JustPearlyThings - She is Part of the Problem

00:00:00.000 think when they're talking to you and when they hear these stories like there are so many men

00:00:05.260 that have had false that have had false allegations against them like most men know someone that was

00:00:10.320 falsely accused i've been falsely accused so this might be harsh dear but i'm telling you when they 0.95

00:00:14.300 listen to these stories they're gonna they think oh shit she she might be lying she might do that 1.00

00:00:19.220 to me because there's no evidence to back here's the thing and i've been falsely accused and a 0.99

00:00:23.480 police report was not filed because she was lying she was lying okay at the end of the day she was

00:00:29.120 a liar because she knows that if she filed a police report and let's say it went to court and went to 1.00

00:00:33.940 jury it wouldn't have stood up because it she completely made it up out of thin air and the 1.00

00:00:39.100 evidence would not have shown exactly the things that she was saying at that particular junction

00:00:43.020 because her feelings made it feel like something that happened or her back was up against the wall

00:00:47.480 in that moment and i i everything that all of you guys are saying right now it holds weight it's

00:00:53.980 validity to that and it it it just brings us back to the topic of women not being held accountable

00:00:59.560 and being able to go around saying whatever that is not saying that your story isn't true or anything

00:01:04.540 of that nature but personally this is still very raw for you and a person has to be in a place where

00:01:10.100 they are ready to hear the valid points that are being given right the wisdom the ungenious sharing

00:01:17.360 even the points that melody is saying about coming to her and being a mentor but if you are not in a place

00:01:21.860 where you can receive that because right now in the moment you are still defending the situation even

00:01:26.380 though your heart isn't to defend it your heart is defending your feelings and emotions around it but

00:01:29.980 it just ended in in october we are not even six months away from that and it is as they are talking

00:01:35.800 you are being triggered and you are reliving each and every moment and that's not to it's what what's

00:01:40.520 happening here is you're going back through it you're defending that and it seems like you are rebellious to

00:01:45.100 them and giving valid honest good feedback for you to grow and i know you're trying to receive that and

00:01:50.800 it's coming off very attackful to you and now you feel like you have to defend yourself and you can't

00:01:55.520 properly receive the wisdom that is going forth in the room because it's it's re-triggering you so i

00:02:00.460 just want you to sit with this as he's already mentioned make sure you go back through this

00:02:03.420 recording and you listen to the points in a place when you are ready to properly receive from it

00:02:08.480 because it's a lot of things that are being said that honestly if you if you from the right perspective

00:02:13.760 listen to it and hear it you're going to recognize that this actually was a red flag that what they said

00:02:19.400 is true and in in even what they're saying right now about calling someone a groomer without the

00:02:24.880 proper evidence no one's saying that he wasn't a groomer no one's saying that that wasn't present

00:02:28.720 but in the state that we live in where women aren't being held accountable and they go around accusing 1.00

00:02:33.060 men how dangerous that can be without action behind it and that is the only point which is a very valid

00:02:39.040 point it is the reality that we live in and it sucks and it is unreal and so women like yourself who have 1.00

00:02:44.040 a justified situation have to deal with that reality but you have to deal with the accountability

00:02:48.760 too where's the action that comes with it right and we it's not to say that in the moment things

00:02:53.080 couldn't have been different but i just want you to sit with that because as another woman on this

00:02:57.600 couch i can't relate personally to that but i emotionally and empathetically i feel for you

00:03:02.600 right now and i don't want you to feel like you have to continue defending yourself because that's what

00:03:07.120 it is listen i'm all i'm saying is personally i did not want to mention this at all on this panel

00:03:11.880 i feel like this is something that's quite personal and again like you just said it's something that's

00:03:16.720 quite fresh to me so i feel like putting it out there right now was probably not

00:03:20.760 the best thing for me to or something that i wanted to do and i think that is again why i'm

00:03:25.680 getting a little bit triggered because like i said it's quite fresh to me i've only just started

00:03:29.680 speaking up about it and whatnot and i think just hearing the point of view that other people are

00:03:33.960 trying to say that i'm chatting shit i think it is a bit annoying because when you know like that's 0.87

00:03:41.680 what it sort of feels like it's because obviously i'm not saying yeah exactly because you're being 0.94

00:03:46.040 triggered no i'm not saying you can't receive it and it's and that's fine but i need you to realize

00:03:49.880 where you are right because even your response to this is still defensive and it's nothing wrong

00:03:54.900 with that but you have to sit in that because everything that went forth today was wisdom and

00:03:58.820 it is a different perspective and it's challenging you right now because all of your emotions are trying

00:04:02.800 to justify and to protect you and what you went through and while your emotions may have been real

00:04:07.600 in the moment in perspective in time are they valid is that the reality that paints the picture

00:04:13.880 of the holistic experience in that moment what you felt and what you went through was it real

00:04:17.960 absolutely but when in the perspective of time vision is 2020 hindsight is 2020 when you look back on

00:04:23.720 that and you take these other factors and elements that everyone has contributed to in this room

00:04:27.360 you will have a different perspective but right now in this moment you're not hearing it you are not

00:04:31.940 i'm gonna let her i'm gonna let her i'm gonna let you talk because i think you keep getting cut

00:04:37.140 off no sorry i do genuinely value all your opinions in there obviously you're all much older than me

00:04:42.160 obviously you've got more wisdom and more knowledge and whatnot um but again like i was saying earlier i

00:04:47.620 just sort of feel like i'm being quote in quote unquote as oh this is just a modern woman this is how she 0.99

00:04:57.500 is and this is i'm basic i feel like i'm sort of being put in a place where i'm being categorized in

00:05:02.980 a place where i cannot change if that's what makes sense i don't know who said you can't change no one

00:05:08.920 said that but i just feel like i have one it's like one in one ear and out the other like i honestly 0.79

00:05:13.560 i'm about my auntie jenny shit at this point it's like one ear and out the other mama it's like 0.91

00:05:18.300 holy moly you know what right you know the one thing that that stood out to me is that it's only been 0.93

00:05:23.960 about six months it's never too late to report it and the most the thing that's got me here right

00:05:30.080 you know the one thing that she said he has a daughter he has a daughter right remember that

00:05:37.200 he has a daughter that's what's getting to me is that so that's what's triggering me is that she said

00:05:43.940 he has a daughter she was a daughter she is somebody's daughter and if a man's a groomer groomer

00:05:51.320 they don't care whose daughter it is so if not for you he has a daughter and it's never too late 0.58

00:05:59.020 i got raped i reported it like two years afterwards still got taken up you know what because the

00:06:03.740 evidence was there i swear for god if i came across a dude that i knew was abuse was abusive and he

00:06:08.640 abusing his daughter i swear for god oh man report like come on where are we even talking about this

00:06:15.960 point it's not adding up to me as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized

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JustPearlyThings - March 22, 2023

She is Part of the Problem

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