JustPearlyThings - She Got TRIGGERED She Heard This

00:00:00.000 calling and on the thumbnail it says leave the whales so um i actually would like to show you

00:00:06.000 guys a tick tock about this new term we have in 2022 that is you know worldwide fat phobia

00:00:14.240 so ish why don't you show them the tick tock we're gonna watch

00:00:18.880 cool cool we'll do okay hold on i'm gonna show you guys too don't worry

00:00:22.400 and do the first one that's on the

00:00:32.240 yeah it should it should say like something like thin privilege

00:00:52.400 having a slight issue with the audio

00:01:21.120 did you plug it into the right did you plug it into the mic or the headphone jack

00:01:25.520 plugged it into the the headphone jack yeah what's the issue it's not coming up with the option

00:01:31.920 okay hold on hold on guys

00:01:35.120 i have so many good questions honestly i can't wait for this

00:01:47.040 i'll spill my drink a little bit

00:01:57.840 if you can see the chat

00:02:11.840 this is your friendly reminder that the privilege is real and i know because i have it let's break it

00:02:29.680 down i've never been marginalized because of my size never been told my bmi is too high for a

00:02:33.680 procedure i've never had anybody look at me funny when i sit next to them on an airplane or any other

00:02:38.240 public transportation boys been able to comfortably sit at seats at restaurants or in theaters every

00:02:42.080 time i walk into a clothing store i assume they have my size never gone to a doctor and had them

00:02:45.680 blame everything on the size of my body no one has ever said to me you shouldn't eat that

00:02:49.520 more often i hear i wish i could eat that i felt like i didn't get a job because of how i looked

00:02:53.200 or the size of my body never had anybody make fun of me for removing my body and there's a feel

00:02:57.040 good and intersectionality here is key the roots of fat phobia are inherently racist so this work

00:03:01.920 isn't just about you or me it's a movement around dismantling diet culture and races so we can all 0.96

00:03:06.080 experience true freedom so thank you for being here don't just follow people who look like me come up with your

00:03:10.240 favorite fat bi-block creators this is your friendly reminder that the privilege is real and i know

00:03:14.240 i think we're good okay we're back okay so my question is do you think that thin privilege is

00:03:32.480 a real thing go around no it's not a real thing all the things she listed as thin privilege they're

00:03:38.320 just things that come with the fact that you're thin it's not necessarily a privilege if you're fat of

00:03:42.960 course you know there's certain health um complications that are going to come so of

00:03:46.960 course doctors are going to blame anything on that your bmi is going to be over 30 so that's not a

00:03:53.440 thing that you don't get because you're you've got thin privilege it's just a fact is is there an echo

00:03:59.680 there's the comments are saying there's an echo i think there was an echo on the oh on the video

00:04:05.040 okay okay that's fine then um what do you think yeah i don't i want to say there's anything such as

00:04:12.960 uh thin privilege but there are as you said uh ways people address you speak to you when you're

00:04:22.880 when you look maybe extremely different okay like when you have a certain size on an airplane you know

00:04:28.160 as she was saying um but yeah it's it's not necessarily a privilege it's just i think society

00:04:33.200 letting you know um when you're too big you know that's not the way to go i just think that's what it is

00:04:40.960 um i disagree i do think there is such a thing as thin privilege because it's not just about the

00:04:48.080 extremes of being particularly large you can be still like a relatively healthy weight but

00:04:54.400 like slightly bigger and you will definitely be treated differently like i i know of people who are

00:05:00.880 maybe like a size 14 16 and a friend of mine like returned an item and the person who was serving her

00:05:08.640 said well i think this might not have been your size like you're bigger than that was she

00:05:16.080 no she just was returning it because she didn't like the item and and to say it was a poor fit that

00:05:22.480 doesn't necessarily mean that you don't fit into that size but as i'm sure we've probably all experienced

00:05:29.280 everywhere that you shop and every garment that you buy is a is a completely different size like every

00:05:35.520 retailer works to a different um that's true sizing profile so that is an example to me of of

00:05:43.600 thin privilege but if i go to a shop and i buy a shirt and my friends tell me oh that looks too small

00:05:49.760 on you you should have got a different size like what what does that mean it doesn't mean that you know

00:05:55.520 no that's different it just means that people are saying it doesn't it doesn't fit you or it might not

00:06:00.640 fit you in this particular circumstance that was a sales advisor saying that to somebody who's

00:06:06.160 returning an item that's different to trying something on and your friends saying oh that's

00:06:10.320 a bit tight on you but it just it's just advice isn't it right that might be too small for you

00:06:15.440 she's just trying to help help out yeah it is their job i've been a sales assistant you know you kind

00:06:19.440 of have to tell people does this fit you does this look good on you so fair enough she was returning

00:06:23.680 it and as a salesperson she was probably trying to convince her to get a different size oh maybe you 1.00

00:06:28.960 might like it then i don't think it's anything to do with oh that's fat phobia because it's just it

00:06:34.320 could just be a fact that it might look better on you if you try a different size because when i hear

00:06:39.200 the word privilege i think of something that like you're born with but but yeah like yeah like like

00:06:47.440 because one one thing that i often hear is white privilege right and so that's something that's

00:06:51.680 something you're born with right but but fat privilege or fat or thin privilege is a choice

00:06:58.720 thin privilege isn't a thing if i'm if i that's my opinion i don't think it's a thing i think we

00:07:03.200 need to look at the root you know definition of the word privilege when i think of privilege i think

00:07:08.400 something or um a treatment you are afforded um because of a specific attribute that you possess

00:07:18.320 so i don't necessarily believe it has to be something that you're um born with i think there's

00:07:23.840 the context is we began to use the word privilege like white privilege and thin privilege and things

00:07:28.320 like that it gives the impression that it's something that you're born with and can't change

00:07:33.200 but we have to look at the root definition of privilege and i think that's what it is things

00:07:37.440 that you're afforded because of a certain characteristic or maybe not even a characteristic

00:07:41.600 a factor that you possess whether subconsciously or consciously thin privilege is not a thing i don't

00:07:46.800 think it's a thing i don't think it's anything or i think especially going back to that tick

00:07:50.560 talk a lot of the things that she said that she doesn't experience because of the nature of

00:07:54.880 the body shape that she has are just standard things are just standard things i don't think 0.93

00:08:00.080 thing privilege is a thing i think if we look at the other end of the extreme

00:08:05.040 you know like bigger people that's when we can start maybe using some of those words but

00:08:11.120 i don't think thing is a thing i'm borderline thin in certain

00:08:16.640 say cultures or beauty standards and i don't think it affords me anything more in my

00:08:23.600 daily life i don't think yeah so pretty privilege is a yeah that's what i was gonna say i would say

00:08:29.680 pretty privilege is a thing i mean even though it's yeah yeah even the comments there they're

00:08:33.520 talking about you i think privilege how i would define privilege is an unearned advantage for

00:08:41.680 preferable treatment so like so white privilege yeah you're born with that so it's kind of like

00:08:48.880 the the prefer the preferable treatment you get is an unearned advantage because you haven't worked for

00:08:55.440 that preferable treatment right but thin privilege if you're slim that's you've earned that so it's not

00:09:03.440 it's not privilege um because if you're you you you ate less than other women maybe attained is the 1.00

00:09:16.640 right word i was going to say i do disagree with your definition of privilege just because you know

00:09:20.880 if you're rich there's certain preferential treatment you get from people but you worked

00:09:24.880 hard to become rich yes and so that thing is rich privilege though i think there is yes

00:09:29.120 there's certain things afforded to you because you are rich people who work differently because

00:09:33.120 you are rich that's true so you know it's privilege it's yeah it's if anything money's the equalizer

00:09:38.880 so i was asking would you who would you say somebody is more privileged if they started from nothing

00:09:43.600 and became rich or somebody inherited that richness i don't think there's any because i could be born

00:09:48.480 poor and then become a billionaire i'll be very privileged so i don't think it has anything to do with

00:09:52.320 that i would say i changed my stance there might be such a thing as thing privilege but i don't think

00:09:56.960 it's a bad thing can i ask what made you change your stance because i'm thinking about it you know

00:10:02.160 based on the definition initially i was thinking of definition privilege as something that you

00:10:07.520 character that you're characterized as inherently and it gives you an advantage in life but then now

00:10:13.360 i'm thinking of you know you can work hard and become rich and become privileged because of it

00:10:17.760 so i don't think it's necessarily something that's inherent to you when i hear privilege i just think

00:10:22.640 of something you're like born like when i hear rich privilege i don't think of someone that was

00:10:26.080 broke and became rich i think of someone that was born rich i get what you're saying i get that but

00:10:30.720 i think it does being rich does give you a certain privilege but no matter how hard you worked for it

00:10:37.280 but when you say privilege like i think of something you didn't earn yeah what's the what's the difference

00:10:42.320 between gaining privilege because you got to a certain position and then gaining the perks that come

00:10:48.080 with that position sorry can you could you rephrase that so what's what's the difference

00:10:53.280 right so like for example like if you say for example oh um you you become the i don't know let's

00:11:00.080 say you become a pilot right which means that part of your privilege as a pilot is you don't have to

00:11:04.400 go through security when you travel right is that a privilege or is that a perk that you gained from

00:11:09.600 gaining that position oh i see the difference because if you think it's a perk you can kind of say that being

00:11:14.640 fat is a privilege now because of as a fat person you get a privilege of calling people fat phobic

00:11:21.680 for privilege i think it is you have to call people fat phobic for no one to today yeah but yeah yeah

00:11:26.960 and you get to one at a time guys glorify one at a time guys i think he's right about that because in

00:11:33.600 certain ways being um a marginalized group can be an advantage right in these days in this current um

00:11:42.480 you know yeah but being kind of the context we're speaking about is um you know sort of weight what

00:11:48.160 that let's iron that out okay i'll give it i'll give you an example i'll give you an example

00:11:53.920 can message someone like chris evans knowing fully well everyone knows she has no chance

00:11:59.120 with him but she can message him why does he have no chance with him why would she why is

00:12:02.400 she messaging chris evans why would she but this is what i'm saying like

00:12:07.360 liz is an exception to the rule but even wait wait listen to i'm saying sorry um liz okay message

00:12:11.840 someone like chris evans okay even though most people objectively know that she doesn't have a

00:12:16.800 chance with him and he still has to respond nicely because she's big right when people are asking him

00:12:22.720 questions um questions about it in tabloids however on the other let's say roles are reversed and chris

00:12:29.360 evans was a really fat man and or really short and he messaged someone who was extremely good looking

00:12:35.200 like rihanna people be like why is this guy in her dms like that i think that's i don't think that's

00:12:39.520 to do with her being fat i just think that's man and woman man how do you mean though you can't

00:12:44.240 equate that because yeah the other what i would say is equal to that is rick ross messaging rihanna

00:12:51.120 but he was different exactly the same way liz is gone without rich it's a different ball game

00:12:56.560 exactly it's a it's an exception to the rule yeah hence why lizzo being fat and rich and got clout

00:13:02.800 is an exception but women get privilege being fat oh my god you just gotta no no no i'm gonna i'm 0.99

00:13:08.800 gonna show you guys some tick tocks all you gotta do is shake your roles and get a freaking following 0.82

00:13:14.880 yeah like that's because they're breaking from the mold they're doing something that is actually kind

00:13:19.120 of risque wow that's so brave take off my clothes and show my role it's more like shoehorning i think

00:13:25.120 though maybe not maybe okay maybe not brave that sounds quite i don't know assertive but in a way

00:13:30.320 because it's the european beauty standards they are kind of in a way doing a level of bravery by

00:13:35.120 showing look at me i look like what the world doesn't want me to look like essentially so is that

00:13:42.240 a privilege sort of like you get you get you get a reward for being ugly this whole thing i think is

00:13:48.480 more of of um i think it's more like when the social constructionists try to because okay so there

00:13:55.760 are people who believe that what people like is being taught to them or being told to them like people are

00:14:00.320 told what what this is beautiful this is not beautiful right so i think those same people

00:14:04.800 um in the let's say the fat positivity uh movement they're trying to that's their their basic belief

00:14:12.880 so that they're they're trying to uh create this new form of beauty whereas that's not how in reality

00:14:20.240 that's not how we look at things like we instinctively we know what's beautiful and what's not right also

00:14:24.480 why doesn't it extend to men like short men or absolutely yeah yeah where's the where's the

00:14:30.960 broke man positivity no you will you will never ever one at a time guys one at a time sorry i don't 0.99

00:14:37.840 hear anyone shouting that oh yeah we we want men with small dicks or anything you're never gonna 1.00

00:14:42.160 i don't hear anyone saying that so why why is i not part of body positive body positivity and it 0.95

00:14:46.000 wouldn't be a good thing if that existed i'm not saying it should be good and i'm not saying that it

00:14:50.800 should be there but let's not pretend that there's not objective truths in the world and objectively

00:14:57.200 certain things aren't seen as attractive yet and other things are it's a fact so when you try to

00:15:03.200 to push the narrative of body positivity it should go both ways and always not just the one that suits

00:15:08.800 you yeah so i have a question what what would you say are you european beauty standards and who is the 0.99

00:15:14.160 celebrity that you think of when you think of european yeah go ahead robbie so what's walking

00:15:20.320 slim thick not even necessarily thin i think that the beauty standard yeah slim thick she got tiny 1.00

00:15:25.760 waist perky breasts but she's bottom heavy okay um little cute button nose um fair skin type i'm 1.00

00:15:32.800 talking to basically sort of within my culture basically is what i'm describing um and yeah sort of

00:15:39.040 like really exotic mysterious sort of like features i would say that's the standard and if we're really

00:15:45.520 honing in on the body though slim thick back in the day it would have been like yeah just thin

00:15:49.840 just thin is the basis of it but i think nowadays you got you know kim kardashian and that whole

00:15:54.640 movement and like kim kardashian isn't your she's armenian she is armenian but i do think

00:16:00.640 it's a whole other conversation yeah i do think her family and the the narrative that they've pushed

00:16:06.000 on certain things in terms of beauty and body shape i think has hands down had an impact on culture 0.78

00:16:12.080 and body shape and things like that especially within the black community i can say that i'm gonna die 1.00

00:16:16.480 on that hill because that's just true but i think that that is the european beauty standards what

00:16:20.960 i've just described um but it's just it's just interesting because when like based on what

00:16:27.920 you're describing you're like you're describing one person and then you use kim kardashian as an

00:16:32.400 example and i don't feel like that was who you were describing yeah because i think people are going 0.96

00:16:37.520 for the kim k look at the moment like a toothpick ridiculous booty you're you got two tiny thighs 1.00

00:16:44.000 no exactly what i described slim thick is a woman who is is slim like slim sort of waist is what i'm 1.00

00:16:49.280 trying to get to to be right slim waist perky breast and bottom heavy that's why i say slim thick she's 1.00

00:16:54.560 thin and i think it's the european standard is more blonde hair blue eyes yeah yeah i'm not talking about

00:16:59.760 european that's just what you said earlier oh yeah yeah blue eyes and you know i mean blue eyes blonde hair

00:17:04.800 obviously would be the european standard but in terms of like standing like would you say that i

00:17:08.400 don't think that's the only standard like i i personally don't think there is one standard

00:17:12.480 because there are a wide range of women who are beautiful like like there is a limit like there's 1.00

00:17:18.080 there's too skinny and then there's there's too fat there is there's there's a there's a large section

00:17:23.200 in the middle where there's all sorts of beautiful body type so like yeah adam lee there is one beauty 1.00

00:17:28.240 standard like remember we're talking about the european standard so if we looked at the catwalk

00:17:34.480 what is in europe what do they look at as the standard of beauty that's weird i will say when

00:17:40.880 you look at the catwalk you know what people actually go for tends to be different to that

00:17:45.600 so you know yes catwalk when it comes it's a business they they go for a specific type of look

00:17:51.920 it doesn't mean that generally in the wide population that that's accepted as what's paying what's nice

00:17:57.600 i think that women put beauty standards on each other more than men do i don't think men are that picky

00:18:03.040 with each other yeah like i think women women put beauty standards on each other and are more 1.00

00:18:08.080 critical of each other than men are but paul you know i believe that it's men that taught us to do

00:18:12.960 that right i'll tell you i'll tell you why because you're not correct okay no because because men men

00:18:24.400 swipe right on dating apps 50 of the time meaning 50 of women they swipe right on so they're not that

00:18:30.160 picky yeah no that's what i'm saying women swipe right five percent of the time of course right that's 1.00

00:18:35.680 that's the whole point is men aren't that picky most guys don't even need a girl that's like super 0.62

00:18:40.640 thin she's just got to have a booty but and they're chilling you're saying you're you're saying

00:18:47.520 that men yeah to women right to put high standards on other women yeah i know consciously

00:18:55.840 but i'm saying the data indicates that men aren't that picky because if as many of you know i was just

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JustPearlyThings - March 13, 2023

She Got TRIGGERED She Heard This

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