JustPearlyThings - She Is Just ATTRACTED To TOO Much TOXIC Men

00:00:00.000 how many relationships have you guys ended and why I've only been in one so

00:00:07.740 and it's not ended so zero three three three and why'd you end them um they

00:00:14.440 just wasn't good towards me all violent all violent you dated three violent men 0.99

00:00:19.920 yeah stupid please first time it's okay like you wonder like yeah okay yeah it 1.00

00:00:26.760 happens to anyone second time I should have seen the red flags but I didn't 0.99

00:00:31.080 and now the third time I just feel like I need to write mug on my forehead yeah do

00:00:35.340 you know men that aren't violent no I do I know a lot of men which are my friends

00:00:39.360 it just makes no sense I just go for the ones that they show they're nice at

00:00:42.960 first and then it's like once they grab hold of me they don't want me to go so

00:00:48.840 they will do anything in any type of force I and you saw no red flags in the

00:00:53.520 beginning a couple two of them yes one of them no I just like wonder because if

00:01:01.260 I was a guy listening to this I feel like why would I be nice to you because you

00:01:04.920 don't like like you know the nice guys but you don't pick up me just keep oh if

00:01:08.420 anything like it would incentivize them to be abusive see that's the thing I

00:01:12.720 think like normally like I would feel like a guy would come to me thinking oh

00:01:19.440 she's been in three relationships that have just been violent but I've actually

00:01:23.400 had nothing but good guys to come towards me since I just I've been taking my

00:01:27.960 time whether I want to be in a relationship with someone or not because I really

00:01:32.200 don't want to go to a fourth time and that's it I will be getting mug tattooed on my forehead

00:01:36.180 what about you you're only 19 yeah have I ended I have ended one and I think I ended it just

00:01:49.980 because I think I just wasn't I wasn't ready for the commitment yeah fickle I think I just wasn't

00:01:59.640 ready I think it was kind of like I was just like yeah and it kind of just shut me off completely

00:02:05.580 like other after that it was kind of like I don't know why I did it nothing it's just completely

00:02:10.220 cut off and it was like I didn't feel the same way anymore and that was literally the end of it

00:02:15.800 there's no more to that than it than I'm saying but yeah I think we you said you had two

00:02:22.320 relationships and you ended one no no I didn't know they ended both I'm more of a stay in a

00:02:29.820 relationship make it work kind of person and jump off and give up but having said that the first

00:02:36.660 person wasn't a great person so once he left and he had made that choice it was taken away from me

00:02:45.640 so then I could then go and be happy so I was actually grateful that he ended it and that's why

00:02:50.960 I didn't let him come back I actually understand that thinking because when it's like if they break

00:02:55.780 up with you you don't really have a choice in it so you don't have to like guess if it was the right

00:02:59.140 choice because it wasn't your choice I feel like it's easier to detach when someone else breaks up

00:03:02.940 with you than it is for you to break up with them do you think women ever try to get guys to break up 0.55

00:03:08.260 with them yeah 100% yeah all the time everything like that happens all the time I feel like if you're

00:03:14.500 in a relationship where you just feel like it's kind of like he's sometimes maybe a bit more committed

00:03:19.280 but maybe not in the way that you want it to be you're probably going to do everything in your power

00:03:22.880 for him to be like yeah I'm not trying like you're doing madness whereas that's not actually you but

00:03:28.940 it's kind of like you're provoking that because it's just like you don't it's kind of like you see

00:03:34.340 it but then at the same time you don't and it's like it's easier like I can't call it off because

00:03:39.020 he has valid points so therefore I'm going to provoke whatever situation it is to make him break up with

00:03:43.620 me so that I can just be like cool you broke up with me now leave it as it is and just let the case rest

00:03:49.060 yeah I just want to jump off something that you said a moment ago where a lot of times say if you

00:03:53.780 get broken up with it's easier for you to move on um I kind of think with women it's the opposite 1.00

00:03:58.800 because when we break up with someone we break up with them with them in our head and then you know

00:04:04.420 six weeks later then we break up with them so I thought perhaps it'd be a little easier if we leave

00:04:09.920 someone because often we've planned it you know for a lot of women there's a guy already waiting 1.00

00:04:15.040 um whereas if you get broken up with especially if you think things are going fine it's this you

00:04:20.920 know complete change of circumstances sprung up on you so I thought perhaps that'd make it a little

00:04:25.120 worse actually yeah you're probably right actually now that I'm thinking about it because if things

00:04:31.800 were going well like that probably would devastate me yeah but it's like yeah yeah but it's kind of

00:04:38.300 like if you're fighting already you know if you're fighting already you've probably mentally checked out

00:04:42.960 as well you just wait for one or the other person to do it I actually do agree with you yeah like

00:04:46.880 that's never happened when it was like don't like it's you know do you think like women detach quicker 1.00

00:04:52.900 than men depends on a woman I feel like okay I feel like women detach quicker than men most of the time 0.99

00:05:03.480 like if she has 10 relationships like eight or nine of them but there's like one guy that like she cannot

00:05:09.660 detach from okay like to like and I use it because you can see it in pop culture like a lot of a lot

00:05:15.880 of the movies that like women love like Titanic the notebook what is it what is it about about that guy

00:05:21.840 it's like the lady in the Titanic is like 90 talking about her high school fling yeah and she's still

00:05:26.760 talking about that and same with the notebook it's her going back to that guy from high school

00:05:30.080 yeah so I feel like unless it's like that guy like women typically get over it easier than men 1.00

00:05:38.400 but if you're like that guy to her then she doesn't I feel like the reason why I say women get over men 1.00

00:05:46.100 quickly is because I think we're more of an emotional we're going through more of an emotional

00:05:50.940 time than men are um I feel like you're in certain situations where if something happens it's kind of

00:05:57.460 like you feel it way more than you would feel than your significant other would feel and then

00:06:02.360 yeah fair enough no I feel so I'm talking more from my experience is what I'm trying to say I feel

00:06:09.460 like this I'm a very emotional person if something happens I'm my emotions is in it 100% and it's kind

00:06:16.600 of like if something keeps happening I'll kind of I'll kind of get used to it and I'll kind of be like

00:06:21.040 cool whatever so if so if you're involved in a relationship where like things will keep constantly

00:06:26.740 happening they'll get to a point you like you actually get to a point where you're kind of

00:06:30.640 like yeah like he could do something and I'll just completely like I won't react the same way anymore

00:06:34.740 and it kind of just you just like the relationship will end and you can just like cool whatever

00:06:39.520 because you already felt what you need to felt during the relationship so why do you now go

00:06:43.320 through heartbreak after I think women just underestimate men's emotions yeah I think women are just out 1.00

00:06:49.280 there crying and blubbering and whatever and the men just take it because if they had to turn around

00:06:53.840 and cry and blubber I mean if you had a man and there must be women that swear with men and they 0.98

00:06:58.640 just start crying what do you think about them lose total respect for them yeah that's why they

00:07:03.060 don't do it they just deal with it but women go out there and blubber all her friends will come 1.00

00:07:06.920 around oh he's done this oh he's done that man just try that if a man does that so you're telling me

00:07:12.140 women lose respect for men that would cry to you oh my god yeah of course swear you want 1.00

00:07:17.840 okay you want a guy leading you imagine the CEO of a company just crying in front of his employees

00:07:24.560 it's the same thing with the relationship you're not going to respect a guy's leadership the same

00:07:29.060 way if he's crying all the time can I ask because a man ever cried in front of you um I've had people

00:07:35.340 be emotional towards me and it hasn't made me lose respect for you because I feel like if we're both

00:07:40.260 like establish that type of relationship you can cry to me I'll look at you like cool let me put it this

00:07:45.360 way right you you'd with a man and you tell him you don't want to be with him anymore and he starts

00:07:49.600 crying and blubbering what would you do how would you feel that's kind of different that's what we

00:07:53.740 mean that's what we're talking about even my pride wouldn't let me cry for someone if they broke up with

00:07:57.600 me but I thought you said that you that women cry and get emotional when they get when they

00:08:01.680 split up with a man pardon I thought you said that women cry and they get emotional when they split 0.91

00:08:06.980 up with a man I mean they do right so I'm saying turn it on its head what if it was a man

00:08:13.740 that's probably a woman and he's the one that's blubbering I mean cool like if you're crying then 0.94

00:08:19.760 you care didn't it like I don't I don't know what you actually want me to do how would you feel

00:08:23.660 towards him do you think it'd make you want to get back with him and any like would you be more

00:08:27.500 attracted to him or less attracted to him it depends on who it is yeah if you yeah it depends

00:08:32.880 on who it is if you look ugly crying though sorry but yeah it actually depends who it is

00:08:39.740 like 100 but I think that girls usually and I can say this from having not from my own experience but

00:08:46.940 from friends who go through this uh one of her friends um said to me when we're on facetime um

00:08:52.840 that she had an argument with her boyfriend um and essentially she did it just to see if he would

00:09:00.420 like kind of chase after him facetime or him caller and you know lo and behold 50 no caller id calls

00:09:07.580 um and she said to me well like I don't really want him to be doing that like I want to go after him

00:09:12.160 and I thought that was quite strange because you know you'd think that you'd want someone to come

00:09:16.020 after you and you know chase after but typically you know women attracted unfortunately to toxicity

00:09:20.980 so yeah but is it not toxic to be harassing someone like that

00:09:26.120 no no no of course that's of course that's toxic um but I'm saying in terms of in terms of the

00:09:33.200 relationship um a lot of time how do I explain it um it's toxic to be harassing someone um but it's

00:09:41.240 also you know toxic to leave someone that you love with no final word which is what she would see that

00:09:46.680 relationship as but for some reason that's what she would gravitate more to than someone that's trying

00:09:51.920 to get her back yeah that's what that's what I meant I'm gonna cut and go you lie to me I'm gone

00:09:57.080 you cheat I'm gone so auntie you wanna take back someone that's cheating I ain't like going back

00:10:02.980 there even if there's no no no no why no why should I and then you're gonna cheat again they're gonna 0.94

00:10:10.240 cheat again okay what if he told you like auntie like I'm the best woman that any man that has ever

00:10:15.600 been able to get right you cheat on me there's no going back I'm moving on but cool what if he told

00:10:20.760 you or like cool I saw us together but I had to go confide in other woman to make me realize that 1.00

00:10:27.040 you're the one I'm looking for well keep on going then keep on thinking

00:10:30.560 no if you lied to me from the beginning you have to set the rules down from the beginning

00:10:35.780 and if I have a man you know don't lie to me don't cheat if you lie it's over if you cheat it's over

00:10:42.500 I don't care why it's over finishing no conversation is done because women will say oh you know if he

00:10:50.860 cheats on me you know and then what he's gonna do it again he's gonna do it again he's gonna do it

00:10:55.240 again if I told you once it's gone it's finished it's gone and if you cry it's even worse and you're 0.95

00:11:00.180 even stupid to believe him if he says he's never gonna do it again but what if he doesn't do it 0.96

00:11:04.520 men most probably wouldn't but that's my line my line is like no no I've seen it happen too many 0.98

00:11:10.260 times girl goes back cheat some more I would rather just not look like a clown what would you say most 0.86

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JustPearlyThings - March 16, 2023

She Is Just ATTRACTED To TOO Much TOXIC Men

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