She Is Just ATTRACTED To TOO Much TOXIC Men
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the recent case of a young man who has been charged with domestic violence against his ex-partner and the allegations that he was involved in a violent relationship with his ex. We also discuss the reasons why he left the relationship and whether or not he should be prosecuted.
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how many relationships have you guys ended and why I've only been in one so
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and it's not ended so zero three three three and why'd you end them um they
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just wasn't good towards me all violent all violent you dated three violent men
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yeah stupid please first time it's okay like you wonder like yeah okay yeah it
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happens to anyone second time I should have seen the red flags but I didn't
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and now the third time I just feel like I need to write mug on my forehead yeah do
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you know men that aren't violent no I do I know a lot of men which are my friends
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it just makes no sense I just go for the ones that they show they're nice at
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first and then it's like once they grab hold of me they don't want me to go so
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they will do anything in any type of force I and you saw no red flags in the
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beginning a couple two of them yes one of them no I just like wonder because if
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I was a guy listening to this I feel like why would I be nice to you because you
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don't like like you know the nice guys but you don't pick up me just keep oh if
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anything like it would incentivize them to be abusive see that's the thing I
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think like normally like I would feel like a guy would come to me thinking oh
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she's been in three relationships that have just been violent but I've actually
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had nothing but good guys to come towards me since I just I've been taking my
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time whether I want to be in a relationship with someone or not because I really
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don't want to go to a fourth time and that's it I will be getting mug tattooed on my forehead
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what about you you're only 19 yeah have I ended I have ended one and I think I ended it just
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because I think I just wasn't I wasn't ready for the commitment yeah fickle I think I just wasn't
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ready I think it was kind of like I was just like yeah and it kind of just shut me off completely
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like other after that it was kind of like I don't know why I did it nothing it's just completely
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cut off and it was like I didn't feel the same way anymore and that was literally the end of it
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there's no more to that than it than I'm saying but yeah I think we you said you had two
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relationships and you ended one no no I didn't know they ended both I'm more of a stay in a
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relationship make it work kind of person and jump off and give up but having said that the first
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person wasn't a great person so once he left and he had made that choice it was taken away from me
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so then I could then go and be happy so I was actually grateful that he ended it and that's why
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I didn't let him come back I actually understand that thinking because when it's like if they break
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up with you you don't really have a choice in it so you don't have to like guess if it was the right
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choice because it wasn't your choice I feel like it's easier to detach when someone else breaks up
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with you than it is for you to break up with them do you think women ever try to get guys to break up
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with them yeah 100% yeah all the time everything like that happens all the time I feel like if you're
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in a relationship where you just feel like it's kind of like he's sometimes maybe a bit more committed
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but maybe not in the way that you want it to be you're probably going to do everything in your power
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for him to be like yeah I'm not trying like you're doing madness whereas that's not actually you but
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it's kind of like you're provoking that because it's just like you don't it's kind of like you see
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it but then at the same time you don't and it's like it's easier like I can't call it off because
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he has valid points so therefore I'm going to provoke whatever situation it is to make him break up with
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me so that I can just be like cool you broke up with me now leave it as it is and just let the case rest
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yeah I just want to jump off something that you said a moment ago where a lot of times say if you
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get broken up with it's easier for you to move on um I kind of think with women it's the opposite
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because when we break up with someone we break up with them with them in our head and then you know
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six weeks later then we break up with them so I thought perhaps it'd be a little easier if we leave
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someone because often we've planned it you know for a lot of women there's a guy already waiting
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um whereas if you get broken up with especially if you think things are going fine it's this you
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know complete change of circumstances sprung up on you so I thought perhaps that'd make it a little
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worse actually yeah you're probably right actually now that I'm thinking about it because if things
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were going well like that probably would devastate me yeah but it's like yeah yeah but it's kind of
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like if you're fighting already you know if you're fighting already you've probably mentally checked out
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as well you just wait for one or the other person to do it I actually do agree with you yeah like
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that's never happened when it was like don't like it's you know do you think like women detach quicker
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than men depends on a woman I feel like okay I feel like women detach quicker than men most of the time
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like if she has 10 relationships like eight or nine of them but there's like one guy that like she cannot
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detach from okay like to like and I use it because you can see it in pop culture like a lot of a lot
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of the movies that like women love like Titanic the notebook what is it what is it about about that guy
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it's like the lady in the Titanic is like 90 talking about her high school fling yeah and she's still
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talking about that and same with the notebook it's her going back to that guy from high school
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yeah so I feel like unless it's like that guy like women typically get over it easier than men
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but if you're like that guy to her then she doesn't I feel like the reason why I say women get over men
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quickly is because I think we're more of an emotional we're going through more of an emotional
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time than men are um I feel like you're in certain situations where if something happens it's kind of
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like you feel it way more than you would feel than your significant other would feel and then
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yeah fair enough no I feel so I'm talking more from my experience is what I'm trying to say I feel
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like this I'm a very emotional person if something happens I'm my emotions is in it 100% and it's kind
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of like if something keeps happening I'll kind of I'll kind of get used to it and I'll kind of be like
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cool whatever so if so if you're involved in a relationship where like things will keep constantly
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happening they'll get to a point you like you actually get to a point where you're kind of
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like yeah like he could do something and I'll just completely like I won't react the same way anymore
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and it kind of just you just like the relationship will end and you can just like cool whatever
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because you already felt what you need to felt during the relationship so why do you now go
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through heartbreak after I think women just underestimate men's emotions yeah I think women are just out
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there crying and blubbering and whatever and the men just take it because if they had to turn around
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and cry and blubber I mean if you had a man and there must be women that swear with men and they
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just start crying what do you think about them lose total respect for them yeah that's why they
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don't do it they just deal with it but women go out there and blubber all her friends will come
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around oh he's done this oh he's done that man just try that if a man does that so you're telling me
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women lose respect for men that would cry to you oh my god yeah of course swear you want
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okay you want a guy leading you imagine the CEO of a company just crying in front of his employees
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it's the same thing with the relationship you're not going to respect a guy's leadership the same
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way if he's crying all the time can I ask because a man ever cried in front of you um I've had people
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be emotional towards me and it hasn't made me lose respect for you because I feel like if we're both
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like establish that type of relationship you can cry to me I'll look at you like cool let me put it this
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way right you you'd with a man and you tell him you don't want to be with him anymore and he starts
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crying and blubbering what would you do how would you feel that's kind of different that's what we
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mean that's what we're talking about even my pride wouldn't let me cry for someone if they broke up with
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me but I thought you said that you that women cry and get emotional when they get when they
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split up with a man pardon I thought you said that women cry and they get emotional when they split
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up with a man I mean they do right so I'm saying turn it on its head what if it was a man
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that's probably a woman and he's the one that's blubbering I mean cool like if you're crying then
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you care didn't it like I don't I don't know what you actually want me to do how would you feel
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towards him do you think it'd make you want to get back with him and any like would you be more
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attracted to him or less attracted to him it depends on who it is yeah if you yeah it depends
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on who it is if you look ugly crying though sorry but yeah it actually depends who it is
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like 100 but I think that girls usually and I can say this from having not from my own experience but
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from friends who go through this uh one of her friends um said to me when we're on facetime um
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that she had an argument with her boyfriend um and essentially she did it just to see if he would
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like kind of chase after him facetime or him caller and you know lo and behold 50 no caller id calls
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um and she said to me well like I don't really want him to be doing that like I want to go after him
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and I thought that was quite strange because you know you'd think that you'd want someone to come
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after you and you know chase after but typically you know women attracted unfortunately to toxicity
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so yeah but is it not toxic to be harassing someone like that
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no no no of course that's of course that's toxic um but I'm saying in terms of in terms of the
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relationship um a lot of time how do I explain it um it's toxic to be harassing someone um but it's
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also you know toxic to leave someone that you love with no final word which is what she would see that
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relationship as but for some reason that's what she would gravitate more to than someone that's trying
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to get her back yeah that's what that's what I meant I'm gonna cut and go you lie to me I'm gone
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you cheat I'm gone so auntie you wanna take back someone that's cheating I ain't like going back
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there even if there's no no no no why no why should I and then you're gonna cheat again they're gonna
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cheat again okay what if he told you like auntie like I'm the best woman that any man that has ever
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been able to get right you cheat on me there's no going back I'm moving on but cool what if he told
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you or like cool I saw us together but I had to go confide in other woman to make me realize that
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you're the one I'm looking for well keep on going then keep on thinking
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no if you lied to me from the beginning you have to set the rules down from the beginning
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and if I have a man you know don't lie to me don't cheat if you lie it's over if you cheat it's over
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I don't care why it's over finishing no conversation is done because women will say oh you know if he
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cheats on me you know and then what he's gonna do it again he's gonna do it again he's gonna do it
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again if I told you once it's gone it's finished it's gone and if you cry it's even worse and you're
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even stupid to believe him if he says he's never gonna do it again but what if he doesn't do it
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men most probably wouldn't but that's my line my line is like no no I've seen it happen too many
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times girl goes back cheat some more I would rather just not look like a clown what would you say most
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