She Got SCHOOLED
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In this episode, the brother and sister duo of the talk about baby mamas and why they should or shouldn t be a baby mama. Do you think men are settling for a baby mom?
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Do you think men wake up thinking they want baby mamas as their long-term partner?
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So what I'm trying to say to you is, when you're a baby mother, you lose points.
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The problem is, as women, you don't understand what men want.
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And the reason why you think you understand what men want is because you live within an echo chamber of your girlfriend.
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You have not come out of that echo chamber and asked men, what do you want from us as women?
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When women do, you say, oh, that's misogynistic.
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Yeah, I was thinking it's definitely a case for you single people.
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Do you know, I'm brought back to, I've been to like three, four weddings this year.
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Now, my Uncle Eric, sadly, he's had some health issues.
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But his partner, despite his sickness, always loved him.
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That's the whole point of it being in a relationship.
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And then they went there for almost 30 years not dating each other, not seeing each other, not speaking to each other.
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She used to just say, oh, that's my man, but not tell people who it was, you know.
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And now they're married, happily married, beautiful couple.
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And people wish they were together for years, you know.
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See, that's different, though, because they were together at some point and they separated.
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But as a woman, if she curved him and he tried for 30 years, after 30 years, and then she gave him that chance, then you know it's not actually because she likes him.
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If she broke up with him, girls don't leave and hope to do worse or the same.
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They don't really try to do better at quitting.
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But, Pearl, bear in mind, Angela Simmons is now a widowed single mom and she's 35.
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But Yo Gotti is a 41-year-old man who's kind of doing well for himself.
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But what I'm saying is, as a 41-year-old man, why is a 35-year-old's widowed baby mama your first pick?
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Who said there's nothing wrong with being a baby?
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But what I'm saying, there's nothing wrong because you could have a kid.
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So, you're telling me a woman that has a child shouldn't have a chance to.
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No, a woman that has a child, I'm not saying that she doesn't get loved.
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So, you've come to me with a man, with a child that is not mine, right?
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When men want to get with a woman, they want to create their child with a woman, right?
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Because there is men that would be like, cut it.
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Men want to create their legacy with a woman, okay?
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What you're bringing to me is another man's legacy.
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So, that goes back to it's the guys you deal with.
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Because, again, even historically, a good portion of men didn't even reproduce.
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It's a very small percentage of men that have multiple baby mums.
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It's common with the men that you guys deal with because those are in the top 20% of men.
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I'm not dealing with no one's baby that I don't know.
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So, basically, earlier you were saying, you were asking them about them being with a virgin, right?
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Like, most women don't want to be with a virgin, right?
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For us, would you rather be with someone who slept with five guys or would you be...
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As men, we prefer to teach a woman than a woman to be out there in the streets and she's come to you.
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Women prefer a man to know what he's doing, which means he's already been in the streets, right?
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Okay, if a girl's a 10, how many points does it subtract a kid?
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So, if she's a 10 with no kids, how many points does a kid subtract?
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From experience, I've been with a woman who's had a child.
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For me, it would depend on whether she'd allow me to parent as well.
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Bro, if you don't want someone's son to tell you, you're not my dad.
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Yeah, I will also say, though, the reason why both of you are saying what you're saying
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is because you are with women who didn't make space for you.
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But at the time, you're with women who didn't make the space for you to be a parent in that
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And because you weren't in that situation, it was terrible because you had no respect,
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A woman who has a child will let you know it's their child.
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I'm saying a woman who has a child who is theirs will, whether consciously or subconsciously,
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I feel like if you date a single mother as a guy, you should be able to cheat.
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Because his mating strategy is, if we go back to our biology, right?
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It's to screw as many people as possible and ensure paternity.
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Our mating strategy is to get resources from a guy.
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So you get your mating strategy and commitment from the guy.
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So you get your mating strategy fulfilled and he has to deal with someone else's kid?
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Like you cheated on him by not waiting for marriage to have a child.
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How did she know he was going to come along though?
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, so, so, so, so I, I think you, you basically
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cheated on him by not giving him purity and youth.
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And so it's like, if you don't offer that, why would you expect monogamy?
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I get what you're saying, but it's a different time now, you know?
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Like you're talking, you're talking from back in the day.
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Do you know how many people have kids nowadays?
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Ladies, ladies, let me try and give you some game.
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Seriously, you don't understand the minds of men.
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I'm saying, men value purity and we value youth.
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You can, amongst your girls, have whatever conversation that you want to have amongst your girls.
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Women live in an echo chamber amongst their women all the time.
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When you come out of that echo chamber and you speak to men.
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What I'm trying to say to you is, right, when, one of the main problems in this society is women do not listen to when men speak.
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And when men do speak, right, they call them misogynistic, they call them all kinds of names that they want to call them, right?
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But what you're not listening to is men are speaking and they're telling their truth.
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If you come to me with a child, two children, three children, you are not our first choice.
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I'm telling you, you don't have children, so it's cool.
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No man wakes up as, if you talk about Yo Gotti, he's 41 years old.
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He did not wake up in the morning thinking, you know, the woman that I actually want to have for my long-term partner is a widowed baby mama.
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Generally, men, that is not their first choice.
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Do you think men wake up thinking they want baby mamas as their long-term partner?
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So what I'm trying to say to you is, when you're a baby mother, you lose points.
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Because a woman can say, I want this and I want that, and she actually doesn't want that.
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So we understand that women want general things.
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Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys.
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I don't want to, like, throw people out and shit.
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You're going to get your mic muted if you keep interrupting you.
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But what I'm trying to say to you, if we understand as men, you want protectors and
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providers and people who do that, we understand as men, that's what we've got to be.
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The problem is, as women, you don't understand what men want.
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And the reason why you think you understand what men want is because you live within an
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You have not come out of that echo chamber and asked men, what do you want from us as
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When women do, you say, oh, that's misogynistic.
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We can actually talk amongst ourselves and say, this is what we, as men, want.
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But you think, because of your echo chamber, that's misogynistic.
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Okay, but how many dads are out there, let's say?
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So, I've seen women that are baby mums get with a guy that respects his child, her child,
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respects her, and the whole situation way more than the actual real baby dad did.
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What I'm trying to say is that I've seen women that have kids dating guys.
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She's obviously, like, separated, divorced, whatever.
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She's dating other guys, and they've actually, and it was-
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I would blame the girl, because she was with the wrong guy in the first place.
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But what I'm trying to say is that, like, it goes to say that not every guy thinks that,
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It's because he doesn't have any other options.
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It's because his pickings weren't that good, honestly.
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There's, like, one, there's 41 forms of birth control.
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Like, why are you getting pregnant with, like, with this random, like, I don't understand
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why these girls are getting babies left and right.
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That doesn't mean that you're just getting with someone randomly.
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If they're college educated, they leave 90% of the time.
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Women ruin relationships, and they ruin families.
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And so, if a guy, ask the majority of men, their first choice is not a baby mother.
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Just like our first choice typically is not a short, broke guy.
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Now, will we put up with a guy that's shorter if he's good looking?
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Will a guy put up with a single mother if she has some other things that she brings to
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Okay, but maybe that woman that has a child has more to offer than a woman that doesn't.
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And that's exactly what we've been talking about.
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If a guy would go out of his way to give more to a woman who already has a child, he's doing
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that because he knows that if he wants to be with a woman, he's actually got to show
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He's got to give more to be in that relationship.
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It's not just effort because she's not going to have to do that for him.
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When you're a single mother and you get married, you get all the benefits.
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So it's like we get bailed out of a bad decision.
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Like you made a poor choice and instead of taking your bed and lying in it, you get bailed
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Why do you have to lie in a bed that maybe is very harmful for yourself though?
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I've been in a relationship where single, like where the girl has a baby.
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They don't let you, like some girls, they don't let you meet their babies.
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First of all, you don't, you don't get to see their child, you don't get to sit down
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with them until things are serious and clear to her that you, that you're showing intention.
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So, uh, so for me as a man, if you let me understood from the beginning, okay, I have
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a child, but first of all, I'm not going to let you meet my child for the first six months
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that we're dating, yeah, their dad or his dad or her dad comes around every now and then
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If she makes everything clear to you from the beginning, right?
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And that you have feelings for her despite her having a child, I don't condemn that, right?
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You can be with a, with a single mother and build a family with alongside that, that child
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There's, there's, there's nothing wrong with that.
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No, but, but then, but then, no, but then I'll get to your point, right?
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If, if like, there's no problem dating or marrying a single woman, a single mother, right?
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But, uh, but, but there's this situation where there's this, you, you, you made me.
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No, but, but then, but then what, sorry, saying as a man, we don't put as a single
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If you are, if you have kids yourself, you cannot go and tell people if they can and can't
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Earlier, you were saying that you don't put a virgin guy as your first choice to have sex
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I'll say, I'll say, I'll say, I'll say, I'll say, I'll say, I'll say the same thing and
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it's not controversial and the men won't get upset.
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Most women, most women don't care because, because the thing is like when a man has multiple
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children, it signals to, to most women that other women have selected him.
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And like, actually I've heard from single dads that they get more women after they have kids.
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So I'm not the norm, but I can, I've said on this podcast multiple times, single father,
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And it's not controversial, but like women get triggered.
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No, but the thing is, I'm a father and I understand this.
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I have a child and I understand I'm not women's first choice and I'm cool with it.
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I'm a single father and I understand that I'm not women's first choice.
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Because I've got a child and I may have quote unquote baggage that I'm bringing with me.
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When you say that to a woman, ah, oh my God, ah, it's like, yo, but hang on, but, but why
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That's, that's the selfishness of women coming out.
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I hear it, but don't go to say that, um, a woman that has a child is less valuable.
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No, a woman that has a child is less valuable to a man.
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Hang on, wait, wait, wait, wait, not to, not to herself and not to her girlfriends.
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And that's why I said, women need to step out of their echo chambers and start asking
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men, hang on, you need to start asking men what they value.
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And the problem is when you start asking men, shout out, rest in peace, Kevin Samuels.
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He, he highlighted this and he highlighted that when men speak and when men think and when
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men feel and when men express their opinions, right.
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Women that are single mothers of like two, three, four, or however many children, fat
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You have to understand how men speak and how men feel and it offends you.
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, Amanda has standards.
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When a man, when a woman has standards, men are not offended.
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If you say you don't want short guys, we're like, all right, cool.
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Or he, a man could actually have all the things that he, everything.
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And if he has kids, I'm like, no, dead that straight away.
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And I respect a man that actually says, raw, listen, I don't want this.
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But you as a woman have to understand that that's not his standard.
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You will break all of your rules for the right guy.
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No, you will break, I guarantee you, you will break all of your rules for the right guy.
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So if you're not a virgin and you turn around and say, oh, that guy has a baby, all right?
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So I'm not going to, I'm not going to be in a relationship.
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But then at the same time, you're not even a virgin.
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Can I say why I would not give a guy the chance?
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Can I say why I would not give a guy that has kids?
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Because me as a person, I know myself and I can't give those kids the love that they require.
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I can't, I can't be around someone else's child.
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And I already know, as a man, you know you're going to go and do your little ting ting with your baby mom.
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When you go and pick up them kids, them little cheeky, little kids.
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Like, a single thought, like, again, it wouldn't be my first choice.
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Because I just think there's baggage that comes with that.
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But like, why when Sarah was saying the same thing, you guys were like, but that doesn't make her less valuable, did it?
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No, because the way he said that just sounded mad, didn't it?
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The facts is, I understand as a man that being a father of another child, I understand that a lot of women may say, I'm going to curb that guy.
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I'm not taking that guy because he's got a child.
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The problem is, is that when you say the same thing to women, oh, but I feel like we don't give a fuck about your feelings.
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Because the bottom line is, hang on, because the bottom line is, it's the same thing.
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But your feelings tend to take precedent over the facts.
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You can go for a second, then you can go to answer.
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I think the difference is why all the girls were saying, but, but, but, but, but, but, and it goes back to what he said.
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Your guy, you two are saying, if a girl has a child, she's a five.
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But it completely depends on the child, the relationship with the child.
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Like, I might meet a guy, his baby mom's tapped, always involved.
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Okay, okay, so, so you're, so you're saying it depends based on the girl.
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It depends on the girl, and it depends on how the person lets, if you have someone that doesn't let you parent their child at all, how can that ever work?
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Okay, so, you're looking at it from a woman's point of view.
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Because for us, it depends based on the relationship.
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I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't know, I don't know your personal situation.
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But I'm saying, I'm saying, in general, it's not men's first choice.
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, and it really doesn't matter the situation.
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I don't know who your stepdad is, but typically, it's lower status men that don't have a ton of options.
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Because if you look at the men with the money and the power, and that have the most options, they tend to pick young, single, childless women.
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I've been brought up with boys, like men, my uncle, my dad.
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I feel like it doesn't matter what caliber a man is at, whether he's got money or poor or whatever.
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They still do go for the same thing, whether it's pure, innocent.
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Because at the end of the day, as I said before earlier, what I was trying to touch on is that in our nature, men want to be a provider.
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And therefore, as women, we are like, we are what?
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So therefore, he's going to look at us and want to mirror that within our children.
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There's some single mothers that are like better than others.
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So, so not, not all of them, you know, one girl might get minus five or let's say seven points
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No, but the point is, no, no, but, but the point is, but you're missing the point.
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The point is regardless if you have a child, you get points subtracted.
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I'm saying, do you think, so the type of man that you're looking for, the type of man
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You have to understand that that man, he, because you're 21.
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You may be looking for a 27 year old maybe at this point in time.
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Yeah, like you might be looking for a guy who's like 27.
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If a guy's 27, yeah, that means he's in his quote unquote prime of life.
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Do you think a man, he's building himself up to be a man, he's looking to take on another
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Like I said, it all comes down to different, like everyone's different and everyone's
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Generally, do you think a 27 year old, you think a single 27 year old man.
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He probably is looking for a single, without a kid.
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But though, but though, at the same time, right, if, if I meet a girl, yeah, and she's
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21, 23, whatever, yeah, and she's a single mom, but she was married and she had that
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baby in a marriage, I would look at her different.
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If she was married and she has a baby in that marriage and then at some time the marriage
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I wouldn't look at her the same as this, as this road lady.
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Because she's a fucking guy and got pregnant, right?
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So you are a married woman of 18 that had a child.
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So what I'm trying to say, do you understand how men's minds differ?
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If you were an unmarried woman at 18 that had a child that wasn't committed to a relationship,
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you were just some random chick having a child.
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Is there a difference between a woman that's married or in a long-term relationship?
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You don't sit on the table of the married woman.
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Stop doing that because I'm actually a rational person.
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Maybe they'll get married after a couple of weeks.
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In a lot of, in a lot of, in a lot of, in a lot of, a lot of that culture, they'll
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get married a lot quicker than, say, yeah, they'll get married a couple of weeks.
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That's why in Dubai they get married and they divorce.
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In that culture, they have things like arranged marriage.
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It's like, it's a quicker process than in like Western society.
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Like in Western society, it will take you a lot longer to get married.
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So in essence, I'm, I'm asking, what's the difference between some, let's say she got
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Uh, free, well, I got married pretty quick as well, so there we go.
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It's a cultural thing, but also religious thing.
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So let's say I've been in a relationship with a guy for five years.
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Now let's say she's been, she got married after three months.
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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It's like what to them, to them, to them, to them.
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So, so, so to me to, to them, it's like, oh, she got married after three months.
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I trust men, like trust each other to vet women.
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So to them, it's like, then there's something wrong with you because you were with, like,
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one, they would ask, why would you be with a guy for five years without marriage?
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And then two, like, why didn't he think you were worth marrying?
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And I'm not, and I'm not, and I'm not trying to be, I'm not trying to be like rude, but
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Me personally, I don't put much value on marriage.
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And so I understand like where, where you're coming from, because like, honestly, the marriage
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And I, I understand like why men don't want to get married.
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I can't, yeah, I'm, I'm a hundred percent with you, but like to her.
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The men would look at her and say, she was so valid.
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She was so valuable to that guy that he was, that she was worth it.
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Like, like to like, he was willing to take that risk for her.
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And I'm not, and I'm not saying that's, that's right or fair.
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I'm just saying like, this is how, this is how men, this is how men view it.
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So guys, guys will just give you a kid now and just not raising it.
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Well, but women, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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So this is the thing, like women pick those men.
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And I just don't buy that women are bamboozled and they have no idea that these are.
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Because I'm 30 and I have no kids for a reason.
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I believe the girl that gets pregnant by a guy.
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If you don't believe in abortion, don't let man bust on you.
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But you could have contraception and still get pregnant.
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I think what Paul's saying is we should be responsible.
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And I'm not, I'm not, I know you have a kid, so I'm not trying to come at you.
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You only really get pregnant three to five days in the month when you're ovulate.
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I know there's exceptions, but every girl, every girl that I know personally that had
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an abortion or had an unwanted pregnancy personally, I just go off of what I see in real life and the numbers.
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Like some of the girls weren't on birth control and you were letting him finish in you.
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If you know you're not on birth control and you get pregnant and you don't believe in abortions personally.
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As a, as the woman who has, who was seeing another man's woman.
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Because you were saying that you love him and you all this.
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However, no, I would never put myself in that position.
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I just, I just, I just, I just know he's willing to cheat and I like him and his.
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No, but you said when he calls you, when you call him, you don't pick up.
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If I call him, potentially he might be with his girl.
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And, and in that time you have to get to know someone, convince them to do, you know,
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How, how long do you want to play these games for?
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If, if I really thought, listen, I, my time's up.
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I'm just genuinely asking like, how long do you want to play these games?
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I just, I'm saying, don't give me a long sentence.
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Just how long do you want to play these games for?
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Until I meet someone I want to have a kid with.
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At this moment, at this very moment, would you get rid of a baby?
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Listen, I would only have a baby with someone that, um, that I'm in, that if I'm in a committed
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relationship that I care for, that they've shown that they have good traits to be a father,
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Or if I got to an age that was just too old, that I thought I'm 40 and I'm single.
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It's just like, if I was in your shoes, like shit, if I'm going to be a side chick anyway,
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I would just compete, figure out what the hell he wants and try to be it.
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Like if I was, if, if that's what you're going to do anyway, or like, or just cut it off.
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Knowing that he's never going to commit to you.
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How much do you value yourself as a woman, as an individual?
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How much do you value yourself as a woman, as an individual, that you will allow yourself.
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To be constantly chasing after an, just, just please just let me speak.
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To allow yourself to be chasing after another man's, I saw another girl's man.
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I don't know what's gone on with you inside your life with, within the 30 years.
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But what I'm trying to say is that you're happy with that arrangement.
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Like someone who, who doesn't have no, no self-esteem.
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Are you not going to let me answer your question?
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And happy to sleep with, with, with other men around and still in her head, think at some
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point in her, in her life, she will set her down.
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It's not what the guys they want, but like, it's a simp epidemic.
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Look at the, look at the title of the, how many, how many stuff daddies we got out here?
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I'm not saying, I'm not saying it should be that way, but I'm just saying there's usually,
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they're usually, and number two, number two, you know what?
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I'm just saying like, I feel like they want to say side chicks have low self-esteem,
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But I just, I just feel like there, there are a group of women that will be side chicks,
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but they compete and they try to steal your man.
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I'm just saying, if you're going to do it, I wouldn't sign up.
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I'm just saying, if you're going to do it anyway, you might as well.
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Do you know why I don't want to steal your man as someone that's been a side chick?
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Before we, before, because we're going to close out soon, but yeah, it's good sex.
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But do you know, as you, because you're 30, right?
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No, as you get to 35 and you get to 40 and you've got no kids.
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When you've got no kids and you've got no future, you're looking ahead of you, right?
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And you're going to look at all of your girlfriends around you who have got kids and have got,
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maybe your sisters, maybe your girlfriends, blah, blah, blah.
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And the thing is, it's like, I don't, like, I don't get it.
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I'm not going to, I don't, I don't understand how that is your life.
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Can I just say what I think you're saying and you can tell me if I'm right?
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In your head, you're going to keep sleeping with him because of the good, the good sex.
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And so in your head, you don't want to be with him.
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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So you're going to keep sleeping with him because of the good sex.
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And when you meet it, but you wouldn't, if he broke up with his girlfriend tomorrow, you
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wouldn't be with him, even though you love, even though you love him.
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If I'm just putting myself in your shoes, if I was sleeping with a guy for a year and a half
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and he was giving, like, if I was in your shoes, I would probably be close to in love
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I should also explain the reason why I see this guy as much as I do.
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But I'm on Pearl's side when it comes to, I don't know how you have the energy.
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I'm just saying, like, if you, if you, if I was you, I would either compete for him
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or get out because you're not going to be open to, like, we all know, we all know
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when we're getting, like, like, if you, you're not open to meeting someone.
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So when I speak my opinion, no one believes me and everyone thinks I'm happy.
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At the end of the day, like I said, he gives good sex and I enjoy.
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However, my cousin, am I not open to meeting other people?
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So I'm saying, so when you say you're open, so you're literally open.
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Some people, Pearl, some people, I feel like that's their calibre and they're okay with
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But, obviously, he's, like, he's there to save my, he's there in essential to save my
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Because the other person that I will now sleep with, it's not the person that, oh, I just
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met an, oh, or the person that, oh, I'm horny, I need to sleep with someone.
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It will be the person that I've been dating, got to know, then slept with them.
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I'm just, so remember, so you've said this on a podcast.
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So I'm just thinking, like, long term for you here.
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Does he want to make the mother of his child, like a potential mother of his kid, a girl
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that publicly went on a podcast and said, I'm a side chick?
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Like, I'm just saying, I think most men would understand, like, I hate to say this, but they're
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more, I think they'd be more forgiving with the slightly, slightly, I didn't say go crazy,
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higher body count, one or two more than a girl that was willing to be a side chick for
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So, it's going to go on years, because he's still in your head.
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But he, but he's, wait, but he's the one that has you.
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But like, I just know, I'm just saying, wait, wait, as I'm just saying as, as like woman
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to woman, like, you know, when a girl's into a guy like that, you know, when he's that
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guy for you, like, he's the guy you're breaking the rules for.
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Maybe there's one or two other guys that it was similar.
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It was the same exact situation, but maybe you felt similar for, but I, I can, this is
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the guy you've talked about the most on this podcast.
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You brought him up before, before we, you didn't not have to bring him up.
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Like, you know, you know, you know, you know, he's not guiding you.
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Paul is trying to say he's not good for your health.