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Ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, please.
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If you want women to look good, ma'am, ma'am, ma'am.
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If you want women to look good, please, please just stop talking.
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I don't really, you know, I'm just trying to be, okay.
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Just please come sit down and be polite and have an adult conversation.
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Come sit down right here right now when I'm talking to you.
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The disrespect of how you talk to me now after I tell you to sit down.
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Yo, honestly, did you guys put up with this shit?
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I was, oh, I was talking to her, but I mean, you can, if you want to.
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I have a feeling the last woman will be standing today.
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You know, after say that the men wear violence, when women start to scream.
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I was just saying, if you want to sit in any of the front.
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So when women scream, men, he feel very bad because his ears, he cannot listen very high
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He wants immediately to stop it, to shut up it.
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If women want men to listen to her, you need to speak very calm and slowly.
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I'm going to go home and speak to my man really calm and gentle.
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I'm learning so much before I get divorced for the fourth time.
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So the first time, I always exaggerate my numbers, but the first time it was an arranged
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So it ended up in a divorce, but it was a marriage.
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The second one was my husband of nearly 20 years.
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My eldest is 18 and that lasted about 20 years and that just recently ended in divorce.
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Um, he was running the home and I was, I was, we took each other for granted.
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Um, I mean, I felt like there were three of us.
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And when I had the kids, I put on a lot of weight.
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Uh, I mean, double of what I am now, but I put on a lot of weight.
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Um, I let myself go, but he was a gentleman and you know, all he did was work, pay the
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I bought up the kids and, uh, one day I just got really insecure because he was speaking
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to somebody and she said, she's going to get liposuction in Turkey.
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And I think he was speaking with this woman too frequently.
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And I thought, Oh my goodness, I need to start losing some weight.
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So I attracted too much attention from outside and sorry, excuse me.
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Sadly, I think, um, our marriage deteriorated because of the weight loss issue.
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I think it would, I let other people into my home, into my life.
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I, I didn't because I was speaking with other people when I know I shouldn't have been.
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And I mean, it's, I actually appreciate you being honest about it.
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So, so, so you were speaking to other people and that kind of deteriorated the marriage.
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They want to suck your money out when they, when you do the civil ceremony, you pay for it.
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It's just, um, for me, it's a money making thing.
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And do you, do you, in hindsight, when men, men, a lot of times will say, if your girl starts losing weight, you should be worried.
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And, uh, just never forget, don't disrespect each other.
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You, I mean, I did it to, to try and keep my husband, to keep him entertained with me.
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If I could go back another 10 years, we should have done it together.
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It should have been something we did for ourselves.
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It just seems like when I hear the story and I've just done so many of these, it's like, I hear the stories of divorce.
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And I'm not, I don't mean this to like disrespect you, but I just, it just seems like this stuff can be worked out.
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We make the other person look bad and we don't take responsibility.
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So this is why I'm not out there to look, make any man feel or look bad.
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So she was like screaming at me about how unhappy I was.
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So almost you lost, you brought emotion into it too.
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And it's a very feminine thing to do to bring emotion into.
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I just think if women, you know, you're, if you want to insult me, I will insult you back.
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I think it comes with age, it comes with wisdom.
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And I think when somebody is saying something, you don't lower yourself.
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You don't behave like them because if you do, you're as bad as them.
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Technically, technically, I was just describing her as what she is based on her own.
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That's like saying, if a man punched me in the face, I shouldn't punch him back in the face.
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You can't, you can't come into someone's home, insult them.
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And then when they insult you back, you start saying, well, you shouldn't lower yourself to my level.
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When you've said leave, get out of my property.
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I want to hear more about your experience as a psychologist.
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I have two education, clinical medical psychologist, sexologist and family therapist.
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And I work, it was very funny when it's become to be stressed up, how immediately he changed
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If women will wake up every morning, your men with blue job goes, I promise you, it's
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your men, less wars, less problems, less conflict in this world.
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Very often when you start to fight, just make a sex.
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And after sex, a lot of conflicts will disappear.
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What do you, what do you see the difference between Russian women and Western women?
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I work with every world and, um, a lot of Europe.
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I left when I was a student and, uh, I always work on Europe and America.
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And, um, I noticed, but from my, for example, my mother lived with my father 45 years.
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And, uh, we continue to be always together and support each other.
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It's very normal from people who develop and mature.
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For me, not normal when people divorce and fight.
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And in my experience, you, my mother always respect my father, but always you oblige to respect.
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My father until now, take care about my mother, take her on holiday, my gifts, flowers.
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All my husband always take care about me until today.
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Make me gifts and take care about me because it's normal.
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I very respect my father and I will always appreciate him.
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He's not perfect, but it's my father and I always love him.
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I always love my ex-husband and father of my child always, forever.
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And always respect him and always only good words.
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And it's normal behavior when you are like this.
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In my business, I was in Forbes one of the most successful entrepreneurs in Bulgaria.
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Because most women that are actually successful and not-
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I know, but that's, that's, we will always acknowledge.
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Like I can always tell the like boss, babe, do it on my own.
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That mentality as a woman will get you nowhere in business.
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I am where I am at because I've listened to men smarter than me.
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You know, I, my first, I was many years in, until today in media business.
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And has a man like Larry King here in Bulgaria.
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He invited me and together with him, we make our TV show.
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It was a revolution because never people speak about sex so openly.
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And after him, I has many projects about coaching psychology.
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You cannot make successful business if not have men on your back.
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Women that think they're better than men because they make more money.
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Because, just because it's like, I make a lot for a girl, right?
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But, well, I mean, I, I do well and I make more than a lot of men, but I'm not better than the guy that built the building.
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Because I wouldn't be able to do any of this without men.
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But it's like, we have made women's lives so comfortable that we don't realize we need men.
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I need a man when they, to protect me if anyone breaks in.
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It's like the re successful women cannot do what they do without men.
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And so it irritates me to my core when we get to a certain point and then shit on them as a thank you because we couldn't get there in the first place.
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One example I see of this is like Chelsea Handler.
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You know, she, she's turned into like a man hater when she couldn't even do comedy without the microphone.
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She couldn't do comedy without Ticketmaster, which was invented by a man.
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Like we cannot work in isolation and say, is it working?
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So having six brothers and around men all my life, like, you know, even now when I'm single, I've got so many men friends and there are things in my house.
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Like if the balcony is changing or that fridge thing has broken.
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I always say, Oh, I will wish there's a man there or somebody or I call a man to come and do the job.
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And definitely this world can't, you know, work without them.
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And equally, like, you know, for us women, definitely there is like an element of they bring protection.
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They are more stronger, which I feel like even in my religion, if you look at Muslim as a religion, we pray behind men.
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And I love that about it because there is, there is a sense of like security.
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I, I have that, you know, I have that thing of, it gives you strength, actually.
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Like, you know, so there is no going back about a woman can, no, we can't.
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And the crazy thing in all of history, we have not needed women in the workforce.
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We have not, I'm not saying there are not exceptions.
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There are, but as a whole, we have not needed them.
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I think, obviously, because we, it's, it's just the mindset has changed too.
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Um, we, we like a lot of people say to me, you're very strong woman and you're very powerful
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But it's just the more people say that to me, you're very strong.
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The more I get labeled as somebody, oh, a man doesn't need to take care of.
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In fact, in my last relationship, I felt like that's what happened that he perceived me
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as so strong that he's just like, you don't need me.
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And I'm like, I do like, but it's just the way positioning off.
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I'm living on my own, you know, that kind of thing.
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And it's, it's, it's like, it's that perception.
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How do you, my question is how, as a woman, you balance it all that you can still go out,
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I, I fell into from, and then I started loving finance and numbers and I'm passionate about it to make a difference at workplace, etc.
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Um, but I don't necessarily call myself, uh, I'm, I'm a career woman.
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I would love to be at home and be someone's wise and serve him.
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That's what I did for 18 years with the men I was with.
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There was nothing there in the sense of, I don't, I don't know.
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I think what happened, he told culture, isn't it?
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I think, I think what happened and what he shared,
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and what he shared with me in the end was, um, why he didn't communicate with me from,
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from literally the wedding night is he thought he's bringing a girl from,
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I think he wasn't ready to get married and he was pushed into it because they wanted the younger brother to get married.
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So he married a girl from Pakistan who, uh, couldn't even wear it because he wanted me to wear heels to fly back here.
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Like, you know, on my plane journey back and my father-in-law had the keys for the, uh, suitcase and bags.
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And I did go to my father-in-law and I said, can I have, so I can take the heels out?
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So this man, he decided not to talk to me on the whole plane journey.
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And at that time I realized I'm married a complete stranger.
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He's not even talking to me and I'm going to his country.
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So like in 18, I just thought you didn't have a conversation in 18 years.
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Here is this, nothing, nothing about future, nothing.
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That's what, what made me like, you know, I got myself busy.
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The only reason is the story doesn't make sense.
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But what he told me in the end was his words were, um, I married a girl from a village and you don't know how to have a conversation is his sentence.
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I still think he was, he's a great human being because he didn't do anything wrong in the sense of, he didn't go and cheated on me.
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He didn't, he wasn't a drinker, nothing like that.
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But I think, um, there was a communication gap between us and I wasn't like how I'm talking today.
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I was a very quiet, I actually enjoy when he comes home, get the dinner ready.
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Even like hearing this, I just don't hear a real reason for divorce.
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It was, it was more of a, um, when I married him, uh, he was in financial debt and he keep getting himself into financial debt.
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He, he, he, he was really into branded stuff and then he loses contract and I always go and support him.
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So it was, it was keep, I keep building him and it was keep going down and I think it has an impact on me.
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Um, and I then made a decision and I said, it's not healthy for him.
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Do you know what, do you know what confuses me?
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Cause like, wouldn't it still be more expensive?
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And like a lot of times it just doesn't make sense to me.
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It is not like I have tried to like five years.
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And I even promised his mother once he's never coming back.
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But having two kids and him, three of them with financial pressures.
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I felt like I broke down at that stage and I said, I can't do this anymore.
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And then we're going to react to a video, which I wanted to do earlier.
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But you know, this is conversation got a little derailed.
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I used to think Myron was really harsh on the women.
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But he does such a great job of like keeping everyone in line.
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I mean, I would say my experience on fresh and fit.
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And then my experience here with you, you and Myron have a lot in common.
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I think you guys, the way you are, you both, you know, run a really clean operation.
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He does such a good job of like, like, he does such a good job of not letting people like over
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Like, that whole thing would not have gone on like half as long if he was, you know what
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We can, we can do that one and then the, um, the Joe, the Lolo Jones or whatever second,
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So take, turn the sound off of the video, please.
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Sometimes working, cooking, cleaning and paying the bills, making sure everyone has everything
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So my question is, do single mothers deserve sympathy?
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When you're single mother question, why you're single?
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If you have two hands, two legs, go out, meet at the moment has so many single men's,
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It means that every day, some single men go on the street, on the gym.
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And when you need to choose, you need to have not one man, minimum five.
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You don't need to sleep with them, but you need to communicate and to understand what
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If you take first, you will keep him and you will very afraid to lost him.
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And if you make a lot of mistakes, you need to have around you five men.
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To meet, to communicate, to receive flowers and to ask about help.
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A single mom doesn't require sympathy because she chooses to be in that position.
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And I think all she needs is empowerment, but definitely not sympathy because it makes
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Like, you know, to be that human being, like we need to take responsibility of what we are
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It's like when we signed that marriage certificate.
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I was the one who signed that marriage certificate.
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Although it was an arranged marriage, but nobody put gun on my face.
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I was the one I in fact went to my grandma inside because they are the one who arranged
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And I said, no, make sure you don't feel sorry or feel bad for me because I was the one.
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It was very clear my choice, because if I have said no in that moment and didn't marry
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him, I would have been single and gone somewhere else.
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I choose him and I had the choice regardless of how much I was developed, not developed,
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And I think sympathizing makes it worse for us because then we indulge in this emotion
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and we don't even do the basic things we need to do, you know, to make our life better.
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You're actually making women weaker by sympathizing with them.
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I lived with a single mother for a while and my own mother, she really worked hard.
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And I have a great wife who wakes up two, three o'clock in the morning to take care of
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My daughter screams and she'll wake up at like six.
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But I couldn't imagine if she didn't have a husband and if I wasn't there and and she was
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alone having to wake up at night and then also work.
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I mean, when your baby's crying, doesn't matter how high your IQ is, how much money you got,
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The mother has the warmth of her, of her, of her breast milk.
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And the baby really only wants that breast milk from the mother.
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I can't, I, if I hold my daughter at 3am, she's still going to scream.
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But if my, if my wife holds her, she can calm her down.
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And that's when you see the superpower of women.
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So I actually have zero sympathy for single mothers.
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In general, not your mom, you know, I'm sure she's a nice lady.
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But, but, but it's like, I, I, because the way I think is you always have a choice as
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Some men will be single forever and 40, only 40% of men have reproduced historically.
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So now it's like me, if you're born with all this beauty and value and you pick poorly,
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Well, where is the, and even single mothers, there's always a simp.
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I am empathetic, but I will, I will say, I think what you said is a good point.
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I respect the commitment level of a woman who's single or a father who's single.
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If you're a father or a mother, it doesn't matter.
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I really believe in the traditional marriage and a man, you know, it's just such a shame
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that in the 36 hours I've been here in London, I see all this, we're talking about this.
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I see all this advertisement about what represents London.
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And out of those four pictures, two of them are pictures of homosexuality.
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But I didn't see one picture of like a 40 year old man, Muslim, Christian, doesn't matter,
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Just a traditional man with a wife and like two kids sitting at the park.
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I found that I find that really offensive, actually, as a married man, as a father who
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has faith, I find it offensive that we're being ignored from society.
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And most men that are happy with the highest degree of happiness, I think, are the ones,
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at least in my own life that I know this is anecdotal, but are married men.
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I couldn't imagine waking up and not having them.
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But wouldn't you want to promote instead of 25 gay flags?
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But wouldn't it be amazing if we had one advertisement in London, one advert here in London or one advertisement
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in Miami, just showed me a fucking billboard with a man who's at the park with his wife
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When I was growing up, I would see stuff like that.
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Now I come to London or you go to New York, you just see, you know, the gay flag, the trans
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And the crazy thing is most gay people I know don't want this shit pushed unless they're
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There's a lot of, there's a lot of base people that are gay and they're not with all the,
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My, my gay, my, my gay therapist was, who I have a lot of love for.
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He said, when the gay, first it was about being gay and having gay rights.
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But then they began pushing the trans stuff and the trans stuff gets even darker because
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what they're doing is they're trying to show that they're changing the definition of what
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And when you start doing that 5, 10, 15 years from now, we're going to start having robots.
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And then you're just talking about what businesses will do with robots, the displacement of jobs.
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And it really gets far, far darker than just, Oh, that's a trend.
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We're just changing the definition of a human altogether at this point.
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I mean, I've seen, we were just talking about this earlier.
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Like when I saw the dudes in the woman's locker room at my school, I was like, this is getting too far.
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And, and the crazy thing is these people know that this isn't right.
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They know that men are men and women are women, but they still, it's like, they pretend for what?
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I would be really surprised if anyone in the chat is a father and, and the father says, and has a daughter.
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And says, I would like my 13 year old daughter to go to a woman's public bathroom and men that are Tran can go in there.
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And they're willing to have their daughter risk getting graped.
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Because I'll tell you as a father right now, I wouldn't feel comfortable with that degeneracy.
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In any other country you go around the world, you go to Africa, you go to Middle East, you go to Asia, you go to Russia.
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You think they're going to let a man dress as a woman and go on the same bathroom as your 12 year old daughter.
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It's like, if they're willing to chop their off, what are they going to do to me?
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I say this as a father and I can't, and I find it really sad that fathers like me, 42 year old fathers and married men like me are not seen in advertisements in Western society.
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Like we're not, we're, we're, we're unusual because we're not gay and trans.
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But can we get at least one picture of a traditional man?
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Maybe you see one man married with kids at the park in an advertisement.
00:37:39.000
Well, and the crazy thing is when they do advert, like when they do depict a picture perfect, like family,
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They always like Homer Simpson, a bumbling idiot.
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And then they, that's always how even family guy, same thing, overweight, idiot.
00:38:01.000
It's, it's, it's sort of like even the Hollywood movies, man.
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Like, and like, like you'll see Vikings and the Viking is like an African guy.
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Like, like the, it's, it's like, or like, you know, James Bond will become a woman.
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Like we're just changing, like all of these things to match certain.
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Scarlett Johansson being in the Avengers or whatever the hell superhero movie she played in is offensive.
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And you're going to put this petite five, two, five, three chick as the lead in the action
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I'm like, this is, I was offended as an athlete.
00:39:03.000
I would have, I would have taken Riley Gaines over Scarlett Johansson.
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Do you think I'm single mothers deserve sympathy?
00:39:12.000
Um, it's interesting because there's four women here.
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And we've all said, no, I, I don't think so either.
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They, well, I think if the other half of the panel was still here, we would have had mixed.
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I think, um, women when they're divorced and they decide to be single mothers and do everything
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Um, when the kids are at school, I think they should be going to the gym and making themselves
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look presentable, like at an appropriate weight, look after yourself inside out and go out with
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your friends, make some time for yourself, learn to love yourself, work on yourself.
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But I think it's really important that once they've found that self love and respect, self
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And yeah, it's, it's a choice to stay at home and stay in this vicious circle of work, school run.
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I want to, I want to hear from, okay, since we have three divorce.
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The lady in the red, she did say you should have five men around you that I wholly disagree
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If she had four other men that were running around, around her.
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And if he doesn't find out, then where is the commitment already?
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You've got four men that the first man doesn't know about.
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I wouldn't, if I, if I was a man and I had, I was interested in a woman.
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And then I found out she was even speaking or going on a date with four other men.
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If a woman can't respect herself, she would never get respect anywhere else.
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I mean, I think we usually women mean to sleep with them, but you're saying don't sleep with them.
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You don't think that's a bit disrespectful to the, like, if one guy, and you could tell me why you don't think this, but like, if one guy is going to take you seriously and then he finds out you're talking to four other men.
00:41:55.000
You know, if I'm not you 22 years psychotherapist and I make so many marriage of my clients, I make amazing marriage and so many children we have in this world.
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They go one dinner and she want to saw him attention.
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She never was in a big relationship many years.
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She been in a relationship, but one year she was out.
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I told you, you need to have five because if you have other four, you will call somebody just to drink a coffee.
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In my opinion, a real man doesn't want a woman like that.
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A real man, if he exists, he would not want a woman.
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He would not want his woman speaking to another guy.
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That's the kind of a man who would allow a woman to do that because he's not serious about her.
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He will just F her and leave her and drain her and rinse her and waste her time.
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I have my result and I know how to marry people and how many marriage humans.
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Real people will marry, real women will marry themselves.
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But a real woman and a real man, they don't really need, I think, anyone's intervention.
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Except maybe just an intro at a party or something.
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I know because on my marriage, when I work, I work from result.
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And when clients to me, they say, I want to marry and my work to help my client married.
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And after they invite me to be the goddess mother from children.
00:44:37.000
And imagine like dating apps aren't the best place for women.
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So based on your practice, I'd imagine like women swipe too high on dating apps because we only swipe right 5% of the time.
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So it's like if you go on a date with a guy from a dating app, he's probably dating like.
00:45:07.000
But you need to do something to show me that you want to be with me.
00:45:11.000
Because today, men go with women in park even don't give one rose.
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Today, men very often go to meeting because I work every day with dating in UK.
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And men even go with not clean clothes, not iron clothes.
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And men come and say, do you want to go to my room?
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A real man, you don't have to say, can you give me a rose?
00:45:42.000
Well, I don't, I don't know if a real man, like.
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I don't even want to talk about real versus not.
00:45:50.000
But my thing is, I think it speaks to the quality of the women, though.
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And so it's like, obviously, if the women are lower quality than ever before, the men are going to treat them traditionally.
00:45:59.000
Because it's like, even if the 42 year old, why would she get a traditional outcome if she's a modern chick?
00:46:04.000
I work very often with very successful women in Korea.
00:46:08.000
But they have very low level of self-confidence as women.
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Because, for example, her mother always told her, you are very ugly.
00:46:20.000
She can be financial director in big company, a lawyer.
00:46:23.000
But when men stay to her, she don't know how to be a woman.
00:46:27.000
But the men, you know men don't care about your career, though.
00:46:35.000
He doesn't care how many education you have and if you have a PhD.
00:46:39.000
But I really think, I don't find that women are, maybe it's in different countries, I don't know.
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I find that they have too high of standards, not too low.
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Because it's like, they find 80% of men is ugly.
00:46:53.000
So that means, that means they're only going for...
00:47:07.000
And I agree with you, but I'm saying in the West, that's how we select typically.
00:47:13.000
And we are women sometimes going to choose his good looking.
00:47:24.000
He said to me, if I feel that woman catch up on me, I don't think just think of her.
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And if I feel that I have competitors, it's activate me.
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Because I know that she has another four who drink coffee, play tennis.
00:47:47.000
If men of not, if female men, of course, he will go far away.
00:47:55.000
And really like, and you are very right, need to be high level of woman.
00:48:15.000
Like, I almost think that's like disrespectful to a guy.
00:48:17.000
I think what she's trying to say there, which I think I'm getting her point.
00:48:30.000
It's more to do with the development for a woman.
00:48:33.000
You're not attached to that one person that you jump to it and put all like it.
00:48:40.000
Don't you think that's what's like beautiful about being a woman though, is you get attached.
00:48:46.000
If there's no attachment, you're going to leave that guy with a click of a finger.
00:48:52.000
But what, what do you mention is the first guy left her after sleeping with her instantly.
00:49:10.000
When she talks to four, five men, but from a respectful place, she's not being like flirty
00:49:19.000
She's developing this quality to bring boundaries for herself.
00:49:24.000
But I'm just, I'm just thinking if you're talking to five men, you still have a favorite.
00:49:30.000
You have, you have friends and brothers and dads and stepdads and whatever to do that
00:49:53.000
For example, if I were to say all women who are allowed and obnoxious like you usually
00:50:08.000
I think people get divorced for different reasons, different reasons.
00:50:23.000
But I also think a woman has the power to develop herself.
00:50:28.000
Look, it's like, how do you know to swim until you go in the water?
00:50:33.000
So you figure out your boundaries, your respect.
00:50:40.000
But you're also then getting awareness of, okay, there is different variety of mans.
00:50:56.000
Like, so I'm not even discrediting and I'm just, but I'm just, wait, wait.
00:51:00.000
So I'm just thinking like, that's just sounds like more for traditional women, which don't really exist anymore.
00:51:06.000
Like that sounds like more traditional courting.
00:51:18.000
I believe that men need to be with a woman and I cannot without men.
00:51:21.000
I drive a car, but I prefer my partner always to drive a car.
00:51:36.000
You don't social place because you need to understand what you want.
00:51:40.000
When you're divorced, when you're single, you don't know.
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If you don't communicate with different type of people, different age, different culture, how you can know?
00:51:47.000
And if you take the first thing, you do the same mistake because you already want attention.
00:51:56.000
The five men speak to at the same time, but don't sleep with them.
00:52:00.000
Do you think that's like, do you think that's disrespectful?
00:52:03.000
If you were like courting a girl and she was talking to five other guys at the same time?
00:52:07.000
I struggled with jealousy almost my entire life.
00:52:12.000
And I finally realized, and this is especially if you're a man who struggles with jealousy the way I did.
00:52:24.000
And it wasn't until I actually met my wife that I realized I couldn't stop a woman from lying and cheating to me.
00:52:35.000
So I realized if you can't control a woman, just relax and be confident.
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And if she fucks around on you, that's her loss.
00:52:44.000
Now, one more thing I want to say, I trust my wife.
00:52:47.000
I also think that you can stop that problem by just meeting a woman who has those values.
00:52:53.000
I'd never have to worry about my, I don't even care about going through my wife's phone, but if I wanted to, I could.
00:53:01.000
If I wanted to go through my wife's phone, I could.
00:53:09.000
And I get really hurt by that because I feel like, why don't you trust me?
00:53:17.000
But, you know, I had to, I had to, you don't want to live a life where you're fucking going crazy.
00:53:25.000
Wondering is your woman getting fucked by, you know, some big guy.
00:53:29.000
No, but I'm just asking, like, if you found out a girl was doing what she, yeah.
00:53:33.000
But to answer your question, I wouldn't deal with it.
00:53:36.000
There's no fucking way I would be with a woman.
00:53:39.000
And she, and I'm seeing, she's talking to Johnny at 2am, he, he, he on text message.
00:53:47.000
You know, I think, are there men though, that would go along with what she's saying?
00:53:54.000
But what she's saying is advocating on women's behalf.
00:54:07.000
Have some fucking self-respect that if a woman behaves like that, you drop the hoe.
00:54:14.000
So what my question here is like, when you're at the very start of the relationship where
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you just started saying hello to four or five different people, and then somebody come forward
00:54:29.000
Then you drop all the other men and then you're focusing on that person.
00:54:33.000
When you're in relationship, you stay monogamic.
00:54:36.000
But before to be in monogamic relationship, partner needs to show you, I want to be with
00:54:46.000
Especially the point you raised about a woman chooses like, you know, it's her decision
00:54:54.000
Now, the very first guy that came into your life.
00:54:57.000
And if you don't give yourself that choice of actually for that, you have to go out and
00:55:07.000
If I am giving somebody this idea of I'm in relationship with you and I'm talking to
00:55:16.000
Like, I just think if you're talking, like, this is just my opinion, but I think if you're
00:55:19.000
talking to five guys, like, I don't know how you keep track of that.
00:55:25.000
It just seems to be like taking attention from men to feel your ego.
00:55:30.000
You know, I have a lot of single moms which I married and I help them.
00:55:44.000
And I told her, go up and speak with minimum five men.
00:56:00.000
Now already, she's married 10 years and guy amazing.
00:56:06.000
She's looking and a very, very big successful man.
00:56:21.000
I'll give you a great example of misandry in pop culture in America.
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I'm not going to say her name so the video doesn't get pulled down.
00:56:30.000
She made a video talking about how she saved a lot of money going on a date like six nights a week.
00:56:38.000
Basically, she would go with a different guy every night.
00:56:41.000
And she was giving this as a personal finance hack.
00:56:55.000
But if you see a video of like, let's say, Sneeko, Tristan Tate, myself, other guys, that's talking about you should have some self-respect for yourself.
00:57:11.000
I just think a lot of times, like men, like, I don't know.
00:57:17.000
I would just be really frustrated if I, like, if I was a dude and I'm paying for this girl's dinner, she's talking to five other dudes or 10, you know?
00:57:24.000
I mean, this, this, this influencer was literally celebrating.
00:57:28.000
You don't go to a meeting and say, hello, I have five minutes to speak.
00:57:44.000
He don't take the first woman which you see on Tinder and to marry her.
00:57:48.000
Yeah, but the difference with men is that while men are doing that, they are paying for it through their pockets.
00:57:58.000
Most of the time, women are not going on dates paying for the dates.
00:58:06.000
I mean, literally this girl, anyone can fact check me.
00:58:12.000
You can go on New York Post and look at the article they wrote about this influencer.
00:58:16.000
Not a comedy influencer, a finance influencer saying how she's encouraging women basically to go on dates with men.
00:58:31.000
Go home and do that six nights a week to save money.
00:58:34.000
And she's being celebrated in the media and on TikTok and she's verified.
00:58:40.000
But then if I say something about men having some self-respect for themselves or other creators like Sneeko, Tristan Tate, they're all banned.
00:58:54.000
No, that that is abuse of, you know, everything.
00:59:08.000
It was over half of women have admitted to going on a date with a guy for dinner.
00:59:15.000
I'm not a feminist, but I am a human rights activist.
00:59:18.000
It's not about like women being any, you know, like, but there is, it's a 21st century and there's equality.
00:59:29.000
And the reality is a lot of women would accept dates from men that they know.
00:59:34.000
No, a lot of women would accept dates from men that they already know they are not going to want to, for that, after that date, they're probably not going to want to see them again.
00:59:45.000
If you know you're clear and you're doing this, that's, I totally agree with you.
00:59:48.000
But the point I have to make is that, that is very common.
00:59:58.000
But right now today, it's like you said, it's celebrated on TikTok.
01:00:04.000
She can come on here or other platforms and say this, nobody's going to bat an eye.
01:00:08.000
But if guys say to spin plates, everybody freaks out.
01:00:12.000
If they say to sleep with multiple women, talk to as many women as possible, everybody freaks out.
01:00:18.000
And they, even if the women agree to it, like, I mean, how often will, I just reacted to a video of like this Christian person, basically like, I forgot her name, but she was like shaming, you know, Justin Waller.
01:00:31.000
Cause Jay Waller was saying, like basically the not, he does the non-monogamy stuff or he talks about it.
01:00:39.000
But it's like, it's just interesting how it's like women can talk about spinning plates and it's fine.
01:00:44.000
But if men talk about spinning plates, it's not.
01:00:49.000
I suppose where it started from is to protect women, but it has gone the other side extreme.
01:00:57.000
But the question is like, what about all the men giving her attention?
01:01:01.000
So I know like in Indian culture, there is, there is now a thing because in India, women get a lot of power comparing to men.
01:01:10.000
So it's like, woman has right, men has to chase women.
01:01:13.000
Like this is like a done thing, like around their beauty, etc.
01:01:17.000
And I've met men who was really struggle with that concept.
01:01:22.000
And they says, you know, if you divorce them, you have to give them money.
01:01:27.000
They are in high five jobs and they run the shows and they really, they really struggle.
01:01:33.000
Men really struggle and have huge fear around it.
01:01:41.000
It needs to be spoken about, like, you know, it needs to be given equal importance to what women suffer.
01:01:48.000
Sometimes women abuse, not sometimes, sounds like it a lot of the time they do.
01:01:57.000
I always like it, it burns my blood when people say, oh, it's the men who is at fault kind of thing.
01:02:04.000
And I'm like, no, my point is the women have all the choice.
01:02:08.000
Like, because we are born with value, we have all the choice.
01:02:15.000
And so that's why like with women, it's like, I kind of don't have any sympathy for your lot in life.
01:02:21.000
Every, everything, everything you do in life, I just think is your own fault.
01:02:25.000
And I think that a lot of times women aren't aware of how hard dating is for men.
01:02:32.000
I think where I give the, see the difference is women are very vocal, emotional.
01:02:42.000
We love to bitch and moan about how hard dating is.
01:02:51.000
Like we just love, I mean, even in this whole thing, like she, they're yelling at me for kicking them out.