She is Part of the Problem
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss false accusations and how they re-trigger women and make them feel like they re being held accountable for the false accusations made against them. We also discuss the dangers of false allegations and how to deal with them and the accountability that comes with them.
Transcript
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think when they're talking to you and when they hear these stories like there are so many men
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that have had false that have had false allegations against them like most men know someone that was
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falsely accused i've been falsely accused so this might be harsh dear but i'm telling you when they
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listen to these stories they're gonna they think oh shit she she might be lying she might do that
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to me because there's no evidence to back here's the thing and i've been falsely accused and a
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police report was not filed because she was lying she was lying okay at the end of the day she was
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a liar because she knows that if she filed a police report and let's say it went to court and went to
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jury it wouldn't have stood up because it she completely made it up out of thin air and the
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evidence would not have shown exactly the things that she was saying at that particular junction
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because her feelings made it feel like something that happened or her back was up against the wall
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in that moment and i i everything that all of you guys are saying right now it holds weight it's
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validity to that and it it it just brings us back to the topic of women not being held accountable
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and being able to go around saying whatever that is not saying that your story isn't true or anything
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of that nature but personally this is still very raw for you and a person has to be in a place where
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they are ready to hear the valid points that are being given right the wisdom the ungenious sharing
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even the points that melody is saying about coming to her and being a mentor but if you are not in a place
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where you can receive that because right now in the moment you are still defending the situation even
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though your heart isn't to defend it your heart is defending your feelings and emotions around it but
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it just ended in in october we are not even six months away from that and it is as they are talking
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you are being triggered and you are reliving each and every moment and that's not to it's what what's
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happening here is you're going back through it you're defending that and it seems like you are rebellious to
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them and giving valid honest good feedback for you to grow and i know you're trying to receive that and
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it's coming off very attackful to you and now you feel like you have to defend yourself and you can't
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properly receive the wisdom that is going forth in the room because it's it's re-triggering you so i
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just want you to sit with this as he's already mentioned make sure you go back through this
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recording and you listen to the points in a place when you are ready to properly receive from it
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because it's a lot of things that are being said that honestly if you if you from the right perspective
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listen to it and hear it you're going to recognize that this actually was a red flag that what they said
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is true and in in even what they're saying right now about calling someone a groomer without the
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proper evidence no one's saying that he wasn't a groomer no one's saying that that wasn't present
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but in the state that we live in where women aren't being held accountable and they go around accusing
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men how dangerous that can be without action behind it and that is the only point which is a very valid
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point it is the reality that we live in and it sucks and it is unreal and so women like yourself who have
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a justified situation have to deal with that reality but you have to deal with the accountability
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too where's the action that comes with it right and we it's not to say that in the moment things
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couldn't have been different but i just want you to sit with that because as another woman on this
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couch i can't relate personally to that but i emotionally and empathetically i feel for you
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right now and i don't want you to feel like you have to continue defending yourself because that's what
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it is listen i'm all i'm saying is personally i did not want to mention this at all on this panel
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i feel like this is something that's quite personal and again like you just said it's something that's
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quite fresh to me so i feel like putting it out there right now was probably not
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the best thing for me to or something that i wanted to do and i think that is again why i'm
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getting a little bit triggered because like i said it's quite fresh to me i've only just started
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speaking up about it and whatnot and i think just hearing the point of view that other people are
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trying to say that i'm chatting shit i think it is a bit annoying because when you know like that's
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what it sort of feels like it's because obviously i'm not saying yeah exactly because you're being
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triggered no i'm not saying you can't receive it and it's and that's fine but i need you to realize
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where you are right because even your response to this is still defensive and it's nothing wrong
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with that but you have to sit in that because everything that went forth today was wisdom and
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it is a different perspective and it's challenging you right now because all of your emotions are trying
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to justify and to protect you and what you went through and while your emotions may have been real
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in the moment in perspective in time are they valid is that the reality that paints the picture
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of the holistic experience in that moment what you felt and what you went through was it real
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absolutely but when in the perspective of time vision is 2020 hindsight is 2020 when you look back on
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that and you take these other factors and elements that everyone has contributed to in this room
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you will have a different perspective but right now in this moment you're not hearing it you are not
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i'm gonna let her i'm gonna let her i'm gonna let you talk because i think you keep getting cut
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off no sorry i do genuinely value all your opinions in there obviously you're all much older than me
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obviously you've got more wisdom and more knowledge and whatnot um but again like i was saying earlier i
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just sort of feel like i'm being quote in quote unquote as oh this is just a modern woman this is how she
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is and this is i'm basic i feel like i'm sort of being put in a place where i'm being categorized in
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a place where i cannot change if that's what makes sense i don't know who said you can't change no one
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said that but i just feel like i have one it's like one in one ear and out the other like i honestly
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i'm about my auntie jenny shit at this point it's like one ear and out the other mama it's like
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holy moly you know what right you know the one thing that that stood out to me is that it's only been
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about six months it's never too late to report it and the most the thing that's got me here right
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you know the one thing that she said he has a daughter he has a daughter right remember that
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he has a daughter that's what's getting to me is that so that's what's triggering me is that she said
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he has a daughter she was a daughter she is somebody's daughter and if a man's a groomer groomer
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they don't care whose daughter it is so if not for you he has a daughter and it's never too late
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i got raped i reported it like two years afterwards still got taken up you know what because the
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evidence was there i swear for god if i came across a dude that i knew was abuse was abusive and he
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abusing his daughter i swear for god oh man report like come on where are we even talking about this
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point it's not adding up to me as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized
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