JustPearlyThings - August 18, 2023


She Got ROASTED


Episode Stats

Length

50 minutes

Words per Minute

218.72215

Word Count

11,128

Sentence Count

1,226

Misogynist Sentences

153

Hate Speech Sentences

103


Summary

In this episode, we talk about dating in your 20 s, 30 s, 40 s, 50 s, and even 60 s. We also talk about how to answer the question, "Do you have a girlfriend or not?" and how to deal with a guy who wants to know if you are in a relationship.


Transcript

00:00:00.140 Name, age, relationship status.
00:00:02.240 My relationship status, it depends on who's asking.
00:00:05.300 Okay, wait, I need to break that down.
00:00:07.940 Why do we like that?
00:00:09.000 So are you, are you like, are you, okay,
00:00:12.120 so are you with someone, like someone you like?
00:00:15.840 No, it literally just depends on who's asking.
00:00:18.220 Speak to them.
00:00:18.800 Well, oh, sorry.
00:00:19.720 Well, I'm just wondering if you have a boyfriend or not.
00:00:22.260 It literally depends on who's asking.
00:00:24.020 Okay, so if an ugly guy asks, you have a boyfriend.
00:00:27.100 If a handsome guy asks, you don't.
00:00:28.980 Exactly.
00:00:30.000 And either one is kind of just like, whatever it is, it is.
00:00:33.660 Okay, do you think that'd be a little confusing for a guy?
00:00:37.440 Yeah, but that doesn't matter.
00:00:38.920 That's up to me.
00:00:39.840 Okay, well, I know it's up to you, but I'm just wondering, like.
00:00:43.380 Yeah.
00:00:43.680 You know, because if a guy, if a guy said, if I said,
00:00:45.700 do you have a girlfriend?
00:00:46.500 And he's like, depends who's asking.
00:00:47.860 I'm like, do you have a girlfriend?
00:00:50.280 No, of course.
00:00:51.280 You're going to get, like, irritated with it,
00:00:53.020 but at the same time, that's my business.
00:00:55.180 And if you're not doing anything to court me
00:00:57.180 to get in that situation, then I don't owe you any explanation.
00:00:59.940 I just wonder why, as women, we have these confusing answers
00:01:03.040 instead of just, like, answering questions directly.
00:01:05.940 Because guys do.
00:01:07.260 All the time.
00:01:07.960 I really don't think that's true.
00:01:09.600 They do.
00:01:10.000 Because I've done hundreds of these shows,
00:01:12.460 and I've never had a guy give me an answer like that.
00:01:16.360 It's either single, taken.
00:01:18.040 Sometimes they might say I'm seeing someone,
00:01:20.360 but, like, it's very, a lot more clear than the women in general.
00:01:23.820 I haven't done hundreds of these shows,
00:01:25.540 but I've done thousands of people approaching me.
00:01:28.000 Okay.
00:01:28.420 And that's the thing.
00:01:29.380 And the men.
00:01:29.980 So what are the answers the men usually give?
00:01:32.200 Like, a man, when they're, like, coming for me,
00:01:34.560 I'm just like, do you have anybody at home?
00:01:36.880 Well, baby, we ain't even talking about that right now.
00:01:39.540 That's actually true.
00:01:40.380 I've heard that before.
00:01:41.260 I actually have.
00:01:43.360 So, yes, they do.
00:01:46.200 Yeah.
00:01:46.840 But it's like, I can't do it, too.
00:01:48.580 So, like, I'm one of those people,
00:01:50.020 if you can do it, I can do it, too.
00:01:51.700 Well, yeah, but then you're trying to be a guy.
00:01:54.240 No, I'm not trying to be a guy.
00:01:55.780 I'm just trying to have an even platform.
00:01:57.580 That's the problem, is a lot of people try to think
00:01:59.620 that, like, I'm trying to be a guy.
00:02:00.860 I'm not.
00:02:01.460 It's just like, if you could do it,
00:02:02.680 why do you think that you can do it
00:02:04.760 just because you're a man,
00:02:06.060 and I can't do it because I'm a female?
00:02:07.740 So my question is, you said that the men need to court you,
00:02:11.380 but they can't court you if you don't give them an answer
00:02:13.360 if you're in a relationship or not.
00:02:15.020 Most of them don't even ask, to be honest.
00:02:16.920 Most of them don't even care.
00:02:17.460 They don't care.
00:02:18.800 They don't.
00:02:19.340 Do you feel like you deal with traditional men?
00:02:22.800 Hell no.
00:02:23.620 Well, okay.
00:02:24.200 There you go.
00:02:24.580 There you go.
00:02:25.300 Yeah, but I'm saying, like,
00:02:26.280 because traditional men will ask.
00:02:28.180 Like, men that are trying to court you,
00:02:29.540 they'll ask.
00:02:29.980 No, and I agree with that,
00:02:31.260 but, like, the traditional people are starting to...
00:02:33.520 Oh, sorry.
00:02:34.200 The traditional men are starting to, like, extinct,
00:02:37.260 if, like, anybody knows.
00:02:39.180 They literally, they don't care about nothing.
00:02:41.100 They're like, okay, you know,
00:02:42.800 like, I'm just trying to date you.
00:02:44.140 Do you want to fuck?
00:02:44.980 And then the next one, once they talk to you...
00:02:46.660 That's not a traditional guy, though.
00:02:47.680 No, no, not traditional.
00:02:48.980 Sorry.
00:02:49.460 I meant the non-traditional guys that, like, approach you
00:02:51.500 or, like, who are you?
00:02:54.220 Would you like to fuck?
00:02:55.600 And after that, can you take care of me?
00:02:57.700 Why do all these guys nowadays want to be taken care of?
00:02:59.900 But it's like, why do you deal with the guys
00:03:01.700 that want to be taken care of?
00:03:02.800 I don't.
00:03:03.240 But then how would you know this?
00:03:04.700 You wouldn't know this information
00:03:06.200 if you didn't deal with them.
00:03:06.380 Because they approach me.
00:03:07.820 Well, but then why are broke guys approaching you?
00:03:10.460 You know what I'm saying?
00:03:11.120 Like, it's like...
00:03:11.680 Broke guys always approach you.
00:03:12.840 They're everywhere, guys.
00:03:14.020 Because I'm fucking...
00:03:15.000 Because I'm hot.
00:03:16.660 I can't stop anybody from, like...
00:03:18.280 But I'm saying, like, traditional guys
00:03:20.380 are going to be turned off by that answer.
00:03:22.480 Because, like, traditional guys
00:03:23.900 don't want to deal with the bullshit.
00:03:25.520 So it's like you're almost, like,
00:03:27.100 adapting for the non-traditional guys.
00:03:29.820 You know what I'm saying?
00:03:30.480 Like, and it's going to turn off
00:03:31.920 someone that's traditional.
00:03:33.260 Because they're like,
00:03:33.900 are you taken?
00:03:34.520 Are you not?
00:03:35.000 This is too confusing.
00:03:36.040 On to the next.
00:03:36.780 I 100% agree with you.
00:03:38.240 But what I do is I read the room.
00:03:39.920 Just the same way as I'm a VIP host out here.
00:03:42.220 I know the kind of people
00:03:43.400 that I can proposition
00:03:44.480 of buying bottle service at the club
00:03:46.300 because they can afford it.
00:03:47.480 I can tell by your shoes,
00:03:48.720 by your watch, by your shoes,
00:03:50.500 who I can approach
00:03:51.480 about buying bottle service at a club.
00:03:53.540 The same way that I can, like,
00:03:54.900 show who I'm going to do that answer to.
00:03:56.820 Somebody who is, like,
00:03:57.860 not worth my time
00:03:58.860 is who gets that answer.
00:04:00.180 But somebody who's traditional
00:04:01.600 probably worth my time
00:04:02.940 but will never get that kind of answer.
00:04:03.880 Well, you know,
00:04:04.420 but you realize, like, traditional...
00:04:06.340 Like, I have 1.7 million subscribers
00:04:08.400 and a lot of the guys that watch
00:04:09.740 are in a more traditional mindset.
00:04:11.760 So it's like, by giving this answer,
00:04:13.640 you're basically telling them
00:04:14.660 you're not a traditional woman
00:04:15.820 because traditional women
00:04:16.760 don't answer like that.
00:04:17.920 Which is fine.
00:04:18.600 It doesn't mean, like, bad person.
00:04:19.920 But I'm saying, like,
00:04:20.780 if you want to attract traditional men,
00:04:22.980 I just think they're going to be confused.
00:04:24.980 That's also kind of your opinion
00:04:26.200 of the traditional guys.
00:04:27.360 Like, the guys that, like,
00:04:28.200 are, like, into you,
00:04:29.700 you don't really know.
00:04:30.960 No, actually, the objective truth is
00:04:32.780 most of the guys that are traditional
00:04:33.940 and high-value men,
00:04:35.220 we look for a certain thing
00:04:37.020 or a status in a woman.
00:04:38.660 So if we're talking to a gal
00:04:40.180 and it's like they give us
00:04:41.140 this vague answer,
00:04:42.040 it's like, okay,
00:04:42.500 is she seeing somebody or not?
00:04:43.880 She won't give me an answer.
00:04:44.880 And then it's like,
00:04:45.500 do I want to deal with it, right?
00:04:46.500 Well, yeah, and then I think
00:04:47.540 they just think you're fucking.
00:04:49.280 Yeah, I would.
00:04:50.380 No pun intended,
00:04:51.380 but if a girl says that,
00:04:52.460 it's like, wait,
00:04:53.640 it depends on who's asking.
00:04:54.680 It's like, okay,
00:04:55.520 are you a man or a woman?
00:04:57.340 Well, it depends on who's asking.
00:04:58.460 It's like, okay,
00:04:59.440 I'm just trying to talk to you.
00:05:00.960 It's difficult.
00:05:01.840 Never mind, right?
00:05:02.560 But I hear what you're saying,
00:05:03.800 but I think that
00:05:04.440 when you have that many subscribers,
00:05:06.400 you deal with guys like that
00:05:07.420 that deal with women.
00:05:09.160 I mean,
00:05:09.400 some guys don't have to deal with it,
00:05:11.100 some don't, you know?
00:05:12.200 And I know you're bottle service.
00:05:13.480 I get that.
00:05:14.140 No, no, no,
00:05:14.640 but I'm VIP.
00:05:16.080 I don't do bottle service.
00:05:17.580 I'm not the girl.
00:05:18.260 Where are you VIP at?
00:05:21.500 I was.
00:05:22.440 Independent host.
00:05:23.060 Yeah, I'm independent now,
00:05:24.300 but I used to be at One Oak exclusively.
00:05:27.280 Okay.
00:05:27.660 But then I decided that it's like a lot easier
00:05:29.540 to ask my clients,
00:05:30.920 where would you like to go?
00:05:31.760 Right.
00:05:31.980 As opposed to being like,
00:05:33.060 can you please come here?
00:05:33.920 I know you don't want to come here,
00:05:35.580 but can you come here for just me?
00:05:37.440 No, that makes sense.
00:05:38.340 And like, honestly,
00:05:39.320 if you know anybody who's like a VIP host,
00:05:41.940 we're trained to like really read people.
00:05:44.340 Sure.
00:05:45.020 And that's how I am.
00:05:46.200 So like when I'm saying those kind of responses,
00:05:48.640 I'm saying that to the people I know are jokes.
00:05:51.140 I don't say that to people of what?
00:05:52.760 Like, of my value.
00:05:53.040 Well, I asked.
00:05:54.880 No.
00:05:55.720 You're a joke, girl.
00:05:57.240 But I mean, girl, I'm not gay.
00:05:59.500 I'm not going to fuck you.
00:06:00.300 No shade.
00:06:00.940 Right.
00:06:01.360 But what I'm saying,
00:06:02.960 it's just,
00:06:03.460 I think it's confusing to guys.
00:06:05.480 It's my only point.
00:06:06.580 I used to actually think Myron was a dick.
00:06:08.660 I really did.
00:06:09.380 And I feel bad
00:06:10.640 because then I actually got into his shoes
00:06:12.840 and I interviewed women
00:06:13.900 and I did all these shows
00:06:15.120 and it's so crazy
00:06:16.900 because you don't see usually
00:06:18.400 the level of disrespect they'll do first
00:06:20.660 and over-talking someone on their own show
00:06:23.380 and feeling like they own the room.
00:06:25.060 And then it's like,
00:06:25.560 by the time you kick them out,
00:06:27.180 it's like they've over-talked you 10 times.
00:06:29.320 Have you,
00:06:29.680 you've kicked women off your show?
00:06:31.420 Yeah.
00:06:32.020 Not,
00:06:32.300 I'm not as quick as Myron.
00:06:34.260 No, you're like,
00:06:34.860 yeah, I've seen it.
00:06:35.920 Yeah, but it's like usually,
00:06:37.300 like a lot of times they'll play the victim
00:06:38.840 and be like,
00:06:39.420 I saw the one that you did
00:06:40.900 with Andrew Tate and Auntie
00:06:42.020 and you know what I'm talking about?
00:06:45.200 Unpatience.
00:06:45.800 Brittany.
00:06:46.260 Oh my God.
00:06:47.020 That was,
00:06:47.420 that was a hard one to watch
00:06:49.160 with the African girl,
00:06:51.020 like the younger one,
00:06:51.880 not Auntie.
00:06:52.380 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:06:53.180 Yeah, she was.
00:06:54.580 Crazy.
00:06:55.560 Yeah, she was giving it a lot.
00:06:56.520 It was crazy.
00:06:56.980 After that,
00:06:57.620 she was like,
00:06:58.220 Pearl's so racist.
00:06:59.560 I'm like,
00:06:59.820 bitch,
00:07:00.000 you've been on my show three times.
00:07:01.200 It was like,
00:07:01.840 everybody on my show was of color.
00:07:05.720 I know.
00:07:07.560 But it was like,
00:07:08.900 but it's like,
00:07:09.900 a lot of times when women get kicked off,
00:07:11.820 they just like play the victim
00:07:12.940 when it's like,
00:07:13.820 they usually have like 10 different warnings
00:07:16.140 and then they get kicked off.
00:07:17.440 She was really disrespectful.
00:07:18.540 I watched that thing.
00:07:19.580 I was actually surprised.
00:07:20.560 To be fair with Myron's shit,
00:07:22.240 he was talking over like the whole goddamn time
00:07:25.280 and then he just wanted like to be able
00:07:26.680 to pick on other people
00:07:27.840 and he didn't like that shit.
00:07:29.460 I agree.
00:07:29.760 So like,
00:07:30.800 honestly,
00:07:31.780 like with you guys,
00:07:32.940 y'all completely disagree with my opinion,
00:07:35.480 but I never felt offended one bit.
00:07:37.720 I felt like you're entitled to your opinions
00:07:39.600 and I respected the hell out of it.
00:07:41.340 But the way that he comes at people.
00:07:43.740 Well,
00:07:44.260 and I'll tell you,
00:07:45.000 I'll tell you what's happened though.
00:07:46.260 I think women,
00:07:46.880 we've never really had people talk to us
00:07:49.160 in a more masculine way
00:07:50.380 because women just police men's speech.
00:07:53.640 And like when we say,
00:07:54.680 it's how you say it,
00:07:55.720 that's saying,
00:07:56.380 say it in a more feminine way.
00:07:58.060 Have you ever been in a locker room with guys
00:08:00.080 or like in an all male space?
00:08:01.400 Wait,
00:08:01.420 wait,
00:08:01.580 wait.
00:08:01.880 Have you ever been in a locker room with guys?
00:08:03.280 I'm not a locker room.
00:08:03.860 Whoa.
00:08:05.100 She's like,
00:08:05.640 she's over here.
00:08:06.300 I've been in a tens of a lot.
00:08:08.820 But like,
00:08:09.500 I mean,
00:08:10.780 there's a reason we have phrases
00:08:14.120 like locker room talk,
00:08:15.380 right?
00:08:16.200 Because men roast the hell out of each other.
00:08:19.380 Like they are,
00:08:19.860 they are so rude to each other.
00:08:20.820 Well,
00:08:20.920 if you're black,
00:08:21.700 you understand that.
00:08:22.440 Cause you know,
00:08:22.960 yeah.
00:08:23.360 Cause it's,
00:08:24.000 it's every day.
00:08:24.760 That's how you say it.
00:08:27.700 People are always correcting my tone.
00:08:29.560 Right.
00:08:29.840 All the time.
00:08:30.520 Right.
00:08:30.620 Is that women correcting your tone or men?
00:08:33.480 Both.
00:08:34.940 It's,
00:08:35.300 it's much more.
00:08:36.180 When a man does that,
00:08:37.280 how does that make you feel?
00:08:38.580 It makes me feel like he's a pussy.
00:08:39.800 Yeah.
00:08:42.780 Right.
00:08:43.180 Because it's a more feminine way of talking.
00:08:45.080 Right.
00:08:45.360 So I think with Myron and I had this gut reaction to him at first too,
00:08:49.600 but the thing is with him,
00:08:50.640 it's like,
00:08:51.040 he's just speaking in a very masculine direct way.
00:08:54.140 And most women have never had guys talk to us.
00:08:56.800 I don't think it's a direct.
00:08:57.620 I don't think he's ever had the shit smacked out of him.
00:09:00.000 I don't think it's a direct.
00:09:01.120 He was a federal agent.
00:09:02.980 Yeah.
00:09:03.800 A federal agent.
00:09:05.280 You think he's scared of some bitches?
00:09:07.140 No,
00:09:07.700 no,
00:09:08.080 I'm saying like,
00:09:09.020 you're like,
00:09:09.900 he never really got like somebody who really fucking stood there.
00:09:12.580 You got damn ground.
00:09:13.420 As a federal agent.
00:09:14.460 It doesn't matter if you're,
00:09:15.500 you could be a fucking president or you can be like a government official.
00:09:19.600 And when you get somebody that you really respect,
00:09:21.940 that fucking tells you some shit,
00:09:23.880 then it like,
00:09:24.840 I saw him have someone like come to his door and like threaten.
00:09:28.740 Oh yeah.
00:09:29.160 Yeah.
00:09:29.440 I saw that.
00:09:30.340 I saw that.
00:09:30.980 Yeah.
00:09:31.160 I don't,
00:09:31.760 I don't.
00:09:31.960 He stood his ground.
00:09:33.140 He stood his ground.
00:09:34.080 Yeah.
00:09:34.620 I don't think it's like the directness of him.
00:09:36.860 What was that?
00:09:37.320 I don't think it's like the directness of like how he is.
00:09:39.540 Cause I think being direct is how he has to be.
00:09:42.300 Cause unfortunately,
00:09:43.320 especially with a room of women,
00:09:44.460 they start to over talk everybody.
00:09:46.020 You have to command the room and like calm it down.
00:09:48.200 I think sometimes what it is,
00:09:50.320 is the,
00:09:51.240 the,
00:09:51.620 what words you choose to use.
00:09:52.940 So like,
00:09:53.580 I've heard him called girls bitches and it came out of nowhere and it's like,
00:09:57.220 whoa,
00:09:57.500 like,
00:09:57.680 usually they're being a bitch.
00:09:59.700 So I think that's,
00:10:00.740 I think that's what it is.
00:10:01.700 So it's just like,
00:10:02.780 like,
00:10:02.980 let's say you're talking to somebody because we're not used to turn the mic up because we're
00:10:09.360 not used to like the,
00:10:10.580 like you said,
00:10:11.000 like people telling us what to do and holding ourselves accountable.
00:10:13.180 We always want you to be like,
00:10:16.240 well,
00:10:16.380 what you did wasn't okay.
00:10:18.740 And,
00:10:18.940 and,
00:10:19.220 and it's,
00:10:19.840 that's usually what it is.
00:10:21.020 And so when we hear somebody go say this,
00:10:22.940 they're like,
00:10:23.440 what do we want to,
00:10:24.240 we want to man up?
00:10:25.040 Like,
00:10:25.260 what the fuck did you say to me?
00:10:26.460 Yeah.
00:10:26.800 Like you're not going to talk to me like that.
00:10:28.720 Right.
00:10:29.200 So,
00:10:29.860 yeah.
00:10:30.240 But,
00:10:30.580 and like,
00:10:30.840 that's kind of what I've conditioned myself to.
00:10:32.760 Like when I hear guys speak in a very direct way,
00:10:35.320 I have to ask myself first,
00:10:36.740 is it true?
00:10:37.500 Yeah.
00:10:37.780 So it's like,
00:10:38.140 was she being a bitch?
00:10:39.340 Probably.
00:10:39.940 Like all the girls I've seen him kick off,
00:10:41.940 over talked him at least like four or five.
00:10:44.080 And there's an element of alcohol involved.
00:10:46.260 A lot of them were drinking before.
00:10:47.500 I'm like,
00:10:47.660 this girl is.
00:10:49.880 Yes.
00:10:50.680 So I have a question guys.
00:10:52.720 Do you think,
00:10:53.940 who do you think smarter men or women?
00:10:56.260 Women.
00:10:56.800 Women.
00:10:58.060 Then why are so many of us on OnlyFans?
00:11:01.400 Why are so many men on OnlyFans?
00:11:03.180 I know more dicks.
00:11:04.200 I know more guys slinging dick on OnlyFans than women.
00:11:08.300 I swear to God.
00:11:08.660 Who's the female Elon Musk,
00:11:10.520 Bill Gates?
00:11:11.180 Where are they?
00:11:12.340 If we're so smart.
00:11:17.280 Hold on,
00:11:17.920 hold on,
00:11:18.760 hold on,
00:11:19.080 hold on.
00:11:19.640 Hold on.
00:11:20.300 I have an answer to that.
00:11:21.940 Okay.
00:11:23.160 We don't give,
00:11:24.120 we don't,
00:11:24.580 we're not given the chance,
00:11:25.800 the same opportunities.
00:11:26.960 Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:11:28.020 I mean,
00:11:28.480 you could say that all you want,
00:11:29.820 but that's just the fact,
00:11:30.900 and this is all women right here.
00:11:32.520 Mine,
00:11:33.080 I don't consider you the same.
00:11:34.160 I've been given plenty of opportunities.
00:11:35.280 Okay, so I've been in the,
00:11:37.660 I've been in the employment recruiting space for 28 years.
00:11:40.940 Women have a higher advantage getting a job over a man.
00:11:44.680 More black women have degrees than black men.
00:11:47.780 The first millionaire woman in America was black,
00:11:51.360 right?
00:11:52.440 Self-made.
00:11:53.000 Women have more of advantages than men to be successful.
00:11:56.220 Right.
00:11:56.560 So I don't know where,
00:11:58.040 and going back to OnlyFans,
00:11:59.520 92% of the people on OnlyFans are women,
00:12:01.700 not men.
00:12:02.380 Yeah.
00:12:03.080 That's because we know who's paying.
00:12:04.720 Exactly.
00:12:05.780 But OnlyFans doesn't have to be just nudity.
00:12:08.460 You can take advantage of this perspective.
00:12:10.280 I agree.
00:12:10.880 I agree.
00:12:11.380 Because initially,
00:12:12.040 that's what it was before.
00:12:12.680 I mean,
00:12:12.940 you could,
00:12:13.400 but we don't.
00:12:14.340 Like,
00:12:14.500 come on.
00:12:15.680 I mean,
00:12:16.140 initially when it came out.
00:12:17.100 I didn't have to get nude.
00:12:17.920 I didn't have to sleep with it.
00:12:18.800 What'd you do on OnlyFans?
00:12:20.740 I took cute pictures.
00:12:21.860 Of her feet.
00:12:23.440 I did that as well.
00:12:24.960 Okay,
00:12:25.180 so you were,
00:12:26.560 but you're still selling sex.
00:12:28.460 You might,
00:12:28.720 you might not have taken off your clothes,
00:12:30.040 but they're not,
00:12:30.540 they're not looking at the OnlyFans to be your friend.
00:12:33.200 Well,
00:12:33.560 they're looking for something exclusive.
00:12:35.600 That's what OnlyFans is for,
00:12:36.740 is for exclusive content.
00:12:37.920 So if I don't post on my Instagram
00:12:39.380 or my Facebook pictures and swimsuits,
00:12:41.740 cute short dresses or whatever,
00:12:43.000 that is still selling sex,
00:12:44.300 but it's from a different perspective.
00:12:45.840 Well,
00:12:46.020 yeah,
00:12:46.180 but I'm saying you're still selling beauty.
00:12:47.780 And I'm saying if we're so smart,
00:12:49.200 why don't we sell brains?
00:12:50.800 You can do that.
00:12:52.540 We can,
00:12:53.300 but we don't.
00:12:54.960 A guy can't sell beauty
00:12:56.600 because they're usually not beautiful.
00:12:58.780 Why don't they sell them more beauty?
00:12:59.920 I just think that like women are not going to pay for it.
00:13:03.460 Like,
00:13:03.720 and like on OnlyFans,
00:13:05.400 when a man actually has an OnlyFans account,
00:13:07.620 more gay men are actually purchasing their content
00:13:10.580 than it is women
00:13:12.040 because we're,
00:13:12.920 we're not going to pay for it.
00:13:13.840 Yeah.
00:13:14.000 No.
00:13:14.420 Yeah.
00:13:14.580 But I'm saying like,
00:13:15.240 if we're just these smart people,
00:13:16.880 it's like,
00:13:17.280 we could go into physics,
00:13:19.020 we could go into engineering.
00:13:20.860 Smarter,
00:13:21.080 not harder.
00:13:21.880 If you know,
00:13:22.380 you can just take cute pictures,
00:13:23.660 then make thousands of dollars a day.
00:13:25.340 I think you're right.
00:13:26.700 Women love the easy,
00:13:27.760 women love the easy way,
00:13:29.320 not the hard way.
00:13:30.380 And we just get naked
00:13:31.760 instead of doing the hard thing.
00:13:33.440 And men don't have the opportunity to do that.
00:13:36.060 That's why they have to work hard
00:13:37.720 because nobody's going to pay them
00:13:39.260 to just be beautiful.
00:13:39.920 Which,
00:13:39.940 correct,
00:13:40.600 correct.
00:13:40.800 And that's why I think men are smarter than us
00:13:42.860 because they have to do,
00:13:44.040 I think when you have to do harder things,
00:13:45.880 you become smarter.
00:13:47.900 You know,
00:13:48.480 like if,
00:13:48.900 if you,
00:13:49.380 if you have to study for a test
00:13:51.240 and then you have to take the test,
00:13:52.420 you become smarter after the test.
00:13:54.200 isn't it really true that the person
00:13:55.460 who didn't have to study
00:13:56.720 and still got an A
00:13:57.740 is smarter than the one
00:13:59.220 who had to bust their balls to get in?
00:14:00.300 And that would be great
00:14:01.200 if we were getting,
00:14:01.840 if we were getting A's,
00:14:03.020 I would agree with you.
00:14:03.460 I breeze through school.
00:14:04.480 But it's so,
00:14:05.140 but it's so funny.
00:14:06.300 It's so funny
00:14:07.020 because we actually aren't doing,
00:14:09.280 even though we have an advantage
00:14:10.500 because we can sell beauty,
00:14:12.260 it's so funny.
00:14:13.180 We make like 500 a month
00:14:14.600 on OnlyFans on average.
00:14:15.760 We can't even sell sex.
00:14:17.260 The women that make the most money
00:14:18.860 on OnlyFans
00:14:19.600 are managed by men.
00:14:21.440 If we were so smart,
00:14:23.080 why can't even,
00:14:23.800 why can't we sell
00:14:25.160 our own bodies better than men?
00:14:27.760 They're making AI bots.
00:14:30.020 AI bots.
00:14:31.440 They have AI bots.
00:14:32.480 And so it's like,
00:14:33.600 if we were really so smart,
00:14:35.500 why can't we figure out
00:14:36.440 how to do it?
00:14:37.000 Go ahead.
00:14:37.260 I happen to know
00:14:39.320 a lot of the people
00:14:40.140 that work for managing
00:14:41.300 OF people,
00:14:42.340 they're gay guys.
00:14:43.600 Gay guys are nasty.
00:14:45.180 They know how to fucking talk.
00:14:46.400 They know exactly
00:14:47.120 what people want to hear.
00:14:47.860 But they're men.
00:14:48.500 And I promise you,
00:14:50.560 the people that you're talking to
00:14:52.680 are gay men.
00:14:54.400 They're still men.
00:14:55.120 Right,
00:14:55.360 but they're still men.
00:14:56.240 But gay men
00:14:59.800 have the feminine side.
00:15:01.000 They're tapped into
00:15:01.640 their feminine energy.
00:15:02.620 It doesn't matter.
00:15:03.620 They're still men.
00:15:05.100 No,
00:15:05.420 they're still,
00:15:05.800 they're tapped into
00:15:06.960 their feminine energy.
00:15:07.800 They're not full on men.
00:15:08.840 It's not like
00:15:09.560 straight ass men
00:15:10.320 that are managing
00:15:10.880 and they're responding.
00:15:12.040 Most of them aren't.
00:15:12.880 But they're still men.
00:15:14.820 Like,
00:15:14.940 why can't the women
00:15:15.980 figure it out?
00:15:17.200 No,
00:15:17.560 they just don't want to.
00:15:18.300 They don't want to talk like that.
00:15:19.860 I feel like men are filthy
00:15:21.060 and they're kind of disgusting.
00:15:23.120 So they know what the disgusting
00:15:24.100 shit that makes money.
00:15:25.260 Being able to relate
00:15:26.100 to your audience.
00:15:26.820 Of course,
00:15:27.220 if men are the ones
00:15:28.220 in the market
00:15:28.800 buying and stuff,
00:15:30.240 then of course,
00:15:30.660 a guy's going to know
00:15:31.260 what to say
00:15:31.880 and how to market it
00:15:33.280 and what kind of pictures
00:15:34.200 they want.
00:15:34.920 Shouldn't we know,
00:15:35.800 since we've been like
00:15:36.660 dating men our whole lives,
00:15:38.100 shouldn't we know,
00:15:39.060 shouldn't we know
00:15:39.780 what to say to men?
00:15:41.740 Like,
00:15:42.100 we're the ones dating us.
00:15:43.200 I think our emotions
00:15:44.000 kind of get in the way of that.
00:15:45.420 Sometimes it's our hormone levels,
00:15:47.080 everything.
00:15:47.920 I mean,
00:15:48.480 they even said women
00:15:49.320 that are on birth control,
00:15:50.700 their hormone levels
00:15:52.020 are just crazy.
00:15:53.800 You're more neurotic.
00:15:55.120 You are almost like
00:15:57.500 not yourself.
00:15:58.340 And also that goes
00:15:59.300 to the workforce.
00:16:00.640 When they say,
00:16:01.260 oh,
00:16:01.440 women and men
00:16:02.060 are not paid equally.
00:16:03.520 Well,
00:16:03.840 we have less time
00:16:04.780 in the workforce
00:16:05.240 because we have more time off.
00:16:06.900 We have to get pregnant.
00:16:08.320 We have periods.
00:16:09.500 Sometimes people have to
00:16:10.480 go home and stay home
00:16:12.040 because their periods
00:16:12.660 are so intense.
00:16:14.240 So it almost,
00:16:15.860 and men are smarter,
00:16:16.900 I think.
00:16:17.360 Hold on,
00:16:17.600 don't forget bathroom.
00:16:19.320 They love to like,
00:16:21.000 they actually mentioned
00:16:22.140 that on that,
00:16:22.800 that one movie
00:16:24.100 about like the women
00:16:24.980 who are like,
00:16:25.560 you know,
00:16:25.920 doing the stuff in space,
00:16:27.120 how like she had to take time
00:16:28.540 to go to a certain bathroom
00:16:30.100 and how long it takes us
00:16:31.360 to go to the bathroom
00:16:32.080 as opposed to men.
00:16:33.180 All that stuff
00:16:34.040 is factored as well.
00:16:36.220 That we have to go
00:16:37.420 to the bathroom
00:16:38.060 for a long time,
00:16:39.140 that's holding us back.
00:16:40.480 Yeah,
00:16:40.660 longer than men.
00:16:41.680 They factor all that.
00:16:42.940 In 2023,
00:16:44.680 okay,
00:16:45.500 if I got a job
00:16:46.260 at this podcast studio,
00:16:47.500 I think they'd hire me.
00:16:48.660 I really do.
00:16:49.380 I think they would.
00:16:50.140 Yeah,
00:16:50.540 and I'd have to walk
00:16:51.880 to the bathroom there.
00:16:53.060 That's going to hold me back.
00:16:54.460 Like as women,
00:16:55.200 we just come up
00:16:55.740 with excuses.
00:16:57.200 It's like excuse,
00:16:58.400 excuse,
00:16:58.980 excuse.
00:17:00.120 Where men,
00:17:00.960 it's like you'll have a guy
00:17:02.060 in horrible working conditions,
00:17:04.360 like on oil rigs,
00:17:06.200 paving the pavements.
00:17:07.240 They don't complain.
00:17:08.340 They give hands or pay.
00:17:09.340 Yeah,
00:17:09.700 yeah,
00:17:09.940 and we're in the office
00:17:12.020 like in these nice,
00:17:12.980 cushy jobs
00:17:13.640 and we still find something
00:17:14.740 to whine about.
00:17:15.640 Hey,
00:17:15.880 I had a question.
00:17:16.640 How many men do you,
00:17:17.560 what you do,
00:17:18.720 you go down 1,000 feet underground
00:17:20.040 and you see aliens
00:17:21.380 and stuff like that?
00:17:23.420 They do experiments,
00:17:24.500 but it's no aliens.
00:17:26.260 Nuclear stuff too?
00:17:27.360 Yeah,
00:17:27.620 like that.
00:17:27.980 How many,
00:17:28.580 what's the,
00:17:29.100 what's the women to men ratio there?
00:17:30.900 Are you like the only woman down there?
00:17:32.220 I am probably one of like four
00:17:36.020 and there's more scientist women there,
00:17:38.000 but there's,
00:17:38.980 but with the laborers,
00:17:39.580 I'm talking about the laborers.
00:17:40.500 The laborers,
00:17:41.060 it's like,
00:17:41.420 it's probably like 99% men.
00:17:43.980 There you go.
00:17:44.900 Yeah.
00:17:45.540 Yeah.
00:17:45.820 No,
00:17:45.980 but it's true.
00:17:46.420 They,
00:17:46.600 so they did this like,
00:17:47.560 they did this like study,
00:17:48.580 like a walking on the street study
00:17:49.920 where they asked men and women,
00:17:51.860 would you rather,
00:17:53.560 okay,
00:17:53.740 so it was like,
00:17:54.280 would you rather work a high profile job
00:17:56.200 that pays nothing
00:17:57.040 or would you rather work in the sewer
00:17:59.040 that pays a hundred thousand dollars a year?
00:18:01.300 Most women chose a high profile job
00:18:03.080 that pays nothing.
00:18:04.040 And the men,
00:18:04.860 most of the men were like,
00:18:05.600 well,
00:18:05.680 no,
00:18:05.920 I want the money.
00:18:06.620 So I'm going to work in the sewers.
00:18:08.020 So it's like,
00:18:08.680 it goes to show you that like most women
00:18:10.060 just kind of want like to say
00:18:12.300 that we have this great job,
00:18:15.480 this kind of crazy thing,
00:18:16.740 but we don't want to do like the dirty,
00:18:18.900 gritty thing to actually make the money.
00:18:20.340 I did a dirty job.
00:18:21.180 That's how I got my position.
00:18:22.580 Yeah.
00:18:22.940 I mean,
00:18:23.320 I do too.
00:18:23.840 I do.
00:18:24.400 I get it.
00:18:25.100 But as a group.
00:18:26.560 You're an outlier.
00:18:27.480 So I have a question,
00:18:28.680 guys.
00:18:29.060 All right.
00:18:29.300 If you had to go,
00:18:31.300 like,
00:18:31.720 go down a standard deviation IQ,
00:18:35.220 but you get a perfect body
00:18:37.300 for the rest of your life.
00:18:39.460 Would you do it?
00:18:41.660 Ooh,
00:18:42.140 that's like whatever your dream,
00:18:44.120 like whatever your dream body is,
00:18:46.100 you get it like frozen in time
00:18:47.940 the rest of your life.
00:18:49.100 If I did an IQ thing,
00:18:50.760 I 100% would do it.
00:18:52.080 I'm a smart ass bitch.
00:18:53.140 No,
00:18:53.300 you would have to go down.
00:18:54.200 You're dumber now.
00:18:54.960 Oh,
00:18:55.200 fuck.
00:18:55.620 No,
00:18:55.860 fuck that body.
00:18:56.780 Oh,
00:18:56.980 okay.
00:18:57.260 So you'd keep the IQ.
00:18:58.580 What would you do?
00:18:59.780 Um,
00:19:01.200 I want somebody else to go next.
00:19:03.020 No,
00:19:03.420 no,
00:19:03.520 no,
00:19:03.640 come on.
00:19:03.900 It's all right.
00:19:04.440 Be honest.
00:19:05.260 You know what?
00:19:05.740 To be honest,
00:19:07.040 I know what it's like to have brains
00:19:08.480 because I have it now.
00:19:10.280 So I'm going to already have,
00:19:12.220 I'm going to go with the brains.
00:19:13.560 Okay.
00:19:13.820 You'll keep the brains.
00:19:14.920 What about you?
00:19:15.500 You know,
00:19:15.840 I think I'd keep the brains too
00:19:17.460 because hopefully I'm smart enough
00:19:19.020 to make enough money
00:19:20.300 to buy my body.
00:19:21.760 That part.
00:19:22.960 That part.
00:19:23.500 Good point.
00:19:24.100 Okay.
00:19:24.640 What about you?
00:19:26.040 Um,
00:19:28.240 so if,
00:19:28.940 so even after,
00:19:29.700 I was like,
00:19:30.280 I like my body.
00:19:31.120 Even,
00:19:31.360 even when you have a kid,
00:19:33.100 you just,
00:19:33.600 you,
00:19:33.780 the kid comes out
00:19:34.660 and it's right back.
00:19:35.860 It just goes right back.
00:19:36.560 Right back.
00:19:37.200 You don't have to work out
00:19:37.920 or anything.
00:19:38.860 Okay.
00:19:39.740 Okay.
00:19:40.080 So because you gave me that,
00:19:41.900 I have a kid.
00:19:42.320 I must be married.
00:19:43.260 So I don't care to have my brain.
00:19:44.880 So I guess I'll go down
00:19:45.660 and keep my body looking good.
00:19:47.780 Right.
00:19:48.100 Then you get a smarter guy.
00:19:49.760 You know what I mean?
00:19:50.420 I'm like,
00:19:50.840 I'm okay.
00:19:51.200 A smart guy doesn't need
00:19:52.200 a smart lady.
00:19:53.120 He's smart.
00:19:53.980 You know,
00:19:54.560 I'll do the body.
00:19:56.020 That's fine.
00:19:56.560 I am so annoyed
00:19:57.880 by stupid people.
00:19:59.020 I would never want
00:19:59.620 to be one of them.
00:20:00.560 I need to be able
00:20:01.260 to carry a conversation.
00:20:02.520 But it doesn't mean
00:20:02.920 you're stupid.
00:20:03.560 Just go down a little bit.
00:20:05.180 Right?
00:20:06.000 Yeah.
00:20:06.380 Yeah.
00:20:06.500 I mean,
00:20:06.700 you go down like,
00:20:07.740 like a couple IQ points,
00:20:09.260 but you get this perfect body.
00:20:10.940 Oh,
00:20:11.140 so you didn't say that
00:20:11.860 at the beginning.
00:20:12.400 You didn't say it specifically.
00:20:21.220 So I need the right angle
00:20:22.180 of the altitude
00:20:23.000 of the percentage.
00:20:24.980 Considering the fact
00:20:25.660 that I'm already
00:20:26.480 really fucking smart,
00:20:28.200 I could drop a little point.
00:20:29.360 Yeah.
00:20:30.040 Right.
00:20:31.080 No, get it.
00:20:31.900 Just do it.
00:20:33.140 I'm changing my answer.
00:20:34.420 I'm really smarter
00:20:35.320 than the majority of you.
00:20:36.320 I'm going to get smarter.
00:20:37.040 Think about it.
00:20:37.720 Think about it.
00:20:38.440 What percent of,
00:20:39.240 like,
00:20:39.480 60-year-old ladies
00:20:40.740 really have perfect bodies?
00:20:42.060 Like,
00:20:42.340 you'd be like the hottest
00:20:43.340 60-year-old,
00:20:44.840 70-year-old.
00:20:45.820 I feel like right now
00:20:46.680 I'm like at the top
00:20:47.600 of the cream of the crop.
00:20:48.560 So if I was to drop a few,
00:20:49.960 I'd still be at the bottom
00:20:50.960 layer of cream.
00:20:51.960 Yeah.
00:20:52.460 You're so good.
00:20:53.780 You're not like a dummy.
00:20:54.460 You'll be an average bear.
00:20:56.280 Or I'm just fine as fuck.
00:20:57.120 I wouldn't be a dummy
00:20:58.160 for a body,
00:20:58.860 but like,
00:20:59.240 I can drop a couple.
00:21:00.100 Yeah.
00:21:00.680 Like,
00:21:00.980 we'll give some off.
00:21:01.980 I'd be like a B-plus student
00:21:03.680 as opposed to me.
00:21:04.560 Like,
00:21:04.860 I've seen her do
00:21:05.840 an amazing little thing
00:21:07.220 with like losing weight
00:21:08.520 and like,
00:21:09.100 you could do it on your own,
00:21:10.180 girl.
00:21:10.240 But don't leave me.
00:21:10.920 Keep that brain.
00:21:11.460 You can't.
00:21:11.620 60.
00:21:12.380 Not the boobs.
00:21:13.960 Like,
00:21:14.160 you can't get big boobs
00:21:15.300 out of nothing.
00:21:16.160 No body.
00:21:16.980 What?
00:21:17.480 I said body.
00:21:18.360 No,
00:21:18.640 I know.
00:21:19.280 When I lost all that weight,
00:21:20.460 my tits also work right as fuck.
00:21:21.260 But she's saying
00:21:21.760 you can do it on your own.
00:21:22.860 I'm saying unless you want
00:21:23.680 to put like a foreign object
00:21:24.980 in your body,
00:21:26.060 which,
00:21:26.360 you know.
00:21:27.560 We're talking about magic here.
00:21:28.800 Oh,
00:21:29.100 I got foreign objects
00:21:30.080 in my body.
00:21:30.860 Do you ever wonder,
00:21:31.880 like,
00:21:32.060 how does that work
00:21:32.640 with like kids?
00:21:33.880 You know,
00:21:34.240 like breastfeeding?
00:21:35.260 Like,
00:21:35.420 it doesn't that.
00:21:36.020 It's so fun.
00:21:36.640 You can still breastfeed.
00:21:38.800 Isn't that like the plastic?
00:21:40.380 Because this is just how I think.
00:21:41.580 Like,
00:21:41.820 doesn't the plastic
00:21:42.700 or whatever's in it
00:21:43.840 just go over it
00:21:45.260 and like,
00:21:45.880 then the kids like drinking
00:21:47.180 like whatever the hell
00:21:48.940 is in the implant.
00:21:49.480 It's like coming directly
00:21:50.440 out of the implant.
00:21:51.360 I just can't imagine
00:21:52.420 the implants like
00:21:53.520 are good for you.
00:21:55.320 No,
00:21:55.580 they've actually come a long way.
00:21:57.280 So I have like,
00:21:58.040 I have gummies.
00:21:59.060 So it's like,
00:21:59.900 if it pops,
00:22:00.900 it doesn't leach.
00:22:02.140 But then it's like
00:22:02.760 every 20 years
00:22:03.740 all the women come forward
00:22:04.980 and they're like,
00:22:05.480 oh fuck,
00:22:05.980 I have all these.
00:22:06.280 I think that was the old
00:22:07.240 silicone days, right?
00:22:08.440 Yeah.
00:22:08.840 But they just invent
00:22:11.200 something new
00:22:11.880 and then 20 years later
00:22:13.020 chicks have the same problem.
00:22:14.440 It's going to be cyborgs
00:22:15.520 and AI robots.
00:22:16.840 They're going to be robots.
00:22:18.480 Okay,
00:22:18.920 what about you?
00:22:19.580 Perfect body,
00:22:20.420 but you got to be dumber.
00:22:21.920 I'm definitely taking brains
00:22:23.280 immediately
00:22:23.840 because I'm always at work
00:22:25.080 like,
00:22:25.380 damn,
00:22:25.620 if I was so smart
00:22:26.420 I could just figure out
00:22:27.040 how to AI this shit.
00:22:27.880 But it's like
00:22:30.440 we get the perfect body.
00:22:32.020 You're not going to get smarter.
00:22:33.340 I mean,
00:22:33.620 me being smaller,
00:22:34.500 me being larger,
00:22:35.140 I've lived both lives
00:22:36.280 and I get attention regardless.
00:22:38.340 I have always been able
00:22:39.420 to attract all different
00:22:40.440 types of reasons.
00:22:41.040 Yeah, but.
00:22:41.560 So none of that matters to me.
00:22:43.700 Physicalness is just
00:22:44.400 so surface level.
00:22:45.620 But for me,
00:22:46.640 if I had the brains
00:22:47.420 to make as much money
00:22:48.280 as I want,
00:22:48.880 I mean,
00:22:49.040 because I trade,
00:22:49.680 I do options,
00:22:50.840 I do Forex.
00:22:51.540 So for me,
00:22:52.040 like if I had the brains
00:22:53.200 truly to see things
00:22:54.640 on a different perspective,
00:22:55.780 I would just live my own.
00:22:56.380 But then it's like
00:22:57.240 if we were
00:22:58.120 like the ultimate hotties,
00:23:00.000 then you could just
00:23:00.600 get a super smart guy.
00:23:02.860 You know,
00:23:03.260 and then you wouldn't
00:23:03.780 have to think at all.
00:23:04.760 You could just be at home
00:23:05.520 chilling.
00:23:06.020 I don't want to get bullied.
00:23:07.040 Well, let me say this.
00:23:07.920 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:23:09.040 Wait a minute.
00:23:09.720 Wait a minute.
00:23:10.400 I have that option now.
00:23:12.860 So,
00:23:13.340 so it doesn't
00:23:15.480 really lean me more
00:23:17.020 to it's like,
00:23:17.560 oh, the perfect body.
00:23:18.480 First of all,
00:23:19.080 just having that man
00:23:20.380 who is,
00:23:21.860 that man who takes care of me,
00:23:23.580 I already have that.
00:23:24.500 So it doesn't
00:23:26.120 make me feel like,
00:23:26.960 oh, I got to get
00:23:27.440 this perfect body
00:23:28.280 so I can get the man
00:23:29.220 that's already
00:23:29.620 going to take care of me.
00:23:30.680 But what about like
00:23:31.260 keeping the man you got?
00:23:32.960 What about it?
00:23:33.720 I got him.
00:23:34.320 Well, I'm saying like,
00:23:35.260 wouldn't it,
00:23:35.920 I mean,
00:23:36.140 are you married?
00:23:36.980 You said you're in a relationship.
00:23:37.720 In a relationship.
00:23:38.540 Right.
00:23:38.820 So it's like maybe
00:23:39.580 the perfect body,
00:23:40.560 he's like ring right here.
00:23:42.120 No, I don't think so.
00:23:43.580 I think it has to do with you.
00:23:44.740 I want to go back.
00:23:45.440 What was it?
00:23:45.700 We were just talking about.
00:23:46.580 You said something about,
00:23:47.600 what did she just say?
00:23:49.520 I lost my train of thought.
00:23:50.120 She said she can attract
00:23:51.640 anybody big or small anyway
00:23:53.260 and that she wants to be able
00:23:54.940 to create AI
00:23:55.700 and all types of stuff at work
00:23:56.960 so she doesn't want
00:23:57.480 to lose her brains.
00:23:58.500 Okay.
00:23:58.860 Yeah.
00:23:59.120 I lost the train of thought.
00:24:00.720 We were.
00:24:01.200 My bad.
00:24:01.740 Well, I was going to say,
00:24:02.380 I would want a perfect body
00:24:03.800 just so I can look in the mirror
00:24:05.140 and be like,
00:24:05.560 damn, bitch,
00:24:06.120 it's fucking fine.
00:24:06.940 Satisfied.
00:24:07.220 Not so I can catch a man
00:24:09.180 or keep my girlfriend.
00:24:11.800 I wonder why this is
00:24:13.300 like gut reaction of us women.
00:24:15.580 Whenever it's like we have this,
00:24:17.240 you could have this for a man.
00:24:19.400 It's so interesting
00:24:20.360 because we'll always have to say,
00:24:22.620 no, no, no, it's for myself.
00:24:24.660 But it's really interesting
00:24:25.820 because a family
00:24:26.740 is supposed to be selfless.
00:24:29.060 Families only work
00:24:29.980 if we're selfless
00:24:30.840 and we're thinking
00:24:31.380 about the other person.
00:24:32.520 Because you're giving up
00:24:34.080 and the husband.
00:24:35.180 And it's interesting too
00:24:35.980 because we'll give up stuff
00:24:36.900 for our kids
00:24:37.520 and we'll do stuff
00:24:38.140 for the kids.
00:24:39.120 But it's like,
00:24:39.700 why is it a bad thing
00:24:41.100 to say I want to have
00:24:42.000 a perfect body for the man?
00:24:44.240 I think the whole
00:24:45.340 feminist movement
00:24:46.820 of being an independent woman
00:24:48.380 and even saying
00:24:50.040 that you're codependent
00:24:50.860 on somebody
00:24:51.280 almost is a negative tone
00:24:52.820 these days.
00:24:53.700 But it's not.
00:24:54.400 I mean, technically you are.
00:24:55.480 You're in a relationship.
00:24:56.380 It's okay to be codependent
00:24:57.380 on each other.
00:24:58.560 Yeah.
00:24:58.980 I would love a perfect body
00:25:01.020 to get married
00:25:01.980 and then a husband
00:25:02.740 and then that's his body.
00:25:04.140 I think that'd be great.
00:25:05.160 Like, what's wrong with that?
00:25:06.540 There's nothing wrong with that.
00:25:07.380 That's just how you view it.
00:25:08.960 You know what I mean?
00:25:09.480 I think everybody has to live
00:25:12.240 with what they would
00:25:12.880 feel comfortable with.
00:25:14.000 So if she doesn't feel
00:25:15.260 comfortable with having
00:25:16.180 a perfect body
00:25:16.840 but she feels comfortable
00:25:17.640 with having a perfect brain,
00:25:19.120 that's her mindset now
00:25:20.420 and then what she'll live with.
00:25:21.700 Right.
00:25:22.200 And there's nothing wrong
00:25:23.260 with that.
00:25:23.760 But I'm just more asking,
00:25:25.160 like, why do we have
00:25:25.840 this gut reaction
00:25:26.820 that anything we do
00:25:27.820 like for the men,
00:25:28.880 we have, like,
00:25:29.580 whenever girls say,
00:25:30.440 oh, I don't put on makeup
00:25:31.280 for the men,
00:25:32.000 I do it for myself.
00:25:32.900 I don't do this for the men.
00:25:34.280 Like, why is our gut reaction
00:25:35.860 as women, like,
00:25:37.080 this is for ourselves
00:25:38.240 when if we want to be
00:25:39.500 in a long-term marriage,
00:25:40.420 you're supposed to do
00:25:41.520 a lot at least for him.
00:25:43.580 So if a guy grows a beard
00:25:44.840 because his wife wants him to,
00:25:46.540 is that equivalent
00:25:47.640 to what you're saying?
00:25:48.560 No, because I think
00:25:49.480 men and women are different
00:25:50.480 and I think women
00:25:51.200 are here to serve men.
00:25:51.860 So they have an exception
00:25:52.760 that we don't.
00:25:53.560 Yeah, because I think
00:25:54.780 we're lied to
00:25:55.800 in saying that we're equal
00:25:56.800 and I think the natural order
00:25:58.020 of the world is we're not.
00:25:59.040 I think everybody
00:25:59.720 should be living
00:26:00.340 for themselves
00:26:00.840 and their own happiness
00:26:01.580 and that you should never
00:26:02.460 be codependent
00:26:03.340 on your partner.
00:26:04.460 I think that's the problem.
00:26:07.980 We're going to be happy together.
00:26:08.940 So these people talk
00:26:10.180 about being independent.
00:26:11.160 Independent means you're alone.
00:26:12.540 Yeah.
00:26:12.840 You're not independent
00:26:13.580 in a relationship.
00:26:14.060 Independent means to fail.
00:26:15.580 I'm a provider protector.
00:26:17.160 My responsibility
00:26:17.880 as the king of the house
00:26:18.980 is to provide and protect for her,
00:26:20.560 not control her.
00:26:21.600 Right.
00:26:21.780 You brought something up
00:26:22.540 but, like,
00:26:22.940 treat you bad.
00:26:24.000 There's always these exceptions.
00:26:26.120 I was in a toxic relationship.
00:26:27.800 Everybody's been in bad relationships.
00:26:29.620 Right.
00:26:29.740 But my duty and responsibility
00:26:31.080 and honor
00:26:31.720 is to serve her
00:26:32.900 and provide and protect for her.
00:26:34.900 Her responsibility,
00:26:36.160 she takes care of the home.
00:26:37.620 She cooks the food.
00:26:38.640 This is how we live our life.
00:26:40.740 Now, when you say that,
00:26:42.200 if I say I'm independent,
00:26:43.520 well, then why am I
00:26:44.100 in a relationship?
00:26:44.900 Right.
00:26:45.140 I rely on her
00:26:46.100 to take care of the home.
00:26:47.560 That's what she does.
00:26:48.520 I didn't say independent, did I?
00:26:49.900 No, but I'm saying
00:26:50.620 you said codependency.
00:26:51.500 You said codependency is bad.
00:26:52.200 It's not codependent
00:26:52.980 like you're unable to live
00:26:54.580 without anybody.
00:26:54.600 Like you can't survive.
00:26:55.960 That's not codependency.
00:26:56.680 It's just being a team.
00:26:58.180 Well, no, no, no.
00:26:59.080 So this is the other misconception.
00:27:01.580 A relationship is not a partnership.
00:27:03.400 A partnership is where
00:27:04.280 you go into business with somebody.
00:27:05.820 We're not in a partnership.
00:27:07.080 We're in a relationship.
00:27:08.140 Marriage is a business.
00:27:09.620 It definitely is.
00:27:10.640 But it's not.
00:27:11.220 This is where the problems come in.
00:27:13.360 We come in.
00:27:13.820 It's 50-50.
00:27:14.720 No, it's not 50-50.
00:27:15.700 And I agree with that.
00:27:16.580 I lead the home.
00:27:17.740 But here we are.
00:27:18.540 Right.
00:27:18.820 Here we are.
00:27:19.400 I don't believe it's 50-50 ever.
00:27:20.880 I don't believe it,
00:27:21.460 but this new generation set of men
00:27:23.100 is why a lot of the women
00:27:24.140 are the way they are
00:27:25.180 with the feelings
00:27:26.420 of wanting to be so independent
00:27:27.780 because the men
00:27:28.860 are like so aggressive
00:27:29.960 with they don't want to pay for that.
00:27:30.680 Men are the new bitches.
00:27:31.740 They don't want to pay for that.
00:27:32.160 Well, let me tell you why.
00:27:33.060 Well, because women
00:27:33.920 ask them to be bitches.
00:27:35.100 And 80% of the single-parent homes
00:27:37.920 are women.
00:27:38.880 And they're trying to raise these boys
00:27:40.340 and they're raising them
00:27:41.120 as feminine men.
00:27:42.400 You need to do this.
00:27:43.280 You need to do this.
00:27:43.880 Your grandma,
00:27:44.480 your great-grandmother's like,
00:27:45.840 go out and find yourself
00:27:47.020 a good man that can take care of you.
00:27:48.880 And when I say this,
00:27:50.560 a lot of these women nowadays,
00:27:53.640 their mamas are like,
00:27:54.360 you don't need a man.
00:27:55.560 You can be an independent boss, bitch.
00:27:57.220 And then what happens
00:27:58.220 is you become 50-60 years old
00:28:00.320 drinking boxed wine,
00:28:01.580 watching Netflix
00:28:02.200 with your cats.
00:28:04.360 Right.
00:28:04.580 Talking about angel numbers
00:28:05.900 and horoscopes.
00:28:06.820 I'm fine.
00:28:07.500 I'm fine.
00:28:08.040 But let me tell you something.
00:28:09.000 I'm fine.
00:28:09.600 I'm fine.
00:28:10.100 And then you come 60,
00:28:11.120 you're like,
00:28:11.420 what am I going to do for work?
00:28:13.280 You can't retire.
00:28:14.160 You don't have $2, $3 million.
00:28:15.460 If they picked the perfect body
00:28:17.640 at 60,
00:28:18.440 it would be the retire only man.
00:28:20.720 Okay.
00:28:21.760 Yeah, there you go.
00:28:22.420 There you go.
00:28:22.940 I'm not coming at you.
00:28:24.260 I'm just stating what,
00:28:25.540 as a man of high-value man,
00:28:27.420 when we're looking,
00:28:28.300 we're like,
00:28:28.880 I talked,
00:28:29.600 I had a conversation last night.
00:28:31.300 I talked to hundreds
00:28:32.320 and hundreds of women.
00:28:33.520 I coach men and women.
00:28:34.560 I get these challenges.
00:28:35.780 I've helped marriages.
00:28:36.740 Now, I'm not perfect.
00:28:38.480 I don't know everything,
00:28:39.460 but I'm rarely in doubt
00:28:40.260 because this is what I do.
00:28:41.500 And I see the challenges
00:28:42.720 that some of the ladies and men have.
00:28:44.840 And a lot of these men are simping.
00:28:46.260 I get it.
00:28:46.920 They're simping.
00:28:47.840 And they'll come up,
00:28:48.540 like Pearl.
00:28:49.520 Pearl was in a situation.
00:28:50.760 Watch this.
00:28:51.140 Pearl was in a situation.
00:28:52.340 A guy watched my podcast.
00:28:53.880 Pearl was on there.
00:28:54.780 He reached out to her,
00:28:56.120 somehow,
00:28:56.620 shape,
00:28:57.140 way,
00:28:57.340 or form,
00:28:57.800 and he wanted to date her.
00:28:59.060 And, like,
00:28:59.780 soon as he met her,
00:29:00.520 he goes,
00:29:01.100 I want to marry you.
00:29:01.940 It turned her off.
00:29:03.220 He was simping.
00:29:04.480 Dirty.
00:29:05.320 Am I right?
00:29:06.320 Yeah, yeah, I did.
00:29:07.520 And these guys,
00:29:09.440 I say,
00:29:09.780 men,
00:29:10.200 stop chasing women.
00:29:12.240 Stop chasing women.
00:29:13.760 What value does a woman
00:29:15.180 bring to the table,
00:29:16.280 I say,
00:29:16.680 or to the relationship
00:29:17.440 outside of sex?
00:29:19.160 What do you bring
00:29:19.720 to the relationship
00:29:20.300 outside of sex?
00:29:21.300 I'm fucking hilarious.
00:29:23.700 Dude,
00:29:23.900 men don't want to date comedians.
00:29:25.460 They want to date models.
00:29:26.600 What?
00:29:27.560 If that was true,
00:29:29.000 if men wanted to date funny,
00:29:30.220 if men wanted to date funny women,
00:29:32.080 I'm a funny-ass model,
00:29:33.480 so what's up?
00:29:34.060 Chelsea,
00:29:34.640 you're not that funny.
00:29:35.700 I also have a girlfriend,
00:29:36.840 so y'all need to keep that
00:29:37.620 into it.
00:29:38.320 Chelsea,
00:29:38.400 I understand.
00:29:39.720 You're in a different relationship.
00:29:41.020 You're in a different relationship.
00:29:42.000 Yeah.
00:29:42.640 But, you know,
00:29:43.880 for men,
00:29:44.420 it's like they're not looking
00:29:45.240 for funny chicks.
00:29:46.160 Otherwise,
00:29:46.820 you wouldn't see all these comedians.
00:29:48.100 They're always single.
00:29:49.260 No, that's not true.
00:29:50.160 Have you seen that Asian comedian
00:29:51.280 and she just came out
00:29:52.020 with a movie
00:29:52.420 and she had fucking funny shit?
00:29:53.760 You know what's so funny?
00:29:54.520 She was pregnant.
00:29:55.280 She already had that baby,
00:29:56.060 I think.
00:29:56.320 You know what's so funny?
00:29:57.880 It's like you have to bring up
00:29:59.360 the exception whose name
00:30:00.660 you don't even know.
00:30:01.160 I don't really watch comedians.
00:30:02.400 Well, yeah,
00:30:02.820 but just think of Chelsea.
00:30:04.040 I can't remember her name,
00:30:04.580 but I've seen the movie.
00:30:05.400 Chelsea Handler's by herself.
00:30:06.700 All the big-name comedians
00:30:08.120 are by themselves.
00:30:08.680 That woman is paid.
00:30:10.040 I still do think,
00:30:11.220 as much as you can be
00:30:12.520 as black and white with stuff,
00:30:13.740 I still think that men
00:30:14.920 do choose you
00:30:16.320 or fall in love with you
00:30:17.800 or like you more
00:30:18.480 because of your personality
00:30:20.440 and because of other things
00:30:22.020 that you bring to the table.
00:30:22.560 Yeah, because they miss you
00:30:23.560 when you're not around.
00:30:24.160 Not because you're fine.
00:30:25.220 I know women with perfect bodies,
00:30:26.980 really nice bodies at that,
00:30:28.360 really nice bodies,
00:30:29.380 tatted up, gorgeous.
00:30:30.840 I mean, the woman
00:30:32.060 that all the men
00:30:32.700 walk in the room and want,
00:30:33.900 they still get cheated on.
00:30:34.820 Hold on, we have a man
00:30:35.660 in the room,
00:30:36.220 so I think he should get cheated on.
00:30:37.440 Whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:30:37.700 I miss this.
00:30:38.440 Let me get it.
00:30:38.940 That's just what that is.
00:30:39.840 What were you saying
00:30:41.260 about the woman
00:30:41.780 tatted in the room?
00:30:42.760 Say that again.
00:30:43.520 I mean, she could be tatted,
00:30:44.320 she could be not tatted,
00:30:44.880 but I actually know women
00:30:45.900 that are completely gorgeous bodies,
00:30:47.540 beautiful faces,
00:30:48.680 intelligent,
00:30:49.240 bring a lot to the table,
00:30:50.300 and they still are getting
00:30:51.520 mistreated and cheated on
00:30:53.260 and pushed to the side.
00:30:54.520 Look at Halle Berry.
00:30:55.560 Yeah.
00:30:57.280 Here's the stat.
00:30:57.920 Oh, I got no...
00:30:59.160 Let me tell you.
00:31:00.400 Yeah, I met Halle Berry.
00:31:01.980 You want me to tell you
00:31:02.460 about Halle Berry?
00:31:03.420 I wouldn't touch her
00:31:04.220 with a 10-foot pole.
00:31:05.220 That woman's like a dude.
00:31:06.940 Masculine, bossy as hell.
00:31:08.180 I love it.
00:31:08.480 And anybody who gets to that,
00:31:09.540 just like Kim Kardashian,
00:31:10.620 oh, she's a boss bitch.
00:31:12.160 Dude, she's been through
00:31:13.140 so many dudes,
00:31:14.260 her body count's higher
00:31:15.220 than the tax returns
00:31:16.980 or something like that.
00:31:18.440 I used to hang out
00:31:21.000 with Kim back in the day.
00:31:22.420 But regarding those high-value men,
00:31:24.380 yeah, look at Kevin Hart,
00:31:26.020 Jay-Z.
00:31:26.780 They all cheated, right?
00:31:27.900 But guess what?
00:31:29.640 She still stayed with him.
00:31:31.180 She still stayed with him.
00:31:32.620 Right?
00:31:32.900 So the question is,
00:31:33.800 if you were in a relationship
00:31:34.640 with Drake and married to Drake
00:31:35.820 and he cheated on you,
00:31:36.600 would you still stay married to him?
00:31:38.380 No.
00:31:39.160 Why do guys get to have
00:31:40.800 such a high body count
00:31:42.180 and women don't?
00:31:43.520 That's my big problem.
00:31:44.740 And like, I don't really...
00:31:45.980 Let me ask you a good question.
00:31:46.700 No, no, no.
00:31:47.520 Not even women are different.
00:31:48.680 Hold on.
00:31:49.200 They get away with everything.
00:31:49.980 Hold on.
00:31:50.400 We can get away with shit.
00:31:51.180 Let me just finish real quick.
00:31:51.720 We get away with everything.
00:31:53.260 We're fat.
00:31:53.960 We're smart.
00:31:54.420 We're fat.
00:31:55.400 We're whores nowadays.
00:31:56.520 We're on birth control.
00:31:57.800 We get away with everything.
00:31:58.900 I don't really...
00:31:59.900 I'm like...
00:32:00.900 I'm somebody who's been
00:32:01.760 taking advantage of a lot,
00:32:03.060 so I don't really do
00:32:04.000 the whole, like,
00:32:05.120 sexual thing.
00:32:06.020 Sure, sure, sure.
00:32:06.460 I don't have a lot of bodies
00:32:07.520 up under me.
00:32:08.380 But I still stand with women
00:32:10.260 which don't judge a man...
00:32:12.420 Like, don't not judge a man
00:32:13.920 when he has a high body count.
00:32:15.420 But if a woman fucks
00:32:16.540 who the fuck she wants
00:32:17.300 because she can,
00:32:18.140 because she's a bad bitch,
00:32:19.600 why the fuck you calling her a hug?
00:32:21.020 I don't like that.
00:32:21.960 First of all,
00:32:22.680 you don't have to be a bad bitch
00:32:24.520 to fuck a bunch of guys.
00:32:25.720 Any girls can fuck that.
00:32:26.280 You could be a mid-bitch.
00:32:27.060 Every girl in here
00:32:27.860 could get on the phone.
00:32:29.400 I'm talking about the bad bitches.
00:32:30.860 I'm not saying that.
00:32:31.560 You have to be one to do it.
00:32:32.320 Right, but women...
00:32:33.560 Women...
00:32:34.100 All you women right now
00:32:35.100 can get on the phone
00:32:35.740 and have sex tonight.
00:32:36.720 Yes, right.
00:32:37.460 It's very hard for men
00:32:38.540 to do that.
00:32:38.620 You can just walk out
00:32:39.560 down the strip
00:32:40.380 and be like,
00:32:41.080 sex!
00:32:41.720 And then someone will come.
00:32:42.560 It's very hard.
00:32:43.060 You know what I'm saying?
00:32:46.540 It's very hard for men...
00:32:48.420 A lot of women don't believe this.
00:32:49.640 It's very hard for men
00:32:50.500 to have sex with women.
00:32:51.420 I've heard men say that.
00:32:52.180 It's very challenging.
00:32:52.960 Let me explain something.
00:32:53.820 No, no.
00:32:54.700 10% of men
00:32:55.620 are actually sexually active.
00:32:57.520 A lot of women
00:32:58.020 think all these dudes.
00:32:58.940 And the 10%
00:32:59.900 that are sexually active,
00:33:01.000 they're the ones
00:33:01.440 having sex with y'all.
00:33:03.180 You see what I'm saying?
00:33:04.440 Yeah.
00:33:04.640 So what happens is
00:33:05.780 for a man to go out
00:33:06.640 and have sex,
00:33:07.040 for him to have access
00:33:08.180 to women and have options,
00:33:10.460 he's got to be on point,
00:33:12.060 high valued,
00:33:12.780 have status,
00:33:13.460 have swag.
00:33:14.280 He's worked hard
00:33:15.080 to get to that level.
00:33:15.820 Now, to answer your question
00:33:16.640 on why is it bad,
00:33:17.900 when a woman gets past
00:33:18.860 six men body count,
00:33:20.840 her pair bonding starts...
00:33:22.040 Her ability to pair bond
00:33:24.160 with a man
00:33:24.980 goes down to 25%.
00:33:26.200 Where did you learn this?
00:33:27.220 I read psychology books
00:33:28.660 on relationships.
00:33:29.560 People have interviewed
00:33:30.260 10,000 people.
00:33:31.300 You have a specific number.
00:33:32.860 Yeah.
00:33:33.380 Let me explain something.
00:33:34.560 Your oxytocin levels go down.
00:33:36.400 It's hard for you
00:33:37.020 to pair bond with a man.
00:33:38.300 The more men you've been with...
00:33:39.700 Actually, I can speak on this.
00:33:40.740 I'm sorry.
00:33:40.980 Okay, but I'm going to have
00:33:41.740 Pearl talk to you.
00:33:42.420 But that's a good question.
00:33:43.240 I've been fucking for 21 years.
00:33:44.280 You think it ain't...
00:33:45.260 But you're not with a man.
00:33:48.100 You have a choice, right?
00:33:49.000 But to my point,
00:33:51.160 you'll see women
00:33:52.060 go through guys
00:33:52.940 or go through relationships,
00:33:53.940 have problems.
00:33:54.920 It's hard for them to bond.
00:33:56.660 Well, okay,
00:33:57.500 so I agree that
00:33:59.040 we should be saving ourselves
00:34:01.460 a little bit better
00:34:01.980 than what we do these days.
00:34:03.060 Yes, okay, whatever.
00:34:04.000 Who cares?
00:34:04.860 But I don't believe
00:34:06.880 in this pair bonding thing.
00:34:07.840 And I only say that
00:34:09.000 is because oxytocin
00:34:10.620 is something that gets
00:34:11.620 regenerated in your body.
00:34:12.980 Sure.
00:34:13.200 And it actually gets
00:34:14.060 regenerated super quick.
00:34:15.380 Like after sex...
00:34:16.720 Okay, do you...
00:34:17.360 I have a question.
00:34:17.920 Do you think that
00:34:18.680 a virgin and a hooker
00:34:19.800 have the same
00:34:20.340 pair bonding abilities?
00:34:22.320 So...
00:34:22.720 Yes or no?
00:34:23.120 Okay, my question also...
00:34:24.280 Yes or no?
00:34:25.500 Do you think it's the same?
00:34:26.960 I do not,
00:34:27.620 but I don't believe...
00:34:28.300 So you do believe it
00:34:29.100 to some extent?
00:34:29.980 Yes.
00:34:30.500 But what I'm saying is
00:34:31.680 the science behind
00:34:32.800 actual pair bonding
00:34:34.000 and the six partner thing,
00:34:35.780 I don't think
00:34:36.420 that's actually true science.
00:34:37.560 And I only say this
00:34:38.360 because I tried
00:34:39.500 to read up on it
00:34:40.260 because I was actually
00:34:41.520 curious about it.
00:34:42.660 And they said
00:34:43.500 that they got this
00:34:44.560 information from a mammal
00:34:47.080 called the prairie roll.
00:34:48.360 Have you heard of that?
00:34:49.360 So this whole thing
00:34:50.480 that you're talking about
00:34:51.420 with six partners
00:34:52.420 actually came from
00:34:53.200 a different mammal
00:34:53.960 that was not...
00:34:55.080 Well, and we could
00:34:56.940 argue it's 10.
00:34:58.220 We could argue it's 15.
00:34:59.580 But we know what's true
00:35:01.100 is the more you sleep
00:35:02.080 with, the harder it is to buy.
00:35:03.300 But I also believe
00:35:04.000 that it has...
00:35:04.960 Yes, it's hormones.
00:35:06.260 Yeah.
00:35:06.400 But it's also trauma.
00:35:07.840 It's allowing people in.
00:35:10.160 You can also...
00:35:10.820 But it's like, okay,
00:35:11.720 if I drink
00:35:12.360 every single day
00:35:13.220 of my life
00:35:13.820 then alcohol
00:35:14.300 is not going to
00:35:14.800 affect me every bunch
00:35:15.780 as much.
00:35:16.740 If you fuck
00:35:17.600 every single person
00:35:18.560 you meet,
00:35:19.600 you're not going to
00:35:20.620 bond as much
00:35:21.280 to each one.
00:35:22.140 So I'm not saying
00:35:23.300 six is the number.
00:35:24.340 It could be 10.
00:35:25.080 It could be 15.
00:35:25.280 That's the only thing
00:35:25.680 I'm like,
00:35:26.200 it's the six,
00:35:26.960 it's the oxytocin thing.
00:35:28.500 Even if it's...
00:35:29.240 I mean, women lie anyway.
00:35:30.340 Who knows what
00:35:30.800 those chicks'
00:35:31.140 body counts were.
00:35:32.100 So it's like,
00:35:32.620 all right, let's say...
00:35:33.140 I stopped counting
00:35:33.980 like five, six years ago.
00:35:35.680 So I always used
00:35:36.380 to tell my girlfriends...
00:35:37.100 Don't give a fuck.
00:35:37.420 So I used to be
00:35:38.040 a cocktail waitress
00:35:39.160 at a strip club.
00:35:39.920 Right.
00:35:40.180 And they used to
00:35:40.560 always tell me,
00:35:41.180 why aren't you
00:35:41.640 going to be a dancer?
00:35:42.540 And I said,
00:35:42.860 I don't want to be
00:35:43.540 because I feel like me,
00:35:45.320 this is just a me thing.
00:35:47.140 You have to be an actress.
00:35:48.780 And when a guy comes in,
00:35:50.000 I have to figure out
00:35:50.640 what role am I playing
00:35:51.600 in his life
00:35:52.160 to receive that money.
00:35:53.760 So I was nervous
00:35:54.840 that it was going
00:35:55.260 to mess my mind up
00:35:56.400 when it comes to a man
00:35:57.520 that's coming in my life
00:35:58.380 and I'm like,
00:35:58.780 am I going to switch myself
00:36:00.000 for this person
00:36:01.080 and not be who I am?
00:36:02.460 And then inevitably
00:36:03.240 they're going to see
00:36:03.900 the real person
00:36:04.640 and we're going
00:36:05.220 to have an issue.
00:36:05.920 So it's going to mess,
00:36:07.000 I guess, the pair
00:36:08.080 they're going that way.
00:36:09.360 But the whole point
00:36:10.400 is that less is better.
00:36:12.140 Right?
00:36:12.460 In general.
00:36:12.940 I agree.
00:36:13.520 I just think we should
00:36:14.200 save ourselves
00:36:15.140 a little bit more
00:36:15.620 because I think we're just
00:36:16.520 more valuable
00:36:17.580 than when we throw around.
00:36:18.760 Honestly,
00:36:18.980 but I just want to put this
00:36:20.060 in a historical point of view.
00:36:21.740 You know,
00:36:21.960 a hundred years ago,
00:36:22.980 what percent of women
00:36:23.740 were virgins
00:36:24.300 on their wedding days
00:36:25.080 a hundred years ago?
00:36:26.180 Guess.
00:36:26.380 Probably almost like
00:36:26.940 a hundred percent of them.
00:36:27.960 Guess.
00:36:28.220 Like 90, 90 percent.
00:36:29.960 Eighty-five percent of women
00:36:31.300 were virgins.
00:36:32.340 Now let's just say
00:36:33.000 because we all know
00:36:33.620 women lie,
00:36:34.340 so it's like,
00:36:34.720 all right, let's double it.
00:36:35.440 I would have loved
00:36:35.880 to be a virgin
00:36:36.800 on my wedding day
00:36:37.620 if I would have been,
00:36:39.000 you know,
00:36:39.280 in a sexual assault
00:36:40.260 as a child.
00:36:41.340 You know,
00:36:41.620 and a lot of women
00:36:42.260 go through that as well.
00:36:42.880 And that's unfortunate.
00:36:43.880 That's an exception.
00:36:44.760 A lot of women
00:36:44.900 go through that as well.
00:36:46.040 I was raised
00:36:46.480 in a very, you know,
00:36:47.320 religious household.
00:36:48.040 I would have loved
00:36:48.920 to get married
00:36:49.640 and be a virgin.
00:36:50.160 And you'd agree
00:36:51.280 that would have been
00:36:51.820 the best outcome.
00:36:52.340 I agree.
00:36:53.000 I agree.
00:36:53.860 But unfortunately,
00:36:55.220 there are people
00:36:56.040 who are monsters
00:36:56.900 out here
00:36:57.520 and they criticize
00:36:58.640 those women
00:36:59.340 that are virgins
00:37:00.140 and they take
00:37:01.080 that innocence from them.
00:37:02.100 No, I don't think
00:37:02.720 that's the majority.
00:37:03.520 I think the majority
00:37:06.380 of us women,
00:37:07.480 we meet a guy
00:37:08.360 that's handsome
00:37:09.140 and we just,
00:37:10.080 yeah, we fuck,
00:37:10.900 I think, in general.
00:37:12.020 Yes.
00:37:12.500 Like, it's not...
00:37:14.160 Oh, that's what I do.
00:37:15.160 And so, in a way,
00:37:16.000 in a way,
00:37:16.500 like women,
00:37:17.240 in a way,
00:37:18.040 women,
00:37:18.500 we're the ones
00:37:19.180 picking non-monogamy
00:37:20.360 because when we have
00:37:21.700 the most choice,
00:37:22.680 which is early 20s,
00:37:23.680 we don't pick monogamy.
00:37:25.040 Hey, I'm polyamorous,
00:37:26.160 so you're right.
00:37:26.740 Right, yeah.
00:37:27.460 I'll pick monogamy.
00:37:28.420 No, you didn't.
00:37:29.620 I mean, for...
00:37:30.140 I will pick monogamy.
00:37:31.080 Well, no, you didn't
00:37:32.200 because how old
00:37:33.060 are you again?
00:37:33.540 I'm 28.
00:37:34.180 Okay, you're 28.
00:37:35.080 So you could have...
00:37:35.860 I know you had
00:37:36.540 that happen to you,
00:37:37.720 but after that,
00:37:38.400 you could have,
00:37:38.860 at 18, 20, 22,
00:37:40.500 picked a guy,
00:37:41.080 gotten married,
00:37:41.720 stayed with him.
00:37:42.660 And you did it.
00:37:43.720 None of us did.
00:37:44.980 If I picked someone,
00:37:46.360 it would have happened,
00:37:47.200 but it didn't happen.
00:37:48.060 Right, but that's the point.
00:37:49.260 It wasn't a priority to you.
00:37:51.200 So, and...
00:37:51.880 Not necessarily.
00:37:52.700 It wasn't a priority.
00:37:53.760 It just wasn't...
00:37:55.080 I didn't meet anyone
00:37:56.160 that's made that happen.
00:37:57.440 Right, but it's like,
00:37:59.300 but it's like,
00:38:00.420 if we put that towards,
00:38:02.640 well, I should have been,
00:38:03.560 and I was chasing college sports.
00:38:05.020 Like, that's what I was doing.
00:38:06.260 I was chasing a priority.
00:38:07.540 And correct.
00:38:08.540 And that's what I'm saying.
00:38:09.580 Like, when we have the choice,
00:38:11.220 we don't do it.
00:38:12.080 And so, in a way,
00:38:13.500 it's like,
00:38:14.540 we're the ones picking non-monogamy,
00:38:16.420 and we whine
00:38:17.280 when the men don't pick monogamy later.
00:38:20.520 Go ahead.
00:38:20.540 I got to...
00:38:21.220 Asia, I want to hear from you.
00:38:22.300 You haven't said a lot.
00:38:23.100 What are your thoughts on this?
00:38:25.140 My thoughts...
00:38:26.980 I guess what I can say is,
00:38:29.440 I'm divorced.
00:38:30.820 So, I'm 25,
00:38:31.760 and I'm divorced.
00:38:33.080 And I did choose monogamy.
00:38:35.820 Young.
00:38:36.300 I was...
00:38:36.740 We got married when I was 23.
00:38:40.060 And...
00:38:40.620 Why didn't you stay married?
00:38:42.780 Why didn't I?
00:38:43.600 Yeah.
00:38:47.520 I did something...
00:38:48.940 I got divorced
00:38:50.160 because I couldn't compromise
00:38:53.660 because my ex-husband,
00:38:55.480 he was an alcoholic.
00:38:57.080 So, he didn't want to stop drinking.
00:39:00.120 He...
00:39:00.620 I tried everything that I could.
00:39:01.980 I tried therapy.
00:39:03.320 I tried offering services,
00:39:07.100 but you can't change what somebody...
00:39:09.720 Did you know he was an alcoholic
00:39:10.900 when you married him?
00:39:11.820 No, I didn't.
00:39:13.060 There's no warning signs?
00:39:14.560 Was he an alcoholic when you married him,
00:39:15.960 or did that happen after?
00:39:16.460 No, so it gradually got worse
00:39:18.620 as we...
00:39:20.040 After...
00:39:20.480 Actually, after we had gotten married.
00:39:21.420 Was it, like, work-related?
00:39:22.560 Like, that he wasn't able to provide like that?
00:39:24.500 So, it started to get on him?
00:39:25.760 Because I know that about that happened.
00:39:26.980 Well, he...
00:39:27.940 He's prior military.
00:39:29.200 He was deployed.
00:39:30.560 He was in combat.
00:39:32.380 PTSD.
00:39:32.700 And he had...
00:39:33.180 Yeah, he had a lot of that.
00:39:34.260 Yeah, PTSD, yeah.
00:39:34.720 And in the beginning,
00:39:35.700 it was regulated with medication,
00:39:38.660 and it was good, you know?
00:39:40.560 But after a while, like, sometimes...
00:39:43.280 Definitely.
00:39:43.740 Do you know how he's doing now?
00:39:45.240 Yeah, we still have contact,
00:39:46.860 even to this day.
00:39:47.540 He's okay now, or better, or what?
00:39:49.040 He's right where I left him,
00:39:50.980 unfortunately, yeah.
00:39:53.360 Wow.
00:39:53.960 I don't blame you one bit
00:39:54.800 for leaving that type of environment.
00:39:57.260 Yeah, no, and...
00:39:57.320 Yeah, it wasn't something
00:39:58.100 that I could compromise with any longer.
00:39:59.960 And when I tell you
00:40:00.880 I did everything that I could
00:40:01.960 to stay with him, I did.
00:40:03.400 And I would have done anything
00:40:04.420 that he needed to...
00:40:05.320 But you didn't stay with him.
00:40:06.880 So how could you say
00:40:07.560 you did everything you could
00:40:08.700 to stay if you left?
00:40:10.320 I'm not even saying
00:40:11.140 you were wrong for it,
00:40:12.100 but I'm saying, like,
00:40:12.720 it's kind of not true.
00:40:13.840 Because...
00:40:14.320 You know, women used
00:40:14.900 to date alcoholics
00:40:16.340 for, like, a decade
00:40:17.120 and then they'd stop.
00:40:18.640 They would just, like,
00:40:19.220 stick with it.
00:40:19.820 And then they would regret it.
00:40:20.480 Always regret it.
00:40:21.060 I'm not...
00:40:21.540 Wasting can't get it.
00:40:22.360 Always regret it.
00:40:23.060 Always regret that.
00:40:23.240 I'm not...
00:40:23.920 What I'm not pushing back on
00:40:25.320 is saying,
00:40:25.800 oh, you shouldn't have left that
00:40:26.940 or whatever.
00:40:27.720 What I am saying is,
00:40:29.080 like, this idea
00:40:29.820 that we did everything,
00:40:31.000 you're there for, like, what?
00:40:31.800 Two years?
00:40:32.720 You're 25,
00:40:33.520 so it's, like, two years?
00:40:34.380 Yeah, but what is
00:40:35.220 the timeline for that?
00:40:36.660 Exactly.
00:40:37.240 That's what I want to...
00:40:37.920 I just...
00:40:38.500 You know, I'm Catholic,
00:40:39.780 so I don't believe
00:40:40.300 in divorce.
00:40:41.260 So I actually...
00:40:42.400 I think it's, like,
00:40:43.080 for richer, for poorer,
00:40:44.320 for better, for worse,
00:40:45.440 in sickness and in health.
00:40:46.560 So I don't believe
00:40:47.880 in divorce at all.
00:40:48.460 So if somebody was
00:40:49.360 manipulating you
00:40:50.340 every single day...
00:40:51.240 Well, women are usually
00:40:51.960 the more manipulative ones,
00:40:53.220 anyway.
00:40:53.740 I think your dad...
00:40:54.660 I think we would all
00:40:55.820 be in a better place
00:40:56.600 if our dads
00:40:57.220 helped us pick husbands
00:40:58.260 because we don't pick
00:40:58.980 very well.
00:41:00.280 Clearly.
00:41:01.100 My dad's not here.
00:41:02.160 Yeah, my dad's not here.
00:41:03.080 Yeah, my dad is here, too.
00:41:04.200 My dad's not here, either.
00:41:05.580 No, am I not?
00:41:06.120 How are we going to do
00:41:07.000 a say-off?
00:41:07.680 Because then we can
00:41:08.140 ask our dads.
00:41:08.640 Well, if you want to...
00:41:09.600 If you want to talk
00:41:10.280 about the dads,
00:41:11.120 then, like, the moms
00:41:11.900 picked the dad.
00:41:12.800 You're you guys' dads,
00:41:14.100 so it's, like, if they're...
00:41:15.220 How many of you...
00:41:15.640 I think we need
00:41:16.220 the dads involved.
00:41:17.260 How many of you grew up
00:41:18.040 in a nuclear family,
00:41:19.040 like a mom and dad at home?
00:41:20.640 Before they pass away.
00:41:21.600 Before they pass away.
00:41:22.340 Okay.
00:41:23.160 Two of you?
00:41:23.640 Okay.
00:41:24.280 All right.
00:41:24.780 That's a lot.
00:41:25.220 I come from a broken home,
00:41:26.500 so there's one, too.
00:41:28.200 I had to pretty much
00:41:29.120 build what I had
00:41:31.200 in regards to
00:41:33.080 what my preferences
00:41:34.860 could be.
00:41:36.120 Yeah, yeah,
00:41:36.820 and that's really...
00:41:37.440 That's sad.
00:41:38.380 And I think, again,
00:41:39.700 because it'll go
00:41:40.380 to our parents, right?
00:41:41.760 And a lot of our parents
00:41:42.920 didn't pick well, either.
00:41:44.060 Like, a lot of our moms...
00:41:44.840 Well, I wouldn't say
00:41:45.440 that I didn't have
00:41:46.780 that type of guidance.
00:41:47.520 I mean, I definitely
00:41:48.440 have that relationship
00:41:49.380 with my dad
00:41:49.840 where I could bring him.
00:41:51.180 I did bring my dad to...
00:41:53.120 Or bring my husband
00:41:54.180 to my dad
00:41:55.300 at the time, you know?
00:41:56.240 And your dad was like,
00:41:57.060 this is a great choice.
00:41:57.960 He thought he was great.
00:41:59.300 He thought he was...
00:42:00.400 And he probably was,
00:42:01.080 but into the PTSD
00:42:02.140 and everything else.
00:42:03.040 Right.
00:42:03.520 And there's a lot of factors
00:42:04.380 that play into it, you know?
00:42:05.660 Okay, and so he just
00:42:06.420 started drinking
00:42:07.160 and then just became
00:42:08.360 an alcoholic
00:42:09.000 in two years?
00:42:09.680 He started...
00:42:10.380 He was drinking.
00:42:11.360 How long were you married?
00:42:12.780 We were together...
00:42:13.780 We were together for a year.
00:42:15.640 We were married
00:42:16.360 for two years.
00:42:18.060 Okay.
00:42:18.520 So we were together
00:42:19.260 for all in all three years.
00:42:20.820 Okay.
00:42:21.100 And good job
00:42:21.680 for getting the fuck
00:42:22.460 out of there.
00:42:23.280 Thank you.
00:42:23.660 You're welcome.
00:42:24.780 You know,
00:42:25.120 at the end of the day, too,
00:42:25.920 he's a great person.
00:42:29.040 Yes.
00:42:29.160 Like, I'm not
00:42:29.820 knocking him on that at all.
00:42:31.620 Like, that's one thing...
00:42:32.780 That's one of the reasons
00:42:33.880 why I loved him.
00:42:35.720 Everyone on this earth
00:42:36.880 needs to put their own
00:42:37.960 happiness first
00:42:38.700 above everything.
00:42:39.600 Wrong.
00:42:39.840 I think you gotta put
00:42:40.640 your happiness last.
00:42:42.040 If you are...
00:42:42.640 I think...
00:42:43.080 How can you pour
00:42:43.700 from an empty cup?
00:42:44.880 I think that's just
00:42:46.060 nonsense feminist garbage.
00:42:47.980 No, it's not.
00:42:48.500 Basically...
00:42:48.940 It's for people.
00:42:49.440 Men, women,
00:42:50.520 it doesn't matter.
00:42:51.300 Because you're gonna be
00:42:51.980 unhappy in marriage
00:42:53.120 at some point.
00:42:54.120 You think our great-grandmothers
00:42:55.580 stayed together
00:42:56.760 for 50 years,
00:42:58.520 60 years,
00:42:59.680 thinking about themselves?
00:43:01.280 You know how I could tell
00:43:02.240 the generational switch?
00:43:03.620 You can hear it
00:43:04.100 in the music.
00:43:05.180 We got the Taylor Swift
00:43:06.280 generation,
00:43:07.180 which is I'm a victim,
00:43:08.440 blah, blah, blah.
00:43:09.620 Where...
00:43:09.980 Do you remember...
00:43:10.420 Do you remember
00:43:10.720 the song Jolene?
00:43:11.980 You remember the song Jolene?
00:43:12.780 I love that song.
00:43:13.880 No, no, but that's
00:43:14.700 how women used to react.
00:43:15.920 Please don't take my man.
00:43:16.940 Please don't take my man
00:43:18.440 because she was worried
00:43:20.720 that her man was cheating
00:43:21.960 and instead of keying his car,
00:43:23.920 which, you know,
00:43:24.300 Carrie Underwood
00:43:24.960 keying his car,
00:43:26.000 she...
00:43:27.360 No, but she stayed with him.
00:43:28.700 I heard her talk about that
00:43:30.260 and it's like it was just
00:43:31.640 a completely different mindset
00:43:33.000 where she's like,
00:43:33.620 I can't live without this guy.
00:43:35.420 Where now it's like women,
00:43:36.800 we just care about ourselves
00:43:37.980 and our happiness
00:43:38.780 and if the outcomes were good,
00:43:40.840 then why aren't families together?
00:43:42.240 And, you know,
00:43:42.780 I feel like social media
00:43:43.560 has a lot to do with that too
00:43:44.620 because there's always like
00:43:45.620 somebody on the back burner
00:43:46.660 or someone we've been eyeing
00:43:47.760 or somebody else who
00:43:48.680 we know we could get somebody together.
00:43:50.540 Someone that's been liking your pictures
00:43:51.980 for the last two years
00:43:53.240 and they're just waiting for their chance.
00:43:54.460 Yeah, it's so easy to just get on a dating app
00:43:55.540 and find a replacement.
00:43:57.220 That's the outlier.
00:43:58.260 That's the guy friend
00:43:59.220 that none of you want to be with,
00:44:00.660 but he's a nice guy
00:44:01.660 and he's the guy waiting on the outside,
00:44:03.980 the guy that's liking all your pictures.
00:44:05.720 Hey, oh, but he's my guy friend.
00:44:06.760 That's a nice guy.
00:44:07.340 Oh, that's not my guy friend.
00:44:08.640 I don't have to follow him.
00:44:09.600 I don't have to follow him.
00:44:09.620 Raise of hands.
00:44:16.140 Who here has been in a relationship
00:44:18.040 and had a backup plan?
00:44:20.220 Raise your hand.
00:44:21.480 Just ever in general?
00:44:22.500 Ever, ever.
00:44:23.840 My relationships last like three months.
00:44:26.160 I've never gotten into a relationship
00:44:29.840 thinking that it was going to end.
00:44:32.080 So I've never had a backup plan,
00:44:33.880 but when I found out that they did something,
00:44:35.960 I could have either chose to leave it
00:44:37.720 or chose to get back,
00:44:39.160 and that's the only kind of backup plan
00:44:40.960 that I've had and never initially.
00:44:42.840 Have you ever dated a guy friend?
00:44:45.720 No.
00:44:45.900 Yeah, I have.
00:44:46.580 Yeah?
00:44:47.040 Yeah?
00:44:47.660 I've never dated a guy friend.
00:44:48.720 If you're a friend in my eyes.
00:44:50.340 I did, yes.
00:44:50.640 If you're a friend for life.
00:44:51.880 And I didn't want to.
00:44:53.180 It got snuck into me
00:44:54.840 because my best friend had just committed suicide.
00:44:57.260 Yeah, it's all right.
00:44:58.520 My best friend had just committed suicide,
00:45:00.720 so I felt very vulnerable,
00:45:02.920 and that's how my best guy friend got to sneak in there.
00:45:05.740 Okay.
00:45:06.160 Well, that's not a guy friend, though.
00:45:08.640 My guy friend?
00:45:09.180 No, no, no.
00:45:10.300 Wait, wait, wait.
00:45:11.120 Hold on.
00:45:11.680 Let me tell you.
00:45:12.300 We'll talk about a guy friend.
00:45:13.120 Hold on.
00:45:13.540 That's not a guy friend.
00:45:13.980 If I knew him four years and we didn't do anything,
00:45:16.020 and then when my friend passed away
00:45:17.900 and he was being there for me,
00:45:19.460 then he kind of...
00:45:20.300 But when that guy...
00:45:21.940 You know what?
00:45:22.320 He was always thinking about that
00:45:23.540 in the back of his mind, though.
00:45:24.300 But he was my friend for four years.
00:45:26.120 He doesn't discredit the friendship.
00:45:27.560 He never got to touch me.
00:45:27.720 Do you know why they're guy friends?
00:45:29.820 I think that if you're going to be a guy friend,
00:45:31.680 you put them in.
00:45:32.040 Hey, no.
00:45:32.720 No, do you know why they're guy friends?
00:45:33.960 We never went on a...
00:45:34.780 Yeah, they were waiting for their chance.
00:45:35.760 Okay, they're probably waiting for the chance,
00:45:37.240 but we never went on a date.
00:45:38.420 They never touched me.
00:45:39.320 I have a story.
00:45:39.640 I never slept with them.
00:45:40.420 Because you told them they're their guy friends.
00:45:42.520 I did.
00:45:43.120 Yeah.
00:45:43.840 That's the only reason.
00:45:44.880 She gets it.
00:45:45.500 She gets it.
00:45:45.520 Yeah.
00:45:46.680 I'm always waiting.
00:45:47.840 And so as a guy,
00:45:48.920 as a guy,
00:45:49.440 if I'm dating a gal,
00:45:50.380 oh, I got five guy friends,
00:45:51.880 I'm like,
00:45:52.180 I put the brakes on.
00:45:53.240 Right.
00:45:53.500 I'm like, wait a minute.
00:45:54.440 You got a bunch of guys on set.
00:45:55.900 So women,
00:45:56.640 pretty women always have a backup plan.
00:45:58.760 Pretty women are never single.
00:46:00.660 Women nowadays,
00:46:01.640 it used to be,
00:46:02.340 nowadays women always,
00:46:03.880 if I looked at your IGs
00:46:05.360 and your inbox,
00:46:07.120 your DMs,
00:46:07.980 you got backup plans.
00:46:09.280 You just don't know it,
00:46:10.140 but you know you have backup plans.
00:46:12.060 You know what I'm saying?
00:46:13.340 You just don't know it.
00:46:14.360 Check this out.
00:46:15.060 Most men,
00:46:15.940 they don't get DMs from chicks.
00:46:18.000 Right.
00:46:19.000 Hold on.
00:46:19.600 Because I've been checking my,
00:46:20.960 like my ex-boyfriend's fucking phone
00:46:22.740 and it'd be all kind of DMs.
00:46:24.380 That's because all my friends
00:46:25.560 is in their DMs too.
00:46:27.240 But you hear what I'm saying?
00:46:28.420 You hear what I'm saying?
00:46:29.220 Like you guys get,
00:46:30.020 you guys get body part pics.
00:46:32.660 You know what I get?
00:46:33.460 It's a joke.
00:46:34.100 It's a joke.
00:46:34.960 I make fun of cats,
00:46:36.000 so I get pussy pics all the time.
00:46:37.800 I get cats,
00:46:39.160 but it's cats.
00:46:40.220 Yeah.
00:46:40.760 So I get people sending me cat jokes
00:46:42.740 because I made a joke
00:46:43.540 about single women,
00:46:44.860 angel numbers,
00:46:45.640 horoscopes,
00:46:46.260 and cats and box wine.
00:46:48.080 I think they're so unattractive women
00:46:49.540 and send dick pics.
00:46:50.900 Yeah.
00:46:51.240 We don't like this.
00:46:52.100 Oh my gosh.
00:46:52.680 We hate it.
00:46:53.560 But that's your final plan.
00:46:54.640 I don't even like when they send me
00:46:55.300 a shirtless pic.
00:46:55.560 Can I just say this for anybody
00:46:57.100 who's listening?
00:46:58.300 Like girls only like dick pics
00:47:00.300 when we ask for that dick.
00:47:01.680 If you ever send an unsolicited dick,
00:47:04.080 there's no woman,
00:47:05.500 like I'm not going to say
00:47:06.320 no woman ever.
00:47:07.440 I'm going to say 10%
00:47:08.320 because I'm 10% of weirdos.
00:47:10.320 They're like,
00:47:10.860 oh my God,
00:47:11.620 thank you for that dick pic.
00:47:13.300 Yay!
00:47:14.020 Yeah,
00:47:14.480 the thing about it,
00:47:15.200 if you send a random dick pic to us,
00:47:17.440 it's very perverted.
00:47:18.880 It doesn't seem attractive.
00:47:20.220 Okay,
00:47:20.420 now you know how men think.
00:47:22.400 Men are fun football,
00:47:24.600 food,
00:47:25.340 and fucking.
00:47:26.120 We're simple.
00:47:27.060 Yeah.
00:47:27.320 We're simple creatures of habit,
00:47:28.700 right?
00:47:29.120 Men are always looking at women
00:47:31.140 as a sexual object.
00:47:32.260 That's why she said the perfect body.
00:47:33.700 Right?
00:47:34.060 That's why she said that.
00:47:35.200 Guys don't care about your degree.
00:47:37.000 Right.
00:47:37.240 Guys don't care about your money.
00:47:38.180 Now,
00:47:38.300 if they're simping
00:47:39.080 and they're like,
00:47:39.560 oh,
00:47:39.680 she's going to be my sugar mama.
00:47:42.320 But guys,
00:47:42.800 first look at the woman.
00:47:44.340 She's hot.
00:47:44.980 Whatever's in the desire of the guy,
00:47:47.240 sexually,
00:47:47.680 what he likes,
00:47:48.720 and he's going to look at her.
00:47:50.000 Now,
00:47:50.280 looks is also objective.
00:47:51.900 There's objective truth to that,
00:47:53.120 what beauty is,
00:47:53.900 but not subjective,
00:47:55.300 but objective.
00:47:55.960 So guys are like,
00:47:56.740 okay,
00:47:57.580 we think with our testosterone,
00:48:00.160 we were put here to breed,
00:48:01.660 procreate.
00:48:02.620 Women look at a guy
00:48:03.780 and they go for the resources,
00:48:05.260 not money.
00:48:05.720 When I say resources,
00:48:06.760 you're going to have children.
00:48:07.760 You want the best outcome
00:48:08.960 and probability for your family
00:48:10.680 to have longevity.
00:48:12.180 Right.
00:48:12.260 So you're not going to date
00:48:13.460 no scrub,
00:48:15.060 scrub,
00:48:16.100 right?
00:48:16.400 That's not your deal.
00:48:17.180 Or you're not going to have
00:48:18.060 a relationship with someone
00:48:19.340 or continue a relationship,
00:48:20.660 especially when you're looking
00:48:21.520 to have those things
00:48:22.340 with that person.
00:48:22.820 And you date at your level
00:48:23.920 and above.
00:48:25.240 You always date
00:48:25.960 at your level and above,
00:48:26.960 right?
00:48:27.340 No.
00:48:27.760 No.
00:48:28.320 So Sione can have a level above.
00:48:30.060 Okay.
00:48:30.180 No,
00:48:30.540 not with her.
00:48:31.580 So here's the challenge.
00:48:33.380 Here's the challenge.
00:48:34.360 Inherently.
00:48:35.760 Inherently.
00:48:36.400 Okay.
00:48:37.000 And again,
00:48:37.460 I'm going to go back to my data.
00:48:38.960 Okay.
00:48:39.400 Dr. David Buss has a book
00:48:40.780 called The Evolution of Desire.
00:48:42.700 Five years of interviewing
00:48:44.080 10,000 people all over the world,
00:48:46.220 different religions,
00:48:47.120 ethnic backgrounds,
00:48:47.900 whatever.
00:48:48.600 And the number one response
00:48:50.400 that women look for
00:48:51.620 in a man was resources.
00:48:53.860 So that's their level and above,
00:48:55.800 right?
00:48:56.480 Because what happens,
00:48:57.340 what happens biologically,
00:48:59.020 you're looking for somebody
00:48:59.820 better than you.
00:49:00.620 You want a man that's a hero,
00:49:01.540 right?
00:49:01.700 You want a guy that's successful
00:49:02.740 doing what he's doing.
00:49:03.840 When you date down,
00:49:04.800 what happens?
00:49:05.440 You lose respect
00:49:06.620 for that individual.
00:49:07.300 50-50.
00:49:08.220 I totally agree.
00:49:09.140 Okay.
00:49:09.740 Look at J-Lo.
00:49:10.820 Remember when she dated her,
00:49:11.840 well, J-Lo's got a bad record
00:49:13.120 as it is.
00:49:13.600 Right.
00:49:13.840 But she dated her dancer.
00:49:14.960 I'm like,
00:49:15.200 that ain't going to work.
00:49:16.640 She's paying for everything.
00:49:17.700 Yes.
00:49:18.020 Yeah.
00:49:18.800 Right?
00:49:19.320 And if I dated,
00:49:20.120 if I worked at,
00:49:21.480 no pun intended,
00:49:22.560 because I can't say UPS,
00:49:23.700 those guys make $170.
00:49:24.740 We're like,
00:49:26.820 we're like,
00:49:27.100 we're going to be,
00:49:28.360 if all the women are going to be
00:49:30.420 like outside with a tray of cookies,
00:49:32.580 like on UPS,
00:49:33.580 come.
00:49:34.580 Hey,
00:49:35.080 hey,
00:49:35.360 hey,
00:49:35.620 hey,
00:49:35.760 hey,
00:49:36.120 when you drive,
00:49:37.120 this is guys,
00:49:38.280 this is guys' mentality
00:49:39.380 to a point.
00:49:40.180 When I was young,
00:49:40.860 you're driving up to the,
00:49:41.980 in Seattle,
00:49:42.540 the latte stands,
00:49:43.720 we call them bikini baristas,
00:49:45.740 and all the stands in Seattle
00:49:47.280 have the girls with the bikinis on,
00:49:49.060 the lingerie.
00:49:49.820 Yeah.
00:49:50.060 I would drive up
00:49:51.120 and I'd see a dude
00:49:52.160 and I would just keep going.
00:49:54.160 Why?
00:49:54.640 I didn't go there for the coffee.
00:49:56.520 Right.
00:49:56.940 I went there for the boobs.
00:49:58.340 Right.
00:49:58.780 The coconuts.
00:49:59.780 The coconuts with the pasties.
00:50:01.440 So,
00:50:01.760 you know,
00:50:02.160 and I,
00:50:02.500 I told her,
00:50:02.980 oh,
00:50:03.280 I want to go to Dutch Brothers
00:50:05.080 and have a swirl latte,
00:50:06.840 double frappuccino latte
00:50:08.120 with a twist,
00:50:08.940 pumpkin spice.
00:50:10.120 I'm like,
00:50:10.840 okay,
00:50:11.440 is she hot?
00:50:13.420 Starbucks girls aren't hot.
00:50:15.200 They're wokies,
00:50:16.020 right?
00:50:16.320 First of all,
00:50:16.980 I've been working at Starbucks
00:50:17.660 for seven years.
00:50:18.760 Okay.
00:50:19.460 We're not giving us a wok.
00:50:20.620 You are the exception.
00:50:22.480 I know.
00:50:22.860 I know.
00:50:23.160 I know.
00:50:23.400 I'm playing with us.
00:50:24.600 I think we're just listening.
00:50:25.100 I don't like this,
00:50:25.240 even though.
00:50:26.020 Bye.
00:50:26.280 Bye.
00:50:26.980 Bye.
00:50:27.520 Bye.
00:50:28.620 Bye.
00:50:29.480 Bye.
00:50:30.020 Bye.
00:50:30.960 Bye.
00:50:32.160 Bye.
00:50:34.600 Bye.
00:50:35.500 Bye.
00:50:36.400 Bye.
00:50:36.420 Bye.
00:50:36.780 Bye.
00:50:37.100 Bye.
00:50:38.160 Bye.
00:50:38.500 Bye.
00:50:38.580 Bye.
00:50:38.940 Bye.
00:50:39.200 Bye.
00:50:40.040 Bye.
00:50:40.500 Bye.
00:50:42.180 Bye.
00:50:42.380 Bye.
00:50:42.780 Bye.
00:50:43.220 Bye.
00:50:44.160 Bye.
00:50:44.360 Bye.
00:50:45.040 Bye.
00:50:45.380 Bye.
00:50:46.580 Bye.
00:50:46.780 Bye.
00:50:47.360 Bye.
00:50:47.660 Bye.
00:50:48.220 Bye.
00:50:48.540 Bye.
00:50:48.780 Bye.
00:50:49.040 Bye.
00:50:49.540 Bye.
00:50:50.080 Bye.
00:50:50.100 Bye.
00:50:50.440 Bye.
00:50:51.420 Bye.
00:50:52.280 Bye.