She Has UNREALISTIC Relationship Goals
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the age difference between an 18 year old and a 32 year old when it comes to a potential partner. Why is it important to date someone younger than you? Is it because you are more likely to be a virgin? Or is it because they are older? We also talk about the benefits and drawbacks of dating someone older than you.
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I think it's really down to the different stages of emotional maturity and growth.
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When you're 18, although yes, you can be mature and this and that, but you've not experienced
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the how many extra, 14 years extra of life that he has experienced, he has that over
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And I think that it's not about manipulation, it's just about the point to the fact that
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there'll be a certain moment in both of their lives where you're just going to realize we're
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not on the same level, we're not in the same frequency.
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Because a lot of times we use these words, I don't even know what they mean, in the same
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The same frequency meaning like, okay, when you're now 40, I'm just about to turn 30.
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Every five years, I feel like every five years I go through quite a lot of change.
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You know, you, especially then with decades, you look back on your life and you think about
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so many things you reflect and your mind may change.
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That's why you can see the difference between a 20 year old woman and a 30 year old woman.
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So I just think it's a bit dangerous when you're kind of dealing with somebody that's so far
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So for example, for me, that's why I say I'll date somebody that is younger than me by two
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years max and max five years older, because I don't want it to be too far away.
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Do you think that limits your pool a little bit?
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I think that at this point, I'm more just looking for the right person.
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And from what I know about myself, I feel like what I need is that limit.
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Um, yeah, I think an 18 year old, obviously there's different kinds of 18 year olds, but
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they've got a lot of experiences to go through.
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I think like 28, 29 is fine, but why would a, and maybe you guys can answer that you men,
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Is it just because she's more likely to be a virgin?
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And is that the main reason why you would go for one?
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Cause I wouldn't like be like, uh, but I'd be a bit confused.
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Like, why wouldn't you go for someone who's maybe like mid twenties or like even 21?
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So I can't, can I, can I just make a side note on this?
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Um, not that I agree with the 32 and the 18 year old, but I, I feel like it comes down
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I've come across 40 year olds, 50 year olds that are in many cases less mature than 18 year olds.
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So, and I think it goes both way, irrespective of your gender.
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I just wanted to know what the, what would be the reason for that?
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Would it just be because she's likely to have less bodies?
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Um, cause like initially what I do think of it, 30 to an 18 year, that is a pretty big
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And I would like look at it a type of way, but I feel like if we come to a common agreement
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on what a guy is usually looking for or what a girl is usually looking for, they kind of
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Cause I'm, I'm, I'm hope you guys can agree well, but, um, you know, men very, I value
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So if I'm at the age of 32, sure, I could go with someone 25, 26, but I think like nowadays,
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most of those women already, they're very like career driven.
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They're very, they have like this boss babe mentality.
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So I feel like they're going to be way more combative than the 18 year old.
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Cause I feel like if she comes into this, um, space, she's going to value that I reached
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And then she's going to be more agree agreeable with me.
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Someone that's older is more set in their ways.
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So I just feel like this 18 year old, maybe she has, she's, she's as mature as I
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Like if you date an older guy and you try to change him, you're mad.
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Like why would you, if you, if I dated a 50 year old, am I expecting him to change after
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So it's like at the younger you go, because obviously most of the time, 18 year old is
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So it's like, if I value that, then, and I see that they can agree to me what I want to
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It's like, why, why not choose that instead of.
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So in this scenario, in the scenarios I usually posed, we're talking about the fact that there's
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a need to change a woman because obviously he's older, he's going to be setting his way.
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We always just have to assume that the man that is 30 is mature and doing his ting all the time.
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And he can take care of a 18 year old woman and mold her to be what he wants.
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When in fact he probably doesn't even know what he wants exactly.
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So I think it's really quite dangerous to play that game.
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And if we were to twist, to turn the, the, the story and make it.
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You don't think it's good to influence the person you're with?
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But I also want a guy that can also follow me too, because I'm not just going to be adapting
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I want it to be like this, but I think it's a dangerous game playing with the idea.
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Like you're dating someone because you like them.
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You're not dating them because you see potential and you want to manipulate them into the person you want.
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I just think if you're the person, um, I looked up political ideologies, this is seems off topic,
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Um, when I was younger, cause I was curious, like what makes people change their minds and like what
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And the number one thing that influences your political ideology over time is your partner.
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Like you kind of rub off on the person you're with.
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The longer you're with someone, the more you become like them and you agree because you want
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It's not necessarily a good thing, but to answer my girl's question, that would be the
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reason why a guy would, that's 32 is going to go for 18 year old.
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So he can mold her into the girl that he wants.
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Don't you think that people should like, as they're like so young, they're 18, like,
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don't you think they should find their own way in life?
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Like dating a 32 year old might be helpful for them.
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And like working out these life, like problems and stuff and like fight, like they can guide
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But like, I think trying to change someone that's so young, it's just like backwards.
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And I don't think they should depend on somebody else to find that way in life.
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I don't think they should like, like, I don't know.
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It's just like, they're so young and impressionable.
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Like a year ago, they were 17, like, and you wouldn't date a 17 year old.
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I just think back to when I was 18 and I don't think I was that crazy different than the way
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I just think like in general, I mean, 18 is a bit young for like, I don't know if I
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would push like 18 year olds to get married, but I don't know.
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I just think like as women, you kind of avoid a lot of like heartbreak and trauma if you
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I have a friend that got married at like 21, 22.
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She's probably the happiest like person I know.
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