JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


She Got SCHOOLED For Saying This


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8 minutes

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1,594

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115

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17

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In this episode, we discuss accountability and what it means to be held accountable for our actions. Who do you think takes the most accountability? Men or Women? Are they more responsible for their actions or are they just not?

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00:00:00.000 today. So before we get too deep into that, I would like for you guys to define a word that
00:00:08.140 we hear so much about. I'd like for you guys to define accountability. Go here, around in the
00:00:14.400 second row. Accountability is being ultimately responsible for all of your actions, whether it
00:00:20.260 be positive or negative. Yeah, I would say it is accountability. And then I think it's also
00:00:27.440 owning it to a level where you're fixing it. You can take accountability or know that you've done
00:00:33.280 wrong, but not pointing to others and deflecting, but you're actually reflecting. Look in the mirror
00:00:39.400 and say, what can I do to change? Because that's the only person you can change.
00:00:44.760 I think accountability is having introspection and self-reflection. I think it's about understanding
00:00:49.640 who you are and taking responsibility for all of the decisions that you make in your life.
00:00:54.080 Yeah, I would say accountability is admitting what you did right and wrong, and then also
00:00:59.860 accepting the consequences of both. Yeah, I definitely agree. I think taking accountability
00:01:06.280 is very important in life and for self-development as well.
00:01:11.900 I think self-awareness, but also the ability to receive when other people have something to say
00:01:17.720 about you. Because as self, we can be jaded to what we don't see about ourselves, but we don't want to
00:01:23.140 hear what other people have to say about us. And that, honestly, is how we coexist with other
00:01:27.460 people. And we need to be accountable for how others receive us so that we can properly coexist.
00:01:33.520 I think accountability is being honest with yourself and that once you admit you're at fault,
00:01:38.420 you can grow from that. I think that's the most important thing.
00:01:40.740 So, who takes more accountability? Men or women?
00:01:44.840 Men.
00:01:45.060 Men.
00:01:45.700 Men, men, men, men.
00:01:46.620 Men, men, men.
00:01:47.860 What? You're shaking your head.
00:01:49.820 I think women, you know, we easily say sorry. Men don't say sorry as much as women. 0.92
00:01:56.120 But men say sorry and then continue to fix it, whereas women can't say sorry and then continue 1.00
00:02:01.220 to make the same mistake.
00:02:02.060 I think women rarely say sorry in a relationship. Across the board, I've never, most men, one 0.99
00:02:08.180 of their biggest gripes is that women, they will always move the goalposts. Like, if they're 1.00
00:02:12.460 wrong, then they will kind of counterpoint on how they, like, how you caused it. Like, even
00:02:17.760 if they cheat, well, you weren't emotionally available. So, it's your fault. No matter what
00:02:22.160 happens, there's an excuse. I rarely hear a woman say, I'm sorry, honey, I did wrong. I'm 0.99
00:02:26.940 going to work on it. You'll never see me do this again. Please forgive me.
00:02:30.200 Well, I think that's exactly, that's exactly not taking accountability.
00:02:33.660 Women are never wrong. 1.00
00:02:34.160 No, we don't be wrong.
00:02:35.160 Uh-oh.
00:02:36.160 You got the right one today, boo.
00:02:38.760 No, you got the right one today, boo.
00:02:40.620 It's time to get active.
00:02:41.460 Woo! 0.99
00:02:41.960 No, no.
00:02:42.960 No, no.
00:02:43.460 Did you feel me active?
00:02:43.960 As it got out of the point real quick.
00:02:44.960 Okay, what were you going to say?
00:02:46.360 Not in all situations, but I do think women hold their hands up more than men. Men gaslight. 1.00
00:02:52.960 That's the thing. There's accountability in gaslighting, so.
00:02:56.940 So, I think that there's a difference within our society. I think that women have the privilege 1.00
00:03:02.160 in our modern day society today to not be held accountable. I did a story not too long
00:03:06.660 ago, about a year or so ago, just popped into my head, where a young lady went down to NBA
00:03:11.020 All-Star Weekend with not enough money to get back home. She then goes on GoFundMe in order
00:03:15.800 to get money in order to go back home. Men cannot do that. Men do not have that type of reach
00:03:20.720 and or access to get free money sent to them if they make a boo-boo.
00:03:25.220 I don't think so. I think that men-
00:03:27.440 So, society in general, just last quick point. Society in general has cushions put in place 0.92
00:03:34.700 for women more often than men. That's why most homeless people in America are men. It's
00:03:40.660 like 90 to 10%.
00:03:41.440 90%, yeah.
00:03:42.440 I think when you say that, if you go on the modern day TikToks or whatever, right, you'll
00:03:49.300 find videos of women saying, oh, how to apologize to your man. Just scoot up to him naked with 1.00
00:03:56.540 your ass out. And that shows a lot of non-accountability. That shows when you say that, okay, women are 1.00
00:04:03.180 more accountable. It's like, no, that's how they apologize. They think, okay, if we have
00:04:06.820 sex, then everything's fine. And so, yeah, I think women don't hold themselves accountable 1.00
00:04:11.540 a lot. I think women have a hard time having that introspection. I think if you do, they 1.00
00:04:16.800 try to attack people more so than actually accept that.
00:04:20.500 I think in a time though, well, we live in a time where women don't really need to be 1.00
00:04:26.200 accountable in a way that men are always running around after them, which I think needs to
00:04:31.320 stop. And that's why that they never have to really hold their hands up and say, look,
00:04:35.640 I'm sorry what I've done wrong. I'll try to fix this because before it becomes an actual
00:04:39.720 issue, the man's already there trying to fix what they've done.
00:04:42.900 This is so interesting to me because I feel like in America, this is not the stance, right?
00:04:48.600 I feel like the men that I've come across in the dating spectrum, they are very passive.
00:04:54.240 They are not quick to apologize. They are very gaslighting. They don't accept accountability.
00:04:59.700 And to your point about a man not being able to go to Vegas, get stuck and not make his way back,
00:05:05.200 men these days, because they're in the streets doing whatever, have accumulated a bunch of women 1.00
00:05:09.580 that care for them. You can paint her a stop story and she's going to send you $100 because she's 1.00
00:05:14.560 caring and wants to support you, right? So I think it's a balance of each, depending on the
00:05:18.600 circumstances and the person, but I definitely think women can be accountable. And from my 0.99
00:05:23.780 circle and my experiences are more accountable in this generation of men who don't accept
00:05:28.320 accountability are not, they apologize by actions, right? They just show up. They won't accept
00:05:33.700 accountability for what they did. Specifically, a blanket apology is not an apology. If you are
00:05:38.440 not owning, right, that's the definition of lack of accountability. If you, oh, I'm just
00:05:43.200 sorry, but what are we sorry for? What are we making improvements on, right?
00:05:46.660 So I have a question for you. What was the last thing that you apologized for?
00:05:50.400 What was the last thing you took accountability for?
00:05:52.340 Bad communication.
00:05:53.540 Bad communication.
00:05:54.620 Yeah.
00:05:54.820 Okay, what, you had something to say?
00:05:57.540 I think maybe sometimes when I lose my anger, sometimes I'll blame it on other things.
00:06:02.100 Then the last thing I took accountability for is when I've gone, no, do you know what?
00:06:05.240 I overreacted with that and I shouldn't have reacted in that way, so I apologize for that.
00:06:08.580 Can we clarify that accountability is not the same as an apology?
00:06:13.760 Right.
00:06:14.060 Because accountability means that there is a consequence after the action.
00:06:19.360 So either that means, okay, you did that, and because of that, this is the consequence.
00:06:24.640 And I believe that is what men have to deal with.
00:06:27.500 I think a lot of times women think just by saying, I'm sorry, I'm accountable, that is not the same thing.
00:06:33.240 You know, listen, the amount of times that I'm in dating relationships with different women and, listen, they just want to just complain about the problem. 0.71
00:06:41.800 I want to fix the problem.
00:06:43.200 Correct.
00:06:43.400 I don't want to continue to listen to you just talk about what happened with you and Marianne in the office, right?
00:06:49.880 If you come to me with an issue, let's talk about solutions, all right?
00:06:53.760 Because you can't just waste my time at the end of the day.
00:06:56.420 Let's talk about solutions.
00:06:57.360 But I find as though a lot of women don't communicate in solutions. 1.00
00:07:00.160 So when we talk about accountability, the consequences for that is the solution.
00:07:04.100 If men in general are not accountable, they will not be successful.
00:07:08.020 If women in general are not accountable, they can still be the wife to a CEO. 1.00
00:07:12.920 Or they can go on OnlyFans.
00:07:14.380 Using that analogy, that same woman will complain to you about, you know, what happened at work. 1.00
00:07:20.740 You will say as a man, okay, cool, what are we going to do about it?
00:07:23.600 What are we doing about it?
00:07:24.400 How are we going to fix this?
00:07:25.100 How are we going to fix this?
00:07:26.140 She will say, oh, I just wanted to vent.
00:07:27.840 And then the next week or the next month, she'll be complaining to you about the same thing.
00:07:32.220 So it's like, okay, but how do you hold yourself accountable?
00:07:35.700 Do you want to face this woman or whoever you have a problem with?
00:07:38.480 Do you want to get it out into the air?
00:07:40.560 Do you want to help the situation?
00:07:42.180 No, they just want to vent.
00:07:43.360 So yeah, women talk a lot, but they don't do a lot. 1.00
00:07:47.700 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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