She Got Rejected and This Is How She Dealt With It
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about rejection and how to deal with it. Have you ever been rejected by a guy? Have you approached a guy and have you been rejected? How do you deal with rejection?
Transcript
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Yeah, and my advice for guys, because I know that's the question, is don't listen to women.
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Personally, I don't know what I want from a man.
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Go and find someone that inspires you, a man that really have that perfect relationship.
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There's so many coaches out there coaching you about relationship, but they're not in one.
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Go and find a relationship that inspires you and get his advice.
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He will be able to open his heart and share his advice with you.
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So, question for the women. Have you ever approached a guy, and have you ever been rejected?
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Oh, you've never been rejected. Have you approached?
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It's just when I open up and say what I want for my future, and what I, like, for example, that I want to be married, and I want to have a family.
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Well, not at a bar. Not at a bar and say, oh, I want to get married now.
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No, so I'm talking about, like, approaching a guy, like, cold approach.
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Okay, what about you? Have you ever cold approached?
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I would know. I don't know. I don't think so. No.
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And what about you? Have you ever approached a guy?
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Oh, I remember, like, once I was, like, in the grocery, there was this really hot guy.
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No, it was, like, my type, like this. And then I was, like, oh, my God. But I was, like,
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you know, it was, like, civil engineer working on site construction. So, like, almost, like,
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the majority of my time, I wasn't, like, dressed up. I wasn't, like, cute. It was, like,
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with boots, like, jeans, like, you know? And then, like, I came up to him and he said,
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oh, I'm sorry, I'm married. And I said, okay. Oh, but he's married. That's good.
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Yeah, but it happens. And I think, like, when I was younger, too, like, I don't know. I think
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getting rejected is, like, part of life. Yeah. And it is.
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I'm curious from the guys. Is there a rejection that was, like, your worst rejection that you
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Well, I've called the push, like, probably tens of thousands of times. But, you know, every
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now and then, there'll be a girl that just tells you to fuck off or, like, tries to insult
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you personally or something like that. And that can hurt sometimes, right? You get over
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that. Like, you just learn that it's going to happen sometimes. But especially for, like,
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clients that aren't used to approaching, if they hear something that early on where the
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person says, like, oh, no, I don't like you because of this and this, that sticks in their
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head. And they think every girl thinks that. And it can be, like, debilitating. And that can
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I think, for me, the worst approach, rejections I can remember is when they don't say anything.
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No, they look at you, like, how dare you even think you have what it takes to come up
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to me. And they don't say it. It's just everything in the eyes is saying that. And you feel like
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Some girls, they don't hear you, too. Like, they just stand there.
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But it'd be nice if they're pretending they don't hear you.
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But the ones that heard you and they look at you like, they almost insult you that you
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That happened to me, like, two days ago with a girl, okay? I just was complimenting her outfit.
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I was like, oh my gosh, that's so cute. She just looked at me.
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And I know she heard me. And then she just, like, kept, like, because I was sitting at,
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like, a table bar. You know what I mean? And she just kept, she just, like, looked the other
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way. Okay, then, then I go to this other place, right? And she's there. And then she starts
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talking to me. And she's like, can you take my Instagram picture? I'm like, bitch.
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So I feel you. That was hard. But that was when I was young. Now I'm like, I'm sad.
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It becomes almost, like, funny, though. Like, in the beginning, like, if a girl would ignore
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her, I'd be like, oh my God. Like, I'm horrible. But now, like, if I go out to a bar and I'm
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like, yeah, I want to meet you real quick. And the girl's just, like, pretending she isn't
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here, I'll be like, I know you're hearing me. Can I just talk to her a sec? And if they're
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still not responsive, then I'll just walk away. You know, I just walk away right away.
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But it doesn't even register. Yeah, you get to the point. I mean, if I was single as
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well, it's like, you just don't care. Yeah. And it's almost like, it's almost like funny
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to you. You're like, look at this. Okay. The chat is saying, tell me you didn't take
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your picture. I did. I'm not even going to lie. Social pressure. Wow. I did. I was just
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like, what? Because I was so confused because she just handed me her phone and then she starts
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like doing these poses. Was it a half-assed one? No, it was a full Instagram. It was in a
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restaurant. So it was just like, she's in a restaurant. The servers are walking by
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and she's just like doing these full out, like, poses. And you were taking pictures and
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she was approving them or not. Yeah. Again. No, no. It was just, because I was kind of
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confused. Did you ask her why she ignored it before or no? No. That's even worse. I was
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just kind of taken aback, to be honest. I was just like, is this what men go through?
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That is what men go through. Yeah. That's what men go through. I feel like I'm a part
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of this. You had one minute of a lifetime for so many men. Yeah. Yeah. I was like, I don't
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like this. Look at that woman that became a man for a bit. Wasn't it? The story where
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she became a man for a bit and committed suicide. She unalived herself, as they say. Yeah.
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And she was only a man for a short time. Well, I don't think most women, like, I don't think
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we really notice the privilege we're given in society just from being young women where we're
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treated better by people. And the first time this happened to me, I worked in a sales job
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and I was the only girl in the office. And people would always help me with whatever I
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wanted. You know what I mean? Yeah. And all the guys around me would be like, oh, it's
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because you're a girl. It's because you're a girl. And I was like, no, it's because I'm
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so bubbly and I work hard. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And then I found out it was, in fact, because
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I was a girl. Because I feel like, not even in, like, a romantic way, but I think that men
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just have more of an inclination to, like, help women. Yeah. It's more fun than helping
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a guy. What? It's more fun than helping a guy. Yeah. Yeah. Even if it's not, like...
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It also goes the other way, though, because then there's also a sense of not taking women
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as seriously as well. So it flips, doesn't it? I've never, like, I've never felt that was
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an issue, to be honest. And I've worked in, like, predominantly male-dominated fields.
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I think it's an advantage, not a disadvantage. Yeah. But I think you've probably learned how
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to, you know, you're a powerful woman, so you've learned how to... I'm the same. I
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will always circumnavigate whatever, you know, limitations based on me. As a black man, for
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instance, I don't care. Yeah. But some people don't learn that skill, so they actually internalize
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I'm not enough in some ways, in some ways. No, I think it's an excuse. I think there's
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zero limitations as a woman. Like, zero. None. Unless it's, like, a strength thing. I agree.
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I'm not going to lie. Yeah. I feel like the girls that whine about going to corporate and
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having a hard time, like, I just think it's an excuse. They're just big whiners.
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I don't think so, Pearl. I have to say, there is. Listen, there's... Women do get treated
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by compassion. People help them out. But there's also the view of, like, a woman is weaker
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than a man. And there's nothing wrong with that. Like, physically, a woman is weaker than
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a man. But if a woman's trying to get some level of finances or authority, she will definitely
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get a backlash of, like, you're a woman, you should... I disagree. I think there's quotas
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for women. I think women get put in positions they shouldn't be in all the time.
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What do you mean? Like, I feel like women get put in positions they're actually not qualified
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for and they're not the best person for the job because of quotas and diversity hires.
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Yeah, some. Some. 100%. That's for sure. That does happen. That's for sure.
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But there are times, I think, where women or people of colour do have to prove themselves
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more in order to be taken seriously. Yes. No, I just think, as for women, in my experience,
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I don't think there's any disadvantage. And most of the girls I know that complain about
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it are just kind of lazy, to be honest. I don't agree with you, Pearl. I get you. But I don't
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agree with you, given that I'm with my partner. And sometimes I go for what he's going for.
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I put my hands up. I don't speak as perfect English and I'm not intelligent as much as
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he is. But there's a lot of positions that he gets picked when I don't.
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Maybe he's just better. He is. Unfortunately, yes. That's right. But there's sometimes when
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they give him chances, but give me a chance to just prove that I'm better. Or maybe I'm
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equal in some. There is a lot of places that I'm quite equal. But I feel like it's like a
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mindset thing. Like, if I get passed up for a job with a dude, like, I'm not going to
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think it's because of my gender. I'm going to think it's because I'm not good enough.
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Yeah, but that's what I mean. There's two different things at play.
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